Classically Abby - June 25, 2020


Ladies, SUCCESS Is More Than Just A Career! ｜｜ Why many women don't like the corporate structure...


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Success looks different for women than it does for men. In this episode, I talk about the differences between what success looks like for a woman and a man and how they define it. I also talk about how women are different from men when it comes to work-life balance.

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00:00:00.000 Hello, beautiful ladies, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about why 0.97
00:00:05.040 success looks different for men than for women. I think for a lot of women, success looks different
00:00:13.580 than it does for a man. Men look at success and career is generally what they're talking about.
00:00:20.600 They're talking about succeeding and getting to the highest level in whatever field they have
00:00:26.080 chosen to pursue. And having a family, having children, that is all incredibly important,
00:00:32.720 but the job is what's going to support them. And if they have to work longer hours, it's okay
00:00:38.500 because they've found success in their career. Now for a lot of women, that isn't the case because 1.00
00:00:45.120 just pursuing career and pursuing that to the highest level isn't enough. Again, a lot of men
00:00:52.140 think that having a family is super important. So I'm not saying that the men are only doing
00:00:57.520 career success, but what I am saying is that for women, that work-life balance is a really,
00:01:04.860 really important part of it and more important than it might be for some men. So today I want
00:01:12.160 to talk about what the difference is between men's success and women's success and really more focus
00:01:17.720 on what women's success looks like. So let's get into it. So the first thing that success for a woman 0.99
00:01:24.380 looks like is having flexibility. Now I know that a lot of women do care about their careers and if 1.00
00:01:31.000 they work in a structured environment and it works for them, that makes them happy. But a lot of women 1.00
00:01:35.500 I know, and I know I am one of them, I am craving flexibility in my schedule. So success for me
00:01:41.520 would be doing what I love, but also having the flexibility to have a family and also just have
00:01:48.280 time for myself to hang out with my girlfriends as well as to go to the gym when I want to, wake up at
00:01:54.340 whatever time, maybe work a little bit later. Those things for me are part of success in the definition
00:02:00.180 of success for me. It's not just working and getting to the highest echelon of my career. It's also having
00:02:07.340 flexibility in my daily life and in my day-to-day. And so I know that whatever my success looks like,
00:02:15.340 that would be a huge part of it. Having flexibility so that I could have the life that I want
00:02:20.540 and have that work-life balance that matters to me is something that's really important to me and
00:02:26.400 would define success for me. Having a work-life balance is so important and I think that's really
00:02:32.640 what the core of a woman's success is, is having balance in your life so that you can do the things 1.00
00:02:37.980 that you love and care about and pursue that work that you are passionate about, but also so that you
00:02:43.040 can have life and can bear children and have time for them. And so for a lot of women, the corporate 1.00
00:02:49.840 structure isn't the best fit because we are built to have flexibility in our lives so that we can take care
00:02:57.600 of our children so that we can pursue the things that we care about. And in all of this is working
00:03:03.280 on something that you're passionate about. Women have passions. They are interested in things and they 1.00
00:03:10.800 want to do something that really matters to them. I think some men are more comfortable working at jobs
00:03:17.140 that maybe they aren't as passionate about, but it means that they get to work into that corporate
00:03:21.700 structure and make their way up the ladder. That might be what they're passionate about, is the pursuit of the
00:03:27.020 highest level rather than the actual topic. A lot of the time, women don't work the same way. Women are 1.00
00:03:33.120 less interested in climbing a ladder than they are pursuing something that they care about. And so I
00:03:39.260 think that having that perfect work-life balance includes doing something that you really love. So for me,
00:03:46.140 I'm so passionate about YouTube. I'm so passionate about my blog. I'm really passionate about talking to
00:03:51.220 you guys about these topics. And for me, it's not about working in a corporate structure. It's about
00:03:56.820 doing something that I love and care about. And that may mean I work more hours, actually,
00:04:02.040 but those hours are flexible so that I can do what I need to when I need to and also have time to spend
00:04:08.120 with my husband and clean the house and cook dinner and all of the things that also I want to invest
00:04:14.100 time in. And so for me, I know that my work is something that I'm passionate about and also I have
00:04:19.760 that life balance so that I can spend time on the things that are going to make my life more complete.
00:04:25.560 And I'm sure there are a lot of you who have passions that you are working toward. Please
00:04:30.640 let me know in the comments below what those would be, what you're passionate about and what
00:04:34.620 you're pursuing. And if you are somebody who isn't working in a structure or isn't pursuing kind of
00:04:40.900 the highest level, the president of a company sort of thing, I'd love to know what it is that you are
00:04:45.820 pursuing and what it is that you do care about. Because I think that a lot of women find success in 1.00
00:04:51.740 pursuing a career that matters to them. And another part of that is that when you're working
00:04:56.860 on something that you care about and you're not working in that corporate structure, you also,
00:05:01.340 like I said, have more flexibility when it comes to your hours. Because if you're working for yourself,
00:05:06.480 for example, you would be doing something on your own hours and that would be success for you.
00:05:12.360 Now, one of the ways that women find success is through making connections. Women love to work 1.00
00:05:18.380 with other people. I think a lot of the time women like working with other people. They like working
00:05:23.340 with other women. They like talking about their ideas. And working in solitude can work, but bouncing 0.99
00:05:29.580 ideas off of someone else is also really great. And having that social connection is something that
00:05:35.880 a lot of women find success in. And pursuing a career where you can make connections with something 1.00
00:05:41.700 that you're passionate about would be success for many women. Many women would find success in working 0.99
00:05:46.100 with someone who shares that passion and also maybe is looking for a more flexible lifestyle.
00:05:51.260 If you look at a lot of women-run companies, it's sort of like that. If you look at the women who run 0.54
00:05:55.280 the home edit, it's two women who are working together and I would think have more flexibility 1.00
00:06:00.560 because it's something that they care about, but they're working together. They made a connection
00:06:03.980 and they found success. And also they have children and a family and that is a version of success for
00:06:10.240 them. So when we're talking about success for women, it's not just work, career, climbing a ladder.
00:06:15.700 It's work-life balance. And I think another part of that is that women find success in having 0.99
00:06:20.620 children and marrying a good man. Many women will define their success not only based on how 0.99
00:06:25.900 successful they are in their career, but how successful the whole package looks, their whole
00:06:30.560 life, right? So if you marry a good man, if you have children, if you have a family and you're
00:06:37.140 working a job that you care about, that is success. It's not just doing a really good job and working
00:06:44.300 your way up that ladder. It's having that beautiful work-life balance. Now I don't want to leave
00:06:49.720 out women who don't feel the need to pursue a career. That is also success. There is success 0.99
00:06:56.880 for women who decide that they just want to be at home. And that is also beautiful because
00:07:01.280 they've made that their priority and that's what they're passionate about. So that is a beautiful
00:07:06.660 thing. And a lot of women find that to be success. And that is gorgeous and beautiful and such a lovely
00:07:12.940 thing. And then there are the women who have a passion outside of the home, but are also passionate
00:07:17.580 about the home. So they have that work-life balance that I'm talking about, where women who want to 1.00
00:07:22.600 pursue their passions outside of the home are also balancing their family and their work. So there is
00:07:28.540 success when you decide that you want to be a stay-at-home mom and you're raising your children and
00:07:32.760 you're taking care of the home for your husband. That is also a version of success that I don't think
00:07:37.900 most men have. There are some exceptions, of course, and there are men who find success
00:07:42.760 that way. There are also men who find that success is work-life balance. So I'm not discounting
00:07:47.080 them either. I just kind of wanted to talk about why success for women looks a little bit different
00:07:52.820 a lot of the time. There's a lot of the time where women are pursuing a thing that they're passionate 1.00
00:07:58.380 about, even if they don't get to the highest level of that, because they are able to balance
00:08:03.800 that passion as well as the passion that they have for a home life, for a family, for flexibility.
00:08:11.260 And those things actually do make them happier than just getting to the highest level in a corporate
00:08:17.500 structure, for example. Whereas many men may not be as concerned about work-life balance and are more
00:08:23.420 comfortable and find that they feel successful just by working up the corporate ladder. Now, there are
00:08:29.600 also men who find success in marriage and in having children and also doing that. So men who are only
00:08:36.660 pursuing career and don't care about finding a wife and having children, I don't think that that is a
00:08:42.800 perfect version of success either. But at the same time, men can pursue a corporate structure and work
00:08:49.120 more hours and they don't feel the need to have a very balanced life. Women feel like they need that 1.00
00:08:55.820 because we want to be at home. We want to have children. We want to have time to take care of
00:09:01.140 our husbands. Not all of us, but many of us. And so that is why our version of success, a woman's
00:09:07.180 version of success, is really different than what a man's version of success might look like. And if you
00:09:13.100 are working in a corporate structure and you find that you don't really fit in with the mentality
00:09:18.100 that's there, that you don't really care about working your way up, you really just want to be
00:09:22.500 doing something that you're passionate about, making enough money, getting to the point in your
00:09:27.440 career that you feel comfortable with, and then also having a beautiful family and home, that's not
00:09:32.580 unnatural. That makes sense because a lot of women find success in having that beautiful balance between 1.00
00:09:39.160 the two things. And so you're not odd. So pining after having a balance in your life doesn't make you
00:09:45.800 weird doesn't make you different. It actually makes sense. Many women want to have a balanced life. 1.00
00:09:53.160 They want to spend time at home, help with the children, really be there for that, and then also
00:09:59.140 do something that they're passionate about. And so pursuing that version of success instead of pursuing
00:10:04.460 kind of the structured version of success makes sense. And I think in the long run, it will make
00:10:11.260 many women happier. So let me know in the comments below if you agree with my assessment of women's
00:10:17.280 version of success. I'd love to know. Thank you guys so much for watching today's video. Please
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