5 Ways For MEN To Attract A CLASSIC And CONSERVATIVE Woman! ｜｜ How to meet your future wife 💍
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5 Ways to Attract a Classic or Conservative Woman. Dating someone who doesn't share your values is a waste of your time because they have a totally different view of the world than you do, and they don't share the same values as you do.
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Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
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five ways for men to attract classic and conservative women.
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I have been asked a few times on my channel what men can do to attract the kind of woman
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that they're looking for and to attract that classic and conservative woman.
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And I know that I do have some male followers here on this channel and I really wanted to
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talk to you guys about exactly what you could start implementing into your life to attract that
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kind of woman and attract the woman that shares your values and the woman that you could start to
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build a life with. And clearly if you're here, if you're watching this video, you are conservative
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and you have values and you're looking for something bigger than just dating for fun.
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You're looking for a long-term relationship with a woman who you could build a life with.
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And so I'm really excited to share these five ways that you can attract a classic woman,
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a conservative woman. So let's get into it. My first piece of advice is stop pursuing women who
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have totally different politics and values from you. If you are somebody who does know the value
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of marriage and who does recognize what marriage is about and what it's for, then dating somebody
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who doesn't share your values and who doesn't have that compatibility with you is really just a
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waste of time. Marriage is more than just marrying someone who you have romantic love with. It's about
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building a family with someone who does share your values and who would fit into a community with
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you and where you can build a life together that's built on the same goal. And if you're dating women
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who have completely different values than you do, and the reason I bring up politics as well is because
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politics and values generally go hand in hand, you're going to end up wasting both of your time
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because you're not going to be able to build a life with someone who doesn't want children or who
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doesn't think that faith is important or who doesn't care about being in a community and would
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rather be in a high-rise in New York and not really have a lot of friends but focus on career
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or who doesn't really care about participating in a community. You're not going to be able to change
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someone who feels strongly about those kinds of things. And then the future is truly uncertain for
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you. If politics matter to you and so do values, then going out with women just because you find
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them attractive physically or just personality-wise is going to be a waste of time for you because
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you're not going to be able to meet women who could actually end up with you while you're wasting
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time dating women who are totally wrong for you. First of all, you're leading those women on because
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you're not going to end up with them. They have a totally different life goal than you do and they
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have different values than you do and it's very hard to build a life with somebody who is that different
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on those fundamental values. And second of all, you're confusing yourself. So this is something I talk about
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a lot on my blog and on my channel and that is this idea of chemistry and compatibility.
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Essentially, when you meet somebody, you have to have both. But you can meet people who have one
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or the other. When you meet somebody who has really good compatibility with you and you guys are on the
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same page about all your values and you do share the same politics but you're not really interested
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in each other and there really isn't a lot of chemistry there, those are the kind of relationships
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where you get bored very quickly because there's only the compatibility. You don't have the
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chemistry. And on the other side of the spectrum is a chemistry-only relationship. That's the kind
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of relationship that's a heartbreaker. That's the kind of relationship where your personality seems
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so perfect for each other and you guys just can't not think about one another and it's so
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all-consuming and you tell yourself that you'll make it through even though you don't agree on any
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of the basics. And you can't make it through that. And that's going to be the most painful breakup of
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all. That's why I'm a big proponent of building a relationship on chemistry and compatibility.
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That person who you get along with and who you have a great time with but who also shares
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a vision of the future. And that's the kind of relationship where you're a lot more calm.
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It's not that version of passion that sounds like it's what it should be, right? Where you're
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going crazy in love and you're on fire all the time. A lot of that is built on anxiety that you're
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going to lose the other person because they don't share that view of the future. But the fact of
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the matter is when you do meet the right person a lot of the time of course there is a passion but
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there's not a fear that you're going to lose them because you do have a similar view of what you want
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in life. And when you do have that shared view you don't have that panicky feeling which a lot of the
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time accompanies that really kind of scared intense passionate fiery thing that happens in chemistry
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only relationships. If you want to find the mother of your children you can't just keep chasing the
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girls who you have chemistry with because you're going to end up hurting yourself hurting them and
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it's just going to end in heartbreak. The other part of this is if conservative women are constantly
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seeing you go out with women who aren't classic and who aren't conservative they're going to question
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you and your motives. They won't trust that you take being conservative and classic seriously.
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And I understand that because I remember when I was dating I would be interested in a guy but he
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would constantly be going out with different women who had totally different values than I did.
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And so I would think that he wasn't that serious in his values if he wasn't really pursuing the women
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who he could share a life with. So bottom line one it's a waste of time for you to go out with women
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who don't share your vision for the future and who don't share your values in politics and two you
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are sending out a confusing message to the classic and conservative women that you might actually want
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to date that you're not that serious about it. So that's my first piece of advice. Stop dating women
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who don't share your values and your politics. Number two is develop yourself into an interesting and
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cultured person. Conservative classic women are usually a very interesting group of women. They are really
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interested in history. They read a lot of books. They listen to good music. They follow the news.
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They are really interesting people. Being the kind of guy who knows a lot about different parts of
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culture who goes to museums or listens to opera I know I'm biased but still or if you just read a lot
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if you get the daily newspaper if you're somebody who is a cultured person you're going to make
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yourself more attractive to those classic and conservative women. Make the time to read to go
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to museums to take extra classes to educate yourself on things that you are interested in but would also
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make you a great conversationalist. Also if you are constantly taking in culture think about how many
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great dates you'll be able to take this girl on that you're interested in you won't just be going to
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dinner and a movie every single time you go out you might take her to a museum you might take her to a
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live broadway show you might take her to a bookstore and you'll just have so many more different things
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for you both to share and outside of just making you a more interesting person art history and literature
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will also develop you as a person because there's always something to learn you can always improve
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yourself by taking the time to learn about history or taking the time to read a great book or taking the
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time to look at a beautiful piece of art that stuff makes you better over time a good example is the fact
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that my husband was a russian literature major in college and i took russian literature in high school
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and that was one of the first things that the two of us connected on and for jacob outside of it
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making him interesting to me russian literature was the impetus for him to become more conservative more
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religious it was something that really taught him and developed him to become a better person so
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it was for himself an incredibly important thing for him to read and learn and study and then
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additionally it was something that the two of us could talk about and connect on and it was so
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fascinating when we both realized that that was something that we were both very passionate about
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because not everyone is a russian literature person but the two of us are being the kind of person
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who does invest the time into learning and reading and looking at different pieces of art and just
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really focusing on these different pieces of culture shows a woman that you want to keep improving and
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that you want to keep bettering yourself and that you want to keep your mind growing and that's a really
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attractive quality in a man because for women when we look at men we want to see a man who does want to
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grow and who does want to improve and who would be a good communicator when you're actually married
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so that both of you could work on improving with the help of the other and if you meet a guy and
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it looks like he thinks he is god's gift to humanity that makes things a little bit more tricky when you
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want to actually grow together so being a cultured person is only going to make it easier for you to
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meet a classic and conservative woman number three is dress well and take care of your hair and your
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facial hair looking good is a really important part to attracting a classic woman it's not just about
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being fit or in shape because oh it's so important that looks matter but it shows her that you take
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care of yourself and if you can take care of yourself then you can take care of her and if you
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can take care of her then you can take care of a family if you're constantly looking like a slob if
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you look like you don't wash your clothes or you don't trim your beard or you don't wash your hair
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then women are going to look at you like does he take care of himself can he take care of himself does he
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take the time does he even care what he's presenting to the world and classic women take
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pride in making a good first impression so they do take time to take care of themselves and take care
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of their looks and if they meet a guy who's not doing the same it can be a real turnoff for young
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men who are in college it's not about wearing a suit every day and being overdressed but it is about
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just looking clean looking like you put some time and effort into what you're wearing looking the part
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and you want to be the kind of guy that a classic conservative woman wants to bring home to her
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parents and say look at this amazing man i just met of course fitness does fit into this a little
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bit in the sense of being strong shows her that you can protect her being healthy means that you're
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going to be able to live a long life with her being a healthy person who does eat healthily and go to
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the gym not to say that you can't ever splurge or that you have to be at the gym two hours a day but
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just taking care of yourself physically is very important for a woman because she wants to know
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again that you can take care of yourself so that you can take care of your future family
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now i'm not saying you should obsess over your looks no woman wants her husband to be in the
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mirror longer than she is but it is important for you to take care of the way that you look so that
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she feels safer in thinking about spending a life with you number four is get a job that has potential
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you should pursue your passions but you should also look forward toward the future and what your
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career could look like conservative women and classic women know what they want and they want
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a man who knows what he wants too classic women conservative women are the kind of women who date
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with purpose they're not going to be dating just any guy who comes around they really are looking
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toward the future and that also goes for the careers that they choose and so they want a man who is
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going to be as considered as they are about their life choices so that they can build a family and
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they can have a future with that partner choosing a career that you're passionate about and that would
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also have the potential to support either your family entirely under income or just to support your
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wife's income maybe she wants to earn as well is incredibly important to finding a great partner
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it's not that you need to be making a ton of money when you meet the right girl
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or even a great income it's about showing her that you are thinking about the future and you do
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want to help provide for the family being the kind of man who is responsible who loves what he does
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and who works really hard is a really attractive quality in a man and it makes a conservative and
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classic woman a lot more confident that she could live a good life with you if you are choosing a job
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with your future in mind and with the idea that maybe you don't want to work crazy hours because you
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want to be home with the kids or maybe you want to work very long hours and you want to be the
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sole provider of the family whatever it is that you can envision working for your family working for
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your conservative lifestyle keep that at the forefront of your mind when you're choosing a
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career because it is really important that you know what you're working toward when you meet a woman who
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you want to marry and again this doesn't mean that you have to be the only provider or that you have
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to be the sole earner because most households you have both people earning and contributing it just
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means that you are being thoughtful about what career you're going to pursue so that it does fit
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into that family life that you envision for your future the fifth and last way to attract a classic
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and conservative woman is to be a good listener when jacob and i got together i had dated a bunch of
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guys who were just not good guys at all and whenever jacob would be sweet and kind to me i kind of
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didn't know if he was trying to get something from me i was applying the intentions of past men
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that i had dated to jacob and the two of us had a really long talk where i just told him everything
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that i was feeling and he sat there and he listened and he heard every single thing i said
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and responded to every single concern and that was how i knew that i could date him and that he was
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probably going to be the man i was going to marry honestly it was so powerful that he had taken the
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time to really hear me and listen to what i was saying i bring this up because conservative women
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don't just jump into relationships willy-nilly without thinking because we care about our futures
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because we're dating the men who we could see being the father of our children because we envision a
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family we don't just take dating lightly being the kind of man who does listen to a woman and addresses
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her fears and concerns because conservative and classic women don't often go into a date just
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thinking oh this will be fun we really are considering every angle of how this could turn
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out now some of the women in my comments might disagree but that's how i felt when i was dating
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for marriage when you listen to her it shows that you care as much about dating and as much about
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finding a woman who shares your values and could have a future with you as she does and that is so
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important it's so calming for a woman to meet a man who is clearly on the same page as she is of course
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listening applies throughout your relationship it's always very important to be a good listener
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and it's going to make your relationship and your marriage so much easier if you do listen to each
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other and communicate well but at the beginning of a relationship it's incredibly important to
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show that you're a good listener because it shows her that you will be a good partner moving forward
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and that you could be a good husband to her and that you could be a good father it really makes you
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a much more attractive partner to her if you show from the beginning that you listen to what she's
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saying and show her that she's heard and more than that you care what she thinks that's so
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important in a marriage is a woman and a man both parties feeling like the other cares what the
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other person thinks because the basis of a good marriage is about both of you caring and respecting
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the other's opinion like i said earlier marriage is not just about romantic love and oh we're gonna
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get married and it's gonna be so much fun it's about so much more than that communication is key
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because a marriage is the building block of a family it's about growing your relationship with each
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other so that you too could be great parents and be great members of your community and treating
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marriage like it's anything less than that is not taking the commitment of marriage seriously it's
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about growing and developing into better people with your spouse's help and it's about putting someone
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else's needs over your own so i hope you guys enjoyed today's video i hope you learned something about
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attracting the kind of woman that you'd actually want to end up with let me know in the comments below
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ladies is there anything else a man could do to be attractive to you as a classic and conservative
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woman and men i'd love to hear if you agree with my list or if you're already married what you did to
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attract your wife i'd love to hear thank you guys so much for watching today's video please subscribe
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