Classically Abby - Letting My Subscribers INTERVIEW Me!

00:00:00.000 hello classic crew and welcome to today's video where i'll be answering my subscribers interview

00:00:06.160 questions so i have a substack newsletter and if you are a premium subscriber you can submit

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00:00:25.360 and make it into a video so congratulations blair for submitting the idea for today's video

00:00:32.880 she said she would love to see one of my subscribers interview me so i thought what i

00:00:37.760 would do is i would ask on instagram if you are interviewing me what questions would you ask

00:00:43.760 so i'm going to be basically being interviewed by you guys which i think is really fun it's a little

00:00:48.640 bit different than an ask me anything or get to know me because these questions are just a bit more

00:00:54.640 targeted and as if i was being interviewed by you guys so that's kind of cool and i loved this idea

00:00:59.600 so thank you again to blair for this idea i'm really excited to get into today's video if you're not

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00:01:25.040 bell so that you can get notified every time i post a new video so now let's get into it the first

00:01:30.240 question is any fashion icons yes i do have fashion icons i've probably mentioned them on my channel

00:01:37.440 before i love audrey hepburn style i think audrey hepburn was one of the most classic looking women 1.00

00:01:44.640 that i can picture i mean she always looks absolutely stunning always looks put together

00:01:50.240 i just love her look and i've always been inspired by her in today's day and age it would probably have

00:01:55.760 to be kate middleton i think that her fashion is so beautiful feminine modest just totally something

00:02:02.400 to emulate and i love what she chooses to wear someone asked pie or cake cake the only kind of

00:02:10.880 pie i like is pecan pie chocolate pecan pie that's the only kind i like and if i'm not going to have

00:02:17.280 that then i'd rather just have cake the next question is what lessons from your opera theater training

00:02:23.280 help you in your current career i love this question i think that's a great interview question

00:02:28.960 i would say that the idea of public speaking and performing and feeling very comfortable in front

00:02:34.880 of the camera that is all stuff that i really learned in my operatic career i feel very comfortable

00:02:44.080 up on stage i also feel comfortable just sitting and chatting to you guys even though i'm alone in a

00:02:48.880 room it is different but there's something performative about it and i'm totally comfortable with that and i

00:02:53.760 really appreciate that one of the things i think was huge for me was the idea of getting constructive

00:03:01.200 criticism and getting criticism couched in like the worst way possible so when you are in the opera

00:03:08.160 world a lot of the time people will give you criticism in the worst way they're not going to try

00:03:12.080 and say it in a nice way they're just going to lay it right out there and i think one of the things

00:03:17.280 that teaches you is is this person right can i take the kind of kernel of knowledge that they're

00:03:25.200 sharing with me and separate it from the way they said it or is it not right is it incorrect and i

00:03:30.800 don't really have to incorporate it and it really teaches you to be very good at separating the wheat

00:03:36.640 from the chaff and that's something as a youtuber you have to be great at because i get horrible comments

00:03:44.640 every day and i can see the ones that are just there to be mean and if there's somebody who actually

00:03:49.840 has a constructive thing to say even if it's said in the worst way then i can take that and think to

00:03:55.040 myself okay maybe there is something there maybe i do need to improve and then there are the criticisms

00:03:59.840 that are just not true so i am really happy that i've had that training of being able to hear real

00:04:07.120 criticism because of how i was trained if you could only teach your daughter one thing what would it be

00:04:13.760 that's a great question and i think it would be to respect herself now i think a lot of the time

00:04:22.160 nowadays we hear women talk about empowerment and the idea of empowerment divorced from respecting

00:04:29.040 yourself gives you these feminists who make really poor choices because they don't respect themselves and 1.00

00:04:36.080 they don't even know how to respect themselves so if i could only teach my daughter one thing it would be

00:04:41.760 respect yourself respect your body and in doing those things you will get respect in return and

00:04:48.320 you will get the best treatment from other people and when i say respecting yourself i think that that

00:04:53.920 kind of teaches a lot because respecting your body means not having sex indiscriminately it means wearing

00:05:00.960 modest clothing so that people can get to know you before they get to know your body respecting yourself

00:05:07.520 means you know how you should be treated and that means that you'll make good choices when you know

00:05:13.840 that you have worth when you know that you have worth because you are a child of god then you won't let

00:05:21.280 anyone else take advantage of you and you won't make bad decisions at what point in your relationship

00:05:26.160 with jacob did you know he was the one well we were talking about marriage kind of vaguely by the second

00:05:34.240 weekend that we were together but i would say that we said i love you a month after we started dating

00:05:40.160 and once you say i love you in my mind that's the right person so we kind of knew quickly that we were

00:05:48.160 gonna end up together i don't say i love you just frivolously i say i love you to people who i believe

00:05:54.880 there's a future with so as soon as i said i love you that's how i knew jacob was the one what women

00:06:00.640 do you look up to i guess there are a few different versions of that question so there's the women in 0.95

00:06:06.000 my life my mother i look up to her i respect her then there are the women in history the women in the

00:06:12.480 bible is what i usually consider and think of i look up to yael i look up to judith i look up to you

00:06:20.640 know the foremothers sarah rebecca rachel uh they i find the women in the bible to be very inspiring um

00:06:30.160 and even though this isn't a specific woman the woman described as the woman of valor that writing

00:06:38.320 is one of my absolute favorites and whenever i'm feeling lost that's where i find inspiration what do

00:06:44.160 you think will be your approach to parenting what values and skills will you instill i love this

00:06:50.240 question another great question um my approach to parenting is obviously something i'm gonna have to

00:06:55.760 share with my husband luckily we are very much on the same page um we want to raise our children in a

00:07:02.480 way that's going to make them the best versions of themselves and grow up to be really good members

00:07:07.120 of society i love the way jordan peterson talks about parenting if you don't like your kid why is anyone

00:07:12.240 else gonna like your kid so something jacob and i talk a lot about is we want to make sure that our

00:07:18.320 kids are are good and easy to be around so we want to discipline them we want to make sure that if

00:07:24.720 they're acting out we address it we don't want to just allow them to kind of be a problem around other

00:07:32.880 people and we want to take responsibility for the raising of our children we want to be very active

00:07:39.040 in that role as far as values and skills those are obviously two very different things values we

00:07:44.560 obviously want to raise them with the values that we hold so we're going to raise them orthodox jewish

00:07:49.840 we're going to raise them with good strong moral values that's very important to us and as far as

00:07:54.880 skills uh we really want them to just develop the skills that come to them naturally i would love to

00:08:00.800 share music with them i think that my husband would like to share weightlifting with them that's

00:08:05.280 something we've talked about you know exercise so that they feel good physically and we would like

00:08:11.280 to teach them to read we really want to limit as much as possible dependence on technology up until a

00:08:18.880 point where they're really able to use it and not treat it as an addiction so we're definitely not having

00:08:24.960 ipads we're definitely not going to depend on that as a form of entertainment for them we're going to

00:08:30.400 try to teach them to read from a young age so that they can entertain themselves that way and then

00:08:35.200 also just get them used to the idea of having play time by themselves of course this is all in theory

00:08:41.920 but that's what we would like to do how has your comfort with being on camera and speaking publicly

00:08:47.280 changed over time i think you just get more and more comfortable in front of the camera you figure

00:08:52.640 out how you can edit you figure out what you can do you figure out kind of if you are being less than

00:09:00.000 natural on camera you kind of realize the quirks that you bring to camera when you aren't being

00:09:04.720 totally natural and you weed those out and as far as public speaking i think that that's going to

00:09:09.040 change over time more and more over time so i really like public speaking and i enjoy it i love giving

00:09:14.640 speeches if you are on a college campus make sure to reach out to me i'd love to speak for your campus

00:09:19.520 but i do think that it is something that will change over time do you actually read all the comments 0.55

00:09:24.800 some of them are very dumb and aggressive how do you deal with that so i read as many of the comments

00:09:31.040 as i can on some videos i have tens of thousands so i really can't read all of those comments but i 0.99

00:09:37.200 do as much as i can and the ones that are just stupid or aggressive i i'm actually pretty good at 0.51

00:09:42.800 ignoring i just kind of scroll past them i get halfway through realize that it's going to be something

00:09:46.880 totally irrelevant to me and i just keep scrolling so that's how i do it but i love communicating

00:09:52.720 with my real subscribers in the comments it's very important to me so i make sure to make time

00:09:58.560 for that and it it's something i enjoy and i love hearing what you guys have to say and one of the

00:10:04.240 really cool things is that you know i recognize your names if you've been following me for a while

00:10:09.040 and you've commented a lot i know who you are i've seen it a bunch of times and i love that and it's

00:10:14.800 something that makes me feel really connected with you how many children do you want i used to say three

00:10:21.760 nowadays i feel like five but as many as god gives us how are you planning to balance family life

00:10:28.240 with work life in the future my policy is always that family life comes first i will always put my

00:10:36.000 husband and my children over my work but i chose this career specifically so that i could be at home

00:10:42.400 so that i could spend time with my kids and i did have flexibility that was always the plan with this

00:10:49.520 youtube career so that's the plan is to continue to have flexibility so that i can be as available

00:10:57.280 to my family as possible but i can also do this job that i really love any tips for someone marrying

00:11:03.600 quote unquote young 23 and 25 well my husband and i got married at 24 um i don't think that that's that

00:11:11.680 young i would say take the first year and just recognize that the first year is the hardest i say

00:11:19.040 this to everyone i know there's this fantasy that the first year is the honeymoon phase and it's just

00:11:24.400 not real the first year i mean there are honeymoon parts of it it's lovely but the first year of

00:11:30.240 marriage is hard you're getting used to each other you're getting used to adjustments and it takes a

00:11:35.760 while to really figure that out and by year two you're gonna realize how much easier things get but

00:11:41.840 the first year is not supposed to be smooth sailing it's supposed to be kind of tricky and just accept

00:11:47.680 that and recognize that making such a big commitment it's kind of hard for your brain to comprehend

00:11:53.120 so once you have kind of eased into that after a year things do get easier but it is it's not

00:12:01.200 supposed to be simple and easy right off the bat and i think we need to normalize that and say it's okay

00:12:07.040 it's normal because i think a lot of people get scared and think that something must be wrong

00:12:11.280 there's nothing wrong is being jewish different from being christian if so what are those differences

00:12:18.240 so yes and no their basic moral underpinnings are very similar right it's judeo-christianity we share

00:12:27.280 that base and that you know makes things easier the difference is just that we have very strict

00:12:34.080 practices and that means that from a fundamental day-to-day basis our days are going to look different

00:12:40.640 uh we keep sabbath and when we keep sabbath we don't use electricity we are very strict about what

00:12:48.000 we can and cannot do and then we have holidays throughout the year that have similar laws

00:12:53.120 and those kind of fundamental those fundamental day-to-day things look different so that's kind

00:13:01.280 of i would say probably the biggest difference between how judaism and christianity are practiced

00:13:07.680 do you plan on writing a book in the future if so what would you write about i would love to write a

00:13:13.840 book i would probably talk about the same stuff i talk about on my channel but in in a book form

00:13:19.920 i'd love to keep talking about how to be classic i think that this is something that you know is kind

00:13:25.280 of an endless treasure trove of topics and i i personally love guides i love lists i love being

00:13:33.440 taught how to be a feminine woman like i will subscribe to channels like that just because i think that it's 0.98

00:13:40.400 fun and fascinating and things i can incorporate into my day-to-day and i'm a very practical person

00:13:45.200 i like to see practical things that i can do and add to my day to make myself more of a woman more

00:13:52.560 womanly and i would love to share that i would love to use my expertise on how to be classic and share it

00:13:59.520 with all of you guys that's what i would love to do i mean i have a million ideas for books i also just love

00:14:04.240 writing so i could probably write on a lot of different things but that's at least what i would like to start

00:14:09.200 with what do you have to say to your left-leaning viewers and supporters well first of all thank you

00:14:15.440 for being here thank you for supporting me from the other side of the aisle i think that's really cool

00:14:20.880 and i think it's really great to just have the open lines of communication have an ability to talk

00:14:27.440 with people who disagree with and hear different ideas and so continuing to hear a voice that's different

00:14:34.400 than maybe everything else you're hearing continuing to engage with that is just important and i'm glad

00:14:40.640 that you're here and i'm glad you feel welcome what do you do when you feel anxiety or discouraged

00:14:46.560 so those are two very different emotions when i feel anxiety there are two ways that i can go about

00:14:53.440 things one is just do something just do something that gets you out of your head that helps a lot

00:15:00.080 because anxiety is very much in your head and it makes you feel like you are trapped but going out

00:15:05.040 and doing something physical exercising doing an activity that can really help the other thing you

00:15:10.400 can do if i can tell that the anxiety is situational is explore where it's coming from so if it's not just

00:15:17.360 free-floating anxiety if it's anxiety that i can tell came from something then i like to know why it's

00:15:23.040 there and then i can kind of delve into okay when did this start why is it happening and try and address

00:15:30.960 it really seriously as far as being discouraged i'm somebody who uses discouragement as an opportunity

00:15:39.840 to build something new or improve so if i'm feeling discouraged the first thing i do is i make a list i

00:15:47.200 figure out okay what can i do to not feel discouraged and to feel excited about what i'm going to do next

00:15:53.200 and that has been super helpful to me because it makes every time i feel discouraged makes me feel

00:15:59.360 excited about the next thing so that is it for today's video thank you for interviewing me as my

00:16:05.840 subscribers i loved being interviewed by you all i'd love to do more videos like this and thank you again

00:16:12.400 to blair for suggesting this it was a lot of fun if you have any other questions for me any other

00:16:18.400 interview questions leave them in the comments below also let me know what was your favorite

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Classically Abby - September 15, 2021

Letting My Subscribers INTERVIEW Me!

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