Ladies, It's Time To RESPECT Your Man!
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Summary
5 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband 1. Clean up the house or at least do half of the chores 2. Listen to your spouse 3. Talk to him about his day 4. Show him appreciation 5. Make him feel honored
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Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
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Now, I'm sure I just got a ton of people up in arms just for saying that you should respect
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It is very important for us to respect our husbands and it's very important for them to
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Now, I think often because I do videos that are geared towards women, people think I don't
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think that the husband needs to respect his wife.
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I clearly believe that relationships need to go both ways, but there are really nice ways
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for us as wives to actually go out of our way to respect our husbands.
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And men need respect in the same way that women need to feel cherished.
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Now, I'm not saying that women don't need respect and I'm not saying that men don't need to feel
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cherished, but women need a specific relationship to make them feel special and loved.
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And men need a specific relationship that will make them feel respected and honored.
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It is okay for us to have different needs in our relationships, right?
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Men and women are different and we balance each other out in really beautiful ways.
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So there are things we can do to respect our husbands and make them feel honored.
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And I want to share five of those things that we can do today.
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But if you're going to feel like women are oppressed and women are the victims,
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When I talk about honoring and respecting your husband, I feel like I get on my high horse a
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little bit because it's as if you're not allowed to do those things.
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I think that he is a brilliant man and I'm so glad to be his wife.
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So I am excited to talk about these five topics.
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Number one is clean up the house or at least do half of the chores.
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So there is something really lovely about cleaning the house for your spouse.
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So I am happy to take on the chore of cleaning up the house.
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On top of which, it legitimately bothers me more when the house is messy than it bothers
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But if I were to let the house get out of control messy, then I would not be respecting
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I would not be showing him the honor of saying, this is the house that we have built together
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and I respect you enough to keep it beautiful and clean for you when you get home at the
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Now, I talked about this in my cleaning video and I will talk about it again here.
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Does that mean that if you work a full-time job and your husband works a full-time job
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that you need to still take on 100% of the chores?
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If you guys are both working, then you need to come up with some sort of solution where
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you guys are taking on an equal amount of housework.
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But that means that even if you are working, you have to do your half of the chores.
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Sometimes I think we can get bogged down in what we have to do for work and then the house
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And if your husband is doing his half of the chores and you're not doing your half, then
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So, if you are at home and you are able to do all the chores, keeping your house clean
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is a really beautiful way to show respect and love to your husband.
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And if you guys both are working, then you need to still do your half of the chores to
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show respect to your husband that you both are going to work together to keep your house
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Having a clean home is just a huge, hugely important thing for so many reasons.
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It shows gratefulness for the things that you have and it respects your husband.
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Even if your husband isn't somebody who notices mess all the time, he will notice if things
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are just untidy to a point where you can't really live your lives.
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And it's important for you to take the lead and make sure that the house stays clean, stays
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Number two is listen to his day and his interests.
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I think it can be easy once we get into the marriage stage of life to kind of stop listening
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to our spouses when they tell us about something that we're not directly interested in.
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But that is such a bad policy and it makes both sides, I mean, I would feel disrespected,
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he would feel disrespected if we just stopped caring about the other person's day.
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Even if it's not totally interesting, even if it's not totally relevant to my life, what
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you did at work today, if he wants to tell me what he worked on, I want to listen because
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I love and respect him and it's relevant to him.
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And it's really a nice thing that he wants to share that with me.
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I think it can be easy to brush off someone wanting to share something with you that you're
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But what's really important to keep in mind is that that is an expression of love.
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When somebody wants to share something with you, it's an expression of their love that
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So keeping your mind open, listening, being an active and engaged listener, that will
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really make your husband feel respected and honored, as he should be, because he is a really
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So sitting down, really listening, taking the time to hear what he says, it's a really
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Number three is knowing somebody's favorite dinner is such a nice way to show love and
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I have learned what Jacob really loves and I will do my best to make those things on a
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Does that mean I do it every single day or even every single week?
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No, but it means that I know what he likes and I go out of my way to make sure that he
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Making food is such a beautiful symbol of love and it's such a beautiful symbol of respect
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And I know that this is a love language for Jacob.
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I know that when I make him food he likes, that it feels like I love him and I respect
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I will go out of my way to make him something that he loves.
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If you can figure out, even if it's something simple, that your husband loves and enjoys,
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make it for him and show him that you've listened and that you love him and that you want him
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Number four, and this one is the most important, is stop talking badly about him.
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We live in a culture where it is par for the course that when women get together, they're
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When couples get together, the wives will make fun of their husbands.
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I hate the idea that we have to tease our husbands A in front of them and then B behind
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And I'm not saying I've never fallen victim to it.
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I think that it is very easy to do because we're looking for some sort of camaraderie.
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And if husbands did the same things to their wives, if when couples got together and the
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men were all teasing their wives, it would be like so jarring.
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But we, for some reason, allow for wives to do that about their husbands.
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If other people are doing it, you don't have to respond.
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It's not your responsibility to make everyone else feel comfortable about a bad thing that
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And I think that we need to break that of our culture.
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I think that it is really a nice thing to keep yourself looking your best for your husband.
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So he fell in love with you because he thought you were beautiful.
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And that doesn't mean you're going to look the same at 18 that you do at 50.
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But what it means is that you need to still put in the effort to look your best so that
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your husband knows that you want to stay beautiful for him.
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And I know, you know, I'm super pregnant right now.
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And I recognize that, you know, I'm not going to look the same right now or even a year from
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But that doesn't mean that I'm just going to completely let myself go, stop shaving
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my legs, stop doing my hair, stop exercising because my husband's made a commitment to me.
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I think that that is such a terrible view of things.
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Once your spouse makes a commitment to you, that's not an excuse for you to become worse.
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So keeping up your appearance is a really nice way to respect and honor your husband.
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So those are my five ways to respect your husband.
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Let me know in the comments how you respect your husband.
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