Classically Abby - 3 Things I LOVE About Being MODEST! ｜｜ How To Embrace Dressing Modestly

00:00:00.160 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.720 how I learned to love being modest.

00:00:11.040 Growing up I actually really enjoyed being modest. I loved that my faith encouraged me to respect my

00:00:16.640 body and keep it for myself and for my husband and it felt like a way of showing my relationship

00:00:21.680 to God. That I was dressing in the way that he would have wanted for me and that he wanted me

00:00:27.200 to respect my body and it also kind of was reflected to the world that I was Jewish and I

00:00:33.360 was a woman of faith and I thought that was pretty cool that God and I had this like secret handshake

00:00:38.480 of modesty. As I got older I ended up being really tempted by the different fashions and the different

00:00:44.640 styles that were just out there that showed a lot more skin and I wanted to be less modest. I wanted

00:00:51.040 to wear things that showed off more of my body. Now after having been immodest I can say that I'm

00:00:57.520 so much happier dressing modestly and I really think it's something that more women should embrace.

00:01:03.120 So today I'm going to share with you three ways that I learned to love modesty so let's get into

00:01:07.760 it. I want to preface this video by saying that just because I now love being modest and I love

00:01:12.400 dressing modestly it doesn't mean that I never struggle with modesty. I love fashion so wanting

00:01:17.600 to wear what's trendy isn't always going to go hand in hand with what's modest. But now because

00:01:22.640 I understand why modesty is important and I've learned to love it I can walk myself back from

00:01:28.400 the precipice of wanting to wear trends that reveal more of me than I really should. Number one is I love

00:01:36.640 dresses. This was a huge part of me rediscovering my love for modesty because dresses are a wonderful way

00:01:44.560 to be modest. You can wear so many beautiful dresses that don't show a lot of skin at all and

00:01:51.520 that are just really feminine and beautiful and they don't have to reveal a lot to be beautiful and

00:01:57.840 to make you feel beautiful. And I have a huge collection of dresses at this point and I love

00:02:03.280 that I do because I can really just dip into that whenever I want to feel beautiful and it's not about

00:02:09.600 showing a ton of skin or showing off you know certain body parts. It's about wearing a dress

00:02:15.040 that I love that accentuates my best features but doesn't have to reveal everything to the world.

00:02:19.600 And that is a way for me to just feel beautiful and embrace modesty. Number two is that I love that

00:02:26.080 I'm not dressing to show off my body but to look beautiful. There's a really big difference between

00:02:30.880 being sexy and being beautiful and they can overlap but if you're only aiming to be sexy you're showing

00:02:38.560 off your body in a way that makes it into an object. I mean that's really what you're doing is you're

00:02:43.280 showing off your body and saying this is who I am as opposed to dressing beautifully which is an

00:02:49.040 accentuation of your personality. And it makes me feel more confident to dress beautifully because

00:02:55.440 it's an extension of who I am as opposed to look at my body separately from who I am as a person.

00:03:02.160 And I'm not someone who wants to be flaunting all of my features that are like bigger or better than

00:03:08.960 someone else's. That's not my purpose here. My purpose here is to just look as beautiful as I can

00:03:14.800 without feeling like I'm putting everything out for everyone to see. And again I want my way of

00:03:21.040 dressing to make my personality shine. And that's a beautiful feeling to me. I love wearing clothes

00:03:27.920 that express myself and that make me feel even more confident in who I am as opposed to just being

00:03:33.440 confident in my body. Number three is that I love that my relationship with my body has actually improved

00:03:38.800 since dressing more modestly. I think there's this huge pressure to feel great in your body while also

00:03:45.760 revealing all of it. Now I don't know anyone who when they're naked literally looking in the mirror

00:03:50.880 doesn't go, I see some flaws. I'm not saying that that's a good thing. I'm not saying that we should

00:03:55.840 all look in the mirrors and find our flaws. But I think everyone does that. I think everyone looks

00:03:59.920 in the mirror when they're undressed and sees the cellulite and sees the fat in the places they don't

00:04:05.120 want there to be fat. I mean that's just normal. We all do it. But dressing modestly has allowed me

00:04:10.960 to realize that my body isn't perfect. No one's is. And I don't have to show it off to be beautiful.

00:04:17.920 When I'm dressing modestly I'm not thinking that my body has to look absolutely perfect.

00:04:22.880 The clothing that you're wearing is really about your personality and it's about wearing

00:04:27.600 things that make you happy. At the end of the day dressing modestly is not about your body.

00:04:32.480 Of course you want to wear things that are flattering. Of course you want to wear things

00:04:35.200 that accentuate nice features. But you're not out there trying to show off every nook and cranny of

00:04:41.760 you. Which is not always going to be the most flattering. And if you want to wear a beautiful

00:04:47.760 dress that fits you beautifully and doesn't show off a ton of skin it makes your relationship to

00:04:52.880 your body better. Because you love the dress. You love the fashion. You love how you feel in it. And

00:04:58.480 you love that it's an expression of who you are. And that for me is how I learned to love dressing

00:05:02.400 modestly. Because it wasn't about does my body look great in this and do I have that perfect physique

00:05:09.280 that will look more attractive the more skin I show. No it wasn't about that. I'm healthy. I work out.

00:05:15.040 I eat healthily. I take care of myself. But the clothing that I wear is because I love it. I want

00:05:20.160 people to know who I am through what I wear as opposed to getting to know my body first and then

00:05:24.560 having to get past that to meet me. And that has been a really wonderful lesson for me. So that is how I

00:05:31.840 learned to love modesty. I'd love to hear from you guys what your experience has been like

00:05:36.640 by dressing modestly. I know that dressing modestly is not a popular opinion nowadays. I love dressing

00:05:41.760 modestly. I think that dressing modestly is a wonderful way to live. I think it's respectful

00:05:45.360 to those around you and I think it's respectful to yourself. So let me know in the comments what

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Classically Abby - April 16, 2021

3 Things I LOVE About Being MODEST! ｜｜ How To Embrace Dressing Modestly

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