Classically Abby - 5 Ways To IMPRESS A Guy On A First Date!

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00:00:31.200 In today's video, I want to talk about how you can impress a guy on a first date, how you can make

00:00:37.760 a guy want to go out with you again, how you can make him want to date you for the long term,

00:00:43.200 like want a relationship, want something that might turn into marriage. I want to talk about

00:00:47.520 how you can make that guy want to wife you. Is that a phrase? I feel like that's a phrase.

00:00:51.840 But I've got some tips for you on how to make the best first impression on a first date,

00:00:57.440 so let's just get right into it. Okay, number one is look good. Yeah, I know it's obvious,

00:01:04.800 but is it obvious nowadays? Nowadays, you can't tell a woman that she should try to look her best, 0.75

00:01:10.480 because isn't that offensive? Doesn't she look her best whenever she does anything? Why are you even 0.99

00:01:15.360 trying to tell her to improve? You're rude! Isn't she just perfect the way she is? 1.00

00:01:18.880 Well, here's the truth of it. Putting in effort into your appearance is nice. It's important.

00:01:26.560 It makes you feel better. It's good for your health. So doing things that'll make you look

00:01:31.600 good on a first date is the first thing you can do to make a good first impression. Men are very

00:01:36.640 visual, right? I've said that on my channel before and people hated it, but it's true. Men are very

00:01:41.440 visual. So the first impression you make is going to be the way that you look and doing your hair

00:01:47.600 nicely and putting on a little bit of makeup, wearing a pretty dress, living healthily so you

00:01:52.720 have a healthy body, wearing things that are flattering but not attracting. That is going to

00:01:58.880 make a very good first impression. So take the time to actually look nice. Now, you don't have to take

00:02:04.720 two hours. I know that there is this impulse to want to like really get duded up for dates. You

00:02:09.040 don't have to do that too far. And I have videos on my channel on how to make yourself look beautiful

00:02:14.320 for a first date but doesn't have you going over the top. So just in brief, do something with your

00:02:20.960 hair that looks nice. If that means that you want to curl it or straighten it, you can do that,

00:02:25.120 but you don't have to. If you like your natural texture, great! Just put in some oil or something to

00:02:30.800 make it look really pretty, to make it look really soft and lustrous or pin back the sides just to

00:02:36.080 make it look really lovely. Like make it look like you brushed it. Make it look like you took care of

00:02:41.760 it. So that's number one. With your makeup, you want to do something that's natural but that just

00:02:46.960 accentuates your natural beauty. You don't want to be wearing something crazy, a blue peacock eye.

00:02:52.480 We're not talking about that. We're talking about something that makes you just look a little bit

00:02:56.400 elevated. Maybe some mascara, some eyebrow gel, some concealer, things that are just going to take

00:03:01.600 the way that you look and make it look that much better. As far as clothes, wear something pretty

00:03:07.840 feminine and flattering. Wearing a dress that nips in at the waist and then flows out is always a really

00:03:12.960 good choice and it's going to be very attractive without being putting everything out there. You

00:03:18.880 don't need him to see your cleavage. You don't need him to see your entire leg. You want him to see 0.98

00:03:23.360 you for you. And what that means is showing off that you have a nice figure without showing off

00:03:30.000 the figure itself. So wear something flattering but modest. And last but not least, choose a nice

00:03:35.840 pair of shoes. If you have heels that are comfortable to walk in because you never know if a dinner is

00:03:40.560 going to turn into a walk, you can wear those. I often opted for something that was just a little

00:03:45.520 bit more comfortable. A wedge, a flat, a sandal. Something that was pretty but not going to inhibit

00:03:52.000 my walking so that if we wanted to go for a walk after dinner, if things were going well,

00:03:56.240 I could and I didn't have to say, oh well my feet are starting to hurt. So that is the first place

00:04:01.280 to start. Look good and you'll make a good first impression. Number two is be a good listener.

00:04:06.800 Everyone likes to be listened to. Not just men. Men and women both like to be listened to. And I think

00:04:12.240 often in an effort to be a good conversationalist, we aren't very good at listening. Something I learned over

00:04:20.560 my dating career was how important it was for me not to get anxious about what I had to say next,

00:04:25.440 but instead to just be in the moment and allow the conversation to flow naturally. I always wanted

00:04:30.080 to make sure that everything was going to go right and I always wanted to make sure I knew what I was

00:04:33.680 going to say next, which really meant I wasn't listening to the person across from me at all.

00:04:37.920 If I just took a deep breath and said if there's an awkward silence, it's okay, I don't have to be the one to fill it,

00:04:45.440 then it also gave the person across the table for me the opportunity to actually just talk,

00:04:50.240 and for me to just listen, and then maybe that conversation was more natural than me trying to

00:04:56.240 force it. So being a good listener is really a great way to make a first impression because

00:05:01.120 you're showing that you care about what he has to say, and it also means that you're not going to

00:05:06.000 leave that date exhausted and feeling like you just expended a ton of energy. Rather, you were there

00:05:12.000 enjoying his company, hearing what he had to say, and seeing if you guys made a good fit. It's much

00:05:17.200 more relaxed approach to dating, and it will make a great first impression. Number three is the flip

00:05:22.320 side. Make good conversation. So what that means is be interesting. Talk about the things that you find

00:05:28.960 interesting in your life. Talk about the things that you have studied or learned or are doing. Talk about

00:05:35.360 things that are of note. Be up to date on what's going on in the news or be up to date on what movies

00:05:43.440 have come out. Be an interesting person and then you'll be a good conversationalist. If that means

00:05:49.120 that you're talking about your work because you don't have much time for other things, that's okay too.

00:05:53.840 Take an interest in what he's saying and respond. Get good at the kind of light conversation that makes

00:06:00.400 people feel comfortable. Now this is different than that kind of anxiety of never wanting to let

00:06:06.160 there be a silence. This is more about being comfortable making conversation. Being comfortable

00:06:14.960 responding to what someone says or even saying, I don't know, can you tell me more? Just enjoying

00:06:20.000 talking to another person. So if you're not always comfortable talking to someone new, practice. And

00:06:26.160 you'll find that when you actually practice, you will get better at it and you'll make a great first

00:06:30.720 impression on a first date. Number four is show that you know your way around a house and around a

00:06:36.960 kitchen. Yes, these are the things that are so attractive in a woman and make men want to date you 1.00

00:06:45.120 more. If you show that you like to cook. So many women nowadays take pride in not knowing how to cook. 1.00

00:06:52.320 Don't be that woman. Be the woman who talks about how much you love to cook. Be the woman 1.00

00:06:56.080 who talks about how you like to organize your home. Be the woman who talks about how much you love to

00:07:01.600 make your house into a home. Show that you have potential to be a wife. Now I'm not saying that 1.00

00:07:08.480 you have to make that a huge topic of conversation, but I'm saying that you should be good at those

00:07:14.880 things before you go out on the date so that when it comes up, you're actually able to say, yes, I like to

00:07:21.680 cook and I like to clean and I would be somebody that would be a pleasure to come home to if you

00:07:27.360 were to get married to me. So what that really comes down to is get good at this stuff. It's

00:07:32.320 important to know how to run a home even when you're single. It's important to know how to cook

00:07:37.600 even when you're single. So learn how to do those things and then when a guy on a first date is asking

00:07:43.920 you or talking to you about that kind of stuff, you're telling the truth and you actually are showing

00:07:49.440 that you would be a really good partner to have around and that's really attractive. Men like

00:07:55.520 to hear about a woman who's going to make their house into a home. They like to hear that a woman 1.00

00:08:00.480 likes to cook. They like to know that you've got your stuff together and those are really attractive

00:08:06.800 qualities. Last but not least is have good manners. When you're out on a first date, if you are a mess,

00:08:13.200 if you are chewing with your mouth open and burping and just being gross, like that's going to make a

00:08:21.520 bad first impression. Now when I talk about having good manners, I'm not talking about all the etiquette

00:08:26.400 stuff you're going to see on Instagram. I need to know exactly how to fold my napkin. I need to know

00:08:31.360 exactly which fork to use. I mean you can learn that stuff. It's nice I guess but I don't think it's

00:08:37.120 necessary. I'm talking about basic rules of etiquette. Don't burp at the table or cover your

00:08:44.000 mouth. Eat with your mouth closed. Just be collected at the table and that shows that you're a nice

00:08:52.880 person to have around. The guy that you're dating will think, oh I'd love to bring her to a cocktail 1.00

00:08:57.840 party with my boss. That would impress him. Oh I'd love to bring her home to my mom. She would see how

00:09:02.720 wonderful this girl is. Knowing how to present yourself is a great way to make a good first

00:09:09.280 impression. Not only on this guy but just generally. So going to a date, having good manners will make a

00:09:15.280 big difference and will probably impress the guy that you're out on that date with. So those are my

00:09:20.640 five tips on how to impress a guy on a first date. Let me know your thoughts in the comments. I'd love

00:09:25.840 to hear. Thank you so much for watching today's video and if you aren't already subscribed, make sure to

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00:09:39.360 Thank you guys so much for watching and I'll see you guys in the next one. Bye!

Classically Abby - November 10, 2022

5 Ways To IMPRESS A Guy On A First Date!

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