Classically Abby - 3 Things Men Want Women To KNOW! ＊they're actually super sweet＊

00:00:00.000 Here are three things that men really want you to know.

00:00:07.480 Hello and welcome to my channel. My name is Abbey and I am so happy you are here.

00:00:12.700 And today we're going to talk about three things that men really want women to know.

00:00:17.260 Because lately, women have been hating on men. Now it's not just the feminist movement. Of course 0.99

00:00:22.080 that's really the start of everything. But we've gotten to this complaining place of like men are

00:00:27.160 the worst. They don't do A, B, or C. They don't really take care of us. They don't do a lot of

00:00:31.720 things. There's even conversation of something called the great divorce that's coming because

00:00:35.780 women are just done. That is crazy talk. Men are wonderful and there are so many great men out 0.54

00:00:42.540 there. And just like there are men out there who suck, there are women out there who suck. 1.00

00:00:46.640 There's no blanket statements about genders here, right? Men are not unequivocally perfect 0.99

00:00:50.980 and neither are women. But there are so many wonderful men out there and I think it's so

00:00:55.400 important for us to teach our young women that there are actually great guys and that

00:01:00.600 they want what's best for you in the right situations. Of course, we're not talking about

00:01:05.280 sleeping with someone before you're married and trusting someone beyond the boundaries of what's

00:01:10.440 normal. But once you get married for sure, you should be trusting the guy that you married

00:01:14.660 because you chose him for a reason. So today I really want to talk about the three things that men

00:01:19.640 want you to know. And I think hopefully it will improve your relationships. So if you're a man

00:01:25.940 down in the comments below, I would love if you would tell me, am I right? Is this true? Do you want

00:01:30.860 women to know this? Let me know your thoughts. And if you're a woman, I would love to hear what you 1.00

00:01:34.960 think. Okay, let's just hop right in. The first thing that men really want you to know is that they 1.00

00:01:40.540 want to make you happy. Men love to see their girlfriends and their wives happy. They just love it.

00:01:45.880 That's their joy in life is to make their women happy. The whole concept of men saving women,

00:01:52.000 rescuing women, wanting to solve their problems. It's because they love seeing that smile that comes 0.95

00:01:56.460 across their woman's face as they see something get better for them. They want to see you joyful

00:02:02.320 and happy. So what does that mean? It means that men will go out of their way to make you happy.

00:02:07.700 There have been times where my husband has seen me unhappy and he's gone and done something I didn't

00:02:11.720 even ask him to do just because he loves me and he wants to see me smile. And it's so meaningful

00:02:17.500 when your husband really goes out of his way to do those things that are going to bring you joy.

00:02:22.220 Now what does that mean for women? There are two things that means for women, for you. Number one, 0.99

00:02:26.680 it means that you have to actually understand that that's what your husband wants for you and give

00:02:30.960 him the credit for that and appreciate that about him. I think so many women fall into the trap of 0.95

00:02:36.100 thinking that their husbands are narcissists or their husbands don't care about their happiness

00:02:40.900 when that's not true at all. Men will really go out of their way to do something that makes their

00:02:45.780 wives happy. If that means making a little extra money so that their wives can go get their nails 1.00

00:02:50.640 done, they're going to do that. If it means that they can help with chores around the house,

00:02:54.680 but you ask in a really feminine and loving way rather than in a bossy nagging way, they will do that

00:03:01.380 for you because they like to see that it makes you happy. Not that they are doing something that you told

00:03:05.280 them to do and now they just did it and they get no credit. Instead, you asking them or you showing

00:03:11.320 them in a loving way that what they did mean something, that that chore that they did for

00:03:15.140 you means something and makes you happy, brings you joy, that's what they're looking for. So what it

00:03:20.720 really means for you is ask and expect things from a place of joy and happiness and appreciation

00:03:26.780 rather than nagging and annoyance and tiredness that they didn't get it the first time. And number two,

00:03:32.340 what it means is that being sad and low and grumpy is a very, it's kind of like a dagger in the heart

00:03:39.960 for men. Like it hurts them to see their wives and their girlfriends sad and down. Now that's not to

00:03:45.360 say if you are sad and down, you can't show that. That's not what I mean. But what I mean is if you

00:03:50.480 are constantly complaining, if you are constantly making it seem like your husband cannot make you

00:03:56.320 happy, at a certain point he's going to feel like I don't really want to try. And so it's your job

00:04:03.320 to encourage that in him because it is so natural. And women have such a tendency, and I say this as 1.00

00:04:09.720 someone who does this myself, to expect more from a man than he is aware of. And so he doesn't even

00:04:17.900 know that that's what's on the docket. He doesn't even know that you expect that. And so when you get

00:04:22.240 grumpier and grumpier because he's not doing something he doesn't know he's supposed to do,

00:04:26.360 then he starts to feel like he's failing you. And he doesn't really want to fail all the time.

00:04:31.420 Instead, showing what you want, asking for what you want, and phrasing it in the best way, which is,

00:04:36.520 I would love if you did this. That is going to make him so much happier because he wants to make

00:04:42.960 you happy. The second thing that men want you to know is that they have their own way of doing things

00:04:47.000 and you aren't smarter or better than they are. I say this with love because I get it. As a woman,

00:04:52.800 we feel like we know best. It's really difficult, right? Like, we know how to do the laundry. We

00:04:58.480 know how to fold it. We have a certain way that we like things done. And when our husbands don't 1.00

00:05:02.760 do things the way we like them, we think, you don't know how to do it at all. But men have their 0.99

00:05:07.800 own way of doing things. And they are good at those things, but maybe not in the exact way that we

00:05:12.160 anticipate. Now there are things that men aren't so good at, that some men are better at and some men are

00:05:16.340 worse at. But there are things that men do, they just do differently. And if you care so much about

00:05:21.240 it, you can do it yourself. So what I mean by this is, if your husband does laundry and he folds the

00:05:26.480 laundry in a different way than you do, and it matters to you, that's your chore now. You get to

00:05:31.600 do that chore. But he can do the laundry. He can fold it. He just doesn't do it the same way that you

00:05:37.920 like. So if it matters so much for you to have it done in a specific way, number one, do it yourself.

00:05:43.840 Or number two, you can ask him to try it your way. And if he doesn't do it your way,

00:05:48.060 then do it yourself. It's something that's more important to you that you get it done in a

00:05:51.720 specific way than that it gets done at all. So for men, they want you to know they have done

00:05:56.300 laundry before. They have washed dishes before. It may not be exactly what you want. It may not be

00:06:02.040 exactly the way that you approach it, but they know how to do it. And they have their stuff that

00:06:06.580 they're much better at than we are, right? They know how to change the oil in the car, or they know how

00:06:11.080 to find the best contractors to do the jobs around the house when you wouldn't want to do

00:06:14.440 the research even for a second. Men have their own approaches to things that are different than

00:06:19.120 women's. And I think a lot of the time in a marriage, it's very easy to say, I as a woman know

00:06:25.000 more than a man, and I can do it better. And there are things that you may like done a certain way,

00:06:29.560 but it isn't necessarily better. And if it is better, then do it yourself. Otherwise, let him do it

00:06:34.680 his own way. It's okay. It's okay to be a little more loosey-goosey sometimes. And let your husband

00:06:39.720 have his own approach to things. If it means that you go out to dinner with your friends, and you

00:06:44.340 come back and the kids had mac and cheese for dinner instead of something you would have prepared

00:06:48.020 instead, that's okay. He's allowed to do that sometimes. It's okay for dads to do things a little

00:06:53.320 differently, for husbands to do things a little differently. And that doesn't make you better 0.94

00:06:57.500 or smarter than they are. The third thing that men want you to know is that they love the things

00:07:03.260 about you that make you different from them. Men love that women are different than they are. 1.00

00:07:09.320 They don't want to be married to a man. They want to be married to a woman. And so that means there 1.00

00:07:13.820 are some beautiful things about womanhood that you can embrace and your husband will just absolutely

00:07:19.960 love. Now I'm talking about vulnerability, I'm talking about beauty, and I'm talking about femininity.

00:07:26.240 Women are more naturally vulnerable. And a good man wants to see your vulnerability at the times

00:07:31.900 that it is necessitated. That's not to say that a woman should be weak all the time or that she 0.96

00:07:36.660 can't ever be strong for herself. But there are times that women need to be vulnerable. There are

00:07:40.480 times that he says something that hurts your feelings. There are times that the stressors of

00:07:45.120 every day are hard. And you being vulnerable is a beautiful aspect of womanhood where your husband

00:07:51.200 can come in and can take care of you and can make you happy simply by listening. And that's something

00:07:56.400 men love about women is that they can just be their solace in times of vulnerability.

00:08:02.120 Number two is beauty. One of the really fun parts of being a woman is embracing our beauty

00:08:06.260 and doing our hair and doing our makeup and shaving our legs and wearing beautiful clothing. Now that's

00:08:10.600 not necessary for being a woman, but it is a fun part of being a woman. And for most men,

00:08:16.520 that difference, that attraction is something they really value in their women. And there's a reason 1.00

00:08:22.540 that men love sundresses in the summer because it's such a feminine thing and shows how womanly

00:08:27.700 you are. The last part of womanhood that men just love to see is the nurturing element of femininity. 1.00

00:08:35.720 That nurturing part of you that wants to take care of others, that is something men value so deeply.

00:08:42.560 And that's why husbands love their wives when they see them become mothers. They love seeing their wives 1.00

00:08:46.920 take care of the person that's now the most important to them, their child, their baby. So

00:08:52.120 embracing that nurturing part of yourself and engaging with it, whether that be toward your

00:08:57.220 husband or toward your children, is just something that men value so much. So those are the three

00:09:02.820 things that men want you to know. Please make sure to leave a comment down below. And if you watched

00:09:08.460 all the way to the end, I would love if you would leave the little twinkle emoji. That would be really

00:09:12.740 fun. Thank you guys so much for watching. Please make sure to subscribe and like this video and I'll see

00:09:16.620 you guys in my next one. Bye!

Classically Abby - June 12, 2024

3 Things Men Want Women To KNOW! ＊they're actually super sweet＊

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