Why We Want To HOMESCHOOL Our Kids
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In this episode, Abby shares why she and her husband are leaning towards homeschooling, why it's something they would like to try, and why we're interested in it. There are so many reasons to homeschool, and so many negative reasons not so many good ones, that we discuss in this episode.
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today i want to share why we would like to homeschool
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hello if you are new here my name is abby and i would love if you would consider subscribing
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and hitting that notification bell in today's video i'm going to be sharing why my husband and
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i are leaning towards homeschooling why it's something we would really like to try and why
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we're interested in it kind of from the positive and the negative viewpoint meaning what we don't
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like about typical schooling and what we do like about homeschooling i am really excited to share
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my thoughts on this because i wasn't really homeschooled i had one year of homeschooling
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which honestly was not a very positive experience but after learning more about homeschooling and
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other people's homeschooling experiences i just think it's a great option for our family maybe
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for other families i'm just excited to talk about it so let's just dive right in so first of all i'm
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a stay-at-home mom so i'm home with my kids all day i love being home with my kids there are days
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that it's hard there are periods that are hard but as a general rule i just really love being home with
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my kids i also think it's super important to be home with your kids after reading erica commissar's
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being there that book really changed my perspective on how important it is to be present for the first
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three years of your child's life then i read and i'm currently reading hold on to your kids
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which is a great book all about why kids are peer oriented these days as opposed to like parent
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oriented and how they cling on to peers and try to learn from them which is a really dangerous cycle
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as opposed to going to adults for guidance on things i'm kind of getting off on a tangent here but
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essentially i started to realize that i really wanted to have my kids home with me for the long
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haul and i have a good number of reasons for why and i think that there really can be broken into
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positive and negative things i'm kind of repeating myself here but i feel like i kind of want to keep
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this video chatty because the fact of the matter is this is a really interesting almost hot topic these
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days people are always throwing around words like oh your kids aren't going to be socialized
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what does socialized even mean today does it mean that your kids are going to be the kind that are
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always on their ipads or have a phone at seven years old or are rude to adults like what does
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socialized mean yes i want my kids to be good at interacting with other kids but my kids are with
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other kids so much of the day like we go out every single morning so again this is going to be more
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chatty because i think this is just an interesting conversation so let's get a little more specific here
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so when i say positive and negative things what i mean is there are positive reasons to homeschool
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there are reasons we want to homeschool and then there are negative reasons for regular schooling
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that we would like to avoid so let's start with the reasons we would like to homeschool so let's start
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off with siblings one of the coolest things about homeschooling is that your kids actually get to
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spend time together my husband and i were just recently chatting about how once you have your kids in
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school they are separated from each other for the majority of their childhood because they are
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spending most of their time in separated grades where they don't see each other a lot and the times
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they do see each other it's like they are it's stressful because you're trying to get out or it's dinner
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time or it's the morning where you're trying to go to school or it's on weekends where their friends
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are already the friends that they've made in school so they don't really want to spend time with their siblings
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so this is in my mind part of the issue with the peer orientation thing is if your kids are spending
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all of their time with kids who are exactly their age those are going to become their friends and then
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their siblings become an annoyance i would love for our kids to spend the majority of their time with
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each other and really view one another not just as annoying siblings but as friends and yes they will
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have friends additionally they probably won't view age as strictly like oh you're in my grade so we
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can be friends and you're one grade below me so we can't but they'll definitely still have friends
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their age because co-ops exist there are so many social opportunities sports there are so many ways to
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have your kids spend time with kids that aren't their siblings so why not make the majority of their
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schooling and their day-to-day with one another so you don't have to deal with that constant stress
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of your kids not really liking to spend time with each other because if they do it all the time
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that's what they know like that's that's good to them and so i'm i'm really excited at that prospect
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now again i don't know that this is all going to work out right these are all hypotheticals because i
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haven't started but these are things that make me feel encouraged the next thing is we get to learn
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and share a lot of different perspectives on on the subjects they're learning as opposed to normal
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school where you get your history book and there's one way to view history and it's what your history
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book says and a lot of the time that stuff is is a terrible viewpoint it leaves things out it includes
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more of one thing or another it's got a leftist lean like there's a lot of dangers to being taught
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history in one specific way with homeschooling you can present a lot of different perspectives we can
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present so many different alternatives to just the one narrative that people are taught in normal school
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and i think that's such a cool opportunity is that our kids are going to have so much more time to do
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that too homeschooling only takes a couple of hours a day because it's not a daycare whereas normal
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school is a daycare so that's why school takes so long it also has to follow the the slowest student
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as opposed to the fastest student and so if the slowest student is taking a while the fastest student
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kind of just has to find something to do yes that's a little bit true in homeschooling because you're
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doing it with your own family but it's it's definitely different right because you've got less people
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you're trying to maintain a pace with and one of the things i love about kind of homeschooling too is
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you get to use your own method of school so we love a lot of different kinds we want to incorporate
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a lot of different kinds we're not like this is it we're not just doing charlotte mason or just
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doing montessori we're doing like a mixture of things but one of the things i really like from
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montessori is the idea that your child is going to take an interest in different things at different
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times and so making it so that they have to learn this thing right now because that's the curriculum
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as opposed to oh they're taking an interest in this so let's focus on the thing they're interested
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in and then we can move on to something different when they're interested in that i love that because
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saying that everyone needs to be on the same track for learning is like saying that every two-year-old
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fits into the same size clothes like it's just not an accurate understanding of how the human mind works
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the next positive amazing thing about doing homeschooling is inculcating a love of learning i think
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that's for so many kids learning becomes a burden for so many reasons right like maybe like what we
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were just talking about maybe your kid doesn't like what you're learning right now and they're being
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forced to to focus on a subject that this just doesn't click for them in this moment or maybe
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they have a bad teacher which happens all the time and i hear this and it drives me crazy is where
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someone's like yeah my kid hates their teacher i guess this is just going to be a bad year
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a bad year of learning are you crazy like that's so crazy to me or there's a ton of homework and
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they hate the homework or maybe they're just not liking school like there are a lot of reasons right
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i'm also in the middle of a book called weapons of mass instruction which talks about how schooling
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as we know it came to be and like why it is this way and first of all fascinating book i need to
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continue with it because i'm i've currently got about 10 books on my on my to-do list but it's the
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concept of learning as a way to make people um submissive in a way as opposed to encouraging like
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an entrepreneurial spirit or encouraging people to be creative just saying like there's a right answer
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and a wrong answer and questions really aren't what we want we want people to understand it as we
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as we present it and that's it i can understand why you would lose a love of learning so it's
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interesting i was actually talking to my friend nikki philippi and a huge reason that i'm interested
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in homeschooling is because of her because she was homeschooled and she had such an amazing experience
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with it and she told me how she was at a point before she started homeschooling where she hated
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learning and that homeschooling then made her a lifelong learner like she loved to learn and it
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makes me so nervous the idea of just driving the love of learning out of my children i am so excited at
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the idea of having them love to learn and so i really think that homeschooling is the best way
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to do that is a really amazing way to do that another great thing about homeschooling is you get
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to save money now if you're public schooling that's a different matter but public school is to me
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completely off the table because what they're learning in public schools is so far in the wrong
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direction just so dangerous but outside of that if you're sending your kids to private to private
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schools i mean homeschooling will save you a ton of money and that sounds great like i would love
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to not to not spend so much on my children's education when i am perfectly willing and capable
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to to teach them myself you know i think there are some people who are reticent to have bigger
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families especially in religious communities where having a big family is like part and parcel of
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this of the lifestyle they're a little more reticent to have more children because of the cost of
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schooling and if i can take that worry off the table by saying i'll i'll do the homeschooling
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then we can have as big of a family as we want i also love the idea of extracurriculars like i said
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homeschooling takes up so much less of the day than typical schooling so we can do so many different
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things we can explore so many different interests i there's it's literally endless when you think about
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all of the different things we can do we can teach them how to fish we can teach our kids how to cook
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or bake we can teach our kids how to sew or to learn an instrument like there's just going to be so
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many more hours for them to explore their interests and that is such a cool thing to me so i'm super
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excited about that too okay so that's my list of like positives for why we would like to homeschool so
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why don't we want to do typical schooling the first thing i want to talk about which i kind of
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touched on earlier is is behavior people are always talking about socialization and i don't see
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children who go to typical school having good behavior or having good manners because they're
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learning from their peers and they're not with their parents the majority of their time i think
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we see kids acting really poorly and not just acting you know having bad manners and acting poorly but
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also having bad habits like you get kids who think it's normal to act rude or to be on their ipads or
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whatever else it is i think that there's just a lot of negatives to the the model that we have now
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where kids are just not spending a ton of time with their parents where their parents can influence
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their behavior more when your kids are in school as parents you have such a limited time
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to inculcate good behavior in your children and those that do it it's amazing but i think it's so
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much easier to inculcate good behavior in your kids when they're home with you so that's another element
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that i think is really important hand in hand with that is the concept of being peer oriented so like i
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said i mentioned the book hold on to your kids and that book also really influenced me now i actually
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haven't finished the book so i don't know whether or not he recommends homeschooling as the solution
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but he talks a lot about peer attachment versus parent attachment and how important it is for
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parents to be the primary attachment for kids because parents are the ones who actually have
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life experience when we're teaching our children lessons and when our children are attached to their
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peers there's a whole host of problems that come with that but it also includes that their peers have
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no life experience and they're the ones teaching each other lessons so when your kids are learning lessons
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from someone who doesn't know anything they're going to be learning bad lessons and i don't see
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that turning out well i only have such a short amount of time to influence how my kids turn out
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and make them good upstanding members of society and help them in their pursuit of good and happiness
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and i would really like to be involved in that and i think that obviously every parent is but giving
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myself the best possible chance by being more available is such a great opportunity that i
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am not willing to turn down now this one who knows but i'm gonna mention it anyway i have two sons and
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boys get diagnosed with adhd at the drop of a hat these days and in my opinion i would much rather have
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my children at home where they can work for two hours on schoolwork and then get all their energy out for
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the rest of the day than have my kids being forced to sit in a classroom and then being told that they
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can't focus because they're boys and they're children and they need to move like even with my older son now
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if he doesn't take a nap in the middle of the day he gets incredibly touchy like he wants to touch everything
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open everything explore everything if he gets a nap he has a little more self-control but if he doesn't get a nap
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that is his go-to if he was in school it's possible they would diagnose him with adhd i as his mom can
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say he needs a nap or i can say oh he needs to run around in circles for like two minutes and then he's
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good like i can see what he really is doing because i spend all day with him as opposed to someone telling
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me your kid doesn't sit in class i think he's adhd i want my sons to have the best opportunity to learn
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in an environment that's actually conducive to boys learning now another thing that people talk about
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as far as homeschooling is like oh you want to keep your kids in a bubble you don't want them to be
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exposed to the outside world's ideas i read something somewhere that it's like a greenhouse you want to
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give them everything that you can and let them grow and flourish in an environment that is a little
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more safe before you transfer them out into the real world why do we have to expose our children to
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the worst possible things the lowest of the low right away when they're totally they're just seedlings
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and then expect them to thrive out in out in the world like i'm sorry i think that children's minds
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need a little support first before they can kind of go out there and figure it all out so if you
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want to call it a bubble okay but i think that what it really is is that we're giving our children
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the best possible tools to to thrive in the in the world as opposed to oh get out get out of the nest
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be independent you don't need me from the age of like two like i'm sorry no thank you i think that we
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have so much more that we can offer as parents i think my role as parent matters is what it comes
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down to i think that it's not oh i have my baby and now i'm not gonna like i don't want to impress
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my view of the world on my children absolutely not you have a a really important role to play in
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your children's lives and for me that looks right now like homeschooling so i'd love to hear your
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thoughts in the comments below if you were homeschooled i would love to hear your thoughts and how
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you liked it and i would love to hear if you have any tips if you are a homeschooling mom
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if you watched all the way till the end of today's video leave a dog emoji
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for no reason just because it's fun thank you guys so much for watching and i'll see you guys in my