Embrace SLOW LIVING And Stop Feeling Like A FAILURE
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about the benefits of slow living and how we can incorporate it into our daily lives. I also talk about how slow living can help you be more present and aware of your surroundings, and how you can incorporate this into your daily routine.
Transcript
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Hello Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where I'm going to be talking about
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If you are new to my channel, here we talk about classic living and traditional values,
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to your inbox, including my weekly article, my book club, and my exclusive podcast. So now that we've
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got that out of the way, I'm really excited to talk to you guys about this idea that I am just
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now learning of slow living. I am not someone who has really thought about this in the past,
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and so this is something that I've all of a sudden kind of been a part of my life,
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and I think a lot of that has to do with being pregnant. So I'm excited to share my thoughts on
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this with you guys today. Hopefully, I can inspire you guys to incorporate some of these things
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into your daily routine. So now let's get into it. So I think it would be valuable for us to first look
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up the definition of slow living according to the internet, right? Of course, there's a lot of
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different ways you can interpret that phrase. So this is just one that I came across that sort of rang
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true for me in some ways. And I want to talk about kind of the way that I think the internet
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term slow living and the way that I would view slow living. So let's start there. So the first
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thing I'm going to talk about, this is from a website called Vanilla Papers, and they made like
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a graphic and it says, what is slow living? A slow approach to everyday life, mindfulness or being
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present and aware of your surroundings, a connection to community, a commitment to purpose, knowing that
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faster isn't always better, and consuming less. Now, I think all of those things are great and
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wonderful ways to just live and things to incorporate into our daily lives. I think that
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really does go hand in hand with so much of what we talk about here at Classically Abbey.
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But one of the things that I think isn't mentioned, and what I'm realizing, is that slow living,
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a lot of it has to do with trust in God. I used to think that slow living was more of an aesthetic
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thing. Like people would talk about, in the same way that you can talk about so many things from an
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aesthetic perspective, like minimalism or cottage core, or like all of these things that are very
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pretty to look at and aesthetically pleasing. I used to think that slow living kind of went into that
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category. And the thing is that what I'm realizing is that slow living is, can be an aesthetic. But I
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think what's more important is that it's allowing you to be relaxed because God can take the lead,
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in the sense that you trust God. You know that things are going to happen, things are going to
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get done, because with God's help, everything will be okay. And once you're in that perspective,
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in that mindset of trusting in God, relying on God, relying on God's help, you can approach life
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from this slow living perspective. And it's less intimidating, it's less about controlling everything
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in order to make sure everything gets done. You can recognize that sometimes things aren't going
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to get done, but that's okay, because you will have God's help. So I think that's like the first place
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I started with slow living, was realizing that, okay, God is going to be the one in control here,
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I don't have to be the one in control. And that really allowed me to take this step back from like,
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oh my gosh, I'm stressed and everything needs to get done, to, you know, if everything doesn't get
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done today, that's okay. But the really big thing that pushed me into this thought process
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was being pregnant in the third trimester. I have been loving being pregnant. I've talked
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about that a lot on my channel. I feel really blessed that this has been a really beautiful
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experience for me. But the third trimester, I don't think it's like easy for anyone.
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It's uncomfortable. I get tired so easily. We moved during the third trimester. So me trying to like
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help at all just was not a thing. And when I did try and help, I hurt my back, bending over was just
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not happening. I tried to do it and I couldn't do it. And it was not, it was not good. And I pulled a
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muscle in my back. So with all that in mind, I had to embrace slow living in a sense, because normally
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I'm the kind of person who's like, go, go, go get everything done. And I get overwhelmed because I
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push myself to get so much done. Now I'm at this point where I cannot physically get everything done.
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It will not happen. I can't get the house unpacked, even though I would really love to.
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I can't get all of my work done. I can't clean the kitchen every night, because I don't physically
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have the energy for it. And I don't physically have the capability for it in a lot of ways.
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So I had to come to the realization that either I'm going to live the next eight weeks of this
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pregnancy, and after that, because I'll have a new baby, feeling constantly like a failure,
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because I didn't get everything done on my to do list. Or I had to realize, you know what,
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if it doesn't get done today, it will get done tomorrow. This is the first time I've ever felt
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like that. And I'm okay with it. And I'm happy about it. I'm like, you know what, it'll get done.
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Everything will get done, even if it's not today, even if it's not on my original schedule.
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I am so at peace with this, with this philosophy, with this feeling of I don't need to rush all the
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time. I don't need to move fast. I don't need everything to be on this schedule that will make
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me feel like I've failed if I don't get it done. I don't need to do those things to be happy,
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to be fulfilled, because everything will work out in its time. Guys, embracing this perspective
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is so freeing. And I really recommend considering trying to incorporate some of these thoughts and
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practices into your life of, if it doesn't get done today, it will get done tomorrow. I wrote down in
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my notes, still being tidy, clean, and deliberate, but now your intentionality is even more directed
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because you know you might only get one or two things done on your to-do list. I think that is a
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really good way to view things. It's not that you're going to be a mess. It's not that you're going to be
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lazy. It's not that you're going to let things slip through the cracks, but you have to be even more
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deliberate when you recognize that there are demands on your time. And there are things you
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just are not physically capable of doing. And when you realize that stuff, then when you actually go to
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look at your to-do list, you're going to be like, okay, well, this does have to get done today. So that
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top of my list, and I will get that done today. But if the 10th thing on my list doesn't get done today,
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that's okay. I think there's, at least for me, there was confusion of, okay, well, if it doesn't
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get done today, then that means I'm just going to end up being a mess. And I don't think that's
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how things have to be. It actually forces you to be more intentional than otherwise, because you have
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to use your time wisely. I'm honestly really looking forward to taking this perspective through
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motherhood. And I feel really blessed that I'm starting to learn it now before having a newborn.
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Because I think if I was trying to juggle this emotional feeling of feeling overwhelmed, like I
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can't get anything done with a newborn, I would feel like really bad about myself. But feeling it now,
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in late pregnancy, and hopefully carrying that perspective through to motherhood,
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motherhood, this is something I'm going to need in motherhood. I know I'm going to have less time
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with a baby. I know that there's going to be maybe one thing on my to-do list I'll be able to get done
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every day with a newborn. I'll be tired. I'll have a little one clinging to me. I'll have to nurse all
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the time. You know, it's not something that I'm going to be having like tons of time to do all of the
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other things I need to get done or want to get done. But viewing my life from this slow living
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perspective is going to make being a mother so much better, I think, for me. I won't have to
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constantly be worried that things aren't going to get done because it's not about everything getting
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done at once. It's about things getting done in time. So that is my video for today. I hope I gave
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you a little bit of inspiration for your perspectives on slow living. I think that slow living is something
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we can all incorporate into our lives a little bit more. And depending on where you're at and what
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stage of life you're in, you can incorporate it more or less. But even just changing the way
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you understand things, I think, can really give you a better way of approaching it. And that
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is invaluable. So that is my video for today. Thank you so much for watching. Let me know your
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