Classically Abby - STOP CLEANING YOUR HOUSE...Yes, Really!!

00:00:00.000 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where I'm going to be sharing the one time you

00:00:05.920 should stop cleaning. If you are new to my channel, here we talk about classic living

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00:00:37.020 a month for all of this content. It's great but today I want to talk about the one time you should

00:00:43.600 stop cleaning. Now if you've been following me for a while you know that I think that cleaning your

00:00:48.700 house, keeping things organized, decluttered is a really wonderful way to respect the things that

00:00:54.760 you own, to respect the people around you, to respect yourself. I really think that cleaning is a beautiful

00:01:00.480 way to express gratitude for the objects that you have and the home that you live in but there is

00:01:06.360 one time I think that it is really important to stop cleaning and that is on the weekends. I have

00:01:12.960 one rule as a wife and as a mama and that is there is no cleaning on the weekends. So I want to explain

00:01:20.820 this concept to you so let's get into it. So I have this rule right? I have this rule that I will not

00:01:26.220 clean on the weekends. Now there's like a little bit of wiggle room here but the reason I say that

00:01:30.480 is because the weekends are a time for family and for community and I think a lot of the time we as

00:01:36.760 mothers can want to keep our homes clean for all the reasons I mentioned at the beginning of this video

00:01:41.860 but it will interfere with the time that we can spend with our children, our husbands, and our

00:01:48.120 communities and we'll choose to wash the dishes instead of doing a picnic with the kids or we'll

00:01:53.800 choose to mop the floors instead of enjoying a lunch with friends and that is a really big mistake in my

00:02:01.740 opinion. There's only one time of the week that we get to spend with our family and with our friends

00:02:07.420 when no one has to worry about working and it's really important that we as homemakers, as wives,

00:02:12.860 as mothers, that we encourage our family to spend time together and participate in it and enjoy it.

00:02:20.020 I recently wrote a post on my Instagram and I'm going to share it here but I'm also going to read

00:02:24.180 it to you guys. I want to read you what I wrote because I said it a little bit more concisely

00:02:28.340 and what I said was,

00:02:30.180 One of my favorite rules as a wife and a mama, no cleaning the house on weekends. I don't want to 0.98

00:02:34.560 take away from the time we get to spend as a family by worrying about the mess we make. We have

00:02:39.140 as much fun together as we can in every way and if there's a big mess I'll get to it on Monday when

00:02:43.780 we are all back to work. This philosophy has made our weekends so much more enjoyable and made me more

00:02:49.080 present and intentional. I think another big part of this is that I don't worry about the mess that we

00:02:54.980 make and I think that allows us to do more fun things. So as even our son gets older if we want

00:03:01.500 to paint in the house or if we want to put on a play and the clothes get strewn everywhere I don't

00:03:08.280 want to make that an impossibility because I'm worried about the mess. I want the mess to be a

00:03:13.200 part of the fun. So I feel really strongly that the weekend should not be a time for chores in that

00:03:19.480 way. We can relegate that to the week. That is going to be something we do on the weekdays

00:03:24.300 but during the weekend we focus in on each other and we don't worry about that. So I got an Instagram

00:03:31.120 DM asking me how do I accomplish this? What do I do on the days where I need to clean up after a long

00:03:36.600 weekend or something like that? And I wanted to break it down a little bit. So I have my notes here.

00:03:41.540 So the first tip that I have for this is to eat off of paper plates, use plastic cutlery, or just have

00:03:48.040 things that you can easily put in the dishwasher. So I'm somebody that I don't wash my dishes before I

00:03:54.180 put them in the dishwasher. I just give them a quick rinse and pop them in and that keeps things

00:03:58.480 really quick. But if you are somebody who doesn't do that, who rinses your dishes and cleans them

00:04:03.780 before putting them in the dishwasher, eat off paper. It makes a really big difference because

00:04:08.300 dishes are really like the biggest project I find when you're trying to keep the house clean

00:04:13.120 and it's something that you're constantly having to do. So if you can either eat off of paper or just

00:04:20.180 rinse your dishes and pop them in the dishwasher, that'll be the best solution. And you don't have

00:04:24.820 to worry so much about doing the dishes. But my other tip, if you are going to do the dishes on

00:04:29.320 weekends, is just do them first thing in the morning when you get up, which is really my practice

00:04:33.140 throughout the whole week. It's like the first thing I do every morning. Or if you're somebody

00:04:37.100 who likes to do their dishes in the evening, do it the last thing before you go to bed. But do it

00:04:40.540 when it's not interfering with another fun thing that the family is doing as a group and isn't getting

00:04:46.060 in the way. So if you want to do the dishes, do them either in the morning or in the evening,

00:04:50.460 but not at a time when the family's getting together and doing something fun. So for example,

00:04:54.240 if the whole family's going to watch a movie, but you want to do the dishes, wait to do the dishes

00:04:57.960 until after everyone goes to bed or just wait until the morning when you wake up. Because

00:05:01.480 generally we wake up early as parents, early with the baby or earlier than the younger kids,

00:05:08.180 and we can take care of it before it even gets in the way of getting to spend time and enjoy time

00:05:13.040 with your family. My next piece of advice is have everybody put their clothes in the hamper. 0.95

00:05:18.580 I find that the other problem that I have keeping track of is just clothes ending up everywhere,

00:05:24.160 including my own. So if you have messy clothes, you don't have to do laundry on the weekend.

00:05:28.140 I would specifically say do not do laundry on the weekend, but just have things get thrown in the

00:05:33.060 hamper so that on Monday when you do do the laundry, everything is in one place and you don't have

00:05:36.840 to run around the whole house collecting things. But that is my last piece of advice, which is to

00:05:40.780 leave the mess for Monday. I work from home. I can take Monday off really and spend it cleaning,

00:05:47.980 but not everybody has that luxury. And that is my choice. I know a lot of people like to use Monday

00:05:52.240 as a way to jump and start the week. I have chosen that because I don't clean on the weekends.

00:05:56.640 Usually I take most of Monday or at least half of Monday to really focus on getting the house clean.

00:06:02.380 And I am totally fine with that. It's a decision I've made and I'm really happy with,

00:06:06.400 but not everyone has that luxury. So if you also want to clean on Monday, maybe you can talk to

00:06:11.460 your husband about dividing and conquering the duties if you both work. So if you guys are both

00:06:15.480 outside of the home, then on Monday night, one of the adults is on kid duty and one of the adults

00:06:21.120 is on house duty. And maybe you guys split the responsibilities or you guys switch from Monday

00:06:26.280 to Monday, but just dedicating Monday night then for that big family cleanup. And maybe it becomes a

00:06:33.120 family project. The whole family gets together and keeps the house clean Monday night so that

00:06:37.320 everyone knows the weekend is not going to be a time where we worry about this. But Monday night

00:06:41.200 is family chores night. I love that idea. I might do that with my kids as they get older.

00:06:46.620 But I really wanted to share this thought because I think it's so important as moms, we set the tone

00:06:52.660 for the household. And if we're always putting chores ahead of family fun, then we're not giving our full

00:07:00.560 attention and quality time to our kids. We're doing acts of service in place of quality time. And for

00:07:07.320 kiddos, they don't necessarily view keeping the house clean as an act of service for them. They

00:07:12.900 don't really notice it yet. And for a lot of husbands, that's true too. They want you. They want your time.

00:07:18.620 And so keeping the house clean, that can be something you guys do as a team, as a family. But what you

00:07:23.580 really want to do is devote your time and love and energy to the family, to the community over the

00:07:31.140 weekend. So for us, Friday night and Saturday are Sabbath. So we really spend that time totally in

00:07:35.940 our community. It's the best. And then Sunday is really for family. So that is one of my most

00:07:40.700 important household rules. Let me know if you guys would like to see another video where I share

00:07:45.580 another household rule that I have. And I can maybe make this into a series like my rules for life as a

00:07:51.300 wife and a mom. I'd love to hear your thoughts down below. Make sure to leave a comment. If you

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Classically Abby - September 29, 2022

STOP CLEANING YOUR HOUSE...Yes, Really!!

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