I Want To IMPROVE Myself Before I'm A Mother： My 2022 New Year's Goals!
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In this episode, I talk about my goals for the new year and how I plan to make the most out of it. I hope you can relate to any of my goals, and I'd love to know what your goals are as well in the comments below!
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Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about my 2022
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New Year's goals. So first of all, Happy New Year. I hope you all had a very Merry Christmas
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and a Happy New Year. I fell asleep very early. I'm officially in the third trimester and that
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first week of the third trimester was really hitting me hard. So I was really tired at about
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8.30. I did push it till about 10.30, but I was in bed pretty early. I did not make it to midnight
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and yeah, that was my new year, but it was still a lot of fun and I got to spend it with Jacob,
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which always is lovely and special. But I hope you guys had a really wonderful New Year's as well.
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But today I want to share with you guys my goals for this upcoming new year. Of course,
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my goals are going to be really about improving as a person so that I can make myself the best
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person I can be before I become a mother. So a lot of my goals are broad enough that anyone could
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take them to heart, but for me are done with the perspective that I want to be a better person by
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the time my son is born. So I'm really excited to share with you guys what my goals are. I think you
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guys can take some inspiration from them as well. And I'd love to know what your new year's goals
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are as well in the comments. So make sure to leave some of them down below. If you are new to my
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content not available anywhere else. Now let's get into today's video. So my first goal for 2022,
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and I make this goal every year and I'm starting to realize I think maybe I need to break it into
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smaller pieces, is to get off my phone more. I know that I talk about this. I'm pretty sure this
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was in my goals last year. And I go through phases where I really do get off my phone more than
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I was on it. But it's not consistent. And I want to be better about being consistent,
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especially with a newborn coming. I can imagine that there's so much free time when you have a
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little baby and you're bored and it's easy to get on your phone and waste time. And I don't want to do
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that. I also don't want to be using my phone in front of the baby a lot. I think that's a bad policy.
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So I really want to work on getting off of my phone. It is one of the things I've mentioned about
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being intentional and deliberate with my time and my energy. And using your phone is one of those
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ways where you are not going to be intentional and deliberate with those things, with your time and
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your energy. You are just going to waste it and while away the time. So I really am looking forward
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to making an effort to getting my phone out of the way more. And I'm trying to think now, we're going
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to think on the fly together. If you guys have ideas, leave them in the comments too, of like ways to make
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this into a smaller project. Instead of just saying, get off your phone more, maybe there's some more
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like bite-sized things I can do. So maybe when I want to reach for my phone to just do something
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silly, instead of doing that, I can reach for a book. Or if I want to reach for my phone, I can go to
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the computer because the computer is a lot less absorbing than the phone. The phone can come with
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you anywhere. It can do anything. But if you go on the computer, at least for me, it's much more of a
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finite period of time. So if instead of going on my phone, I just go to the computer. Infinite scroll
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is a little bit different on a computer than it is on a phone. So if I don't do that, if I say, okay,
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instead of going on my phone, I'm going to go to the computer. Or if instead of going on my phone,
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I decide I'm going to read a book, just trying to make things into smaller bite-sized chunks,
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if that makes sense. So I'm trying to think of other things that I can do because I know that
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my biggest time sucks or my biggest time wasters or the things that I do without thinking about
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are hopping on Instagram. Instagram is a dangerous one because I do use it for my work,
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but sometimes it can cross over into just wanting to scroll. And I think that that's kind of my
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biggest temptation. So I think every time I want to hit Instagram, I'm just going to tell myself
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to pause and ask myself if that's really what I want to be doing, which I've already started to
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do. And I've seen an improvement. I've seen an improvement where if I want to tap on Instagram
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and I recognize that I'm doing it, I'll be like, oh, do I really want to do this right now? And it'll
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stop me. So yeah, that is my first goal. I just wanted to talk that through a little bit with you
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guys. But let me know your thoughts in the comments for that one, because I know that's something we
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all struggle with. And it's so much more classic to be somebody who can enjoy the silence
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and enjoy their time at home without feeling like they need constant distraction and stimulation.
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So I really want to work on that for myself because I do work from home and soon I'm going
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to have a baby at home. I want to work on how to enjoy the times that it's just quiet
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and take advantage of them. So yeah, my second goal for 2022 is get my housework under control.
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So there are so many different methods for this. And I know I think I've talked about the fly lady
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method on here before, and I want to read into that more. But what I really want to do is get
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on a schedule. I know that there are so many different ways you can approach it. And one of
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the things I would like to do is say, okay, Mondays, I'm going to do this. Tuesdays, I'm going to do
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this. This is something that needs to get done every day and splitting and dividing the housework so
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that it's something that I enjoy. And it's something that I approach with a better eye toward
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time management. So I really love schedules. I love to do lists. And sometimes I think what happens
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with housework is that the things that you do every day, like washing the dishes and putting them away,
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that'll always get done. But something that you don't do all the time, like take the time to clean
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the whole bathroom, that can slip through the cracks. And then you suddenly realize that you've like
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not cleaned the bathroom for two weeks or three weeks. So putting in to like a master calendar by
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housework is a goal of mine. I want to start recognizing, okay, I want to vacuum once a week,
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and I want to clean the floor in the kitchen twice a week. And I want to clean the bathrooms once a week
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and choose a different day of the week for those bigger projects. But then it doesn't build up into
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this huge project all at once when you haven't cleaned anything at all. So like laundry, something,
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I'll probably do every day. And folding laundry is something I'll do every day. But it's just
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smaller, smaller bites, smaller bite-sized chunks. I feel like that's a theme for this year.
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And cleaning the dishes. I do that every single day. But I want to make sure that everything I want
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to get done gets done. And it doesn't feel like, oh my gosh, I forgot this big project when it comes
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to housework. So that's something I really want to work on. If you have good recommendations,
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leave them in the comments. My third goal for 2022, and this one's more of a fun one,
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is to start printing out recipes we like and making a binder. Or writing them by hand and
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buying one of those beautiful books. That's something in my Amazon cart that I'm deciding
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about. So basically, Jacob and I have a bunch of cookbooks. And we also will go online and find
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recipes. And I want to start compiling our favorites in one place. That doesn't mean I never want to reach
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for our cookbooks. But it means that on a night when we just can't decide what we want to make,
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we can always go to our favorites. And we know, okay, we love this. We love that. And instead of
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having to go online and remember which one we did before, we just have the recipe right in front of
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us. And the thing that I also love about that is that you can kind of pass that on to your kids.
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You can say, okay, well, these are our favorite recipes. And you guys can make copies of them and
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have your own version or take the original and whatever else. But I really like the idea of
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making a recipe book and having one that's like for your family. Recipes that everyone is enjoying
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and I have easy access to. And Jacob actually told me, he's like, I don't really like the idea of you
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printing them and putting them in a binder. I think it would be just more classic for you to actually
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write them down in one of these beautiful books. And I agree. It is much more classic. It's much more
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traditional. So I think I'm going to go ahead and do that. And I love the idea of that. And I think
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that's just like a really pleasant, nice goal. And also a very useful one. One that I can actually
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use and it will make my life easier. So that's something that I'm definitely planning on doing
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this year. My fourth goal for this year is to pray more regularly. So we have Sabbath every single
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Saturday, Friday night into Saturday. And we do pray every single Sabbath. But I want to get into
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the habit of praying every day. And we have a written out liturgy. It's all in Hebrew. And we can
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make it long or you can just pick out certain things to say every day. And women aren't required to say
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the prayers. But I think for me, it would be helpful to find a prayer and say it every single day. And if
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at some point I have the time, I can expand that and make it longer. But for example, there's one prayer
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that I really like. It's called Ashray. And I really love saying it. So if I said that every
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single day, I think that would just be really a nice way for me to connect with God. Praying is
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something that is so important, right? I always talk about faith, family, and community. Those are
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the three things of a traditional and classic way of life. And if you're going to have a good
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relationship with God, I think it's important to have that conversation with him every single day
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and keep him as part of your daily life. And so I want to engage with that more. And I think by
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praying to him, it'll keep him in my mind more often and make me remember on those times where
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I'm feeling a little more anxious or worried that he's there. So that is something I'm really
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hoping to incorporate into my daily practice of life is just praying in the morning and thinking
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about my relationship to God on a more frequent level so that it's not just something that of
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course I think of being Jewish and I think of God, but it's not necessarily my immediate response when
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I'm feeling anxious. And I think if I pray more regularly, it will be. My last goal for 2022 is to
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come up with better ways to take care of my mental health. So I talk about here on my channel a lot,
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the idea of self-care, which I don't recommend, I don't like it, versus taking care of ourselves.
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So what self-care implies in today's day and age is kind of like, oh, take a bath or like have a cup
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of wine. And it's all very after the fact, as opposed to taking care of yourself regularly. So you
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don't need to get to the point of being so overwhelmed that you just need everyone to go away so that you
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can have some time alone or however else. Self-care to me is much more like a band-aid than it is like
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a regular maintenance check. And I want to be better about doing regular maintenance checks. I think
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that it is very easy to get caught up in this culture of go, go, go, go, go. Don't recognize that you're
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like missing out on taking care of yourself. And then all of a sudden, you're really stressed and
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overwhelmed. And now you have to do something in that self-care category. I know that I've made that
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mistake and I've made it this year. You know, there are times where I'm like, oh, I just need to like
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take a minute instead of working on improving my daily habits and my daily life so that I don't have
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to do that or so that I do it less frequently. So I think a lot of what I'm talking about for my goals
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this year is being regular, deliberate, consistent about good habits and making sure that I really
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do put in the time and effort to keep everything compartmentalized in its space, organized, and I can
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approach life as if it's not chaos. And basically, I think just like the last couple weeks of the year
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always feel a little chaotic. So that might be where these feelings and thoughts are coming from.
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But I'm looking forward in 2022 to just reorganizing and restructuring again so that it feels like,
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okay, every day has a specific schedule and I can approach it with more deliberateness. So that is
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sort of on my mind. And I think that includes taking care of myself in a better way. So I think some
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ways that I can do this are if I'm starting to feel overwhelmed, taking a few minutes, writing out a list,
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and then just sitting with Jacob and enjoying a show. I don't like the idea that I need to like
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watch a show by myself, be alone, isolate myself so that I can just kind of zone out
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to take care of myself. I don't think that that's real taking care of yourself. Taking care of yourself
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is taking steps to remove the things that are upsetting you or to solve the things and resolve
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the things that are upsetting you so that you can then enjoy time with other people. So that's what I
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really want to work on because I think that it's so easy to go to this place of like, I deserve this
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and then you get time alone. And honestly, you don't feel much better. You still feel kind of
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crappy. I don't want that. I want to feel good and refreshed and feel like I can approach my family
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in a good and positive way after I've resolved my own problems. So that is it for today's video.
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I hope you guys enjoyed it. I hope you guys took something from it. I'd love to know your goals for 2022.
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