Stay-At-Home Mom REACTS To Harrison Butker! ＊must-see＊
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Abby shares why Harrison Butker was correct in his recent speech on why being a wife and mother is the most important thing a woman can do in life and why you should put them first. She also shares her thoughts on why it s important for women to embrace the role of being a mother and wife.
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Hello friends, my name is Abby. Thank you so much for watching today's video. I hope you'll
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subscribe and hit the like button. Today I'm going to share why I think that Harrison Butker was
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completely correct. I loved what he had to say and I know it's controversial. Some people might
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even call what he said dangerous but I would a hundred percent disagree because I think that
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women are being sold a narrative that is not going to bring them fulfillment and happiness.
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So I'm going to share my thoughts today. Let's just hop right in. If you didn't see Harrison
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Butker's speech, I'm going to put a little clip of it right here. For the ladies present today,
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congratulations on an amazing accomplishment. You should be proud of all that you have achieved
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to this point in your young lives. I want to speak directly to you briefly because I think it is you,
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the women, who have had the most diabolical lies told to you. How many of you are sitting here now
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about to cross this stage and are thinking about all the promotions and titles you are going to get
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in your career? Some of you may go on to lead successful careers in the world, but I would
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venture to guess that the majority of you are most excited about your marriage and the children you
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will bring into this world. I can tell you that my beautiful wife, Isabel, would be the first to say
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that her life truly started when she began living her vocation as a wife and as a mother.
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So what Harrison Butker was saying was that any job that you get in life is going to be secondary
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to the job of being a wife and a mother. And can I be honest for a second? I think that that is
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entirely true for men as well. Any job a man has is going to be entirely secondary to his role as a
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father and as a husband. Being part of a family is what really matters in life. Having those relationships,
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being a part of something greater than yourself, raising the next generation,
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having that person waiting for you at the end of the day when you get home, that is the stuff that
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life is made of. Any job, any career we choose can be incredibly wonderful, incredibly fulfilling in
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many ways. But if you didn't have a husband or a wife or children waiting at home, you would still
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not feel fulfilled. Success is holistic. I always say success is so much more than a job. If you had
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an amazing job and none of that other good stuff that I was talking about, none of those relationships
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that matter, then you wouldn't be successful. Success is something we need to evaluate on many
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different levels. And when he was talking about how women are being sold a diabolical lie that their
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work should come at the cost of their families, not beside their families, but at the cost of it,
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he's absolutely correct. Happiness cannot be fulfilled without the people around you that make
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life worth living. Being a mom, being a wife brings me more joy than anything else I could do in my
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life. I love getting to do these videos. I really do. And I'm really grateful that I get the chance
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to do it. But it can only be done in the times that aren't taking away from my family. Because
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if I were to sacrifice all of the energy that I have for my kids so I could just pursue my individual
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fulfillment, my children wouldn't thrive in the way that they are. And I would enjoy them less.
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This is an interesting thing that people don't think about is the more time you put into yourself
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as an individual, the less you're going to have for your children, for your family. And as your
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children grow, they may become less likable because they don't have you guiding them to be better because
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you're too focused on you to focus on them. And then when you wonder, why don't I like my kids so much?
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Why don't I like being home? I'm going to keep spending more and more time on me. That's what
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ends up happening. You end up not wanting to spend as much time with your kids because you don't like
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them as much. Because you didn't put in the hard work at the beginning to make sure they were likable.
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I think that being a mom and being a wife is the most important thing that a woman can do. There is
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nothing more important. And once you have children, they are the priority. You have to put them first.
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You should put them first. You will want to put them first. They become your dream. There is nothing
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more important and more fulfilling than seeing your child grow into the best little person they
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can be. So when Harrison Butker is encouraging women to really embrace the roles that make us
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feminine, make us women, there is nothing wrong with that. And I think it's important for women
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to hear it because we do live in a narrative that says, oh, well, you might want kids, but you might not.
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It's a 50-50 shot. Really? You might be interested. You might choose not to.
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And for the majority, the vast majority of women, having children is the path to fulfillment.
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Without having children, you will not feel like you've done what you wanted out of life.
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There is a huge fertility gap in this country. Meaning women say that they want a certain number
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of kids and end up with less. There's also been a decline in women's happiness. Ever since the 70s,
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women have become less happy as they've been more in the workplace, been given more equal rights.
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Now that's not to say that the equal rights have caused the unhappiness. But what the equal rights
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have caused is a push for women not to do the things that make them womanly. Go to the work.
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Go to the workplace. Leave your kids at a daycare. Stop doing the things that make you women so that
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we can prove that those equal rights have been earned. That we should go out and do those things.
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Not that we can, but that we should. And women have become less and less happy over time
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in that pursuit. Because women love to nurture. It's an innate quality in women to want to nurture
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another person, another living thing. So Harrison Butker's message was exactly right. And as a stay
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at home mom, I think it's so important that we tell our young women, even if they have spent time,
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effort, and money to get a degree, that that education will never be wasted. That's something
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I think is also a huge issue, is this sunk cost fallacy. I spent all of this time, effort,
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and money to get a degree. How could I just quit? How could I just stay at home with my kids now?
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You absolutely can't. That education is never wasted. And life is too short. Life is too short
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to say, I have to stick with something because I already invested time. I know too many women
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who have wanted to stay home with their kids, who really dream of it, but felt after having spent
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that time, effort, and money in a career or an education, that they can't. And that is so sad to
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me. Because again, life is too short. We are allowed to pivot and use whatever education that
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we had in a different way than we anticipated, but it will still be used. So I hope that today's
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video inspires you to have children, be brave, enjoy your life in the way that you were meant to,
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and not feel pressured to stick with whatever it is you are doing now to make up for lost time.
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You can devote your life to being a wife and a mother, and you will have completely fulfilled your
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potential. Thank you guys so much for watching today's video. I hope you guys enjoyed it.
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Make sure to subscribe if you haven't already, and I'll see you in the next one. Bye!