Classically Abby - February 11, 2021


Some People LOVE Valentine's. Others DON'T. Should YOU Celebrate It？？


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Valentine's Day may not live up to your expectations, but there are ways to make it work for you and your partner in order to have the best Valentine's Day possible for them. I talk about how to do Valentine's day in a way that is fulfilling to you and fulfills you.

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00:00:00.060 Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about how to get
00:00:05.380 Valentine's Day right. So Valentine's Day is this weekend, and for many people, Valentine's Day
00:00:14.900 is a lot of fun. It's something that they look forward to, but for a lot of people, it's also
00:00:19.240 kind of stressful. It's something that you build up in your mind, and you have all these expectations
00:00:23.680 for what it's going to be like, and then it doesn't live up to the hype. And today, I wanted
00:00:27.900 to talk about how to do Valentine's Day in a way that is fulfilling and that fulfills you and your
00:00:33.140 partner as a couple. Because so much of what we're sold about Valentine's Day, that you need to have a
00:00:38.740 fancy dinner, that there needs to be chocolates, that there has to be jewelry, all of that stuff
00:00:44.040 may not necessarily fit your dynamic with your spouse or with your boyfriend. So understanding
00:00:50.060 that there are either ways to make Valentine's work for you, or that you don't necessarily have to go
00:00:55.320 that far into Valentine's Day anyways, is something that I think can take a little bit of the pressure
00:01:00.720 off. I love talking about relationships on my channel. Here we talk about commentary, fashion,
00:01:05.840 lifestyle, beauty, opera, all from a conservative and classic perspective. So if you think that would
00:01:11.160 appeal to you, please go ahead and subscribe and join the classic crew. And I didn't really grow up
00:01:15.980 with Valentine's Day because it's not a Jewish holiday, but it is very much kind of like a hallmark
00:01:20.980 holiday. And it's something that is just a holiday that pretty much anyone celebrates, no matter where
00:01:25.560 they come from religiously. So it's something that's kind of fun. And I remember I always used
00:01:29.640 to really think it was going to be so special and magical when I had my first Valentine's because I
00:01:35.400 didn't get an opportunity to celebrate Valentine's growing up. Then when I had my first Valentine's,
00:01:39.320 it was like, meh, because it just doesn't necessarily have everything built into it that you might
00:01:45.240 expect. So I'm really excited to talk about today how you can make Valentine's work for you,
00:01:50.100 how you can have the best Valentine's Day for you and your partner, and how to do Valentine's Day
00:01:56.420 right. So let's get into it. So the first thing that I want to say is that the reason that Valentine's
00:02:00.860 Day isn't that important is because it's just a random day on the calendar. And for many couples,
00:02:06.260 we have so many other days in the year to celebrate our love and each other. And I will say,
00:02:11.040 you should also be celebrating your love just every day. It's not something that you need an excuse
00:02:14.480 to celebrate. But we have birthdays, we have anniversaries, you have Christmas, you have Hanukkah,
00:02:19.260 you have a bunch of other days where you get gifts for each other and celebrate your love for each
00:02:23.160 other and celebrate how much you are appreciative of that other person. So Valentine's Day is just
00:02:28.140 sort of an arbitrary day on the calendar in the sense that it's not unique to your relationship,
00:02:33.400 which is why it may not end up being something that is that important to the two of you. Now again,
00:02:38.380 I don't want to make it seem like if it's something that you love doing, you shouldn't.
00:02:41.540 This is more about the idea that if it's something that you love doing, but it's not living up to your
00:02:45.300 expectations. Or if it's something that you don't care that much about, that's normal too.
00:02:49.660 So the first way to do Valentine's right is only celebrate it if you want to. Valentine's isn't a
00:02:55.000 holiday in the Jewish sense where you have to celebrate it because it's a law. Valentine's Day
00:02:59.540 is unique to each couple. So if you are not interested in celebrating, if you and your partner are on the
00:03:04.080 same page about it, and neither one of you cares very much, who cares? Don't do it. It's not a big deal
00:03:10.060 at all. It's something that if you guys decide you want to do, great. But if you guys decide that you'd
00:03:15.140 rather just chill out on the couch and watch a movie, that's fine too. Imagine the situation where your
00:03:20.120 birthday was 10 days ago and you celebrated and you had a big dinner and you guys showed how much you
00:03:24.200 loved each other. And then Valentine's Day rolls around and you guys just spent that money and you
00:03:28.240 just did all this. It may not be the best time. It may not be something that you guys want to do.
00:03:32.900 So don't feel like you have to. And don't do it for Instagram. Nothing is ever worth doing for
00:03:37.980 Instagram. Let me just say that. It's worth doing things for yourself and for the experience, but
00:03:42.820 it's never worth doing for Instagram. So if you don't want to do Valentine's Day, don't do Valentine's
00:03:47.900 Day and don't do it for Instagram. Number two is do something that works for you as a couple.
00:03:53.260 You don't have to do something just because it's prescribed as romantic. If you guys hate flowers,
00:03:58.580 don't get flowers. If you guys don't like the chocolates that come in the heart-shaped box,
00:04:02.860 don't get the chocolates that come in a heart-shaped box. If you guys don't really love getting
00:04:07.180 dressed up and going out to a fancy dinner, don't do it. You don't have to do something just because
00:04:12.260 it's prescribed as romantic by everybody else. This is a day, if you choose to celebrate it,
00:04:17.420 that's about the two of you. So if you guys enjoy staying home and reading in the same room together,
00:04:22.280 or if you enjoy going to laser tag, do what works for you guys as a couple. You don't have to do
00:04:28.940 something that looks romantic to everybody else. It's what's romantic for the two of you. And it really
00:04:34.440 does depend from person to person what that looks like. Some people it is more standard and for
00:04:39.740 other people it's less standard. So do what works for you because if you're going to celebrate
00:04:43.740 Valentine's, it's about your relationship and the way that you love each other, not how everyone else
00:04:49.340 loves each other and now you just have to kind of place it on top of your relationship and it feels
00:04:53.780 uncomfortable and doesn't really work for the two of you. Number three is don't make it a bigger deal
00:04:57.980 than it is. So this year, Valentine's falls on a Sunday. But let's say that your partner has a huge
00:05:03.960 meeting at work really early in the morning the next day. So it wouldn't necessarily be a great
00:05:08.860 idea for you guys to do a big romantic evening on Sunday night. You can have Valentine's Day on
00:05:15.360 Saturday night. It doesn't always have to be on the day of Valentine's. You can treat it as
00:05:20.160 importantly as you want to. So if it falls on Sunday and he can't really make that work,
00:05:25.520 don't make him feel bad about it. Just celebrate it the day before or the day after. That's okay
00:05:30.700 too. Valentine's Day isn't like a Jewish holiday where you cannot move the date. It's a day where,
00:05:36.660 okay, it happens to fall on this day. But if you want to celebrate it earlier or later,
00:05:40.680 it's not going to change anything. So just be okay with being flexible. If it's a situation where
00:05:46.900 it just doesn't work out that you can celebrate it on that day, you can find another day to celebrate
00:05:51.200 it if it's something that you want to celebrate at all. Because it doesn't always have to be
00:05:55.480 a huge deal on the day that it falls. It's just not that important. So take into account if you
00:06:02.740 can make it work. And if you can't make it work that day, that's okay too. Because Valentine's Day
00:06:06.820 really, again, is about you guys celebrating each other. And if it's going to cause fights,
00:06:11.220 it isn't worth it. Number four is understand if your partner isn't as excited about it as you are,
00:06:16.000 but don't compromise too much. So in this situation, you may have a partner who doesn't
00:06:21.280 care about Valentine's Day at all. I know a lot of people who don't care about Valentine's Day
00:06:25.060 at all. If it's something that you care about though, and you want to celebrate,
00:06:30.300 talk to your partner and see if you can figure out a way for you to compromise, to find something
00:06:35.100 that you'll both enjoy. Maybe it's not going to be an expensive night out with diamonds and pearls
00:06:39.800 and flowers, but find something that works for you both and make sure that it's something that you
00:06:44.180 both enjoy. And when I say both enjoy, I really do mean both of you enjoy. So maybe instead of going out
00:06:51.280 a nice restaurant, you guys go to a mid-level restaurant, but you guys still enjoy it. So you
00:06:55.380 find something where he enjoys it, but you also enjoy it. And some people don't love the idea of
00:07:00.560 Valentine's Day just because it can feel kind of arbitrary, like it's just been imposed on your
00:07:06.740 relationship. But if it's something that matters to you and it's something that you want to do and
00:07:10.900 you want to celebrate it, then just talk with your partner. There's a reason you guys love each other
00:07:15.040 and there's a reason that you want to celebrate your love for each other. So just go ahead and talk to
00:07:19.900 him about it because hopefully you'll be able to work something out that you both enjoy and you'll
00:07:24.180 both love and remember. And at the end of the day, that's what it's about. And the very last point is
00:07:29.780 if you and your partner are on the same page and you absolutely love Valentine's Day, then feel free
00:07:34.680 to be as cliche and romantic as you want. If you love the flowers and the chocolates and you love
00:07:41.120 going out to fancy dinners and you love getting jewelry on Valentine's Day and you guys love that
00:07:45.180 together, do it. Do what you want that makes you happy. Valentine's Day for some people really is
00:07:51.020 important. And if it's important to you and it's important to your spouse or your partner, then
00:07:55.400 absolutely you should celebrate it. Because if it's special to you, that's what makes it important
00:08:00.820 on your calendar. Not the fact that it was arbitrarily imposed, but if it's something that is important
00:08:05.400 to you and you guys both love doing and celebrating, you should do it. Because that's really true of
00:08:10.280 anything. If it's something that matters to you two as a couple, then you should absolutely be
00:08:15.040 enjoying it and celebrating it and having the best time possible. So really the main point of all this
00:08:19.980 is that romance doesn't have to be cookie cutter. Romance is different from person to person. And on
00:08:25.600 Valentine's Day is the perfect way to kind of see that for yourselves. Are you somebody who likes
00:08:30.340 things that are a little bit more cliche as romantic? Not in a bad way, but just that's the way that you
00:08:35.580 enjoy being romantic with each other? Or is it something that's a little bit more tailored and
00:08:40.060 unique to you guys? Because both of those things are absolutely perfect for the couples that it
00:08:44.540 works for. And I think that Valentine's Day can be a really special day, but it doesn't have to be.
00:08:49.460 So I'd really love to hear your guys' thoughts in the comments. What are you doing for Valentine's
00:08:53.880 this year? Are you doing anything? Are you just going to be at home? Are you going to be going out
00:08:57.180 to a nice dinner? Let me know in the comments below. Thank you guys so much for watching today's
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