Classically Abby - For The Women Who Aren't Married And Don't Have Children： This Is For YOU.

00:00:00.160 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where I want to share my thoughts

00:00:04.400 on being single, those of you who aren't yet mothers, who aren't yet married,

00:00:09.440 and why you are still so incredibly worthy.

00:00:18.480 If you are new to my channel, here we talk about classic living and traditional values

00:00:22.240 and I would love if you would consider subscribing and hitting that notification bell. If you'd like

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00:00:36.640 Now I have a playlist on my channel that I've called sharing my thoughts and in this series of

00:00:42.160 videos I kind of just talk about the things I've been thinking about lately and it's not to change

00:00:47.680 anyone's mind, it's not here to convince you of anything, it's more to just start a conversation

00:00:53.920 and see where other people are at. So today I really want to talk to those of you who aren't

00:00:59.120 married yet, who don't have children yet, who are still single, maybe you're past the point in your

00:01:04.720 life where you would get married and have children and you are just single and that is your life and

00:01:10.880 I really want to talk to you guys just about how you can still be classic, you can still be worthy,

00:01:17.680 you can still have value. These are all true statements and just how that fits into the classic

00:01:24.880 traditional perspective. So let's just get right into it. So in a lot of my videos I talk about

00:01:32.400 the importance of having children, the importance of getting married, the importance of doing these

00:01:39.520 traditional steps in life and a lot of my content is geared toward those women who don't know that

00:01:47.440 that's important, who think that being empowered is being independent, who think that an abortion

00:01:53.200 is better than having a child, who think that being in a long-term relationship that has no future and

00:01:58.640 won't end in marriage or children is more empowering than getting married, having a stable life, raising a

00:02:06.720 family, being part of community, that kind of a thing. So a lot of my content is geared towards those

00:02:11.600 women who don't know that yet but there are so many of you wonderful people in the comments who

00:02:19.600 believe and agree with what I'm saying but just it hasn't either worked out quite yet, you're still

00:02:26.720 waiting, you're in a period of life before your marriage and before you've had children and you just

00:02:34.000 don't have these things yet. And my worry is that because I make this content which is geared toward

00:02:41.680 convincing those women who yet don't know that this is so important, it could make somebody who is

00:02:51.280 not in that stage of life feel like they don't have value or their life at this point isn't worthy.

00:02:58.960 And what I really want to clarify is that if you know that these things are important, if you agree

00:03:06.160 that a traditional stable marriage and life and family is the building block of society and

00:03:12.960 civilization, if you know that these are important things and you're just not there yet, you just

00:03:18.000 haven't met the right guy, you may be struggling with infertility, whatever it is, you have value,

00:03:25.280 you are worthy. If you have the right intentions and you're just not there yet or your path has gone

00:03:31.920 in a different direction but you know the importance of these things then that's what matters, that's the

00:03:40.320 important thing. I am encouraging women away from making bad decisions that'll hurt them but there's a 0.79

00:03:47.760 difference between making bad choices and being led in a different direction by God. So I should

00:03:54.320 differentiate a little bit between the two different groups I'm addressing in this video. So there's

00:03:59.120 the women who are young and single and who haven't yet found the right guy but would like to and would 1.00

00:04:06.960 like to have a family. Okay that's one group. The second group is those women who maybe are past the point 1.00

00:04:14.800 of childbearing years, have never gotten married, would have wanted to but that just didn't end up happening

00:04:20.720 for them and now they're living a different life. Both of those kinds of women have an incredibly 1.00

00:04:27.520 beautiful life and I think that it's really important to understand that it's not you making a

00:04:34.720 choice away from these values we hold so dear. It's just not the right timing or it's being led in a

00:04:42.880 different direction and that is a beautiful thing. So for those of you who are still single, are still

00:04:49.200 waiting on meeting the right guy, who haven't had children yet, the thing to keep in mind there is

00:04:55.040 that it's so important to enjoy every juncture in your life. Being grateful to God and enjoying this

00:05:02.960 part of your life where you are single, where you can take time to develop your interests, develop yourself,

00:05:08.400 make yourself a wonderful person, volunteer, date and meet people so that you can find the right guy.

00:05:16.240 That's a great part of your life. Those years are invaluable and really beautiful and important.

00:05:22.560 And on the other side for those women who are a little bit past that point, maybe just never met

00:05:27.040 the right guy but still have an open heart, I think that's what's so important. Keeping an open heart

00:05:32.000 and an open mind but not hating where you are, enjoying where you are, loving where you are. It's sort of like

00:05:40.480 body positivity. The bad version of body positivity is I don't want to hate my body because my body is

00:05:50.080 a beautiful thing and it does so much for me but in doing that I'm not going to work hard to better

00:05:58.240 my body. So even if I'm obese, I'm not going to lose weight because I love my body. Or even if I'm

00:06:04.080 anorexic, I'm not going to work on that condition and make myself a healthy weight. The good version

00:06:10.480 of body positivity is I love my body because of what it does for me and because of that,

00:06:15.760 I want to work hard to make it healthy. Now does that mean I have to hate where my body is right

00:06:21.280 now? No. Do I have to hate the way it looks? Absolutely not. It's just I constantly want to

00:06:26.320 improve it and make it better so that I'm healthy. The same is true with dating and marriage and

00:06:34.400 children. If you hate where you're at, then you're not being grateful to God for the life that you're

00:06:40.960 living. But you can't love where you're at so much, love that you eschew what those traditional

00:06:50.400 values could lead you to. So even if you think you're past the point of getting married or past

00:06:55.040 the point of maybe not having your own children but fostering or being involved in your niece's

00:07:01.200 and nephew's lives or the children in your community's lives, even if you think you're past

00:07:06.400 that point, keeping an open heart and open mind without saying I hate where I'm at just by saying

00:07:12.240 I love where I'm at, but if God gives me an opportunity for something different, I'm open to

00:07:17.040 that. That is a beautifully positive thing. I think what I really want to say is that you are as beautiful,

00:07:25.680 valuable, worthy, married with children as you are when you're single and you don't have children yet.

00:07:33.680 Because really, the thing about it is if you accept the main tenets of these traditional values as

00:07:43.680 truth, and if you do, and you just haven't reached that point yet, that's totally fine. There's a reason

00:07:51.680 you are where God put you. I mean, trusting God is really the way I have been able to navigate so many

00:07:57.840 hard times in my life and also been able to navigate those times where I wanted something

00:08:03.440 but God wanted something different for me. And I think that's really what it comes down to. So if you

00:08:08.880 can enjoy where you are, love where you are, while also trusting God's vision and path for you, then

00:08:17.600 you're doing it all right. Like, just love where you're at. Enjoy it. Keep an open heart, but enjoy what

00:08:24.160 you're doing. That's what I think is the most important thing. So I want you to know, if you

00:08:30.880 ever see a video that I post or write an article that I write that says how important motherhood,

00:08:37.920 marriage, traditional lives are, but you haven't been able to accomplish it or you're not there yet,

00:08:45.200 it's not to undermine where you are. It's to teach those women who don't yet know the importance of

00:08:51.840 these things, not to purposefully move in the wrong direction. So I hope you guys enjoyed today's video.

00:08:59.840 I'd really like to know your comments down below. I just, I have to say, I loved my single life. I

00:09:06.000 really did. I thought that there was so much fun that you can do. Now being a mom and being married,

00:09:11.120 the timing of your day is so much led by your child and your husband, and you just don't have

00:09:19.120 as much freedom as you did. And that's okay. It's a beautiful thing, but it is

00:09:24.320 different than what you had when you were 21 or 22. And so enjoying those years where you can do

00:09:30.560 whatever you want on your schedule is really important. Like that's a wonderful time in your

00:09:36.240 life. So cool. And if you are older and you are, you know, not getting married and not having children,

00:09:44.000 but you have developed a really beautiful relationship with God, with your community,

00:09:48.160 with your family, that's awesome. Maybe you are doing something with your work. That's really

00:09:54.960 important. And that's really bringing joy and happiness and goodness into the world. That's amazing.

00:10:01.200 I don't think that you should issue family for work in order to, in order to give that joy to people

00:10:10.640 outside of your home. But if that didn't end up working out for you, where you have children, where

00:10:16.400 you are raising a family, why not share those gifts with people outside of the home? Absolutely. That is

00:10:23.840 what God wanted you to do. Clearly. I hope you guys enjoyed today's video. Let me know your thoughts

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00:10:42.480 Thank you guys so much for watching and I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye.

00:10:59.200 Bye.

Classically Abby - November 24, 2022

For The Women Who Aren't Married And Don't Have Children： This Is For YOU.

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