Classically Abby - How To FLIRT And Get A Man's Attention ⧸⧸ 5 Tips!

00:00:00.080 hello classic crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.480 how to flirt and get the attention of the guy you want

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00:00:47.120 want to talk all about flirting i feel like flirting is a lost art it's a little bit difficult to navigate

00:00:54.880 and i remember when i was dating i would have loved a video telling me kind of how to flirt and how to

00:01:01.200 get a guy's attention but also that would tell me what was important in flirting and that sometimes 0.81

00:01:08.320 it's not only about getting the guy you think you want but also paying attention to the guy who maybe

00:01:14.800 you're not necessarily thinking about so i really want to share my thoughts on flirting i think there

00:01:20.080 are a lot of great ways to go about it so let's get into it the first thing you need to know about

00:01:26.160 flirting is to choose the right guy to flirt with it's not worth trying to get the attention of a guy 1.00

00:01:32.880 who doesn't deserve you now something i want to kind of say and preface this with is that getting the

00:01:38.480 attention of men is very difficult if they're not already interested in you if a guy is not already

00:01:45.120 interested in you then you going out of your way to try to get his attention actually can backfire

00:01:50.080 but not only that he he's not expressing interest and there's a reason and you want the guy who you

00:01:56.640 date to have an interest in you you are not generally going to be the pursuer he is it's a hard

00:02:03.520 thing to accept as women that we don't get to kind of choose who we date but at the end of the day

00:02:09.040 it's it's just the facts of life women like to be pursued men like to pursue so if you feel like

00:02:16.160 you are the one pursuing a guy then it's probably not going to be the best fit now is that a hundred

00:02:22.640 percent true no nothing is ever a hundred percent true but it's generally a good rule of thumb to

00:02:28.320 recognize that if he is not expressing interest in you at all he's not interested and it's also

00:02:34.880 important not to waste your energy and your time on somebody who doesn't return that interest

00:02:40.800 outside of just the interest part of things you also don't want to focus your energies on a guy

00:02:45.120 who's not a good fit for you who's not going to be kind of a long lasting option and somebody you

00:02:51.280 could marry and have a family with i think it's very easy to get caught up when you're dating and

00:02:56.720 you're young in the heat of the moment and the guy who every girl thinks is really attractive 0.96

00:03:02.960 or is the bad boy or whatever else it is but that guy is not worth your time or your feminine energy

00:03:09.760 you should be looking for the guy who's a good guy who when you put out your energy of i'm interested

00:03:16.240 he is the kind of guy who would be a good match for you because wasting all that time and energy on a

00:03:22.960 guy who theoretically could be interested in you but really isn't a good fit for you is just a waste of

00:03:28.800 your own time number two is make eye contact eye contact is one of those things that is so

00:03:36.480 intimate and so kind of sexy without doing anything sexual and it can be super useful in situations

00:03:45.600 where maybe there's somebody across the room that you think is attractive you make eye contact he's

00:03:51.600 interested you're interested and he knows now that you might be willing to have a conversation with him

00:03:57.760 so he might walk over and you can have that conversation because you just subtly lifted your

00:04:03.520 eyes and gave him sort of a hint that you are expressing interest making eye contact is one of

00:04:11.200 those tools that we as women have to show that we are open to a man coming over and talking to us and a 0.91

00:04:18.960 woman making eye contact is also just a very attractive thing it's very attracting to have a woman look you 1.00

00:04:26.480 in the eye and men really like that so if you're interested in a guy if you see someone who you

00:04:31.920 think you could be interested in having a conversation with making eye contact so that he feels like

00:04:37.040 he can come over and talk to you is a really great first step for initiating that conversation now as

00:04:44.800 well once you guys are in conversation you should maintain eye contact now not in an uncomfortable way

00:04:51.120 if you've ever been in a situation where somebody's making too much eye contact it's really awkward and

00:04:55.760 i hate that and it's not conducive to a laid-back conversation but just kind of like peeking out

00:05:00.960 from under your eyelashes a little bit and making eye contact in those moments where it feels natural

00:05:06.240 and right that is a very good way to show that you are still maintaining your interest it's always

00:05:12.640 good to remember that men want to believe that women are interested in them but they still want to 0.96

00:05:17.920 feel like they are doing the pursuing so if you make that eye contact across the room rather than just

00:05:24.240 walking across the room and talking to them then they can actually still feel like they're

00:05:29.840 doing the pursuing because you've shown that you're interested just with a little slight nod in

00:05:35.360 their direction but not just taking the lead and taking control men still like to be able to pursue

00:05:42.240 you and letting him come to you will make you feel better in that interaction number three is be a

00:05:48.000 good listener i think sometimes when we as women get excited about a prospect we think a guy is cute

00:05:54.800 or attractive and we are enjoying having a conversation we start to talk too much and we kind of

00:06:01.600 we we take over the conversation and i think that it's really important to stay calm and listen to what

00:06:09.600 he has to say now does that mean you have to tone down your personality absolutely not it just means

00:06:15.680 you want to make sure that you're not letting your kind of adrenaline take over the first interaction

00:06:21.440 and listening is a really good way to show that you're interested in what he has to say and then

00:06:25.600 when you're speaking of course he should be a good listener too so it's it shows that there's a good

00:06:30.480 give and take in your conversational styles so listen really well and another very good tip is to

00:06:38.240 laugh at his jokes when they're funny laughing generally is good even if they're not that funny

00:06:45.120 but actually laughing at his jokes men love to feel like they're making you happy that's a really

00:06:50.960 important thing for men they want to feel like they're making you laugh and they're making you happy 0.76

00:06:54.880 so showing that they're making you laugh is actually very flattering for them it makes them feel good

00:07:00.800 so when he tells a joke laughing at it really taking enjoyment in his company shows that you're

00:07:07.440 interested and continues to make him feel good about your whole interaction number four is look

00:07:13.680 pretty and natural when you are going out to meet a guy you want to look your best but you don't want

00:07:20.320 to look fake and i think that this is something i had to learn because i loved makeup so much when i was

00:07:26.720 younger and when i was dating that i would do these really intense makeup looks which did make me look

00:07:32.160 attractive but they didn't show what i really looked like and i know jacob has told me many times

00:07:37.920 that he prefers me without makeup at all and men like to see women looking beautiful and natural so

00:07:44.160 putting on the kind of makeup that accentuates your features without distracting not wearing blue eyeliner

00:07:51.280 or something really intensely colored on the eyes wearing maybe like a pink eyeshadow or just a

00:07:57.440 little bit of foundation and contour just like a little bit just something that brings out your

00:08:03.120 features and accentuates them but doesn't actually distract from them or make it look like you're

00:08:07.920 wearing some sort of mask that is just not the ideal situation for attracting a guy so you want to

00:08:14.640 look natural you want to wear feminine clothing clothing that accentuates your figure but doesn't make your

00:08:20.480 figure the main point of conversation you don't want to be wearing something that shows off

00:08:25.200 everything that is not flirtatious that is just sexual and when you are meeting a guy and you're

00:08:32.240 flirting and you're trying to date for a good reason for a long-term relationship distracting him

00:08:38.240 with what you're wearing and with your body is not conducive to that actually working out so you want

00:08:43.840 to make sure that you are dressing in a way that looks nice for you and that shows that you have

00:08:50.240 taken time to take care of your appearance is attractive but isn't distracting again this is

00:08:55.360 all about making you look your best without distracting from who you are as a person and

00:08:59.760 wearing something pretty and feminine is just going to make you look beautiful and make him

00:09:05.600 want to get to know you better wearing a nice perfume wearing something subtle not really overpowering

00:09:11.520 but wearing something that just makes you smell good is a very attractive and flirtatious thing

00:09:17.600 because it's just something that he'll he'll get a whiff of and think of you and that is a very pretty

00:09:23.440 kind of feminine thing we can do to leave a lasting impression on men and of course last but not least 1.00

00:09:30.880 you want to look welcoming you want to have a nice smile you don't want to look grumpy so when you are

00:09:37.360 going out and you're trying to meet someone just looking friendly if you look unhappy if you look

00:09:43.440 unapproachable then you will not be approached so having a nice smile on your face is something that

00:09:50.320 can really encourage a man to think oh she's going to be welcoming she's going to be nice and he might

00:09:54.960 want to come over and talk to you last but not least is kind of an interesting one but be honest about

00:10:00.240 your schedule so the point of this is if a man asks you out on a date at the end of your flirtatious

00:10:07.440 conversation be honest about how busy you are don't make it seem like you're over eager don't

00:10:14.880 make it seem like you're free any night that he wants if you are actually busy don't move around

00:10:20.400 your schedule to go on a date with him tell him that you're busy that night so you can find a night

00:10:25.520 that works but he wants to know that you are a person with your own life and he wants to work for

00:10:31.040 you a little it's always good to remember that men like to pursue a bit so this isn't to say you should

00:10:37.040 lie it's to say that you need to know your own priorities and your own worth and if you have a

00:10:43.680 prior engagement you have a prior engagement and that is actually a good thing it's a good sign it

00:10:48.880 shows that you are a busy person that you have your own life and you're doing your own thing and he

00:10:53.920 won't think that you will end up being clingy or something like that so that's always important

00:10:59.360 so those are my five flirting tips ways to get a guy interested in you but i do want to say

00:11:06.880 that dating is really hard and it doesn't often work out that the guy that you're interested in

00:11:12.640 who doesn't show any interest in you is going to all of a sudden change his mind based on your

00:11:17.840 flirting behavior a lot of the time the guy who you aren't even trying to get his attention is the 0.63

00:11:23.600 guy who's really interested in you and then it turns out that hey you actually end up liking him

00:11:29.280 you just didn't even realize it to begin with you don't really pick a guy flirt and he becomes yours

00:11:35.520 like i said most of the time a guy picks you and then you sort of realize oh i really i really like

00:11:42.000 him too and that doesn't mean that you don't flirt in those situations it doesn't mean that you you

00:11:46.480 might not need to like flirt a little bit more to get this man's attention but the most important

00:11:51.040 thing to remember is that the guy who isn't interested from the get-go is not going to become

00:11:56.640 interested in you through sheer force of will you want the guy you end up with to want you that is

00:12:03.040 just the best feeling ever is when a man really wants you and if that comes through you flirting

00:12:09.440 with him from across the room or if it comes from him approaching you without you even having put out

00:12:15.360 those signals it doesn't matter because at the end of the day the guy that you end up with should be

00:12:20.160 the guy who you see a future with who you want to marry who you want to have children with and that is

00:12:24.960 the most important thing so i hope you guys enjoyed today's video let me know in the comments your

00:12:29.600 thoughts if you have any other tips for flirting thank you so much for watching if you haven't

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Classically Abby - November 10, 2021

How To FLIRT And Get A Man's Attention ⧸⧸ 5 Tips!

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