Classically Abby - We've Been Keeping A Secret...

00:00:00.000 so how do we want to start this hi guys welcome to today's video we were where we

00:00:07.520 this is so weird hello classic crew and welcome to today's video where we are excited to announce

00:00:14.240 some some news hi guys i can't do this we're pregnant hello classic crew and welcome to

00:00:25.440 today's video where we are going to be sharing some very exciting news we have a child we're

00:00:31.680 pregnant on the way on the way we we have a child growing yeah no no we have a child a three-year-old

00:00:38.400 just wandering around just picked him up the other we don't know where he came from we adopted him from

00:00:43.120 a grocery store parking lot so really what's happening is that we are pregnant yes and you've

00:00:50.400 heard of the roth child now have you heard of the roth's child

00:01:00.720 we have been keeping this secret for a while it was really difficult for me to keep the

00:01:06.000 secret in the first trimester because the first trimester is the most uncomfortable

00:01:11.280 and i wanted to be able to explain why i was acting differently than normal but you can't

00:01:17.680 so to you the viewers and then also to everyone around her in our life yeah when i fell asleep

00:01:23.920 awkwardly at someone's house during a board game that was kind of funny and this was not one of the

00:01:30.560 board games she falls asleep during yeah those are different board games and uh you know those are the

00:01:36.400 kinds of things that happen when you're pregnant and you can't tell people why you're falling asleep at

00:01:41.200 their house so yeah you just have to seem like a weirdo who has no self-control so jacob and i have

00:01:48.960 been obviously really wanting a child uh this year's been highs and lows uh we we had a miscarriage back

00:01:59.680 in april uh which we talked i talked about on my channel and we feel so lucky and blessed to be able to

00:02:09.040 say that we are pregnant again and this time having a healthy pregnancy um which was a big part of the

00:02:14.560 reason why we didn't share you know earlier uh we wanted to make sure we were really out of the woods

00:02:21.360 uh i'm currently 16 weeks when this video goes up i'll be 16 weeks so that's really exciting which

00:02:29.280 means that the baby is going to be due in march yeah end of march my birthday is uh about mid-march

00:02:36.000 so that'll be fun because of the miscarriage the first time around so i grow up basically an only

00:02:41.840 child my sister's 14 years older than i am so i was basically raised as an only child no one around

00:02:48.320 me was having children as i was growing up just because none of the generations worked out that

00:02:53.840 way among the extended family or family friends so i had no practical experience or knowledge of

00:03:00.880 the chance of miscarriage i just it felt like something that happened to other people right

00:03:05.280 it's a tragedy it's a bad thing it happens far off somewhere else it was not something i knew as a very

00:03:12.960 normal everyday life kind of unavoidable tragedy so i had no caution when it came to telling people

00:03:20.480 i had an absolute confidence oh we're just pregnant we'll stay pregnant this is going to be wonderful

00:03:24.560 and so at eight nine weeks into their pregnancy we were telling friends we were very open about it

00:03:31.600 we filmed a series of surprise like telling people videos with friends and family recording videos for

00:03:38.720 my channel where i was talking about my symptoms and wanting to share kind of a bi-weekly recap of the

00:03:46.080 pregnancy so there was all of this preparation expectation sharing with people and then when miscarriage

00:03:53.760 happened it i mean it's always going to be tragic it's always going to floor you there's also

00:03:58.640 relative degrees of it if you have absolutely no preparation for this tragedy is something you have

00:04:03.280 to be able to experience in life in terms of it very well could happen to you that's just the way it

00:04:10.320 is you know you don't think of it as along the same lines as like losing an uncle or an aunt but more

00:04:15.440 along the lines of like losing your own child something that you just don't think is going to happen

00:04:20.320 we were absolutely floored by it so this time and then also had to share with all the people that

00:04:25.520 we had to tell people and you relive the emotions of it just a small but significant portion every

00:04:33.360 single time you have to tell someone and then you also feel observed you feel as if you're seen as

00:04:38.320 someone who's experienced a tragedy and that has its own effect it's something best to be avoided if

00:04:42.880 you can just to minimize the scale of awful so when it came to this pregnancy we were on edge the

00:04:50.800 entire first trimester we constantly said we're on tenterhooks until we're out of the first trimester so

00:04:56.960 just very stressful very rough because we so did not want to have it happen again but there's also

00:05:03.600 nothing you can do you just sit there with the risk and this is the thing i also did not know about

00:05:08.480 miscarriage is you don't have a role in preventing it or in causing it for the most part it's just

00:05:14.560 going to happen if it's going to happen and you do not know you just know it's not going to happen

00:05:20.720 when it hasn't after 13 or 14 weeks of waiting yeah and that's just the way life is it's probably in my

00:05:28.960 opinion the most everyday significant tragedy or limitation in life that people have to deal with

00:05:38.240 because even with all our medical science if there's a chromosomal abnormality which you could

00:05:43.600 find out from some tests to a certain point along maybe but even then it's not a guarantee that things

00:05:48.320 will happen either way if the dna does not match up right that's just what it is there's no repairing

00:05:54.320 that there's no fixing it it's just going to happen at some point that it could result in a miscarriage

00:05:59.280 i'm planning on doing i i would like to do a podcast getting more in depth on the experience of

00:06:05.200 being pregnant after miscarriage yeah with both of us because i think that your your take is also

00:06:11.360 incredibly relevant um but we were so we were so excited and so happy this time around so turning

00:06:18.560 it around to the positive we um you know the highest heights we had experienced in life was finding out

00:06:24.160 we were pregnant the first time and by far the worst thing that has ever happened either one of us

00:06:28.720 was the miscarriage uh the pain of that loss nothing has compared to and so rebounding around the

00:06:38.240 highest highs we have ever experienced we're getting pregnant again after that miscarriage uh because

00:06:43.040 seeing the ultrasounds and seeing the ultrasounds and seeing the baby move and be energetic and so i

00:06:48.400 think abigail will be sharing uh in some manner uh image of the ultrasound of the video seeing the

00:06:54.880 the 12-week five-day ultrasound of our child kicking legs oh my gosh it's the best i just watch it all

00:07:03.040 the time standing legs back and forth and like bicycling them oh so cute seeing an active healthy

00:07:10.240 child in the womb nothing nothing compares we're so excited to be parents and thank you know we we talk

00:07:19.520 about how the experience that we had is has informed this pregnancy and has informed our life about

00:07:26.320 what we want i know you always wanted a big big family jacob always wanted to have kids like

00:07:31.760 immediately because i well not just because this but uh what feeds into it you know i said i was raised

00:07:37.120 like an only child uh my sister's 14 years older than i am so it's just there are not a lot of kids

00:07:42.960 running around in my childhood you know when i'm a teenager if the little nieces or nephews depending

00:07:46.960 in the family you're in abigail had that i had no notion of it right i was already like 18 19 when

00:07:52.400 my first niece was born and so to me it means nothing oh a baseball team's worth of children why

00:07:58.960 not i have no practical idea of lifestyle requirements for that um at least historically i didn't now i have

00:08:05.600 a better sense of it right still want a lot of children i know the only child reaction i want to have

00:08:10.960 children with uh 15 siblings so you know i felt differently because i grew up with babies and so

00:08:18.320 i knew how much work goes into having a child and so i kind of thought okay well maybe we'll have three

00:08:24.640 and after the miscarriage now we're both very much on the same page and both very much want a big family

00:08:31.440 minimum god willing god willing five yes with god's help we'll end up having a big family but we're just

00:08:37.040 we're so excited for this child and for what's gonna come in the next year we can't wait pregnancy

00:08:43.200 is so interesting and fun once you get out of that scary risky time so i'm excited to talk about that

00:08:50.000 a lot here on my channel uh the reason you may have been wondering why did i start vlogs weekly vlogs

00:08:56.560 on my channel the reason was because once this announcement came out i'm gonna actually be doing

00:09:01.600 weekly vlogs following the pregnancy so that that's the idea is that every week you guys can kind

00:09:06.160 of tune in see where i'm at see what it's like see what's changing how the symptoms change and i

00:09:11.920 follow along with these apps i use the pregnancy plus app i also use the what to expect app but

00:09:16.560 they're awesome i show jacob a lot of the time what the baby looks like um based on you know their

00:09:22.560 scientific research this is what the baby looks like in utero and it is amazing and that's been a

00:09:28.080 really cool thing to follow along with and i i think it's going to be fun for those of you who are

00:09:33.680 pregnant for those of you who have had babies for those of you who aren't pregnant yet but would

00:09:38.160 like to be in the future uh this kind of stuff is the content that i've watched even when i haven't

00:09:43.200 been pregnant because i just think that it's really cool to see women go through this and have babies

00:09:49.280 and then you have babies so we did a genetic test mostly just because if anything was wrong we wanted

00:09:56.560 to know so we could be prepared yeah so we got the chromosomal reports everything came back fortunately

00:10:04.080 health issues it also let us know what the sex of the child will be yeah so we actually know but

00:10:09.120 we're not going to share it quite yet because we want to do a video where we do a sort of reveal but

00:10:14.880 we plan and maybe we haven't really decided yet but we were thinking maybe of doing some old wives tales

00:10:21.120 to see have you heard of this no i've not heard oh maybe i haven't run this value so there's a bunch

00:10:25.360 of old wives tales about like oh if you carry high or you carry wide or you you the baby's heartbeat is

00:10:32.000 above this rate or if you crave sugar or salty like those things determine the gender and they're

00:10:37.600 they've been around for forever no that doesn't make any sense specifically an old wives tale about

00:10:44.800 the baby's heart rate is above a certain amount their ear horn have you ever seen that i don't

00:10:51.680 know how long that's been around but i think a very long time it's literally like a little horn you put

00:10:55.600 up against the mom's belly and the midwife listens oh okay so there could be an old wives tale about 0.70

00:11:01.120 listening to the child's heart rate i i would have figured that was so modern that the idea of folk work

00:11:06.960 wisdom around it would be ridiculous yeah i know okay no actually it's like a very very old it looks

00:11:13.920 like just a old-fashioned instrument i imagine it's been around for a long time because then

00:11:19.120 women delivering babies can tell if the baby's in distress because the heartbeat will slow down 0.96

00:11:23.760 wow okay i don't know how long it's been around but i you could imagine and midwife

00:11:28.880 but in any case doing all those kinds of things seeing if we uh if we fall into the the correct

00:11:34.800 category and then sharing the sex that's an option or we'll come up with something else to reveal the

00:11:41.120 reveal the sex to you guys burning down an entire forest with fireworks oh that's not on the docket

00:11:46.640 no so that'll that'll be a video that'll go up on my channel and then as well i guess even now we can

00:11:52.800 start the guessing game for names uh jacob and i like a lot of different names for a lot of yeah we do

00:12:03.120 um so the few places that we find inspiration for names are definitely the bible we love biblical names i in

00:12:10.720 particular am drawn to the book of judges because the set of narratives in there i think are very

00:12:16.000 potently relevant for today for very regrettable and sad reasons and so i would like a child who's

00:12:21.440 a warrior for our values and for the values that matter so the book of judges who doesn't want a

00:12:26.480 child named for yael or named for samson yeah exactly gideon or named for uh deborah yeah is that

00:12:32.320 the pronunciation well in hebrew it's devora and then in english it's deborah yeah so i combine the two

00:12:38.240 two into something that no one wants we like the character of the name meaning the person who had

00:12:44.560 that name yes we like the meaning of names too but the historical person who had that name also

00:12:50.800 matters to us i care much less about uh meaning to a name that you have to look up through an

00:12:58.720 irritating web wiki the other places that we find inspiration for names is i think we like names that

00:13:06.160 have like gaelic back oh yeah yeah we like irish and scottish names yeah even though i don't really

00:13:12.400 have any irish heritage yeah that we know of it's all scots english yeah i mean we also like welsh names

00:13:18.240 sometimes oh yeah because we want to throw everyone off they're interesting welsh names where your wise

00:13:24.400 don't mean what wise mean the words uh pronunciation yeah exactly that's what we like put your guesses in

00:13:30.480 the comments um and yeah i think that's it for today's video sounds good but thank you guys so

00:13:36.400 much for watching if you aren't subscribed to my channel now is the time because there's going to

00:13:41.600 be a ton of content about this which we're really excited about and if you're not already subscribed to

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00:13:56.320 out but thank you guys so much for watching and i'll see you in my next video bye where's the opera bye

Classically Abby - October 06, 2021

We've Been Keeping A Secret...

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