Classically Abby - May 05, 2022


Ladies, It's Time To RESPECT Your Man!


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5 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband 1. Clean up the house or at least do half of the chores 2. Listen to your spouse 3. Talk to him about his day 4. Show him appreciation 5. Make him feel honored

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00:00:00.000 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
00:00:03.960 five ways to show respect to your husband.
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00:00:27.900 Now, I'm sure I just got a ton of people up in arms just for saying that you should respect 0.99
00:00:33.400 your husband, but that is trash. 0.96
00:00:35.820 It is very important for us to respect our husbands and it's very important for them to 0.99
00:00:40.720 respect us.
00:00:42.020 Now, I think often because I do videos that are geared towards women, people think I don't
00:00:46.500 think that the husband needs to respect his wife. 1.00
00:00:48.900 That is stupid. 0.99
00:00:50.220 I clearly believe that relationships need to go both ways, but there are really nice ways 1.00
00:00:55.340 for us as wives to actually go out of our way to respect our husbands.
00:00:59.580 And men need respect in the same way that women need to feel cherished.
00:01:05.100 Now, I'm not saying that women don't need respect and I'm not saying that men don't need to feel
00:01:08.500 cherished, but women need a specific relationship to make them feel special and loved. 0.99
00:01:16.680 And men need a specific relationship that will make them feel respected and honored.
00:01:21.540 That is how relationships often work.
00:01:25.120 And that is okay.
00:01:26.380 It is okay for us to have different needs in our relationships, right?
00:01:31.100 Men and women are different and we balance each other out in really beautiful ways.
00:01:36.100 So there are things we can do to respect our husbands and make them feel honored.
00:01:41.340 And I want to share five of those things that we can do today.
00:01:44.380 And they're not a big deal.
00:01:45.820 But if you're going to feel like women are oppressed and women are the victims,
00:01:51.520 then maybe you're not ready to get married.
00:01:54.700 So let's get into today's video.
00:01:57.680 I'm feeling a little sassy today, friends.
00:02:00.400 When I talk about honoring and respecting your husband, I feel like I get on my high horse a
00:02:05.780 little bit because it's as if you're not allowed to do those things.
00:02:09.160 And I do.
00:02:10.320 I honor my husband.
00:02:11.640 I respect him.
00:02:12.440 I think that he is a brilliant man and I'm so glad to be his wife.
00:02:16.800 So I am excited to talk about these five topics.
00:02:19.540 Number one is clean up the house or at least do half of the chores.
00:02:23.600 So there is something really lovely about cleaning the house for your spouse.
00:02:29.380 I work from home.
00:02:30.780 So I am happy to take on the chore of cleaning up the house.
00:02:34.460 On top of which, it legitimately bothers me more when the house is messy than it bothers
00:02:39.920 my husband.
00:02:40.600 But if I were to let the house get out of control messy, then I would not be respecting
00:02:46.640 my husband's home and my home.
00:02:49.820 I would not be showing him the honor of saying, this is the house that we have built together
00:02:55.100 and I respect you enough to keep it beautiful and clean for you when you get home at the
00:03:00.040 end of the day.
00:03:00.520 Now, I talked about this in my cleaning video and I will talk about it again here.
00:03:05.700 Does that mean that if you work a full-time job and your husband works a full-time job
00:03:09.560 that you need to still take on 100% of the chores?
00:03:13.060 Absolutely not.
00:03:14.120 If you guys are both working, then you need to come up with some sort of solution where
00:03:17.360 you guys are taking on an equal amount of housework.
00:03:20.380 But that means that even if you are working, you have to do your half of the chores.
00:03:24.900 Sometimes I think we can get bogged down in what we have to do for work and then the house
00:03:29.960 gets out of control.
00:03:31.200 And if your husband is doing his half of the chores and you're not doing your half, then
00:03:34.980 you're not showing him respect either.
00:03:36.480 So, if you are at home and you are able to do all the chores, keeping your house clean
00:03:42.500 is a really beautiful way to show respect and love to your husband.
00:03:46.440 And if you guys both are working, then you need to still do your half of the chores to
00:03:51.120 show respect to your husband that you both are going to work together to keep your house
00:03:55.300 clean.
00:03:56.380 Having a clean home is just a huge, hugely important thing for so many reasons.
00:04:03.000 It shows respect to yourself.
00:04:04.500 It shows respect to God.
00:04:05.900 It shows gratefulness for the things that you have and it respects your husband.
00:04:10.300 Even if your husband isn't somebody who notices mess all the time, he will notice if things
00:04:16.720 are just untidy to a point where you can't really live your lives.
00:04:21.580 And it's important for you to take the lead and make sure that the house stays clean, stays
00:04:28.140 tidy, stays welcoming for your husband.
00:04:31.780 Number two is listen to his day and his interests.
00:04:35.080 I think it can be easy once we get into the marriage stage of life to kind of stop listening
00:04:42.060 to our spouses when they tell us about something that we're not directly interested in.
00:04:47.680 But that is such a bad policy and it makes both sides, I mean, I would feel disrespected,
00:04:53.160 he would feel disrespected if we just stopped caring about the other person's day.
00:04:57.980 Even if it's not totally interesting, even if it's not totally relevant to my life, what
00:05:02.960 you did at work today, if he wants to tell me what he worked on, I want to listen because
00:05:07.960 I love and respect him and it's relevant to him.
00:05:11.540 And it's really a nice thing that he wants to share that with me.
00:05:14.440 I think it can be easy to brush off someone wanting to share something with you that you're
00:05:20.000 not interested in.
00:05:21.280 But what's really important to keep in mind is that that is an expression of love.
00:05:25.460 When somebody wants to share something with you, it's an expression of their love that
00:05:30.520 they want to share it with you.
00:05:32.600 So keeping your mind open, listening, being an active and engaged listener, that will
00:05:39.140 really make your husband feel respected and honored, as he should be, because he is a really
00:05:44.820 good guy.
00:05:45.500 Clearly you married him for a reason.
00:05:48.260 So sitting down, really listening, taking the time to hear what he says, it's a really
00:05:53.800 important part of a good marriage.
00:05:56.460 Number three is make his favorite dinners.
00:05:59.240 Number three is knowing somebody's favorite dinner is such a nice way to show love and
00:06:05.120 respect.
00:06:06.160 I have learned what Jacob really loves and I will do my best to make those things on a
00:06:13.220 consistent basis.
00:06:14.220 Does that mean I do it every single day or even every single week?
00:06:17.000 No, but it means that I know what he likes and I go out of my way to make sure that he
00:06:22.020 gets it.
00:06:22.740 Making food is such a beautiful symbol of love and it's such a beautiful symbol of respect
00:06:27.760 and honor.
00:06:28.260 And I know that this is a love language for Jacob.
00:06:31.240 I know that when I make him food he likes, that it feels like I love him and I respect
00:06:36.320 him.
00:06:36.840 So I can do that.
00:06:38.900 I enjoy it.
00:06:39.880 I will go out of my way to make him something that he loves.
00:06:43.320 If you can figure out, even if it's something simple, that your husband loves and enjoys,
00:06:49.100 make it for him and show him that you've listened and that you love him and that you want him
00:06:54.420 to enjoy the food that you make.
00:06:56.160 Number four, and this one is the most important, is stop talking badly about him.
00:07:03.500 We live in a culture where it is par for the course that when women get together, they're 1.00
00:07:11.340 going to tease their husbands.
00:07:12.520 When couples get together, the wives will make fun of their husbands. 1.00
00:07:16.800 It's like built into the culture.
00:07:18.980 And I absolutely hate it.
00:07:20.300 I hate the idea that we have to tease our husbands A in front of them and then B behind 0.93
00:07:24.960 their backs and make fun of what they do.
00:07:27.520 And I'm not saying I've never fallen victim to it.
00:07:29.580 I think that it is very easy to do because we're looking for some sort of camaraderie.
00:07:33.440 But it's disrespectful and it's rude.
00:07:36.840 And if husbands did the same things to their wives, if when couples got together and the
00:07:41.380 men were all teasing their wives, it would be like so jarring.
00:07:44.800 But we, for some reason, allow for wives to do that about their husbands. 0.98
00:07:48.600 It's rude.
00:07:49.920 It's not nice.
00:07:51.200 It's disrespectful.
00:07:52.400 It hurts people's feelings.
00:07:54.060 And it's emasculating.
00:07:56.060 So don't do that.
00:07:57.700 Get out of the practice.
00:07:59.180 If other people are doing it, you don't have to respond.
00:08:01.840 You don't have to join in.
00:08:02.820 It's not your responsibility to make everyone else feel comfortable about a bad thing that
00:08:07.080 they're doing.
00:08:07.840 It's wrong.
00:08:08.940 And I think that we need to break that of our culture.
00:08:12.360 Last but not least is keep up your looks.
00:08:15.160 I think that it is really a nice thing to keep yourself looking your best for your husband.
00:08:22.480 Men are visual.
00:08:23.440 Men are attracted to beautiful things.
00:08:26.080 So he fell in love with you because he thought you were beautiful.
00:08:28.480 And that doesn't mean you're going to look the same at 18 that you do at 50.
00:08:32.180 But what it means is that you need to still put in the effort to look your best so that
00:08:36.840 your husband knows that you want to stay beautiful for him.
00:08:41.280 And I know, you know, I'm super pregnant right now.
00:08:45.260 I'm 38 weeks pregnant.
00:08:46.940 And I recognize that, you know, I'm not going to look the same right now or even a year from
00:08:52.920 now that I did before I got pregnant.
00:08:55.000 But that doesn't mean that I'm just going to completely let myself go, stop shaving
00:09:00.260 my legs, stop doing my hair, stop exercising because my husband's made a commitment to me.
00:09:07.180 I think that that is such a terrible view of things.
00:09:10.640 Once your spouse makes a commitment to you, that's not an excuse for you to become worse.
00:09:15.300 It's a reason for you to become better.
00:09:17.800 So keeping up your appearance is a really nice way to respect and honor your husband.
00:09:24.400 So those are my five ways to respect your husband.
00:09:27.680 I hope you guys enjoyed today's video.
00:09:29.700 Let me know in the comments how you respect your husband.
00:09:32.500 I would love to know.
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00:09:47.060 Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you guys in my next video.
00:09:50.020 Bye!