Classically Abby - February 22, 2022


How To Stay Positive About PREGNANCY Even When It's HARD!!


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5 ways to flip your negative outlook on pregnancy from negative to positive in the first trimester. After a miscarriage in 2021, I had a new perspective on pregnancy and it has changed my perspective on it ever since!

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00:00:00.000 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
00:00:04.700 five ways to change your negative outlook on pregnancy.
00:00:14.620 Before we get into today's video I would love if you would consider subscribing to my channel
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00:00:28.420 over to classicallyabbie.substack.com. Now if you're new to my channel here we talk about classic
00:00:33.800 living and traditional values and I am 34 weeks pregnant at the time that I am recording this
00:00:38.940 video so this baby is going to be born soon and I have been loving being pregnant and loving this
00:00:48.940 pregnancy but I had a miscarriage in 2021 and it really changed my perspective on pregnancy and it
00:00:57.620 made my perspective on pregnancy just so much more positive. I really wanted to share with you guys
00:01:03.540 five ways that you can kind of flip a negative outlook and perspective on pregnancy into something
00:01:10.260 really really positive because as somebody who went through a miscarriage I have valued every moment of
00:01:16.620 this pregnancy that I get to grow this healthy little baby boy and it means so much to me to
00:01:23.340 be able to be pregnant and to carry this boy to term. So I also want to say this doesn't mean that you 0.69
00:01:29.320 can't ever feel uncomfortable or you can't ever feel upset about how pregnancy is changing your body or
00:01:36.660 anything like that. It is uncomfortable sometimes and it's not always fun but I think that there is
00:01:42.520 something to be said for sitting down and really trying to have a more positive outlook. So I also have had
00:01:50.000 a really nice pregnancy in a lot of ways and I know there are some women who suffer horribly. So this isn't to
00:01:56.940 make anybody who has had a hard pregnancy feel bad for not loving being pregnant. It's just to say
00:02:04.260 pregnancy can be difficult but we can also at the same time that we recognize that it's hard we can also
00:02:11.140 recognize that it is worth it. So now that I've said that let's get into today's video. In the first trimester of
00:02:19.080 pregnancy many women experience pretty intense morning sickness. I had not great morning sickness. I felt sick
00:02:26.760 pretty much the entire time. I didn't ever vomit but I did not feel well. And so the first way you can change your
00:02:33.660 negative outlook is instead of saying I feel so sick. I hate this. You can say my baby is working so hard. So that was
00:02:43.060 what I did in the first trimester. Every time I felt so sick and I couldn't get anything done. Instead of
00:02:49.700 saying this is so frustrating I hate this. I would say my baby is working so hard to grow. And I actually
00:02:59.640 loved being sick in the first trimester because I had had a miscarriage earlier that year. When I had had
00:03:06.760 that miscarriage I'd stopped feeling sick a little too early. And so as I kept feeling sick I was like
00:03:12.700 go baby go. Baby's doing good. I might not be feeling that great but baby is growing. And it really made
00:03:20.940 the being sick part of the first trimester. It made me happy about it. It made me grateful. I was like
00:03:28.380 yeah stay sick. Let me keep lying on this couch because it means that baby is growing strong. So every time
00:03:36.280 you feel really sick instead of going to this place of like this is the worst which it's not fun
00:03:43.380 maybe give yourself an opportunity to think wow my baby is really growing and that must mean he's
00:03:49.560 healthy. So that was a really big change in my perspective from the first time that I was pregnant
00:03:55.880 to the second time because when I was pregnant the second time I was grateful for every moment I felt sick.
00:04:02.040 The second way to change your negative outlook is if you are feeling judgmental or doubtful of your body's changes
00:04:10.640 think my body is doing exactly what it needs to grow this beautiful life. I think it can be difficult for us
00:04:18.640 as women to see our bodies change from something that we sort of view from like an attractiveness perspective 0.98
00:04:24.580 to something that is very utilitarian. We're growing another person. So instead of looking like hot
00:04:33.400 we're going to look just different as our baby grows. Now it's not to say that you can't be beautiful
00:04:38.720 and attractive when you're pregnant. I think that you absolutely can. But it is a different way of viewing
00:04:43.920 your body. And I think some women find that change beautiful and love it. I'm somebody who looked in the
00:04:50.640 mirror and would see my bump growing and I was like this is the coolest thing. I feel beautiful.
00:04:57.860 But there are some women who really struggle with that. And so I think that the way to embrace your
00:05:03.140 changing body is to thank God that your body is doing what it needs to do to grow the baby inside of
00:05:09.940 you. As your body is changing it's changing for the best reason possible. It's not like you are gaining
00:05:16.920 weight without meaning to or trying to and you just can't stop. Your body is changing because it's
00:05:23.420 growing another person. And it's supposed to do that. And that means everything is working right
00:05:28.920 and correctly. So as you are changing every time you look in the mirror if you start to feel just a
00:05:34.300 little bit insecure remember that it's a sign that your body is doing what it needs to do. And that you
00:05:41.180 are able to do this is a beautiful blessing from God. I think that really puts things into
00:05:46.740 perspective. Number three is when you think I'm so tired all the time and I can't get anything done
00:05:54.100 instead think this is a lesson in slow living. I'm not in control. God is. I have talked about on my
00:06:03.960 channel how tiring the third trimester is. Once you get into the third trimester you're just really
00:06:10.000 tired. And it's not even like I feel sick when I do things. It's like oh my gosh I feel like I need
00:06:16.720 to lie down for two hours. I don't know why I just need to lie down. And of course we know why. It's
00:06:22.500 that you're growing another person and he's getting real big. But it's hard to kind of wrap your head
00:06:28.960 around. It makes you feel useless. But the thing is that slow living which I did a video on and I will 0.98
00:06:34.940 link in the description box is a beautiful way of understanding life and saying you know I don't need
00:06:42.320 to get everything done today because it will get done tomorrow. And I need to put my trust in God
00:06:47.020 that this is sort of how things need to go down right now and he's in control and I'm not. Because
00:06:52.660 it can make you feel so awful to constantly be feeling like I should have gotten more done today
00:06:59.800 than I did instead of saying I'm going to give myself two projects to accomplish today and that's
00:07:05.520 it. And if I can do those two projects that is enough. Anything I don't get done today I can do
00:07:10.960 tomorrow. Trying to just embrace slow living a little bit more can give you just a sense of peace
00:07:18.440 and I think that that's really lovely and really important. So instead of blaming yourself and
00:07:24.500 feeling like a failure that you're tired instead take that time to embrace the living and like I
00:07:30.440 mentioned in that other video it's going to be useful when you have a baby too because you're not
00:07:35.620 going to get anything done with a newborn when you're barely sleeping. So number four is when you
00:07:40.780 get into that third trimester everything can hurt and you're just feeling uncomfortable all the time.
00:07:48.180 So how do you flip that on its head? How do you take that negative talk and make it positive? You
00:07:54.100 thank God and your body for producing the hormones that it needs in order for you to grow this child
00:08:02.240 and to have a healthy labor. So one of the hormones that you get during pregnancy is called relaxin
00:08:08.100 and it relaxes all the muscles in your body the ligaments in your body so that things can stretch
00:08:12.720 out more so that when you're in labor things can separate more and without relaxin those muscles
00:08:18.620 would not be able to do what they need to do in order to have that baby labor that baby and hold 1.00
00:08:25.320 that baby when he's born. So even though things are uncomfortable it's all for a good reason.
00:08:31.420 I think that is like the overall overarching positive outlook is that I am not feeling my
00:08:39.800 best but it's for the best reason possible and it means everything's working correctly which is
00:08:46.020 another really comforting thought. So instead of being so upset that you feel uncomfortable which
00:08:51.160 it is hard and it's not fun then instead taking the time to think my body is uncomfortable right now
00:08:58.160 because it needs to be so that when I go through labor and when I grow this child he has room to
00:09:05.600 grow and I can actually give birth to him. Last but not least I want to talk about moodiness. So
00:09:13.960 not every woman has really intense mood swings during pregnancy. I didn't have horrible mood swings
00:09:20.880 but I definitely have had my highs and lows and it was worse actually in the second trimester than in
00:09:26.200 the first trimester. So that was a hard one for me because when you're dealing with moodiness it's
00:09:32.440 hard to talk yourself out of that because you're emotionally not in the best place. So how do you
00:09:38.160 get yourself out of that? I think that the best way to look at your moodiness from a positive perspective
00:09:43.780 is that you can learn to take some time for yourself and figure out how to deal with those mood swings
00:09:52.120 now so that when your baby's born you can be a better mother. Moodiness is something that comes
00:09:58.860 with lack of sleep. It's something that comes with being overwhelmed, being stressed and when you have
00:10:04.960 a child all of those things are going to come into play. So having this opportunity to deal with
00:10:10.640 moodiness before that baby's born, before you're parenting and figure out how you're going to work on
00:10:17.800 it, how you're going to make sure that you're not in a situation where you're lashing out or acting in a
00:10:24.760 way you don't want to act, I think that that can be actually valuable for us and it gives us an
00:10:30.160 opportunity to really teach ourselves how we want to be even in situations where our emotions are not
00:10:36.680 where we'd like them to be. And it also can encourage us to take some time for ourselves and take care of
00:10:41.920 ourselves. So moodiness is not fun and like I said it can be more difficult to have self-talk to get
00:10:49.200 you out of a bad mood but I think it's something we can invest our time and efforts into so that we
00:10:54.760 can actually improve ourselves as women before that baby comes. So those are my five tips for changing a
00:11:02.440 negative outlook about pregnancy into a positive one. Let me know your thoughts in the comments. I have
00:11:09.120 absolutely loved being pregnant. I'm so sad that I'm not going to be pregnant after this baby comes.
00:11:16.440 I can't wait to meet him. That is going to be so special but I like being pregnant a lot and I think
00:11:23.200 that having these perspectives has made the whole experience really special for me. I haven't felt
00:11:28.220 resentful of my pregnancy really at all and I'm very very grateful for that but it also does take hard
00:11:35.300 work and it takes you making an effort to be positive. So I hope you guys enjoyed today's
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