Classically Abby - Do I Want KIDS？？ Was I Ever LEFTIST？？｜｜ Answering YOUR Questions About ANYTHING!

00:00:00.000 Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where I'm going to be answering your questions.

00:00:08.660 So I asked you guys on Instagram to ask me questions for my channel. It could be about me,

00:00:13.340 it could be about advice, it could be just about absolutely anything, and you guys sent in a ton

00:00:17.760 of questions and I have a lot to answer. So I am really excited to get into today's video.

00:00:22.820 Please make sure to subscribe to my channel if you haven't already, and let's get into it.

00:00:26.720 So the first question is, how often are you working on classical singing these days?

00:00:32.140 I'll be honest with you guys, not as much as I would like to. I think that because of COVID and

00:00:37.620 knowing that I'm not going to be able to perform publicly for a little while at least, I don't

00:00:43.280 have that same push to be practicing every day and to work on my classical singing. And what I do for

00:00:49.720 my channel is my full-time job, so it's a lot. But I love singing and I actually really miss it.

00:00:56.060 But now that we've moved and everything is a little bit more settled down, I think I'd really

00:00:59.640 like to invest more time in my classical singing. Maybe find a teacher in the area and maybe start

00:01:05.580 coaching again, because I haven't had the opportunity to do that in a long time and I would really like

00:01:10.420 to. Now, finding a teacher is something that you do even when you're a professional. Even when you're

00:01:13.960 a professional, you constantly need to be checking in with somebody who's an expert and who can kind

00:01:18.380 of hear what you aren't hearing. So I really look forward to finding somebody who I can work with

00:01:23.500 and who I can practice singing with. The next question is, some of your favorite salad or

00:01:28.120 healthy recipes? So recently, the kind of salad that I've been really into is Israeli salad. That

00:01:35.080 has been something I've just been wanting all the time. I don't know why, but it's something that I

00:01:39.700 just, I think it's delicious and I just want to eat it every day. Part of the reason I really like

00:01:45.560 Israeli salad is because the elements, which are parsley, cucumbers, mini cucumbers, not the big

00:01:52.700 cucumbers. They don't taste good in Israeli salad. Mini cucumbers and tomatoes don't spoil as quickly

00:01:59.140 as lettuce. Whenever I get romaine lettuce, it goes bad way too quickly. My husband will not eat salad.

00:02:05.040 He does not like raw veggies. He'll eat veggies, but not raw ones. So I end up having to eat the

00:02:09.600 entire thing and it just goes bad too quickly. Whereas with mini cucumbers and with tomatoes and

00:02:15.040 with parsley, those things will last long enough that I can actually eat them and enjoy them and they

00:02:20.200 won't spoil. So the recipe for Israeli salad is really easy. I just do too many cucumbers for a

00:02:25.580 single serving. It's kind of a big serving, but I'll have too many cucumbers, three little Campari

00:02:31.200 tomatoes, one lemon, and then about half a bunch of parsley, maybe a little less. And then I'll just

00:02:37.880 mix that all together. I'll put lemon juice and olive oil and salt, mix it all together, and that's the

00:02:42.540 whole thing. And it's super easy. It tastes so good, so fresh. Loving that. Now the other thing that I eat

00:02:48.680 on a regular basis is eggs. I think that eggs are a really good way to get protein, especially

00:02:53.480 throughout the day. I usually have meat in the evening, but during the daytime and in the morning

00:02:57.740 I'll have just eggs or whatever else, maybe some yogurt, things like that. But I really like to make

00:03:03.860 omelets and I usually will do sun-dried tomatoes, normal tomatoes, red pepper, and onion. Just saute that

00:03:11.440 and then put in a few eggs. And that is a really healthy snack. I got this question a lot. Do you plan to have

00:03:17.900 children? Of course! That's one of the biggest things I talk about on my channel. I can't wait

00:03:24.020 to have children, and it's definitely going to happen. This one says, ways for late 20s to be

00:03:29.200 more classic. Well, technically I'm in my late 20s. I'm 27, so I think I can offer good advice about

00:03:35.240 that. You can be classic literally at any time in your life. You can be classic at 15, you can be

00:03:39.840 classic at 25, you can be classic at 35. It really makes no difference. You can be classic at 55. And I think

00:03:45.220 it comes down to having good values and embracing femininity and womanhood and embracing the

00:03:50.000 wonderful things about being a woman. So if you are doing those things, if you are taking care of

00:03:56.120 yourself mentally and physically, if you are putting in an effort to be respectful to other people and

00:04:01.880 to present yourself well, and you have good values, and you take seriously the things in life that

00:04:06.900 matter, then it doesn't matter what age you are, but you will be a classic woman. 0.99

00:04:10.880 Do you ever in the future plan to become a music teacher since you have a degree in opera?

00:04:15.040 Not really. That isn't really my plan. I love singing opera, but I don't know why. I think I

00:04:21.480 might have a little bit of imposter syndrome. I feel a little bit self-conscious about teaching opera,

00:04:27.040 but I love singing opera, and I also love what I do here. So I don't think I would transition to

00:04:33.160 teaching opera, but maybe at some point. Who knows?

00:04:35.660 I keep seeing other YouTubers reviewing your videos. What do you think about this? Here are my

00:04:41.260 thoughts. If you have an entire channel that is simply based around talking about other people,

00:04:49.040 I don't think that that is a great reflection on you and what you have to say. That doesn't mean

00:04:55.580 that if you want to do a response video every once in a while that's a terrible thing, but if

00:04:59.440 literally your entire channel is just talking about other people's channels, to me that's not

00:05:04.360 original content, and it's slightly sad. That's just where I come from. Do I take it personally?

00:05:11.540 Not really. I say stuff that some people don't agree with, and that is what it is, you know,

00:05:15.820 but it doesn't affect me, and I'm happy to keep making the content that I do. I think it's important,

00:05:21.420 and I care about it. So that's it.

00:05:23.360 How many children do you want? I think I want three or four. My husband has always said he wants

00:05:29.900 however many, a lot. So we'll just see what God blesses us with when the time is right.

00:05:35.640 Were you ever on the left side of the political spectrum? If so, why did you leave? That is an

00:05:42.000 interesting question. So I was raised with conservative values, but when I was in my master's

00:05:48.440 program at the Manhattan School of Music, I would say that because I was surrounded by people who had

00:05:53.540 a differing viewpoint and where I couldn't voice my own viewpoint for fear of repercussions, I think

00:05:59.420 that some of my opinions did start to lean more left because everyone I was surrounded with was

00:06:04.360 left, and that was what I was hearing day in and day out. But I'll be honest, if I started to lean more

00:06:09.480 leftist and if I started to kind of incorporate that into my life a little, I found that I was getting

00:06:14.460 more and more unhappy. And when I looked again at my conservative values and I did my research and

00:06:19.740 understood the arguments against the leftist thought that I was surrounded with, it was so

00:06:24.360 obvious to me and to what I wanted from my life that being a conservative was the best thing for me

00:06:32.520 and those values are incredibly important. So in a way, yes, if you surround yourself with people

00:06:39.820 who are constantly disagreeing with you and who are constantly not allowing you to voice your opinion

00:06:45.040 so you're just hearing one side of the story, I think anyone would maybe start to lean a little

00:06:50.720 more one way or the other. And I think that did happen for me a little bit. But again, if I started

00:06:56.340 living out any of that leftist thought, I just found that I was not happy and it didn't make me a better

00:07:02.800 or happier person. And when I started living out conservative values again and just really embraced

00:07:08.460 that for myself, it was like I feel like I blossomed. Favorite fictional book? Anna Karenina.

00:07:14.920 Yes. I mean, I have a million fiction books. I love fiction and I don't allow myself to read fiction

00:07:21.040 enough because I feel like I need to be reading the stuff that's really going to inform me and make

00:07:26.980 me a better thinker. But I love fiction so much and it's my favorite stuff. But Anna Karenina is truly

00:07:34.500 the best novel ever written in my opinion and I just absolutely love it. If we're going to talk

00:07:40.600 about some others, Gone with the Wind is incredible. And if you're looking for something that is slightly

00:07:44.780 more new, there's a series that is the Seven Waters trilogy and then I think there's another trilogy,

00:07:50.300 but the first one is called Daughter of the Forest and I really loved those books. I thought they were

00:07:55.060 amazing. How to approach a guy you're interested in but are only friends with? So I'm assuming that in

00:08:01.360 this case you guys are friends as of now, but you want it to be something more. That is hard. This is

00:08:08.520 my advice with something like that because that is difficult and I have been there. So here's what I

00:08:15.040 think. If you guys ever hang out alone, go out together and try and bring it up and see how he reacts.

00:08:22.300 Maybe make a joke or say something that's like a little bit more casual and just see how he responds.

00:08:28.460 And if he responds in a positive way, hey, you've moved your relationship into the place that you

00:08:33.760 guys both want. But if he doesn't, that's also a good thing because that's giving you an opportunity

00:08:38.400 to recognize that this is not a relationship that can proceed forward. And if you have feelings for him,

00:08:45.820 then you really can't be friends with him because you're always going to imagine that there could be

00:08:51.360 something more there. And if it's not going to go anywhere, then you're really just kind of locking

00:08:57.440 up your heart to finding the right person for you. You kind of have to get an answer to that question

00:09:03.700 and hopefully you get the answer you want. But if you don't, you have to look at it as a good thing

00:09:08.060 and move on and say, okay, well, this guy, I really like hanging out with him and I called him my

00:09:13.800 friend. But the fact is, if you have feelings that are more than friendship, he's not your friend.

00:09:17.660 He's your crush. And if you hang out with him consistently in a way that allows that crush to

00:09:24.000 develop even more, you're denying yourself the opportunity to meet the right person.

00:09:28.060 The next question is, how often do you apply heat to your hair? So I used to do it more frequently,

00:09:33.980 but I figured out how to do my hair and this is very exciting. So basically my hair does not hold

00:09:40.160 a curl. It just will not hold a curl unless I use a very high heat. So I basically made the decision

00:09:46.660 that I'd rather do my hair with heat, curl my hair twice a week using a hair protectant at like 400

00:09:54.020 degrees, maybe 410 degrees. I know that's really hot, but I usually will only do it twice a week

00:09:58.760 and then I don't have to wash it for days and it really holds the curl for days on end as opposed

00:10:04.460 to using maybe 300 degree heat, 350 degree heat on my hair and then it falls out the next day and I

00:10:10.220 just have to recurl it again anyways. And it's just annoying and I just don't think that that's better

00:10:15.960 for my hair to constantly be applying heat as opposed to applying heat twice a week and washing

00:10:21.540 my hair twice a week, which is much better overall for me. I prefer it and it saves me time. So that's

00:10:28.240 how I do the kind of heat styling thing and I use a heat protectant. Do you have mostly Jewish friends

00:10:34.020 or is it a mix? It's a mix. I have some Jewish friends. One of my absolute closest girlfriends and a

00:10:39.860 bridesmaid in my wedding is Jewish. And then we have a lot of Christian friends too. I've got a wonderful

00:10:44.880 group of Christian women actually that I'm very close with that I met when my husband was at UVA

00:10:50.800 Law and I just absolutely adore them and we're all in a similar stage in our lives so we can all kind

00:10:56.500 of go to each other and we all share really great values and I feel really grateful for that. Godzilla

00:11:02.240 or King Kong? In a fight? Godzilla. King Kong's just a big monkey. Is having a tattoo immodest?

00:11:08.980 So this is a question I think I've gotten before. Here are my thoughts. I think that tattoos, I'm not

00:11:15.360 a huge fan of them just from a Jewish perspective. You're not allowed to get a tattoo so I've never

00:11:19.400 been somebody who's been dying to get a tattoo. But from a modesty perspective, I think that it comes

00:11:25.180 down to what the tattoo is for and where it is and how big and all of that. I wouldn't necessarily

00:11:30.980 say it's immodest. I don't think that's the word I would use. But if you get a tattoo that represents

00:11:36.340 something that matters to you and is important, something that happened in your life and is just

00:11:41.700 kind of subtle and maybe in a place that's not super obvious, I don't think that that's a terrible

00:11:47.240 thing. If you get a huge sleeve of tattoos, I just think that that makes it difficult to look

00:11:53.640 professional. It makes it difficult to wear certain pieces of clothing and I don't think that it really

00:11:57.780 reflects as well on people and it doesn't allow you to present yourself in a classic way. So a small

00:12:04.200 tattoo for a certain reason, that to me is okay. I'm not a huge fan of tattoos that are bigger and

00:12:11.200 are just kind of artistic and are really in big obvious places. I just don't think that it looks

00:12:15.940 professional and I also think that it can give people a certain impression about you even if

00:12:20.960 that's not who you are. So it's just kind of not my thing. Can you take drugs and be classical?

00:12:27.380 I say no. I don't take drugs. I've never taken drugs. I don't think that taking drugs, if you're

00:12:33.020 totally out of control of your facilities in the same way as if you drink too much,

00:12:36.840 you can't be classic because you will be kind of a mess and people will have to take care of you

00:12:42.060 and you're not being responsible. I don't think that that's a good thing. Now I understand that

00:12:46.900 people take drugs and can still kind of have control of their facilities. I don't think it's a

00:12:51.540 good thing. I don't recommend it and I don't think it's classic. Not a question, but you should stream

00:12:57.200 a D&D sesh. I don't know if you guys know this, but I play Dungeons and Dragons. I mentioned that

00:13:02.040 in a video in Vlogica. I play Dungeons and Dragons with my husband and a few of our friends and I

00:13:07.460 really like it and maybe at some point my husband and I will talk about our characters or maybe

00:13:11.400 we'll make a character, a Dungeons and Dragons character that fits into my classic theme. What do

00:13:17.060 you guys think? Would you want to see that? Let me know in the comments. Can you make another cooking

00:13:21.220 video? Yes. The issue is that my kitchen really isn't the best place to film anymore. In my last

00:13:27.060 kitchen I had a big island so I could just easily film in there and show you guys how I'm cooking.

00:13:32.460 This kitchen is a galley kitchen so there's not really a great angle for me to show you what I'm

00:13:37.520 making. So I'm trying to figure out if there's a way for me to cook with you guys, but it is a little

00:13:42.820 bit trickier so I really do have to figure that out, but I would love to do that. This is a deep question

00:13:47.220 and it says, how do you want to be remembered when you are gone? I'd like to be remembered as a good

00:13:52.880 and kind woman, as a good wife and a good mother and a good daughter. I'd like to be remembered as

00:13:59.180 someone who inspired others and I don't know if that's too much to shoot for. I'd like to have

00:14:05.400 created a legacy, whether that be within my own family or through Classically Abby and providing a

00:14:11.360 space for so many women who feel disenfranchised when they want to talk about their conservative

00:14:17.440 values or womanhood. That's what I want. Will you be boycotting Sephora with other conservatives?

00:14:23.680 So I don't know if you guys have seen this going around, but there is a creator here on YouTube

00:14:27.720 named Amanda N. Singh and she has over a million subscribers on YouTube. She is a beauty YouTuber

00:14:34.200 and she came out as conservative and Sephora tried to pull a contract from her. It's a whole mess.

00:14:41.720 She is doing a wonderful thing fighting for conservatives to have a space where they're

00:14:47.340 not necessarily going to be punished for their views. I'm lucky in that I don't ever shop at Sephora.

00:14:53.960 I just don't ever shop there. I have always shopped at the drugstore. I'm somebody who likes to find

00:15:00.440 cheap dupes for things. And the last thing that I bought that was expensive I bought at Nordstrom.

00:15:05.760 So I just don't generally shop at Sephora. I've linked Sephora a few times in some old videos,

00:15:11.280 but I don't really shop there. So yes, if I shopped at Sephora, I would be boycotting them because I

00:15:16.560 think what they did was horrible, but I don't shop there. So that also makes things easier.

00:15:20.320 How is yours and Ben's relationship? Are you alike? How? So if you guys didn't know, Ben Shapiro is my

00:15:26.700 brother and we are alike. We are really alike. First of all, we look alike. But second of all,

00:15:33.320 our personalities are very similar. Both of us care a lot about the conservative movement and we

00:15:37.640 feel that we have a role to play. We both love our families. We both live a Jewish life. We are both

00:15:44.900 people who are people of action. We like doing things and getting things done. And I think that

00:15:50.900 that is something that makes us similar.

00:15:52.300 What's your advice for someone preparing to go to college and start their adult life? 1.00

00:15:56.380 Don't give in to peer pressure from your peers who act like it's adult to do stupid things. 1.00

00:16:01.680 It's not adult to drink and hook up and act like an idiot. Don't do it. It's not worth it. 1.00

00:16:10.260 Being adult is about taking responsibility for your actions. And if that means that you're called a

00:16:15.960 nerd by people who want to party and waste time, then you're called a nerd. And that is a-okay in my book.

00:16:24.340 So just ignore anyone who tries to make you feel bad about living more classic and just live and be

00:16:31.760 true to who you are and your beliefs. What inspired you to return to practicing more Orthodox Judaism?

00:16:38.720 What were the first steps?

00:16:39.720 My husband and I always knew that this was something that we wanted to do and to work on

00:16:44.580 together. So, you know, it's something that we care about. And even though we are not actively

00:16:51.080 practicing all of the laws, we do keep a kosher home, but we don't keep all of the laws of Sabbath,

00:16:56.580 for example. This is something that we care about because we really want our children to be raised

00:17:01.240 with Orthodox Judaism. We think it's really important. And even though we recognize that we're not

00:17:07.800 living and fulfilling that standard right now, we know that if we don't instill that in our

00:17:12.560 children, then it's just going to constantly be a step removed. And eventually our children

00:17:19.480 and our children's children may not even view themselves as Jews if we don't practice. And

00:17:24.380 this is something that I've been thinking a lot about. It's something I read about in the book

00:17:28.080 Judaism Straight Up. And also I had thought about this idea previously, which is the idea that 0.98

00:17:32.900 you think that what you've been raised with is going to kind of percolate through to your children.

00:17:39.240 So if I was raised Orthodox Jewish and raised my children with none of that, I would assume they 1.00

00:17:45.400 had the same knowledge that I do. But they will not have had the same experience and they will not

00:17:49.920 have that knowledge. And so they're going off of much less education and practice than I grew up with.

00:17:57.900 And then they'll be passing on much less than we did to them. And it just ends up getting filtered

00:18:05.640 and filtered and filtered until there's absolutely nothing left. So it's super important to us to be

00:18:11.180 Orthodox Jews and raise our children in an Orthodox home. The first steps of that have been keeping a 1.00

00:18:16.020 kosher home and trying to be more diligent about that. The next steps that we are trying to incorporate

00:18:21.520 are to actually find a community that we love and we can raise our children in. And that is something

00:18:27.460 that we are actively pursuing. My parents don't approve of young marriage, 21, 22. How can I get

00:18:33.880 them on board? I think that it really comes down to the two of you knowing how you're going to provide

00:18:38.780 for yourselves and showing that to your parents. At 21 and 22, you are very young. And it doesn't

00:18:45.180 necessarily mean you have to get married with absolutely no help from your parents, but it does

00:18:49.160 mean that you have to show them that you are serious about earning for yourselves and providing for

00:18:53.500 yourselves. Because once you get married, it's not just about the two of you providing for

00:18:58.260 yourselves, but the possibility that you are going to bring a child into the world. And if you can't

00:19:02.240 provide for yourselves, bringing a child into the world, you are not going to be able to provide for

00:19:05.760 that child either. So your parents are probably just concerned that you aren't prepared for the

00:19:11.740 burden of being married and for the burden of having a family. And if you can show them that you are

00:19:17.500 already, then I think that that would be a very helpful thing. Now, I'm sure that there are some

00:19:23.280 other obstacles to your parents' view of it, but that would be my first piece of advice, is just

00:19:30.760 knowing how you're going to provide for yourselves and work together to have your own distinct family.

00:19:38.860 What is your opinion on long-distance relationships? My husband and I were actually long-distance before

00:19:43.880 we got married. So I am not an opponent of long-distance relationships, but I do have some

00:19:48.720 rules. A lot can be hidden in a long-distance relationship, and a lot can be kind of swept

00:19:53.060 under the rug. A lot can be not necessarily noticed. But you also get the wonderful things about

00:20:00.100 having a ton of conversation and not having the distraction of a physical relationship. But my rules

00:20:06.080 are early on when you're dating, you need to spend two weeks together uninterrupted. So you just need to

00:20:11.940 make sure that you're seeing each other every day for two weeks. Make sure that you guys like each

00:20:15.480 other at the end of that, because I've lived an experience where at the end of two weeks, it was

00:20:20.640 not great after having been long-distance for nine months. And then after that, I would say a month

00:20:26.540 uninterrupted. So just having time to make sure that being together a lot and seeing each other every

00:20:33.300 day and seeing each other in a more normal environment, you guys still love each other and like each

00:20:38.200 other. That is my recommendation with long-distance relationships. But I can also do a whole video

00:20:43.600 specifically on long-distance relationships because I have experience in them. So if you guys would be

00:20:48.660 interested in seeing a video like that, let me know in the comments below. How do you deal with judgment

00:20:52.700 about waiting to have kids? So my husband and I have been really lucky in that for the most part we

00:20:58.420 haven't dealt with judgment from people around us about not having children right away. We've gotten it

00:21:03.580 from some people, but what I would say is that I feel very strongly that young couples need to take 1.00

00:21:08.000 a couple of years to work out the kinks in their relationship before they have children. When you

00:21:12.300 are getting married, you are going to have all of these little things that you didn't expect come up

00:21:17.180 in your relationship. And if you're trying to deal with that at the same time that you're hormonal and

00:21:20.840 also sleep-deprived and have a child, it's just a lot harder and you're going to have to deal with

00:21:26.060 those things on the fly as opposed to having practiced and know how to deal with them in advance

00:21:31.900 when you are in the situation where you're both tired or you're hormonal or whatever else it is.

00:21:36.980 So I was always very clear with myself that I wanted to wait a little while before we had

00:21:43.480 children because I wanted to make sure that our relationship was in the best place possible

00:21:48.160 for when we did start trying. So that's kind of my opinion on it. If you are confident in that choice

00:21:54.960 and I don't think it should be forever, I don't think you should wait a million years to have

00:22:00.260 children. But if you are comfortable with that choice because you understand why you're making

00:22:04.120 it, then it doesn't matter what anyone else says. You know why you're doing what you're doing.

00:22:08.820 What do I do if I lose friends over the fact that I'm conservative? P.S. Love your vids. Thank you.

00:22:14.220 If you lose friends because you're conservative, then they weren't really your friends to begin with.

00:22:19.060 That's just my perspective on things. People should know who you are and recognize that if they've known

00:22:25.380 you for a very long time and then all of a sudden find out that you hold different political beliefs

00:22:29.300 than they do, you're not a changed person. Clearly you're a good enough person that they were friends

00:22:33.560 with you to begin with. It's a judgment on them if they think that you're a bad person because you

00:22:38.640 have conservative views. It doesn't make you an entirely different person to have conservative

00:22:43.200 views and it doesn't make you a bad person obviously. So the people who care about you and

00:22:47.640 don't care, those are the people who are going to end up staying your friends. As I've said before on

00:22:52.240 my channel, I have friends who are liberal. They know I'm conservative. I know they're liberal and it

00:22:57.420 doesn't matter because we just don't talk about it. That's not something that comes up in every

00:23:01.560 single conversation. And if somebody decides to end a friendship with you because they

00:23:05.120 disagree with your political views, that's on them. When did you and your husband meet? So I want to do

00:23:10.580 a whole video on this and let me know in the comments if you guys want to see it because I want to get

00:23:14.320 Jacob in on it and I think I'd like to do our relationship story and how we started dating and all

00:23:19.120 of that. But we met in the summer of 2017 and our friend set us up. There's a lot more to that story

00:23:26.260 but that's the basics. What's your workout routine and would you do a video on it? Probably not because

00:23:32.720 I'm not an expert about fitness. It kind of just is something that I incorporate into my life and I

00:23:38.460 think it's important to do but I don't think that my routine is great. As of right now I've been doing

00:23:43.040 the elliptical five days a week between 40 minutes and an hour but there are other weeks where I do

00:23:47.760 elliptical five days a week for 30 minutes and then three times a week I weight lift. So it's

00:23:52.800 something that I need to figure out that balance that really does make me happy and work for me

00:23:57.100 but the issue is that I'll get into the swing of things and then I'll sort of get bored and then I'll

00:24:01.380 have to switch it up. So it's just about staying active for me. I really think weightlifting is

00:24:06.700 important so when I do the five day elliptical thing with no weightlifting I do start to feel like

00:24:11.920 hey I'm missing something in my regimen. So for example today was the first day in a while that I

00:24:17.580 decided I needed to put some weightlifting back into my into my routine. Now I think there was

00:24:22.220 also a little bit of reticence on my part just because of the surgery that I just recently went

00:24:27.020 through but it wasn't a huge deal and I theoretically could have lifted pretty soon after. I just kind of

00:24:31.500 didn't want to and now I'm back in the swing of that. So that's kind of how I do it. I think going to

00:24:38.320 the gym or exercising from home is really important but I don't think that I am the person to show you

00:24:42.980 guys what you should be doing. What is one argument that compelled you to be pro-life? There are a

00:24:48.960 hundred arguments but for me it's literally just looking at the science of it. If you look at how

00:24:54.940 quickly babies develop and turn into babies you you cannot unsee it. You can't deny that a baby's life

00:25:03.440 starts at conception. It's just the most incredible thing in the world and the whole science behind how

00:25:10.740 babies come to be is fascinating. Honestly if you understand the process from week to week of how a

00:25:17.640 baby develops I don't know how you could not be pro-life. I truly don't understand it. How do you

00:25:22.260 gracefully deal with negativity from others? The answer is I ignore it. That really is what it is.

00:25:28.220 When people try and say horrible things to me on the internet I just scroll past. I don't respond.

00:25:33.680 I don't engage. It just doesn't ever make anything better. Like you don't deserve my attention if

00:25:39.960 you're going to be just throwing negativity in in my way. I don't need to respond to that and that

00:25:45.920 person that's what they want. They want me to get into a fight with them. I'm not going to respond

00:25:52.280 and it's the same thing in high school when someone's bullying you. Just being classic is

00:25:56.940 recognizing when it's important to pick your battles and this is one of those situations where

00:26:01.480 it's never going to be worth my time to engage. So I just don't and I've honestly felt so good about

00:26:09.060 that decision since I started my blog since I started my channel. Just never trying to get

00:26:14.320 into a discussion with somebody who's just going to be mean or negative in the comments. It's there's

00:26:20.300 just absolutely nothing to be gained. What's your favorite Disney princess or character? I'm partial

00:26:25.440 to Rapunzel. I really love Tangled. I think that's a really cute movie and it's just adorable. I love that

00:26:32.440 movie. Of course I also love the seven dwarves from Snow White. I think that they're hilarious and so cute.

00:26:38.860 So even though those aren't the princesses you asked about characters too, I love the seven dwarves.

00:26:44.620 Grumpy is adorable. So is Dopey. So is Doc. It's great. That movie is wonderful. Okay so I have been

00:26:51.540 here for a very long time so we're going to do the very last question which is how do you deal with

00:26:56.300 conflict in your relationship? I'm so lucky because Jacob is an incredible communicator so we can really

00:27:02.660 sit down and have a conversation. Now that doesn't mean that we don't have conflict. Every relationship

00:27:07.620 has conflict. Literally every relationship has conflict and if somebody tells you otherwise I

00:27:12.240 think that that is untrue. Now that doesn't necessarily mean they're going to be fighting

00:27:16.360 and yelling at each other but it does mean that you will have disagreements. That's normal. I think

00:27:21.160 something that Jacob and I work on in our marriage is that if we're disagreeing about something

00:27:27.260 we can each voice how we're feeling and why we're upset but we really do admit when the other person

00:27:35.700 said something that's true. And that can be hard when somebody gives you a criticism to accept it

00:27:40.240 and recognize that it's accurate. But I think that's kind of what keeps our arguments from turning

00:27:44.140 into fights is that if somebody says about the other person that they acted in a certain way

00:27:50.400 if it's true we'll agree. We'll say that you know what that's fair. I did act that way and that's true.

00:27:57.860 And even if that doesn't necessarily mean that that solves the whole argument it just shows that

00:28:03.540 you are having this discussion in good faith. That you're not saying no I'm right in every single way

00:28:08.480 and it doesn't matter how I voiced it and it doesn't matter you know my tone of voice. No. If my tone

00:28:13.820 of voice was bad and what I was saying was good. If Jacob says well maybe what you were saying is

00:28:20.100 true but the way you said it I couldn't listen to. I can recognize that that's true and say okay fair

00:28:26.120 enough. Like that is fair and true. I didn't say that in the best way possible. And he's the same way

00:28:31.840 in the sense that I'm able to say okay well you did this and he can say okay I did do that.

00:28:37.340 And admitting fault in the middle of an argument to the person that you're arguing with it's so

00:28:43.500 it diffuses the tension a little bit because it allows you guys to really understand that you're

00:28:49.220 on the same team and you don't want to be treating each other poorly even if you disagree. So that is

00:28:54.280 a huge piece of advice I have about conflict is even when you're angry don't let your pride get in

00:29:00.560 the way of resolving the argument. So if there was fault on your side accepting that there was

00:29:08.480 fault on your side because 99% of the time arguments aren't just one person being terrible. Usually

00:29:14.380 both people have something that kind of like created that. So if you are able to recognize your part

00:29:22.880 in that argument then you can actually resolve it and it's I just think it's something that I really

00:29:28.820 love about Jacob and I love about our marriage. So that is it for today's video. Thank you guys

00:29:33.980 so much for watching. It was so much fun to go through these questions from you guys and to hear

00:29:38.460 from you. I absolutely love doing this and I love I love getting to communicate with you in this way.

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Classically Abby - February 04, 2021

Do I Want KIDS？？ Was I Ever LEFTIST？？｜｜ Answering YOUR Questions About ANYTHING!

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Classically Abby - February 04, 2021

Do I Want KIDS？？ Was I Ever LEFTIST？？ ｜｜ Answering YOUR Questions About ANYTHING!

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Do I Want KIDS？？ Was I Ever LEFTIST？？｜｜ Answering YOUR Questions About ANYTHING!