00:50:03.800Okay. Looking ahead and being like, okay, maybe it worked. Like, even if I'm only thinking from0.97
00:50:10.860a pro-Jewish perspective, I literally don't care about how I F over outsiders or anything like
00:50:15.620that. Even if I only think from pro-Jewish perspective, even if I'm only thinking from
00:50:19.660a pro-Jewish perspective from one of these ultra-Orthodox communities that is living off0.99
00:50:24.360of welfare, right? I still care about the future of the Jewish people.
00:50:29.440So is this an issue of anti-Semitism in youth? This is a f***ing problem, right? Especially among your best and longest term allies.0.92
00:50:40.660Well, so could this be then that the ADL isn't actually trying to advocate for or fight for Jewish safety or protection, but rather they're experiencing mission creep and they're just blindly and without any bigger picture, just reflexively going after anyone who say Jew bad.
00:51:01.720and then they just like well if that is the case that there needs to be some institutional jewish0.63
00:51:07.320system to punish them as people not even as an organization as individuals like all the donors0.62
00:51:12.640to the adl who are jewish need to say hey knock it off this is no no no no that's too hard to do0.98
00:51:20.400what you need is an external jewish legal body jews love legal bodies that is meant to hunt down
00:51:27.400these types of anti-Jewish crimes, e.g. crimes that lead to the Jewish community being less0.54
00:51:33.440secure, that are being performed by individuals at organizations like the ADL, and publicly be
00:51:40.040able to say, this individual is committing these acts, which are demonstrably dangerous to the
00:51:45.840Jewish community at large. And that they should have faced X, Y, and Z punishment for it to be
00:51:51.860on good terms with the Jewish community going forwards. Likely fines or something like that.0.98
00:51:57.000so let's go over like what the adl said just so you understand how they tried to frame this
00:52:01.360yeah they framed they said it was anti-semitic to frame some orthodox jewish communities as0.86
00:52:07.640welfare addicted addicted welfare addicted but they are like it seems like there are it's well
00:52:13.920known that many many orthodox jewish communities are kind of like literally built around leveraging
00:52:21.660welfare systems because they can not i don't blame anyone for like to a certain extent if
00:52:29.160if the system is that broken where you can exploit it that much then it's yeah i mean
00:52:34.240jews still pay more into the tax system than they disproportionately take out because there's so0.95
00:52:39.360many rich jews so like they're still useful to have around um and they then said that oh using
00:52:45.680tropes about jewish insularity greed slash money or dual loyalty like go back to israel comments0.56
00:52:51.180in the video is but they are they were demonstrably exhibiting greed and dual loyalty in the video
00:52:59.200and these orthodox jewish communities going back to israel and committing fraud against other jews
00:53:04.140would demonstrably fix the problem in the united states of this being a legitimate grievance
00:53:10.160right like these are not that's one of the coolest things about israel you know jews have a place0.94
00:53:15.120they can go if they're being a problem now right other jews even have a way to be like okay if this
00:53:19.320community is becoming too much of a problem in the united states and causing too many issues and we1.00
00:53:22.680can relocate them back to israel where at least they're only causing these negative externalities1.00
00:53:28.000among other jews if people are wondering why i am so existentially interested and that's what this0.99
00:53:32.520video is is me trying my best to come up with a solution to prevent what i see as extreme rates
00:53:39.060of anti-semitism yeah and i want to highlight just what you pointed out at the very beginning
00:53:42.520just the proportion of young people today who actively harbor anti-Semitic views because of
00:53:50.820this stuff that is happening now. And it's only going to get worse. And definitely this is the
00:53:55.920sign to take action. I get that. By the way, you're looking for other instances. If you're
00:53:59.380like, well, this is just one case, there's a crazy case. Have you heard about the East Rampo
00:54:03.280Central School District in Rockland County, New York? That's the one that he, that guy went to
00:54:08.340is it isn't it this wasn't the one that he got in trouble for this was the one where an ultra
00:54:13.720orthodox population grew rapidly due to high birth rates and their synagogue had them all vote in the
00:54:20.120local elections and they ended up even though they were a minority population having control of the
00:54:26.480local school board and when i say they were a minority the the local school district was 91 to
00:54:31.76095% Black or Latino and served 9,000 students. They then began to cut all of the extracurricular
00:54:39.300and athletic activities. They then reduced kindergarten from full day to half day,
00:54:44.520ended summer school, cut business electives and professional development by 75%.
00:54:49.720They then tried to sell a school building to a Jewish yeshiva at under the cost of that building.
00:54:56.880No, that's terrible. That's not a good look. That's not going to make you friends. That's
00:55:02.240really not going to make you friends. Oh my gosh. This is one of the things where we need to be
00:55:06.940able to talk about this. Like they're playing within the rules of the system, but part of the
00:55:12.560way the system works is when somebody is playing within the rules, but being a bad actor, that they
00:55:18.580are able to be called out by citizen journalists. If elements of the Jewish community attempt to0.66
00:55:23.620stop citizen journalism that's happening by the rules yeah existentially bad because now that
00:55:30.260person is saying to target these individuals you have to go through all of us and all of us means
00:55:37.420a lot of jews that want nothing to do with this and for those jews the bad actor that they need
00:55:43.360to target and this is very important and very difficult in the way jews typically react to this
00:55:47.380is not like the worst actor here the person who is most dangerous to the overall jewish community
00:55:53.220is not the people doing this fraud it is not the people taking control of the school districts it
00:56:00.440is not the people selling the school buildings to yeshivas it is the people trying to shut down
00:56:06.700the system from operating as it's intended to it's the adl the adl is at a a level of magnitude1.00
00:56:13.380existentially worse for the jewish community because they are the ones who make this a problem1.00
00:56:18.540for every Jew instead of just these Jews. Okay. The case I was talking about earlier of the front1.00
00:56:26.600was the case of Philip Eshermorphs, a Miami beach nursing home who did $33 million in fraud.
00:56:35.420Oh yeah. Really bad. That's impressive. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Okay. How in what? Sorry. Keep going.
00:56:47.100well i mean if you want to go into it what he did and no trump didn't fully pardon him but he
00:56:52.440shouldn't have done anything for this guy it's good for the jewish community that this guy faced
00:56:57.160punishment right um that this guy faced punishment before the somalians did jews could go like look
00:57:03.140our community isn't receiving special treatment yeah don't then advocate explicitly for special
00:57:08.900treatment yeah right prosecutors described him as driven by almost unbounded greed so what really
00:57:17.660got me more than him because again i don't really care what he did he did something bad the citizen0.74
00:57:22.480the system caught him like somalians do something bad the system catches him it's when they then try0.88
00:57:28.200to say and now you have to arrest every somalian if you want to arrest these somalians that it0.88
00:57:33.040becomes existentially unworkable right an alliance with the group becomes existentially unworkable0.86
00:57:38.200So specifically what happened is the organization is the Alphen Institute, a Chabad Levitic affiliated 501c3 nonprofit founded in 1981 by Rabbi Shalom Lipsker at the direct action of Lebav Rebbe.
00:57:54.200Its core mission is to provide religious, spiritual, educational, and advocacy for support for Jewish inmates in the United States, of which there are roughly 85,000.
00:58:04.540this is really really really bad right if you're an organization that is doing something like this
00:58:11.580you need to be asking their motto is no one alone no one forgotten right like we don't leave our
00:58:17.860troops behind we don't let our people face jail time you need to be asking as an organization
00:58:22.380like before you go after and try to free a guy like this you need to be saying okay but did he
00:58:29.420actually hurt people did he actually do something bad because if he actually did and i now say0.73
00:58:36.260you can't jail any jew unless you jail all jews you now are a much bigger threat to the0.83
00:58:45.320wider jewish community than this guy was and again this is about thinking and jews can be like oh0.99
00:58:52.140because of our traumas we reflexively attempt to do x y and z i understand that okay0.94
00:58:59.400but the problem is is this pattern of behavior and other groups don't do this catholics don't
00:59:07.380try to get people out of prison just because they're catholics okay i thought when when
00:59:13.960you described the organization i figured it was like well we'll you know provide you with visitors
00:59:19.860while you're in jail serving time you know like build community for you or maybe like go in and
00:59:26.060provide education to people in jail and just do good pr for jews in jail but not like get you out0.90
00:59:35.460that that surprises me that that's yeah the core reason that this group did this right or they say0.68
00:59:41.280they did this is his father morris esimus an orthodox rabbi and northing home magnate donated
00:59:47.600$65,000 to Alfay over several years, starting after his indictment, by the way, so only
00:59:55.260to work on his case. But the family has long supported Chabad causes. And Jared Kushner,
01:00:01.340who oversaw much of the clemency, has longstanding personal ties within these Chabad networks.
01:00:07.640Now, Chabad people who I have met have generally been pretty smart and forward thinking. They
01:00:13.800should have known how this was going to look given how mad the right is right now over somali stuff1.00
01:00:20.040they are anyone involved in this an existential threat to the jewish community
01:00:25.560that they weren't able to think for two seconds how mad is the american right right now about
01:00:31.880the somali case how are they going to feel about this case0.77
01:00:37.960right and they didn't feel that way they didn't have a fear about this because there's no jewish
01:00:42.840institutional organization or anything that could have come out and been like hey guys
01:00:48.000do not do this right now this is going to cause real damage to the jewish community
01:00:53.580what if jewish organizations never felt like they had the to to go into the final thing here which
01:01:00.900is how jews historically handled this stuff how they should handle this stuff in the future
01:01:05.700though i do want to ask what if what if jewish organizations like these never thought they had
01:01:12.920allies on the right a note here when i'm like when i was talking about like jews being like0.60
01:01:17.520oh well you know historically we had this stuff and we just don't have it anymore and and you
01:01:25.740know do trauma sorry would you say stuff like oh trauma in our community like we can't not do it
01:01:31.760blah blah blah i'm like look i understand it's hard to to create institutions to change your0.92
01:01:36.920culture but jews have done it before you can do it again and if you look at the rise and the speed0.84
01:01:42.960of the rise of anti-semitism it is existential that you find a way to do it this is not me
01:01:48.300ragging on the jewish community this is me saying jews are useful allies for many reasons to me and
01:01:53.920my personal agenda but you're also from the position of populations like this fertility
01:02:00.480rate was in israel and this phenomenon in the united states and the rise of anti-semitism in
01:02:05.260the u.s at an existential risk right now if this continues a 25 anti-semitism rate that could be
01:02:14.52050 60 percent oh yeah and if it continues to rise at this rate in like 20 years like you don't have
01:02:21.000time to deal with this okay yeah you have people marching through american streets saying from the
01:02:26.240river to the sea. You need the other side that doesn't mind that stuff still in your camp, okay?
01:02:34.180Yeah. Now, to note here, you had organizations like the Keliot, organized Jewish councils,0.79
01:02:40.640and rabbinical courts, Bit Din, which actively provided and policed economic crimes against0.68
01:02:46.680Gentiles. The motivation was practical self-preservation. If you committed fraud against
01:02:51.700Christians or a Christian government, obviously that could trigger pogroms or expulsions or
01:02:56.220even collective punishments examples includes so this is how they did it fines or sherman and0.59
01:03:02.360shaming repeated or notorious fraud dishonest business practices and counterfeiting or
01:03:06.700overcharging non-jews could result in monetary fines paid to the victim or the community public0.99
01:03:12.400shaming or full sherem a social and religious ban that was devastating no one could do business with
01:03:18.040you marry your kids etc jewish legal codes and communal records from the period show that this
01:03:23.700was done precisely to deter action against their group and tell me in medieval enforcement the
01:03:30.080tel food and later codes e.g maimonides and shall arch record bit din handled cases of theft and
01:03:36.940fraud from gentiles stealing even trivial amounts from non-jews as a torah level theft in practice
01:03:45.880communities would impose severely strict penalties on jews who performed even trivial0.64
01:03:54.520fraud or misrepresentation against gentiles and they did this not because they wanted to protect0.64
01:04:01.420gentiles but because they wanted to protect jews well yeah because i think even at that point did
01:04:07.680a lot of why malcolm can you not hear me to break down a large part of this had to do with the the
01:04:14.420jewish shabbatai levy thing and he basically destroyed the jewish community for like a
01:04:19.640century if you're not in the jewish like judaism almost died like at the end of this period and
01:04:24.700the rabbinic circles sort of lost a lot of their institutional power and things begin to fall
01:04:29.440apart and a number of these organizations essentially weren't even able to pay the
01:04:35.040taxes that they owed to like the government because the government was supposed to be
01:04:38.400handling stuff from them and so they essentially fell apart and that's that's bad when you still0.98
01:04:45.600have jewish organizations who attempt to protect every jew any final thoughts simone i don't think0.81
01:04:51.080you can hear me you're muted by the way i'm not muted that's you're muted still i know i'm not
01:04:56.280muted i'm actually i can't hear anything can't hear anything i know i know anything i think it's
01:05:02.660unable to unmute it's okay if there's sun in the look i you did i'm not okay still can't hear you
01:05:08.660it's it's a it's a mic do you think you're unmuted can you hear me i know i can hear you yeah okay
01:05:14.500come in here and give your final thoughts well i think actually i can be heard i have no idea
01:05:19.860what you're saying you are completely muted my mic is being picked up in the recording
01:05:34.420you just can't hear me for whatever reason from your computer so okay i'll just let you talk then
01:05:39.040yeah i agree with you that this is really important to address and i really hope that
01:05:47.060something can be done but i feel like maybe things have gotten balkanized to the point where0.67
01:05:51.620jewish communities feel like they can't actually control this maybe i'm wrong i think you're wrong0.74
01:05:59.560i think from what i've seen jewish communities can adapt they're not stupid they at least realize0.90
01:06:05.800the problem of growing anti-semitism and jewish communities cannot control or they can try to but0.50
01:06:12.660it's increasingly not working because unfortunately they're using the tools that the wokes adopted and0.81
01:06:16.900now the woke tools work in reverse, they cannot control the actions of people outside their0.77
01:06:23.280community, especially when they are genuinely becoming a threat to those external communities.0.77
01:06:28.580So basically, if a critical mass of influential Jewish leaders recognize that this is an0.67
01:06:36.380existential threat to all Jewish communities, and that every time something like this gets0.81
01:06:41.780planned threatened whatever pulled that immediately they all collectively descend0.93
01:06:48.000upon this person and are like this is not cool undo right now we're gonna cut you some form of
01:06:53.040actual punishment that is agreed upon wide scale through like inter-rabbinic courts that the and
01:07:00.580and again the core thing that needs to be punished is not the fraud itself it's the defense of the
01:07:06.320fraud yeah no i i agree with you and it's it's really bizarre again why was this why was this
01:07:14.700terminated why did it ever end the court people just got disorganized no no but basically they
01:07:20.360were too organized to the extent that they were in charge of like tax collection from the jewish
01:07:25.300people on behalf of the governments that they were part of and some of them got like shut down when
01:07:30.060they can no longer had the authority to collect those taxes anymore so they basically became
01:07:34.260too bureaucratic and they broke down okay so yeah basically a new practice has to be getting it and
01:07:41.760a new precedent and it would be better if it was a lightweight reflexive reaction to defensive bad
01:07:49.160actors instead of some complicated larger governing body for my for my view then okay wow i mean i
01:07:57.460didn't know how egregious some of those cases were and i fully welcome anyone i mean i think
01:08:04.020that many cases of welfare fraud could be construed as like white cat hacking they're
01:08:09.340hacking the system they're showing vulnerability and the key thing to make it white hat is when
01:08:15.220the vulnerability is exposed the vulnerability gets fixed you caught me we're good cat and mouse
01:08:21.100game continues but like the whole point of a cat and mouse game is it when the cat finds a mouse
01:08:26.180cat eats mouse mouse yeah yeah you don't then say as the mouse you have to eat all the mice
01:08:31.520if you want to eat this one mouse because now you are a problem for all mice
01:08:35.920well i feel like the metaphor falls falls apart at that point i i see what you're saying
01:08:42.500yeah yeah i i think that maybe you know as much as we didn't really talk about it
01:08:48.300this issue also extends to the somali community i think that for example ilman ohar i'm sorry
01:08:53.560ilman ilhan omar yeah it was a huge problem for the somali community but i don't because like
01:08:58.800they need to be like we we disavow this this is disgusting but like i think this this but your
01:09:04.520advice applies to all communities you know any community that's like yeah i mean obviously it0.77
01:09:09.780is a somali community that the the somalians who defend the obvious somalian fraudsters
01:09:15.040need to be punished more like as a cultural strategy for survival more than the fraudsters0.73
01:09:21.300themselves that yeah because the monsters it's easy to like write off anyone who did bad thing
01:09:26.880and and be rid of them but the ones who tried to defend that are the ones that put everyone at risk
01:09:32.000yeah yes i guess it's not too dissimilar from the covenant of the sons of men the ai alignment
01:09:38.800proposition you present which is basically we attack anything that becomes an existential threat
01:09:43.860to all of our ability to be free to exist and this is a micro version of it when you see someone is
01:09:52.420posing an existential threat all bets are off we drop what we're doing we stop them and then we can
01:09:58.520move forward once that threat has been dealt with and that's what you're seeing here and that's why
01:10:02.880you pay so much attention to it because you are uniquely attuned to existential threats arising
01:10:08.640and now you see it arising like you didn't care about it when it was Somalians because what0.95
01:10:12.460investment do we have in that community but when you see this happening with i don't care what0.92
01:10:16.180happens to the simoleons like simoleons we don't have an association we have no investment we have
01:10:20.320no like interest we don't feel like they're going to take to the stars and and you know whatever
01:10:25.920they don't seem to be very involved with anyone who's not their own community they're not culturally
01:10:31.760aligned with me i have no cultural similarities to them i have a lot of cultural similarities to
01:10:35.880jews like obviously i and and jews produce a lot of technology and economic benefits for the united
01:10:41.680states and have a lot of military strengths which is useful for our future plans if we stay allies0.98
01:10:45.900yeah i get it but the so like obviously i care what happens to the jews somalians are doing this0.98
01:10:51.940too but like i just said i'm like okay well then get rid of all the somalians right like if they're0.84
01:10:56.520if they're going to defend this like and and at the rates that they're doing it at like this but0.67
01:11:02.180it's a little different from the smallest there's the somalians it looks like within some somalian
01:11:05.980communities it is the majority of the somalian it was something like 65 were on welfare or something
01:11:11.420like that within jewish communities it is actually an extreme minority that are these
01:11:17.080types of i disagree i disagree because they're like some cities where the entire way of life
01:11:21.980is built upon this kind of economic system so you're wrong about that i think it may be even
01:11:28.620worse in some of these in some of these cities where because like literally the entire economy
01:11:33.200runs off of those dynamics which is why i was like maybe this is an issue like we can't you
01:11:40.220can't be like well knock it off guys because it's literally like like what what do you want them to
01:11:45.660do like they literally will do this to the death i guess because like they have no other way of
01:11:50.900making money now they all have like nine kids what are you gonna do like right but i mean we we we've
01:11:58.020we've and i and i point out here when a jews who's watching this is like what do you mean your people0.68
01:12:02.960just go out and shoot someone when they're one of your own people and they're screwing people over
01:12:07.040what about the healthcare CEO? That was a white guy, right? Like he, he, the guy who shot him1.00
01:12:12.000was a white guy. That's the American way, right? Like the people know in our video, I was not0.97
01:12:16.540against that. I was like, yeah, you, this guy's applying. Yeah. I guess that's, that's a very
01:12:21.600salient example of that form of justice. Yeah. That was at least, I don't know. It was an,
01:12:29.880an Italian right kid. And then, uh, I don't know what the United healthcare adopted American0.93
01:12:35.960culture right you know i think that this this the the when somebody from our community is effing over
01:12:43.380our community and outsiders deal with it i guess we could say that that their shared culture was
01:12:51.800relatively affluent educated american yeah the guy who did it was a affluent educated wealthy like
01:12:59.720kid who went to like boarding school and stuff like that as far as i remember
01:13:03.460like same basic cultural group but it was that group policing itself
01:13:09.060well and the future is going to be self-policing because government-based policing is not going to
01:13:15.920well and yeah and and because groups that don't police themselves everyone is going to hate them
01:13:20.220right like as people begin to see people more as groups right like as your individual identity of
01:13:27.200your community gets larger people are going to like i will say right now within the techno puritan
01:13:32.860community that is how we should police as extremely aggressively as possible and it's not just about
01:13:38.200policing it's also about your reputation as a culture and as we'll say possibly even like a
01:13:44.720techno fiefdom right like in the future let's say if many mainstream governments fall apart
01:13:49.440different contingents and groups are going to like venetian city-states trade with each other
01:13:55.460engage in business with each other or not like isolate each other from each other and if your
01:14:00.240community builds a reputation for exploitation um you will not be able to do trade like everyone's0.84
01:14:07.640going to want to work with the mormons everyone dunks on the mormons but they're all going to0.94
01:14:10.500want to work with them yeah that's a good point and i think the problem with building reputations
01:14:16.600like these is people are in the future when everyone just runs off of cultural stereotypes0.57
01:14:22.360and reputations be like well i'm not going to work with the jews whereas in the past when you0.89
01:14:25.840there was this policing system that you described it was like well sure i go to the jews to get0.97
01:14:29.740like money lending services and these other things, because they're trustworthy for that.
01:14:34.460They self-police, like I can, I can predict that they will provide the service as, as expected.
01:14:39.660And I think that that's the thing is you have to think about what cultural stereotypes you are
01:14:44.320going to cultivate for your group in a post world police environment, because that's what we're
01:14:51.520entering with demographic collapse, right? Exactly. And it can be done. That's, that's the
01:14:56.580other thing just throwing up your hands and being like no jews could never fix this problem you used1.00
01:15:01.560to self-police you used to have institutional solutions well and and they this was when they0.88
01:15:07.040operated in a system of no world yeah different groups needing to interact with each other and
01:15:15.400trade with each other and and and yeah interact in a low trust environment we're entering a very
01:15:20.400low trust future meaning that you need to cultivate high trust and if you defend bad actors that's
01:15:26.540destroying it so i now i get the bigger picture even more and i appreciate you covering this even
01:15:31.280though we're totally getting in trouble for this yeah well because it's it there there are the bad
01:15:38.180actors out there and they are pervasive within jewish communities but we are signaling this0.87
01:15:43.720not because we want to hurt these communities but because we're trying to shock them into like you
01:15:50.400you actually if somebody as filio-semitic as me is like this is actually a problem guys
01:15:56.860then it's actually a problem yeah and and it's not like a problem that like you can scratch
01:16:02.680your chin about and be like that's a very interesting problem it's like if you care
01:16:06.760about the future of the jewish people you care about finding a solution to this problem yeah0.97
01:16:10.700well i'm gonna go get the kids and make dinner and what am i doing if we were made your burmese0.99
01:16:17.600mint chicken um burmese mint chicken if ever we were criticized for being the weird husband and
01:16:24.500wife who speak to each other in different rooms it's just highlighted now by the fact that we're
01:16:28.620like i'm talking on a phone hello oh my god i don't work out your mic because it's not a my
01:16:39.140mic problem it's clearly a streamyard problem because streamyard's picking up my mic fine
01:16:42.580i see that streamyard's picking up your mic and do you see that it's picking up my mic
01:16:47.180because it is no the green dots be moving we'll figure out i love you so much simone i love you1.00
01:16:54.520you're amazing and i actually would not at all be surprised given the number of chabad because that1.00
01:17:01.460seems to be the organization that would be best able to fix this jews that watch our show that1.00
01:17:06.820one of them is going to be like yeah reviving one of those institutions is probably a pretty good1.00
01:17:11.380idea like let's get on that because you know if you if you bring that idea to the right people
01:17:17.460with the right packaging and you're able to set something like that up that's also a path to power
01:17:23.380for you an institutional power for you right like it's it's not a bad play it's not like a cross
01:17:29.320that you have to die on it's a very useful thing to set up i know it's just you know politicking
01:17:36.500be politic-y it's not that easy but this is an existential threat to your point so i get it
01:17:42.160yeah the kids are being all right love you suspiciously quiet so all right bye
01:17:47.640i cannot i still don't i can't get over torsten seeing wannabe by the spice girls a music video
01:18:02.520of it like you know the og music video and then coming up to me and being like mommy this is a
01:18:08.040song about friendship he said that yeah this is a song about friendship about friendship if you
01:18:15.420want to be my lover you gotta get with my friends yeah which is also like it really is a song about
01:18:20.620friendship it's true it is a song about friendship yeah no one is gonna meet that that's that
01:18:26.920specification for what's funny is is that it is still true for like progressive culture like you0.96
01:18:34.360want to have sex with someone you got to have sex with their friends like that's the way0.98
01:18:37.200those communities work these days oh god yeah if you get the poly read of wannabe they're all0.99
01:18:42.600they're all poly if you want to be no that's like that's like the dallas poly community that we knew1.00
01:18:49.280where it's just like matriarchy where they would switch out studs she's talking about this was
01:18:54.060really interesting so like as simone and i had mentioned like earlier when we were more progressive
01:18:59.400we were like technically open to sleeping with other people we just didn't really indulge in it
01:19:03.860but we like hung out with these communities and so we were very familiar with the various poly
01:19:08.520communities in the areas where we lived some of those fun people like typically if you meet
01:19:13.780someone who's poly they're probably also pretty smart and doing some interesting work i don't know
01:19:20.160I mean, this is the ones who we met who were like that. Keep in mind that we sort of filter who we meet and it depends on the area. The poly people I've met in like San Francisco and like Portland and stuff, they've all like total burnouts, a lot of them.
01:19:33.180I don't know. As far as I know, the people I know in the Bay Area who are poly are some of the smartest and highest achieving people.
01:19:40.020so so i also know some smart ones and stuff like that but they're not on the typical poly dating
01:19:44.880scene whereas the poly dating scene in dallas was actually more like smart high agency people
01:19:49.960with really good jobs yeah but it was incredibly interesting because it was basically run by a1.00
01:19:56.080cabal of very attractive women who just controlled who was invited to the parties who got to do what1.00
01:20:03.420who you know and they would just like and and i think that that's one of the reason why so high1.00
01:20:10.160high status because these women they approached it very much with sort of like a backwoods because1.00
01:20:16.200you know texas is part of specifically dallas is often seen as the capital of the greater0.97
01:20:20.200appalachian region even though it's not in the appalachians because it's the largest city and
01:20:24.080economic hub that's in that cultural region and they approached it very sort of ruthlessly and0.82
01:20:30.420economically which is really interesting where they're like well we're hot women we can control1.00
01:20:36.240access to sex if other hot women decide to become poly in the dallas area they basically join our1.00
01:20:41.720cabal and we will use this cabal to ensure that only really competent successful and attractive0.68
01:20:48.320guys are sleeping with anyone in the poly space well actually that's that's a really good point
01:20:53.640is all the guys we met that were in that space were very pro-social whereas you often get a lot
01:20:59.280of bad actor dudes not not universally obviously but there are more bad actor dudes in other poly
01:21:05.580circles who are just exploitative and messed up and like manipulative and these guys were just like
01:21:10.520just kind because the dynamics are entirely different you look at the poly scene in in
01:21:15.380san francisco and it's like super toxic because it's basically a bunch of like effective altruists
01:21:20.860watch our episode on the ea to whore pipeline who attempt to groom young women who first enter the
01:21:26.960movement was like logic like well if it gives me pleasure and it gives you pleasure how could it be
01:21:32.040wrong right and it begins to look cool to these young women and they get into it and then older0.94
01:21:37.520women in the space come up to them and they're like hey i think this guy is using you and then
01:21:42.140they're like oh this older woman's just trying to make guard you know like and because that's what0.93
01:21:46.220the guys will say or something they won't listen yeah even when they try to protect each other the
01:21:50.420guys have moved up in this community through some other means like they've gotten high level
01:21:55.160positions and like that's some effective altruist org so it's hard to kick them out or something
01:21:58.340like that and so it creates this dynamic where you get bad actors all over the place and because
01:22:03.300the community isn't ruthless about expelling people in the dallas scene if a guy tried to
01:22:09.960say because most of the guys in the dallas scene are like finance bros and stuff like that tried
01:22:14.340to say something like oh well she's just mate guarding this you know attractive woman who's1.00
01:22:20.680higher status than you in the community telling you not to get with me that woman would then be
01:22:24.580like okay now you guy who just said that like it goes through the whisper network really fast
01:22:28.900you're not invited it was kind of like the bachelor you know you get handed or something
01:22:33.220yeah and everyone knows not to engage with you so it's weird but in this one scenario like
01:22:37.720matriarchy seems to keep the entire system stable yeah that was so cool it was so weird
01:22:42.560in hypergamy keeping a system stable in a non-traditional structure okay whatever yeah
01:22:49.240that was fascinating i wonder if it's still stable or if it's basically collapsed at this
01:22:52.900point I know I know well some of the people in it that that I we had known had moved away you know
01:22:59.080moved to other cities gone on to become parents and stuff so I doubt that they're still that
01:23:04.980involved in it but yeah I don't know and I think I got the impression when we were hanging in that
01:23:11.800circle too that there were a lot of really new entrants who were just young and kind of having
01:23:15.620that experience for a while and you kind of get through it like maybe for some people being poly