Classically Abby - why I've REALLY been gone...and what I haven't told you 😊

00:00:00.000 yep you guessed right we are expecting baby number two and we are so excited it is a dream

00:00:15.880 come true we always wanted to have our babies close together we actually were kind of like

00:00:22.680 flexible on how close we were like however close God allows it to be it can be and it

00:00:29.460 was just a crazy situation and I have to share the whole story kind of of how this baby came

00:00:36.780 to be just because it happened a little bit a little bit in a funny way but we just are so

00:00:43.020 grateful for this little baby but yeah that's why I was off of the internet for about three months

00:00:49.260 not surprising anyone I'm sure I'm sure many of you figured it out but I just didn't have the

00:00:55.380 energy I didn't feel well the first trimester is not fun for most women and that includes me so I 0.98

00:01:02.400 just really didn't have the time or the energy to do that of course that also meant that I got to

00:01:07.020 spend a lot of time with mr. baby and focus on him so that wasn't a lie I got to spend really focused

00:01:11.520 attention on him and that's what I wanted I didn't want to have to be dividing my limited energy between

00:01:17.280 taking care of mr. baby and creating content now that I'm in the second trimester I'm starting to

00:01:23.160 feel really good so I am back and I'm excited about it I am officially 14 weeks pregnant I need to show

00:01:31.560 you on my pregnancy plus app what this little guy looks like because it is amazing according to my

00:01:38.400 app babies the size of a navel orange they grow so quickly it's a it's incredible like you you can't

00:01:44.460 imagine that they go from teeny tiny microscopic to like the size of your hand your fist that fast

00:01:52.020 and the first trimester I mean it makes sense that you're feeling terrible because you're doing

00:01:55.840 the biggest head like the heaviest lifting as far as creating a human but I really want to share kind

00:02:01.060 of my first trimester symptoms and how I'm feeling emotionally and just that that we're expecting

00:02:07.620 again so let's just like break it down let's get into it and maybe I'll do a video answering any

00:02:13.660 questions you guys have soon enough and maybe I'll do a vlog doing like a day in my life as a pregnant

00:02:20.380 mom of a toddler of a 15 month old so yes the babies will be 21 months apart so actually let me tell the

00:02:27.700 story of how this baby came to be so like I said we were open to having our babies really close together

00:02:33.820 but I was breastfeeding for the whole first year of mr. baby's life and I personally didn't ovulate or

00:02:40.680 even get a period that entire time now it's normal to not get a period or ovulate for a while when

00:02:47.400 you're breastfeeding but after like eight months I was just getting a little bit nervous especially

00:02:53.100 because we did want to have our kids close together I didn't know how long it would take for my cycles

00:02:57.660 to get back to normal and that we would be able to conceive thank God with mr. baby we conceived really

00:03:03.160 easily but I didn't know if that would be the case with number two so I made the decision that we were

00:03:07.640 going to nurse him for the full year because it's good for babies to nurse for a full year if you can

00:03:12.760 and then I weaned him really slowly over the course of a month so we were down to four nursing sessions

00:03:18.040 a day anyway and then I just literally every week I was like okay I will cut out one feeding we'll cut

00:03:22.680 out another feeding we'll cut out another feeding and on his birthday on the very last day that I was

00:03:29.480 nursing him because we did exactly a year I ovulated and I have to say looking back I'm actually really

00:03:37.640 grateful that I didn't get pregnant until then because it meant that I could just take in and

00:03:43.960 enjoy that whole first year of mr. baby's life of motherhood and then when I started feeling sick

00:03:51.080 it wasn't taking away from that and I started feeling sick around five weeks of pregnancy so I really

00:03:57.160 did get like a full year of just adjusting to motherhood being mr. baby's mom enjoying mr. baby

00:04:03.640 and that was perfect and I was mentioning to a few of my friends sorry I'm out of breath that doctors

00:04:13.000 cannot handle when you don't have a last date of your period for them to date your pregnancy off of

00:04:19.560 they just can't handle it I remember this with a different doctor they do not trust you when you say

00:04:24.280 I ovulated this day so I know the day that I conceived they just don't believe you and it is

00:04:29.560 so frustrating I literally every time I go into the doctor they're like so when was the date of

00:04:34.440 your last period and I'm like do we really have to go over this again I did not have a period I never

00:04:39.400 had a period before this baby I know what day I conceived though I know what day I ovulated it all

00:04:44.280 worked out but it ended up meaning that we had to have an early ultrasound just to confirm 0.54

00:04:49.320 the how far along I was with the baby so we had one at six weeks the baby looked great they also

00:04:56.200 took a blood sample just to make sure all my levels were normal it was very funny because my doctor

00:05:01.480 actually said my progesterone was so high that he initially wasn't sure if I was having twins but I'm

00:05:07.720 not I just had very high progesterone which for me was really really comforting if you don't know if

00:05:14.440 you're new to my channel my first pregnancy I actually had a miscarriage I have a video that I shared at

00:05:19.960 the time and one of the things that happened during that pregnancy was I had low progesterone not

00:05:27.480 incredibly low but very like the lowest possible within the range of normal so when the doctor told me

00:05:33.800 that I had very good progesterone I was like that's incredible that is really exciting then

00:05:38.840 we had a another ultrasound at 10 weeks just to do like the standard ultrasound baby looked great

00:05:45.640 and then we did another ultrasound at 12 weeks to do the nuchal translucency test which is a down

00:05:51.160 syndrome test baby looked great so we have had a bunch of ultrasounds already everything looks

00:05:57.240 fantastic baby is growing really really well and obviously ultrasounds are always really fun because

00:06:03.000 you get to hear the baby's heartbeat and you get to see that little that little person wiggling

00:06:08.200 around and we actually already know the gender because we did a genetic test we wanted to do a

00:06:14.600 genetic test just so that we could be prepared if anything god forbid was wrong and we also wanted to

00:06:19.880 do it to find out the gender so we actually know already and at some point I'm going to share it

00:06:25.560 I haven't decided how yet you guys can leave a comment down below what do you think this baby is

00:06:30.840 and also when I do a gender reveal video how do you want me to share it do you have any good

00:06:36.280 suggestions last time I did like old wives tales and that was really fun but I'd love to hear what

00:06:42.520 you guys think your suggestions let's talk symptoms let's talk how I've been feeling so crazy story

00:06:49.960 first five weeks absolutely fine I was really not doing terribly but the fifth week

00:06:56.120 I actually got really bad food poisoning like the worst food poisoning I've ever had in my life

00:07:03.080 and it was to the point where I couldn't keep ice chips down I couldn't keep anything down and I

00:07:08.040 didn't know that I had food poisoning so I was really scared that I had HG hyperemesis gravidarum which

00:07:14.600 is like the most extreme version of morning sickness where you really can't eat anything you're losing weight

00:07:18.920 it's actually pretty dangerous and so I was so sick that night and then it ended up petering off and

00:07:27.320 it was just it was just food poisoning but of course I don't know if it was caused by it or it just was

00:07:34.040 coincidence but like three days later the morning sickness just set in now my morning sickness isn't

00:07:42.840 terrible uh in the sense that I don't vomit every day I vomited once this pregnancy uh which is more

00:07:49.240 than with Mr. Baby but not a lot but I just feel sick a lot so this is something I noticed the difference

00:07:56.520 between my last pregnancy and this one is that my last pregnancy I felt sick all day but my other

00:08:03.880 symptoms weren't so strong like I had cravings and aversions but they weren't terrible I had a

00:08:09.720 metallic taste in my mouth but it only lasted a couple weeks I was tired but not terribly um I

00:08:16.600 had like trouble sleeping but not not terribly this time it was like the morning sickness was there

00:08:23.880 and it was not great but the other symptoms were incredibly potent and really really powerful

00:08:31.560 so I was sick but not all day it would come in waves and those waves were really not comfortable

00:08:36.600 like I would be on the floor just sitting there while Mr. Baby played uh so that I could in some

00:08:42.440 sense function but I was really just sitting there kind of suffering I didn't throw up um and it was

00:08:48.040 just I mean I don't like being nauseous nausea is my least favorite sickness symptom so it's not good

00:08:55.960 it's not fun and what's more interesting is actually my morning sickness for the most part happens at night

00:09:01.320 so I get really sick around 8 30 and so I just go to sleep I'm like I'm not I'm not doing this I don't

00:09:06.440 have to live through this I'm going to bed right now and I found that clementines were very helpful

00:09:10.760 to me I know that citrus generally is very helpful for morning sickness so I ate a lot of a lot of

00:09:15.800 citrus I needed to have like lemons I needed to have clementines um lots of sour things helped cravings

00:09:22.600 and aversions were super powerful this time around there were things that I just was like I cannot

00:09:28.120 stomach it I cannot do it meat was off the table like I just could not do it and then there were things

00:09:33.880 that I really wanted like I would have pickles and ice cream back to back I actually did that

00:09:38.760 that you know old joke about pregnant women I was living it pretzels were a big one I really loved 1.00

00:09:45.480 pretzels that helped just for some reason that really helped me at night I would have pretzels next

00:09:50.680 to the bed and it was something that I could stomach like saltines didn't work for me but

00:09:54.200 pretzels were good I'm looking at my notes here because I have some notes cheddar cheese

00:09:58.200 was a really good one I ate a lot of cheddar cheese and that at least made me feel better

00:10:01.560 because at least I was getting some level of protein fresh fruits and vegetables I had apples

00:10:05.960 and clementines like I mentioned cereal like I really wanted cereal that was a big one for me

00:10:11.640 so it was it was just interesting like I really wanted some things that I really didn't want others

00:10:15.720 and I didn't have that so much the first time I had it a little bit but not that intense of like

00:10:20.920 this is what I must have today I also had dysguja this pregnancy now dysguja is a sour bad taste in

00:10:28.760 your mouth guys it's really gross I don't love it I still have it sometimes it it's not something

00:10:35.160 that lasts all day although earlier in the pregnancy it did um now it's like if I eat certain things

00:10:40.840 that flavor is stuck in my mouth for an hour or two so coffee with creamer cannot do it that something

00:10:48.920 about that stays in my mouth and creates a sour taste that is unpalatable I've noticed more lately

00:10:55.880 like cream cheese and yogurt does that which kind of makes sense because those have sour

00:10:59.800 tastes to them maybe those just stick in my mouth more it's not fun and then the biggest thing that

00:11:05.640 I noticed this pregnancy is fatigue oh my gosh the fatigue this time around is crazy like crazy

00:11:14.040 now I'm starting to feel better but there were days I mean for the weeks that mr. baby would take a

00:11:19.400 two-hour nap I would take a two-hour nap and then I would go to sleep at 8 30 like I was exhausted and

00:11:25.080 functioning you you can't function you think that being tired is just something you I mean a normal

00:11:31.560 level of tired is something you just push through pregnancy fatigue is like I do not know how I am going

00:11:36.760 to stay awake like I just don't know so those were like the biggest symptoms I had during the first

00:11:44.120 trimester I would say and if I remember anything else oh weird dreams I definitely had weird dreams

00:11:48.920 restless legs when I was sleeping that's not fun but it's like at the same time all of those symptoms

00:11:55.240 were really comforting to me because I knew that the baby was growing healthy and it's this weird catch

00:12:00.680 22 where it's like oh god I want to feel better I hate feeling sick I want to feel better and the day

00:12:07.640 that I felt better like there were two or three days in in week 10 that I felt better I was so worried I

00:12:13.400 was so anxious I was like something is wrong something is wrong it's this crazy thing because

00:12:17.400 you want to feel better but you also know that feeling sick is a good sign so you at least for

00:12:21.720 me I was afraid to ever feel completely better too early it's an interesting thing when you've had a

00:12:27.640 miscarriage I think that that runs through your head more if you haven't had a miscarriage maybe you

00:12:32.040 don't think that way the morning sickness lasted about eight weeks so it started at week five and it

00:12:36.680 ended at around week 13 so that's something I need to remember for the future because this pregnancy

00:12:41.720 I couldn't remember how long it had lasted last pregnancy and I was like what is the end goal

00:12:45.720 here how long is this gonna last so what have been my emotions during this pregnancy um you know

00:12:53.320 it's a very different thing going through pregnancy once you've already had a child number one is that

00:12:59.320 you are not as in it every single day like I am five weeks and three days along because you have

00:13:06.440 another person to take care of so I was like oh okay I'm week 13 or oh I'm week 14 I couldn't tell you what

00:13:11.560 day and week I was but I could tell you what week I was a lot more focus is being expended on another

00:13:17.400 human and less is on okay I'm literally doing a countdown and so that's that's a nice thing in

00:13:24.120 a sense chasing around a toddler when you're not feeling great and you can't just like relax all day

00:13:29.400 that's not as easy but it can be done and I did it but there was and this is something you know

00:13:35.480 vulnerable that I'm sharing with you initially when I was feeling sick I remember feeling guilty

00:13:42.040 that I was taking away something from Mr. Baby I was not being able to give him my full attention

00:13:49.000 just my the full mom experience because I felt bad and I kind of felt upset about that like I had

00:13:58.280 I had done something that was harming him and then a few weeks ago we had friends over and they have a

00:14:04.040 baby that's exactly the same age as Mr. Baby and he is so extroverted Mr. Baby just loves other people

00:14:11.080 and it reminded me like you know what we're doing something he has eight weeks where I'm not going to

00:14:16.600 be able to give him my full attention and after that he's going to have a sibling for life a friend to play

00:14:22.520 with all the time and someone to call as he gets older and that is so much more important than an eight

00:14:29.400 week period where I don't feel good and something he's literally never going to remember because he's

00:14:34.920 15 months that made me feel better when I was feeling kind of bad about not being able to be the

00:14:41.640 best mom I could be in those moments giving your child a sibling was it was the thing that got me

00:14:47.320 through but I mean I wasn't as positive this pregnancy as I was the first time around because I wanted to be

00:14:53.320 more present and I wanted to be the best mom I could be so I wasn't like oh like this is all

00:14:58.280 great even though I feel sick I know it's for a good reason I obviously that's like the underlying

00:15:03.560 thing but there's still this feeling of like I want to be able to function I want to be able to do

00:15:08.440 things and I couldn't stay as positive now that I'm through it I can look back and be like yeah that

00:15:14.200 was all worth it that was not that bad in the scheme of things I'm also somebody who's very bad about

00:15:19.960 that once I'm out of the woods with something my husband always says it's like wherever I am I

00:15:25.400 think I'm gonna be there forever if I'm feeling bad I think I'm gonna be feeling bad forever if

00:15:29.400 I'm feeling good I don't even remember that I felt bad it's good during the good times not so good

00:15:33.960 during the bad times but when I came through the other side of the morning sickness I was like oh

00:15:39.160 like that wasn't so hard I can handle it when I was in it I was like I'm never doing this again

00:15:42.840 as far as just having another baby it's a little overwhelming definitely initially I was scared

00:15:51.160 it was like I wanted the baby and I was excited to be pregnant but I was also like how am I gonna

00:15:56.040 do this how do people do the transition from one to two and I've heard from many of my friends that

00:16:01.400 that doesn't change with the number of children you have it's like you always feel like that how is

00:16:05.240 it going to change how am I going to do this how is it going to look but as I've started feeling

00:16:10.360 better and as I've seen Mr. Baby just really blossoming around other people it's making it

00:16:16.920 clear to me just how important it is for me to to create a big family so that my kids have other 0.66

00:16:22.440 kids to play with it's just something I'm really looking forward to but yeah that's kind of like

00:16:28.040 the first trimester update the announcement that we're having another booba another baby and I'd love

00:16:34.440 to hear from you guys who have two under two what it's like do you love it tell me everything down

00:16:41.960 below all your tips all your tricks drop them down below I don't really know how to convey to Mr. Baby

00:16:48.280 that there's going to be another baby um I don't know how to explain that to him because I keep trying

00:16:53.400 to be like I bought him a baby doll he's like I don't care about this I'm like there's a baby in there

00:16:58.840 and he's just like I don't I see a belly button I don't know what else you're talking about so I would

00:17:04.360 love to know if you guys have any tips and tricks for introducing the concept of another baby in the

00:17:09.720 house and yeah I think that's where I'm going to stop for today I'm looking forward to sharing this

00:17:16.600 journey with you guys please let me know what you'd like to hear more of I love talking about baby

00:17:21.320 registry stuff I love talking about baby products I love talking about maternity fashion oh it's a good

00:17:26.600 one I have a lot to share so let me know your thoughts in the comments below and I'll see you guys

00:17:31.320 in my next video bye

Classically Abby - June 15, 2023

why I've REALLY been gone...and what I haven't told you 😊

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