Why I Love My CONSERVATIVE Life!! ｜｜ Why having a COMMUNITY is SO important...
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Since becoming more open about being conservative, I have found that I am so much more part of a community that I really didn t have when I was just kind of floating around and not being as open about my views. And I m so excited to share a few of my reasons why being conservative has made community something that's such an important part of my life.
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Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be doing another
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video in my series, Why I Love My Conservative Life. And today we're talking about community.
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Since becoming more open about being conservative, I have found that I am so much more a part of a
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community that I really didn't have when I was just kind of floating around and not being as
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open about my views. And being part of a community is so important and it is so special. It makes you
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feel like you're really a part of something more than anything I've ever experienced. And I just
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love the idea that as a conservative woman, I have found that I am a part of a bigger community and
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people who are conservative are more ready to be a part of a community and to welcome others into
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their community. And I'm not saying that if you're not conservative, you don't have a community.
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That is definitely not what I'm saying. All I'm saying is, is that as I've embraced being conservative
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more, I have found that being part of a community is a really big part of that. And it's part of the
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reason that I absolutely love being conservative, is that I do have this community and this support
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system. And that's part of the reason why on my channel, I'm trying to create a community for
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conservative women because naturally we're looking for one. And it's been really hard in today's day
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and age to find other women who want to be part of a community because conservative women aren't
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really allowed to speak out and say that that's what they believe. So it's been a really cool
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experience to see how we have been creating a community here on my channel. And just that being
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conservative generally has given me the chance and the opportunity to participate in community,
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which is so important and makes life so much more special. So I'm really excited to share a few
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of my reasons for why being conservative has made community something that's such an important part
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of my life. So let's get into it. The first thing I want to talk about is the women in my life who
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have made having a conservative community so special. So since quarantine has started, I have had a number
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of Zoom calls with a big group of my friends. I've had the opportunity to get a group of women
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together. We all happen to be conservative and we all just share what we've been up to. We're all
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really invested in each other's lives. And I found that when I have been friends with conservative
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women, we have made such a huge effort to stay in touch and to follow up and to see how people in
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our lives are doing. And we can all share kind of what we're going through and where we're at. And
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we're all at similar stages in life. So we're getting advice from people who are going through
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something similar or who can offer a different perspective because they maybe already went
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through it. And we're all able to openly share our viewpoints without being afraid that somebody's
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going to cancel you in the friend group. And it is so beautiful, this friend group that I have
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discovered. Because it's not to say that I don't have liberal friends. And it's not to say that when
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I was in my master's program and in college, I didn't have friends. But I wouldn't call it a
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community. We were friends. We all hung out. We enjoyed each other's company. But it was just a
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different vibe because everyone was much more interested in individualism and interested in
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career or interested in their own lives. They weren't looking at everyone around them as almost
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a part of them. And when you're in a community, everyone is really watching out for each other
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and thinks to reach out and thinks to say, oh, I haven't talked to this person in a while. I'd really
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like to hear about their life. And it's just something that I've really, really valued since
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I have made more friends who are conservative. And it's something that I really value here.
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Even on my Facebook group, I have seen women become friends with each other like that. And
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it's incredible. And people looking to see if there's a way that they can learn from other
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people in the group and if they can make friends. P.S. If you want to join my Facebook group, please
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feel free to join if you go to my Facebook page. It's just right there. It's at the top. But it is
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something that I have loved. It's something that I am so glad that we're creating here. And having
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that community of conservative women is something that I really, really value. Number two is something
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that I have really noticed in conservative communities. So conservatism believes in families
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and family structures and the nuclear family. And if you have a family structure, if that's something
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that's a part of a life goal, then you are going to inevitably be part of a community because
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you want your kids to have friends. You want to live across the street from your family friends.
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You want to have people over for dinner so you can socialize. And there's a lot more of a feeling of
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we're all living near each other. We're all watching out for each other. We all have similar goals.
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And so we understand that it's not just about each person. It's about us as a group. And it's just a
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wonderful feeling to know that there's somebody three blocks away from you who, if you called on them
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to watch your dog while you go out of town, they'll say yes. They wouldn't even question it.
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And it's something that we've really seen in our community in Omaha. It's of course our Jewish
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community is that the people here are all friends with each other. They're all watching out for each
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other. It's been really hard during quarantine because we all depended on each other. And then
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we couldn't really see each other. We couldn't ask each other for help. And so because conservative
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people really do look toward the family structure as a guide for life, you have communities that are
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built on families and are built on people growing up together and are built on kids playing in the
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street and their neighbor. If the parent needs to cook, then the neighbor is watching out for them
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and making sure that if a car is coming, they can tell them to go back home or get off the street.
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That's just an example of how special community is. And when you have millennials, they don't have a
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natural community. They don't have a natural pull toward community for a lot of reasons. Like career is the
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most important thing, not the people in your life. Or because everyone is transitory and people know
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that they're going to be leaving and moving and traveling. And so it's more about, okay, my day-to-day
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experiences than it is about my life as a whole. And so being part of a community is something that
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really does give you meaning and value. Another really cool thing about being part of a community is that
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there are so many generations that you're actually living with and around. You have the people who
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are older. You have the people who are maybe one stage past you in life. You have children. You have
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teenagers. You're surrounded by people who aren't just exactly who you are and exactly at your stage
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of life. And when you're single and a millennial and you're living on your own, you're not going to be
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around people who are in a different stage of life than you are because that's just not the people who
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would be around you. And you're not going to see children every day. And you're not going to see,
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you know, your elderly neighbor who wants to bring you cookies or you want to bring them cookies.
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You're not going to have access to that same view of life and that same view of the stages of life.
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And it's so important to be around people who are older than you are because they can offer you
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inspiration. They can offer you guidance. They can offer you lessons that they've learned and that you
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can pick up from them. And that's something you really miss out on when you're not part of a
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community with all the different generations. And then you're not around kids who really just give
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you hope for the future. They kind of give you this view of innocence and this hope that you care
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about their future because you want them to succeed. They're a part of your extended family.
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And it's just life affirming to see children running around and playing and knowing that they're
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going to do something special, even if it's not, oh, everyone in the world knows who they are,
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but they're going to have children of their own in the future. And it's just so important to have
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those people around you as a community, as you get older. And I think that being a conservative
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has offered me that opportunity because the people around me are having kids. The people who are my age,
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who are not conservative, are not married, and are living on their own, and are pursuing their
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careers. And not that that's a terrible thing. It's just that's generally where their lives are
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headed. But the people who are conservative who I know are married, and are all having kids, and are
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all building a community around that. And that is so exciting. First of all, I'm so excited because I
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love seeing the people around me have joys. Getting married, having children, it's just so,
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so exciting. I mean, those are huge life stages and steps. But it also is just a wonderful feeling
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to know that we're all growing our community together, our families, and then, of course,
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extended our communities. The next thing I want to talk about is that when you're part of a community,
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you really do have a built-in support system. And I touched on this a little bit earlier, but being
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part of a community means that you have people you can count on. And it's not just friends and family,
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but it is just an extended group of people that you can reach out to. And I know that when I had
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friends before I was conservative and had a lot of conservative friends, I'll be honest, I really
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couldn't count on them a lot of the time. Just because when you're an individual, you are not
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concerned as much about the people and the community and what it would do for the community if you weren't
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helping. How if you're not going to help, then it's going to be hard for other people to help you
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when you need them. And that's not to say that I didn't have friends who went out of their way.
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I have friends who really, really did go out of their way. So I don't want to make it sound like
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my friends who are not conservative were never there for me. That's not true. But it is a difference
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when you as a community are working as a team to support everyone on the team. And everyone is looking
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out for everyone. It's such a blessing when you know that everyone is trying to do the best they
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can so that everyone succeeds. And I really enjoy that part of being in a community. And the last
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thing I want to talk about is faith. Because faith is something that's much more accepted by
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conservatives. It's something that's a big part of a lot of conservatives' lives. Not everybody who's
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conservative is religious, but a lot of us are. And faith is something that builds communities.
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When Jacob and I move, the first thing we check is, okay, where is the Jewish community here? Because
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if there's a synagogue, that means there's going to be a community. And I think a lot of people of
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different faiths feel the same way, that they can find a community based off of other people who
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share their faith. And you really do see all of the things I'm talking about when you go to synagogue
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or you go to church. Everything I'm talking about, about being conservative, is even more amplified
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in faith-based communities, I think. I think that faith-based communities are even more of an example
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of, okay, everyone's there to support each other. You're going to be watching out for my kids. I'm
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going to be watching out for your kids. And I am so, so grateful for that part of my life. Because
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being Jewish, knowing that wherever I move, I will find a community, that is so comforting. And it is so
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warm. And it's something that I feel so, so lucky to have. Because without a community, when you move to
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a new city, it's really scary. You have to depend, especially if you're working remotely. That's something
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that I've learned, is that if I'm working remotely, if I move, how do you make friends? A lot of people make
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friends through work. And all of a sudden, you're in a situation where you can't make friends through work
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because you work from home. And finding a community when you are in a new place is really hard. And so
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it's something that I'm really grateful for, that we have our faith, that we can find a community that
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way. And then outside of my faith, I have all of these conservative friends who, no matter where we
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are, we are our community. Because we can all reach out, and all of us can talk together, and we're all
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sharing in each other's joys and helping each other through the hard times. So that's another reason why I
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absolutely love being conservative is having community in my life. It enriches my life so
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much. It gives me so much joy. And it makes me feel like I have a safety net that is huge. And I love
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that. So let me know in the comments, do you have a community that you love? Are you enjoying being
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part of our community here? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thank you guys so much for watching today's
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