Dale Partridge - Real Christianity #38： What is a Biblical Man？ Part 1

00:00:00.080 Welcome to Real Christianity. Today we are talking about... 0.85

00:00:04.700 What is a Biblical Man, Part 1.

00:00:07.140 Yeah, so we have done the two-part series for the ladies, What is a Biblical Woman, Part 1 and Part 2.

00:00:13.720 Now we're going to do a two-part series for the men, Part 1 and Part 2.

00:00:18.040 Now, I wish we had more time on these topics. I feel like they could be easily three one-hour podcasts.

00:00:26.680 But we're going to dive in as deep as we can today.

00:00:29.520 But before we get started, I know Veronica wanted to mention some stuff about other podcasts that are part of our community.

00:00:36.060 Yeah, we often get a lot of people writing us, messaging us, asking us if we have any other recommendations for podcasts other than ours.

00:00:43.360 People that speak biblical truth or advice on parenting, whatever it is.

00:00:48.460 And we actually have, including our podcast, five couples that do podcasts within just our community.

00:00:56.020 um that all live here in bend oregon we've gone to church with them um we're very very close with

00:01:01.520 them they're all very close friends of ours so we just wanted to share their podcasts with you

00:01:04.560 um the first one is going to be faithful life by matt and lisa jacobson who were actually our

00:01:09.180 mentors and matt disciple dale um and so a lot of the information that you'll hear from us you'll

00:01:16.020 probably hear on their podcast as well um and then for parenting we got lots of parenting

00:01:21.620 questions again del and i are a little bit um cautious with answering parenting because our

00:01:26.760 oldest child is five so we don't have many years of fruit there quite yet um so if you want a

00:01:31.760 parenting podcast i would check out courageous parenting by isaac and angie tulpan yep and then

00:01:37.520 there is marriage after god by aaron and jennifer smith um and they're they're just our best friends

00:01:43.820 we've been friends with them our entire marriage yeah um again ever all every one of these couples

00:01:48.900 lives here locally um with us in bend oregon and then the last couple that we wanted to share is

00:01:55.080 elisha elisha and katie voteberg yeah um and they are now that i'm a family yeah and they're a young

00:02:01.820 couple they've been married for two years right a little over two years um and they have two

00:02:07.260 children and she's pregnant with her third yes so they um and they both come from big families

00:02:12.280 and they both come from big families yeah katie is the oldest of 11 and elisha is i think number

00:02:17.880 four of ten yeah they both come from big families they have that big family experiences yeah they're

00:02:23.740 awesome we love them we just had them over for dessert a few nights ago yeah so just i think a

00:02:28.540 really good group of a lot of people are curious what is biblical church what is biblical community

00:02:34.260 look like and i think you'll start to hear an echo chamber of similar ideas uh similar scriptural

00:02:40.720 perspectives uh from those podcasts and uh so i just hope that's a blessing to you guys

00:02:47.540 The conversation today, I'm going to be doing probably 90% of the talking today.

00:02:53.400 It's about biblical men.

00:02:56.080 What is a biblical man?

00:02:57.100 Veronica is going to chime in here and there. 0.90

00:02:58.600 I told her.

00:02:59.260 I'll just say, preach.

00:03:00.360 Amen.

00:03:01.260 She could bring in her thoughts.

00:03:02.880 I almost did this show solo, but I thought, you know what?

00:03:06.520 Let's just have her here and she could bring in some conversation.

00:03:09.680 There's a few points that I have her making here as well.

00:03:13.980 But I just wanted to preface that.

00:03:15.500 A couple things before we jump in is, one, if you haven't left a review, would you please do that?

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00:04:26.780 Okay, you ready for me to dive in?

00:04:29.720 I'm ready to listen.

00:04:30.940 Okay, so I'm going to be reviewing some notes a lot today just because I just want to get

00:04:36.880 through a lot of content.

00:04:37.540 So if you're watching this on a video, you get to watch me looking at my screen a little

00:04:41.220 bit more than normal.

00:04:42.740 So the first thing I want to start off with is what we've mentioned over the last few shows is that Satan's plan for the world.

00:04:49.320 Now, I want you to remember that Satan's plan is is multigenerational.

00:04:52.960 This isn't something that is happening in our short lives.

00:04:56.120 This is his his role and his I guess what his goal is, is to, you know, take our distance between us and God and make it greater and greater and greater.

00:05:10.720 And the way he's doing that is a variety of ways.

00:05:13.180 But what we're seeing here in America or in the West and more modern times is this attack on gender and sexuality as well.

00:05:23.720 So I always say this quote is that Satan's plan is that men would be boys, that women would be men, and that as a result, children will be irrelevant.

00:05:34.220 And we see this again already in the Garden of Eden is exactly what happened.

00:05:39.800 is that Adam was passive.

00:05:43.440 He didn't lead his wife in that moment.

00:05:45.860 The enemy approached Eve and not Adam.

00:05:48.580 So there's something there.

00:05:50.800 And she played the role of a man

00:05:52.600 and he played the role of a woman.

00:05:54.260 And that was really the beginning of the fall.

00:05:57.620 And so this approach to confusing gender

00:06:01.080 or confusing gender responsibilities

00:06:02.860 or switching roles

00:06:04.920 is something that is as old as time itself.

00:06:09.800 I actually was reading an article that I just found a few days ago, and I wrote down the title. 0.99

00:06:17.320 It says, society is creating a new crop of alpha women who are unable to love.

00:06:22.780 It's just a really sad, this whole article is written by an author who wrote a book about alpha women

00:06:28.040 and guiding them on how to find love again in their kind of masculine femininity. 0.88

00:06:34.280 It's pretty gross.

00:06:35.300 and in terms of just this gender confusion we also see this you know in such extreme ways but 0.92

00:06:44.160 I'll give you one other one the Oscars that just happened not long ago in Hollywood there was

00:06:50.420 several men wearing dresses and one of them was wearing a tuxedo gown literally it's a tuxedo on

00:06:58.420 top and a gown at the bottom and this there's just a constant attack of blending gender and

00:07:06.520 we got to remember that clothing is actually a part of gender identification we identify

00:07:11.140 you can make a woman look like a boy but just by dressing them like a boy and putting their hair

00:07:16.200 in a hat you know those kind of things are actually important markers visually for us to actually

00:07:22.160 identify gender that's why there is actually gender-based clothing for how women and men

00:07:27.320 dress because it helps us identify who men and women are instead of confusing or blending that

00:07:32.120 um yeah here's your here's your spot to talk so um yeah gender roles that's like total hate

00:07:40.440 speech to the culture right yeah the idea that there is a way to behave according to your gender

00:07:45.500 that might be in contrast to how you feel is viewed as oppressive or offensive you get so

00:07:52.520 mad when you have an opinion on that yeah or just telling someone that the bible says you actually

00:07:56.620 need to behave this way and you don't get to behave the way that you feel you should behave

00:08:00.720 you know this is this is a crazy idea yeah um and sadly the culture is hell-bent on confusing gender

00:08:07.580 which is why we were even doing a podcast series on gender roles um when just a hundred years ago

00:08:13.540 and before that this was all just common knowledge imagine this wasn't even the thing

00:08:19.320 that it needed to be talked about no yeah imagine in like the 1400s having to tell a man how to be

00:08:25.720 a man it'd be crazy it would not have to happen um or how a woman what what a woman is no these

00:08:32.700 things are common knowledge in society and so um now in the church um this confusion on gender

00:08:38.580 actually hasn't necessarily manifested in like transgenderism we're not seeing a ton of that in

00:08:43.320 the church sure there's some accepting churches and things like that that are that are i guess

00:08:48.400 upholding some of these things as a biblical view but instead we're actually seeing this as gender

00:08:53.900 infancy or extended adolescence. And so the idea of gender infancy is that we have both grown males

00:09:01.640 and females who are very immature in their understanding of what it means to be a biblical

00:09:07.420 man or woman or what it means to walk in their gender according to God's word. They're infants 0.71

00:09:12.240 in their own gender in terms of like they don't understand where they're supposed to be. And 1.00

00:09:17.940 extended adolescence, we see this. Now, it might view it that women are growing more mature 0.94

00:09:24.380 and actually stepping into these roles now, but they're walking into a maturity of cultural's 0.98

00:09:29.560 perspective of what a woman is, not the Bible's perspective of what a woman is. Where the boys

00:09:35.100 in society, the men, I should say, the grown males in society are absolutely extending adolescence

00:09:41.580 into their 20s into their into even their early 30s and so uh you know some of the one thing i

00:09:49.360 like to tell people is that a boy is someone between the ages of five and puberty and so god

00:09:58.100 has already determined when you become a man uh and when you become a woman well it's when your

00:10:04.180 body starts to act like a man or a woman, when you can start to reproduce, this is God's intrinsic

00:10:13.040 design to show you that you are a man. So it could be 13, it could be 12, it could be 16 for some 0.96

00:10:21.540 people, but manhood is actually quite early. You know, a young, I'm 33, I'll be 34 next month,

00:10:30.780 And I'm not a young man.

00:10:33.260 When Jesus was on the earth, he's not a young man.

00:10:36.360 Nobody viewed him as a young man.

00:10:38.400 And so this idea of people saying, oh, you're a young man.

00:10:40.780 No, I'm a man.

00:10:41.660 I'm not an older man either.

00:10:43.720 I don't think a 21-year-old is necessarily a young man.

00:10:48.380 I think that—

00:10:49.540 They may act like it, but it doesn't mean that they are one.

00:10:51.500 Yeah, I think that a 15-year-old is a young man.

00:10:54.680 You know, but I think, you know, there's a movie called Master and Commander.

00:10:59.460 and it's about an old battle of two ships

00:11:04.160 and the captain of this ship in the real story,

00:11:09.220 I think it's between the French and the British

00:11:11.220 and I'm totally botching that maybe,

00:11:14.300 but I think Russell Crowe's in the actual movie.

00:11:19.180 But if you look back at the real story,

00:11:21.360 the commander of the French ship is 16.

00:11:26.900 Like that's what he's doing at 16 years old.

00:11:29.460 He is absolutely walking out manhood.

00:11:32.880 And so I just, again, the expectations for when a person becomes a man or a woman is drastically diminished.

00:11:42.040 And this is why we have a boy problem.

00:11:44.220 So for the males, we have a boy problem.

00:11:45.940 This is what's going on in society and in church.

00:11:49.120 It's also called Peter Pan syndrome, the idea that you just never want to grow up.

00:11:54.060 Men aren't moving out of their houses, their parents' houses, until their late 20s now.

00:11:58.660 This is insanity. We have grown males who think that by posting pictures of themselves with a beard in the mountains that somehow and that they can shoot guns or that they can get their bodies really fit or that they can make lots of money or any of these things that are manly.

00:12:20.600 They think that that's what makes them a man.

00:12:23.540 I could pay my rent, therefore I'm a man.

00:12:26.000 That's kind of the minimum definition of society.

00:12:29.780 But the truth is, these are really just immature men or boys, extended adolescence, trying to redefine manhood with manly things.

00:12:38.440 And so, you know, what's it called when you're lumber sexual?

00:12:44.180 It's the idea that you're wearing like a beard and you dress like a...

00:12:47.900 Yeah, I've heard of that phrase.

00:12:49.160 there's another there's another phrase too i don't remember but anyways but the idea that if i just

00:12:55.100 look like i'm manly i smoke pipes and i smoke a cigar and i i drink whiskey those things make me

00:13:00.700 manly we're trying to define manhood with manly things but that does not make you manly the

00:13:05.360 scriptures get to define and determine what it means to be a man and so um but because we don't

00:13:13.080 have men currently who understand their biblical gender role. We have men who are timid. We have

00:13:20.200 men who are fearful to approach women. We have inexperienced leaders who haven't had an opportunity

00:13:28.060 to learn those skills. We have men who are addicted to pornography. We have grown men who play video 0.99

00:13:35.200 games three to four hours a day with or more with their family members, with their families,

00:13:41.660 Like, meaning like their kids and wives are there and they're playing video games obsessively.

00:13:48.220 We have men that go out for guy nights more than they want to do date nights with their own wife.

00:13:53.520 We have men who are not interested in children or fatherhood at all.

00:13:59.120 I mean, the idea of single men being interested in just hanging out with kids is so incredibly rare today.

00:14:06.900 We see it in our community.

00:14:09.380 We have, you know, 17-year-olds that are like, hey, can I hold your baby?

00:14:12.140 Yeah, like they care for, they care about us, they care about our children in a loving way.

00:14:17.320 Not like, hey, can I babysit for you?

00:14:18.880 They don't do things like that.

00:14:19.860 No, but they would just want to be a part, go and play with the kids.

00:14:22.940 Or if they see me, if they see us pulling up to church, they'll come out and say, hey, can we help you?

00:14:27.180 And they'll help us get the kids inside.

00:14:29.420 Yes, there's just a desire to, they're not afraid of kids, they're not intimidated by kids, they actually enjoy kids.

00:14:35.020 and they I think deeply in their heart is they're excited to be fathers at some point

00:14:40.840 we have men who are not leading their families through through the scriptures not studying the

00:14:47.720 word of God we you know they don't make it a priority in their life they're not praying that

00:14:53.860 God would use them we have men that are not being bold about truth in the culture and this is why

00:14:59.660 we've gotten to the place that we are is because men are sitting there quietly what's the quote I

00:15:04.580 think uh from the uh 17 or 1800s i forgot the gentleman who said it um the only thing for evil

00:15:12.740 to prevail in society is for good men to stand by and do nothing and this is exactly what's

00:15:18.720 happening and then in this culture we have no men who are training or teaching other men how to be

00:15:23.460 men and so we have a capitulation of manhood on almost every scale and it's a big deal now it's 0.67

00:15:31.920 fascinating to me that most Christians don't actually recognize the spiritual plot that's

00:15:37.960 unfolding because you got to have eyes to see this stuff in the culture. There is absolutely

00:15:43.100 an agenda that's occurring. It's progressively moving forward in sexuality and in gender roles

00:15:48.780 and all these different things. And you know what? This is just a part of the grand narrative

00:15:53.400 that you even see in Romans chapter one. But we as Christians get to prescribe to or subscribe

00:16:01.600 to the the um bible yeah to the doctrines of the bible there we go thanks for helping me there

00:16:07.280 um but the enemy is good at his job the enemy is really good at his job you got to remember that

00:16:12.300 you got to look closely at these things most people would believe that the gender attacks

00:16:16.500 is centrally focused on the women you know with the idea of um sexual harassment the the the wage

00:16:23.680 gap um uh what are the other equality you know just some of these messages that you're hearing

00:16:29.740 You would think that, man, this is a, the women are being oppressed and, and, you know, the attack is fully on the ladies. Like that's how culture has totally organized and designed it to, to be viewed. And I'm actually in full favor of those pursuits of the idea of like, yeah, equality in the women's pay. Like I'm all for those things.

00:16:50.880 But the idea is that we've painted a picture and a narrative in the culture that the attack is on women.

00:17:00.420 But we have to realize that the enemy is playing smoke and mirrors, and he's good at it.

00:17:04.980 And so while everybody's focusing over here on the, quote, oppression of women, which, again, I'm not saying that there isn't any oppression of women.

00:17:12.720 I'm just saying is that that is like the only focus. 0.62

00:17:15.640 Exactly.

00:17:16.520 It's the sole focus. 0.61

00:17:17.380 we're actually watching the rise of women in society and the utter degradation of men in

00:17:24.720 culture so the men are like silently dying in the background and men are confused they don't know

00:17:31.880 what is to be a man they think it's well and the feminist movement has also made men just look like

00:17:36.820 evil like like they're evil and it's militant that feminist movement is right and it just makes men

00:17:44.600 feel like they're toxic like they're unsafe like they're you know all these things that we're going 0.86

00:17:51.540 to have any type of authority or else it's oppressing a woman yes it's so incredibly

00:17:57.960 effective what's going on so it's actually my belief that the central attack is not on women

00:18:03.900 it's actually on the men now i'm not saying the women aren't attacked because they are but the

00:18:08.460 idea is that i really believe what's going on is that the men are actually under a great attack and

00:18:13.900 why is this important? Because if you take out men, you take out everything. And let me, let me

00:18:21.080 just kind of break this down for you. If you take out men, first thing is that you take out the

00:18:24.660 country's army. And I'm going to back this up here in a second with a real study. But you take out

00:18:30.640 men, you take out the country's ability to protect itself. And this is happening in a variety of

00:18:35.500 countries. It's, it's, it's not happening in all countries, but it's definitely happening in our

00:18:41.600 country. If you take out men, you take out the culture's hard labor. And man, to build things,

00:18:48.300 it takes strength and hard labor. And that's generally, historically, not a women's role or 1.00

00:18:56.060 ideal. There's not many women that are going, man, I'm excited to go be a roofing person. I'm excited

00:19:02.240 to go lay concrete on that commercial building. Like that's not what's going on. But you take out

00:19:06.560 men in terms of just constantly emasculating them. And this is what happens. If you take out

00:19:13.900 men, you take out society's protective services, police and fire. Again, this is just men are

00:19:22.080 designed intrinsically to protect, which we're going to talk about that. You take out men and

00:19:26.320 you start reducing that and actually adding more women in and it changes the effectiveness of those 0.84

00:19:30.900 abilities to protect ourselves to build to protect our citizens if you take out men you take out 0.98

00:19:37.900 husbands and you take out fathers and you take out the roles that they play in keeping society

00:19:42.940 safe and strong and protected and provided for and you take out the holders of logic

00:19:48.740 and reason and fortitude these are three characteristics or values or virtues of

00:19:54.020 manhood that just men naturally have and you take out children and you take out children

00:19:59.460 right so the next generation exactly we're we were just talking about this that 0.85

00:20:04.180 that the only people having kids in the next generation is going to be people who have some

00:20:12.940 type of religion christians muslims mormons yeah and you think about it's called a replacement

00:20:19.860 population we're not going to have a replacement population because people aren't getting married 0.85

00:20:24.040 people aren't having kids and it's it's coming it's coming for changing our culture and our

00:20:29.280 and our country um now a great way to illustrate this idea about men and what they're good at and

00:20:35.880 a lot of people might be going oh but women could do that women could be in the army and women could

00:20:39.160 be police officers and and sure women totally can do those things and some women can but not

00:20:44.180 the majority of women there's actually a few studies that have been done right now that show

00:20:49.260 most women don't want to like the vast majority of women aren't interested in that it is a very

00:20:56.520 very minuscule amount of women that are interested in becoming infantry battle folk in the army like 0.97

00:21:03.900 that's it there i think is two women army rangers in the history of army rangers um and so i i want 0.96

00:21:12.380 to show a study or talk about a study um that was done by the united states marine corps they they

00:21:18.960 were challenged years ago this is like this study was done i think in 2016 but they were they were

00:21:23.940 challenged to uh you know let women start enrolling or enlisting in the army or in the marines and

00:21:32.100 having battle time and the marines were like no uh let's let's talk about this more let's do a

00:21:37.800 study let's do some research on this and they did a fantastic six month extensive battlefield

00:21:44.620 research where they went to a desert and they had a few hundred men and a few hundred women

00:21:51.940 live out in the desert for several months and day after day constant battlefield stimulate or

00:21:59.140 simulation yeah simulation and with i think over a hundred researchers watching different marks

00:22:08.920 live and then several hundred researchers watching the marks through the statistical data

00:22:13.600 And this is the results that came up. The men performed significantly better in every category. Significantly better in every category, including rescuing casualties, target accuracy, strength, speed, pace, determination, leadership under pressure, and calculated decision making.

00:22:40.720 There was actually way more categories than that. 0.66

00:22:43.900 But even the ladies were recognizing this. 1.00

00:22:46.560 They're like, man, like, sure, you might be able to keep up for a day or two, but men

00:22:51.440 are designed, they're bigger, they're stronger.

00:22:54.460 Like one lady even said, man, this man's six foot four and I'm five foot one.

00:22:59.640 The stride distance on my legs just can't keep up with the speed and the pace that these

00:23:06.280 guys can run.

00:23:06.860 And then they didn't even get a chance because they were, you know, this is a simulation, but it shows in battlefield research that men have the ability to see horrific gore terror over and over and over and over again, arms blown off, people dying all around them, the most gory, craziest stuff if you've ever watched a World War II movie, that kind of stuff over and over again for months on end without cracking.

00:23:36.860 where when you put historically, again, there's studies on this that show that when you put a

00:23:41.880 woman in that situation, the emotions, the way that a woman is designed to feel and her instinct

00:23:47.640 is to nurture and to see constantly everything be utterly destroyed is, it weighs down on her 0.91

00:23:55.320 much quicker and she cracks like almost instantly. And so again, this is showing the difference

00:24:02.940 because we're obsessed with everything.

00:24:07.380 The culture is obsessed with all of us being the same.

00:24:11.740 Okay, the culture is obsessed with men and women

00:24:14.180 being identical.

00:24:16.520 And in doing so, we've stripped away the chance 0.95

00:24:18.760 of ever celebrating what makes one gender greater 0.91

00:24:22.340 in certain areas than the other. 0.97

00:24:24.300 And we're concerned that women might be better 0.69

00:24:26.480 at some things than men.

00:24:28.320 I don't think that many men are actually concerned with that,

00:24:30.300 but that could be a thing. 0.71

00:24:32.460 But we are offended that men might be better at something than women.

00:24:37.180 That is absolutely felt, at least as a man today, that women are just out there trying to do the exact same thing as men. 0.82

00:24:45.180 And they can't admit the fact that, you know what, men are actually better at these things.

00:24:48.860 I think men generally would agree the things that women are good at. 0.51

00:24:53.400 And they don't want to be better nurturers. 0.56

00:24:55.820 They just accept the fact that they can nurture.

00:24:58.100 but in reality my wife has a far greater ability naturally to do that than I than I do

00:25:04.600 yes so getting back into this and so the bottom line is that we're not the same we're not the

00:25:13.400 same and I wanted to just open up this whole time before we get into the scriptures about this idea

00:25:19.360 that we're not the same men and women are both made in God's image we're both equally valuable

00:25:23.060 before the cross, but we have different roles, intrinsically different roles. And to show you

00:25:30.580 just some of the attacks that are happening on manhood, I could list these off for an hour if I

00:25:36.800 just took the time to research them, but I saw many of them. I just don't have the time to do

00:25:40.800 this in this podcast. The American Psychological Association has declared, quote, traditional

00:25:47.720 masculinity is psychologically harmful okay that's that's a real quote um traditional masculinity

00:25:54.340 which it's just another way of saying biblical masculinity um is psychologically harmful last

00:26:01.460 year if you guys remember the boy scouts capitulated to the culture i was a boy scout

00:26:06.260 uh my whole childhood yeah and and watch that it was a it was a great organization

00:26:13.560 and they now allow any gender to be in the boy scouts under their new name the scouts and it's

00:26:22.980 not the boy scouts and i want to just show you something real quick when the girl scouts were

00:26:26.260 asked if they were going to make the same adjustments to allow boys to enter into the

00:26:31.600 girl scouts here's what the girl scouts ceo responded with she said and i quote girl scouts

00:26:37.600 is the best girl leadership organization in the world created with and for girls. We believe

00:26:43.340 strongly in the importance of the all girl girl led and girl friendly environment that the Girl

00:26:48.620 Scouts provide, which creates a free space for girls to learn and thrive. The benefit of the

00:26:53.860 single gender environment has been well documented by educators, scholars, other girl and youth

00:26:59.360 serving organizations and Girl Scouts and their families. Girl Scouts offer a one of a kind

00:27:04.640 experience for girls with a program tailored specifically to their unique developmental

00:27:09.360 needs. They didn't, they're, they just stood up for, I go with, awesome. Yeah. She's unwavering.

00:27:16.120 She's unwavering where we have the Boy Scouts who are just a bunch of wimps, timid and allowing the

00:27:21.380 culture to push them around. And now again, the fall of boys, Boy Scouts was an incredible

00:27:26.340 organization to train up what it means. You loved it. I loved it. And it was actually heavily

00:27:31.120 connected to god the the actual phrases that you say as as you know you learn these different creeds

00:27:37.800 and statements as a boy scout include god in there and again this is all being and it was also a lot

00:27:43.060 of training on being a man on being a man and being a provider and being a protector you know

00:27:48.680 and having leadership and you know the only one of the only civilian um uh i guess awards or ranks

00:27:59.020 that you can actually carry on a military uniform is the Eagle Scout rank. And so you could walk in

00:28:06.200 as a, as a, you know, a Marine and put your Eagle Scout rank on your military uniform. That's a

00:28:12.940 pretty big statement. That's how much the Boy Scouts were viewed as a great developmental place

00:28:19.060 for men. So I think what you're getting at is that we need to give today's men a little bit

00:28:26.160 more grace they have a lot working against them um yes they need some training yes they need to

00:28:32.500 mature they need to grow up uh yes they need to stop behaving like boys um but they also need

00:28:38.940 respect and you can i can even see that in my young boys um in training them and disciplining

00:28:45.540 them is that they need to feel respected still um even though they're one and a half and just

00:28:52.000 turn three yeah um they also need to be encouraged i i know our middle son honor is a he seems like

00:29:00.940 a words of affirmation boy that's what we're thinking and he needs to be encouraged he needs

00:29:05.680 to be told um that he's cool and told that he's working hard and he's doing a great job and he

00:29:13.400 just needs he needs those affirmations well the default for men in their flesh is passivity and

00:29:20.060 so encouraging them is so important yeah even last night we were having a bonfire outside with

00:29:25.620 a couple of friends and honor picked up the fire poker and he's poking the fire and i was like hey

00:29:30.940 man thanks for stoking that fire for us and keeping us warm yes like things like that and

00:29:35.440 you can just see his little face light up and his chest puff up and he just felt like a like a big

00:29:40.540 boy yep providing he's really proud of himself yep um so yeah and but again they also need to

00:29:45.740 be told how proud we are of them um and how safe we feel with them and how much we appreciate them

00:29:51.400 so again like just that example last night you know our son is three but he you can just see

00:29:57.080 him his posture change when you give those things to him yeah and how sexy we are

00:30:02.960 i said how sexy we are i guess as men not three-year-old boys

00:30:09.120 oh veronica was so funny her face right there was so confused what

00:30:12.340 so uh yeah so this is good the the the she's still laughing over here so the culture is on

00:30:22.340 a pilgrimage toward the removal of um masculinity and um i actually wrote a an instagram post i

00:30:31.500 want to read real quick um that i want to share because it's it's i wrote it to my sons um and

00:30:38.380 i'll give it to them you know one day when they can read um but it's a message that i think will

00:30:45.320 reign true in your own home especially if you have boys in your household uh or if you're a

00:30:51.560 man listening to this now um i wrote son this culture is on a journey to remove a journey of

00:30:59.800 the removal of your masculine value to many your strength and your fortitude and your bravery and

00:31:05.340 your leadership will be viewed as a violent liability.

00:31:09.400 People will work to convince you that your God-given instincts are dangerous

00:31:13.320 and must be subdued to some form of docility.

00:31:17.340 Son, in the years to come, you will see men labor to outdo one another

00:31:21.560 in becoming more feminine. 0.97

00:31:24.000 Let their perverse denial of God's design for themselves fall off your back.

00:31:28.680 The good Lord has planted in you the richness of manhood.

00:31:32.180 He has knitted you male in your mother's womb.

00:31:35.340 He has called you to the body and biology of which you were given.

00:31:39.000 Son, in the future, men will be viewed as unsafe, and there are many who are.

00:31:44.720 Therefore, you must work in the extreme to prove otherwise.

00:31:48.200 You must show the world the power of masculinity when it's linked with God's righteousness.

00:31:53.320 You must represent humility and integrity and honor with every heartbeat you have.

00:31:59.480 You must walk not in the way of the wicked, but under the authority of the Holy Spirit.

00:32:04.620 Son, one day you will be a man, a fighter, a protector, a provider,

00:32:08.600 but most of all, a follower of the world's greatest man, Jesus Christ.

00:32:13.720 And so this is the narrative that is important to recognize,

00:32:20.340 especially as parents, that, man, our kids, our boys,

00:32:25.660 are growing up in a far more hostile culture than we did.

00:32:31.660 It was still encouraged when I was a little boy, you had to go be brave and to go explore and to, and to even, you know, defend yourself, go fight that kid who keeps pushing you around. Like that was the kind of culture that I grew up in. I got in a bunch of fistfights when I was a little kid.

00:32:47.640 um i was i had a lot of freedom um to to uh to kind of be a leader of my own even as a boy

00:32:56.260 um i got spanked you know there was just that discipline and you know my dad would would would

00:33:03.700 teach me what it means to do manly things as a very young boy and i just think that that's been

00:33:08.720 missing and going away uh in today's culture and so we talked about at the end of that statement

00:33:14.980 is that what is the world's greatest man?

00:33:18.400 Well, that's Jesus Christ.

00:33:19.600 And I want to break down in this session,

00:33:23.320 as the opening part one of this series,

00:33:25.460 what are the core characteristics of Jesus?

00:33:28.460 And then we're going to talk about really what is biblical manhood

00:33:33.740 according to the scriptures.

00:33:35.840 And so if I look at Jesus, I think about three things.

00:33:41.000 If I just had to embody him with three virtues,

00:33:43.820 I would just in terms of order of importance

00:33:49.000 I think the first one is that he's loving

00:33:50.820 and so first and foremost if you're a man and you're not loving

00:33:54.400 then you're not following Jesus

00:33:55.860 and so a man must be loving

00:33:59.600 now that can sound feminine 0.82

00:34:01.980 and it's perception here in culture today 1.00

00:34:05.380 but it's not

00:34:06.960 loving is often speaking the truth

00:34:09.200 to people who need to hear it

00:34:12.040 Even if it feels mean, it's actually unloving to not speak the truth.

00:34:17.400 And loving also might mean, yeah, cuddling with your son when he needs someone to confide in.

00:34:25.360 But we must be loving.

00:34:27.340 The second characteristic of Jesus is that he's truthful, utterly truthful.

00:34:33.040 He rejoices in the truth.

00:34:35.440 He isn't ashamed of the truth.

00:34:38.800 He is bold with the truth.

00:34:42.040 but he does it in love, but he is loving, he is truthful, and then in the third one, if I had to

00:34:48.460 put the top three characteristics of Jesus, I would say he is humble. So even though he is

00:34:53.680 incredibly loving, incredibly truthful, he's also incredibly humble to the point of death,

00:34:59.660 and I think that shows this servant leadership element that we're going to talk about here in

00:35:06.180 a second. Now, there's three characteristics of a man, the three, I guess, manifestations of a man.

00:35:11.740 There's just general manhood, there's husbandry, and there's fatherhood.

00:35:16.020 And so those are the three kind of, I guess, relational applications of what it means to be a man in society.

00:35:21.100 And so you get to be loving, truthful, and humble in all three of those.

00:35:24.920 Now, men have an intrinsic, I mean, I believe that it's divine.

00:35:30.340 I believe it's part of God's image.

00:35:32.340 When Adam and Eve, when Adam was created, he was created in God's image.

00:35:36.580 and this idea I believe is

00:35:40.260 when he's saying that

00:35:42.840 the parts of us generally as men

00:35:46.300 are part of God's image

00:35:48.220 the desire to lead

00:35:50.220 is divinely intrinsic

00:35:53.320 the desire to provide

00:35:56.720 no one can put an argument together

00:35:59.300 that men aren't good at providing

00:36:01.140 they're great at it

00:36:02.460 and that is something that's intrinsically

00:36:05.580 there divinely given men just want to provide um and the third thing is that men want to protect

00:36:14.400 they are so naturally designed as protectors we are just in it um to to to do that and so

00:36:24.000 the the idea of the three areas again lead provide and protect those are like the three

00:36:29.900 intrinsic areas of God's image that I believe men are absolutely created for. Now, the best

00:36:37.180 versions of those, the best versions means that you're a servant leader.

00:36:43.460 That means that you're a selfless provider and that you're a sacrificial protector,

00:36:49.780 even to the point of giving your own life up for those that you love. And so those are the

00:36:54.320 extended versions of those. There's lots of men that are terrible men who are leading horribly,

00:37:00.600 providing for themselves and neglecting people, and protecting only the things they care about

00:37:05.680 while neglecting the things that they should be caring about. There's terrible men that are doing

00:37:09.800 that. But the best men, godly men, when linked together with love, truth, and humility, they will

00:37:14.680 be servant leaders who are selfless in the way that they provide and sacrificial in the way that

00:37:18.680 they protect. And we do not see, this is an important point, we do not see the weight of

00:37:28.980 leadership providing and protecting resting on the shoulders of women in scripture. It's just

00:37:35.120 not there. Now, is there the rare exception of descriptive elements of which a woman has maybe

00:37:43.740 once or twice in the scriptures been described as doing some of these things yeah but we're not

00:37:50.640 going to take the incredibly rare exception and and description of what occurred and make it the

00:37:57.160 doctrines of how women should be for all women that that's not what we're going to do and so

00:38:04.140 i just want to clarify that ladies allow the men to do these things um they are built for it and 1.00

00:38:10.960 ladies, don't feel like you need to go do those things. You're not built for those things. The 1.00

00:38:17.420 scriptures would be a difficult argument to put together on saying that, man, I am designed to be

00:38:22.760 a protector and a provider and a leader of, you know, like, does it mean that you can't lead?

00:38:28.100 No, you can lead. You're going to be leading your home. Absolutely. In terms of those children and

00:38:31.860 the environment that you're creating there. And also maybe other women. Are you called to protect 1.00

00:38:37.020 kids, absolutely. Hear what I'm saying. Don't mince my words into something that I'm not.

00:38:42.920 So I want to talk about breaking this down. And I know we're going a little long today, so

00:38:50.980 hopefully this is enjoyable for you guys. But I think that this leadership structure,

00:38:57.080 what a man is, I think is probably best wrapped up in the qualifications of what it means to be

00:39:02.640 elder in scripture. And we're going to look at first Timothy chapter three in a minute. And this

00:39:08.400 is God's leadership structure for the church, which means that it's indicative and suggestive

00:39:14.100 for sure of the highest mark of a man, of a man's character. That that's what it is. And so if you

00:39:22.020 want to know what a biblical man is and how it's defined, I really think this text does a really

00:39:26.860 good job. And so Veronica is going to read that. First Timothy chapter three, verse two through

00:39:31.320 7 therefore an elder must be above reproach the husband of one wife sober-minded self-controlled

00:39:37.460 respectable hospitable able to teach not a drunkard not violent but gentle not quarrelsome

00:39:43.940 not a lover of money he must manage his own household well with all dignity keeping his

00:39:49.360 children submissive for if someone does not know how to manage his own household how will he care

00:39:53.880 for god's church he must not be a recent convert he or he may become puffed up with conceit and

00:40:02.540 fall into the condemnation of the devil moreover he must be well thought of by outsiders so that

00:40:10.120 he may not fail to fall to sorry fall into disgrace into a snare of the devil good job

00:40:16.640 kind of so there's there's uh there's really only two governing roles in the new testament

00:40:25.020 for the church and it's elders and deacons and they're incredibly similar the only difference

00:40:30.860 really is that the elders are required to be apt to teach or able to teach and the deacons aren't

00:40:36.840 and so that's the text just kind of give you some background but this again it's like this is what

00:40:42.520 the mark of like the godliest man the the descriptions and instructions of how to become

00:40:48.500 what god says is a qualified overseer for his people and so this has got to be a great place

00:40:58.040 to start and looking at what is the qualities of a biblical man and so i'm going to walk you

00:41:04.920 through these there's 15 there's 15 of them if there's like if you're in the i forgot which

00:41:11.580 version it is it might be translated into like 14 or sometimes even a 16 i feel like king james

00:41:15.900 version might break some of them up but i've i've got about 15 here and so i'm just going to

00:41:21.760 briefly walk through these qualifications here and then we'll wrap up and i think next session

00:41:27.620 we'll have a better banter back and forth so veronica will be more involved um so the first

00:41:34.540 thing is the first sentence is therefore an elder must be above reproach. And so the other word that

00:41:44.680 you'll see in maybe your translation is blameless. And the idea is that it's a person against whom

00:41:50.500 no evil can be proved. They walk in such a way that they're innocent. They're so careful with

00:42:00.480 what they say, with how they walk, that there's nothing to be blamed for, that they're actually

00:42:06.700 protecting their reputation and how they're viewed. They walk in such a way that it would

00:42:12.820 be so out of character for them to be blamed for something that is sinful. It doesn't mean that

00:42:21.940 these people are perfect, but I'm just saying is that that's generally the character requirement

00:42:26.480 is that, man, they are blameless.

00:42:29.300 They're above reproach in the way that they live.

00:42:31.900 The next thing is the husband of one wife.

00:42:35.240 Well, this is implying that first he should be married.

00:42:38.260 So guys, stop doing the four-year dating thing.

00:42:44.200 Go get married, okay?

00:42:45.820 A lot of men don't realize that if you want to lead in the church,

00:42:49.760 doesn't mean they can't be a Bible teacher,

00:42:51.580 doesn't mean they can't be evangelist,

00:42:52.780 doesn't mean that you can't be pastoral in some capacity.

00:42:55.620 but if you want to lead in the church that is directly tied to your being married and having

00:43:02.060 kids so every year you push that back out of fear or whatever reason you're also pushing back your

00:43:07.780 timeline on walking into leadership and the lord's timing in the church so he's married and this the

00:43:16.220 husband of one wife this isn't necessarily in my opinion talking about polygamy I don't think this

00:43:19.680 was an issue going on at the time. What he's talking about married to one wife is that you've

00:43:25.620 not been divorced. You've actually been faithful that you haven't had two or three wives. Now,

00:43:31.960 if your wife passes away, that's different. But you're not on a multiple wife streak. You've

00:43:38.100 learned what it means to be faithful. You can teach others how to be a faithful husband because

00:43:42.380 you have been a faithful husband. And again, this is what a godly biblical man looks like.

00:43:49.680 And this is our things that we as men need to be reminded of.

00:43:54.160 Sober minded is the next one.

00:43:56.000 This is vigilant is the other word that it's translated into watchful.

00:44:00.680 You're a protector.

00:44:02.160 You're constantly looking at the undertones.

00:44:05.160 There's many things in our marriage that, and this actually goes both ways,

00:44:09.400 but there's many things that I've seen in our marriage that Veronica doesn't see.

00:44:16.940 And I go, hey, I don't think we should do that.

00:44:19.120 I don't think you should do that.

00:44:20.700 And then there's things that Veronica sees, 0.97

00:44:23.940 maybe emotional advances from other women

00:44:26.620 that I don't even recognize.

00:44:28.360 She'll say, I think you should be careful 1.00

00:44:30.020 with that woman over there. 0.99

00:44:32.240 And in ministry, you have that.

00:44:33.760 So there's just a leaning on that.

00:44:36.440 But I'm watchful in a different way.

00:44:39.160 I'm watching a lot over her spiritual side

00:44:42.800 and her physical body,

00:44:45.640 meaning that I want her to protect herself 1.00

00:44:47.460 through um maybe how she dresses i also want her to be able to protect herself physically in 0.93

00:44:52.500 confrontation she's a whopping 5'1 98 pound woman and and so but that just is a desire be vigilant

00:45:01.040 but this is talking specifically about um watchful over spiritual matters yeah i mean there have been

00:45:08.700 times where even and we're i'm pretty careful with the books that we bring into the house for

00:45:13.880 the kids um but there have even been times where one of them will get past me and i don't think

00:45:17.980 anything of it and you'll go and pick it up and read it to the kids and you're like throw this in

00:45:22.440 the fireplace yeah there's been i'm just like what why i don't i didn't see it and then you'll

00:45:26.400 expand i'm just like oh i didn't even see that okay there's books that we we had bought a book

00:45:31.720 and it was had a a frog yeah yeah it was a frog ultimately wanting to become all these other

00:45:38.780 things and not really be enjoying who he really was and it was this kind of acceptance of like

00:45:43.820 you could be whoever you want to be you know idea which is very popular in the culture and i same

00:45:49.660 with the movies we watch man there's some undertones of the movies oh yeah create your own

00:45:53.300 truth like all these kind of things that my my red flags start going way off um and so do veronica's

00:45:59.560 because she you know i think we've we've learned over the years how incredibly and i'm a little bit

00:46:04.280 more logical than i think most most women are anyway i mean i definitely have my emotional

00:46:09.060 side as well but i think i'm just i naturally go more that way too yeah and so it's just been

00:46:14.580 it's been one of those things that we have to be watchful as men and that is something that is

00:46:20.340 good and god wants us to be those things um it also means that you're logical uh you're level

00:46:27.780 headed you're not being emotionally driven in your decision making like this is these are good

00:46:33.660 things ladies to have in your boys make it so they're going to be logical now sure every man 1.00

00:46:40.880 needs to learn how to have a conversation and how to be emotionally sensitive to his wife in the 1.00

00:46:46.240 midst of her crying you need to learn how to do that too but at the end of the day you they need

00:46:51.400 to be rewarded and applauded in their ability to be logical and unfeeling in some things and

00:46:59.400 And the next thing is respectable. Sober minded is internal, which we just talked about. Respectable is actually talking, how I determine the text, is external. So it's talking about the external appearance of you. You know, it's sometimes translated as good behavior.

00:47:17.740 It means that you're careful and loving with others, the way that you treat people.

00:47:23.540 You appear to be managed and not inconsistent.

00:47:27.660 You're dependable and reliable.

00:47:29.620 You're respectable, proper, prudent in these ways.

00:47:32.900 You don't dress certain ways.

00:47:35.220 Like, I really care.

00:47:37.680 Like, when I'm going out, if I'm going to somewhere to meet somebody, I do care about how I dress, how I appear.

00:47:43.700 And it's not necessarily because I want them to like me.

00:47:49.020 No, it's because there is an expectation in society of what a respectable man, how they dress, how they care for themselves.

00:47:55.700 And I want to meet that expectation.

00:47:59.300 And it might be a suit if you're going to a place that suits are the expectation.

00:48:05.040 It might just be a colored shirt in most places for me.

00:48:07.940 But when you're going out in front of people, those kind of things are important to think about as a man.

00:48:13.700 um hospitable i think this is uh something that you would think is a feminine characteristic

00:48:21.440 but the word hospitable literally means a lover of strangers and do you love strangers do you

00:48:28.680 love just talking to people and meeting people and accepting people the the word hospitality

00:48:34.620 is actually defined as showing people their worth.

00:48:40.120 And do you love doing that?

00:48:42.720 Are you given to hospitality is what this passage says, given to it.

00:48:46.360 Man, I just love having people over and making them feel good,

00:48:50.480 realizing the value that they have before the Lord and in the scriptures.

00:48:54.480 And that's something that we need to nurture as men

00:48:57.340 and what it means to be a biblical man.

00:49:00.340 The next is able to teach.

00:49:02.200 guys this is this is um part of an elder not everybody has the gift of teaching in terms of

00:49:10.380 a spiritual gift because you're going to be a communicator of god's truth on a on a platform

00:49:15.060 however all men need to be able to teach their wives and their children the word of god and so

00:49:23.180 it means that not only you're wise by yourself but you're ready to communicate your wisdom to others

00:49:28.680 and it you're actually delighted to do that that you want to pass down that wisdom you've got to

00:49:36.420 teach the next generation what it means to be a man i'm not a drunkard i don't think i need to

00:49:42.080 explain that but you're you're not getting drunk if you're having a substance problem

00:49:47.460 then that is a self-control problem and you're not walking out what it means to be a man

00:49:53.520 not violent you don't have an anger problem you are self-controlled we all get angry

00:49:59.580 but there's a difference between someone who has a who acts out in their anger yeah and has can

00:50:06.380 control it yeah and creates a place of fear for people not quarrelsome or contentious

00:50:14.120 not looking for these are people that are not looking for an argument um they're not looking

00:50:20.800 to be defensive.

00:50:25.300 They're looking for peace.

00:50:27.300 That is one of the fruits

00:50:30.360 of a godly man

00:50:32.340 is that you're not looking for contention.

00:50:33.560 You're not striving.

00:50:35.420 You're just allowing the Holy Spirit

00:50:38.160 to do the convicting

00:50:39.040 and the lifting

00:50:40.060 in someone else's life

00:50:41.500 and you're just there

00:50:42.820 to be faithful with God's word.

00:50:44.640 You don't need to strive.

00:50:45.780 You don't need to be quarrelsome

00:50:47.040 with someone.

00:50:48.960 Not a lover of money.

00:50:50.800 He's about the mission and not the money, okay?

00:50:54.360 It's about the mission and not the money.

00:50:56.020 He knows that treasure in heaven is far more valuable than building wealth here on earth.

00:51:01.960 And he does not have an issue with materialism or workaholism.

00:51:05.780 And I have had a problem with workaholism in the past.

00:51:08.980 And I know what it's like to, you might not say it's a lover of money,

00:51:12.580 but it's a misprioritization for sure at the very least.

00:51:18.380 and that is not the mark of a biblical man he's not a workaholic now if he needs to work to

00:51:25.600 provide he will work until those needs are met but the idea of workaholism is different more than

00:51:32.300 that he's generous he's frugal with his money he's he cares for those things properly he's not

00:51:39.680 going into debt for things that he doesn't need that's not what a man does and then it moves into

00:51:46.120 this transition of managing his own household well so again we know that he's married and now

00:51:53.420 he has a household i think it'd be hard to argue that his household is just him and his wife

00:51:57.660 it's it also references children here so this is again why elders need to be married and why elders

00:52:03.600 need to be fathers because it says must manage his own household well and if you can't manage

00:52:10.780 your own household well how can you manage the house of god the idea is is that man if you want

00:52:14.900 to be an overseer or a shepherd or a bishop, whatever word you want to use, you can't really

00:52:19.880 help people in their marriage and in their parenting if you have a puppy. Okay, like that's

00:52:26.820 what's going on. But people say, oh, but wait, isn't Paul, Paul, Paul wasn't married. Paul was,

00:52:32.140 no, Paul never calls himself an elder. Paul calls himself an apostle. He calls himself an evangelist.

00:52:37.900 He calls himself a preacher. Paul never calls himself an elder. Paul's an apostle. He's way

00:52:42.680 above elder. And Jesus wasn't married. Well, yeah, Jesus wasn't married, but you know that he

00:52:47.760 is getting married, right? And Jesus wasn't an elder either. Jesus is God. And so these are the

00:52:55.880 roles for humans with not capital A apostolic ministries. And so I just wanted to clarify that

00:53:03.240 point for anybody that wants to think about that. Now, he's a father. This means implied leadership.

00:53:08.060 He manages his own household well.

00:53:10.360 He's the manager of his home.

00:53:13.360 That's what's going on.

00:53:15.120 Men, you're called to be the managers of your home.

00:53:17.100 Are you doing that? 0.81

00:53:18.400 Now, when I'm gone, Veronica manages the home.

00:53:21.540 But when I get home, I'm the head of the household.

00:53:24.240 That's just how that works.

00:53:25.940 And it's great. 0.98

00:53:27.340 Veronica gets a break from leading in that capacity.

00:53:30.040 And I get to take on that role.

00:53:31.680 But I lead after coming to you and asking you what your goals are for.

00:53:38.060 home and i do that what is the word i don't know keep thinking execute oh they execute that yeah

00:53:46.480 household while you're not there yeah so veronica comes to me often and asks me hey how do you want

00:53:51.440 this things these things done or she checks for my counsel now there's a lot of things that she

00:53:55.260 just knows how i will want it and she'll come up with those things and it's not every tiny little

00:54:00.200 thing oh no i'm we don't have these conversations often it's the main mission the main big things

00:54:06.120 uh that happen in our home um and yeah if you can't properly govern your own household how can

00:54:12.460 you govern the matters of the church this is the rhetorical question that paul asks when he writes

00:54:16.720 this um and then i have two more points here um he's not a recent convert now this is talking

00:54:22.640 about an elder um and that's important but what he's what i really want to draw the attention to

00:54:27.140 is that this is a call to maturity like a recent convert means that you're immature you don't stay

00:54:32.500 there. You need to grow up in your understanding of God. Men, if you've been a Christian for over

00:54:39.640 a year and you still haven't figured out how to get a quiet time with the Lord or to read the

00:54:45.100 scriptures on a regular basis or to have conversations about God with your friends or

00:54:50.520 your prayer life extending or your righteousness and holiness is not continuing to grow, then you

00:54:55.880 got a problem this is maturity means a call to growing and it's a progressive work and the reason

00:55:04.820 there's a call to maturity especially around this idea of an elder Titus 1 9 which is another

00:55:09.820 chapter that talks about eldership it says and I quote in verse 9 holding fast to the faithful

00:55:16.800 word as he has been taught that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and convict those

00:55:23.660 who contradict it. And so the idea is that you need to know the word so that you can exhort and

00:55:30.780 convict those who contradict the word of God. That's an important role of a man to do, especially

00:55:38.340 one who is a shepherd, especially one in which we are all shepherds of our own home and our own

00:55:44.540 families. The last thing, men, pay attention, of what it means to be a biblical man is that your

00:55:53.040 thought well of by outsiders now you have a good reputation i think is what this is saying

00:55:59.960 is that you might not be liked but you're respected and there are i think there's a

00:56:08.060 clear distinction about what that looks like there are people that very much dislike ravi

00:56:15.340 zacharias but it's pretty hard to not respect him because he's a mature godly older man

00:56:22.700 um same with john piper and john macarthur and tim keller and you know paul washer and the list

00:56:31.540 goes on there these men are respectable now they still might get killed for their faith

00:56:36.780 i think jesus was absolutely respectable and he still got killed

00:56:40.320 but the reality is is that you are aiming to be liked you're a peacemaker um and uh

00:56:49.740 And this is something that a reputation is really important.

00:56:55.120 I think that Warren Buffett said that statement that it takes 25 years to build a good reputation and 25 seconds to lose it.

00:57:06.620 And so you work very hard to protect your reputation.

00:57:09.980 King David says that a good name is greater than gold or silver.

00:57:13.440 and so this is what we work towards is building a good reputation in society inside the church

00:57:20.080 and outside the church yeah and sadly so many men today doesn't even know what this looks like

00:57:27.540 they've never been taught it they've never seen a man like this they have no reference point

00:57:33.340 i guess you do and that would be the scriptures yeah but your reference point but like i don't

00:57:38.300 think i met anyone like this till i was 25 yeah and talk about how meeting men like this was how

00:57:45.640 that how'd that make you feel what was it like even from a woman's perspective uh it was like

00:57:50.660 it was a breath of fresh air it was um it was security not necessarily through them but they're

00:57:58.800 knowing that these men were teaching you um it brought a lot of comfort yeah yeah it makes you

00:58:05.920 feel and it also took some weight off me in a weird way not that you you've never put the weight

00:58:12.000 on me to provide for our household or do things like that but um i don't know it's just in other

00:58:18.920 ways i guess took the weight i felt like a weight was lifted yeah yeah there's and i think you know

00:58:25.160 we we were just shocked that wow men like this do exist well especially coming from southern

00:58:29.280 california we just never met anybody like this we never seen families operate like this we never

00:58:34.320 seen kids operate like this and so for us when we finally got a chance to meet men like this

00:58:40.120 who were training us to become men like that yeah i felt very honored and like grateful and

00:58:48.020 i remember just like praying and being like god why us like why do we get this opportunity

00:58:53.160 i mean thank you i'm so grateful for it but this is so so rare um and we didn't know anybody who

00:58:59.820 had had relationships like that and the importance of why we need men like this is because

00:59:05.180 women will be led by men historically that is shown women actually will admit even people who

00:59:13.800 are cultural will admit that they would really enjoy a man who leads and cares for them and 0.71

00:59:20.180 loves for them most women are actually homesick and hungry for a man to care and love for them

00:59:26.200 but men historically will not follow women.

00:59:30.620 And that's why it's so important that what men do is they just shut down.

00:59:36.300 They divide.

00:59:38.940 And there's actually so much on this.

00:59:42.620 Man, I wish I could talk more about it, but this is already a long show.

00:59:45.400 But the point is this.

00:59:46.620 This is why it's so important that we get men walking in biblical manhood

00:59:51.440 because it really is the central starting point

00:59:55.580 for repairing the family,

00:59:57.440 for repairing the home,

00:59:58.720 for repairing society. 0.98

00:59:59.740 If the men go totally passive and check out

01:00:03.280 and just check into pornography

01:00:05.120 for their sexual needs and desires, 0.99

01:00:07.420 sleep around like no leadership, 0.98

01:00:10.240 like man, it's just a fall on society.

01:00:14.640 So we will wrap up.

01:00:17.860 Long show, good content hopefully for you guys.

01:00:21.440 and next week we'll dive more into the scriptures about what it means to be a man this week was

01:00:27.200 mostly more about the cultural attacks on men and to help you open your eyes to that in case you

01:00:33.800 haven't seen that yes and and to not think that this isn't in the church man because it totally

01:00:38.760 is it totally is so again if you guys would leave us a review uh this would be very helpful and you

01:00:44.580 guys can listen to this um again we talked about on youtube or google play or spotify all those

01:00:49.840 places are available so thank you guys so much for listening to me talk way too much today

01:00:55.320 and not enough veronica but um i'm okay with that yeah yeah she's the she she enjoys the

01:01:01.860 sitting back and listening so um thanks guys and we will see you next week see ya

Dale Partridge - March 27, 2019

Real Christianity #38： What is a Biblical Man？ Part 1

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