In this episode, I talk about the importance of loving your body no matter what it looks like, and how you can learn to love your body for what it is and how it can make you feel great about yourself.
00:00:00.000Hello, beautiful ladies, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about the right way to love your body.
00:00:09.280Nowadays, there's a lot of talk about loving your body, and I think it's really important to love our bodies and to love what they can do and to love the way they look.
00:00:18.880But I think there is a problem in saying that you should love your body no matter what it looks like because then people don't have an incentive to change and to make their bodies healthier and fitter.
00:00:29.260Now, I know that there are sometimes I look in the mirror and I know I gained five pounds and that isn't as healthy for me, so I decide that I want to lose a little bit of weight or go to the gym or go for more walks or whatever it is to make me feel better in my skin.
00:00:43.600And even though I love my body even in those stages, I don't necessarily feel as good about the way that I feel and look because I'm not as healthy and fit.
00:00:52.420So I really want to talk about what the right way to love your body entails and how you should feel great about yourself without losing that incentive to look your best and feel your best and be as healthy as you can.
00:01:05.660So the first way to learn to love your body in the right way is to look in the mirror and figure out your body type.
00:01:12.140Now, something I've struggled with my whole life is the fact that I'm very tall and I'm a little bit more curvy.
00:01:17.340So I'm not petite. I don't have just a very thin frame. And a lot of clothing nowadays is made for women who are not as curvy, who don't have as big of a chest or as big of a butt or something like that, where you don't feel like you're necessarily fit for the fashion of today's day and age.
00:01:35.000And so I was always very sensitive about the fact that I was tall and that I was curvier.
00:01:38.820And it wasn't until I realized that I was the one who was making myself feel bad because I was comparing my body, not to the best version of my body type, but to people who had an entirely different body type,
00:01:51.640that I was able to start loving my body for what it was and for what it is.
00:01:55.320And so when I look at girls who are comparing themselves to women who have an entirely different body type, an entirely different frame, that's not the way to learn to love your body.
00:02:04.360Just continually envying somebody who has an entirely different body than you do and you're never going to look like that is never going to make you happy because it's never going to be something that's attainable.
00:02:15.760But once you realize that that body type that you admire and love so much is just different from yours and that somebody else probably admires and loves your body type,
00:02:24.660you might end up actually being able to love what you look like.
00:02:27.620And it's really just that acceptance of realizing that your body type isn't the same as somebody else's.
00:03:15.800That's the stuff that's going to make you feel bad about yourself is the stuff where you're never going to look like somebody because your body types are different.
00:03:23.240And there are a lot of different kind of body type definitions online.
00:03:26.760There's the mesomorph, endomorph, ectomorph body types, the kibbe body types, and they all are definitions of different kinds of body type.
00:03:35.200And just looking up the ones that interest you because I don't necessarily know that they're built in science, but just things that make it interesting to you to learn about your physique
00:03:43.560and learn about how your body naturally looks, how it naturally builds muscle, how it holds fat, those kinds of things just give you kind of an idea of what you're actually looking like
00:03:52.980and not necessarily trying to aim for something that you'll never look like because that's the first way to make yourself feel unhappy about the way that you look is to aim for something that just won't ever be.
00:04:03.560So that's the first way to learn to love your body for what it is.
00:04:06.660My next piece of advice is to look up celebrities or models or role models of yours that have a similar body type to yours.
00:04:13.640Now, I was constantly looking at celebrities that had a body type that I did not have.
00:04:18.020And so when I would look in the mirror, I would say, why don't I look like that person?
00:04:21.140And it was just because I didn't have the same body type as they did.
00:04:24.800Once I started looking up women who had a smaller waist and were a bit taller and looked a little bit more like me,
00:04:31.060I was able to find women who I thought were beautiful and could emulate them instead of emulating women who I could never look like.
00:04:39.320It was very important for me to find inspiration in women who dressed like me and looked good in the same clothes that I did and were still beautiful.
00:04:47.800Once you find those women who are gorgeous but have a similar body type to yours, you'll start to love your own body type because you're not, again, comparing yourself to something that you'll never look like.
00:04:58.860So finding those women, finding those celebrities, finding those models, finding those fashion inspirations of people who look good in clothes that you look good in and who you think are gorgeous will just make you feel better overall and make you enjoy your body even more.
00:05:13.260One of the things that I've had to learn is that I don't look like Audrey Hepburn.
00:05:17.100I absolutely love her. I love her fashion. She's gorgeous, but she's not necessarily similar to my body type.
00:05:23.300So there are things that she'll wear that I look good in, but there are some things that she wore that do not look good on me.
00:05:28.160And then I look at somebody like Marilyn Monroe, who's maybe more similar to my body type, and her fashion choices actually do look really good on me.
00:05:35.120And both of those women are stunning, gorgeous, beautiful fashion inspirations, but their body types are very different.
00:05:42.840So finding somebody who you can choose to find fashion inspiration from, who looks like you, and who would actually make sense that you would copy their fashion because you have a similar body type, will make you love your body.
00:05:54.860My third piece of advice is to find the best things about yourself and absolutely fall in love with them.
00:06:01.140Figure out something that you love about the way you look, whether that be something facially like your eyes or your smile, or something with your body, whether it's your waist or your legs or even your shoulders.
00:06:13.460Those kinds of things, finding those things and really focusing on them will make you love your body so much more.
00:06:19.760Once you realize what your body has to offer, and you start to value the things about your body that make you unique and beautiful, all of a sudden, you'll start to love the way you look.
00:06:29.460You'll start to love looking in the mirror because you know that there's something special about you.
00:06:34.060So for me, I really like that I have a small waist.
00:06:37.140That makes me really happy when I look in the mirror.
00:06:44.540And just knowing that those are things I love about myself makes me really happy when I look in the mirror.
00:06:48.860Now, when you find something about your body that you really love, the cool thing about that is that you can use your fitness regimen to make it better.
00:06:58.740So doing exercises that bring attention to that is something that I really enjoy doing.
00:07:02.840And it's something that you can kind of accentuate with the way that you eat, with the way that you exercise.
00:07:08.100And that's stuff that you can actually learn to love and make even better.
00:07:11.880So that's stuff that's going to kind of give you that little extra push to make your body as great as it can be.
00:07:18.920So find that thing about yourself that you really love.
00:07:21.400And even if it doesn't necessarily affect your fitness regimen or something like that, it's just something that you can focus on.
00:07:27.480And when you're feeling down about something else, you can always reference that part of you that you really love about yourself.
00:07:33.380And it makes you appreciate your body even more.
00:07:36.020Next up is dress up your body to show off your assets.
00:07:40.360Now, I'm not saying you should do that immodestly, but there are ways that you can dress that can draw attention to your best features, right?
00:07:47.220So if I have a smaller waist, wearing a big wide belt will really draw attention to that.
00:07:52.380Or if you have really nice legs, wearing a skirt that just hits at the right point on your leg will look absolutely great.
00:07:59.780Or if you have nice shoulders, wearing something sleeveless, something that draws attention to those parts of you that you've now recognized that are beautiful, the parts of you that you love.
00:08:10.300Just dressing to show off those assets is really very classic because it's taking all of this knowledge that you've now compiled, your body type, people who look like you, and your best features, and putting them all together to fit your wardrobe to it.
00:08:24.740So all of a sudden, you're using all of this knowledge to make yourself look beautiful in clothing.
00:08:29.660And finding those pieces that really, really work for you is going to absolutely change the game.
00:08:35.500You're going to love getting dressed in the morning because you're going to know what fits you and what makes you happy and what makes you look good.
00:08:41.780And those things are really, really important to loving your body.
00:08:45.720Because if you're constantly putting on clothing that makes you feel unattractive, you're not going to be able to love your body because your body isn't going to be attractive to you.
00:08:55.420And it needs to be attractive to you for you to like it, for you to love it.
00:08:59.140Now, I'm not saying that you have to be a six-pack warrior or whatever it is, but I'm saying that looking attractive to yourself in the mirror is also going to make you love your body more.
00:09:10.600And it's just something that you can really work with clothing, which is great.
00:09:14.800My last piece of advice for loving your body is loving what it can do.
00:09:19.440So many of us are so lucky that we can do so many things, that we can do yoga, that we can go for walks, that we can have children.
00:09:27.320These are beautiful things that our bodies can do.
00:09:30.060We are so lucky that our bodies serve us so well.
00:09:33.560Once you think about all of the wonderful things that your body does for you, you'll really appreciate and recognize how lucky you are to be in your body.
00:09:42.280So it takes away the focus from how you look to what you can do.
00:09:46.520And something as simple as going for a walk actually means a lot to somebody who can't go for walks, right?
00:09:52.640And it's something that we're very lucky that we can do, that we can go out and use our bodies to our benefit.
00:10:00.360I look at mothers who have had children and I look at their bodies and I think it's absolutely amazing that they grew a baby in their belly.
00:10:10.460And when women don't have a super tight stomach afterward, that makes sense.
00:10:14.360Why would you have a super tight stomach after you bore a child?
00:10:17.860So loving your body for what it can accomplish and what it can do and how lucky we are to have the ability to do all these things is an incredible gift.
00:10:29.380And one way to really just focus on the beauty of our bodies and to remember why we love our bodies.
00:10:36.280And it's cool that we can push our bodies to be even better.
00:10:40.080If you don't do cardio, you might run out of breath if you have to run.
00:10:43.000If you don't weight lift, you might not be able to lift that big heavy box.
00:10:46.980Our bodies can grow and change and become even better.
00:10:51.140So it's just an incredible gift that we've been given that our bodies are healthy and that we get to live in them.
00:10:57.140So I think that's really how to love your body the right way.
00:11:00.720Is to love it for what it does and to love it for what it is.
00:11:04.300And not try and change kind of the base of what you are, but you can always improve on top of that.
00:11:09.860Let me know in the comments how you love your body.
00:11:12.100I would love to hear, tell me in the comments, your favorite thing about the way you look.
00:11:15.800I love it when women kind of recognize something beautiful about themselves.
00:11:19.160So please let me know in the comments below.
00:11:21.220Thank you guys so much for watching today's video.
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