Dale Partridge - Real Christianity #155： 3 Biblical Principles To Consider Before You Move

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00:00:39.780 Welcome to Real Christianity. My name is Dale Partridge. As many of you know, you can find

00:00:44.420 the show notes for these episodes at our website at relearn.org. Our mission at relearn.org is to

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00:00:57.480 Welcome to today's episode titled, Three Biblical Principles to Consider Before You Move.

00:01:05.400 We have so many people. As COVID has changed the landscape of our culture and made it clear

00:01:13.600 that most modern jobs can be carried out remotely, and this cultural shift really has granted

00:01:20.400 millions upon millions of families the ability to relocate to a more desired location. But

00:01:25.260 as Christians who are slaves and servants of the Lord Jesus Christ, how are we to think about

00:01:32.760 relocation? Are we to just use the same criteria as the rest of the culture? I mean, are we to just

00:01:39.700 move because we want to be closer to family or to have better political leaders or to make more

00:01:45.600 money or to be in a different climate. Now, there's nothing necessarily sinful about those

00:01:50.900 reasons for relocation, but are they the guiding criteria that Christians should use when planning

00:01:57.240 to relocate their family? And so in this episode, I'm going to explain why I think Christians should 0.96

00:02:03.560 use a different set of principles, and we'll be sharing the three overarching criteria that our

00:02:10.040 family used to choose our family's new location. But before we begin, just wanted to mention a few

00:02:16.920 things. If you have not heard, I did a pretty big life update post on Instagram. If you don't follow

00:02:24.680 our ministry on Instagram, it's just at relearn. You'll find it, or just type in relearn.org on

00:02:29.580 Instagram. I post it on Facebook as well. You can find it there and get a quick update on our life

00:02:36.540 and our move and why my health. So that's one thing. The second thing is I've shared several

00:02:44.680 times now on social media, but for those of you who are looking for a playlist of biblical worship

00:02:52.360 music. I have personally curated a playlist on Spotify. If you just type biblical worship

00:02:59.300 into the playlist search bar or to the search bar on Spotify, you'll likely find it. You'll

00:03:05.440 find my name there. And I also did one called biblical hip hop. Yes, I do love hip hop. And

00:03:13.320 you guys can find that there. I'm still working on that one. It's only got maybe 20 something

00:03:19.880 songs on there, but an incredible way to learn and consume theological truths through song.

00:03:29.180 So hopefully that's a helpful resource for you guys.

00:03:33.020 So as a preface before I begin, I want to make a few points.

00:03:37.300 Number one, each family must take their request to move to the Lord.

00:03:43.880 And in speaking to how God organizes the local church, I'm going to use a reference here from

00:03:50.220 Paul. He says in 1 Corinthians 12, 18, but as it is, God arranged the members in the body,

00:03:58.040 each one of them, as he chose. In other words, God is sovereignly moving his people to places

00:04:05.100 which will carry out his redemptive plan throughout his church. And so every family

00:04:10.900 is different, and these are principles that I'm going to share, not direct commands.

00:04:17.980 You have a unique story, and you have a unique journey the Lord has you on, and these are

00:04:24.400 just principles. 0.99

00:04:25.380 My next point is, if you're a Christian, your body is not your own, your time is not your 0.69

00:04:31.420 own, your money is not your own, your family is not your own, and your life is not your 0.81

00:04:35.220 own.

00:04:35.400 In 1 Corinthians 10, 26, in a reference to Deuteronomy, it says,

00:04:40.560 For the earth is the Lord's and all it contains.

00:04:44.980 Everything, including you, is the Lord's.

00:04:50.900 He owns it all. He's the maker of all.

00:04:53.700 Earlier in the same book, we're still in 1 Corinthians talking here,

00:04:58.200 Paul writes,

00:04:58.980 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you,

00:05:02.220 whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? 0.70

00:05:05.400 For you have been bought with a price, speaking to Christians, therefore glorify God in your body. 0.88

00:05:12.620 Essentially, as a born-again Christian, you are not a free agent, but you're a slave to the king. 0.71

00:05:19.420 And slaves don't make decisions without the permission of their master.

00:05:24.260 What I'm saying here is you must seek Christ first to verify even if you've been called to move,

00:05:31.840 let alone where to move, when to move, and why to move.

00:05:36.540 My third point that I want to preface is before I get into these three principles

00:05:44.400 that we've used in our personal life,

00:05:50.500 I just want you to know that these principles require big boy and big girl faith.

00:05:56.120 They require you to have an established understanding of God's sovereignty, of his redemptive purpose, and how his children are involved in his mission.

00:06:09.140 And I say that because these three criteria are deeply self-sacrificial, and they demand a heart that's yielded to God and feet that are willing to walk even when you can't see.

00:06:23.960 And lastly, I would never preach on anything that I have not embraced myself.

00:06:31.560 Not to say that preachers don't preach on things that they struggle with, but the reality

00:06:37.120 is this is something that I've actually walked out with our family and am sharing the fruit

00:06:45.720 of it, and hopefully it will be fruitful for you as well.

00:06:49.700 So I will admit, at first, we almost embraced the process for moving that I think almost

00:07:00.500 everybody else embraces.

00:07:02.280 We almost moved because of our personal reasons and not the Lord's.

00:07:07.520 And it was God's mercy and grace that he convicted my spirit and brought me and my thinking

00:07:13.920 back in alignment with the scriptures.

00:07:16.860 So I'll give you the short version of the story.

00:07:18.920 When we felt the call to relocate for a variety of reasons, my health was a major driver for that.

00:07:27.980 We first looked for the best state with the most conservative politics, with the strongest homeschooling communities, and with an abundance of biblical churches and being nearby a great seminary.

00:07:40.280 We also looked at places close to people we love, with a low cost of living, somewhere we could make some money.

00:07:47.440 and ideally places of geographic beauty, right, and outdoor recreation, something that we could

00:07:53.140 live by. And we even went on a 10-week family RV trip to scope out several of these locations

00:08:02.660 under this guiding criteria, which is, again, what most people use when they

00:08:09.160 try to relocate their family. However, after returning from our trip,

00:08:15.060 we felt deeply conflicted. And after much prayer about some of the places that we had desired,

00:08:23.820 we actually even put down a deposit on a spot, on a piece of land somewhere that we actually

00:08:31.220 had to lose our deposit over. And we ended up choosing a completely different state. That state

00:08:39.160 is Arizona. And it was the last state that we wanted to move to and the last city we wanted

00:08:48.500 to be in. And I'm not going to share the specific city because we are deciding between two or three

00:08:55.960 local cities in this area, all within the same area. So I just don't want to share that quite

00:09:01.460 yet. But the state is politically moderate. The city we think we're going to go into is

00:09:08.620 politically liberal. And there's not even one homeschool group in the area. There's only one

00:09:14.680 tiny biblical church. It's got about 15 people in it. It's probably the most expensive area to

00:09:20.680 live in the entire state. And we don't know a single person there. Now, was it hard to trust

00:09:26.480 the Lord with these circumstances? Absolutely. Veronica even cried over it. We had several

00:09:34.080 difficult conversations as a family. We went to prayer, even asking the Lord for a change.

00:09:39.840 But finally, we just yielded over the past several months, and we've come to a sweet contentment and

00:09:47.900 even a joy over the adventure that the Lord has set before us in this new location. So here's the

00:09:54.520 three criteria that we used that brought relocation or the decision of relocation into alignment with

00:10:03.000 biblical principles. Number one, move for commission, not comfort. So I recently saw a

00:10:12.460 tweet from a young mom who said, quote, my husband asked me what I wanted for my birthday.

00:10:18.940 My response was, the same thing any Christian mother wants, to move to Florida or Texas.

00:10:26.020 Now, as funny as that may be, it reveals a way of thinking that Christians need to be careful with. 0.90

00:10:34.680 And look, there's nothing wrong with Florida or Texas.

00:10:37.640 We actually, the place that we bought land and to put a deposit was Texas. 1.00

00:10:42.360 but lots of Christians, you know, move there and will move there. And God has called many

00:10:49.600 of his children to move to these very places. So I'm not anti-Florida or Texas. But as Christians,

00:10:55.880 the politics of a certain place shouldn't be the driving factor for why we relocate.

00:11:02.840 It's an important factor, but it shouldn't be the driving factor. If this was the case,

00:11:07.620 then the gospel would never make it to politically hostile countries or areas or states.

00:11:12.640 And we're starting to see many hostile states toward Christianity.

00:11:19.740 And while some are called to leave, we do need men and women who are bold enough to come

00:11:24.580 and be missionaries in some of these states and some of these cities 0.95

00:11:29.640 that are basically being completely abandoned by Christians left and right. 0.85

00:11:37.620 The truth is, we really just need to have a heart to move to places where Christ is not named. 0.97

00:11:44.260 I'm going to say that again.

00:11:45.520 We need to have a heart to move to places where Christ is not named in an effort to really witness to the lost in that community.

00:11:56.080 And I know that we are at varying degrees of callings.

00:12:00.820 We all are under the Great Commission, which we'll speak about in a second.

00:12:03.700 And then some are called as evangelists and are called as missionaries and pastors.

00:12:09.240 So you get to take this within the bounds of your specific calling.

00:12:14.960 But again, as a modernized, westernized American, our first inclination when choosing a place

00:12:22.960 to live is centrally comfort.

00:12:28.440 And, you know, where are we going to have the most fun, the least amount of stress,

00:12:33.120 the maximum income and opportunities, the greatest amount of relationships. But again,

00:12:37.420 these are not the questions that Christians should be asking. We must start to remember 0.53

00:12:41.920 that as Christians, the Great Commission is not the great suggestion. Therefore, I should say,

00:12:51.280 we can't think about relocation without thinking about how it'll affect our faithfulness to

00:12:56.680 our Christian duty. If our first criteria is comfort, then we are not evaluating our relocation

00:13:05.740 through our identity in Christ. J.D. Greer, in his book Gaining by Losing, had a really great quote

00:13:13.000 that captures what I'm saying. He said, the Great Commission is not a calling for some.

00:13:20.100 It is a mandate for all, all Christians. When it comes to a calling, we don't need a voice. We have

00:13:26.560 a verse, Matthew 28, 19. It is now our responsibility under the direction of the

00:13:32.100 Holy Spirit to evaluate how we are best suited to fulfill that call. We see every member of our

00:13:39.040 church as a potential missionary to be equipped and mobilized. Our goal is not to send some or

00:13:45.600 even our best, but to send all into the mission, to our city, across the country, or to the other

00:13:52.380 side of the world. You have to realize that that's how Muslims and Mormons and Jehovah's 0.97

00:13:58.460 Witnesses actually think. But sadly, that's not true of Christians. I believe it was James White

00:14:05.900 who once said, the cults have more passion for a lie than Christians do for the truth. 0.88

00:14:11.700 We really do need to start putting Great Commission thinking above our comfort. So 0.96

00:14:17.020 ultimately, if you're a born-again believer, you're not an inactive soldier. You're a gospel

00:14:21.560 worker who is to be trained, equipped, and sent to bear the testimony of the Lord Jesus Christ

00:14:27.420 in the community in which he has called you to live. Okay, number two, move for people,

00:14:34.960 not places. Let me begin just by talking about the local church for a moment.

00:14:40.740 There is no such thing as a churchless Christian, and true Christians will not be unchurched for

00:14:48.100 long, and they have a deep desire to be in regular fellowship with God's people. And I have a point

00:14:53.660 that I'm trying to get to here first, so just let me give you a quick analogy. How close could a

00:14:59.460 person be to me if he or she didn't want to be around my wife? In fact, let's just say that they

00:15:05.460 actually wanted to avoid my wife. Could we become intimate friends? Of course not, right? No way.

00:15:12.540 The same is true of Christ and his bride, the church. We have to remember that the local church

00:15:17.560 which is the very bride of Christ and the place God designed for his children to be strengthened.

00:15:23.480 And therefore, here's my point, when considering a relocation,

00:15:28.060 we shouldn't simply scope the schools and the restaurants and the recreation

00:15:34.600 and just expect God to miraculously bless us with a thriving, fruitful, and biblical local church community.

00:15:42.760 Now, unless we are, again, missionaries in the biblical sense,

00:15:46.140 we should really be seeking specific locations where there already is an established church or

00:15:53.380 church community in which we can become faithful members. So that's really important. So my point

00:15:58.380 is, don't move to a place because it's beautiful or scenic or has good food or is by the beach or

00:16:05.840 has conservative politics. These are great benefits, but a far greater benefit and reason

00:16:11.140 to move somewhere is because of who is there and where your family is going to find genuine

00:16:17.460 Christian fellowship and spiritual maturity for years to come. Point number three, move for

00:16:25.060 commitment, not curiosity. We live in a transient culture that comes and goes without much resolve

00:16:33.000 to remain in long-term faithful relationships. Veronica and I just left Bend, Oregon after

00:16:38.560 seven years. Now, that's not a long time, but it's not a short time either. And it was enough

00:16:45.440 time for us to establish deep relationships with several families, establish a local church,

00:16:51.160 show our kids how to remain still in the face of moments that make you want to leave,

00:16:58.380 and also how to stay put until the Lord genuinely calls us elsewhere. In other words,

00:17:06.200 And when praying about a place for your family to relocate, pray you'll find a place that

00:17:12.620 permits your family to establish roots.

00:17:14.460 Think five to 10 years minimum.

00:17:17.640 Pray the Lord permits you to have the time to become deeply involved in your local church

00:17:22.700 and where you can minister thoroughly with people and even model commitment and consistency 0.99

00:17:29.260 to a generation of detached and independent Christians.

00:17:33.700 That's vital. 0.94

00:17:35.280 And so, all in all, we have to start thinking like slaves and not free agents.

00:17:44.180 And I said this in the last podcast, but I'm going to say it again.

00:17:47.200 The word doulos is the most common New Testament Greek word to describe believers,

00:17:53.200 and it's translated as slave or servant.

00:17:57.700 We're not entities unto ourselves.

00:17:59.820 We're men and women of the cross.

00:18:02.620 And therefore, we must learn to think about the Great Commission and our personal ministry

00:18:09.700 and our plan for relocation.

00:18:11.800 We must learn to value the local church and seek fellowship before seeking secular benefits

00:18:16.440 of a particular area.

00:18:18.020 We must figure out how to fight to move to places where we can be committed long-term

00:18:27.980 and not just bounce from one place to another

00:18:30.480 when our preferences or our comforts

00:18:32.540 or we have conflict when those things change.

00:18:37.900 And I understand for those who are hearing this

00:18:40.120 and you have plans to move

00:18:41.200 and you maybe want to reevaluate those plans

00:18:44.540 through these criteria and take them to prayer,

00:18:47.380 I understand that this might put a stick

00:18:49.340 in the spokes of your family's plan.

00:18:50.980 It absolutely did with ours.

00:18:52.220 We lost several thousand dollars over it actually.

00:18:54.240 Um, but this may also send you to a place that maybe you didn't desire to go to, but

00:19:05.500 if you're in the Lord's will, doing the Lord's work, walking by faith, trusting in him, I assure

00:19:13.820 you that wherever the Lord puts you, it'll be the safest and most rewarding move that your family

00:19:20.600 can make. So may God give you wisdom in that journey. Hopefully this episode was helpful

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Dale Partridge - July 21, 2021

Real Christianity #155： 3 Biblical Principles To Consider Before You Move

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