Classically Abby - People Rip You For Being Conservative. Here’s How YOU Stand Strong. 💪

00:00:00.160 Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about 1.00

00:00:04.720 how to avoid being peer pressured about being conservative.

00:00:11.120 I want to preface this video by saying that this isn't about talking to your friends and

00:00:16.240 listening to them and hearing arguments from the other side and not allowing yourself

00:00:20.320 to actually listen. This is about being peer pressured about your views because people call

00:00:25.600 you a bad person for having them. I think it's a wonderful and very important thing to have

00:00:31.360 conversations with people across the aisle so that we can learn about other people's positions

00:00:36.240 and all of that. So I do think it's important to engage with people on the other side but if people

00:00:40.880 are just going to demonize you or villainize you I don't think that that's fair and that would be

00:00:45.760 considered in my book peer pressure. So I have a whole list of ways that you can protect yourself

00:00:51.600 from being peer pressured by people who have different views than you do and who are making

00:00:56.720 you feel bad about your conservative views. So let's get into it. The first thing to do is to arm

00:01:02.640 yourself with the arguments. Every view you hold and have should have a basis and a foundation for why

00:01:10.560 you believe it. You shouldn't have your views just because somebody told you to. You should go and study

00:01:16.160 up on why you should believe that. Now of course your parents and the people that you trust have

00:01:22.560 those views for a reason so it's good to listen to them and hear why they think those things but it's

00:01:29.200 also really important to have those arguments and understand them for yourself. You shouldn't just

00:01:35.840 willy-nilly agree to whatever anyone says who is someone that you treat as a role model. You really

00:01:42.080 should take the time and take your time to learn and understand those arguments before going out

00:01:49.120 into the real world and being faced with different ones. Because the thing is news and facts will always

00:01:55.680 be skewed one way or the other and so it's always important to understand both sides. So when somebody

00:02:02.000 starts saying that you're a bad person for having conservative beliefs and starts just spewing media facts

00:02:08.320 at you which have been skewed in a certain direction and are made for a certain position, you actually

00:02:14.160 have an understanding of those statistics and understand how they've been skewed because usually

00:02:19.920 statistics can be used to prove a point. So you will have your statistics to combat those of people who are

00:02:28.000 demonizing you, villainizing you for having conservative views. Having the facts, having an understanding of

00:02:34.400 why you believe what you believe is always going to be the first line of defense when someone is trying

00:02:39.600 to peer pressure you into a different point of view. If you understand all of the things that you

00:02:44.480 believe and you have invested the time to research and actually know why you believe those things,

00:02:49.520 then when somebody starts peer pressuring you into believing something else because

00:02:53.520 you would be a bad person otherwise, bad person in quotation marks, you will actually have the foundation

00:03:00.240 to respond. But the other part of that is that if you are in a conversation with someone who

00:03:04.880 is trying to peer pressure you into a different point of view and you don't necessarily know the

00:03:09.920 answer or know of the statistics that they're bringing up, you can admit that you don't know.

00:03:15.680 You can say, oh I haven't heard that before or I haven't read that or I just don't know that.

00:03:20.880 Don't try and fake that you've heard it before because at the end of the day you're not going to be able

00:03:24.720 to have a good argument if you've never heard it before. And so it's important for you to be able

00:03:29.440 to admit, hey I've never heard that. And then when you go home and you decide to look it up or research

00:03:35.440 it you will actually have that in your back pocket the next time somebody brings it up to you and

00:03:41.200 you'll be able to say, actually I did look this up and I do understand it and actually here's an

00:03:46.960 argument for the other side. So it is really important that you be honest with yourself and

00:03:52.800 honest with the person that you're talking to if you didn't know what they were bringing up because

00:03:56.960 then you don't look arrogant for having tried to start a conversation and an argument on something

00:04:02.080 you have no basis for. So it's always important to admit when you don't know something and then

00:04:07.120 just go home and study up and read about it so that the next time it comes up you're prepared.

00:04:12.880 It's always important to know what the other side is saying so when they try to villainize you or

00:04:17.760 demonize you, you actually are prepared. You've heard it before, you know what the response should be,

00:04:23.840 and you're not totally taken off guard and then in a situation where you are being peer pressured or

00:04:29.520 someone is telling you you're a bad person for being conservative you can actually take a moment

00:04:35.920 and respond because you've been prepared for that instead of feeling so bad and guilty that someone

00:04:41.840 that maybe is your friend or someone that you go to school with is calling you a bad person.

00:04:47.680 It's really easy to want to avoid conflict by just agreeing with people and if you agree with people

00:04:52.400 enough over time you may start to see that you actually start to agree with them internally and

00:04:57.680 not just externally. When I was in college and in my master's and my professional studies certificate

00:05:02.880 I constantly felt pressured to talk about my political views and when I say talk about my

00:05:07.040 political views I mean agree with the people around me. The problem is that if you are in

00:05:12.080 college with people who are actually going to become your work colleagues it's not just oh people I'm hanging out with and

00:05:18.400 friends who I'm never going to actually have to see them in a work environment where in that situation

00:05:24.800 you can easily remove yourself or say what you actually believe without fearing about losing job

00:05:30.720 opportunities. I was working with people who would be my work colleagues who I would be in rehearsals with

00:05:35.840 or in shows with and I didn't want to risk my career opportunities by talking about what I actually thought about

00:05:42.720 conservative politics so often I would just agree with the people around me so that I wouldn't get

00:05:48.080 into conflict with them but after I would agree with people I would go home I would look up the

00:05:53.440 arguments that they were saying and just continue to give myself the information so that I understood

00:05:58.960 my own positions. If you just continually agree with people because you care about them and you don't want

00:06:04.880 to be shunned often you will start to see that maybe your positions will start to change because you're not

00:06:11.360 backing up your own positions you're not talking about them enough and you're hearing such an influx

00:06:16.480 of the other side calling your side and your position bad evil even and so you will just start

00:06:23.600 to slowly without even realizing move to a different position so it's kind of like in Harry Potter you have

00:06:31.040 to have constant vigilance about your own positions and reinforcing them. Now another really important thing is

00:06:38.480 being friends with the right people now when I say being friends with the right people I don't just mean

00:06:43.200 conservatives there are a lot of people who are on the left who are open to having conversations and

00:06:49.440 discussions and those people you should absolutely be friends with because those conversations are so

00:06:54.800 important and will really help you develop your own views and your own positions but there are also people

00:07:00.560 across the aisle who will just say you're a bad person for having a different view than I do.

00:07:05.520 Those people are not your friends because they actually believe that because you're conservative

00:07:11.520 you are bad and you don't have to hang around people like that because hey we all have different

00:07:17.360 views even people on the right have different views from each other so if you are only friends

00:07:22.480 with people who have your exact views and you're in an echo chamber you're never actually going to

00:07:27.040 strengthen your own positions your own beliefs and so it's important to have friends who have diverse

00:07:33.200 thoughts but they have to respect each other's opinions and if you are constantly being villainized

00:07:38.560 by the very people who you think you can trust that's going to peer pressure you into changing your

00:07:44.800 opinions because you want to fit in so it's really important to stay friends with the people who actually

00:07:51.200 want to have these conversations and who aren't going to villainize you for having those opinions that are

00:07:57.520 different from their own and I think you can have a lot of different kinds of friends you should have

00:08:01.920 friends who are conservatives you should have friends who are liberals you just shouldn't have

00:08:05.760 friends who think you're a bad person for being conservative at the end of the day those friendships

00:08:11.680 don't last I had friends in college who would constantly talk about how conservatives were awful

00:08:16.800 people and they would just throw it out because they were so comfortable saying it where I felt like

00:08:21.280 I couldn't even mention I was a conservative because all of these friends of mine would just think I was

00:08:26.480 evil and so I never even mentioned it and those friends truly did not last because I couldn't

00:08:32.640 continue to be friends with them especially as I started becoming more and more open and honest about

00:08:37.600 my views so surround yourself with people who are open to having conversations and not trying to peer

00:08:43.760 pressure you by calling you a bad person for holding different views from theirs now there are some

00:08:49.200 times that you're going to be stuck in a situation where maybe you're at a party or you're being introduced to

00:08:54.320 new people and they are going to try and engage you in a conversation where they are trying to

00:08:59.680 demonize you for having a different opinion and in those situations you need to just change the

00:09:05.200 subject you know that they're not trying to change your mind they're just trying to make you feel guilty

00:09:10.560 and maybe at the end of that you would change your mind and change your position because you were peer

00:09:16.560 pressured into doing it that conversation is not going to be fruitful neither one of you is going to

00:09:21.920 learn from the other you're not going to hear a different side you're only going to be called

00:09:26.320 names and be called a bad person for having a conservative viewpoint you should not be in those

00:09:32.480 conversations just change the subject walk away whatever you have to do so you can de-escalate that

00:09:38.720 situation because if you're in a situation let's say for me if I was with work colleagues I would simply

00:09:44.480 change the subject I couldn't leave the room I couldn't just walk out but I would just kind of subtly

00:09:50.080 shift what we were talking about so that we wouldn't cross over into conservative politics

00:09:54.640 and I wouldn't have to lie about my positions or just nod my head as they continue to talk about

00:10:00.800 their views so I would just subtly change the subject do the same thing if you're in that position

00:10:06.320 it's not going to be worth it for you to engage and you can usually recognize those kinds of

00:10:10.960 conversations when someone is starting to use words about conservatives as a group if they're saying that

00:10:18.000 people are bad if they're villainizing or demonizing those on the other side of the aisle instead of

00:10:23.840 just talking about the ideas the ideas are much more interesting at the end of the day than the

00:10:29.440 people who hold them so if you are having a conversation with someone and it's about the ideas

00:10:34.000 you usually can have a really fruitful conversation even if it's someone who has a totally different

00:10:38.000 view than you do but if it's somebody who is really trying to demonize the people who hold those

00:10:42.880 ideas it's just not going to be worth it and the last thing to remember is remember why you're not

00:10:48.960 giving in to peer pressure it is so hard when you are in a position where all of the people that you

00:10:54.800 know care about hang out with have a different view than you do and it feels like it would just be

00:11:00.640 easier to give in and say I don't want to be conservative anymore it's just too hard but there's a reason

00:11:06.960 that you hold the views that you do you believe in the truth not his truth not your truth but the truth

00:11:14.080 and you believe in values that make this country great and maybe your faith bolsters those values

00:11:20.480 as well and those things are incredibly important and are so worth it even when it's hard even when

00:11:28.400 you feel like you have to just keep your mouth shut because at the end of the day your conservative

00:11:33.360 values and your conservative beliefs and your conservative ideals are going to give you so much

00:11:38.240 more happiness in the long run and you will find that bolstering your views instead of giving into

00:11:43.680 peer pressure when somebody calls you a bad person will also give you much more integrity you're staying

00:11:49.360 true to what you actually believe instead of just giving up so that you're not called names and if you

00:11:55.360 hold these conservative values for a reason you should stick to them and maintain them because you did the

00:12:01.760 research so that you really believe those things for a good and true reason so stay strong try and

00:12:08.560 surround yourself with people who will support you keep researching keep yourself informed so that you

00:12:14.080 do understand all of the things that you believe and remember that you are not alone in your conservative

00:12:19.600 views there are so many of us and we are here to support each other let me know in the comments a

00:12:25.440 time that you've been peer pressured about your conservative views or what you've done to avoid it i'd love to

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Classically Abby - June 12, 2020

People Rip You For Being Conservative. Here’s How YOU Stand Strong. 💪

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