00:07:18.080It's the parents that get to feel prepared and equipped and affirmed that it is good and right and true to teach these things to your children, even if we're living in a culture that says that's unloving or mean.
00:07:33.320And then it's also for the children so that they would feel confident and rest in the gender that the Lord has given them and have no doubts and have no concerns about that.
00:07:47.540but actually be excited to be a boy and be excited to be a girl and be excited for what
00:07:53.860that means for the future. Cool. Okay. So how have you and I, but this is an interview geared
00:08:01.360towards you. How have you navigated these topics of transgenderism, things like that
00:08:06.660with our own children? Yeah. So our kids are pretty young. We don't necessarily open up the
00:08:15.700entire uh the entire canister on the topic where we're giving them details of what is really going
00:08:25.240on but what we have done is consistently given them a definition a vision um for who they are
00:08:35.720and so you know you find me often talking to aria about praying for her future husband and
00:08:43.400praying for, uh, her to, uh, have many children. And that would be a blessing to her. And that
00:08:51.560would be a blessing to us as grandparents and, and same with our boys, you know, you know,
00:08:56.440honor will sometimes run around and I want 10 kids or I want five kids or whatever. And just
00:09:02.080nurturing an appetite for the traditional family and nurturing that desire for those things. Um,
00:09:13.400and we do i would say over emphasize masculine traits and feminine traits in our kids meaning
00:09:20.200that we kind of play them up a bit um you know if if valor jumps off of the you know the fence
00:09:29.560it's like oh awesome i'm so glad that you did that i mean that's so cool you're so strong and
00:09:35.320you know brave and courageous to do things like that yeah or if honor came up to me today and he
00:09:40.920said hey dad just want to let you know i told mom that she looks good in her dress today
00:09:44.680you know and i said i i said that's great honor you always want to compliment women because they're
00:09:49.400so beautiful you know and so we're kind of accentuating and magnifying these masculine
00:09:57.160and feminine traits within our kids i don't know what do you have to say on that um yeah no i agree
00:10:02.840i am i think our kids living in the area that we do you kind of mentioned earlier how some people
00:10:07.480are a little bit more exposed to this than others because of the areas that we've lived in or that
00:10:11.240they've lived in we recently had a couple move here from florida um and i was like what's been
00:10:17.400the biggest difference obviously arizona is very different than florida and she said honestly i
00:10:22.600think just how much in your face like just the west is compared to the east coast like yeah
00:10:28.840it's just rainbow flags everywhere and signs everywhere and the people you actually see it
00:10:35.800in front of you she's like we just don't really see that we're particularly where they lived in
00:10:39.400florida um and i was like oh yeah like that's kind of normal for us because we dill and i
00:10:45.400grew up in southern california and we lived there for most of our life and then we lived in oregon
00:10:50.280which i think everybody kind of knows the reputation that oregon has um we lived there
00:10:55.000for seven years and then now we're in arizona and we're um you know we're in sedona which
00:11:02.680it's a very dark spiritually dark place and um and so yeah our kids have been at the grocery
00:11:09.560store with me and have seen um an employee that is was born a man and is dressed like a woman and
00:11:17.720it's evident that it is a man dressed as a woman and um they've actually come to the point where
00:11:24.600um you know i get to the checkout line line and i'm like oh no what's this first thing what are
00:11:28.840my kid's gonna say right now and you can tell that my older two just kind of like are observing
00:11:35.880but they didn't say anything and then we we leave and we get in the car and honor honor our son our
00:11:41.400oldest son uh he's six goes mom we need to pray for that man i was like you're right we do we do
00:11:49.320need to pray for that man and um they just they recognized right away that that something was not
00:11:55.480right and so um yeah i just often remind them like you know we do we you know we don't get to
00:12:03.640be rude or aggressive or mean to them but we do get to pray for them we get to share the gospel
00:12:07.560with them um and lord willing you know the lord will open their eyes to their sin and they repent
00:12:13.880and come to him yeah the the the thing about the gospel is that when we find our identity in christ
00:12:20.200and we actually can trust that we have a good and sovereign God
00:12:24.700who has created us intentionally for good works, for the purpose of his will,
00:12:31.300we can root ourselves and trust ourselves.
00:12:35.500Even if our feelings or emotions are contrary to what is true,
00:12:40.740we can rest in Christ and rest in God.
00:12:46.460And what we need to constantly reaffirm our children is that the gospel can take the darkest, the most grievous perversion or distortion and actually make it new and actually restore it to being right.
00:13:02.000And people in this world that have statements like, I was born this way.
00:13:10.160And that is generally a pretty common response from individuals in that community.
00:13:16.160We often say, well, hey, I was born broken too.
00:13:20.400I was born with a desire for sexual perversion or for anger or for hatred or for wickedness.
00:13:28.320And it's why I needed to be born again.
00:13:29.840And so that conversation is important of communicating to your children that it's not about, you can't persuade these individuals into correct thinking.
00:13:45.300There actually needs to be, they don't need to be better.
00:13:48.920And the only way someone's made new is the gospel.
00:13:51.260And so it's a delicate process of working through and teaching your kids by demonstrating examples how that would actually work out.
00:13:59.840Uh, but I think more and more parents are getting those opportunities every day because they're running into them at the grocery store and everywhere they're going. So, um, anyways, good conversation about that. But let's, let's move on to the, cause we got a couple more questions that are, I don't want to talk about Veronica before she's like, stop answering questions that I haven't asked you yet.
00:14:18.580didn't say it that aggressively i just said you said it's i was like i don't know if this is going
00:14:23.380to take as long as you think that it's going to take and he's like well yeah it might because i
00:14:27.300talk a lot and i said well the issue with you talking a lot is that you generally jump ahead
00:14:32.100of me and answer questions that i have planned on asking but then i get to them and i'm like uh
00:14:37.700he already answered this so hopefully we don't run into that but anyway um what age range is
00:14:44.020this book targeted for i think three to ten i mean it's ten is pushing it um yeah i'd say maybe like
00:14:56.100eight or nine yeah um i mean aria has been around she's gonna be nine and she's she's an artist so
00:15:03.060she's enjoying watching the art be developed for this and and dad can you read can you read me your
00:15:07.860book and and so i think that she's already established well there's a couple special
00:15:13.060touches in the art right there is actually there's there's several instances where i have integrated
00:15:20.580our children or our family into the uh illustrations of the book or just kind of
00:15:27.060things about our family inspired you know yeah not necessarily like that is our kid or that is our
00:15:32.260kid it's just things that from our family that have inspired some of the illustrations and artwork
00:15:37.940in yeah for for example if you're a san francisco dodge or san francisco giants fan you will be
00:15:43.220angry because there is a dodgers pennant um in the in one of the rooms in there so there's some
00:15:49.460small things like that that's kind of fun little personal touches yeah little personal touches but
00:15:53.140i think um this book will be formative for children between the ages of three and seven
00:16:01.460i think that if you're hoping for these things to be formative in your eight nine and ten year olds
00:16:08.580i think you're um it'll be helpful um and another ingredient to the masterpiece recipe that you're
00:16:17.940producing of biblical thinking and biblical worldview it'll be another helpful addition
00:16:24.100to that but but these conversations people need to happen young i think you were just reading
00:16:28.660with the ladies' mama bear apologetics.
00:16:32.780And I know one of the kind of topics or themes of the book
00:16:37.480is parents need to be the first to talk about these things.
00:16:41.720Like you don't want your kids to be addressed on these matters
00:16:46.940before you had a chance to communicate.
00:16:50.460Yeah, because they might be addressed by a peer
00:16:57.140doesn't share a biblical worldview right or someone who's actually aggressive and um
00:17:04.340intending to pervert or distort your child right and so we need to be
00:17:10.660uh first yeah what's proactive proactive there you go and and younger than we we were that i
00:17:16.180think is the hardest part for our generation yeah unfortunately we are having to have these
00:17:20.020conversations with our kids younger than yeah because i don't think i was really exposed to
00:17:24.100anything like that maybe the earliest was junior high and then high school was like oh i act there's
00:17:30.500actually gay people around like that was there was like five in my high school for 5 000 people
00:17:36.660you know it's just it was not nearly as prevalent as it um as it is today yeah as it is well but
00:17:43.700thinking about this like nobody had to talk to me about transgenderism because it wasn't even
00:17:52.020I mean, it was so absurd that, you know, they called these people at that time when I was a kid transvestites or they called them cross dressers, you know, it was such a insanely distant idea of reality that it didn't need to be really it didn't need to be communicated.
00:18:13.060And so, we're almost shocked in this generation to go, do I really got to talk to my four-year-old about this?
00:18:20.820And unfortunately, because you're going to bump into somebody at the grocery store, or you already have, it is wise to talk to them.
00:18:28.960Now, again, talking to them about it doesn't mean opening up the entire bag and throwing them in there and letting them see all the dark elements of it all.
00:18:38.760but it does mean building that offense remember the offense giving it to them in bite-sized pieces
00:18:45.060of what their maturity level can handle yeah exactly okay um how do you hope this book
00:18:52.320will help parents navigate this subject without exposing them like you just said to the full way
00:18:57.460of the distortion of gender in our modern world i stopped myself just so you know from answering
00:19:02.540this question in advance because i knew it was coming and i didn't want to play into your rain
00:19:09.500it in play into your uh projected hey i know you failure you've been married a while um figured it
00:19:16.140out yeah so you don't want to bring them all the way in to the deep end of the pool on this matter
00:28:02.160And I wish that the text is almost done,
00:28:05.480but it's gonna take probably another six months
00:28:07.480before that's even actually ready to buy.
00:28:09.760But I think parents are chomping at the bit to get that because they want a good resource that's not overwhelming.
00:28:19.380And so, yes, so Simple Theology is coming out.
00:28:22.100But for Jesus and My Gender, if you guys want to pick up a copy, and it would be really a blessing to our ministry because the book sales really fund everything that we do.