Classically Abby - 5 PRACTICAL Tips To Live A More CONSERVATIVE Life ｜｜ Practical advice to live out your values!

00:00:00.160 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.720 five practical tips to live a more conservative life.

00:00:11.040 So what is a conservative life? A conservative life is a life lived with values, a life lived

00:00:16.720 with meaning, a life lived with purpose, a life lived in service to God, and a life lived with

00:00:23.040 community. Conservatives believe that life is about real fundamental values, not just about living

00:00:28.800 for money or success or for fleeting pleasures. We believe that we shouldn't just do things because

00:00:34.160 they're fun, but we should do things because they're right. Now this video really is more

00:00:38.320 geared towards singles, towards people who are going into college, who are in college, or who

00:00:43.840 just got out of college. This is a little bit less applicable for people who are already married,

00:00:48.560 who are already a little bit further along in their lives. So this is for those people who are

00:00:53.360 just kind of starting out. So I'm really excited to share these five practical ways for you to live a

00:00:58.400 more conservative life, so let's get into it. Number one is to live close enough to family that you

00:01:03.360 can spontaneously travel to visit and see them. If you're living far away from family, it's really

00:01:08.400 easy to get lonely and start acting in ways that you wouldn't normally act. You don't have those

00:01:13.600 people that you normally trust to set you on the straight and narrow path, and the people that you

00:01:18.400 surround yourself with when you are far away from family kind of become your substitute family,

00:01:23.280 and if you're not around the right kinds of people, you may end up being steered in the wrong direction.

00:01:28.560 Being close to family means that you can drive and see them whenever you feel like you do need

00:01:32.640 somebody to check in on you, or if you want to check in on them, you can easily get there.

00:01:37.120 Being close to family is such an important part of the values that conservatives believe in,

00:01:42.400 so it's great to be able to say, okay, I want to head home for a weekend. I want to see my sister

00:01:47.920 tomorrow. I want to be able to get home easily. Now, does that mean you have to live around the corner?

00:01:52.880 No, but it does mean that if you want to be able to go away for a weekend, so maybe it's a five-hour

00:01:57.200 drive, it's close enough that it's doable. Now, this also doesn't mean that you have to be near

00:02:01.280 your parents. It can mean that you're near a sibling. If it's your sister or your brother,

00:02:05.200 somebody that you really do trust that can give you good advice and that you can go to when you do feel

00:02:10.560 like you are starting to get a little bit overwhelmed, that's something that's great for you to be able to do.

00:02:15.600 You should make the choice so that you can head home whenever you're feeling a little bit less

00:02:20.720 than normal and so that you can just enjoy being close to your family. But just making sure that

00:02:26.160 you can get home when times are feeling tough or when you're feeling down or when you're feeling

00:02:30.320 lonely, it will prevent you from making decisions out of loneliness or out of confusion and instead

00:02:36.480 will remind you of what's important, which is so great. And I have to say, as somebody who did go to

00:02:42.080 college close to home, it was really wonderful to be able to go home when I needed to and it really

00:02:47.760 did kind of keep me a little bit more guided when I was surrounded by people who were doing things

00:02:53.440 that were not of my value system. I was able to go home and see, okay, this is kind of more normal

00:02:58.720 and I can talk to my parents about it and I could talk to my siblings about it and it was important for

00:03:03.920 me to keep my head on straight. Number two is only go to a college or move to a city that has a

00:03:09.520 community that shares your values and or your religion. When you're picking a college or moving

00:03:14.880 to a new city, you can't just think about the degree or the job. Being conservative isn't just about

00:03:21.040 success and money. It's about those fundamental values and how to live a more dignified and moral

00:03:26.640 life. So faith, family, and community are incredibly important to our lifestyle. And so just going somewhere

00:03:32.880 because of that degree or because of that job isn't going to give you that support that you need.

00:03:37.360 So think about your move to college or to a new city holistically. The people you surround

00:03:42.320 yourself with are not just going to determine how happy you are, but they're also going to determine

00:03:46.720 the kind of person that you'll become. If there's nobody there who shares the same faith as you,

00:03:51.360 you'll stray from your own faith because there's just nobody there to support you and you'll start

00:03:55.440 to feel alone. And when people feel alone, they really will do anything to evade that feeling.

00:04:00.960 If no one shares your values or your political beliefs, you might start to be pressured out of

00:04:05.520 those beliefs that you hold because everyone around you thinks that you're different and

00:04:09.600 thinks that you're maybe even a bad person for having those beliefs. And not having the people

00:04:14.480 around to support you will really make a difference in who you start to become. Surrounding yourself with

00:04:20.000 the people who will support your values and support your mission will really be vital to the person

00:04:24.800 that you do start to become. And it's just practical because at the end of the day, your loneliness will

00:04:30.240 dictate your choices and if you choose to move to a place that doesn't have anybody who shares your

00:04:35.200 values, your political beliefs, or your faith, you'll just start to do things that you wouldn't normally

00:04:40.240 do. Now this is something you can really practically do. Jacob and I, whenever we move to a new city,

00:04:45.440 we do some research online. We see where's the Jewish community? Where should we live? Is there a synagogue there?

00:04:51.120 Is there an Orthodox Jewish community there? Can we reach out to anyone in advance? We really try

00:04:55.920 and do our research before we go so that we do have a community there, so that we are supported

00:05:01.840 there. And you can do that for college too. You can see, is there a YAF chapter at that campus? Is there

00:05:06.640 a great faith-based community there that I share? Just really being deliberate in that choice is going to

00:05:13.200 affect your conservative life. Number three is only buy clothing that really reflects what you believe.

00:05:19.440 There are times I'll walk into TJ Maxx or any store and I'll see something that I think is really cute

00:05:25.360 or I think would look really good on me and I'll have that impulse to buy it because it is cute and

00:05:30.960 I do like it. But if it doesn't reflect who I am, I'll bring it home. Maybe it's not modest enough.

00:05:37.120 Maybe I'll wear it once or twice and then I'll realize this isn't really who I want to be and it just

00:05:42.560 ends up being given away. Don't waste your money on pieces of clothing that don't match your values.

00:05:47.600 If you don't think that a short red dress is modest, don't buy it because either you'll wear

00:05:52.800 it because you feel like you spent the money and you have to and it's not a reflection of what you

00:05:56.240 truly believe, or you won't wear it at all and you'll feel like you wasted the money. Don't buy a

00:06:01.120 shirt that has a slogan that doesn't really reflect your values. And the other thing about this is that

00:06:06.960 this will prevent other people from thinking that you're someone that you're not. If you're constantly

00:06:11.520 wearing clothing that doesn't really match who you are and doesn't really match and reflect your

00:06:16.000 values, then people might think that you're not as conservative as you are and you won't make

00:06:19.920 friends with those people who are conservative and who do actually share your values. You might

00:06:24.480 actually end up limiting your social interactions with the kind of people that you'd want to hang

00:06:28.480 out with if you wear clothing that would attract somebody totally different from that. Number four

00:06:33.280 is don't do any activity just to be social. Stand by your values. In my opinion, you don't only have to be

00:06:40.080 friends with people who share your exact values and who believe everything that you believe. But when

00:06:45.200 you do have friends who don't share your values, it's easy to get sucked in and want to go out with

00:06:50.080 them even if it's an activity that you would never normally do. They may want to go to a club or do

00:06:55.600 drugs and if you're lonely, it's something you might agree to. If they want to drink and you're underage,

00:07:00.640 you might agree to it because you don't want to be alone. But don't ever do something you wouldn't

00:07:05.120 otherwise do just because you're lonely. Because there's so many other options for what you can do

00:07:09.840 with those friends. You can go to coffee, you can go shopping, maybe have a board game night.

00:07:15.040 But you'll always regret going out with friends just to go out if it's something that you would

00:07:19.600 never normally do. And it's better to do something alone that you'll enjoy than it is to go out with

00:07:24.560 people and be social doing something you know you'll regret. Number five is recognize that marriage

00:07:29.600 isn't just a nice thing and actually take the steps to make it happen. Now I'm not saying that you can

00:07:35.520 make marriage happen because obviously you need to meet the right person and it's really hard when

00:07:40.160 you are someone who does want to get married and it's just not happening. You haven't met the right

00:07:44.400 person and it just hasn't happened for you yet. So that is not my point here. But if you're being

00:07:48.800 promiscuous and not taking marriage seriously and telling yourself it'll be fine because it'll

00:07:53.200 happen down the line and you'll just take it seriously when you need to, you are not making

00:07:57.440 yourself available for when you meet the right person. Now for men, this is sort of related to the stuff I was

00:08:02.160 talking about in my five ways to attract a classic and conservative woman. I'll link that video up 1.00

00:08:07.200 above here. But for men, you really need to get yourself in position to attract that classic and

00:08:11.840 conservative woman. And if you're playing around not taking marriage seriously, sleeping with people,

00:08:17.520 and not trying to actually date someone who you'd marry, then it's going to be really difficult for

00:08:21.840 you to actually meet someone. So stop sleeping around, take marriage seriously, and take your life

00:08:27.760 seriously. So those are my five practical ways to live a more conservative life. If you guys have

00:08:33.840 any other great tips, I'd love to hear them. Leave them in the comments below. Thank you guys so much

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Classically Abby - September 14, 2020

5 PRACTICAL Tips To Live A More CONSERVATIVE Life ｜｜ Practical advice to live out your values!

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