Classically Abby - Sharing My Fears And Thoughts At 36 Weeks Pregnant🤰👶 Grab a coffee and let's chat!

00:00:00.240 Hello and welcome. We're gonna just do a little girl chat, a little hangout, a little catch-up.

00:00:07.400 I feel like it's been a long time since we've done one of these videos and I want to talk about mom

00:00:11.860 life. Just like things that are relatable because I know how much I enjoy seeing people talk about

00:00:17.560 just what they've been going through so that I can feel like I have someone else going through

00:00:22.100 the same things. So I want to share about that. I want to talk about that. If you are new to my

00:00:26.000 channel here we talk about classic living and traditional values and I would love if you would

00:00:29.600 consider subscribing and hitting that notification bell. Lately we've been talking a lot about

00:00:33.540 motherhood and homemaking but we also talk about cultural commentary and dating and stuff like

00:00:38.760 that. So I'm really glad that you're here. It is cozy. It is comfy. It is raining today. It is raining

00:00:46.260 all week actually. Super happy because my 30th birthday. Let's just get into it shall we? Let's

00:00:53.540 just get into it. My 30th birthday was last week but I had my party on Sunday night and so I feel

00:00:58.740 very grateful that this entire week has been rainy except the night of my party. So we actually were

00:01:04.840 really able to enjoy it because the whole thing was outside. We held it in my parents backyard. I

00:01:09.840 hosted a fancy cocktail party that I planned myself and I actually if you're not already subscribed to

00:01:15.280 my sub stack you should head over there and check it out. It's classicallyabby.substack.com but

00:01:19.940 I recently talked about how to plan a fancy cocktail party on a budget. We did it. It was super fun and

00:01:29.000 I love any opportunity to feel like I'm in a fancy environment. So I wore a fancy dress. I asked all

00:01:36.160 our friends to wear fancy clothes and then we danced and enjoyed each other's company and had appetizers

00:01:42.420 and made our own cocktails. It was just great. So I am just really still on cloud nine after that

00:01:49.160 birthday. I haven't had a big birthday party for a really long time so it was just really cool to

00:01:54.300 be able to celebrate with our community, our friends, our family. There were about 35 people

00:01:59.220 there so that was really cool. If you don't already have like a coffee or a tea or water or something

00:02:05.380 go grab it. We're gonna hang out. The truth is I would probably be drinking a coffee or a tea right now

00:02:12.400 because it really is such like fall vibes but my baby is sleeping and I don't know when he's gonna

00:02:19.360 wake up. So what did I have time to make? A cup of water. I am currently 36 weeks pregnant in case you

00:02:27.080 didn't know that so I'm slightly out of breath. My house is a little bit of a mess right now but it's

00:02:33.400 like pre being clean in the sense that I am looking at a mountain of folded laundry that needs to be put

00:02:41.100 away and that I really should get put away before my son wakes up but that probably won't happen

00:02:47.320 since I'm recording. We make it work right? But I have been having so many thoughts just as we are

00:02:53.480 getting so close to this baby being born. So we're 36 weeks that means I'm four weeks away from my due

00:02:59.700 date but who knows if I could have this baby a little early whatever it is. So we're definitely

00:03:06.940 getting close and I kind of wanted to just chat a little bit about my feelings, my fears, mom chat,

00:03:15.660 right? Mom chat. So I feel like one of the things I've really been focusing on lately during this

00:03:19.820 pregnancy is siblings and rivalries and I really want to make sure that when my new baby is born

00:03:27.660 my son and he have a good relationship. That is just so important to us and I feel really grateful that

00:03:34.320 I have the time and the energy and the forethought to kind of focus on ways to approach that from the

00:03:42.080 very beginning so that we're not having to workshop it later. Things that we can think about now. So I

00:03:48.240 bought a few different books. I'm actually going to be doing a whole video on my channel about all of

00:03:52.120 the parenting books I've been reading lately because I've been reading a ton but I read a couple of books

00:03:57.400 all about this and that's been super helpful because it's been a way for me to feel like okay

00:04:03.720 I know how I want to approach things as we get closer to the baby being born and as my son my second

00:04:09.440 son is born how we can encourage a good relationship between our sons and that's been a big concern to me

00:04:17.380 but now we're getting like super close to the baby being born. Oh man it's stressful and it's a

00:04:25.040 little anxiety inducing and I've been talking to my mom about it and she's the best because

00:04:28.480 she said you know she has four kids and she said that every time she had a new baby it was like

00:04:35.600 she would get worried and anxious as if it was her first one or her second one because everything

00:04:40.800 changes so much and that's how I've been feeling. I've just been like okay so what's this gonna look

00:04:45.620 like? How are we gonna handle this? How is my life gonna change? And then for me I did not have a

00:04:51.840 positive newborn experience with my first son for the first about 10 weeks and I was very open about

00:04:57.520 that with you guys just because he had reflux and it was just so difficult and so I'm not emotionally

00:05:03.960 open to the idea that the newborn stage could be different this time. I think I'm just worried that

00:05:10.100 it's gonna be as hard as it was the first time plus I'll have a toddler. So I'm trying to leave my

00:05:16.120 heart open to the fact that it could be totally different. It could be like a really positive

00:05:21.260 newborn experience and it could be even more fun because I do have a toddler and trying to balance

00:05:26.980 them both might not be a negative it might be a positive. It might get me out of my newborn funk

00:05:31.700 a little bit more and I'm gonna be living near family this time so that's a huge difference.

00:05:37.400 So you know I'm I think that stress has been on me of like what is this gonna look like?

00:05:42.100 How is this change gonna affect our lives? And I've said this on my channel before I think but the

00:05:48.560 idea that you know I don't know this baby yet. Like I know him because he's in my belly but in many

00:05:55.740 ways he's a stranger. Like I can't imagine loving this baby the way I love my my son now because I

00:06:02.180 know my son now. I've never met this boy. So it's hard to imagine loving another baby and I'm so excited

00:06:09.300 to meet him so that I can. But in the meantime that's a stressful and scary feeling and it's just

00:06:16.520 been a little bit difficult lately with those emotions. The the anxieties of having another one

00:06:24.360 are starting to creep up more frequently as we're getting closer to him joining us here.

00:06:30.500 So that's been a stressor. I definitely struggled with insomnia for a couple of nights and I think

00:06:38.120 that's why. Probably hormonal but also probably just thinking about how our lives are gonna change

00:06:44.640 all over again. There's another element which is nesting. I'm a crazy nester. I started nesting with

00:06:52.080 this baby like day one. Like I was like okay let's go. And so it's been nine months eight months

00:06:59.020 because we're at you know we're almost at nine months of me being in nesting mode. But I think

00:07:06.140 that the the issue is we never actually had little man in our room. He was always in the next door

00:07:13.700 bedroom and so I would just get up and go to him in the middle of the night. That wasn't like the most

00:07:17.460 positive thing in the world but it did mean he had his own space and his own organization and I knew

00:07:22.600 where everything was. This time around we do not have a separate room for the new baby. We don't even

00:07:27.100 have a nursery for him because we just don't we literally do not have another room in our house.

00:07:32.700 So that means I'm struggling with organization and storage and like where do I put everything?

00:07:40.060 Where is everything gonna go? And I have been worried about that element of things because I

00:07:46.940 think that's what gives me a sense of control is knowing everything is prepared, is clean, is ready

00:07:52.220 and I feel I almost feel like I can't do that because I just don't have the space. I don't know

00:07:58.060 where things live. So we're currently looking into some quick and easy storage solutions until our

00:08:05.580 house we add a couple of rooms to our house. It's something we're talking about doing and figuring out

00:08:11.500 okay how are we going to make use of our space as it is right now without spending a lot of money on

00:08:16.580 something that's temporary. So we're looking into some easy storage solutions that will allow us to

00:08:23.220 store burp cloths and swaddles and you know baby diapers and all of that without necessarily making

00:08:30.900 it a permanent fix since it won't be permanent anyway if we do move forward with our renovations

00:08:36.260 on our house. So that's been on my mind quite a bit lately. That's why I keep looking off at this

00:08:43.540 pile of laundry because this laundry pile is not just the clothes that we've been wearing it's actually

00:08:48.260 washing up all of the baby stuff in preparation for the new baby coming and I don't necessarily

00:08:53.300 know where all of these things are going. I don't know where to put them away and that's a little

00:09:00.260 it's a little overwhelming. So deep breaths as deep as I can take when I'm 36 weeks pregnant

00:09:07.860 but if you guys have had similar feelings or similar struggles when you were expecting a second

00:09:13.460 baby or a third baby or a fourth baby let me know in the comments below. I just want you know let's

00:09:19.700 just like have a conversation about it. On another note I think one of the things I've also been

00:09:24.420 thinking about lately is just talking about motherhood is such an interesting topic. I have been in

00:09:33.940 conversations with people I'm a stay-at-home mom right I spend 90% of my day with my son taking care of

00:09:40.420 him going out running errands chores taking him to little classes like that is my day-to-day and it

00:09:46.900 was really interesting because I was having a conversation and she asked me like I hear you're

00:09:51.300 a stay-at-home mom how do you like it and I said you know I love it I love getting to be with my son

00:09:55.860 all day it's so amazing I'm so blessed I get to see him grow and change and it almost felt her response

00:10:04.900 was not super positive and it almost felt like I was being judgmental by being positive and I

00:10:13.300 I hate that that is the culture in which we live now where it's like if you're positive about

00:10:19.300 motherhood that means you're necessarily degrading women who happen to be struggling at the moment or

00:10:26.980 women who like to complain about motherhood as a general rule. I'm not here to say that motherhood is

00:10:32.660 easy or simple or always fun I think motherhood as a general thing is fun and is something to enjoy

00:10:42.980 and is something to be blessed with right those are all positive attributes of motherhood that

00:10:48.100 doesn't negate that it can be difficult sometimes it just means that you can also be incredibly

00:10:53.140 grateful for the opportunity to be a mom but I feel like we live in this culture where if you are

00:10:57.860 positive about motherhood like unabashedly positive then you're undermining mothers and saying that

00:11:07.460 like I'm judging you because you maybe don't view motherhood in that positive of a way like why why is

00:11:15.620 that the narrative I think we really need to build up motherhood and say how wonderful it is while also

00:11:23.700 recognizing that there are difficult days and difficult times those aren't mutually exclusive

00:11:29.140 but I feel like that is the way it is so talking positively about my role as a stay-at-home mom

00:11:34.020 is like offensive to people because they feel like I'm judging or they're being I just it was just a

00:11:40.500 frustrating conversation and one that I realized was not totally uncommon when people have talked to

00:11:48.900 me about motherhood because I really am so grateful for this being my life and I think so many people

00:11:55.380 like to just be say horrible things about parenting and their kids and I'm not I'm not gonna do that

00:12:02.820 like I just don't want to do that I can again I can say that there are days that are hard and there are

00:12:07.620 parts of it that are hard but I'm not gonna say as a general rule that motherhood or parenting is bad or

00:12:14.820 complain worthy at all times that's not the relatable content I'm looking for I'm not looking

00:12:21.380 for the relatable content of your like isn't this the worst not my thing like a good example of

00:12:29.540 something that is tricky as a mom that I've noticed is that when you are home with your with your kiddos

00:12:35.620 all day it feels like you should be able to get something done for you whether that be doing some

00:12:44.980 work on the computer or whether that be getting your makeup done or your hair done like it feels like

00:12:51.940 you should be able to focus on a project for you while your baby is in the house doing something else

00:12:58.580 but the funny thing is is that you really can't do that because you always have to have your brain

00:13:02.900 divided you always have to be able to be interrupted or just like on call or

00:13:10.420 not even focused on anything else just like in involved in whatever your kid is doing so

00:13:16.820 if I were to sit down and try to write an article on my computer while my son is playing in the house

00:13:22.180 there is a 75 to 85 percent chance he's going to run over and want to play on the computer

00:13:26.500 or he's going to be uh doing something in the room where all of a sudden it goes quiet and it turns

00:13:31.540 out he's playing in the toilet or I just need to be able to constantly be hopping up to my feet and

00:13:39.300 helping him with whatever it is so I can't really do projects that are very intense or even just require

00:13:46.580 my attention without being able to be pulled away constantly and I think that's the the hard thing to

00:13:52.820 parse is yes I'm not totally involved constantly with my child because there are times he is playing

00:14:02.500 and there are times that I'm able to do like chores chores are a really good thing to be able to do with

00:14:07.780 kids in the house because you can be able to be pulled away from chores in a second and then return to

00:14:12.660 that chore it's not mindful it's just it's just something you're doing and can be interrupted right like

00:14:18.580 washing dishes you can wash a dish go away and come back and it's not like you feel like oh I

00:14:22.980 got interrupted in the middle of washing my dish writing an article or filming a video like you can't

00:14:28.100 really do that and then step away and come back like it's just really hard to mentally focus when you're

00:14:34.500 constantly being interrupted with that kind of stuff so it's just interesting because it can make you feel

00:14:40.340 like you're not getting things done like you're not taking advantage of your time well when you are

00:14:49.060 home with your kids but that's just not realistic you can't actually put focus into one thing when

00:14:55.700 you need to be on call for another is is how I can say that like that's a tricky thing about being a

00:15:01.620 stay-at-home mom right but that doesn't negate the wonderful opportunity I get to hang out with my son all

00:15:08.260 day like if he decides he wants to read a book with me I love that I have the flexibility to be

00:15:15.220 like yeah let's sit down and read a book let's do it and that's just really cool the last thing I

00:15:19.380 kind of want to talk about is that I'm back to enjoying makeup so it's really funny because I feel

00:15:24.660 like how long ago maybe six seven months ago I did a video where I talked about how I just don't have

00:15:28.900 time to do my makeup in the morning I'm sure we're going to be back to that in literally a month when

00:15:33.380 this new baby is born but right now I find that doing my makeup is like a creative release for me

00:15:42.580 and I find it so much fun and it's like so much me time that I've actually gotten back into it I've

00:15:50.340 like started exploring different products again and discovering different makeup looks that I enjoy

00:15:56.420 and there's just something about it that makes me really happy I think that's kind of funny because

00:16:03.060 it's it's not necessarily important like there are days where I don't wear any makeup at all I would

00:16:08.660 say that's pretty frequent and there are days where I throw on mascara and concealer and that's it but

00:16:14.020 there the days that I get to do my makeup I just I just like it like it's just a fun thing I get to do

00:16:18.900 for myself I don't know if you guys have anything like that where you're like yeah it's not really

00:16:23.140 necessary but it's just like a fun thing that I get to do for me I guess in a way it's a form of

00:16:28.900 taking care of myself is that it's just something that is literally just for me and that's a nice

00:16:34.020 thing so I've been doing a little bit of research I've been enjoying certain certain new products

00:16:40.980 I started using a lash primer from L'Oreal that I feel like actually makes a really big difference

00:16:45.620 so that's been cool and I've been going back to using sponges for my foundation application I didn't

00:16:52.740 do that for a while but I found like 20 at Costco for five dollars and they're actually really good

00:16:57.700 so I was like okay perfect I'll just use those and try it again and see if I like it I do I just don't

00:17:03.060 like the inconvenience of having to get up to go to the sink to use it so I would say I use a sponge

00:17:08.580 like 50% of the time and I'm really using mostly cream products these days so that's been interesting

00:17:15.460 which I didn't do for a while and I know a lot of you guys are not really makeup people which is so

00:17:19.460 funny because when I first started my channel I think most of my videos were makeup oriented it

00:17:23.380 was like makeup and opera but nowadays that's just not mostly what I talk about but makeup is something

00:17:30.500 that I just really like and so it's it is a it's always going to be something I take an interest in

00:17:35.540 I think so that is it for today's video I hope you guys enjoyed our little chat I hope you were

00:17:43.220 happy to join and you just had a chance to like be a part of a little conversation make sure to

00:17:49.780 leave your thoughts in the comments down below and I'll see you guys in my next video bye

Classically Abby - November 16, 2023

Sharing My Fears And Thoughts At 36 Weeks Pregnant🤰👶 Grab a coffee and let's chat!

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