Do I Want KIDS？？ Was I Ever LEFTIST？？ ｜｜ Answering YOUR Questions About ANYTHING!
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In this episode, I answer a ton of your questions and give advice on how to be more "classic" in your late 20s, early 30s, and how to live life to the fullest in your 40s.
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Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where I'm going to be answering your questions.
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So I asked you guys on Instagram to ask me questions for my channel. It could be about me,
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it could be about advice, it could be just about absolutely anything, and you guys sent in a ton
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of questions and I have a lot to answer. So I am really excited to get into today's video.
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Please make sure to subscribe to my channel if you haven't already, and let's get into it.
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So the first question is, how often are you working on classical singing these days?
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I'll be honest with you guys, not as much as I would like to. I think that because of COVID and
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knowing that I'm not going to be able to perform publicly for a little while at least, I don't
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have that same push to be practicing every day and to work on my classical singing. And what I do for
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my channel is my full-time job, so it's a lot. But I love singing and I actually really miss it.
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But now that we've moved and everything is a little bit more settled down, I think I'd really
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like to invest more time in my classical singing. Maybe find a teacher in the area and maybe start
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coaching again, because I haven't had the opportunity to do that in a long time and I would really like
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to. Now, finding a teacher is something that you do even when you're a professional. Even when you're
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a professional, you constantly need to be checking in with somebody who's an expert and who can kind
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of hear what you aren't hearing. So I really look forward to finding somebody who I can work with
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and who I can practice singing with. The next question is, some of your favorite salad or
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healthy recipes? So recently, the kind of salad that I've been really into is Israeli salad. That
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has been something I've just been wanting all the time. I don't know why, but it's something that I
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just, I think it's delicious and I just want to eat it every day. Part of the reason I really like
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Israeli salad is because the elements, which are parsley, cucumbers, mini cucumbers, not the big
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cucumbers. They don't taste good in Israeli salad. Mini cucumbers and tomatoes don't spoil as quickly
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as lettuce. Whenever I get romaine lettuce, it goes bad way too quickly. My husband will not eat salad.
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He does not like raw veggies. He'll eat veggies, but not raw ones. So I end up having to eat the
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entire thing and it just goes bad too quickly. Whereas with mini cucumbers and with tomatoes and
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with parsley, those things will last long enough that I can actually eat them and enjoy them and they
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won't spoil. So the recipe for Israeli salad is really easy. I just do too many cucumbers for a
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single serving. It's kind of a big serving, but I'll have too many cucumbers, three little Campari
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tomatoes, one lemon, and then about half a bunch of parsley, maybe a little less. And then I'll just
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mix that all together. I'll put lemon juice and olive oil and salt, mix it all together, and that's the
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whole thing. And it's super easy. It tastes so good, so fresh. Loving that. Now the other thing that I eat
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on a regular basis is eggs. I think that eggs are a really good way to get protein, especially
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throughout the day. I usually have meat in the evening, but during the daytime and in the morning
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I'll have just eggs or whatever else, maybe some yogurt, things like that. But I really like to make
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omelets and I usually will do sun-dried tomatoes, normal tomatoes, red pepper, and onion. Just saute that
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and then put in a few eggs. And that is a really healthy snack. I got this question a lot. Do you plan to have
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children? Of course! That's one of the biggest things I talk about on my channel. I can't wait
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to have children, and it's definitely going to happen. This one says, ways for late 20s to be
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more classic. Well, technically I'm in my late 20s. I'm 27, so I think I can offer good advice about
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that. You can be classic literally at any time in your life. You can be classic at 15, you can be
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classic at 25, you can be classic at 35. It really makes no difference. You can be classic at 55. And I think
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it comes down to having good values and embracing femininity and womanhood and embracing the
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wonderful things about being a woman. So if you are doing those things, if you are taking care of
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yourself mentally and physically, if you are putting in an effort to be respectful to other people and
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to present yourself well, and you have good values, and you take seriously the things in life that
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matter, then it doesn't matter what age you are, but you will be a classic woman.
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Do you ever in the future plan to become a music teacher since you have a degree in opera?
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Not really. That isn't really my plan. I love singing opera, but I don't know why. I think I
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might have a little bit of imposter syndrome. I feel a little bit self-conscious about teaching opera,
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but I love singing opera, and I also love what I do here. So I don't think I would transition to
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teaching opera, but maybe at some point. Who knows?
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I keep seeing other YouTubers reviewing your videos. What do you think about this? Here are my
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thoughts. If you have an entire channel that is simply based around talking about other people,
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I don't think that that is a great reflection on you and what you have to say. That doesn't mean
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that if you want to do a response video every once in a while that's a terrible thing, but if
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literally your entire channel is just talking about other people's channels, to me that's not
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original content, and it's slightly sad. That's just where I come from. Do I take it personally?
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Not really. I say stuff that some people don't agree with, and that is what it is, you know,
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but it doesn't affect me, and I'm happy to keep making the content that I do. I think it's important,
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How many children do you want? I think I want three or four. My husband has always said he wants
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however many, a lot. So we'll just see what God blesses us with when the time is right.
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Were you ever on the left side of the political spectrum? If so, why did you leave? That is an
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interesting question. So I was raised with conservative values, but when I was in my master's
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program at the Manhattan School of Music, I would say that because I was surrounded by people who had
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a differing viewpoint and where I couldn't voice my own viewpoint for fear of repercussions, I think
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that some of my opinions did start to lean more left because everyone I was surrounded with was
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left, and that was what I was hearing day in and day out. But I'll be honest, if I started to lean more
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leftist and if I started to kind of incorporate that into my life a little, I found that I was getting
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more and more unhappy. And when I looked again at my conservative values and I did my research and
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understood the arguments against the leftist thought that I was surrounded with, it was so
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obvious to me and to what I wanted from my life that being a conservative was the best thing for me
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and those values are incredibly important. So in a way, yes, if you surround yourself with people
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who are constantly disagreeing with you and who are constantly not allowing you to voice your opinion
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so you're just hearing one side of the story, I think anyone would maybe start to lean a little
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more one way or the other. And I think that did happen for me a little bit. But again, if I started
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living out any of that leftist thought, I just found that I was not happy and it didn't make me a better
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or happier person. And when I started living out conservative values again and just really embraced
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that for myself, it was like I feel like I blossomed. Favorite fictional book? Anna Karenina.
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Yes. I mean, I have a million fiction books. I love fiction and I don't allow myself to read fiction
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enough because I feel like I need to be reading the stuff that's really going to inform me and make
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me a better thinker. But I love fiction so much and it's my favorite stuff. But Anna Karenina is truly
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the best novel ever written in my opinion and I just absolutely love it. If we're going to talk
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about some others, Gone with the Wind is incredible. And if you're looking for something that is slightly
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more new, there's a series that is the Seven Waters trilogy and then I think there's another trilogy,
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but the first one is called Daughter of the Forest and I really loved those books. I thought they were
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amazing. How to approach a guy you're interested in but are only friends with? So I'm assuming that in
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this case you guys are friends as of now, but you want it to be something more. That is hard. This is
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my advice with something like that because that is difficult and I have been there. So here's what I
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think. If you guys ever hang out alone, go out together and try and bring it up and see how he reacts.
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Maybe make a joke or say something that's like a little bit more casual and just see how he responds.
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And if he responds in a positive way, hey, you've moved your relationship into the place that you
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guys both want. But if he doesn't, that's also a good thing because that's giving you an opportunity
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to recognize that this is not a relationship that can proceed forward. And if you have feelings for him,
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then you really can't be friends with him because you're always going to imagine that there could be
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something more there. And if it's not going to go anywhere, then you're really just kind of locking
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up your heart to finding the right person for you. You kind of have to get an answer to that question
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and hopefully you get the answer you want. But if you don't, you have to look at it as a good thing
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and move on and say, okay, well, this guy, I really like hanging out with him and I called him my
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friend. But the fact is, if you have feelings that are more than friendship, he's not your friend.
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He's your crush. And if you hang out with him consistently in a way that allows that crush to
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develop even more, you're denying yourself the opportunity to meet the right person.
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The next question is, how often do you apply heat to your hair? So I used to do it more frequently,
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but I figured out how to do my hair and this is very exciting. So basically my hair does not hold
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a curl. It just will not hold a curl unless I use a very high heat. So I basically made the decision
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that I'd rather do my hair with heat, curl my hair twice a week using a hair protectant at like 400
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degrees, maybe 410 degrees. I know that's really hot, but I usually will only do it twice a week
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and then I don't have to wash it for days and it really holds the curl for days on end as opposed
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to using maybe 300 degree heat, 350 degree heat on my hair and then it falls out the next day and I
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just have to recurl it again anyways. And it's just annoying and I just don't think that that's better
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for my hair to constantly be applying heat as opposed to applying heat twice a week and washing
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my hair twice a week, which is much better overall for me. I prefer it and it saves me time. So that's
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how I do the kind of heat styling thing and I use a heat protectant. Do you have mostly Jewish friends
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or is it a mix? It's a mix. I have some Jewish friends. One of my absolute closest girlfriends and a
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bridesmaid in my wedding is Jewish. And then we have a lot of Christian friends too. I've got a wonderful
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group of Christian women actually that I'm very close with that I met when my husband was at UVA
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Law and I just absolutely adore them and we're all in a similar stage in our lives so we can all kind
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of go to each other and we all share really great values and I feel really grateful for that. Godzilla
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or King Kong? In a fight? Godzilla. King Kong's just a big monkey. Is having a tattoo immodest?
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So this is a question I think I've gotten before. Here are my thoughts. I think that tattoos, I'm not
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a huge fan of them just from a Jewish perspective. You're not allowed to get a tattoo so I've never
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been somebody who's been dying to get a tattoo. But from a modesty perspective, I think that it comes
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down to what the tattoo is for and where it is and how big and all of that. I wouldn't necessarily
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say it's immodest. I don't think that's the word I would use. But if you get a tattoo that represents
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something that matters to you and is important, something that happened in your life and is just
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kind of subtle and maybe in a place that's not super obvious, I don't think that that's a terrible
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thing. If you get a huge sleeve of tattoos, I just think that that makes it difficult to look
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professional. It makes it difficult to wear certain pieces of clothing and I don't think that it really
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reflects as well on people and it doesn't allow you to present yourself in a classic way. So a small
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tattoo for a certain reason, that to me is okay. I'm not a huge fan of tattoos that are bigger and
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are just kind of artistic and are really in big obvious places. I just don't think that it looks
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professional and I also think that it can give people a certain impression about you even if
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that's not who you are. So it's just kind of not my thing. Can you take drugs and be classical?
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I say no. I don't take drugs. I've never taken drugs. I don't think that taking drugs, if you're
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totally out of control of your facilities in the same way as if you drink too much,
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you can't be classic because you will be kind of a mess and people will have to take care of you
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and you're not being responsible. I don't think that that's a good thing. Now I understand that
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people take drugs and can still kind of have control of their facilities. I don't think it's a
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good thing. I don't recommend it and I don't think it's classic. Not a question, but you should stream
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a D&D sesh. I don't know if you guys know this, but I play Dungeons and Dragons. I mentioned that
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in a video in Vlogica. I play Dungeons and Dragons with my husband and a few of our friends and I
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really like it and maybe at some point my husband and I will talk about our characters or maybe
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we'll make a character, a Dungeons and Dragons character that fits into my classic theme. What do
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you guys think? Would you want to see that? Let me know in the comments. Can you make another cooking
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video? Yes. The issue is that my kitchen really isn't the best place to film anymore. In my last
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kitchen I had a big island so I could just easily film in there and show you guys how I'm cooking.
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This kitchen is a galley kitchen so there's not really a great angle for me to show you what I'm
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making. So I'm trying to figure out if there's a way for me to cook with you guys, but it is a little
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bit trickier so I really do have to figure that out, but I would love to do that. This is a deep question
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and it says, how do you want to be remembered when you are gone? I'd like to be remembered as a good
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and kind woman, as a good wife and a good mother and a good daughter. I'd like to be remembered as
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someone who inspired others and I don't know if that's too much to shoot for. I'd like to have
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created a legacy, whether that be within my own family or through Classically Abby and providing a
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space for so many women who feel disenfranchised when they want to talk about their conservative
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values or womanhood. That's what I want. Will you be boycotting Sephora with other conservatives?
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So I don't know if you guys have seen this going around, but there is a creator here on YouTube
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named Amanda N. Singh and she has over a million subscribers on YouTube. She is a beauty YouTuber
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and she came out as conservative and Sephora tried to pull a contract from her. It's a whole mess.
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She is doing a wonderful thing fighting for conservatives to have a space where they're
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not necessarily going to be punished for their views. I'm lucky in that I don't ever shop at Sephora.
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I just don't ever shop there. I have always shopped at the drugstore. I'm somebody who likes to find
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cheap dupes for things. And the last thing that I bought that was expensive I bought at Nordstrom.
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So I just don't generally shop at Sephora. I've linked Sephora a few times in some old videos,
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but I don't really shop there. So yes, if I shopped at Sephora, I would be boycotting them because I
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think what they did was horrible, but I don't shop there. So that also makes things easier.
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How is yours and Ben's relationship? Are you alike? How? So if you guys didn't know, Ben Shapiro is my
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brother and we are alike. We are really alike. First of all, we look alike. But second of all,
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our personalities are very similar. Both of us care a lot about the conservative movement and we
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feel that we have a role to play. We both love our families. We both live a Jewish life. We are both
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people who are people of action. We like doing things and getting things done. And I think that
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What's your advice for someone preparing to go to college and start their adult life?
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Don't give in to peer pressure from your peers who act like it's adult to do stupid things.
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It's not adult to drink and hook up and act like an idiot. Don't do it. It's not worth it.
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Being adult is about taking responsibility for your actions. And if that means that you're called a
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nerd by people who want to party and waste time, then you're called a nerd. And that is a-okay in my book.
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So just ignore anyone who tries to make you feel bad about living more classic and just live and be
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true to who you are and your beliefs. What inspired you to return to practicing more Orthodox Judaism?
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My husband and I always knew that this was something that we wanted to do and to work on
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together. So, you know, it's something that we care about. And even though we are not actively
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practicing all of the laws, we do keep a kosher home, but we don't keep all of the laws of Sabbath,
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for example. This is something that we care about because we really want our children to be raised
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with Orthodox Judaism. We think it's really important. And even though we recognize that we're not
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living and fulfilling that standard right now, we know that if we don't instill that in our
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children, then it's just going to constantly be a step removed. And eventually our children
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and our children's children may not even view themselves as Jews if we don't practice. And
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this is something that I've been thinking a lot about. It's something I read about in the book
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Judaism Straight Up. And also I had thought about this idea previously, which is the idea that
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you think that what you've been raised with is going to kind of percolate through to your children.
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So if I was raised Orthodox Jewish and raised my children with none of that, I would assume they
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had the same knowledge that I do. But they will not have had the same experience and they will not
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have that knowledge. And so they're going off of much less education and practice than I grew up with.
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And then they'll be passing on much less than we did to them. And it just ends up getting filtered
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and filtered and filtered until there's absolutely nothing left. So it's super important to us to be
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Orthodox Jews and raise our children in an Orthodox home. The first steps of that have been keeping a
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kosher home and trying to be more diligent about that. The next steps that we are trying to incorporate
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are to actually find a community that we love and we can raise our children in. And that is something
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that we are actively pursuing. My parents don't approve of young marriage, 21, 22. How can I get
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them on board? I think that it really comes down to the two of you knowing how you're going to provide
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for yourselves and showing that to your parents. At 21 and 22, you are very young. And it doesn't
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necessarily mean you have to get married with absolutely no help from your parents, but it does
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mean that you have to show them that you are serious about earning for yourselves and providing for
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yourselves. Because once you get married, it's not just about the two of you providing for
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yourselves, but the possibility that you are going to bring a child into the world. And if you can't
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provide for yourselves, bringing a child into the world, you are not going to be able to provide for
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that child either. So your parents are probably just concerned that you aren't prepared for the
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burden of being married and for the burden of having a family. And if you can show them that you are
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already, then I think that that would be a very helpful thing. Now, I'm sure that there are some
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other obstacles to your parents' view of it, but that would be my first piece of advice, is just
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knowing how you're going to provide for yourselves and work together to have your own distinct family.
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What is your opinion on long-distance relationships? My husband and I were actually long-distance before
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we got married. So I am not an opponent of long-distance relationships, but I do have some
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rules. A lot can be hidden in a long-distance relationship, and a lot can be kind of swept
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under the rug. A lot can be not necessarily noticed. But you also get the wonderful things about
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having a ton of conversation and not having the distraction of a physical relationship. But my rules
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are early on when you're dating, you need to spend two weeks together uninterrupted. So you just need to
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make sure that you're seeing each other every day for two weeks. Make sure that you guys like each
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other at the end of that, because I've lived an experience where at the end of two weeks, it was
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not great after having been long-distance for nine months. And then after that, I would say a month
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uninterrupted. So just having time to make sure that being together a lot and seeing each other every
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day and seeing each other in a more normal environment, you guys still love each other and like each
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other. That is my recommendation with long-distance relationships. But I can also do a whole video
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specifically on long-distance relationships because I have experience in them. So if you guys would be
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interested in seeing a video like that, let me know in the comments below. How do you deal with judgment
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about waiting to have kids? So my husband and I have been really lucky in that for the most part we
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haven't dealt with judgment from people around us about not having children right away. We've gotten it
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from some people, but what I would say is that I feel very strongly that young couples need to take
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a couple of years to work out the kinks in their relationship before they have children. When you
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are getting married, you are going to have all of these little things that you didn't expect come up
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in your relationship. And if you're trying to deal with that at the same time that you're hormonal and
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also sleep-deprived and have a child, it's just a lot harder and you're going to have to deal with
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those things on the fly as opposed to having practiced and know how to deal with them in advance
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when you are in the situation where you're both tired or you're hormonal or whatever else it is.
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So I was always very clear with myself that I wanted to wait a little while before we had
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children because I wanted to make sure that our relationship was in the best place possible
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for when we did start trying. So that's kind of my opinion on it. If you are confident in that choice
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and I don't think it should be forever, I don't think you should wait a million years to have
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children. But if you are comfortable with that choice because you understand why you're making
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it, then it doesn't matter what anyone else says. You know why you're doing what you're doing.
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What do I do if I lose friends over the fact that I'm conservative? P.S. Love your vids. Thank you.
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If you lose friends because you're conservative, then they weren't really your friends to begin with.
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That's just my perspective on things. People should know who you are and recognize that if they've known
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you for a very long time and then all of a sudden find out that you hold different political beliefs
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than they do, you're not a changed person. Clearly you're a good enough person that they were friends
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with you to begin with. It's a judgment on them if they think that you're a bad person because you
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have conservative views. It doesn't make you an entirely different person to have conservative
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views and it doesn't make you a bad person obviously. So the people who care about you and
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don't care, those are the people who are going to end up staying your friends. As I've said before on
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my channel, I have friends who are liberal. They know I'm conservative. I know they're liberal and it
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doesn't matter because we just don't talk about it. That's not something that comes up in every
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single conversation. And if somebody decides to end a friendship with you because they
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disagree with your political views, that's on them. When did you and your husband meet? So I want to do
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a whole video on this and let me know in the comments if you guys want to see it because I want to get
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Jacob in on it and I think I'd like to do our relationship story and how we started dating and all
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of that. But we met in the summer of 2017 and our friend set us up. There's a lot more to that story
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but that's the basics. What's your workout routine and would you do a video on it? Probably not because
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I'm not an expert about fitness. It kind of just is something that I incorporate into my life and I
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think it's important to do but I don't think that my routine is great. As of right now I've been doing
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the elliptical five days a week between 40 minutes and an hour but there are other weeks where I do
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elliptical five days a week for 30 minutes and then three times a week I weight lift. So it's
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something that I need to figure out that balance that really does make me happy and work for me
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but the issue is that I'll get into the swing of things and then I'll sort of get bored and then I'll
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have to switch it up. So it's just about staying active for me. I really think weightlifting is
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important so when I do the five day elliptical thing with no weightlifting I do start to feel like
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hey I'm missing something in my regimen. So for example today was the first day in a while that I
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decided I needed to put some weightlifting back into my into my routine. Now I think there was
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also a little bit of reticence on my part just because of the surgery that I just recently went
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through but it wasn't a huge deal and I theoretically could have lifted pretty soon after. I just kind of
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didn't want to and now I'm back in the swing of that. So that's kind of how I do it. I think going to
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the gym or exercising from home is really important but I don't think that I am the person to show you
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guys what you should be doing. What is one argument that compelled you to be pro-life? There are a
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hundred arguments but for me it's literally just looking at the science of it. If you look at how
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quickly babies develop and turn into babies you you cannot unsee it. You can't deny that a baby's life
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starts at conception. It's just the most incredible thing in the world and the whole science behind how
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babies come to be is fascinating. Honestly if you understand the process from week to week of how a
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baby develops I don't know how you could not be pro-life. I truly don't understand it. How do you
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gracefully deal with negativity from others? The answer is I ignore it. That really is what it is.
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When people try and say horrible things to me on the internet I just scroll past. I don't respond.
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I don't engage. It just doesn't ever make anything better. Like you don't deserve my attention if
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you're going to be just throwing negativity in in my way. I don't need to respond to that and that
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person that's what they want. They want me to get into a fight with them. I'm not going to respond
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and it's the same thing in high school when someone's bullying you. Just being classic is
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recognizing when it's important to pick your battles and this is one of those situations where
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it's never going to be worth my time to engage. So I just don't and I've honestly felt so good about
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that decision since I started my blog since I started my channel. Just never trying to get
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into a discussion with somebody who's just going to be mean or negative in the comments. It's there's
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just absolutely nothing to be gained. What's your favorite Disney princess or character? I'm partial
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to Rapunzel. I really love Tangled. I think that's a really cute movie and it's just adorable. I love that
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movie. Of course I also love the seven dwarves from Snow White. I think that they're hilarious and so cute.
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So even though those aren't the princesses you asked about characters too, I love the seven dwarves.
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Grumpy is adorable. So is Dopey. So is Doc. It's great. That movie is wonderful. Okay so I have been
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here for a very long time so we're going to do the very last question which is how do you deal with
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conflict in your relationship? I'm so lucky because Jacob is an incredible communicator so we can really
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sit down and have a conversation. Now that doesn't mean that we don't have conflict. Every relationship
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has conflict. Literally every relationship has conflict and if somebody tells you otherwise I
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think that that is untrue. Now that doesn't necessarily mean they're going to be fighting
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and yelling at each other but it does mean that you will have disagreements. That's normal. I think
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something that Jacob and I work on in our marriage is that if we're disagreeing about something
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we can each voice how we're feeling and why we're upset but we really do admit when the other person
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said something that's true. And that can be hard when somebody gives you a criticism to accept it
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and recognize that it's accurate. But I think that's kind of what keeps our arguments from turning
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into fights is that if somebody says about the other person that they acted in a certain way
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if it's true we'll agree. We'll say that you know what that's fair. I did act that way and that's true.
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And even if that doesn't necessarily mean that that solves the whole argument it just shows that
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you are having this discussion in good faith. That you're not saying no I'm right in every single way
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and it doesn't matter how I voiced it and it doesn't matter you know my tone of voice. No. If my tone
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of voice was bad and what I was saying was good. If Jacob says well maybe what you were saying is
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true but the way you said it I couldn't listen to. I can recognize that that's true and say okay fair
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enough. Like that is fair and true. I didn't say that in the best way possible. And he's the same way
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in the sense that I'm able to say okay well you did this and he can say okay I did do that.
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And admitting fault in the middle of an argument to the person that you're arguing with it's so
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it diffuses the tension a little bit because it allows you guys to really understand that you're
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on the same team and you don't want to be treating each other poorly even if you disagree. So that is
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a huge piece of advice I have about conflict is even when you're angry don't let your pride get in
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the way of resolving the argument. So if there was fault on your side accepting that there was
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fault on your side because 99% of the time arguments aren't just one person being terrible. Usually
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both people have something that kind of like created that. So if you are able to recognize your part
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in that argument then you can actually resolve it and it's I just think it's something that I really
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love about Jacob and I love about our marriage. So that is it for today's video. Thank you guys
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so much for watching. It was so much fun to go through these questions from you guys and to hear
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from you. I absolutely love doing this and I love I love getting to communicate with you in this way.
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