Classically Abby - Why I Love My CONSERVATIVE Life!! ｜｜ Why having a COMMUNITY is SO important...

00:00:00.000 Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be doing another 1.00

00:00:04.240 video in my series, Why I Love My Conservative Life. And today we're talking about community.

00:00:13.220 Since becoming more open about being conservative, I have found that I am so much more a part of a

00:00:20.120 community that I really didn't have when I was just kind of floating around and not being as

00:00:25.700 open about my views. And being part of a community is so important and it is so special. It makes you

00:00:34.180 feel like you're really a part of something more than anything I've ever experienced. And I just

00:00:40.160 love the idea that as a conservative woman, I have found that I am a part of a bigger community and

00:00:46.600 people who are conservative are more ready to be a part of a community and to welcome others into

00:00:51.280 their community. And I'm not saying that if you're not conservative, you don't have a community.

00:00:56.680 That is definitely not what I'm saying. All I'm saying is, is that as I've embraced being conservative

00:01:01.700 more, I have found that being part of a community is a really big part of that. And it's part of the

00:01:07.980 reason that I absolutely love being conservative, is that I do have this community and this support

00:01:13.060 system. And that's part of the reason why on my channel, I'm trying to create a community for

00:01:18.000 conservative women because naturally we're looking for one. And it's been really hard in today's day 1.00

00:01:25.260 and age to find other women who want to be part of a community because conservative women aren't 1.00

00:01:30.060 really allowed to speak out and say that that's what they believe. So it's been a really cool

00:01:33.900 experience to see how we have been creating a community here on my channel. And just that being

00:01:38.560 conservative generally has given me the chance and the opportunity to participate in community,

00:01:44.000 which is so important and makes life so much more special. So I'm really excited to share a few

00:01:49.580 of my reasons for why being conservative has made community something that's such an important part

00:01:54.640 of my life. So let's get into it. The first thing I want to talk about is the women in my life who

00:01:59.820 have made having a conservative community so special. So since quarantine has started, I have had a number

00:02:07.060 of Zoom calls with a big group of my friends. I've had the opportunity to get a group of women 1.00

00:02:12.620 together. We all happen to be conservative and we all just share what we've been up to. We're all

00:02:17.660 really invested in each other's lives. And I found that when I have been friends with conservative

00:02:23.200 women, we have made such a huge effort to stay in touch and to follow up and to see how people in

00:02:30.020 our lives are doing. And we can all share kind of what we're going through and where we're at. And

00:02:34.300 we're all at similar stages in life. So we're getting advice from people who are going through

00:02:39.180 something similar or who can offer a different perspective because they maybe already went

00:02:43.720 through it. And we're all able to openly share our viewpoints without being afraid that somebody's

00:02:48.780 going to cancel you in the friend group. And it is so beautiful, this friend group that I have

00:02:56.020 discovered. Because it's not to say that I don't have liberal friends. And it's not to say that when

00:03:00.100 I was in my master's program and in college, I didn't have friends. But I wouldn't call it a

00:03:05.460 community. We were friends. We all hung out. We enjoyed each other's company. But it was just a

00:03:11.820 different vibe because everyone was much more interested in individualism and interested in

00:03:18.540 career or interested in their own lives. They weren't looking at everyone around them as almost

00:03:23.420 a part of them. And when you're in a community, everyone is really watching out for each other

00:03:27.380 and thinks to reach out and thinks to say, oh, I haven't talked to this person in a while. I'd really

00:03:32.860 like to hear about their life. And it's just something that I've really, really valued since

00:03:38.700 I have made more friends who are conservative. And it's something that I really value here.

00:03:43.360 Even on my Facebook group, I have seen women become friends with each other like that. And

00:03:47.680 it's incredible. And people looking to see if there's a way that they can learn from other

00:03:52.000 people in the group and if they can make friends. P.S. If you want to join my Facebook group, please

00:03:56.060 feel free to join if you go to my Facebook page. It's just right there. It's at the top. But it is

00:04:00.640 something that I have loved. It's something that I am so glad that we're creating here. And having

00:04:05.640 that community of conservative women is something that I really, really value. Number two is something 0.93

00:04:11.460 that I have really noticed in conservative communities. So conservatism believes in families

00:04:18.400 and family structures and the nuclear family. And if you have a family structure, if that's something

00:04:23.680 that's a part of a life goal, then you are going to inevitably be part of a community because

00:04:29.080 you want your kids to have friends. You want to live across the street from your family friends.

00:04:34.080 You want to have people over for dinner so you can socialize. And there's a lot more of a feeling of

00:04:39.740 we're all living near each other. We're all watching out for each other. We all have similar goals.

00:04:46.240 And so we understand that it's not just about each person. It's about us as a group. And it's just a

00:04:52.320 wonderful feeling to know that there's somebody three blocks away from you who, if you called on them

00:04:57.080 to watch your dog while you go out of town, they'll say yes. They wouldn't even question it.

00:05:02.400 And it's something that we've really seen in our community in Omaha. It's of course our Jewish

00:05:06.820 community is that the people here are all friends with each other. They're all watching out for each

00:05:11.480 other. It's been really hard during quarantine because we all depended on each other. And then

00:05:15.980 we couldn't really see each other. We couldn't ask each other for help. And so because conservative

00:05:19.760 people really do look toward the family structure as a guide for life, you have communities that are

00:05:26.960 built on families and are built on people growing up together and are built on kids playing in the

00:05:33.400 street and their neighbor. If the parent needs to cook, then the neighbor is watching out for them

00:05:38.760 and making sure that if a car is coming, they can tell them to go back home or get off the street.

00:05:43.560 That's just an example of how special community is. And when you have millennials, they don't have a

00:05:49.920 natural community. They don't have a natural pull toward community for a lot of reasons. Like career is the

00:05:55.800 most important thing, not the people in your life. Or because everyone is transitory and people know

00:06:02.240 that they're going to be leaving and moving and traveling. And so it's more about, okay, my day-to-day

00:06:08.240 experiences than it is about my life as a whole. And so being part of a community is something that

00:06:16.240 really does give you meaning and value. Another really cool thing about being part of a community is that

00:06:22.640 there are so many generations that you're actually living with and around. You have the people who

00:06:28.620 are older. You have the people who are maybe one stage past you in life. You have children. You have

00:06:34.720 teenagers. You're surrounded by people who aren't just exactly who you are and exactly at your stage

00:06:41.360 of life. And when you're single and a millennial and you're living on your own, you're not going to be

00:06:46.440 around people who are in a different stage of life than you are because that's just not the people who 0.94

00:06:50.360 would be around you. And you're not going to see children every day. And you're not going to see,

00:06:54.740 you know, your elderly neighbor who wants to bring you cookies or you want to bring them cookies.

00:07:00.680 You're not going to have access to that same view of life and that same view of the stages of life.

00:07:07.640 And it's so important to be around people who are older than you are because they can offer you

00:07:11.680 inspiration. They can offer you guidance. They can offer you lessons that they've learned and that you

00:07:17.260 can pick up from them. And that's something you really miss out on when you're not part of a

00:07:20.580 community with all the different generations. And then you're not around kids who really just give

00:07:25.140 you hope for the future. They kind of give you this view of innocence and this hope that you care

00:07:31.380 about their future because you want them to succeed. They're a part of your extended family.

00:07:36.540 And it's just life affirming to see children running around and playing and knowing that they're

00:07:41.760 going to do something special, even if it's not, oh, everyone in the world knows who they are,

00:07:47.020 but they're going to have children of their own in the future. And it's just so important to have

00:07:52.600 those people around you as a community, as you get older. And I think that being a conservative

00:07:59.240 has offered me that opportunity because the people around me are having kids. The people who are my age,

00:08:05.820 who are not conservative, are not married, and are living on their own, and are pursuing their

00:08:11.760 careers. And not that that's a terrible thing. It's just that's generally where their lives are

00:08:16.740 headed. But the people who are conservative who I know are married, and are all having kids, and are

00:08:21.920 all building a community around that. And that is so exciting. First of all, I'm so excited because I

00:08:28.020 love seeing the people around me have joys. Getting married, having children, it's just so,

00:08:35.080 so exciting. I mean, those are huge life stages and steps. But it also is just a wonderful feeling

00:08:42.360 to know that we're all growing our community together, our families, and then, of course,

00:08:47.200 extended our communities. The next thing I want to talk about is that when you're part of a community,

00:08:51.600 you really do have a built-in support system. And I touched on this a little bit earlier, but being

00:08:57.180 part of a community means that you have people you can count on. And it's not just friends and family,

00:09:05.080 but it is just an extended group of people that you can reach out to. And I know that when I had

00:09:11.760 friends before I was conservative and had a lot of conservative friends, I'll be honest, I really

00:09:18.320 couldn't count on them a lot of the time. Just because when you're an individual, you are not

00:09:23.800 concerned as much about the people and the community and what it would do for the community if you weren't

00:09:30.400 helping. How if you're not going to help, then it's going to be hard for other people to help you

00:09:34.600 when you need them. And that's not to say that I didn't have friends who went out of their way.

00:09:38.200 I have friends who really, really did go out of their way. So I don't want to make it sound like

00:09:43.120 my friends who are not conservative were never there for me. That's not true. But it is a difference

00:09:48.820 when you as a community are working as a team to support everyone on the team. And everyone is looking

00:09:55.440 out for everyone. It's such a blessing when you know that everyone is trying to do the best they

00:10:00.780 can so that everyone succeeds. And I really enjoy that part of being in a community. And the last

00:10:08.100 thing I want to talk about is faith. Because faith is something that's much more accepted by

00:10:12.780 conservatives. It's something that's a big part of a lot of conservatives' lives. Not everybody who's

00:10:17.660 conservative is religious, but a lot of us are. And faith is something that builds communities.

00:10:23.160 When Jacob and I move, the first thing we check is, okay, where is the Jewish community here? Because 1.00

00:10:28.460 if there's a synagogue, that means there's going to be a community. And I think a lot of people of

00:10:33.240 different faiths feel the same way, that they can find a community based off of other people who

00:10:37.660 share their faith. And you really do see all of the things I'm talking about when you go to synagogue

00:10:43.500 or you go to church. Everything I'm talking about, about being conservative, is even more amplified

00:10:49.300 in faith-based communities, I think. I think that faith-based communities are even more of an example

00:10:55.460 of, okay, everyone's there to support each other. You're going to be watching out for my kids. I'm

00:10:59.160 going to be watching out for your kids. And I am so, so grateful for that part of my life. Because

00:11:05.960 being Jewish, knowing that wherever I move, I will find a community, that is so comforting. And it is so

00:11:14.220 warm. And it's something that I feel so, so lucky to have. Because without a community, when you move to

00:11:22.980 a new city, it's really scary. You have to depend, especially if you're working remotely. That's something

00:11:28.200 that I've learned, is that if I'm working remotely, if I move, how do you make friends? A lot of people make

00:11:33.160 friends through work. And all of a sudden, you're in a situation where you can't make friends through work

00:11:38.440 because you work from home. And finding a community when you are in a new place is really hard. And so

00:11:44.860 it's something that I'm really grateful for, that we have our faith, that we can find a community that

00:11:50.160 way. And then outside of my faith, I have all of these conservative friends who, no matter where we

00:11:55.040 are, we are our community. Because we can all reach out, and all of us can talk together, and we're all

00:12:00.300 sharing in each other's joys and helping each other through the hard times. So that's another reason why I

00:12:06.140 absolutely love being conservative is having community in my life. It enriches my life so

00:12:11.600 much. It gives me so much joy. And it makes me feel like I have a safety net that is huge. And I love

00:12:19.700 that. So let me know in the comments, do you have a community that you love? Are you enjoying being

00:12:24.440 part of our community here? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thank you guys so much for watching today's

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Classically Abby - August 18, 2020

Why I Love My CONSERVATIVE Life!! ｜｜ Why having a COMMUNITY is SO important...

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