Classically Abby - 5 Ways For MEN To Attract A CLASSIC And CONSERVATIVE Woman! ｜｜ How to meet your future wife 💍

00:00:00.200 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.680 five ways for men to attract classic and conservative women. 0.98

00:00:11.640 I have been asked a few times on my channel what men can do to attract the kind of woman

00:00:17.460 that they're looking for and to attract that classic and conservative woman. 1.00

00:00:21.220 And I know that I do have some male followers here on this channel and I really wanted to

00:00:25.360 talk to you guys about exactly what you could start implementing into your life to attract that

00:00:30.680 kind of woman and attract the woman that shares your values and the woman that you could start to 0.96

00:00:34.880 build a life with. And clearly if you're here, if you're watching this video, you are conservative

00:00:39.800 and you have values and you're looking for something bigger than just dating for fun.

00:00:43.280 You're looking for a long-term relationship with a woman who you could build a life with.

00:00:47.400 And so I'm really excited to share these five ways that you can attract a classic woman, 1.00

00:00:52.080 a conservative woman. So let's get into it. My first piece of advice is stop pursuing women who 1.00

00:00:57.740 have totally different politics and values from you. If you are somebody who does know the value

00:01:03.280 of marriage and who does recognize what marriage is about and what it's for, then dating somebody

00:01:09.520 who doesn't share your values and who doesn't have that compatibility with you is really just a

00:01:15.020 waste of time. Marriage is more than just marrying someone who you have romantic love with. It's about

00:01:21.160 building a family with someone who does share your values and who would fit into a community with

00:01:26.380 you and where you can build a life together that's built on the same goal. And if you're dating women 0.98

00:01:32.960 who have completely different values than you do, and the reason I bring up politics as well is because

00:01:37.200 politics and values generally go hand in hand, you're going to end up wasting both of your time

00:01:42.800 because you're not going to be able to build a life with someone who doesn't want children or who

00:01:47.800 doesn't think that faith is important or who doesn't care about being in a community and would

00:01:53.140 rather be in a high-rise in New York and not really have a lot of friends but focus on career

00:01:57.660 or who doesn't really care about participating in a community. You're not going to be able to change

00:02:02.520 someone who feels strongly about those kinds of things. And then the future is truly uncertain for

00:02:08.460 you. If politics matter to you and so do values, then going out with women just because you find 0.98

00:02:13.600 them attractive physically or just personality-wise is going to be a waste of time for you because

00:02:18.980 you're not going to be able to meet women who could actually end up with you while you're wasting

00:02:24.120 time dating women who are totally wrong for you. First of all, you're leading those women on because

00:02:28.640 you're not going to end up with them. They have a totally different life goal than you do and they

00:02:32.740 have different values than you do and it's very hard to build a life with somebody who is that different 0.93

00:02:37.680 on those fundamental values. And second of all, you're confusing yourself. So this is something I talk about

00:02:43.240 a lot on my blog and on my channel and that is this idea of chemistry and compatibility.

00:02:48.260 Essentially, when you meet somebody, you have to have both. But you can meet people who have one

00:02:54.300 or the other. When you meet somebody who has really good compatibility with you and you guys are on the

00:02:59.500 same page about all your values and you do share the same politics but you're not really interested

00:03:04.380 in each other and there really isn't a lot of chemistry there, those are the kind of relationships

00:03:08.160 where you get bored very quickly because there's only the compatibility. You don't have the

00:03:13.240 chemistry. And on the other side of the spectrum is a chemistry-only relationship. That's the kind

00:03:17.580 of relationship that's a heartbreaker. That's the kind of relationship where your personality seems

00:03:22.300 so perfect for each other and you guys just can't not think about one another and it's so

00:03:28.100 all-consuming and you tell yourself that you'll make it through even though you don't agree on any

00:03:33.560 of the basics. And you can't make it through that. And that's going to be the most painful breakup of

00:03:38.480 all. That's why I'm a big proponent of building a relationship on chemistry and compatibility.

00:03:43.820 That person who you get along with and who you have a great time with but who also shares

00:03:49.360 a vision of the future. And that's the kind of relationship where you're a lot more calm.

00:03:53.600 It's not that version of passion that sounds like it's what it should be, right? Where you're

00:03:58.240 going crazy in love and you're on fire all the time. A lot of that is built on anxiety that you're

00:04:04.000 going to lose the other person because they don't share that view of the future. But the fact of

00:04:09.280 the matter is when you do meet the right person a lot of the time of course there is a passion but

00:04:14.240 there's not a fear that you're going to lose them because you do have a similar view of what you want

00:04:20.080 in life. And when you do have that shared view you don't have that panicky feeling which a lot of the

00:04:25.360 time accompanies that really kind of scared intense passionate fiery thing that happens in chemistry

00:04:33.120 only relationships. If you want to find the mother of your children you can't just keep chasing the

00:04:38.960 girls who you have chemistry with because you're going to end up hurting yourself hurting them and 0.98

00:04:44.480 it's just going to end in heartbreak. The other part of this is if conservative women are constantly 1.00

00:04:49.760 seeing you go out with women who aren't classic and who aren't conservative they're going to question

00:04:55.200 you and your motives. They won't trust that you take being conservative and classic seriously.

00:05:01.200 And I understand that because I remember when I was dating I would be interested in a guy but he

00:05:06.000 would constantly be going out with different women who had totally different values than I did.

00:05:10.560 And so I would think that he wasn't that serious in his values if he wasn't really pursuing the women

00:05:15.280 who he could share a life with. So bottom line one it's a waste of time for you to go out with women 1.00

00:05:21.280 who don't share your vision for the future and who don't share your values in politics and two you

00:05:26.720 are sending out a confusing message to the classic and conservative women that you might actually want 1.00

00:05:31.440 to date that you're not that serious about it. So that's my first piece of advice. Stop dating women 1.00

00:05:37.440 who don't share your values and your politics. Number two is develop yourself into an interesting and

00:05:43.360 cultured person. Conservative classic women are usually a very interesting group of women. They are really 0.80

00:05:49.280 interested in history. They read a lot of books. They listen to good music. They follow the news.

00:05:55.760 They are really interesting people. Being the kind of guy who knows a lot about different parts of

00:06:00.960 culture who goes to museums or listens to opera I know I'm biased but still or if you just read a lot

00:06:07.840 if you get the daily newspaper if you're somebody who is a cultured person you're going to make

00:06:13.520 yourself more attractive to those classic and conservative women. Make the time to read to go 1.00

00:06:19.120 to museums to take extra classes to educate yourself on things that you are interested in but would also

00:06:25.120 make you a great conversationalist. Also if you are constantly taking in culture think about how many

00:06:31.040 great dates you'll be able to take this girl on that you're interested in you won't just be going to

00:06:36.000 dinner and a movie every single time you go out you might take her to a museum you might take her to a

00:06:40.800 live broadway show you might take her to a bookstore and you'll just have so many more different things

00:06:46.560 for you both to share and outside of just making you a more interesting person art history and literature

00:06:53.360 will also develop you as a person because there's always something to learn you can always improve

00:06:59.120 yourself by taking the time to learn about history or taking the time to read a great book or taking the

00:07:05.840 time to look at a beautiful piece of art that stuff makes you better over time a good example is the fact

00:07:13.280 that my husband was a russian literature major in college and i took russian literature in high school

00:07:19.520 and that was one of the first things that the two of us connected on and for jacob outside of it

00:07:25.120 making him interesting to me russian literature was the impetus for him to become more conservative more

00:07:30.240 religious it was something that really taught him and developed him to become a better person so

00:07:35.920 it was for himself an incredibly important thing for him to read and learn and study and then

00:07:41.360 additionally it was something that the two of us could talk about and connect on and it was so

00:07:46.640 fascinating when we both realized that that was something that we were both very passionate about

00:07:50.880 because not everyone is a russian literature person but the two of us are being the kind of person

00:07:56.240 who does invest the time into learning and reading and looking at different pieces of art and just

00:08:01.760 really focusing on these different pieces of culture shows a woman that you want to keep improving and

00:08:08.480 that you want to keep bettering yourself and that you want to keep your mind growing and that's a really

00:08:14.320 attractive quality in a man because for women when we look at men we want to see a man who does want to

00:08:19.680 grow and who does want to improve and who would be a good communicator when you're actually married

00:08:25.040 so that both of you could work on improving with the help of the other and if you meet a guy and

00:08:29.760 it looks like he thinks he is god's gift to humanity that makes things a little bit more tricky when you

00:08:35.920 want to actually grow together so being a cultured person is only going to make it easier for you to

00:08:42.160 meet a classic and conservative woman number three is dress well and take care of your hair and your 1.00

00:08:47.920 facial hair looking good is a really important part to attracting a classic woman it's not just about 1.00

00:08:54.640 being fit or in shape because oh it's so important that looks matter but it shows her that you take

00:09:00.960 care of yourself and if you can take care of yourself then you can take care of her and if you

00:09:05.520 can take care of her then you can take care of a family if you're constantly looking like a slob if 1.00

00:09:10.560 you look like you don't wash your clothes or you don't trim your beard or you don't wash your hair

00:09:15.520 then women are going to look at you like does he take care of himself can he take care of himself does he

00:09:21.280 take the time does he even care what he's presenting to the world and classic women take 1.00

00:09:26.640 pride in making a good first impression so they do take time to take care of themselves and take care

00:09:31.760 of their looks and if they meet a guy who's not doing the same it can be a real turnoff for young

00:09:36.720 men who are in college it's not about wearing a suit every day and being overdressed but it is about

00:09:42.880 just looking clean looking like you put some time and effort into what you're wearing looking the part

00:09:50.000 and you want to be the kind of guy that a classic conservative woman wants to bring home to her 1.00

00:09:54.000 parents and say look at this amazing man i just met of course fitness does fit into this a little

00:10:00.080 bit in the sense of being strong shows her that you can protect her being healthy means that you're

00:10:06.720 going to be able to live a long life with her being a healthy person who does eat healthily and go to

00:10:12.720 the gym not to say that you can't ever splurge or that you have to be at the gym two hours a day but

00:10:17.040 just taking care of yourself physically is very important for a woman because she wants to know 1.00

00:10:21.760 again that you can take care of yourself so that you can take care of your future family

00:10:26.000 now i'm not saying you should obsess over your looks no woman wants her husband to be in the

00:10:31.040 mirror longer than she is but it is important for you to take care of the way that you look so that

00:10:37.440 she feels safer in thinking about spending a life with you number four is get a job that has potential 0.99

00:10:43.440 you should pursue your passions but you should also look forward toward the future and what your

00:10:47.680 career could look like conservative women and classic women know what they want and they want 1.00

00:10:52.240 a man who knows what he wants too classic women conservative women are the kind of women who date 1.00

00:10:57.520 with purpose they're not going to be dating just any guy who comes around they really are looking

00:11:02.240 toward the future and that also goes for the careers that they choose and so they want a man who is

00:11:06.800 going to be as considered as they are about their life choices so that they can build a family and

00:11:13.840 they can have a future with that partner choosing a career that you're passionate about and that would

00:11:19.040 also have the potential to support either your family entirely under income or just to support your

00:11:24.160 wife's income maybe she wants to earn as well is incredibly important to finding a great partner 1.00

00:11:29.200 it's not that you need to be making a ton of money when you meet the right girl

00:11:33.200 or even a great income it's about showing her that you are thinking about the future and you do

00:11:38.960 want to help provide for the family being the kind of man who is responsible who loves what he does

00:11:44.320 and who works really hard is a really attractive quality in a man and it makes a conservative and

00:11:49.040 classic woman a lot more confident that she could live a good life with you if you are choosing a job 0.99

00:11:54.160 with your future in mind and with the idea that maybe you don't want to work crazy hours because you

00:11:59.840 want to be home with the kids or maybe you want to work very long hours and you want to be the

00:12:04.640 sole provider of the family whatever it is that you can envision working for your family working for

00:12:10.560 your conservative lifestyle keep that at the forefront of your mind when you're choosing a

00:12:15.120 career because it is really important that you know what you're working toward when you meet a woman who

00:12:20.320 you want to marry and again this doesn't mean that you have to be the only provider or that you have

00:12:25.360 to be the sole earner because most households you have both people earning and contributing it just

00:12:31.280 means that you are being thoughtful about what career you're going to pursue so that it does fit

00:12:36.880 into that family life that you envision for your future the fifth and last way to attract a classic

00:12:42.720 and conservative woman is to be a good listener when jacob and i got together i had dated a bunch of

00:12:48.320 guys who were just not good guys at all and whenever jacob would be sweet and kind to me i kind of

00:12:54.160 didn't know if he was trying to get something from me i was applying the intentions of past men

00:12:59.120 that i had dated to jacob and the two of us had a really long talk where i just told him everything

00:13:06.320 that i was feeling and he sat there and he listened and he heard every single thing i said

00:13:12.640 and responded to every single concern and that was how i knew that i could date him and that he was

00:13:19.360 probably going to be the man i was going to marry honestly it was so powerful that he had taken the

00:13:24.480 time to really hear me and listen to what i was saying i bring this up because conservative women 1.00

00:13:30.400 don't just jump into relationships willy-nilly without thinking because we care about our futures

00:13:35.680 because we're dating the men who we could see being the father of our children because we envision a

00:13:40.800 family we don't just take dating lightly being the kind of man who does listen to a woman and addresses

00:13:47.520 her fears and concerns because conservative and classic women don't often go into a date just 1.00

00:13:53.600 thinking oh this will be fun we really are considering every angle of how this could turn

00:13:58.960 out now some of the women in my comments might disagree but that's how i felt when i was dating

00:14:04.000 for marriage when you listen to her it shows that you care as much about dating and as much about

00:14:10.640 finding a woman who shares your values and could have a future with you as she does and that is so

00:14:18.240 important it's so calming for a woman to meet a man who is clearly on the same page as she is of course

00:14:26.560 listening applies throughout your relationship it's always very important to be a good listener

00:14:31.920 and it's going to make your relationship and your marriage so much easier if you do listen to each

00:14:36.880 other and communicate well but at the beginning of a relationship it's incredibly important to

00:14:42.480 show that you're a good listener because it shows her that you will be a good partner moving forward

00:14:47.520 and that you could be a good husband to her and that you could be a good father it really makes you

00:14:53.520 a much more attractive partner to her if you show from the beginning that you listen to what she's

00:14:59.360 saying and show her that she's heard and more than that you care what she thinks that's so

00:15:05.440 important in a marriage is a woman and a man both parties feeling like the other cares what the

00:15:11.280 other person thinks because the basis of a good marriage is about both of you caring and respecting

00:15:16.240 the other's opinion like i said earlier marriage is not just about romantic love and oh we're gonna

00:15:22.160 get married and it's gonna be so much fun it's about so much more than that communication is key

00:15:28.640 because a marriage is the building block of a family it's about growing your relationship with each

00:15:34.400 other so that you too could be great parents and be great members of your community and treating

00:15:39.920 marriage like it's anything less than that is not taking the commitment of marriage seriously it's

00:15:45.040 about growing and developing into better people with your spouse's help and it's about putting someone

00:15:50.400 else's needs over your own so i hope you guys enjoyed today's video i hope you learned something about

00:15:56.640 attracting the kind of woman that you'd actually want to end up with let me know in the comments below

00:16:01.680 ladies is there anything else a man could do to be attractive to you as a classic and conservative

00:16:07.120 woman and men i'd love to hear if you agree with my list or if you're already married what you did to

00:16:12.480 attract your wife i'd love to hear thank you guys so much for watching today's video please subscribe

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Classically Abby - September 08, 2020

5 Ways For MEN To Attract A CLASSIC And CONSERVATIVE Woman! ｜｜ How to meet your future wife 💍

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