Classically Abby - May 05, 2022


Ladies, It's Time To RESPECT Your Man!


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9 minutes

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191.25368

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1,882

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00:00:00.000 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
00:00:03.960 five ways to show respect to your husband.
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00:00:27.900 Now, I'm sure I just got a ton of people up in arms just for saying that you should respect
00:00:33.400 your husband, but that is trash.
00:00:35.820 It is very important for us to respect our husbands and it's very important for them to
00:00:40.720 respect us.
00:00:42.020 Now, I think often because I do videos that are geared towards women, people think I don't
00:00:46.500 think that the husband needs to respect his wife.
00:00:48.900 That is stupid.
00:00:50.220 I clearly believe that relationships need to go both ways, but there are really nice ways
00:00:55.340 for us as wives to actually go out of our way to respect our husbands.
00:00:59.580 And men need respect in the same way that women need to feel cherished.
00:01:05.100 Now, I'm not saying that women don't need respect and I'm not saying that men don't need to feel
00:01:08.500 cherished, but women need a specific relationship to make them feel special and loved.
00:01:16.680 And men need a specific relationship that will make them feel respected and honored.
00:01:21.540 That is how relationships often work.
00:01:25.120 And that is okay.
00:01:26.380 It is okay for us to have different needs in our relationships, right?
00:01:31.100 Men and women are different and we balance each other out in really beautiful ways.
00:01:36.100 So there are things we can do to respect our husbands and make them feel honored.
00:01:41.340 And I want to share five of those things that we can do today.
00:01:44.380 And they're not a big deal.
00:01:45.820 But if you're going to feel like women are oppressed and women are the victims,
00:01:51.520 then maybe you're not ready to get married.
00:01:54.700 So let's get into today's video.
00:01:57.680 I'm feeling a little sassy today, friends.
00:02:00.400 When I talk about honoring and respecting your husband, I feel like I get on my high horse a
00:02:05.780 little bit because it's as if you're not allowed to do those things.
00:02:09.160 And I do.
00:02:10.320 I honor my husband.
00:02:11.640 I respect him.
00:02:12.440 I think that he is a brilliant man and I'm so glad to be his wife.
00:02:16.800 So I am excited to talk about these five topics.
00:02:19.540 Number one is clean up the house or at least do half of the chores.
00:02:23.600 So there is something really lovely about cleaning the house for your spouse.
00:02:29.380 I work from home.
00:02:30.780 So I am happy to take on the chore of cleaning up the house.
00:02:34.460 On top of which, it legitimately bothers me more when the house is messy than it bothers
00:02:39.920 my husband.
00:02:40.600 But if I were to let the house get out of control messy, then I would not be respecting
00:02:46.640 my husband's home and my home.
00:02:49.820 I would not be showing him the honor of saying, this is the house that we have built together
00:02:55.100 and I respect you enough to keep it beautiful and clean for you when you get home at the
00:03:00.040 end of the day.
00:03:00.520 Now, I talked about this in my cleaning video and I will talk about it again here.
00:03:05.700 Does that mean that if you work a full-time job and your husband works a full-time job
00:03:09.560 that you need to still take on 100% of the chores?
00:03:13.060 Absolutely not.
00:03:14.120 If you guys are both working, then you need to come up with some sort of solution where
00:03:17.360 you guys are taking on an equal amount of housework.
00:03:20.380 But that means that even if you are working, you have to do your half of the chores.
00:03:24.900 Sometimes I think we can get bogged down in what we have to do for work and then the house
00:03:29.960 gets out of control.
00:03:31.200 And if your husband is doing his half of the chores and you're not doing your half, then
00:03:34.980 you're not showing him respect either.
00:03:36.480 So, if you are at home and you are able to do all the chores, keeping your house clean
00:03:42.500 is a really beautiful way to show respect and love to your husband.
00:03:46.440 And if you guys both are working, then you need to still do your half of the chores to
00:03:51.120 show respect to your husband that you both are going to work together to keep your house
00:03:55.300 clean.
00:03:56.380 Having a clean home is just a huge, hugely important thing for so many reasons.
00:04:03.000 It shows respect to yourself.
00:04:04.500 It shows respect to God.
00:04:05.900 It shows gratefulness for the things that you have and it respects your husband.
00:04:10.300 Even if your husband isn't somebody who notices mess all the time, he will notice if things
00:04:16.720 are just untidy to a point where you can't really live your lives.
00:04:21.580 And it's important for you to take the lead and make sure that the house stays clean, stays
00:04:28.140 tidy, stays welcoming for your husband.
00:04:31.780 Number two is listen to his day and his interests.
00:04:35.080 I think it can be easy once we get into the marriage stage of life to kind of stop listening
00:04:42.060 to our spouses when they tell us about something that we're not directly interested in.
00:04:47.680 But that is such a bad policy and it makes both sides, I mean, I would feel disrespected,
00:04:53.160 he would feel disrespected if we just stopped caring about the other person's day.
00:04:57.980 Even if it's not totally interesting, even if it's not totally relevant to my life, what
00:05:02.960 you did at work today, if he wants to tell me what he worked on, I want to listen because
00:05:07.960 I love and respect him and it's relevant to him.
00:05:11.540 And it's really a nice thing that he wants to share that with me.
00:05:14.440 I think it can be easy to brush off someone wanting to share something with you that you're
00:05:20.000 not interested in.
00:05:21.280 But what's really important to keep in mind is that that is an expression of love.
00:05:25.460 When somebody wants to share something with you, it's an expression of their love that
00:05:30.520 they want to share it with you.
00:05:32.600 So keeping your mind open, listening, being an active and engaged listener, that will
00:05:39.140 really make your husband feel respected and honored, as he should be, because he is a really
00:05:44.820 good guy.
00:05:45.500 Clearly you married him for a reason.
00:05:48.260 So sitting down, really listening, taking the time to hear what he says, it's a really
00:05:53.800 important part of a good marriage.
00:05:56.460 Number three is make his favorite dinners.
00:05:59.240 Number three is knowing somebody's favorite dinner is such a nice way to show love and
00:06:05.120 respect.
00:06:06.160 I have learned what Jacob really loves and I will do my best to make those things on a
00:06:13.220 consistent basis.
00:06:14.220 Does that mean I do it every single day or even every single week?
00:06:17.000 No, but it means that I know what he likes and I go out of my way to make sure that he
00:06:22.020 gets it.
00:06:22.740 Making food is such a beautiful symbol of love and it's such a beautiful symbol of respect
00:06:27.760 and honor.
00:06:28.260 And I know that this is a love language for Jacob.
00:06:31.240 I know that when I make him food he likes, that it feels like I love him and I respect
00:06:36.320 him.
00:06:36.840 So I can do that.
00:06:38.900 I enjoy it.
00:06:39.880 I will go out of my way to make him something that he loves.
00:06:43.320 If you can figure out, even if it's something simple, that your husband loves and enjoys,
00:06:49.100 make it for him and show him that you've listened and that you love him and that you want him
00:06:54.420 to enjoy the food that you make.
00:06:56.160 Number four, and this one is the most important, is stop talking badly about him.
00:07:03.500 We live in a culture where it is par for the course that when women get together, they're
00:07:11.340 going to tease their husbands.
00:07:12.520 When couples get together, the wives will make fun of their husbands.
00:07:16.800 It's like built into the culture.
00:07:18.980 And I absolutely hate it.
00:07:20.300 I hate the idea that we have to tease our husbands A in front of them and then B behind
00:07:24.960 their backs and make fun of what they do.
00:07:27.520 And I'm not saying I've never fallen victim to it.
00:07:29.580 I think that it is very easy to do because we're looking for some sort of camaraderie.
00:07:33.440 But it's disrespectful and it's rude.
00:07:36.840 And if husbands did the same things to their wives, if when couples got together and the
00:07:41.380 men were all teasing their wives, it would be like so jarring.
00:07:44.800 But we, for some reason, allow for wives to do that about their husbands.
00:07:48.600 It's rude.
00:07:49.920 It's not nice.
00:07:51.200 It's disrespectful.
00:07:52.400 It hurts people's feelings.
00:07:54.060 And it's emasculating.
00:07:56.060 So don't do that.
00:07:57.700 Get out of the practice.
00:07:59.180 If other people are doing it, you don't have to respond.
00:08:01.840 You don't have to join in.
00:08:02.820 It's not your responsibility to make everyone else feel comfortable about a bad thing that
00:08:07.080 they're doing.
00:08:07.840 It's wrong.
00:08:08.940 And I think that we need to break that of our culture.
00:08:12.360 Last but not least is keep up your looks.
00:08:15.160 I think that it is really a nice thing to keep yourself looking your best for your husband.
00:08:22.480 Men are visual.
00:08:23.440 Men are attracted to beautiful things.
00:08:26.080 So he fell in love with you because he thought you were beautiful.
00:08:28.480 And that doesn't mean you're going to look the same at 18 that you do at 50.
00:08:32.180 But what it means is that you need to still put in the effort to look your best so that
00:08:36.840 your husband knows that you want to stay beautiful for him.
00:08:41.280 And I know, you know, I'm super pregnant right now.
00:08:45.260 I'm 38 weeks pregnant.
00:08:46.940 And I recognize that, you know, I'm not going to look the same right now or even a year from
00:08:52.920 now that I did before I got pregnant.
00:08:55.000 But that doesn't mean that I'm just going to completely let myself go, stop shaving
00:09:00.260 my legs, stop doing my hair, stop exercising because my husband's made a commitment to me.
00:09:07.180 I think that that is such a terrible view of things.
00:09:10.640 Once your spouse makes a commitment to you, that's not an excuse for you to become worse.
00:09:15.300 It's a reason for you to become better.
00:09:17.800 So keeping up your appearance is a really nice way to respect and honor your husband.
00:09:24.400 So those are my five ways to respect your husband.
00:09:27.680 I hope you guys enjoyed today's video.
00:09:29.700 Let me know in the comments how you respect your husband.
00:09:32.500 I would love to know.
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00:09:47.060 Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you guys in my next video.
00:09:50.020 Bye!