Classically Abby - Conservatives Want You To Look YOUR BEST. The Left DOESN'T. Here's Why.

00:00:00.000 Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video, where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.800 the speech I gave on Friday, all about how to dress like a lady.

00:00:11.220 This past Friday, I gave a speech for the Claire Booth Luce Center for Conservative Women,

00:00:16.620 and it was so wonderful getting to speak about why it's so important to present yourself well,

00:00:22.020 how to present yourself well, and why this fits in with conservative values. Here on my channel,

00:00:27.820 we talk about commentary, lifestyle, beauty, fashion, and opera, all from a conservative

00:00:33.360 perspective, so make sure to subscribe if that's something that you'd be interested in. I know that

00:00:37.940 some people might disagree with the idea that dressing well and presenting yourself well is

00:00:42.460 a conservative concept, but it is, and I go into it in this speech quite a bit, and I really was

00:00:48.480 excited to share it with you because, number one, it talks about why presenting yourself well means

00:00:53.820 accepting reality, and number two, I actually give practical tips on how to present yourself well

00:00:59.820 and to look your best. So I'm really excited to share some highlights from this speech with you

00:01:04.840 today. If you're interested in hearing this speech in its entirety, feel free to reach out to my

00:01:09.940 professional email. It's in the description box below, and I can come and speak at your college

00:01:14.640 or through Zoom. Make sure to reach out if that's something that you'd be interested in.

00:01:18.540 Now, let's get into today's video. The way you present yourself is so important for so many

00:01:24.360 reasons, and as young conservative women, presenting yourself well goes hand in hand with the way we 0.94

00:01:29.840 view the world. Dressing well and looking presentable is not vain or superficial. It's smart. You only have

00:01:37.600 one chance to make a first impression, and if you know how to dress and do your hair and makeup, you have

00:01:43.160 a much better chance of letting someone get to know the best version of you. When I was in my last year

00:01:48.320 at my all-girls Jewish high school and in my first years of college at the University of Southern

00:01:53.000 California and dressing at my most modest, I was still not the most modest girl in my Jewish community.

00:02:00.080 I was somewhere in the middle. Essentially, more observant women will wear shirts that cover their 1.00

00:02:05.440 elbows and shirts that cover their collarbones, as well as skirts that come far below their knees.

00:02:10.800 I followed more basic modesty rules. I covered my shoulders, but I wore short sleeves. I covered my

00:02:16.560 cleavage, but not my collarbones, and I wore skirts that came to the middle of my knees, not below.

00:02:22.800 I remember going to a Jewish event and being confused as to why the men I was interested in

00:02:28.400 didn't seem to be interested in me. They were more interested in my other friends who did,

00:02:33.200 in fact, dress more modestly than I did. Here's the interesting thing. These friends that dressed more

00:02:40.000 modestly were actually less observant in other areas of their lives. Religious Judaism has laws for

00:02:47.360 behavior that cover every part of life. I was keeping other laws more stringently while they were not,

00:02:53.840 but our clothing told a different story. So as you might imagine, the men that I was interested in were

00:02:59.680 not expressing their interest in me because they were looking for more religiously observant women to date

00:03:05.360 and marry, and I did not appear to fit the bill while those other girls did. My mistake at the time

00:03:11.920 was not being deliberate with how I presented myself and making sure that how I appeared to others was

00:03:17.360 consistent with who I actually was and what I valued. There are so many things that can be implied and

00:03:23.200 inferred about who you are by the way that you dress. Is that always fair? No, and it can be frustrating

00:03:30.720 to be on the wrong end of someone's misperception. But here's where being a conservative fits in with

00:03:35.920 all of this. A core part of our worldview is that we accept reality for what it is and take responsibility

00:03:43.760 for doing something about it. We understand that even though you may not like that you have to dress

00:03:49.680 in a certain way to get a certain response, that doesn't change the facts. The way that you dress can and

00:03:56.240 will affect the interactions that you have with people and can, if you work with that reality,

00:04:02.000 raise the chances of getting you what you want. The left will decry that we judge people by the way

00:04:08.480 that they look, dress, and carry themselves, as if they can stop people from doing it with enough complaints.

00:04:15.200 But ultimately, the importance of appearance is inevitable and a very important part of being human.

00:04:21.680 Having standards is natural, normal, and useful. But as with anything, there can be bad standards.

00:04:30.080 There can be standards that we should try and change. If, for example, extremely underweight women 1.00

00:04:35.680 were considered the ideal figure and young women were encouraged to engage in self-harming behaviors,

00:04:40.880 that's a bad standard. Beauty shouldn't be an idol that comes at the direct expense of health 1.00

00:04:46.560 and other vital things in life. Instead, it should be an expression of health and good, joyous living.

00:04:53.920 But the left conflates all standards with bad standards. To them, the existence of standards

00:05:00.720 at all is bad, and we should get rid of them. The idea that someone is more attractive when they've put

00:05:07.680 an effort into their appearance rather than when they haven't tried at all is a good standard. It

00:05:13.520 encourages people to take care of themselves physically and mentally. It encourages people

00:05:19.280 to respect others by bringing an elevated version of themselves to the table. Despite the importance

00:05:25.360 of standards that encourage the best of people out of respect for themselves and for others,

00:05:30.400 the left still rails against all standards. Leftists love the narrative of accepting who we are,

00:05:36.080 where we are at, and not improving. They believe that you don't need to change to fit societal

00:05:42.000 pressures because their entire narrative is that our current society is evil and its standards are

00:05:47.280 terrible, and that's why they have a right to tear it down and start again. In their eyes,

00:05:53.440 all societal pressures can do is oppress and harm people. The left says this because it wants the

00:06:00.080 moral authority and mandate to take control of everything and remake it all in its own image.

00:06:07.360 Just one small part of this philosophy is the attempt to say that standards for your appearance,

00:06:12.400 just like standards for anything else, are created by society and oppressive. In reality,

00:06:19.520 people are visual and will immediately judge you for your appearance. And that's not a bad thing.

00:06:26.160 Judgment is natural and necessary. We do it all the time and for everything. Taking care of yourself,

00:06:33.120 taking care of your looks, taking care to dress in a way that is flattering to your figure,

00:06:37.920 isn't wrong, doesn't hurt anyone, doesn't hurt you, and will actually make you feel better.

00:06:45.520 That's the big dirty secret. So how do you know what you want to portray through your appearance?

00:06:51.200 Well, style isn't simply superficial. There's a huge difference between fashion and style. Fashion is

00:06:57.840 following the trends, dressing the way others are dressing, or buying clothing because you think

00:07:02.400 it should look good on you, regardless of whether or not it does. Style, though, is something that lets

00:07:08.880 you express who you are and embrace your personality. And to have style, guess what? You actually have to

00:07:16.400 know yourself. You have to know who you are. You have to know what you want to portray. You have to know what

00:07:23.360 you want. And these aren't small things. These are great, big, important things. And in a way,

00:07:30.640 figuring out your style is an awesome way to figure out the answers to these questions.

00:07:35.680 All of this is to say that dressing well is incredibly important. And as young conservative

00:07:40.560 women in 2021, we have all been disadvantaged by the media and movies we have imbibed throughout our 0.99

00:07:46.720 formative years, which are brewed up by the same left that wants to tear down all standards, whether they

00:07:52.240 be good or bad. The most direct way to influence young women is to put ideas into films and shows

00:07:59.600 that we love. And when we do love them, we so often don't even realize the indoctrination that is

00:08:05.760 happening to us. We haven't been taught how to dress appropriately. We have been told that we can dress

00:08:11.760 however we want with no regard for others. And we haven't been given and we haven't been given the rules

00:08:17.680 for how to improve our lives starting with and through our appearances. But that's where what

00:08:23.360 we're doing today comes in. Today, I've got you covered. So let's start by talking about some basic

00:08:30.000 tips. Number one, whiten your teeth. Having white teeth is so important to looking your best. If your

00:08:37.360 teeth look stained, your smile, which should be something that makes you look even more beautiful,

00:08:42.400 will be marred. And nobody wants that. Yellow teeth aren't a difficult fix, but they are something

00:08:48.320 that require you to notice and take action. It's very difficult to talk to a friend about bodily issues,

00:08:54.960 even if you're trying to help, like yellow teeth or body odor. So that's why I'm including it here.

00:09:00.880 Make sure to check this for yourself. Don't rely on friends to tell you because they probably won't

00:09:07.200 out of fear of offending you. If your teeth are looking a little yellow, there are a ton of

00:09:12.080 healthy and safe options to make your teeth look great. I personally use a two-step toothpaste system

00:09:17.760 by Crest that has a whitening agent and that keeps my teeth as white as I like them. I have pretty

00:09:22.480 sensitive teeth, so using the Crest white strips is not the best option for me, but you can use those

00:09:27.760 too because those are much easier and very fast. Number 10, figuring out what styles actually work for

00:09:34.560 your body. Last but not least, figure out what looks good on you. So many women don't know what 1.00

00:09:42.320 actually looks good on their bodies and try to follow those fashion trends I mentioned earlier. 0.99

00:09:47.920 But wearing clothing that actually works with your body is the most classic thing a woman can do. 1.00

00:09:53.920 And it means accepting the body you have and loving it for what it is. The hardest thing is trying to

00:10:00.080 look like someone who is structurally built different than you are. Of course, nothing that looks good on

00:10:06.320 that person will look good on you. But there are women who have body types just like yours that also 1.00

00:10:12.480 look fantastic. There are a bunch of different articles on the internet about dressing for your body

00:10:18.000 type, but one of the things I really recommend is finding a celebrity who has a similar body type to

00:10:23.680 your own. Take a look at the outfits they choose that accentuate their figures and take a lesson from them.

00:10:31.040 So now that we have dealt with the basics of grooming, let's move on to the different scenarios that

00:10:36.000 you will be dressing for. Professional setting versus casual and dating. It's obvious that what

00:10:41.840 you would wear to the office is often something that you would never wear hanging out with friends.

00:10:46.720 But I think the confusion has now become that people are wearing what they would wear to hang out

00:10:51.200 with friends to the office. Of course, finding out your office's dress code is important and wearing

00:10:58.240 something very dressy to a casual workplace would be its own faux pas. But many offices do require

00:11:04.640 professional dressing. And in that situation, you should know what to wear to prevent yourself

00:11:09.280 to present yourself well. Professional office attire is meant to accomplish a few different things.

00:11:14.320 But one thing primarily, showing that you are capable and good at what you do. Dressing well and

00:11:21.440 appropriately shows people that they can trust you and that you have it figured out. And that inspires

00:11:27.360 confidence from your boss, who trusts you can get the job done, and your clients, if you have them,

00:11:32.400 who you're working for. Dressing poorly, on the other hand, whether that be through slovenliness,

00:11:38.320 ill-fitting clothing, or inappropriate and immodest outfits, shows the opposite.

00:11:42.960 It implies you don't take care of yourself, which would make it difficult for you to take care of

00:11:48.160 your job. You don't know how to dress your body, which shows a lack of self-awareness. Or you don't

00:11:53.600 respect the work you're doing or the people around you, which shows a lackadaisical approach to your

00:11:58.400 work. Now that we've discussed how to dress professionally, let's talk about how to dress

00:12:03.200 casually and how to make the best first impression in your dating life. I think a lot of women in today's 1.00

00:12:10.160 day and age get caught up in the idea of trying to attract a man's attention by showing a lot of

00:12:14.960 skin. It's an easy way to have a man take an interest in you. But the fact of the matter is,

00:12:20.640 it's the wrong kind of interest. If you are dressing ostentatiously to attract a man,

00:12:26.480 it sends all the wrong signals and you won't end up getting the attention of the kind of man you are

00:12:30.880 looking for. The way that you dress inherently reflects your values and your character. If you choose

00:12:36.800 to wear something revealing, it will give off the impression that you are comfortable sharing your

00:12:41.920 body with anyone and everyone. If, though, you respect your body enough to keep it for yourself

00:12:48.240 and your future husband, recognizing that your worth as a woman has more to do with what you do

00:12:53.840 than what your body looks like, men will be encouraged to respect you, too. If you dress modestly,

00:13:01.040 classically, and attractively, men who share your values will be attracted to you. The kind of men

00:13:07.200 you are looking for will subconsciously or consciously be attracted to you because they see someone with

00:13:12.320 whom they are compatible. Now one thing I do want to get out of the way is that men are visual. This

00:13:18.320 works for and against us. This is a disadvantage if you try and show off your body and he is entirely

00:13:24.640 distracted by what you look like and doesn't try to get to know you. But there is also an advantage to this.

00:13:31.040 You can dress in an attractive way that makes him interested but also lets him know that you are

00:13:35.920 more than just your looks. It is incredibly important to dress well and put your best foot forward

00:13:42.160 when meeting a man. I am not here to recommend that you wear a burlap sack so he doesn't look at you at

00:13:48.800 all. The point is that you want a man to notice that you are attracted as the first step to getting to

00:13:54.800 know you, not the entire activity of getting to know you. Who would have thought that taking care of

00:14:00.960 your body, dressing well, and presenting yourself beautifully would be considered controversial in

00:14:06.480 2021? I have constantly been surprised by how many people take offense to the idea that women should

00:14:13.360 take care of their bodies, should dress well, should do anything. But there are things everyone should

00:14:19.600 do and recognizing that simply lying in a heap on your sofa is unacceptable should not be breaking news.

00:14:26.640 The thing is, at the end of the day, you can make taking care of your appearance fun. I absolutely love

00:14:34.800 the process of getting dressed and ready for an evening out or even just for work. I like picking

00:14:40.640 out clothing, doing my hair, doing my makeup, and picking out a fun pair of shoes at the last minute.

00:14:46.880 These are beautiful parts of being a woman and they allow us to embrace our femininity. Honestly,

00:14:52.640 they can bring you so much joy. In this way, women are natural artists and we can and should treat 0.95

00:15:00.880 ourselves as art. I hope you enjoyed those highlights from my speech. This is something I care about a lot and

00:15:07.120 it's something that I take a really strong interest in. So I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments

00:15:11.760 about what I was talking about. Make sure to let me know what you think is a really important aspect

00:15:17.840 of presenting yourself well. Thank you so much for watching today's video. Please subscribe to my

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Classically Abby - February 22, 2021

Conservatives Want You To Look YOUR BEST. The Left DOESN'T. Here's Why.

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