Classically Abby - Dear Ladies, It's GOOD To Act Like A LADY

00:00:00.000 Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.920 why classic and conservative go hand in hand.

00:00:10.800 So my channel is called Classically Abby, and my motto is Let's Be Classic.

00:00:16.520 And ever since I have started my channel, people have really asked me a bunch of different

00:00:21.260 ways and a bunch of different times, what does classic really mean?

00:00:24.900 And now that I'm a conservative influencer, I get even more often the question of,

00:00:28.700 does classic and conservative mean the same thing?

00:00:31.400 How do you link those two ideas?

00:00:33.760 And I am very certain that classic and conservative definitely go hand in hand.

00:00:39.340 Those two concepts really influence each other and are informed by each other.

00:00:45.260 And so I really like talking about the idea of being classic and why that really does go

00:00:50.740 hand in hand with being conservative.

00:00:52.760 Because being classic and being conservative is a perfect duet.

00:00:56.480 They really make each other better.

00:00:58.280 So I'm really excited to share with you guys what being classic means, why Let's Be Classic

00:01:04.020 is my motto, and why being classic and conservative are the perfect combination.

00:01:09.440 So let's get into it.

00:01:10.760 What do you think of when I say the word classic?

00:01:13.640 Because the first thing that comes to my mind is a woman in a beautiful outfit, maybe an Audrey 0.99

00:01:19.020 Hepburn type or a Grace Kelly, looking incredibly feminine and put together.

00:01:23.500 And you know, that's just one image of it.

00:01:25.500 But being classic is so much more than that.

00:01:28.120 That is just the tip of the iceberg.

00:01:29.960 So I want to talk about five things that defined being classic and how those five things really

00:01:36.780 tie into being conservative.

00:01:38.900 So let's start off with number one, which is embracing your femininity.

00:01:43.060 Being classic means embracing your womanhood and embracing what that means.

00:01:47.720 And it means being the best version of that.

00:01:51.360 Dressing well.

00:01:52.260 Keeping a manicured look.

00:01:53.940 Keeping your home looking nice.

00:01:55.700 Being a good hostess.

00:01:57.360 Taking interest in the small details, whether that be in your home or in your office.

00:02:01.680 And loving the ways that women are different from men.

00:02:04.460 I think that this is something that really defines classic femininity.

00:02:08.200 Is knowing how to dress.

00:02:10.560 Knowing what works on your body.

00:02:12.460 Dressing in a way that shows that you care about the way that you present yourself to

00:02:16.260 the world.

00:02:16.920 And not just wearing whatever is comfortable and kind of slovenly.

00:02:21.180 And also taking the time to keep a manicured look.

00:02:23.820 Whether that be brushing your hair every day and styling it.

00:02:27.260 Doing a little bit of makeup.

00:02:28.880 Doing your nails.

00:02:29.900 Whatever it is that makes you feel put together.

00:02:32.820 And allows you to put out the best face going forward.

00:02:36.260 Think about women like Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly.

00:02:38.700 Those women who really define classic to us.

00:02:42.240 Women who wear things that are very classically feminine. 0.98

00:02:45.900 And look like they care about themselves.

00:02:48.340 That they've taken the time to take care of themselves.

00:02:51.820 Now of course your looks are not the most important thing.

00:02:54.700 That is not what I'm trying to imply here.

00:02:56.500 But the way that you present yourself to the world tells the world how you care about yourself.

00:03:02.040 And if you take care of yourself.

00:03:03.880 And if you do allow yourself to take the time to be somebody who can be calm and collected.

00:03:10.660 And that really comes down to devoting the time that you need to take care of yourself.

00:03:15.020 And then reflecting that to the world.

00:03:17.160 Now I know that we all have incredibly hectic lives.

00:03:20.200 But being classic is about knowing how to use your time.

00:03:24.360 Direct your time.

00:03:25.120 And collect yourself.

00:03:26.500 So that you can be the kind of person that someone could depend on.

00:03:30.040 And if you reflect that in the way that you dress.

00:03:32.900 In the way that you take care of yourself.

00:03:34.060 In the way that you decorate your home.

00:03:35.580 In the way that you host.

00:03:36.700 In the way that you keep your office clean.

00:03:39.580 Those things will then project themselves to the people who meet you.

00:03:43.480 And they know that they can trust you.

00:03:45.320 And trust that you will be on top of your stuff.

00:03:48.500 And on top of that being a really classic woman is knowing why being a woman is so special.

00:03:54.500 Because men are different from women right? 1.00

00:03:56.860 We have different interests.

00:03:59.040 That's one thing.

00:03:59.780 But we also have different strengths and weaknesses.

00:04:02.660 And women are wonderful at some things that men are not good at at all.

00:04:06.820 And vice versa.

00:04:08.160 It's just kind of part of the God's plan right?

00:04:11.300 That's why marriage is such a wonderful thing.

00:04:13.380 My husband balances me out.

00:04:15.020 And I balance him out.

00:04:16.420 And being a classic woman is embracing and growing those parts of you.

00:04:21.040 That make you a woman. 0.99

00:04:22.720 And that make you feminine. 0.91

00:04:24.540 The second way to be classic is to act like a lady. 1.00

00:04:27.920 Now something I like to talk about pretty frequently is this idea that's put out primarily by BuzzFeed.

00:04:33.500 That's something I see quite a bit.

00:04:35.100 Is this BuzzFeed style slob.

00:04:38.240 And it's the idea that women don't have to be classic. 1.00

00:04:42.380 They don't have to be feminine. 1.00

00:04:43.480 They should just kind of lie on the couch, be slovenly, be in their pajamas all day eating a bucket of chocolates and binging Netflix.

00:04:52.300 And that is something that is totally fine.

00:04:55.500 Now as somebody who sometimes wears pajamas and sometimes eat chocolate and sometimes watches Netflix,

00:05:01.760 I'm not saying that those are technically bad things.

00:05:04.680 But being somebody who doesn't just glorify the kind of slovenliness of being a human

00:05:12.940 and instead tries to be the best version of yourself and go out and show the world the best version of you

00:05:19.820 and takes care of yourself in healthy ways, not in ways that are just kind of self-indulgent,

00:05:25.180 but actually will make you feel better.

00:05:28.060 Those are really classic qualities.

00:05:30.180 And those are things that we should embrace as classic women is, 0.90

00:05:34.440 yes, there are times we want to do those things, lie in our pajamas and eat a bowl of chocolate and watch TV,

00:05:40.780 but does that actually make me feel better?

00:05:43.360 Does that actually improve who I am?

00:05:45.640 Does that make me a classic woman?

00:05:47.340 And I say, no, it doesn't.

00:05:49.260 Now, doing that for an hour some evening, absolutely.

00:05:52.260 That is totally fine, especially if you're doing it with, you know, your friend or your husband

00:05:56.940 and it's just kind of like a girl's night in or a date night, go for it.

00:06:01.500 But these are things as classic women that we shouldn't glorify. 1.00

00:06:05.240 These are things that we say, okay, that happens sometimes,

00:06:07.820 but the best version of ourselves is the version of ourselves where we are more calm and collected,

00:06:13.220 where we do take time to make ourselves better,

00:06:15.680 and where we take care of ourselves in the healthiest way.

00:06:18.800 The third way to be classic is to treat your body with respect,

00:06:23.360 which means dating with purpose and not sleeping around.

00:06:26.460 These are things that are built into being classic.

00:06:29.360 Treating yourself with respect, treating your body with respect,

00:06:32.480 and by treating yourself with respect, telling others that they need to treat you with respect,

00:06:36.840 knowing that your time is valuable, these are all things that classic women do. 0.98

00:06:41.940 Classic women don't treat their bodies like trash, 1.00

00:06:44.040 allow people to take advantage of them physically and also just of their time.

00:06:47.800 They treat their time like it's valuable, like it's not something that's going to be endless.

00:06:52.900 They use their time wisely.

00:06:54.820 And because of that, they know that dating with purpose is very important

00:06:58.360 because they don't want to waste time.

00:07:00.540 They want to get married and they want to start their lives.

00:07:02.900 Part of being classic is knowing that you have value and treating yourself with that value

00:07:09.100 and knowing that sleeping around isn't going to give you that value.

00:07:13.100 It might be fun in the moment,

00:07:14.840 but it's not something that's actually going to make you better or make you feel better

00:07:19.020 or have any good returns for you.

00:07:21.320 Being classic is much more than that.

00:07:23.820 It's knowing that you are somebody who respects yourself and who deserves respect

00:07:29.060 and going forward encourages others to treat you with that respect.

00:07:33.180 The fourth way to be a classic woman is to have your priorities straight, 1.00

00:07:37.500 putting your faith and your family first before everything else.

00:07:41.940 I think this is something that gets lost so often in today's culture

00:07:46.620 where women are told that they don't have to put faith and family first.

00:07:50.360 They should instead put their work first and they don't have their priorities straight.

00:07:54.840 And when you don't have your priorities straight,

00:07:56.760 it is very hard to be a classic woman and to find ultimate happiness. 0.98

00:08:01.960 Being classic means knowing what's important and really treating that with honor.

00:08:07.160 A classic woman understands her womanhood and her femininity 1.00

00:08:10.360 and knows what's important.

00:08:12.640 And that comes down to family and faith and then your work.

00:08:16.800 And of course, work is something you can be absolutely passionate about.

00:08:20.280 You should have a mission, whether that be being a stay-at-home mom

00:08:23.200 or being out in the workforce.

00:08:25.140 Those are both wonderful options.

00:08:27.380 But knowing what is primarily, first and foremost, the most important

00:08:31.860 is being a part of a family, being a good wife, being a good mother,

00:08:37.060 being a good community member, and knowing that you as an individual

00:08:41.000 are not just an individual.

00:08:42.900 You are part of something greater.

00:08:44.440 You are part of first your family unit and then your community as a whole.

00:08:48.280 When you think of a classic woman, 1.00

00:08:50.300 you're not just thinking of the woman who looks put together

00:08:53.160 or of the woman who is a great hostess,

00:08:55.600 but also the woman who knows what is important

00:08:58.620 and can really offer you wisdom and advice.

00:09:01.160 And that's something that I know has been true for me

00:09:04.420 is the women who I trust to give me deeper advice

00:09:07.760 are the women who do have that priority straight 0.99

00:09:09.860 and in that way are more classic.

00:09:12.020 The last thing that classic means is understanding that it's okay

00:09:15.580 to be more traditional and stay at home

00:09:17.460 and it's also okay to go out and work.

00:09:20.180 As I've said on my channel before,

00:09:21.720 I am a big proponent of women going out and having a job

00:09:25.400 or staying at home and being moms. 0.88

00:09:27.820 I think both are wonderful, beautiful options.

00:09:30.080 My own mother had a full-time job. 0.99

00:09:32.280 My dad stayed at home

00:09:33.300 and I also have wonderful family members and friends

00:09:36.780 who are stay-at-home moms

00:09:37.860 and I think that they are both doing wonderful things.

00:09:41.060 The thing about them both that makes them classic

00:09:43.340 is that they have their priorities straight

00:09:45.520 and they understand that their families are the most important thing,

00:09:48.920 which kind of links back to number four.

00:09:50.900 But I want to encourage number five to say

00:09:53.600 that you don't just have to be a stay-at-home mom

00:09:55.900 to be a classic woman. 0.94

00:09:57.400 You can be a classic woman and work. 1.00

00:09:59.920 You can be a classic woman and be at home. 1.00

00:10:02.140 Both of those things allow you to be classic.

00:10:05.560 You just need to have your priorities in order

00:10:07.820 and those priorities will not only bring you happiness,

00:10:11.100 they'll also give you more structure

00:10:13.060 to what actually matters and to how to view your world.

00:10:17.480 And that is a wonderful thing

00:10:19.100 because then you can be more calm and collected

00:10:21.780 when you recognize what's really important in life.

00:10:25.480 Now, if you think about the five things I just talked about,

00:10:29.260 those are pretty inherently conservative concepts.

00:10:32.380 You can't really separate these classic ideals

00:10:34.720 from conservative values.

00:10:36.620 They're very much hand-in-hand.

00:10:38.840 So let's kind of go through those two.

00:10:40.640 Being conservative means recognizing reality,

00:10:43.480 that there are differences between men and women,

00:10:46.040 that women and men are different

00:10:47.420 and there are beautiful things in those differences.

00:10:50.860 That's number one.

00:10:51.660 Number two is having sex before marriage 0.98

00:10:53.900 really only has negative effects.

00:10:56.240 It never comes out on the other side with positive effects.

00:10:59.320 And again, that links back to being a classic woman. 1.00

00:11:01.820 The third part of recognizing reality

00:11:03.620 is recognizing the importance of marriage,

00:11:05.800 not just from the perspective of that it makes people happier,

00:11:08.460 but also it serves a very important social function

00:11:11.300 of creating strong family units for children to grow up in.

00:11:15.120 What's another conservative value that's really important?

00:11:17.300 Putting faith and family first.

00:11:18.980 Putting communities first.

00:11:20.200 Those are all conservative values.

00:11:22.140 And another very important conservative concept

00:11:24.320 is taking responsibility for your actions.

00:11:26.880 A classic woman will take responsibility for her actions 1.00

00:11:29.700 and be somebody who people can depend on.

00:11:32.680 And that is super important to the idea of being classic.

00:11:36.380 There are real standards that come with the word classic.

00:11:39.740 I don't use that word willy-nilly.

00:11:41.640 I don't think that the word classic can just be thrown around

00:11:44.420 to mean something that it doesn't.

00:11:46.140 Being classic is something that we should all aspire to be.

00:11:48.620 We don't always get there.

00:11:49.960 I definitely know that I don't,

00:11:51.640 but it's something that is worth pursuing.

00:11:54.280 And it's one of those beautiful ideals that we can all strive for.

00:11:58.140 So I hope that gave you guys a little bit more insight

00:12:00.680 into what I mean when I talk about being classic.

00:12:03.380 I'd love to hear your thoughts about what classic means to you.

00:12:06.720 I think that being classic is such a wonderful idea.

00:12:09.720 And that's why I always say, let's be classic.

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Classically Abby - November 18, 2020

Dear Ladies, It's GOOD To Act Like A LADY

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