How To FLIRT And Get A Man's Attention ⧸⧸ 5 Tips!
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In honor of my birthday, I wanted to talk all about flirting and how to get the attention of the guy you want. Flirting is a lost art, but there are a ton of ways to get a guy's attention through flirting.
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hello classic crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
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how to flirt and get the attention of the guy you want
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purchase price be donated to pro-life causes and organizations in honor of my birthday but today i
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want to talk all about flirting i feel like flirting is a lost art it's a little bit difficult to navigate
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and i remember when i was dating i would have loved a video telling me kind of how to flirt and how to
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get a guy's attention but also that would tell me what was important in flirting and that sometimes
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it's not only about getting the guy you think you want but also paying attention to the guy who maybe
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you're not necessarily thinking about so i really want to share my thoughts on flirting i think there
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are a lot of great ways to go about it so let's get into it the first thing you need to know about
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flirting is to choose the right guy to flirt with it's not worth trying to get the attention of a guy
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who doesn't deserve you now something i want to kind of say and preface this with is that getting the
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attention of men is very difficult if they're not already interested in you if a guy is not already
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interested in you then you going out of your way to try to get his attention actually can backfire
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but not only that he he's not expressing interest and there's a reason and you want the guy who you
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date to have an interest in you you are not generally going to be the pursuer he is it's a hard
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thing to accept as women that we don't get to kind of choose who we date but at the end of the day
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it's it's just the facts of life women like to be pursued men like to pursue so if you feel like
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you are the one pursuing a guy then it's probably not going to be the best fit now is that a hundred
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percent true no nothing is ever a hundred percent true but it's generally a good rule of thumb to
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recognize that if he is not expressing interest in you at all he's not interested and it's also
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important not to waste your energy and your time on somebody who doesn't return that interest
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outside of just the interest part of things you also don't want to focus your energies on a guy
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who's not a good fit for you who's not going to be kind of a long lasting option and somebody you
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could marry and have a family with i think it's very easy to get caught up when you're dating and
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you're young in the heat of the moment and the guy who every girl thinks is really attractive
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or is the bad boy or whatever else it is but that guy is not worth your time or your feminine energy
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you should be looking for the guy who's a good guy who when you put out your energy of i'm interested
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he is the kind of guy who would be a good match for you because wasting all that time and energy on a
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guy who theoretically could be interested in you but really isn't a good fit for you is just a waste of
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your own time number two is make eye contact eye contact is one of those things that is so
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intimate and so kind of sexy without doing anything sexual and it can be super useful in situations
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where maybe there's somebody across the room that you think is attractive you make eye contact he's
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interested you're interested and he knows now that you might be willing to have a conversation with him
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so he might walk over and you can have that conversation because you just subtly lifted your
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eyes and gave him sort of a hint that you are expressing interest making eye contact is one of
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those tools that we as women have to show that we are open to a man coming over and talking to us and a
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woman making eye contact is also just a very attractive thing it's very attracting to have a woman look you
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in the eye and men really like that so if you're interested in a guy if you see someone who you
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think you could be interested in having a conversation with making eye contact so that he feels like
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he can come over and talk to you is a really great first step for initiating that conversation now as
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well once you guys are in conversation you should maintain eye contact now not in an uncomfortable way
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if you've ever been in a situation where somebody's making too much eye contact it's really awkward and
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i hate that and it's not conducive to a laid-back conversation but just kind of like peeking out
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from under your eyelashes a little bit and making eye contact in those moments where it feels natural
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and right that is a very good way to show that you are still maintaining your interest it's always
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good to remember that men want to believe that women are interested in them but they still want to
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feel like they are doing the pursuing so if you make that eye contact across the room rather than just
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walking across the room and talking to them then they can actually still feel like they're
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doing the pursuing because you've shown that you're interested just with a little slight nod in
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their direction but not just taking the lead and taking control men still like to be able to pursue
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you and letting him come to you will make you feel better in that interaction number three is be a
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good listener i think sometimes when we as women get excited about a prospect we think a guy is cute
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or attractive and we are enjoying having a conversation we start to talk too much and we kind of
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we we take over the conversation and i think that it's really important to stay calm and listen to what
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he has to say now does that mean you have to tone down your personality absolutely not it just means
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you want to make sure that you're not letting your kind of adrenaline take over the first interaction
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and listening is a really good way to show that you're interested in what he has to say and then
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when you're speaking of course he should be a good listener too so it's it shows that there's a good
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give and take in your conversational styles so listen really well and another very good tip is to
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laugh at his jokes when they're funny laughing generally is good even if they're not that funny
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but actually laughing at his jokes men love to feel like they're making you happy that's a really
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important thing for men they want to feel like they're making you laugh and they're making you happy
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so showing that they're making you laugh is actually very flattering for them it makes them feel good
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so when he tells a joke laughing at it really taking enjoyment in his company shows that you're
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interested and continues to make him feel good about your whole interaction number four is look
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pretty and natural when you are going out to meet a guy you want to look your best but you don't want
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to look fake and i think that this is something i had to learn because i loved makeup so much when i was
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younger and when i was dating that i would do these really intense makeup looks which did make me look
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attractive but they didn't show what i really looked like and i know jacob has told me many times
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that he prefers me without makeup at all and men like to see women looking beautiful and natural so
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putting on the kind of makeup that accentuates your features without distracting not wearing blue eyeliner
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or something really intensely colored on the eyes wearing maybe like a pink eyeshadow or just a
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little bit of foundation and contour just like a little bit just something that brings out your
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features and accentuates them but doesn't actually distract from them or make it look like you're
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wearing some sort of mask that is just not the ideal situation for attracting a guy so you want to
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look natural you want to wear feminine clothing clothing that accentuates your figure but doesn't make your
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figure the main point of conversation you don't want to be wearing something that shows off
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everything that is not flirtatious that is just sexual and when you are meeting a guy and you're
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flirting and you're trying to date for a good reason for a long-term relationship distracting him
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with what you're wearing and with your body is not conducive to that actually working out so you want
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to make sure that you are dressing in a way that looks nice for you and that shows that you have
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taken time to take care of your appearance is attractive but isn't distracting again this is
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all about making you look your best without distracting from who you are as a person and
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wearing something pretty and feminine is just going to make you look beautiful and make him
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want to get to know you better wearing a nice perfume wearing something subtle not really overpowering
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but wearing something that just makes you smell good is a very attractive and flirtatious thing
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because it's just something that he'll he'll get a whiff of and think of you and that is a very pretty
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kind of feminine thing we can do to leave a lasting impression on men and of course last but not least
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you want to look welcoming you want to have a nice smile you don't want to look grumpy so when you are
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going out and you're trying to meet someone just looking friendly if you look unhappy if you look
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unapproachable then you will not be approached so having a nice smile on your face is something that
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can really encourage a man to think oh she's going to be welcoming she's going to be nice and he might
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want to come over and talk to you last but not least is kind of an interesting one but be honest about
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your schedule so the point of this is if a man asks you out on a date at the end of your flirtatious
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conversation be honest about how busy you are don't make it seem like you're over eager don't
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make it seem like you're free any night that he wants if you are actually busy don't move around
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your schedule to go on a date with him tell him that you're busy that night so you can find a night
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that works but he wants to know that you are a person with your own life and he wants to work for
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you a little it's always good to remember that men like to pursue a bit so this isn't to say you should
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lie it's to say that you need to know your own priorities and your own worth and if you have a
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prior engagement you have a prior engagement and that is actually a good thing it's a good sign it
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shows that you are a busy person that you have your own life and you're doing your own thing and he
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won't think that you will end up being clingy or something like that so that's always important
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so those are my five flirting tips ways to get a guy interested in you but i do want to say
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that dating is really hard and it doesn't often work out that the guy that you're interested in
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who doesn't show any interest in you is going to all of a sudden change his mind based on your
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flirting behavior a lot of the time the guy who you aren't even trying to get his attention is the
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guy who's really interested in you and then it turns out that hey you actually end up liking him
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you just didn't even realize it to begin with you don't really pick a guy flirt and he becomes yours
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like i said most of the time a guy picks you and then you sort of realize oh i really i really like
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him too and that doesn't mean that you don't flirt in those situations it doesn't mean that you you
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might not need to like flirt a little bit more to get this man's attention but the most important
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thing to remember is that the guy who isn't interested from the get-go is not going to become
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interested in you through sheer force of will you want the guy you end up with to want you that is
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just the best feeling ever is when a man really wants you and if that comes through you flirting
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with him from across the room or if it comes from him approaching you without you even having put out
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those signals it doesn't matter because at the end of the day the guy that you end up with should be
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the guy who you see a future with who you want to marry who you want to have children with and that is
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the most important thing so i hope you guys enjoyed today's video let me know in the comments your
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thoughts if you have any other tips for flirting thank you so much for watching if you haven't
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