Classically Abby - Some People LOVE Valentine's. Others DON'T. Should YOU Celebrate It？？

00:00:00.060 Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about how to get

00:00:05.380 Valentine's Day right. So Valentine's Day is this weekend, and for many people, Valentine's Day

00:00:14.900 is a lot of fun. It's something that they look forward to, but for a lot of people, it's also

00:00:19.240 kind of stressful. It's something that you build up in your mind, and you have all these expectations

00:00:23.680 for what it's going to be like, and then it doesn't live up to the hype. And today, I wanted

00:00:27.900 to talk about how to do Valentine's Day in a way that is fulfilling and that fulfills you and your

00:00:33.140 partner as a couple. Because so much of what we're sold about Valentine's Day, that you need to have a

00:00:38.740 fancy dinner, that there needs to be chocolates, that there has to be jewelry, all of that stuff

00:00:44.040 may not necessarily fit your dynamic with your spouse or with your boyfriend. So understanding

00:00:50.060 that there are either ways to make Valentine's work for you, or that you don't necessarily have to go

00:00:55.320 that far into Valentine's Day anyways, is something that I think can take a little bit of the pressure

00:01:00.720 off. I love talking about relationships on my channel. Here we talk about commentary, fashion,

00:01:05.840 lifestyle, beauty, opera, all from a conservative and classic perspective. So if you think that would

00:01:11.160 appeal to you, please go ahead and subscribe and join the classic crew. And I didn't really grow up

00:01:15.980 with Valentine's Day because it's not a Jewish holiday, but it is very much kind of like a hallmark

00:01:20.980 holiday. And it's something that is just a holiday that pretty much anyone celebrates, no matter where

00:01:25.560 they come from religiously. So it's something that's kind of fun. And I remember I always used

00:01:29.640 to really think it was going to be so special and magical when I had my first Valentine's because I

00:01:35.400 didn't get an opportunity to celebrate Valentine's growing up. Then when I had my first Valentine's,

00:01:39.320 it was like, meh, because it just doesn't necessarily have everything built into it that you might

00:01:45.240 expect. So I'm really excited to talk about today how you can make Valentine's work for you,

00:01:50.100 how you can have the best Valentine's Day for you and your partner, and how to do Valentine's Day

00:01:56.420 right. So let's get into it. So the first thing that I want to say is that the reason that Valentine's

00:02:00.860 Day isn't that important is because it's just a random day on the calendar. And for many couples,

00:02:06.260 we have so many other days in the year to celebrate our love and each other. And I will say,

00:02:11.040 you should also be celebrating your love just every day. It's not something that you need an excuse

00:02:14.480 to celebrate. But we have birthdays, we have anniversaries, you have Christmas, you have Hanukkah,

00:02:19.260 you have a bunch of other days where you get gifts for each other and celebrate your love for each

00:02:23.160 other and celebrate how much you are appreciative of that other person. So Valentine's Day is just

00:02:28.140 sort of an arbitrary day on the calendar in the sense that it's not unique to your relationship,

00:02:33.400 which is why it may not end up being something that is that important to the two of you. Now again,

00:02:38.380 I don't want to make it seem like if it's something that you love doing, you shouldn't.

00:02:41.540 This is more about the idea that if it's something that you love doing, but it's not living up to your

00:02:45.300 expectations. Or if it's something that you don't care that much about, that's normal too.

00:02:49.660 So the first way to do Valentine's right is only celebrate it if you want to. Valentine's isn't a

00:02:55.000 holiday in the Jewish sense where you have to celebrate it because it's a law. Valentine's Day

00:02:59.540 is unique to each couple. So if you are not interested in celebrating, if you and your partner are on the

00:03:04.080 same page about it, and neither one of you cares very much, who cares? Don't do it. It's not a big deal

00:03:10.060 at all. It's something that if you guys decide you want to do, great. But if you guys decide that you'd

00:03:15.140 rather just chill out on the couch and watch a movie, that's fine too. Imagine the situation where your

00:03:20.120 birthday was 10 days ago and you celebrated and you had a big dinner and you guys showed how much you

00:03:24.200 loved each other. And then Valentine's Day rolls around and you guys just spent that money and you

00:03:28.240 just did all this. It may not be the best time. It may not be something that you guys want to do.

00:03:32.900 So don't feel like you have to. And don't do it for Instagram. Nothing is ever worth doing for

00:03:37.980 Instagram. Let me just say that. It's worth doing things for yourself and for the experience, but

00:03:42.820 it's never worth doing for Instagram. So if you don't want to do Valentine's Day, don't do Valentine's

00:03:47.900 Day and don't do it for Instagram. Number two is do something that works for you as a couple.

00:03:53.260 You don't have to do something just because it's prescribed as romantic. If you guys hate flowers,

00:03:58.580 don't get flowers. If you guys don't like the chocolates that come in the heart-shaped box,

00:04:02.860 don't get the chocolates that come in a heart-shaped box. If you guys don't really love getting

00:04:07.180 dressed up and going out to a fancy dinner, don't do it. You don't have to do something just because

00:04:12.260 it's prescribed as romantic by everybody else. This is a day, if you choose to celebrate it,

00:04:17.420 that's about the two of you. So if you guys enjoy staying home and reading in the same room together,

00:04:22.280 or if you enjoy going to laser tag, do what works for you guys as a couple. You don't have to do

00:04:28.940 something that looks romantic to everybody else. It's what's romantic for the two of you. And it really

00:04:34.440 does depend from person to person what that looks like. Some people it is more standard and for

00:04:39.740 other people it's less standard. So do what works for you because if you're going to celebrate

00:04:43.740 Valentine's, it's about your relationship and the way that you love each other, not how everyone else

00:04:49.340 loves each other and now you just have to kind of place it on top of your relationship and it feels

00:04:53.780 uncomfortable and doesn't really work for the two of you. Number three is don't make it a bigger deal

00:04:57.980 than it is. So this year, Valentine's falls on a Sunday. But let's say that your partner has a huge

00:05:03.960 meeting at work really early in the morning the next day. So it wouldn't necessarily be a great

00:05:08.860 idea for you guys to do a big romantic evening on Sunday night. You can have Valentine's Day on

00:05:15.360 Saturday night. It doesn't always have to be on the day of Valentine's. You can treat it as

00:05:20.160 importantly as you want to. So if it falls on Sunday and he can't really make that work,

00:05:25.520 don't make him feel bad about it. Just celebrate it the day before or the day after. That's okay

00:05:30.700 too. Valentine's Day isn't like a Jewish holiday where you cannot move the date. It's a day where,

00:05:36.660 okay, it happens to fall on this day. But if you want to celebrate it earlier or later,

00:05:40.680 it's not going to change anything. So just be okay with being flexible. If it's a situation where

00:05:46.900 it just doesn't work out that you can celebrate it on that day, you can find another day to celebrate

00:05:51.200 it if it's something that you want to celebrate at all. Because it doesn't always have to be

00:05:55.480 a huge deal on the day that it falls. It's just not that important. So take into account if you

00:06:02.740 can make it work. And if you can't make it work that day, that's okay too. Because Valentine's Day

00:06:06.820 really, again, is about you guys celebrating each other. And if it's going to cause fights,

00:06:11.220 it isn't worth it. Number four is understand if your partner isn't as excited about it as you are,

00:06:16.000 but don't compromise too much. So in this situation, you may have a partner who doesn't

00:06:21.280 care about Valentine's Day at all. I know a lot of people who don't care about Valentine's Day

00:06:25.060 at all. If it's something that you care about though, and you want to celebrate,

00:06:30.300 talk to your partner and see if you can figure out a way for you to compromise, to find something

00:06:35.100 that you'll both enjoy. Maybe it's not going to be an expensive night out with diamonds and pearls

00:06:39.800 and flowers, but find something that works for you both and make sure that it's something that you

00:06:44.180 both enjoy. And when I say both enjoy, I really do mean both of you enjoy. So maybe instead of going out

00:06:51.280 a nice restaurant, you guys go to a mid-level restaurant, but you guys still enjoy it. So you

00:06:55.380 find something where he enjoys it, but you also enjoy it. And some people don't love the idea of

00:07:00.560 Valentine's Day just because it can feel kind of arbitrary, like it's just been imposed on your

00:07:06.740 relationship. But if it's something that matters to you and it's something that you want to do and

00:07:10.900 you want to celebrate it, then just talk with your partner. There's a reason you guys love each other

00:07:15.040 and there's a reason that you want to celebrate your love for each other. So just go ahead and talk to

00:07:19.900 him about it because hopefully you'll be able to work something out that you both enjoy and you'll

00:07:24.180 both love and remember. And at the end of the day, that's what it's about. And the very last point is

00:07:29.780 if you and your partner are on the same page and you absolutely love Valentine's Day, then feel free

00:07:34.680 to be as cliche and romantic as you want. If you love the flowers and the chocolates and you love

00:07:41.120 going out to fancy dinners and you love getting jewelry on Valentine's Day and you guys love that

00:07:45.180 together, do it. Do what you want that makes you happy. Valentine's Day for some people really is

00:07:51.020 important. And if it's important to you and it's important to your spouse or your partner, then

00:07:55.400 absolutely you should celebrate it. Because if it's special to you, that's what makes it important

00:08:00.820 on your calendar. Not the fact that it was arbitrarily imposed, but if it's something that is important

00:08:05.400 to you and you guys both love doing and celebrating, you should do it. Because that's really true of

00:08:10.280 anything. If it's something that matters to you two as a couple, then you should absolutely be

00:08:15.040 enjoying it and celebrating it and having the best time possible. So really the main point of all this

00:08:19.980 is that romance doesn't have to be cookie cutter. Romance is different from person to person. And on

00:08:25.600 Valentine's Day is the perfect way to kind of see that for yourselves. Are you somebody who likes

00:08:30.340 things that are a little bit more cliche as romantic? Not in a bad way, but just that's the way that you

00:08:35.580 enjoy being romantic with each other? Or is it something that's a little bit more tailored and

00:08:40.060 unique to you guys? Because both of those things are absolutely perfect for the couples that it

00:08:44.540 works for. And I think that Valentine's Day can be a really special day, but it doesn't have to be.

00:08:49.460 So I'd really love to hear your guys' thoughts in the comments. What are you doing for Valentine's

00:08:53.880 this year? Are you doing anything? Are you just going to be at home? Are you going to be going out

00:08:57.180 to a nice dinner? Let me know in the comments below. Thank you guys so much for watching today's

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Classically Abby - February 11, 2021

Some People LOVE Valentine's. Others DON'T. Should YOU Celebrate It？？

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