How did the church become so effeminate? The answer is going to make you angry. Pastors learned that it was easier to get men to act like women than to get women to submit. Christian men cause conflict with the world, and women don t like conflict. So instead of correcting the women, they pacified the men. Courage and boldness were criticized, gentleness and tolerance were applauded. And what was the result? A soft, emotional, people-pleasing Christianity that acts more like a women s Bible study than it does the army of the Lord?