Classically Abby - July 13, 2020


The RIGHT Way to LOVE Your Body 💙 ｜｜ Five tips to love the best things about you!

Topics
body type acceptance finding fashion inspiration dressing to show off assets
Hosted by
Abby Shapiro
Mentioned
Audrey Hepburn Marilyn Monroe
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Length

11 minutes

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Word count

2,514

Sentence count

116

Harmful content

Misogyny

10

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2

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In this episode, I talk about the importance of loving your body no matter what it looks like, and how you can learn to love your body for what it is and how it can make you feel great about yourself.

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00:00:00.000 Hello, beautiful ladies, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about the right way to love your body. 1.00
00:00:09.280 Nowadays, there's a lot of talk about loving your body, and I think it's really important to love our bodies and to love what they can do and to love the way they look.
00:00:18.880 But I think there is a problem in saying that you should love your body no matter what it looks like because then people don't have an incentive to change and to make their bodies healthier and fitter.
00:00:29.260 Now, I know that there are sometimes I look in the mirror and I know I gained five pounds and that isn't as healthy for me, so I decide that I want to lose a little bit of weight or go to the gym or go for more walks or whatever it is to make me feel better in my skin.
00:00:43.600 And even though I love my body even in those stages, I don't necessarily feel as good about the way that I feel and look because I'm not as healthy and fit.
00:00:52.420 So I really want to talk about what the right way to love your body entails and how you should feel great about yourself without losing that incentive to look your best and feel your best and be as healthy as you can.
00:01:04.340 So let's get into it.
00:01:05.660 So the first way to learn to love your body in the right way is to look in the mirror and figure out your body type.
00:01:12.140 Now, something I've struggled with my whole life is the fact that I'm very tall and I'm a little bit more curvy.
00:01:17.340 So I'm not petite. I don't have just a very thin frame. And a lot of clothing nowadays is made for women who are not as curvy, who don't have as big of a chest or as big of a butt or something like that, where you don't feel like you're necessarily fit for the fashion of today's day and age.
00:01:35.000 And so I was always very sensitive about the fact that I was tall and that I was curvier.
00:01:38.820 And it wasn't until I realized that I was the one who was making myself feel bad because I was comparing my body, not to the best version of my body type, but to people who had an entirely different body type,
00:01:51.640 that I was able to start loving my body for what it was and for what it is.
00:01:55.320 And so when I look at girls who are comparing themselves to women who have an entirely different body type, an entirely different frame, that's not the way to learn to love your body. 0.53
00:02:04.360 Just continually envying somebody who has an entirely different body than you do and you're never going to look like that is never going to make you happy because it's never going to be something that's attainable.
00:02:15.760 But once you realize that that body type that you admire and love so much is just different from yours and that somebody else probably admires and loves your body type,
00:02:24.660 you might end up actually being able to love what you look like.
00:02:27.620 And it's really just that acceptance of realizing that your body type isn't the same as somebody else's.
00:02:33.600 It's very similar to hair, right?
00:02:35.540 I have straightish hair.
00:02:37.040 I was very jealous of girls who had long curly hair. 1.00
00:02:41.080 I loved that.
00:02:42.240 But now I realize that's never going to be my hair type and maybe somebody who has curly hair really admires my hair.
00:02:47.580 And so it's just realizing what you have to work with and finding beauty in what you already are.
00:02:53.420 So for me, looking at those really petite girls who were smaller, I couldn't ever accomplish that.
00:02:59.940 I could never attain that look.
00:03:01.620 And admiring them and saying, oh, you're beautiful, but not comparing myself, not saying, oh my gosh, I wish I looked like that,
00:03:08.080 gave me the ability to learn to love what I look like because there are certain things about me that are just not going to change.
00:03:13.220 I'm never going to be shorter.
00:03:14.400 I'm never going to have smaller hips.
00:03:15.800 That's the stuff that's going to make you feel bad about yourself is the stuff where you're never going to look like somebody because your body types are different.
00:03:23.240 And there are a lot of different kind of body type definitions online.
00:03:26.760 There's the mesomorph, endomorph, ectomorph body types, the kibbe body types, and they all are definitions of different kinds of body type.
00:03:35.200 And just looking up the ones that interest you because I don't necessarily know that they're built in science, but just things that make it interesting to you to learn about your physique
00:03:43.560 and learn about how your body naturally looks, how it naturally builds muscle, how it holds fat, those kinds of things just give you kind of an idea of what you're actually looking like
00:03:52.980 and not necessarily trying to aim for something that you'll never look like because that's the first way to make yourself feel unhappy about the way that you look is to aim for something that just won't ever be.
00:04:03.560 So that's the first way to learn to love your body for what it is.
00:04:06.660 My next piece of advice is to look up celebrities or models or role models of yours that have a similar body type to yours. 0.98
00:04:13.640 Now, I was constantly looking at celebrities that had a body type that I did not have.
00:04:18.020 And so when I would look in the mirror, I would say, why don't I look like that person?
00:04:21.140 And it was just because I didn't have the same body type as they did.
00:04:24.800 Once I started looking up women who had a smaller waist and were a bit taller and looked a little bit more like me, 1.00
00:04:31.060 I was able to find women who I thought were beautiful and could emulate them instead of emulating women who I could never look like. 0.65
00:04:39.320 It was very important for me to find inspiration in women who dressed like me and looked good in the same clothes that I did and were still beautiful.
00:04:47.800 Once you find those women who are gorgeous but have a similar body type to yours, you'll start to love your own body type because you're not, again, comparing yourself to something that you'll never look like.
00:04:58.860 So finding those women, finding those celebrities, finding those models, finding those fashion inspirations of people who look good in clothes that you look good in and who you think are gorgeous will just make you feel better overall and make you enjoy your body even more.
00:05:13.260 One of the things that I've had to learn is that I don't look like Audrey Hepburn.
00:05:17.100 I absolutely love her. I love her fashion. She's gorgeous, but she's not necessarily similar to my body type. 0.79
00:05:23.300 So there are things that she'll wear that I look good in, but there are some things that she wore that do not look good on me.
00:05:28.160 And then I look at somebody like Marilyn Monroe, who's maybe more similar to my body type, and her fashion choices actually do look really good on me.
00:05:35.120 And both of those women are stunning, gorgeous, beautiful fashion inspirations, but their body types are very different. 1.00
00:05:42.840 So finding somebody who you can choose to find fashion inspiration from, who looks like you, and who would actually make sense that you would copy their fashion because you have a similar body type, will make you love your body.
00:05:54.860 My third piece of advice is to find the best things about yourself and absolutely fall in love with them.
00:06:01.140 Figure out something that you love about the way you look, whether that be something facially like your eyes or your smile, or something with your body, whether it's your waist or your legs or even your shoulders.
00:06:13.460 Those kinds of things, finding those things and really focusing on them will make you love your body so much more.
00:06:19.760 Once you realize what your body has to offer, and you start to value the things about your body that make you unique and beautiful, all of a sudden, you'll start to love the way you look.
00:06:29.460 You'll start to love looking in the mirror because you know that there's something special about you.
00:06:34.060 So for me, I really like that I have a small waist.
00:06:37.140 That makes me really happy when I look in the mirror.
00:06:39.280 So that's something that I love.
00:06:40.400 And then another thing I really like about myself is my eyes.
00:06:42.780 I think I have really pretty eyes.
00:06:44.540 And just knowing that those are things I love about myself makes me really happy when I look in the mirror.
00:06:48.860 Now, when you find something about your body that you really love, the cool thing about that is that you can use your fitness regimen to make it better.
00:06:56.180 So I know that I like my small waist.
00:06:58.740 So doing exercises that bring attention to that is something that I really enjoy doing.
00:07:02.840 And it's something that you can kind of accentuate with the way that you eat, with the way that you exercise.
00:07:08.100 And that's stuff that you can actually learn to love and make even better.
00:07:11.880 So that's stuff that's going to kind of give you that little extra push to make your body as great as it can be.
00:07:18.920 So find that thing about yourself that you really love.
00:07:21.400 And even if it doesn't necessarily affect your fitness regimen or something like that, it's just something that you can focus on.
00:07:27.480 And when you're feeling down about something else, you can always reference that part of you that you really love about yourself.
00:07:33.380 And it makes you appreciate your body even more.
00:07:36.020 Next up is dress up your body to show off your assets.
00:07:40.360 Now, I'm not saying you should do that immodestly, but there are ways that you can dress that can draw attention to your best features, right?
00:07:47.220 So if I have a smaller waist, wearing a big wide belt will really draw attention to that.
00:07:52.380 Or if you have really nice legs, wearing a skirt that just hits at the right point on your leg will look absolutely great. 0.64
00:07:59.780 Or if you have nice shoulders, wearing something sleeveless, something that draws attention to those parts of you that you've now recognized that are beautiful, the parts of you that you love.
00:08:10.300 Just dressing to show off those assets is really very classic because it's taking all of this knowledge that you've now compiled, your body type, people who look like you, and your best features, and putting them all together to fit your wardrobe to it.
00:08:24.740 So all of a sudden, you're using all of this knowledge to make yourself look beautiful in clothing.
00:08:29.660 And finding those pieces that really, really work for you is going to absolutely change the game.
00:08:35.500 You're going to love getting dressed in the morning because you're going to know what fits you and what makes you happy and what makes you look good.
00:08:41.780 And those things are really, really important to loving your body.
00:08:45.720 Because if you're constantly putting on clothing that makes you feel unattractive, you're not going to be able to love your body because your body isn't going to be attractive to you.
00:08:55.420 And it needs to be attractive to you for you to like it, for you to love it.
00:08:59.140 Now, I'm not saying that you have to be a six-pack warrior or whatever it is, but I'm saying that looking attractive to yourself in the mirror is also going to make you love your body more.
00:09:10.600 And it's just something that you can really work with clothing, which is great.
00:09:14.800 My last piece of advice for loving your body is loving what it can do.
00:09:19.440 So many of us are so lucky that we can do so many things, that we can do yoga, that we can go for walks, that we can have children.
00:09:27.320 These are beautiful things that our bodies can do.
00:09:30.060 We are so lucky that our bodies serve us so well.
00:09:33.560 Once you think about all of the wonderful things that your body does for you, you'll really appreciate and recognize how lucky you are to be in your body.
00:09:42.280 So it takes away the focus from how you look to what you can do.
00:09:46.520 And something as simple as going for a walk actually means a lot to somebody who can't go for walks, right?
00:09:52.640 And it's something that we're very lucky that we can do, that we can go out and use our bodies to our benefit.
00:10:00.360 I look at mothers who have had children and I look at their bodies and I think it's absolutely amazing that they grew a baby in their belly.
00:10:08.820 That's an incredible thing.
00:10:10.460 And when women don't have a super tight stomach afterward, that makes sense. 1.00
00:10:14.360 Why would you have a super tight stomach after you bore a child? 0.94
00:10:17.860 So loving your body for what it can accomplish and what it can do and how lucky we are to have the ability to do all these things is an incredible gift.
00:10:29.380 And one way to really just focus on the beauty of our bodies and to remember why we love our bodies.
00:10:36.280 And it's cool that we can push our bodies to be even better.
00:10:40.080 If you don't do cardio, you might run out of breath if you have to run.
00:10:43.000 If you don't weight lift, you might not be able to lift that big heavy box.
00:10:46.980 Our bodies can grow and change and become even better.
00:10:51.140 So it's just an incredible gift that we've been given that our bodies are healthy and that we get to live in them.
00:10:57.140 So I think that's really how to love your body the right way.
00:11:00.720 Is to love it for what it does and to love it for what it is.
00:11:04.300 And not try and change kind of the base of what you are, but you can always improve on top of that.
00:11:09.860 Let me know in the comments how you love your body.
00:11:12.100 I would love to hear, tell me in the comments, your favorite thing about the way you look.
00:11:15.800 I love it when women kind of recognize something beautiful about themselves.
00:11:19.160 So please let me know in the comments below.
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