Classically Abby - June 20, 2024


5 Women You Should NEVER DATE!


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10 minutes

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2,195

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135

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27

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Abby gives her top 5 list of dangerous women to avoid and why they are not the woman you should date or get married to. 1. Girl Bosses 2. Stay-at-home moms 3. Women who only order takeout 4. Those who don t know how to cook 5. A woman who says she can t cook

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00:00:00.000 Okay men, this one's for you. Five women you should avoid at all costs. 1.00
00:00:09.500 Hello, welcome to my channel. My name is Abby and thank you so much for watching.
00:00:13.560 In today's video, I'm going to be sharing five women that you should avoid at all costs. Five 0.99
00:00:19.300 women who are dangerous, who are not someone you want to date or get married to because they are 1.00
00:00:25.020 not the woman for you. They are not the woman who is going to give you that long-term relationship 1.00
00:00:29.400 that you are looking for, who will be a good mother to your children, who will be a good wife
00:00:33.500 to you. Yes, all women have the potential to change, but if you are starting to date these 0.99
00:00:37.740 women at the point at which they are very strongly in these areas of their lives, I would not recommend 1.00
00:00:43.540 it. So let's just hop right in. Number one, you might have guessed it, is girl bosses. If you are 1.00
00:00:49.740 new to my channel, I am somebody who talks about how I think that the girl boss mentality is a really
00:00:54.040 big problem in today's day and age. I think that so many women get sucked into this idea that the 1.00
00:00:58.780 only way that they can fulfill their potential is by going out, getting to the highest level
00:01:02.820 of their careers and ignoring all of the things that make them women. Getting married, being 1.00
00:01:07.060 in relationships, putting others before themselves, having children, all of that. If you are dating
00:01:12.500 a girl who thinks that being a girl boss is the most important part of her life, who doesn't 1.00
00:01:17.980 care about your relationship as much as she cares about her job, who doesn't care about 0.81
00:01:22.600 having children because it would slow her down, or who thinks that she can wait till she's
00:01:26.200 in her late thirties to start trying. That is not the woman for you. You do not want 1.00
00:01:30.440 to date a woman who is going to put her career so far ahead of everything else. As I always
00:01:35.560 say, success is holistic. Success is good family, good career, good marriage, good children.
00:01:42.380 All of that together is what makes a person successful. And again, career can be up and
00:01:47.140 down in those levels, right? Because a stay-at-home mom has a perfectly holistic, successful life. 0.95
00:01:51.520 But if you have a woman who's talking about how important her career is, and she's saying 1.00
00:01:55.320 that that is going to come at the cost of everything else, you don't want to be in a
00:01:59.160 relationship with someone like that. Because you are always going to be playing second fiddle to
00:02:02.680 what her career could give her. And she is not going to recognize until it's too late that she wants
00:02:08.340 a family, that she wants to be a part of something bigger than herself. And it really is a selfish
00:02:13.340 pursuit to want to be a girl boss more than anything else. And it's not her fault. That's the narrative 0.70
00:02:18.520 that the media sells us, that that's the path to true happiness. But at the end of the day,
00:02:22.580 the path to true happiness is our relationships. The second woman you should avoid at all costs 1.00
00:02:26.840 is a woman who says proudly that she cannot cook. Cannot handle this. Do not like this as a concept.
00:02:33.940 Cannot get behind it. If you are a woman who doesn't know how to cook, that's okay. A lot of women grew 1.00
00:02:39.440 up with moms who didn't know how to cook. And so they didn't really learn. But you always have the 0.92
00:02:43.600 potential to learn how to cook, right? That's the great thing about being a human, is that there's
00:02:48.060 potential to learn a lot of things. A whole host of things. And if you are somebody who is proudly
00:02:53.840 going on about how you can't cook, that's a woman who is not willing to learn. That's a woman who 1.00
00:02:59.120 only orders takeout or depends on her husband to cook. Now, I'm not saying a man can't cook. My
00:03:03.400 husband and I actually split those duties because he enjoys cooking over time. He has learned to cook
00:03:07.940 and he enjoys it. And there are times I'm really busy with the kids and it just, it doesn't get done.
00:03:12.100 But I think that there is something to a woman saying she proudly cannot boil water. That's very 1.00
00:03:19.320 unattractive and does not bode well for your relationship. Because what she's saying really
00:03:24.940 is that she's not domestic. And domesticity is a really important part of being in a marriage.
00:03:30.220 Being part of a marriage is taking care of a household together. And if you are married to
00:03:34.360 someone who's like, I'm not domestic, I don't know how to cook, I don't know how to clean, you're going 1.00
00:03:38.100 to be cleaning up after that person your entire life. You're going to be ordering out takeout much
00:03:43.520 more than you would probably prefer. And you're going to have an element in the home of like
00:03:48.040 disdain towards the house, towards the homemaking element. And that is not healthy for a family. You
00:03:55.180 want the family to love being home, to enjoy the meals that they eat, to enjoy being in a house that's
00:04:00.060 clean. And you will find that a woman who at least is open to learning how to cook is a much, much better 1.00
00:04:05.900 option. Number three is a woman with unnaturally colored hair. If you see a woman with purple hair, 0.99
00:04:11.940 green hair, blue hair, hair colors that don't naturally occur in nature, that is not a woman 1.00
00:04:17.920 you want to date. That is a woman you're going to want to avoid. I'll tell you why. Because a woman 1.00
00:04:21.760 like that is giving you a signal that she's really not interested in attracting the typical kind of 0.99
00:04:27.940 guy. Most typical guys are attracted to a woman who has a normal hair color, blonde, brunette, or red.
00:04:33.900 And most typical guys want to get married and have a family. A girl with blue hair, green hair,
00:04:39.500 pink hair, any color under the sun that isn't one of the natural colors is basically saying,
00:04:44.640 I don't want to have a normal life. I don't want to get married and have children. I don't want to
00:04:49.320 be with a guy who just wants to raise our family in our nice suburb as part of a community.
00:04:55.160 She's saying, I'm different. I'm different. And that is not always the best, right? Because it's not
00:05:02.100 a problem to actually have some different stances. Or there are some exceptions to the rule of women 1.00
00:05:07.200 who just think it's fun to get pink or purple hair. But those women are either A, sending out 1.00
00:05:11.920 a signal on purpose that they are not interested in your typical guy. Or B, they are so unaware of
00:05:17.500 what they are attracting that that probably isn't a good fit for you either. You want to choose a
00:05:21.780 woman whose hair color is representative of where she's at in life. She's got a hair color that's kind
00:05:26.820 of typical because she knows that a typical life doesn't mean a boring life. A typical life means
00:05:31.860 a full, loving life. And it doesn't have to be traveling in a van or being in Bora Bora every
00:05:39.280 other week. It means being home with your family. And that is what's going to really be valuable
00:05:44.300 in your day to day. So I would say typically, avoid the girl with crazy colored hair. I would also 1.00
00:05:50.320 say avoid the crazy hair color because crazy hair colors are very expensive to maintain, which means
00:05:55.020 she probably isn't great with money. The fourth woman you should avoid at all costs is a woman 1.00
00:05:59.760 who's an atheist. I think women who don't believe in God are not a good fit for you right now. A 0.91
00:06:05.400 woman who's an atheist can come to God. That is not to say that at some point she can't become
00:06:09.320 religious. But what it does mean is that she is in a place right now where she doesn't put faith,
00:06:14.540 family, and community first. Faith and community are often inextricably linked. So if you want to be
00:06:20.180 part of a good and thriving community, you are going to want to be a part of a faith
00:06:24.840 community. And if you are marrying a woman who is an atheist, that is going to pull you away from 1.00
00:06:29.940 all of the support you're going to need as you and your wife have a family. It takes a very specific
00:06:35.120 kind of person to be an atheist. Believing in God is important to how you raise your family. It's
00:06:41.220 important to the values that you hold. And I think if you are dating a woman who's an atheist,
00:06:45.780 you aren't looking towards the future of what your life will hold for you. Being part of a religious 0.99
00:06:51.220 community, believing in God, those are the things you are going to raise your children with. Those
00:06:55.220 are the values and morals you're going to be raising your family with. And if you don't have a wife who's 0.96
00:06:59.660 on board with that, that means that your children are not going to have those things. And yes, you can
00:07:04.000 be a moral atheist. Yes, you can have values as an atheist. But it's a lot harder when you don't have
00:07:08.960 God undergirding all those things. And it's very difficult to raise a family in today's day and age
00:07:14.420 that has good strong morals if both mom and dad are atheists. It's much easier to say this is what's
00:07:21.300 good and right. And here is where you're going to find your strength in times of difficulty right here
00:07:26.460 with God. So find a woman who's not only not an atheist, but actually shares your faith. And that's
00:07:31.440 a whole other video, but it's really important to find someone who shares your faith. Number five,
00:07:36.560 the fifth woman you should avoid at all costs is a woman who says she doesn't want kids. This can be a 1.00
00:07:44.120 girl boss. This can be a woman who just doesn't think that children are of interest to her, 1.00
00:07:49.020 but don't date this woman. This woman is not for you. You want to date a woman who wants to have 1.00
00:07:54.860 children. Having children is so important and it brings so much joy and so much fulfillment to your
00:08:00.380 world. And if you find a woman who says she's not interested in having children, that is a very 0.97
00:08:05.940 unnatural state for 95% of women. And it is not something you want to have to contend with when you 1.00
00:08:12.920 get to the point at which you actually are trying to start a family. You don't want to be married to
00:08:17.020 someone who is like, I never wanted kids in the first place. You want to be married to a woman who 1.00
00:08:21.320 is so excited to be a mom because your children need their mother. Your children are going to need
00:08:27.680 their mother. And if you A, don't have children when you want them, you're going to resent your spouse.
00:08:32.960 And B, if you have children with a woman who didn't want to be a mom, you're giving your children a 0.99
00:08:37.740 worse chance of having a really important relationship be solid and stable. I mean, I don't
00:08:43.760 know what's more attractive than finding a partner who you can see be the parent to your children, right?
00:08:48.580 Like as a woman, I saw my husband and I was thinking to myself, he's going to be a great dad. He saw me and
00:08:54.740 he thought she's going to be a great mom. You want to marry someone who's going to be a good parent to
00:09:00.480 your children. And if there is a woman who says she's not interested in having children, that is a huge red 0.83
00:09:05.460 flag. Most women want to have kids. Most women are really nurturing. It's very innate to femininity. 1.00
00:09:11.120 And it's really a beautiful thing when a woman gets to become a mother. And a woman who rejects 1.00
00:09:15.820 that entirely is, there is something to be examined there. It may be under the guise of Girlboss.
00:09:22.900 That could be what it is. And she just wants to fulfill her potential elsewhere, which I don't
00:09:27.320 usually recommend. But even in that case, that's not a person you can build a life with. So I would not
00:09:33.640 recommend that as the last person you should date. I hope that today's video helped you in figuring
00:09:38.560 out who should I date? If I'm avoiding these people, who shouldn't I avoid? Who should I pursue?
00:09:44.820 And maybe that should be our next video. But I'm so glad you watched all the way to the end. And if
00:09:48.940 you did, please leave your favorite food emoji, like a first date food. I think they have some
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00:10:03.580 next one. Bye!