Ladies, SUCCESS Is More Than Just A Career! ｜｜ Why many women don't like the corporate structure...
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Success looks different for women than it does for men. In this episode, I talk about the differences between what success looks like for a woman and a man and how they define it. I also talk about how women are different from men when it comes to work-life balance.
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Hello, beautiful ladies, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about why
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success looks different for men than for women. I think for a lot of women, success looks different
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than it does for a man. Men look at success and career is generally what they're talking about.
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They're talking about succeeding and getting to the highest level in whatever field they have
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chosen to pursue. And having a family, having children, that is all incredibly important,
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but the job is what's going to support them. And if they have to work longer hours, it's okay
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because they've found success in their career. Now for a lot of women, that isn't the case because
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just pursuing career and pursuing that to the highest level isn't enough. Again, a lot of men
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think that having a family is super important. So I'm not saying that the men are only doing
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career success, but what I am saying is that for women, that work-life balance is a really,
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really important part of it and more important than it might be for some men. So today I want
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to talk about what the difference is between men's success and women's success and really more focus
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on what women's success looks like. So let's get into it. So the first thing that success for a woman
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looks like is having flexibility. Now I know that a lot of women do care about their careers and if
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they work in a structured environment and it works for them, that makes them happy. But a lot of women
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I know, and I know I am one of them, I am craving flexibility in my schedule. So success for me
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would be doing what I love, but also having the flexibility to have a family and also just have
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time for myself to hang out with my girlfriends as well as to go to the gym when I want to, wake up at
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whatever time, maybe work a little bit later. Those things for me are part of success in the definition
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of success for me. It's not just working and getting to the highest echelon of my career. It's also having
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flexibility in my daily life and in my day-to-day. And so I know that whatever my success looks like,
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that would be a huge part of it. Having flexibility so that I could have the life that I want
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and have that work-life balance that matters to me is something that's really important to me and
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would define success for me. Having a work-life balance is so important and I think that's really
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what the core of a woman's success is, is having balance in your life so that you can do the things
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that you love and care about and pursue that work that you are passionate about, but also so that you
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can have life and can bear children and have time for them. And so for a lot of women, the corporate
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structure isn't the best fit because we are built to have flexibility in our lives so that we can take care
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of our children so that we can pursue the things that we care about. And in all of this is working
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on something that you're passionate about. Women have passions. They are interested in things and they
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want to do something that really matters to them. I think some men are more comfortable working at jobs
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that maybe they aren't as passionate about, but it means that they get to work into that corporate
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structure and make their way up the ladder. That might be what they're passionate about, is the pursuit of the
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highest level rather than the actual topic. A lot of the time, women don't work the same way. Women are
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less interested in climbing a ladder than they are pursuing something that they care about. And so I
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think that having that perfect work-life balance includes doing something that you really love. So for me,
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I'm so passionate about YouTube. I'm so passionate about my blog. I'm really passionate about talking to
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you guys about these topics. And for me, it's not about working in a corporate structure. It's about
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doing something that I love and care about. And that may mean I work more hours, actually,
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but those hours are flexible so that I can do what I need to when I need to and also have time to spend
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with my husband and clean the house and cook dinner and all of the things that also I want to invest
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time in. And so for me, I know that my work is something that I'm passionate about and also I have
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that life balance so that I can spend time on the things that are going to make my life more complete.
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And I'm sure there are a lot of you who have passions that you are working toward. Please
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let me know in the comments below what those would be, what you're passionate about and what
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you're pursuing. And if you are somebody who isn't working in a structure or isn't pursuing kind of
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the highest level, the president of a company sort of thing, I'd love to know what it is that you are
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pursuing and what it is that you do care about. Because I think that a lot of women find success in
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pursuing a career that matters to them. And another part of that is that when you're working
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on something that you care about and you're not working in that corporate structure, you also,
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like I said, have more flexibility when it comes to your hours. Because if you're working for yourself,
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for example, you would be doing something on your own hours and that would be success for you.
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Now, one of the ways that women find success is through making connections. Women love to work
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with other people. I think a lot of the time women like working with other people. They like working
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with other women. They like talking about their ideas. And working in solitude can work, but bouncing
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ideas off of someone else is also really great. And having that social connection is something that
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a lot of women find success in. And pursuing a career where you can make connections with something
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that you're passionate about would be success for many women. Many women would find success in working
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with someone who shares that passion and also maybe is looking for a more flexible lifestyle.
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If you look at a lot of women-run companies, it's sort of like that. If you look at the women who run
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the home edit, it's two women who are working together and I would think have more flexibility
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because it's something that they care about, but they're working together. They made a connection
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and they found success. And also they have children and a family and that is a version of success for
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them. So when we're talking about success for women, it's not just work, career, climbing a ladder.
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It's work-life balance. And I think another part of that is that women find success in having
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children and marrying a good man. Many women will define their success not only based on how
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successful they are in their career, but how successful the whole package looks, their whole
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life, right? So if you marry a good man, if you have children, if you have a family and you're
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working a job that you care about, that is success. It's not just doing a really good job and working
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your way up that ladder. It's having that beautiful work-life balance. Now I don't want to leave
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out women who don't feel the need to pursue a career. That is also success. There is success
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for women who decide that they just want to be at home. And that is also beautiful because
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they've made that their priority and that's what they're passionate about. So that is a beautiful
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thing. And a lot of women find that to be success. And that is gorgeous and beautiful and such a lovely
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thing. And then there are the women who have a passion outside of the home, but are also passionate
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about the home. So they have that work-life balance that I'm talking about, where women who want to
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pursue their passions outside of the home are also balancing their family and their work. So there is
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success when you decide that you want to be a stay-at-home mom and you're raising your children and
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you're taking care of the home for your husband. That is also a version of success that I don't think
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most men have. There are some exceptions, of course, and there are men who find success
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that way. There are also men who find that success is work-life balance. So I'm not discounting
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them either. I just kind of wanted to talk about why success for women looks a little bit different
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a lot of the time. There's a lot of the time where women are pursuing a thing that they're passionate
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about, even if they don't get to the highest level of that, because they are able to balance
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that passion as well as the passion that they have for a home life, for a family, for flexibility.
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And those things actually do make them happier than just getting to the highest level in a corporate
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structure, for example. Whereas many men may not be as concerned about work-life balance and are more
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comfortable and find that they feel successful just by working up the corporate ladder. Now, there are
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also men who find success in marriage and in having children and also doing that. So men who are only
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pursuing career and don't care about finding a wife and having children, I don't think that that is a
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perfect version of success either. But at the same time, men can pursue a corporate structure and work
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more hours and they don't feel the need to have a very balanced life. Women feel like they need that
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because we want to be at home. We want to have children. We want to have time to take care of
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our husbands. Not all of us, but many of us. And so that is why our version of success, a woman's
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version of success, is really different than what a man's version of success might look like. And if you
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are working in a corporate structure and you find that you don't really fit in with the mentality
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that's there, that you don't really care about working your way up, you really just want to be
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doing something that you're passionate about, making enough money, getting to the point in your
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career that you feel comfortable with, and then also having a beautiful family and home, that's not
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unnatural. That makes sense because a lot of women find success in having that beautiful balance between
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the two things. And so you're not odd. So pining after having a balance in your life doesn't make you
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weird doesn't make you different. It actually makes sense. Many women want to have a balanced life.
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They want to spend time at home, help with the children, really be there for that, and then also
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do something that they're passionate about. And so pursuing that version of success instead of pursuing
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kind of the structured version of success makes sense. And I think in the long run, it will make
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many women happier. So let me know in the comments below if you agree with my assessment of women's
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