Classically Abby - Let's answer YOUR questions and assumptions about me...on my 30th BIRTHDAY!

00:00:00.000 it's my birthday and i'm officially turning 30 today the day that i'm filming this and i am so

00:00:05.760 excited to sit down and chat with you guys because i posted on my instagram stories if you had any

00:00:11.680 questions or assumptions on my 30th birthday in honor of my 30th birthday so i'm really excited

00:00:17.600 to just hop right in and share those with you but if you are new to my channel my name is abby

00:00:22.240 i am the creator of classically abby and here we talk about classic living and traditional values

00:00:26.800 and i would love if you would consider subscribing and hitting that notification bell lately my

00:00:31.120 channel has really been focusing on motherhood and homemaking but i also talk about just cultural

00:00:36.800 issues because i view the world from a classic and traditional perspective so i'm really excited

00:00:41.760 to get into today's video i am 35 weeks pregnant with my second son and i'm so excited to have

00:00:50.480 another little boy if you are wondering why my voice sounds a little weird it's because i have

00:00:55.760 had this lingering cough and cold for about a month now and i think that's just part and parcel of

00:01:01.680 being pregnant that being stuffy and getting sick lasts longer

00:01:08.880 but i'm really excited to just hop right into today's video so let's just get started okay so

00:01:13.760 this video is going to be assumptions and questions so just as a heads up but the first question i have

00:01:20.240 here is do you think your 20s will have been the best years of your life honestly probably not i think

00:01:27.440 that the my 30s will probably end up being the best years of my life because i'll get to be growing my

00:01:33.120 family and living with them at home with me as they're little and i see them getting to grow right

00:01:39.120 my oldest son is only a year and a half so i'm still very much in it with him as i'm entering my 30s

00:01:45.680 and i think that's going to be a lot of fun i wrote about this in my substack newsletter if you're

00:01:52.000 not subscribed it's classicallyabby.substack.com and i said i feel like your 20s is all about kind of

00:01:57.760 finding yourself and your worldviews and your 30s is about living out those worldviews with confidence

00:02:03.200 and so i'm looking forward to that of not just the anxiety and stress of figuring out what you believe

00:02:11.120 and how you're going to live that out and instead embracing my 30s where i'm a lot less anxious

00:02:17.120 almost never anxious and it's just about living out what i truly believe and knowing what i believe

00:02:23.600 and that's a really cool thing so i don't think my 20s will be the best years of my life maybe my 30s

00:02:29.120 i hope that every decade gets better and better but who knows i am really looking forward to my 30s though

00:02:36.160 do i feel 30 i am very pregnant and my body feels a little bit older just because you're in pain

00:02:45.200 sometimes like i have sciatica with this pregnancy so in a way i feel 30 in the sense that i feel older

00:02:52.560 and i feel good about my my life and where i'm at so maybe maybe i do feel 30 i think i do how many of

00:03:01.920 your goals have you achieved from 20 to now any more for when you hit 40. so i've hit a lot of my goals

00:03:10.880 for what i wanted to do between 20 and now i've gotten married i've had a child i'm pregnant with

00:03:16.720 another child we own a home we live near family i've built a business and it's really incredible i mean

00:03:25.280 i wouldn't say that this was necessarily how i anticipated my life turning out when i was 20 because

00:03:30.480 i was very much in the opera world at the time but as i realized what the really important things are

00:03:36.640 i would say that my goals have definitely been hit as far as what i'm aiming for when i'm 40

00:03:42.480 a bigger family and just being more established in in our lives so that's what i would picture

00:03:49.680 that's what i would say here's an assumption you only want two kids no i would really like to have

00:03:57.200 a very large family the only thing i'll say is that i've noticed that this time around pregnancy

00:04:02.400 is not as easy as the first time around partly because i have a toddler to chase after but partly

00:04:07.760 because my body's a little older so i'm praying to god that my pregnancies continue forward in a pretty

00:04:16.320 healthy manner and just continuing to take care of myself so that i can be as functional during my

00:04:23.280 pregnancies as i can be will you add more singing or opera or lullaby content to your youtube channel

00:04:30.000 i really want to i just have to figure out the best way to go about it if you have an idea for like

00:04:37.120 the actual video structure i would love to hear it if you guys like kind of my my semi music videos that

00:04:45.360 i've made i can keep doing that but if you like something different if you don't mind if me if i'm just

00:04:50.000 singing in a room like i'm happy to do whatever um but the singing stuff is the easy part it's the

00:04:56.320 video that goes along with it here's another assumption you cook dinner every single night

00:05:00.960 i don't cook dinner every single night because we eat leftovers but i do cook dinner for our family

00:05:07.040 very often i would say we eat out once a week maybe because sometimes we go to brunch once a week on

00:05:15.920 sundays so i would say that most of the time yes i'm cooking dinner but a lot of the time i'll cook

00:05:20.320 like two or three times a week because we'll eat leftovers for the rest of the week do you ever feel

00:05:25.120 down or depressed for the most part no thank god i'm really really blessed that way i think a lot of

00:05:32.720 that is mindset and being a positive person and trying to be a positive person of course if you have

00:05:40.240 like a medically diagnosed depression that's different but for the most part i'm i'm really

00:05:45.360 really happy and i think not complaining has helped with that i talked about that in my last homemaking

00:05:52.960 video i think it was just having a positive outlook will will kind of force you to have a positive

00:06:00.720 outlook in the sense that if you if you complain a lot it can actually make you feel more negative i've

00:06:04.640 found when i complained a lot because i i just felt like oh i should complain a lot that's kind of the

00:06:09.680 culture we're in then i did feel more down but as i have moved away from that that perspective and

00:06:17.760 started to view things in a really positive way and be grateful for my life i would i say most of

00:06:22.560 the time i'm not down thank god what are the most important things you learned in your 20s so i was

00:06:29.120 definitely talking about this recently having children time goes by so much more quickly and i think

00:06:36.400 that was a really big lesson for me is in your 20s you don't even notice time passing like you'll have

00:06:41.920 a milestone here and there and you'll think oh yeah time is passing quickly but when you have children

00:06:48.000 it's a whole different brawl game like time passes insanely fast and it makes life so much more

00:06:54.960 precious so that's been a huge lesson for me and a blessing in disguise i mean it's it's hard to know that

00:07:01.120 life is short but it also means that everything is more special so that's been a really big lesson

00:07:06.800 what's another lesson i've learned reading is important like actually reading i took a break

00:07:12.240 from reading for i feel like 10 years between like 18 and 28 okay that's an exaggeration but like

00:07:19.040 somewhere in my 20s i kind of stopped reading as much and then i started picking up reading in the

00:07:23.120 last couple of years and i feel like i forgot how important it is like how much i have learned in the

00:07:28.560 last few years is incredible and it just informs my perspectives so much more and i feel like very

00:07:37.520 confident about what i believe because i read so much what are your favorite games to play that's a

00:07:43.920 good question because as you know my husband is a board game fanatic so we have a lot of games that

00:07:49.920 we love but i would say some of my favorites are above and below i really like that game i like a game

00:07:56.160 called ghost stories i like a game called caper my husband and i play that together and it's really

00:08:01.280 cute so i those are just three recommendations but i could probably come up with more what advice can

00:08:08.000 you give people who are struggling with their faith i mean i've gone through definite struggles with my

00:08:13.440 faith and i think one of the big ones for me and maybe this is something that you're struggling with

00:08:18.960 was i met certain people who called themselves religious who were not actually acting religiously

00:08:27.520 and so i associated the faith with these bad actors and if you are in a similar situation where

00:08:36.880 maybe you have run into some people who you don't feel are representative of the religion that you

00:08:43.520 believe in but you've kind of been like well how could it be that they are they are christian or

00:08:49.040 jewish if they're not good people separate the the bad actors the people who are acting in bad faith

00:08:55.680 from people who practice the faith with really good intentions and recognize that religion doesn't

00:09:03.040 always play out in people as it should once i made that distinction i was able to embrace my religion

00:09:11.760 embrace my faith and recognize that there are some people who fall short and there are some people

00:09:16.960 who use the use the term religious as a kind of wield it even if they don't actually believe in the

00:09:24.960 things that make them better people the the things that in the faith that make you better so that's where

00:09:31.680 i would start because that was my big struggle and then find a community that you connect with i mean

00:09:37.040 that is always the most important thing if you can find a community of people i mean that's really

00:09:41.440 the outgrowth of what i'm saying if you find a community of people who are living out their

00:09:45.280 faith in a way that you like and you you can say wow i i'm so glad that i'm religious because look

00:09:51.040 at these people who i'm surrounded with then i think you'll have a better connection to your faith

00:09:55.600 as well and always pray and talk to god and and be open with god because that's what he's there for

00:10:01.280 in a sense curious about your religious upbringing and if you wanted to marry a jew raise your kids

00:10:06.720 jewish so i was raised orthodox jewish i was raised religiously i went off the derach which which means

00:10:13.680 basically i stopped being observant for a little while but i always knew i wanted to marry a jew and

00:10:19.440 i always knew i wanted to raise my kids jewish that was always very important to me even when i wasn't

00:10:24.240 practicing i knew that i wanted to come back to the faith essentially so that was part and parcel of my

00:10:31.040 worldview and i am so glad that i did because i have developed a really strong basis in my faith

00:10:41.200 happy birthday thank you i would love to know your experience with weaning little man so i actually

00:10:47.360 don't know if i did a video about weaning i took it very slowly so here was my story about weaning i

00:10:55.760 didn't ovulate the entire time i nursed now that's not true for every person it was true for me and

00:11:02.480 we knew we wanted another child so we decided we wanted to wean little man when he was 12 months old

00:11:09.280 when he was a year old because at that point he could switch over to cow's milk completely and so

00:11:14.800 what i did was for the last month 11 months at 11 months i would cut out one feed a week because we

00:11:22.080 were at four feeds a day i was feeding him at breakfast or before breakfast i was feeding him

00:11:28.160 right before his nap i was feeding him a little later in the day and then i was feeding him at

00:11:32.400 bedtime so i cut out one feed a day just based on my own preference and then by the last week i had one

00:11:41.600 feed left and that was how it went it was not easy in the sense that he didn't want me to stop

00:11:48.640 nursing him because i nursed him to sleep a lot so he would bite me when i was rocking him to sleep

00:11:55.120 but once he got used to it he was okay um and it was not an emotional i didn't have a huge hormonal

00:12:01.760 shift i think because we were already at four feeds so it wasn't like i went from eight feeds to

00:12:07.440 zero i went from four feeds to zero and i did it really slowly so i had a pretty good experience with

00:12:13.760 it and then i got pregnant literally the day that i stopped so that's my that's my weaning story

00:12:20.400 did i go to college i did go to college and i got my master's and i got my professional study

00:12:25.600 certificate your opera journey and do you still practice or sing so i do still sing i sing every

00:12:31.760 day because i sing to my son every day and i like to sing around the house uh my opera journey i've

00:12:37.120 shared on my channel before so you can probably find that in a different video but at this point i'm not

00:12:42.640 singing professionally because you know i'm i'm being a stay-at-home mom and i'm i'm working on

00:12:49.040 youtube i would love to sing more make more videos on my channel of singing and if i get hired for a

00:12:55.120 gig here and there like i'll do it but for the most part that's not my career and i have to say i went to

00:13:01.840 go see a musical the other night and i was anticipating that it would make me sad that i wasn't

00:13:06.400 performing to be honest it made me so relieved i had this thought of like i would have had to

00:13:13.920 been in rehearsal every night for the last two weeks of the show away from my son and my husband

00:13:22.160 and i was sick when i went to go see the show if i had been sick when i was in the show that would

00:13:27.520 have been incredibly stressful and probably i wouldn't have been able to perform and i'm grateful

00:13:33.360 i don't have to deal with that so that was a nice a nice realization is that i'm not missing the

00:13:39.440 lifestyle i might miss the singing element but the lifestyle i don't miss i definitely assumed you were

00:13:45.280 much older not a looks thing just a maturity plus multiple kids thing i'll take that as a compliment i

00:13:50.880 think i often get that i i look younger but i seem older i did get a few different people thinking

00:13:58.400 that i am older than i am uh no but i am 30 years old and i appreciate that i appreciate that you

00:14:06.000 think i'm mature that's very sweet i would hope that by the time i'm 30 i've got at least some of

00:14:11.440 my life stuff figured out am i having a big party for my birthday i'm doing a party i'm excited about

00:14:18.560 it i planned it i love planning my own parties first of all i like planning parties generally i like

00:14:24.000 planning parties for people and i like planning parties for myself i just think it's really fun

00:14:28.080 but i am excited to have a night of fun with my friends we're just going to have some appetizers

00:14:35.760 it's going to be kind of like cocktail attire and then we're going to dance to music from the 40s

00:14:40.000 through the 80s that's the that's the goal and it's my family and it's our friends and it's people

00:14:44.800 from our community so yeah i'm really i'm really looking forward to marriage tips for a newly engaged

00:14:49.920 young man tips for being a good husband communicate and i know everyone says it and it's super annoying to

00:14:57.120 hear for the hundredth time but it's true be a good communicator when your wife comes to you with

00:15:01.920 concerns listen see if you guys can work it out together don't shut down the conversation um i think

00:15:09.040 that if you as the man are open to listening and again a woman has to be good at listening too because

00:15:16.080 some women are not but both of you both of you need to be good listeners and really try to tackle the

00:15:22.640 problem so that you can view each other as being on the same side that's always my my advice is that

00:15:29.520 the problem is over here and the two of you are on this same side trying to tackle it i also think that

00:15:36.800 this isn't important but it is always nice to go out of your way to do romantic gestures in the sense

00:15:43.200 that a man who who does romantic gestures isn't make or it's not make or break for the relationship

00:15:50.480 but women really like it and it just makes women feel really special and cherished so if you can think

00:15:57.440 about things in advance or like for an event meaning her birthday you're like oh i want to get her

00:16:02.960 something and you think about it in advance that's just really sweet or if you write her a really nice

00:16:06.400 note or if you tell her how much you love her and you you've thought it out that's really nice or when

00:16:12.320 you're out and about if you just randomly think oh i want to pick up some flowers my husband has done

00:16:16.400 that a few times and it's just so so loving i i don't think again romantic gestures aren't going to

00:16:22.240 make or break a relationship but they just are very sweet turning 30 what is the greatest accomplishment

00:16:28.880 you've achieved so far in your life i don't know if i like talking about things in terms of

00:16:33.360 accomplishments i would say the biggest thing i've done in my life is having my son i would say that

00:16:39.840 that's the best thing i've done and the fact that i have a really strong marriage that's a huge

00:16:46.880 blessing and one that my husband and i take really seriously how do you handle the insane amount of

00:16:52.240 haters you get never seen anything like it it's pretty it's pretty magical is it not i just ignore it

00:16:58.560 because if you're wrong you're wrong and if you're right you're right and it's pretty easy to

00:17:02.480 distinguish the difference what are the best moments from each of the three decades you've

00:17:06.560 been alive that could be like a whole video in and of itself that's so crazy to think about decade

00:17:14.720 one through ten probably going to disneyland with my family like i probably would have loved that

00:17:20.240 that probably made me really happy okay so that's one through ten ten through twenty

00:17:25.360 20 getting into usc getting into university of southern california that was very exciting because

00:17:31.280 i had gotten a full scholarship so that was really amazing 20 to 30 would be getting married having my

00:17:37.920 son like 20 through 30 was the biggest time as you might imagine because that's like the time of your

00:17:43.120 life when most major milestones start to happen and then into your 30s congrats and happy birthday

00:17:49.600 what are you most proud of looking back at the past year figuring out my mindset towards homemaking

00:17:55.200 i'm so proud of that i think i i really struggled with the fulfilling your potential thing and feeling

00:18:00.480 like i needed to fulfill my potential outside of the home and in the last six months i've turned that

00:18:05.760 around and i'm like i don't feel like i need to be anywhere else like this is where i'm supposed to be

00:18:10.080 this is the best place i could be and i'm really proud of myself that i dedicated myself to the time

00:18:15.040 to engaging with that and inside of that as well reading a ton of books on parenting and trying to

00:18:22.320 develop a a philosophy of parenting so that i can kind of pre-parent in the sense that i'm not parenting

00:18:29.520 in the moment when i'm flustered or upset or whatever i'm parenting kind of before it happens and then

00:18:36.480 when something happens it doesn't take me off guard as much or if it does i can immediately like go into

00:18:41.920 my philosophy or go to a book and think okay how can i deal with this the next time it happens i'm

00:18:47.200 like very proud of those things here's an assumption 10 years ago you had a very different idea of what

00:18:52.240 your life would be like today 100 i thought i would be a professional opera singer and doing that full

00:18:58.160 time but instead i am at home with my children and thinking about homeschooling and being much more

00:19:05.520 a devoted wife and mother and that is the dream like i'm so grateful that my life took the turn

00:19:12.160 it did that i am here so that is today's video that's where i'm gonna stop thank you guys so much

00:19:18.560 for submitting so many questions and assumptions i mean there's a lot more but i'm gonna call it here

00:19:23.760 and i hope you guys will subscribe and join the classic crew i would love to have you thank you so much

00:19:29.600 for watching please leave a comment down below what have you learned as you approach whatever

00:19:34.960 birth that you're coming up on i would love to hear thank you so much and i'll see you guys in my next

00:19:38.960 next video bye

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Classically Abby - November 09, 2023

Let's answer YOUR questions and assumptions about me...on my 30th BIRTHDAY!

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