Why Do Jews Have Friends？ The Religious Anthropology of Friendship & Family
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Why do Jews have friends? Why do we need them? What does it mean to be a good friend? What are the benefits of having friends? Is it a good idea to have more than one friend? Why does it matter who you have them?
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Hello, Simone! Today we ask the question, why do Jews have friends?
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This question may seem odd at first to someone, but when I go through it, you're going to be like,
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oh wow, that is actually kind of weird. Specifically, what I will be laying out
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is that if you look at most Jewish holidays or religious festivals or religious observances,
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they are encouraged to invite non-family members, sometimes even non-Jews. However,
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if you look at, and I'm talking about my own cultural background, you know, coming from a
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Christian culture, from one category of Christian culture in America, and we'll do some diversification
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of the various Christian cultures, but the Christian culture that I come from, American
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Protestant Christian culture, there are very few religious events or celebrations in which you
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would invite people who are not extended family. If I am inviting somebody to Christmas or to
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Thanksgiving, that is basically an indication that I plan on marrying them. Like, it's not even...
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It's seen culturally as one of those big leveling ups in a relationship if you go to your girlfriend
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or boyfriend's house for Thanksgiving or Christmas, because that is a sign of serious commitment.
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Yeah, and it made me realize how distant the culture I grew up in was from Jewish culture
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when we had a very Chabad guy, very, you know, extreme... What's the word I'm looking here? Very
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Orthodox Jew. Come to our house. He's a fan of the show. Really liked the guy. He's actually inspired
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a number of episodes. And he was talking with our son. And he said something that sparked this whole
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He was interacting with our son. And he said, do you have any friends? And my son said, yeah,
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I have two friends. And he goes, what are their names? And he goes, Torsten and Titan. And those are our
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two other older kids' names. And then he goes, well, those aren't really your friends. Those are
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more like your siblings. Do you have any friends? And in my head, I'm immediately thinking, wait,
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what are you talking about? Your siblings are always your best friends. Why would you ever...
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Burdened with new friends and tormented by the bounty hunter chains.
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Yeah. That was said all the time to me growing up. Interesting. And that is a very bad metaphor
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to use because in the context of the Bible where it's being written, it is the blood is not thicker
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than the water of heaven. It is used to argue against this idea. The original wording is the
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blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb, where water is supposed to be familial
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relationships and blood is supposed to represent chosen relationships. Whereas today it's often used
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where blood represents familial relationships and water represents chosen relationships.
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It reminds me a lot of another commonly misused phrase where people say, I am not my brother's
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keeper. And I'm like, do you, do you know the context of that line? Do you know the context of
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that line? That's a guy saying to somebody, accusing him of killing his brother when he did kill his
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brother? Oh, I'm not his, I don't always know where he is. But people say that to like legitimately be
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like, well, you know, I'm not responsible for him. But it got me realizing that when I started to go
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through many of the Jews who I know, or many people who are descended from Jewish cultural groups,
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they are really big on maintaining friend networks. Whereas if I go through the people who are closer
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to me culturally, they very rarely have wide friend networks, and they really prefer to have
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strong relations with family members. And when I say strong relations with family members, I might be on
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the extreme side of this, because I'm from that backwoods American, that greater Appalachian culture
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mixed with some of the Puritan American culture. But like, I started a company with my wife, my
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brother started a company with his wife, when I was thinking when the Jewish guy was over, and he's
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like, well, who in the area do you hang out with? Or would you feel comfortable with your kids spending
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time with? Like, I would never take my kids to spend time with like a friend from school. But like my
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brother's family, of course, my dad worked on a company with his sister. Before that, he worked in a
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company that his grandfather founded. Right now, he gets dividends, which pay for his living expenses
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from a company a cousin started that he invested in. Like this idea of working and keeping it within
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the family is very, and we've even looked at this ourselves. Like when we have our kids like play
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work games, you encouraged them to work together. And I can play a little clip here, where they're
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making paper airplanes as a group to sell because they decided they wanted money to do things together
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to get guns for the group so they could all shoot at each other. Yes, this was to buy extra guns.
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Yes. So what I'm going to do in this video is I'm going to bring receipts for this because some
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people might be hearing this and they might be like, and you don't know a lot about Jewish culture,
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you might be like, maybe he's exaggerating how much friends are invited. We're going to then go
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deeper into Christian culture, at least the Christian culture I'm from that is very
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sort of antagonistic to friends outside the family. We're going to then go over other Christian
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cultural groups, which do the same thing. And then we're going to contrast these with other
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religious and cultural groups that are actually closer to Jews in terms of the Christian cultural
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groups that do this are actually quite unique. There's very few cultures on earth that are this
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focused on extended family networks in their traditions itself. I'm excited to dive into this.
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Some Christians may hear this and they'll be like, oh, no, no, no. Like, what about going to church?
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That's engaging with people who aren't your family. And I'd say, you haven't gone to a historic
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American church recently, have you? If you go to American churches that are over 100 years old,
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what you will notice is that they are laid out so that each family had a private booth where you
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would not interact with people outside of your family. I mean, there would be like the family
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pew and you always sat in the same spot. I see it as akin to having that lunch table in high school
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where it's like, no, no, this is the popular girls table. You don't sit there. That's for them.
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It's not necessarily... Even in the face of a religious gathering,
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isolate people based on family networks. Yeah. Like these, these pews had doors to them.
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You would open a door and then go into a walled pew so you could see the priest,
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but you didn't have to look at any of the other churchgoers. So when I went to AI and asked about
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this, it said, Jewish holidays and celebrations often emphasize the concept of hashanasa ta otrim,
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which I'm pronouncing it totally wrong. You're going to butcher this. Yeah.
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Which translates to welcoming guests, which is considered a significant mitzvah commandment
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in Judaism. This practice extends beyond family to include friends, acquaintances,
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and even strangers. Examples of Jewish holidays that encourage guest invitations.
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Passover Seder. It's common for Jewish families to invite friends, colleagues,
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or even strangers to their Passover Seder. This practice aligns with Haggadah's instructions
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to, quote, let all who are hungry come and eat, end quote. And I note here, we've seen this a lot.
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I've had lots of Jewish friends, despite them only making up like 1.5% of the American population,
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we regularly get invitations to Jewish religious gatherings. I don't think I've gotten an invitation
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to a Christian religious gathering in years at this point. I've had people suggest maybe you
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should go to your local ex-church, but I haven't had a personal invitation to come to
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my family's at this event, like come to our family. Yeah, yeah. We've been invited to like
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services, church services. Yeah. Next, Rosh Hash Hashanah. Many Jewish families invite their
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friends and acquaintances to their Rosh Hash Hashanah meals, which is seen as a way to start the new year
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of hospitality. Rosh Hashanah. I know I can't pronounce anything, okay? These foreign words
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are caustic to my tongue. During this week-long festival, it's customary to invite guests
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called Ush Pinzin to share meals in the Sakat. This often includes both family and non-family
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members. Shabbat dinners. Wait, our family's never going to be confirmed as Jewish ever.
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Yeah, right, yeah. Shabbat dinners. Weekly Shabbat meals are frequently occasions for inviting
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friends, colleagues, or newcomers to the community. And then you also have the Minyum, which is,
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if you're not familiar with how Jewish practice works, you need at least 10 other Jews in your area
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where you get together and worship together and worship in a way through your communion with this
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group, which is not a family group often. In addition to that, if you look at the way that
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they do a lot of the teaching of their stuff, instead of having one knowledgeable person stand
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on stage and talk, and everybody's just supposed to listen and learn from that, which is the way a lot
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of Christian communities work, they'll have individual debates between two non-family members
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where they will talk amongst themselves and build a greater understanding. Now, let's contrast with
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traditional American Christian celebrations. You have Christmas. It would be really weird to bring
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somebody who wasn't extended family to Christmas. Yeah. And bringing somebody to Christmas, at least in my
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family tradition, is an indication that you plan on marrying that person. It's more official than a
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proposal. Yes, it's much more official than the proposal. If I propose to someone, but I haven't taken
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them to a family Christmas, that proposal means nothing. Next, you have Easter. Easter Sunday often
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involves extended family gatherings for meals and religious observances. In fact, the only part of
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Easter where I have ever heard of people bringing non-family members is a Easter egg hunt, but that's
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usually a community Easter egg hunt. If I'm thinking about family Easter egg hunts, like my family did
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Easter egg hunts every Easter. You've done Easter egg hunts with me every Easter. I would never invite
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non-family to that. It'd be super weird. No, only if friends happen to be staying with us perhaps
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during the holiday. But yeah, it would just be some weird. And I think if you're not, if you haven't
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grown up in one of these cultures, you may not understand how weird this is. It would be culturally
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weirder for me to have a non-family member at Christmas than it would be for me to sleep with
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someone other than my wife. Like it would be probably about 50% weirder. This is why sometimes
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I hear about some other family, which we'll talk about from different Christian groups where they're
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like, oh, I invite like homeless people over for Christmas. And I'm like, what are you doing?
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Like, that's really weird. And they'll be like, well, you know, I like to do it as like an act of
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charity for someone who's down and out. And that to me sounds almost like somebody being like, yeah,
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well, you know, sometimes my wife and I invite homeless people to sleep with us because, you know,
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they don't have a lot of stuff. And it's nice that sometimes they get to screw my wife.
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And I'm here like, bro, that is so creepy sounding. Like, what are you doing? There are other ways you
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can be nice to homeless people. And I'm telling you this so that you can better model if you are not
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from a family centered cultural background, the way that people from family centered cultural
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backgrounds think about things and perhaps better understand or predict the way they might react to
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something. Because I understand not obviously not all Christians are like this Christian groups
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who we'll get to in a second are totally okay. Who is inviting homeless people to their Christmas
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dinners? It's just that for me, the emotional response that that evokes when I hear that is
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parallel to the emotional response I would hear of sometimes I invite homeless people to sleep with
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my wife. And the excuse of, well, we do it to be nice because they're down and out evokes the same
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emotional response of, if I guffawed at the first thing, well, I let them sleep with my wife because
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they're down and out. I'm like, well, that doesn't explain it. There's other ways you can be nice to
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them. Anyway, and then finally Thanksgiving, which in American Christian is, is it's not a technically a
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Christian tradition, but it's very part of the American Christian sort of folklore set of holidays, you would
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generally not invite non-extended family members to that. So, and I, and now I want to reflect more on
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just the Jewish friends that we have. So like, when I think about like one of our good friends, who's
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Jewish, he lives, like his house is connected to a friend's house and they like share parenting
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responsibilities. And we had actually talked about doing this with him. Like he, he was like, oh, well,
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I might move where you guys are and do this with you guys. But, and we're like, oh, cool. Because
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people know that we do this with the people who, who live next to us. We give them a house in exchange
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for childcare help. Right. But he's like, oh, and I would like to ensure that like, if we do this,
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you're going to have time to like have regular dinners with us. Right. Like maybe at least a
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couple of dinners a week. And Simone and I are like looking at each other. No, no, no, no, no, no, no,
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no, no, no, no, no, no. We would have a strong, and I mentioned this because, you know,
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in our society, we often forget this people, I think are biologically impacted by their traditions
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pretty strongly. Oh yeah. And I can see members of my culture who were more like gregarious towards
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outsiders, uh, being much more likely to leave the culture and people from potentially different
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cultures like Simone, who are much less gregarious towards outsiders, finding this culture and way of
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living very appealing, which can lead to genetic concentration. Now, if you look at how
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we work with the people who help us raise our kids, uh, we have basically no conversations with
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them outside of business ventures, but it's like, Hey, we might be able to help you make money here.
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We might be able to help you make money here. We need help with this. These are people who have
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been living next to us and caring for our kids every day for over a year at this point. I still
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don't know what religion they are. They don't know that we are pronatalist advocates. They don't
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know our religious beliefs, but I really would not want to have like small talk with them. I'd find
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that to be very painful for me. To be fair, you don't like to have small talk with anyone.
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Yeah. True. But this is also, if you consider like Jewish celebrations for anyone who's not familiar,
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and I can put some video on the screen here. A lot of them involve like parties.
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like a party that is if i was going to put it on a level between the type of christian gatherings
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that i grew up with and remember i grew up in a calvinist sect of christianity so it's going to
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be on the stream at the end of this but i also went to catholic events i also went to so like
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let's put it on like a more middling christian group like a catholic if i compare it with like
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your your regular extremely orthodox jewish celebration was a generic catholic celebration
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it's like 50 on the way to being a rape like it's it's insane
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and jews may think that this would elevate their culture to me but no i'm like oh my god somebody's
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gonna touch me if i go there i'm gonna get like a random hug i'm gonna get like you know this looks
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like way too much fun yes yeah somebody's gonna go up and expect me to like treat them with geniality
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even though they haven't proven themselves to me like oh my god uh that that squeaks me out
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and i think some people might hear this and because they have so oriented their value system to the
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value system that the urban monoculture provides them they may think i am exaggerating or putting
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on a show here but i am not this is genuinely horrifying to me asking me to go to one of these events
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is like singing would you like to walk through these hot coals without shoes on it is not it does
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not look pleasant to me but and this isn't true of all religious celebrations if somebody asked me to
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go to for example an amish barn raising where i don't talk to people and i just do honest labor for
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a few hours and then the the women go and bake nice foods and bring that to us with lemonade after
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long honest labor i would love that that'd be a lot of fun to do whereas and i should note it's not
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just the partying of religious celebrations that squigs me out like latin mass oh my god the
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pointlessness of it i don't even understand what they're saying so it's it's not that i feel just this
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way about jewish celebrations also anything that reeks to me of pointless ceremony where nothing productive
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is achieved that also really squigs me out and and drives me crazy but i think in society you can say
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oh latin mass drives me crazy and people are like oh i get why that would drive someone crazy and you're
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like but these partos also drive me crazy and they're like i can't understand or you must be fronting or you
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must not really mean that because in our society today in that scene in a movie where you know somebody
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from the dance floor walks out and puts out their hand and tries to bring the person onto the dance
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floor who really doesn't want to be dancing well the convention is they take their hand they go on
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the dance floor and then they really enjoy themselves that is not me that has never been me i go on the
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dance floor and i am weirded out and it's not that i'm a bad dancer i just don't like doing that
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prepare to interact socially reaction hologram on i am reacting appropriately to the thing you just
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said small talk acknowledged who's an anti-social weirdo now not the girl who invented robot arms
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to hug strangers oh my god i sound insane and if you're it's similar do you have further comments
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on this well i guess just for me any sort of social event means i just have to work extra hard to mask
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because me being around people is not natural in any sense so it's just exhausting and i don't get it
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i don't understand yeah i always end up having to sleep a ton after i interact with people as well
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it like really overcharges my processing yeah i think on a genetic level there are definitely people
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who are introverts and extroverts with introvert and extrovert being defined as whether being around
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people gives you mental energy or draws it away from you and i wonder if on a religious level
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there are some people who like let's let's say your theory holds true and judaism is a religion
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that really features a lot more socializing would then people who've genetically been jewish for hundreds
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and hundreds of years on average be more extroverted you would expect so but i also am not sure because
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there's so much monasticism no because there's another thing that's counterfactualing this okay
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so we were talking with this guy very conservative you know he knows a lot of various like habad jewish
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groups these are the ones who dress weird everything like that right from an you know average americans
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perspective yeah from our perspective cool and he mentioned that he hadn't heard of cps being called
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on any of them and i thought this was very weird keep in mind cps has been called on 34 percent of
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american families and i know virtually no cultural group who's like a white american protestant who
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hasn't had cps called on them and so i was thinking about what could cause this and then i began to
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reflect on something else i've noticed about our jewish friends kids is that they are dramatically more
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timid and less risk-taking than our kids our kids are very aggressive like for example when i had to
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punish my kid because he stole some other kids game that is not the type of thing that any of our
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jewish friends kids would do they wouldn't just go up to another kid take their toy from them and like
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push them to the ground and start playing with it they wouldn't you know when we've been out playing in
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dangerous places they don't get close enough to the creek to fall in they don't you know pick up the
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extra big rock and accidentally drop it on their sister they don't you know just this risk-taking
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behavior is much lower and i think that both of these might be downstream of the same thing
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which is jews might be more socially gregarious but less risk-taking more broadly and i think this
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might have to do with being overly the the jewish faction that survived now we argue in our book this
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wasn't true of the older jewish factions but the jewish faction that's dominant today was a urban
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center focused culture and really specialized in being in urban centers that's why they've been able to
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keep their fertility rates up we argue because they were exposed to the urban monoculture long
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before any other cultural group and they developed resistance to it but what it means is if you are a
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kid growing up in urban centers for many generations and even today i think it's something like 98 percent
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of jews live in an urban center you are going to be like evolutionarily rewarded for being less likely to
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play on the street being less likely to accidentally push around another kid who might be in a gang
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be much less likely to be more gregarious socially but in a very polite way right and i think that this
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might also lead to the stereotype that is common of the sort of weasley jewish kid that you have in a lot
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of media i'm gonna make you a deal what that kid over there is having a really hard time right now so
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i'm going to offer you 40 to not rip on him 40 bucks cartman no jew jokes all you have to do is keep
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your mouth shut and you've got 40 bucks can you do it could be tough but i'll give it a shot all right
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it's a real dry cold that's the problem it's the cold air makes me wheeze kyle this is cartman he's
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my sort of friend dish oh nice to meet you cartman you know i saw that same jacket you're wearing at
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bosco's for 29.95 how much was yours i'm just wondering if bosco's is a rip-off oh man cartman oh
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well i grew up in the city i really don't care for it i come from a jewish family which of course you
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know because kyle's from the same family i like to read oh my god i'm not gonna make it i'm not
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gonna make it i realize we're in the mountains but do we have to freeze today now kyle i need you to
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be quiet in my class you need to be able to concentrate oh maybe we'll have to send him to
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concentration camp ah damn it damn it damn it which is if you have this high gregarious high timidity
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kinetic cluster being selected for because of multi-generation urban living you might come off as
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uh obsequious or nerdy to other kids who are from more rough and tumble cultures
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and i also note this in terms of jewish kids ability to like focus and study one of the things
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i was noting is that our jewish friends kids when contrasted with our own kids at similar age ranges
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are much better at like sitting down and studying for long periods of time which is you know what they
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need to do if we sent our kids because we've even thought of doing this to like a local uh habad
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center or something like that to be trained the way the jewish kids are they would just stand up and
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run off like that you'd say sit in the chair and they'd be like why like are you gonna hit me they'd
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be like no and they'd be like well then why would i sit in the chair i'm head off which is the way that
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they react to this stuff and it's just a strong cultural difference and then here i'd note if you're
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like okay so then what are what is the ancestor of cultures like ours like you're talking much more
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like extended family networks where that is your social circle it is the people who are your cousins
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or your your uh second cousins you typically don't really talk to anyone outside of this network
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and when you do you generally distrust them and the reason that you're talking to them is generally
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because you want to ensure your kids have access to potential wives or husbands or um you're looking
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for a wife or husband so as a note here if you in one episode i did that was called something like
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we used to like our parents i read from a book that my great great great grandfather wrote which i think
00:25:05.640
does a good job of showing how in this culture people related to families because throughout the entire
00:25:10.960
book i don't think he mentions a single human being by name who he's not related to yet he not
00:25:17.780
only copious times mentions family members and how family members helped him out like how his brothers
00:25:24.560
helped pay for him to go get his law degree who worked at the local mill so that somebody in the
00:25:30.200
family could be educated or how his uncle gave him a loan so that he could move his wife to texas
00:25:35.660
but it doesn't just mention family members and not mention anyone not in the family at the end of
00:25:40.240
the book there is a list of every living person he is related to just this really long list and what
00:25:48.300
they do slash have done and then at the end of the list he takes a great deal of pride and says and i
00:25:53.960
haven't noticed any degree in criminality in any of the collins bloodline and this was apparently
00:25:59.440
important to him that out of all of the family members and none of them had any degree of criminality
00:26:03.220
i thought that that was interesting but there is one note of a party in the book and it was like a
00:26:10.100
square dance type party that he went to to originally meet the woman who he ended up marrying so it's not
00:26:16.420
that you would never go to a party at all but you go to a party with an instrumental purpose which is
00:26:22.600
finding the type of person that you would end up marrying for a movie that depicts this cultural group
00:26:28.200
you can look to the original home alone in the original home alone everyone who the family knows
00:26:33.200
is part of their extended family network and it may seem like a plot hole that when they are on
00:26:38.700
vacation with their extended family network they don't have literally a single acquaintance who they
00:26:43.200
are not related to in their town that can go check on their house or in their kid but if you are from
00:26:48.460
this cultural group that seems fairly natural to you also you can see traits that are common in this
00:26:55.060
cultural group depicted in that movie for example the protagonist's extreme level of confidence and
00:27:02.440
cockiness when he goes and talks to somebody like the santa claus at the mall where he's like hey i know
00:27:08.960
how it works you're not santa claus you work for santa claus now let's talk this through or that he
00:27:15.140
immediately goes to a church when he is feeling unsure of himself or that his solution to literally any
00:27:23.660
problem appears to be murder and i actually hypothesize that this notion we see commonly in america today
00:27:31.560
that everyone is supposed to have lots of friends outside of their family and that is the culturally
00:27:38.320
normative way to be which the urban monoculture pushes really really strongly all this power of friendship
00:27:44.000
stuff and everything like that i actually think that that is culturally an anathema
00:27:49.360
to most american cultural groups throughout their history and them attempting to overly adapt
00:27:57.220
to this historic anathema causes them a lot of distress as to why they are attempting to adapt to this
00:28:05.320
and where this misconception has come from first for the urban monoculture to deconvert somebody
00:28:10.840
it needs to push them away from their support network which is going to be their family which means
00:28:15.260
this going to create or the iterations of it that create this narrative of friends good friends
00:28:20.740
matter more than family found family etc that's gonna do much better at spreading than the iteration
00:28:27.180
which is like no you really should you know honor your parents and stay with your family and everything
00:28:30.740
like that so that's one thing is the urban monoculture pushes it but then secondarily two groups which
00:28:36.540
seem to out-compete other groups in america are jews jews just get to higher positions faster and like
00:28:43.400
media and stuff like that so their culture is going to predominate media at a higher rate than it
00:28:48.280
otherwise would and a group that i'm going to call the high catholics now there are and i don't mean
00:28:54.420
this in terms of like like like high church catholics i mean this like the high elves i'm going to divide
00:29:01.420
the catholics into high catholics and and low catholics like the wood catholics or the christmas
00:29:06.240
what's the difference what's the differentiating line they are super super different and i actually
00:29:12.340
hadn't realized it till i was prepping for this video because i hadn't been able to point to this
00:29:16.860
before i would look at an individual like nick fuentes who is a high catholic and i'd be like why
00:29:22.160
are you complaining about immigrants coming into our country they're majority catholic you want to
00:29:27.140
create a worldwide catholic government like why would that be a problem for you when what you
00:29:32.760
want is a country that is all catholic ruled by catholics what i realized is no they're not catholic
00:29:39.020
i mean superficially like the high elves are like yeah i mean we're kind of the same thing as the
00:29:45.120
wood elves but like let's be honest we fucking hate the wood elves and look down on them and i
00:29:50.900
wouldn't let a wood elf live in a high elf city or certainly not one of santi's crusty elves live in a
00:29:56.680
high elf city like what are we even talking about here whereas the other elves the low elves i guess
00:30:02.840
i'll call them are the catholic group that we're much more friends with which are often hispanic
00:30:07.660
catholics or they represent other catholic girls history like the ones who formed the mafia or the
00:30:13.080
mob and these groups high catholics are very low on family like they are very pro and great at
00:30:20.500
networking outside the family very pro networking so community oriented yeah and very intellectualist
00:30:28.140
that makes that makes so much sense i never really thought about it that way but i did have this
00:30:33.480
sort of two evoke sets for catholics in my mind one being extended family very family reunion like
00:30:43.520
oriented very clan based and then the other being extremely community oriented constantly doing things
00:30:52.940
related to their church community or a broader network and those don't really work well together
00:30:58.840
yeah they're they're culturally incredibly maybe well i feel now though like a lot of our catholic
00:31:06.000
friends would be saying no we absolutely do both i'm super involved in my community and we also do
00:31:12.100
everything with our family so i don't know maybe they would no no no they when they say that they mean
00:31:17.620
that the same way a jew does by that what i mean is jews are both it's not like jews don't care about
00:31:23.740
their family or family gatherings that friends come to are still family gatherings yeah they still have
00:31:30.500
family gatherings but they're much closer to high catholics in that regard and like when i imagine a
00:31:36.620
modern high catholic in america meeting one of their maybe mob family or mafia family ancestors
00:31:43.580
it's sort of like a high elf meeting christmas elves
00:31:47.920
what what the fudge are you wearing oh these are my iron silk robes light as a feather but
00:31:56.560
strong you look ridiculous is what i'm saying he does he does you ever see an elf wear something
00:32:00.800
like this before that long cape that'll get stuck in a toy machine for sure your foreman lets you wear
00:32:04.960
that okay all the elves in kalendil wear iron silk dad if you can call them real elves
00:32:11.160
wow tell us all about kalendil the shining jewel of the east where a multitude of voices rise to sing
00:32:22.640
the secrets of the moon to the what do you do in the big city huh what do i do what do you do i forge
00:32:27.960
fallen stars into the blades of champions i whisper enchantments into the shields that guard
00:32:35.240
the realms of men you make money off of that jingle i'm curious i don't understand how do people pay for
00:32:44.720
that you know maybe i don't make a toy maker's salary dad but at least i'm not a slave to a fat
00:32:50.120
human you couldn't just be a normal elf whoa okay hold up hold up hold up what is a normal elf to you
00:32:59.760
i'm a normal elf that's super racist oh i guess everything's racist now high elves north pole elves
00:33:07.140
wood elves if we talk about how family focused some low catholic groups are like the and i should say
00:33:13.820
i mean low like i think high more highly of the low catholic than i think of the high catholics i'm not
00:33:19.620
saying low as a derisive term i'm saying it more that when i imagine high catholics they remind me of
00:33:26.280
high elves just very sparkly buildings like thinking they're they're very high and mighty
00:33:31.180
all that so the low catholic friends we have like i think of one who's an immigrant from latin america
00:33:35.640
and he jokes that his family calls him uh white simply because he talks to people who are non-family
00:33:42.400
he's like yeah mostly we just talk to family members of the family and it's actually considered
00:33:47.200
quite weird to have friends who are outside your family and that is somewhat weird was in my family
00:33:54.620
like most of the friendships you have outside the family are supposed to be for some form of utility
00:33:58.560
as people have even seen from like my bigger philosophical takes around this so before i go
00:34:04.100
further anything you want to add no now i want to talk about another weird thing that i was thinking
00:34:11.640
about which is that family oriented culture like clan oriented culture family oriented is the wrong way
00:34:18.680
to put it i'll put it like clan oriented culture the way it relates to family is much less hierarchical
00:34:25.760
in a way than the way that let's call it friendship oriented culture relates to family so what i mean by
00:34:32.060
this is in for example jewish families when the family is vetting a potential spouse which is common
00:34:40.960
in conservative jewish families the the parents do that that is done by the parents whereas in the
00:34:47.640
culture that i come from that is done primarily by the siblings what your siblings think of a potential
00:34:55.100
spouse matters a lot more or girlfriend or boyfriend matters a lot more than what your parents think of
00:35:01.680
it and that when we're raising our kid because i was thinking like oh what you know it's so weird
00:35:07.260
that in jewish culture like when we were talking with him there's this focus on do i approve of who
00:35:13.360
their marriage like do i approve of like earning their parents approval whereas um i was thinking
00:35:20.140
well i would never care about like approving who my kids are marrying in a big way like that's mostly
00:35:25.660
going to be their siblings and if you're not familiar with this trope think of if you're used to like
00:35:32.180
a story about an appalachian family where somebody was dating in it or like a rural american family
00:35:37.340
that somebody was dating in typically it's their brothers who are going to beat you up if you do
00:35:42.540
something wrong to the girl it is the i mean i'm not sure i agree because most of the tropes still
00:35:52.220
center around fathers vetting like the classic protestant father interviewing boyfriends before
00:35:59.860
they go on a date with a daughter i don't know i have seen that in some stereotypes but just in my
00:36:06.440
real life what i've seen more especially in families with lots of kids it is a sibling's job
00:36:11.580
and and there's actually a reason why it's the sibling's job it's not like a completely like i
00:36:16.320
was even explained to my parents this is why parents don't vet their children's wives or in my case wife
00:36:22.500
in our cultural group and they said because if we did and we disapproved of a wife but then you ended
00:36:29.140
up marrying her anyway we could end up being cut out of your life and our grandkids life so it's much
00:36:35.060
more important that your siblings take on that role than we take on that role it's our job to make
00:36:41.160
a new spouse feel welcomed this is avoided in jewish culture because when ultra conservative jews are
00:36:48.640
dating typically the dating prospect is vetted by the parents before they ever meet the person they're
00:36:53.900
going to date but this has the negative externality of leading you to go through like hours of vetting
00:36:59.980
from parents before you even get to meet the person and you're like oh i immediately didn't click with
00:37:04.820
this person i could have known that after three minutes and this is why you don't do that uh in
00:37:09.160
in jewish culture this optimization is actually fascinating to me because both cultures have
00:37:14.560
optimized around the same problem in radically different ways to to just reword how jewish culture
00:37:21.380
handles this in extremely conservative jewish culture you typically need to be approved by the
00:37:27.300
parents before you can date someone that way there is no risk of quote-unquote catching feelings
00:37:33.980
for someone who the parents wouldn't approve of whereas in appellation culture parents generally
00:37:40.220
are indifferent to or always welcoming of who you are dating unless they're like an absolute no no no
00:37:47.080
you shouldn't be with this person and the core job of protecting somebody from making bad decisions
00:37:53.880
around who they date or marry is left to the siblings and it's also the siblings job to enforce
00:37:59.880
that both of these fix the problem of somebody gets married to somebody who created a beef with one
00:38:06.200
of the families and ends up splitting the culture intergenerationally speaking but does it in
00:38:11.240
completely opposite ways almost so i thought that that was really interesting as well now here i wanted
00:38:18.760
to talk about other cultures so mormons are another culture that is very focused on friends like
00:38:26.600
community friends depending on the group of mormons who you're interacting with so some mormons are like
00:38:32.600
only the mormon church like if you're talking to somebody outside the mormon church you better be
00:38:36.200
trying to convert them because if you are not then you are contaminating yourself however they are very
00:38:41.960
gregarious within the church community itself and in addition to that they have what they call a
00:38:48.040
culture of inviting and this is partially to convert people as well where they do shared meals attend church
00:38:55.000
services that are not family segregated and read religious texts as groups yeah my experience
00:39:03.400
with people who are active in the lds church is that they would you would get a calling and your
00:39:10.760
calling would involve volunteering even like from the age of being a fairly young team you'd be playing
00:39:16.680
a piano or you'd be helping out at the daycare services you wouldn't be doing everything with your
00:39:20.040
family you'd actually be separated from your family by duty during normal church services to do your part
00:39:27.720
to help the community so i feel like that sort of actively by design is breaking people up and
00:39:34.120
encouraging people to make inter-community friends yeah absolutely and the the uh if you talk about muslims
00:39:41.800
as another cultural group despite some muslim cultures being very family focused because if you talk
00:39:48.680
about like rural muslim cultures a number of them are very family first focus islam as a religion is
00:39:55.320
very very friendship focus and out family focus so if you look at something like ramadan celebrations
00:40:04.120
you hope in open iftars fast-breaking dinners where they invite friends neighbors and community members
00:40:10.520
and i have been to these myself where like a local rich person will just have a group of people come in
00:40:17.320
like have a feast and then the next group comes in and they'll do this was like five groups in a row
00:40:22.520
like they are so gregarious focus but it's very much focused on the wealthy being gregarious to the
00:40:28.280
less wealthy that's a big part of muslim gregariousness where it's like they're establishing their local
00:40:34.440
status by doing this so it's not as similar as as as jewishness where it's very not like a status thing to be
00:40:42.120
inviting people it's very much like a i genuinely want to involve myself with the community there
00:40:47.880
really is this elevation of friendship as a value is in jewish culture and then you also have community
00:40:54.040
based stuff within some muslim celebrations like eight celebrations and stuff like that which can be
00:40:59.320
more i think like wider community based than many christian celebrations so with all of this being the
00:41:05.320
case uh i wanted to talk about like the positives uh and negatives of these two cultural situations
00:41:12.760
first is just that some are going to appeal much more to people with some like pre-level genetic
00:41:18.040
selection than others a culture like ours is just gonna heavily heavily heavily appeal more to
00:41:23.640
introverts than non-introverts oh for sure and and when i say introverts and people might be like malcolm
00:41:29.480
you're pretty gregarious like you talk to a lot of people yeah but i force myself to i would always
00:41:34.440
rather be at home with my wife we're hardline introverts there's no getting around it we can't
00:41:39.960
being around people is like shoving a fist into an ice bucket we can handle it yeah i can handle it
00:41:55.080
even talking to people who aren't you like makes me actively angry if they're not saying something that
00:42:01.320
is of utility to me like when i'm talking to somebody i'm like what's going on in my head
00:42:05.480
is always okay what's your point like what's the piece of information i'm supposed to be taking with
00:42:09.320
this because i want to leave i want to be out of here that's when i'm not on performance mode sometimes
00:42:14.200
when i go to like nights out and stuff i basically go to performance mode or i'm like okay i'm basically
00:42:19.160
doing a performance to get these people to like me you're gone you're not even there yeah like you and
00:42:24.040
me are like totally masking at those like yeah you know i'm thinking about the way people typically
00:42:29.320
describe introvert versus extrovert and neither really fits simone or myself where they will say
00:42:35.960
that you are extroverted if you get sort of emotionally recharged by interacting with people
00:42:43.000
and you are introverted if you get emotionally recharged by being alone where i realize on multiple
00:42:48.680
occasions simone have had this conversation with me where it's like well we really get the most emotional
00:42:53.240
recharge in time that we spend together specifically simone and i or with the kids not anyone else
00:43:01.080
and it's had me realize that maybe there's a third category here which is like family verts
00:43:07.720
which is to say that you get emotionally recharged by spending time with family but not with friends
00:43:15.320
strangers acquaintances or anything else like that and i'd say that for simone and i we're probably a
00:43:20.680
a bit you need you need a bit of time with family a bit of time alone and without that we would feel
00:43:25.800
really drained but i could live my entire life not talking to another person again so i i think that
00:43:32.040
one just each of them but for like some people they may come from a culture and then see these jewish
00:43:39.720
celebrations where like everyone's drinking and singing and everything like that and they're like sign me up for
00:43:44.840
that yeah yeah sign me up for that that looks like a lot of fun or they see them all like laughing and
00:43:51.400
reading stuff to each other or engaging with each other and they're like oh that looks really fun like
00:43:55.480
it's really for some people absolutely just not yeah so i think there's that too i think it likely
00:44:00.840
helps them in terms of and we mentioned this in our episode on jewish iq and we argue that it's a myth
00:44:09.320
that jews have a significantly higher iq and i argue that actually the reason why they perform so
00:44:14.920
much better is just they're much more likely to cold email people or cold reach out to new people
00:44:19.400
and i think that that is downstream of this this cultural appreciation of making friends with people
00:44:27.880
in a wider network and i'd even put this to you simone we have fans reach out to us all the time
00:44:34.120
well over 50 of the fans that reach out to us are jews i'd say probably like 60 to 70 percent of the
00:44:42.200
fans that reach out to us are jews which is definitely not representative of our audience
00:44:47.000
so people who reach out to you disproportionately they are catholic and jewish yeah they're not jewish
00:44:54.360
they're catholic almost entirely and i think that this is also like the the catholic group has outperformed
00:44:59.800
other groups as we mentioned in the united states especially high catholics like you look at the supreme
00:45:03.960
court and stuff like that just hugely overrepresented and i think that this might be that these two
00:45:09.160
groups are just much more likely to decide to cold email an influencer who they like which i think in
00:45:15.960
our previous world system provided you was a lot of power i don't know if it's going to continue to be
00:45:22.440
as high utility with the rise of sort of disintermediated social networks that we have online
00:45:28.680
but it might i think it hugely basically made it easier for jewish and catholic high catholics to
00:45:35.080
compete in an environment in which the media that you consumed was mediated by social networks like
00:45:42.920
who could get their own news show who could become a talking head on a platform who could you know i
00:45:48.840
think that in that world these two communities were given a huge handicap in terms of competing i don't know
00:45:56.120
if it's going to continue to matter as much a core challenge of being this gregarious to outsiders
00:46:01.880
is that it's pretty unlikely to convert new people i haven't heard of that many people who've converted
00:46:08.200
to catholicism because of this even though high catholics do invite people to stuff a lot however
00:46:14.440
it is very likely to infect your community with external ideas and the catholic church especially the
00:46:21.960
high catholic church has been really infected by the urban monoculture as to why jewish communities
00:46:27.240
have been more resistant to this well what i'd say is the ones who had any degree of susceptibility
00:46:31.320
basically washed out i mean what are reformed jews if not a highly infected by the urban monoculture
00:46:37.320
iteration of judaism which has significantly sort of dropped any rule or cultural custom they had
00:46:44.760
which conflicted with the desires of the urban monoculture and uh people may see that as offensive but
00:46:50.280
it's like objectively true that's like broadly what it means to be a reformed jew these days is that
00:46:55.400
you're jewish except where judaism conflicts with the mainstream cultural value system of the far left
00:47:02.040
um which is the urban monoculture value system so i ideas here simone yeah thanks right when there's
00:47:08.600
a baby praying um i i struggled to see where there's really this difference across i i think that
00:47:16.440
there are plenty of we'll say low catholic families who engage with their community and network
00:47:23.080
and even like within that mafia stereotype there is a ton of examples of the mafia bosses being super
00:47:30.120
involved with the community engaging with others etc to build the network that they need to have a
00:47:34.120
successful family business so i just i don't think that it's very very different so when these sorts of
00:47:41.240
clan cultures are engaging with outsiders like in these mafia families and stuff like that it's
00:47:46.600
generally somewhat similar to the muslim situation i was describing where you are giving to your
00:47:52.600
community to sort of show your status and your family status where but you're not engaging them as
00:47:58.440
human beings you are inviting them to events you are giving them food you are giving them the opportunity
00:48:05.240
to maybe go to a party or something like that but they are not the same as family members and they will
00:48:12.920
never be trusted like a family member and that a lot of this is is downstream of and i think to an extent
00:48:21.080
you simone grew up in one of these cultures that was broken because you were raised in a family that was
00:48:27.560
of one of these cultures as a single child which means that you just didn't see this as much you
00:48:33.800
wouldn't have seen the strong family connections i still had cousins i still had
00:48:40.120
played with all the time and they were like some of your best friends growing up when we were talking
00:48:44.040
about this this morning that's not normal for a lot of people also your family was heavily
00:48:50.600
fallen to the urban monoculture by the time they met you yeah i mean they were already into like
00:48:55.640
polyamory and you know i was making an animal i didn't even have a word at the time it was more like
00:49:02.840
i guess but it was referred to at the time your mom was training to become a shaman
00:49:09.000
when i met her yes the degree to which they had fallen from their cultural roots almost cannot be
00:49:14.520
overstated there was a great amount of truth yes and so it might be that you just grew up without any
00:49:21.080
even an echo or whisper of what your culture used to be and so all you have is the genetic imprint of
00:49:27.640
that actually i was talking to her about it this morning again and i was like you know it's remarkable
00:49:31.880
to me that your family even put on christmases for you and she goes oh well they didn't do that
00:49:37.240
voluntarily i made them do christmas every year and i was like oh okay so they were really trying
00:49:43.000
to systemically erase any connection she had to any sort of ancestral culture which is really
00:49:50.520
interesting to me whereas for me yeah there's a lot of things that we've taken on as new traditions
00:49:55.480
that feels so much more natural to me than how i grew up and i think a lot of people who get god
00:50:02.120
or otherwise take on new traditions like the trad cats who are first generation catholics i think
00:50:07.000
are feeling something really similar like the way they grew up didn't feel right to them and now
00:50:11.560
suddenly it does but yeah this up because and he's crying and i need to beat her before we move on
00:50:18.760
okay well i think the final thing i note here because i've also been thinking about this
00:50:22.200
is in terms of religious ceremonies i have been to the group where i have gone to the most is
00:50:29.320
actually muslim which might surprise people and the reason is is because they both invite you a lot
00:50:37.480
and they're not community focused and they're generally giving you something like a really nice meal
00:50:43.320
or access to someone in a position of power with the jewish ones uh you might get a meal but you know you're
00:50:49.320
going to have to talk to somebody and i'm not as interested in that and then with it's interesting
00:50:53.960
with the next one i've gone to most is jewish ones and then like if i think about non-protestant
00:51:00.040
christian ones very few but if you can be like what do you mean like you don't want to go to a high
00:51:05.080
demand religious thing well think about your mormon friends when they invite you to a religious thing
00:51:09.400
do you go to that are you like oh my god this is going to be like so high demand no yes i go because
00:51:15.160
they're wholesome and amazing and typically they're related to christmas because that's when people can get me
00:51:19.000
to go to anything all right love you to death simone have a spectacular day i love you too
00:51:32.680
just fyi i think all she really needs is she basically didn't drink when she was supposed to
00:51:38.040
side note on my part i love that video you sent really good on you know watchers and view hours
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matter so much more than subscribers don't count i guess but they do count in terms of getting good
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guests on and they do count in terms of the the watchers perception and i mean i've always told
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you from the beginning i'm after watch hours and not that's why i'm concerned totally true yeah you
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saw how feckless and meaningless subscribers not to say anyone subscribing doesn't count and i subscribe
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to a lot of channels and watch them really subscribe i really want to hit the 30 000 number by christmas
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or new year's at least but watch hours are really yeah what youtube uses to determine whether or not
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a channel is worthy of getting a bump in the algorithm so helpful recondextualization for me
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and we can uh have a longer strategic discussion about how we might utilize that and i'm still curious as
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to what the drone mystery is it has not been resolved yet the drones that are flying over our
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area yeah i know with your brother saying that there wasn't any because i can't believe we don't have
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a geiger counter and he does i love my brother like walking around with like a radiation meter he's
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like i'm checking but i'm not you know he's a very paranoid person well no he's just prepared and
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we should get one all right he's a geiger counter i'm sure some of our audience owns geiger counters
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and they're like you guys are the worst preppers ever how do you not own a geiger counter well i
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mean it's it's actually useful i mean for example here's this instance in which across our geographic
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area you get to choose what you spend your time and money on and for example you right now have been
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on a kick of build it yourself giant faraday boxes well no the only reason i'm going to build
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them myself is they're too expensive to buy and what's the point of having solar power generators for
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solar flares if they burn out when this so and so now you you you were like oh well we may not have
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power for weeks because of the solar flare but thank goodness we invested in the solar powered
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generators throughout the house and then we discover they've been fried just like everything else that's
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why they have to be in faraday cages but faraday cages are too expensive but surprise surprise heavy
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duty aluminum foil and foil taper enough to make if you wanted to make a fortune what you could do
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is buy just like a huge amount of chromebooks put them in giant faraday boxes and then wait till a
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solar flare happens and put them up on a site like ebay or something because people would be like manic to
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get those well i was just watching the recent danny gonzalez video on amazon returns and one by the person
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he kind of co did that video with as well maybe there's some way we can get a huge returns box of
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chromebooks you know basically unused electronics maybe that don't resell at really high prices and
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do that because also i'm starting to think because you know the the earth is closer to the sun during
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the winter so i imagine our solar flare risk is actually seasonal like it's higher now because we
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are closer physically to the sun at this time of year so it's it's i really need to not put off making
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these faraday boxes you don't understand malcolm this is really important but also i think your brother
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was smart to have a radiation meter because there could have been a dirty bomb and that could be
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the reason why there are all these drones flying i wouldn't be surprised if his entire house is done
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like a faraday cage like the liver king's his wait the liver king's house is like a faraday cage yeah
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he'd be built his house into like a faraday cage to like keep out so cool well you don't know if it's
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true but like i know but if i built a house if i had the money to build a custom house why not just
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make sure that except how do you do the windows right all the walls can have foil in them you don't
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need windows yeah okay we'll get started all right actually you know what there was a zillow gone wild
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image of one one room no actually the entire house the entire house actually was metal on the inside
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do you remember seeing that one that one probably would functionally be a faraday cage i don't think
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it was advertised as such but oh all right tell me what that is what is that um here's my paper
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airplane sign and participate with papers and right there there's a lot of paper airplanes i could
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sell okay so you're gonna go outside and you're gonna show people your paper airplane sign yes well
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i'm gonna do that in two days because it's cold out there that makes sense and um when people see
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your paper airplanes and your paper airplane sign they're gonna give you money um yes i'm making money
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and what are you going to do with the money you want a remote control ball yeah it's a silly thing to
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go on oh why do you like a remote control ball horse tag it's because i like it i love you octavian
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this is my paper airplane sign so everybody knows i'm my mom hey octavian i really like how much agency
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you're showing here you wanted something we said you needed money to do it so you came up with a plan to
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all i need is you tonight no friends allowed no social fights