We've Been Keeping A Secret...
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Summary
We are so excited to announce that we are pregnant with our second child! In this episode, we talk about what it was like keeping this news a secret for the first trimester and how it was hard to keep it a secret.
Transcript
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so how do we want to start this hi guys welcome to today's video we were where we
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this is so weird hello classic crew and welcome to today's video where we are excited to announce
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some some news hi guys i can't do this we're pregnant hello classic crew and welcome to
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today's video where we are going to be sharing some very exciting news we have a child we're
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pregnant on the way on the way we we have a child growing yeah no no we have a child a three-year-old
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just wandering around just picked him up the other we don't know where he came from we adopted him from
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a grocery store parking lot so really what's happening is that we are pregnant yes and you've
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heard of the roth child now have you heard of the roth's child
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we have been keeping this secret for a while it was really difficult for me to keep the
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secret in the first trimester because the first trimester is the most uncomfortable
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and i wanted to be able to explain why i was acting differently than normal but you can't
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so to you the viewers and then also to everyone around her in our life yeah when i fell asleep
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awkwardly at someone's house during a board game that was kind of funny and this was not one of the
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board games she falls asleep during yeah those are different board games and uh you know those are the
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kinds of things that happen when you're pregnant and you can't tell people why you're falling asleep at
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their house so yeah you just have to seem like a weirdo who has no self-control so jacob and i have
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been obviously really wanting a child uh this year's been highs and lows uh we we had a miscarriage back
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in april uh which we talked i talked about on my channel and we feel so lucky and blessed to be able to
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say that we are pregnant again and this time having a healthy pregnancy um which was a big part of the
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reason why we didn't share you know earlier uh we wanted to make sure we were really out of the woods
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uh i'm currently 16 weeks when this video goes up i'll be 16 weeks so that's really exciting which
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means that the baby is going to be due in march yeah end of march my birthday is uh about mid-march
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so that'll be fun because of the miscarriage the first time around so i grow up basically an only
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child my sister's 14 years older than i am so i was basically raised as an only child no one around
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me was having children as i was growing up just because none of the generations worked out that
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way among the extended family or family friends so i had no practical experience or knowledge of
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the chance of miscarriage i just it felt like something that happened to other people right
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it's a tragedy it's a bad thing it happens far off somewhere else it was not something i knew as a very
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normal everyday life kind of unavoidable tragedy so i had no caution when it came to telling people
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i had an absolute confidence oh we're just pregnant we'll stay pregnant this is going to be wonderful
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and so at eight nine weeks into their pregnancy we were telling friends we were very open about it
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we filmed a series of surprise like telling people videos with friends and family recording videos for
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my channel where i was talking about my symptoms and wanting to share kind of a bi-weekly recap of the
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pregnancy so there was all of this preparation expectation sharing with people and then when miscarriage
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happened it i mean it's always going to be tragic it's always going to floor you there's also
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relative degrees of it if you have absolutely no preparation for this tragedy is something you have
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to be able to experience in life in terms of it very well could happen to you that's just the way it
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is you know you don't think of it as along the same lines as like losing an uncle or an aunt but more
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along the lines of like losing your own child something that you just don't think is going to happen
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we were absolutely floored by it so this time and then also had to share with all the people that
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we had to tell people and you relive the emotions of it just a small but significant portion every
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single time you have to tell someone and then you also feel observed you feel as if you're seen as
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someone who's experienced a tragedy and that has its own effect it's something best to be avoided if
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you can just to minimize the scale of awful so when it came to this pregnancy we were on edge the
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entire first trimester we constantly said we're on tenterhooks until we're out of the first trimester so
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just very stressful very rough because we so did not want to have it happen again but there's also
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nothing you can do you just sit there with the risk and this is the thing i also did not know about
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miscarriage is you don't have a role in preventing it or in causing it for the most part it's just
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going to happen if it's going to happen and you do not know you just know it's not going to happen
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when it hasn't after 13 or 14 weeks of waiting yeah and that's just the way life is it's probably in my
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opinion the most everyday significant tragedy or limitation in life that people have to deal with
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because even with all our medical science if there's a chromosomal abnormality which you could
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find out from some tests to a certain point along maybe but even then it's not a guarantee that things
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will happen either way if the dna does not match up right that's just what it is there's no repairing
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that there's no fixing it it's just going to happen at some point that it could result in a miscarriage
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i'm planning on doing i i would like to do a podcast getting more in depth on the experience of
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being pregnant after miscarriage yeah with both of us because i think that your your take is also
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incredibly relevant um but we were so we were so excited and so happy this time around so turning
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it around to the positive we um you know the highest heights we had experienced in life was finding out
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we were pregnant the first time and by far the worst thing that has ever happened either one of us
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was the miscarriage uh the pain of that loss nothing has compared to and so rebounding around the
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highest highs we have ever experienced we're getting pregnant again after that miscarriage uh because
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seeing the ultrasounds and seeing the ultrasounds and seeing the baby move and be energetic and so i
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think abigail will be sharing uh in some manner uh image of the ultrasound of the video seeing the
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the 12-week five-day ultrasound of our child kicking legs oh my gosh it's the best i just watch it all
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the time standing legs back and forth and like bicycling them oh so cute seeing an active healthy
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child in the womb nothing nothing compares we're so excited to be parents and thank you know we we talk
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about how the experience that we had is has informed this pregnancy and has informed our life about
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what we want i know you always wanted a big big family jacob always wanted to have kids like
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immediately because i well not just because this but uh what feeds into it you know i said i was raised
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like an only child uh my sister's 14 years older than i am so it's just there are not a lot of kids
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running around in my childhood you know when i'm a teenager if the little nieces or nephews depending
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in the family you're in abigail had that i had no notion of it right i was already like 18 19 when
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my first niece was born and so to me it means nothing oh a baseball team's worth of children why
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not i have no practical idea of lifestyle requirements for that um at least historically i didn't now i have
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a better sense of it right still want a lot of children i know the only child reaction i want to have
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children with uh 15 siblings so you know i felt differently because i grew up with babies and so
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i knew how much work goes into having a child and so i kind of thought okay well maybe we'll have three
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and after the miscarriage now we're both very much on the same page and both very much want a big family
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minimum god willing god willing five yes with god's help we'll end up having a big family but we're just
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we're so excited for this child and for what's gonna come in the next year we can't wait pregnancy
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is so interesting and fun once you get out of that scary risky time so i'm excited to talk about that
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a lot here on my channel uh the reason you may have been wondering why did i start vlogs weekly vlogs
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on my channel the reason was because once this announcement came out i'm gonna actually be doing
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weekly vlogs following the pregnancy so that that's the idea is that every week you guys can kind
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of tune in see where i'm at see what it's like see what's changing how the symptoms change and i
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follow along with these apps i use the pregnancy plus app i also use the what to expect app but
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they're awesome i show jacob a lot of the time what the baby looks like um based on you know their
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scientific research this is what the baby looks like in utero and it is amazing and that's been a
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really cool thing to follow along with and i i think it's going to be fun for those of you who are
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pregnant for those of you who have had babies for those of you who aren't pregnant yet but would
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like to be in the future uh this kind of stuff is the content that i've watched even when i haven't
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been pregnant because i just think that it's really cool to see women go through this and have babies
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and then you have babies so we did a genetic test mostly just because if anything was wrong we wanted
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to know so we could be prepared yeah so we got the chromosomal reports everything came back fortunately
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health issues it also let us know what the sex of the child will be yeah so we actually know but
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we're not going to share it quite yet because we want to do a video where we do a sort of reveal but
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we plan and maybe we haven't really decided yet but we were thinking maybe of doing some old wives tales
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to see have you heard of this no i've not heard oh maybe i haven't run this value so there's a bunch
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of old wives tales about like oh if you carry high or you carry wide or you you the baby's heartbeat is
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above this rate or if you crave sugar or salty like those things determine the gender and they're
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they've been around for forever no that doesn't make any sense specifically an old wives tale about
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the baby's heart rate is above a certain amount their ear horn have you ever seen that i don't
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know how long that's been around but i think a very long time it's literally like a little horn you put
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up against the mom's belly and the midwife listens oh okay so there could be an old wives tale about
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listening to the child's heart rate i i would have figured that was so modern that the idea of folk work
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wisdom around it would be ridiculous yeah i know okay no actually it's like a very very old it looks
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like just a old-fashioned instrument i imagine it's been around for a long time because then
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women delivering babies can tell if the baby's in distress because the heartbeat will slow down
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wow okay i don't know how long it's been around but i you could imagine and midwife
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but in any case doing all those kinds of things seeing if we uh if we fall into the the correct
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category and then sharing the sex that's an option or we'll come up with something else to reveal the
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reveal the sex to you guys burning down an entire forest with fireworks oh that's not on the docket
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no so that'll that'll be a video that'll go up on my channel and then as well i guess even now we can
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start the guessing game for names uh jacob and i like a lot of different names for a lot of yeah we do
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um so the few places that we find inspiration for names are definitely the bible we love biblical names i in
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particular am drawn to the book of judges because the set of narratives in there i think are very
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potently relevant for today for very regrettable and sad reasons and so i would like a child who's
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a warrior for our values and for the values that matter so the book of judges who doesn't want a
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child named for yael or named for samson yeah exactly gideon or named for uh deborah yeah is that
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the pronunciation well in hebrew it's devora and then in english it's deborah yeah so i combine the two
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two into something that no one wants we like the character of the name meaning the person who had
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that name yes we like the meaning of names too but the historical person who had that name also
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matters to us i care much less about uh meaning to a name that you have to look up through an
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irritating web wiki the other places that we find inspiration for names is i think we like names that
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have like gaelic back oh yeah yeah we like irish and scottish names yeah even though i don't really
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have any irish heritage yeah that we know of it's all scots english yeah i mean we also like welsh names
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sometimes oh yeah because we want to throw everyone off they're interesting welsh names where your wise
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don't mean what wise mean the words uh pronunciation yeah exactly that's what we like put your guesses in
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the comments um and yeah i think that's it for today's video sounds good but thank you guys so
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much for watching if you aren't subscribed to my channel now is the time because there's going to
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be a ton of content about this which we're really excited about and if you're not already subscribed to
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my substack newsletter there's going to be content that is already there and already is existing and i
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continue to do that content over there as well as more pregnancy content so make sure to check that
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out but thank you guys so much for watching and i'll see you in my next video bye where's the opera bye