Why You SHOULD Marry Within Your Faith ｜｜ You'll end up more fulfilled in the long run!
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Why it's so important to marry someone who shares your faith and how that can affect your entire life. I am so excited to announce the winner of my giveaway! Please wait till the end of the video to find out who it is!
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Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be
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talking about why it's so important to marry within your faith.
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So I'm really excited to share a new giveaway with you guys. Please wait till
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the end of the video and I will mention it at the end. As you guys may have seen
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on my channel, I am a religious Jew. I was raised Orthodox, my husband was raised
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Reform, and together the two of us are hoping to become more observant over
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time. But for me, one of the things that was so important to me throughout the
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time that I was dating was that whoever I ended up with had to be Jewish. I knew
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that I wanted them to share my faith and I knew that was incredibly important to
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me. So I really wanted to talk about today why it is so important to marry
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someone who shares your faith and how that can affect your entire life. So
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let's get started. The first reason that it matters why you should marry someone in
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your faith is when you raise your children. Now I know this is the most
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obvious one. This is the one that all of your parents are probably telling you, but
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it is really important. So for me, my Judaism is so much to me. It's so much a
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part of who I am. It's part of my cultural heritage but it's also a part of my
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belief system. I turn to God when I'm upset or when I'm happy and my faith has
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gotten me through so much. Now the idea of not celebrating Passover or lighting the
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Shabbos candles with my children is kind of unthinkable to me. I cannot wait to
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hear them pray to God when they're having trouble or to celebrate Passover
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and Sukkot and all of the Jewish holidays with them. That's just so exciting to me.
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And of course that doesn't even mention the importance of the value system that I
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believe Judaism will give my children. If I were to marry somebody who didn't
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believe the same things that I did, there would be this constant friction
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between me and my husband about how we wanted to raise our children and what
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kind of faith base we wanted to give them. As well, I don't want my children to
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ever fear that they're not really a part of any culture. I want them to feel so
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enveloped in their culture in a nice warm family-like way that they don't ever
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even doubt it. My husband and I can't wait to start a family because we want to
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have children and raise them in this way, which we believe is part of their
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culture and also will impart beautiful values. When you get married, one of the
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most important things that you're doing is not only choosing a partner but
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choosing a father for your children. And the father of your children should share
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in the belief system and values that you have so that the two of you can impart
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that to your children. If you are a Christian and Christmas means a lot to you,
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imagine being married to someone who doesn't care about that. That would be
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really hard on you and it will be confusing for your children because the
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two of you are not celebrating as a true family unit. Imparting values,
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imparting beliefs, imparting a relationship with God, and giving your
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children a chance to be part of a beautiful community, that is so important
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in a marriage. And religion and sharing a religion is so much a part of that.
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Religion is based in values, it's based in beliefs, and it's based in your community.
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And if you don't marry a partner who shares your religion, you're not going to
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be able to impart those beautiful things to your children in the same way because
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they're constantly going to be feeling conflicted between mom and dad. You want
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mom and dad to be sharing in this beautiful religion together with you. The
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next reason why you should marry within your faith is that if you don't you
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aren't allowing yourself room to grow. Faith is a constantly ever-changing thing.
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It's sometimes really hard to believe in God and the connection can sometimes feel
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distant and other times you feel God in the room with you. But if you are married
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to someone who doesn't share your faith, you will feel nervous to engage with your
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faith on a more intense level. Let's imagine that you decide you're going to
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become more religious and you want to start attending church on Sundays. Let's say
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you're married to a man who doesn't believe in God. It's scary for you to
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engage with your faith more and to try and boost your relationship with God
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because theoretically that could come between you and your spouse. If your
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spouse really isn't comfortable with you becoming more religious because it would
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change your lifestyle, there are only two options. You'll either end up exploring it
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and the relationship with your spouse will become strained or you won't end up
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exploring it because you're afraid that your relationship will become strained and
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you prefer to have a good marriage. Now of course I understand the idea of
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wanting to have a good marriage. That is number one. That's so important. But you're
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blocking yourself off from growing in your relationship to God, from considering
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these parts of yourself because you're so nervous that you'll actually have
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conflict between you and your partner. Now that kind of thing doesn't happen if
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you marry someone within the same faith. The two of you want to work on it
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together. You guys are planning on growing as a team, as a couple, and it's not just
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you growing and your partner staying stagnant or vice versa. And hey, I know
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plenty of couples who didn't marry within their faith and they seem to be very
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happy. But I have spoken with people who have mentioned to me that they do feel
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sort of unfulfilled because they can't explore whatever they believe more deeply
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because their partner doesn't understand it. So there may be this kind of level of
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happiness that you're reaching because you're with someone that you love and you
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share a wonderful life. But there's also a part of you that will be left
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unfulfilled as you can't explore your relationship to God and your relationship
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to faith without it upending the life you've built for yourself with someone
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who doesn't share your faith. Marriage is so much better when you share faith as a
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team. And that leads me into my third reason why you should marry within your
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faith. Marrying within your faith means that when you are struggling with your
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faith or you're celebrating in it, your partner can share in that with you
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because your spouse understands and believes in the same God that you do.
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There's something so magical about being able to share your faith with your
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partner, with your spouse. Instead of them being on the sidelines, maybe cheering you
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on as an outsider because it doesn't mean that they have to hate your faith. It
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just means that they may not understand it. So they may even be supportive of your
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journey, but they'll always be an outsider cheering you from the sidelines rather than
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in the game with you, really excited and celebrating it together. Marriage is so
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much about teamwork that choosing a teammate who isn't on the same page with
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you when it comes to this most vital thing, this relationship with God, this
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relationship to your values, this relationship to your beliefs, and this
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relationship to your community, it doesn't seem like that's a marriage that's
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going to get its full potential. My husband and I are constantly growing
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together in our faith because I became less religious when I moved out of my
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parents' house and my husband became more religious when the two of us met and
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together we want to explore our faith together as Jews and that to me is so
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exciting. It's so beautiful. I don't have to be afraid that he's going to judge my
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exploration of my faith and he doesn't have to be afraid of me judging his
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exploration of his faith because we have the same faith base and the two of us
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are aiming for the same goal and that is just an incredible feeling. So I am a huge
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advocate of marrying within your faith, finding support in your partner, growing
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as a team, and not ignoring the pull you may have to grow in your faith because
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you're afraid of how it will affect your partner. Please let me know in the
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comments what you guys think about this, if you married within your faith, if you
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think it's important. So now that you guys made it to the end of the video I'm
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