3 Things I LOVE About Being MODEST! ｜｜ How To Embrace Dressing Modestly
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Growing up, I enjoyed being modest. It allowed me to respect my body and keep it for myself and for my husband. As I got older, I found that I wanted to wear things that showed off more of my body. Now that I ve learned to love modesty, I can say that I m so much happier dressing modestly and I think it s something that more women should embrace.
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Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
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Growing up I actually really enjoyed being modest. I loved that my faith encouraged me to respect my
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body and keep it for myself and for my husband and it felt like a way of showing my relationship
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to God. That I was dressing in the way that he would have wanted for me and that he wanted me
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to respect my body and it also kind of was reflected to the world that I was Jewish and I
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was a woman of faith and I thought that was pretty cool that God and I had this like secret handshake
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of modesty. As I got older I ended up being really tempted by the different fashions and the different
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styles that were just out there that showed a lot more skin and I wanted to be less modest. I wanted
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to wear things that showed off more of my body. Now after having been immodest I can say that I'm
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so much happier dressing modestly and I really think it's something that more women should embrace.
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So today I'm going to share with you three ways that I learned to love modesty so let's get into
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it. I want to preface this video by saying that just because I now love being modest and I love
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dressing modestly it doesn't mean that I never struggle with modesty. I love fashion so wanting
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to wear what's trendy isn't always going to go hand in hand with what's modest. But now because
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I understand why modesty is important and I've learned to love it I can walk myself back from
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the precipice of wanting to wear trends that reveal more of me than I really should. Number one is I love
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dresses. This was a huge part of me rediscovering my love for modesty because dresses are a wonderful way
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to be modest. You can wear so many beautiful dresses that don't show a lot of skin at all and
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that are just really feminine and beautiful and they don't have to reveal a lot to be beautiful and
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to make you feel beautiful. And I have a huge collection of dresses at this point and I love
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that I do because I can really just dip into that whenever I want to feel beautiful and it's not about
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showing a ton of skin or showing off you know certain body parts. It's about wearing a dress
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that I love that accentuates my best features but doesn't have to reveal everything to the world.
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And that is a way for me to just feel beautiful and embrace modesty. Number two is that I love that
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I'm not dressing to show off my body but to look beautiful. There's a really big difference between
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being sexy and being beautiful and they can overlap but if you're only aiming to be sexy you're showing
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off your body in a way that makes it into an object. I mean that's really what you're doing is you're
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showing off your body and saying this is who I am as opposed to dressing beautifully which is an
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accentuation of your personality. And it makes me feel more confident to dress beautifully because
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it's an extension of who I am as opposed to look at my body separately from who I am as a person.
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And I'm not someone who wants to be flaunting all of my features that are like bigger or better than
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someone else's. That's not my purpose here. My purpose here is to just look as beautiful as I can
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without feeling like I'm putting everything out for everyone to see. And again I want my way of
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dressing to make my personality shine. And that's a beautiful feeling to me. I love wearing clothes
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that express myself and that make me feel even more confident in who I am as opposed to just being
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confident in my body. Number three is that I love that my relationship with my body has actually improved
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since dressing more modestly. I think there's this huge pressure to feel great in your body while also
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revealing all of it. Now I don't know anyone who when they're naked literally looking in the mirror
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doesn't go, I see some flaws. I'm not saying that that's a good thing. I'm not saying that we should
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all look in the mirrors and find our flaws. But I think everyone does that. I think everyone looks
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in the mirror when they're undressed and sees the cellulite and sees the fat in the places they don't
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want there to be fat. I mean that's just normal. We all do it. But dressing modestly has allowed me
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to realize that my body isn't perfect. No one's is. And I don't have to show it off to be beautiful.
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When I'm dressing modestly I'm not thinking that my body has to look absolutely perfect.
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The clothing that you're wearing is really about your personality and it's about wearing
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things that make you happy. At the end of the day dressing modestly is not about your body.
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Of course you want to wear things that are flattering. Of course you want to wear things
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that accentuate nice features. But you're not out there trying to show off every nook and cranny of
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you. Which is not always going to be the most flattering. And if you want to wear a beautiful
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dress that fits you beautifully and doesn't show off a ton of skin it makes your relationship to
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your body better. Because you love the dress. You love the fashion. You love how you feel in it. And
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you love that it's an expression of who you are. And that for me is how I learned to love dressing
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modestly. Because it wasn't about does my body look great in this and do I have that perfect physique
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that will look more attractive the more skin I show. No it wasn't about that. I'm healthy. I work out.
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I eat healthily. I take care of myself. But the clothing that I wear is because I love it. I want
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people to know who I am through what I wear as opposed to getting to know my body first and then
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having to get past that to meet me. And that has been a really wonderful lesson for me. So that is how I
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learned to love modesty. I'd love to hear from you guys what your experience has been like
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by dressing modestly. I know that dressing modestly is not a popular opinion nowadays. I love dressing
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modestly. I think that dressing modestly is a wonderful way to live. I think it's respectful
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to those around you and I think it's respectful to yourself. So let me know in the comments what
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