Classically Abby - Having A Miscarriage And Being Pregnant Again Made Me EVEN MORE Pro-Life

00:00:00.000 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.200 how being pregnant has made me even more pro-life.

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00:00:25.080 not available anywhere else. So I'm going to consider this part of my series that I've been

00:00:30.940 doing on my channel where I've just been sharing my thoughts and feelings as I've been navigating

00:00:35.740 pregnancy and impending motherhood and it's really an exciting time for me but it also has meant that

00:00:42.540 I've I've undergone a lot of kind of changes in my thinking and I really like sharing this with you

00:00:48.520 because I think that this channel is wonderful in that it provides a space for us to talk about

00:00:53.620 things that don't necessarily have a space on the internet or at least on YouTube where we can

00:01:01.180 talk about these things openly and freely and actually start a conversation and I'm really

00:01:06.220 glad to have people in the comments here even if you disagree with what I'm talking about I would

00:01:10.180 love to have you comment in as long as it's respectful just because it is about having a

00:01:15.360 conversation. So this isn't meant to be a diatribe it's not meant to really try and change anyone's mind

00:01:21.660 I just want to share my experience and how I've become more pro-life through the process of

00:01:28.240 pregnancy. So I'm looking forward to sharing kind of all my thoughts on this so let's get into today's

00:01:34.060 video. So if you didn't know I had a miscarriage earlier this year I had a missed miscarriage at 12

00:01:42.480 weeks I found out at 10 weeks the baby had stopped growing and that was one of the most influential 1.00

00:01:50.020 experiences in my life to who I've become as a woman and what I want out of life. I always knew

00:01:56.880 I wanted children but having a miscarriage and getting really excited about this baby coming into

00:02:03.180 your life and then losing that baby it makes you appreciate the process of pregnancy from start to

00:02:09.960 finish. It makes you appreciate how lucky every child that is born is and it made me realize how much

00:02:18.420 of a pro-life advocate I wanted to be. Now I'd always been a pro-life advocate I've always been

00:02:24.440 super pro-life I have a lot of videos on my channel about that if you are interested in seeing my thoughts

00:02:30.520 on being pro-life you can check those out I definitely talk about them I respond to people's comments about

00:02:35.580 it but actually experiencing pregnancy and then losing my child that was a game changer and it was

00:02:45.760 the most devastating thing that's ever happened to me. I don't think that that pain will ever truly go

00:02:51.500 away and it made me realize just how much I had taken for granted when it came to pregnancy. I had

00:02:58.220 taken for granted that we would be able to get pregnant I mean I had obviously there's always a

00:03:02.540 concern but like I had taken that for granted you know in a sense because I didn't know and then I

00:03:08.140 took for granted that I would have a healthy pregnancy and I would have a healthy baby and I could plan

00:03:12.880 everything to the moment and I would know exactly when I wanted that baby and I would just say okay

00:03:17.460 today is the day let's make a baby and then I realized you know that that's just not the case

00:03:23.180 everything is in God's hands and for me to think that I had so much control over the birth of my child

00:03:30.300 was unrealistic and wasn't trusting in God and I think you can extrapolate from that I know I did I

00:03:36.660 extrapolated that you know even for me who is pro-life and who wants children thinking that I can have

00:03:43.940 this sort of control over when a child comes into my life you can extrapolate that into the pro-choice

00:03:48.820 movement of I get to decide if this baby that I've that I've conceived lives or dies. That was a big

00:03:56.620 moment for me and then of course the idea that there are women out there who struggle to conceive who 1.00

00:04:01.280 struggle to maintain a healthy pregnancy and then there are other women who are just getting rid of 1.00

00:04:07.640 these babies lives because they're inconvenient. That was it's devastating when you when you think

00:04:13.860 about it and when I had gone through it and I knew how much of a life had grown inside me even when it

00:04:22.560 stopped. I mean by 10 weeks a baby is really developed and that was really hard for me especially

00:04:29.040 because when you're going through these pregnancy apps you see the development from week to week so

00:04:34.700 you know how far along your baby is. That was really hard but it taught me a lot. Now I am pregnant again

00:04:42.240 we are six months into this pregnancy and this baby is healthy and growing and I have been so grateful

00:04:51.000 for everything in this pregnancy. Every day I was morning sick I felt like it was a gift. It was a gift

00:04:57.200 because I knew the baby was still growing healthy and every day that I feel a kick I just feel like

00:05:04.040 so lucky and so blessed that I get to grow this baby and I get to experience the miracle of growing

00:05:12.440 life. Seeing my baby's heartbeat, seeing my baby's face, seeing my baby's little hands and feet. I know

00:05:19.900 there's a reason why we show ultrasounds to women because I think if women see their babies on ultrasound 1.00

00:05:27.040 I think they'd realize what they were doing and it would make those women who are considering

00:05:32.020 abortion a lot more scared and reticent to do so. Because seeing a baby, recognizing how much of a

00:05:38.700 baby your child is so early on in the process and of course from the moment of conception scientifically

00:05:45.500 but what we can see and kind of almost conceive of that it would stop women in their tracks from 0.97

00:05:53.260 making a choice that I believe they'd regret. The fact of the matter is even if you don't feel ready

00:06:00.400 to have a baby that baby deserves life. Life has human value. I talked about this on my brother's podcast

00:06:07.700 but every life has value no matter what situation that life is in. So for us to decide that a life

00:06:15.720 in the womb isn't worthy is playing God and we don't have the right to do that because we know 1.00

00:06:21.940 from a scientific perspective getting into all this right that a baby is a baby from the moment of

00:06:26.980 conception. It has separate DNA from yourself immediately and everything is determined from

00:06:31.200 the moment of conception and that is when life begins. For every other animal we know that's when the

00:06:36.060 life cycle begins but because for us we want to try and find a time when life begins so that we can

00:06:40.140 make a decision about whether or not we have to bear that child we try to fuzzy that line and there's

00:06:47.240 no way to fuzzy it. It is what it is. And I think one of the other things that I've realized after being

00:06:53.140 pregnant and having that miscarriage is just how much of a lie it is that having a baby will destroy 0.95

00:07:01.260 your dreams. This is like a line that the pro-choice movement has like gotten behind that having a baby

00:07:08.980 might derail your dreams. You know you see all these women who are actresses it really is generally 1.00

00:07:15.440 actresses talking about how they had an abortion and if they hadn't had an abortion they wouldn't

00:07:20.160 be where they are today. To me in a way that's human sacrifice like why do you need to sacrifice a

00:07:25.260 person so that you can have fame. Also I don't think that a child needs to stop you from pursuing

00:07:32.660 your dreams. Number one your baby is your dream. Being a mother is your dream. But number two we

00:07:39.840 don't need to view children as a burden. We don't need to view children as an obstacle. Babies are the

00:07:45.940 best gift that anyone can ever receive. It's just a beautiful thing that we get to do as women

00:07:51.600 is bear children and grow them inside of our wombs. And that's another thing that I've been thinking 0.98

00:07:58.440 a lot about is this narrative that is put out that pregnancy is the worst and that it is just the

00:08:04.100 worst thing ever and that every woman suffers and hates it. And yes there are hard parts of pregnancy

00:08:09.420 but there are many women including me and I feel so grateful for this and I want to do another video

00:08:17.240 talking about it who love pregnancy and love being pregnant and actually feel really good about it.

00:08:25.500 And I think having the miscarriage really changed my outlook on things but also I just love being

00:08:32.280 pregnant. I love feeling my baby. I think it is a beautiful thing. So scaring women by constantly 0.99

00:08:39.160 saying how hard pregnancy is is just unfair and unrealistic. And even if pregnancy is hard it doesn't

00:08:46.320 negate how valuable human life is. I just I'm so excited about being a mother to this little boy

00:08:52.740 I can't wait. And it's about for me a huge part of that is about becoming a better person over time

00:09:00.440 through being his mother. I look forward to to the part of me that I haven't met yet

00:09:07.860 becoming a better person through motherhood. That is so exciting to me. And I know there are so

00:09:16.140 many young women who have been lied to and tell themselves that they could never be mothers

00:09:22.820 because they're too selfish to be mothers and like they didn't they don't want to put that on 0.87

00:09:26.820 someone else. But the fact of the matter is when women talk that way what they're really saying 1.00

00:09:31.500 is that they are allowing themselves to be selfish because they're afraid of having to grow.

00:09:40.660 And I think that women men all of us the classic way of living is learning to better yourself and

00:09:49.560 wanting to better yourself and in doing so making the world better. And if you are on that path of

00:09:56.640 knowing you want to be better and knowing you want to better yourself then you can't be so selfish as

00:10:03.000 to not have a child. You can't just shrug off the responsibility of becoming a parent. Life isn't

00:10:10.920 about being selfish and pursuing all these pleasures and doing all these things. Life is about growing

00:10:18.200 through faith, family, and community. By embracing traditional values we become better and we make

00:10:25.480 the world better. And I think that is a much more important and better legacy to leave than I traveled

00:10:32.980 or I followed earthly physical pleasures for my 75 years, my 90 years, whatever it is. You know at the

00:10:40.500 end of the day being pregnant has just taught me how much value there is to my son's life. The idea that

00:10:49.680 he is less valuable because he hasn't been born yet is is just not true. I love him. My husband loves him.

00:10:58.240 My family loves him. We all love this baby who has yet to be born. I feel his kicks. I know he's there. I felt

00:11:07.560 his kicks 16 weeks. At 16 weeks I started feeling him. That's really early. And I know he has a purpose and a

00:11:16.140 reason to be and to be born. And there is a reason that God chose me to be his mother and chose us to

00:11:22.980 conceive him. And that is what pregnancy is teaching me is that being a pro-life advocate is about recognizing

00:11:32.580 the worth of every child to be born and that they have a right to be born. So I'm so excited to meet

00:11:41.600 this little guy. I wanted to share my thoughts on being pregnant and pro-life. Let me know in the

00:11:46.580 comments your thoughts on all this. I'd love to hear. Make sure to subscribe to my channel and hit that

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00:12:00.040 Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye!

Classically Abby - December 23, 2021

Having A Miscarriage And Being Pregnant Again Made Me EVEN MORE Pro-Life

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