Dale Partridge - Real Christianity #61： 8 Simple Steps For Becoming the Spiritual Leader of Your Home

00:00:00.080 Welcome to Real Christianity. Today we are talking about eight simple steps for becoming the spiritual leader of your home.

00:00:07.020 I have done an episode, or I should say I've talked about it in an episode that we did in a Q&A maybe 20 or 30 episodes ago.

00:00:16.040 We briefly touched on this topic, but I think this is such an important conversation.

00:00:21.520 We have so many wives and husbands ask us, what does it mean to be the spiritual leader of the home?

00:00:27.180 So we're going to be talking about that.

00:00:28.600 I'm going to share my personal eight-step process that I think has been very fruitful in our family.

00:00:35.320 And it's really practical.

00:00:37.240 And I think that's what's important.

00:00:39.000 Five steps are daily.

00:00:41.000 Three steps are weekly.

00:00:42.840 And so we're going to break that down here in a minute.

00:00:45.660 Yes.

00:00:46.200 And ladies, if you're listening, we also have a podcast that might help you help your husband be a better spiritual leader.

00:00:54.240 It's episode number four titled how a wife can motivate her husband to be the spiritual leader

00:00:59.260 And it is one of our more popular episodes and might be worth listening to if you haven't listened to it yet

00:01:05.620 Yeah, there

00:01:06.760 There are a handful of episodes that have

00:01:09.220 You know lots of downloads and that was one of them

00:01:12.640 Because again, I think it's such a pain point for so many people

00:01:16.120 That they a wife wants to know how can I get my husband to be a spiritual leader and the men?

00:01:21.920 I think just want to know how to do it. So we're going to talk about that today. But first I have 0.97

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00:02:40.400 couples that are biblically centered and want to build a great marriage and you can also do it as

00:02:46.080 an individual couple or you can do it in a small group and i think the small group structure we

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00:02:57.260 in a small group i think that's going to be a really popular setup we already have couples that

00:03:01.320 yeah we have quite a few people who just do bible study small groups off of just listening to our

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00:04:37.800 donate and we would appreciate that so we're going to get started all right so i think that

00:04:45.960 today's conversation is more important than people realize even when you talk to some of

00:04:52.200 our friends who grew up in the church and grew up in christian homes they often talk about how

00:04:57.940 their mother played the role of spiritual leader in their house and for many of those people that

00:05:04.240 trend seems to kind of continue on into their own marriage and what we have learned is that many

00:05:12.160 couples don't know what it even looks like to have a husband that leads the family and does

00:05:19.880 that mean you know a lot of people wonder does that mean that he prays at dinner or does that

00:05:24.520 mean he reads the bible to me or to our family what does this really look like yeah and we've

00:05:30.680 seen this so many times where if you are in a family that you were raised where mom was the

00:05:35.860 spiritual leader and that's the wife in the relationship it almost always reproduces itself

00:05:43.920 in the marriage where you now have another woman who is acting just like her mom did because that's

00:05:48.540 the example that she had and there are unique circumstances you know dad passed away when you

00:05:54.280 or young, whatever it is. But we're not talking about the unique circumstances here.

00:05:59.240 Yeah, we're talking about the general rule of thumb. So first, before we kind of get started,

00:06:03.880 I'm going to get some scripture out in front of us. And I think it's important just to kind of

00:06:08.800 understand the reason the husband is called to be the spiritual leader and the reason the wife is

00:06:15.320 called to follow that leadership. So we're going to be looking at Ephesians 5, 22 through 27. It's

00:06:21.280 a passage we've read several times on the podcast. We're going to kind of give you a quick refresher

00:06:25.400 and then we are going to move into the eight-step process. So just bear with us. We're going to do

00:06:30.680 some little preface work here and then we're going to dive into that process. So starting off in

00:06:36.500 Ephesians 5, 22 through 27, it says, Wives, submit to your own husbands, not every man,

00:06:42.700 to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ

00:06:48.300 is the head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject

00:06:53.360 to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives

00:06:59.400 just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her, that he might sanctify and cleanse her

00:07:03.940 with the washing of water by the word, that he might present her to himself a glorious church,

00:07:08.940 not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

00:07:15.180 okay such a critical passage i i always recommend couples just to memorize this passage of scripture

00:07:22.860 i've done it several times um i feel like i got it about 80 right now but uh it's something that

00:07:29.000 you just have to kind of keep fresh on your mind it's the pattern and model for biblical christian

00:07:33.720 marriage so the role of the wife is to submit the duty of the husband is to love okay i'm going to

00:07:40.860 say that again the role of the wife in this passage is to submit to her own husband's leadership but

00:07:45.000 the role or the duty of the husband is to love. And we don't have time to walk into and just the

00:07:52.320 deep conversation around submission and headship and leadership. But I'm going to briefly define

00:07:57.260 submission as this idea of falling under one mission. So ladies, when you hear the word

00:08:03.760 submission, think about it as falling under one mission in terms of falling under the authority

00:08:11.300 structure that God has in place for your family. Yeah. And I often remind wives that I don't

00:08:19.620 follow Dale because Dale said so. You've actually never told me that. I follow Dale because Christ

00:08:26.320 said so. And by me submitting to Dale, by me following Dale, I'm actually falling in line

00:08:32.600 with God's authoritative structure. Yeah. And this is what fuels my desire for Dale to lead our

00:08:39.000 family and actually restricts my desire to walk independently. Yeah. It's, it's her wanting to,

00:08:45.800 again, this idea of falling under the mission, uh, or, or just the, the unified authority

00:08:51.140 structure that God has put in place. It's called derived authority in theology circles. This idea

00:08:56.920 that there's really the only authority that, that exists in the world all comes from God.

00:09:02.440 And the only authority in your marriage comes from God. And I'm going to explain this. It's

00:09:07.400 1 Corinthians chapter 11, verse 3. It says, but I want you to know that the head of every man is

00:09:12.840 Christ. The head of woman is man and the head of Christ is God. This idea that ultimately the only

00:09:19.200 authority that Jesus has is the authority that the father gave him. The only authority that your

00:09:23.020 husband has is the authority that Jesus gave him. The only authority that the wife has is comes 1.00

00:09:27.460 through her husband and it goes down to the children. And so this idea of the authority 0.96

00:09:32.320 structure is you're falling under one mission. So Veronica is, in fact, when she's in submission to

00:09:38.560 me as her husband, she's really just being submissive to Christ. And I think that's an

00:09:45.080 important part to talk about. So what does leadership as the head of the family really

00:09:52.940 look like in a practical way? And that's the question we want to answer today. How can men

00:09:58.300 lead and love because that was the command their wives as christ leads and loves the church and

00:10:06.460 again i think men just want something simple you know i think women want men to want something

00:10:12.180 more complex and emotional but in fact i really believe that men just need something simple they

00:10:17.040 need to understand okay how do i get the basics the foundation laid so that i i can at least

00:10:23.780 fulfill the minimum requirements and then we can work from there. Right. And so we're going to

00:10:29.220 foundation. Yeah. And so we're going to give you a list to check, a map to follow. And I think

00:10:34.740 that's what this episode is really about. Yeah. And for me, Dale's, you know, eight step process

00:10:40.720 that he's going to share with you. If everything on that list occurs every week, I feel like our

00:10:47.340 marriage and our family is actually progressing forward. And I think this is what most women are 1.00

00:10:52.900 looking for um which is actually you know not really that much um i bet it probably takes you

00:11:00.080 i don't know 90 minutes a day um and it makes all of the difference in our life it makes a huge

00:11:06.660 impact um but again i don't think women um know what they want in terms of spiritual leadership

00:11:13.160 and i don't think men know what they should do in terms of spiritual leadership so um today's

00:11:19.520 episode, my hope is that this removes some of the confusion that some people may have and gives

00:11:27.040 people, couples, a good starting point that puts their marriage and their family life back in

00:11:33.680 order. Yeah, I think that's a good point. And so let's go into this process. It's an eight-step

00:11:38.460 process. And again, as I said before, there's five steps that happen every day. And then there's

00:11:44.900 three steps that happen uh throughout every week and so we're going to break these down

00:11:50.580 you don't need to worry about writing these all down because you can just go to

00:11:54.520 relearnchurch.org forward slash listen and look for this episode and we're going to have this

00:12:00.380 written down for you yeah all the show notes will be available for you there so uh number one

00:12:05.480 number one for me is as the spiritual leader of my home is i am having personal prayer and study

00:12:12.960 time every day for a minimum of 30 minutes what kind of meeting have you ever had that's been a

00:12:20.800 good meeting that's less than 30 minutes like none no let's go have a 15 minute meeting no that you

00:12:26.260 don't do that 30 minute meeting is this is with the god of the universe and you're going to give

00:12:32.600 them the best time of your day and so you wake up early or for me i actually do it about an hour and

00:12:39.860 a half after I get up in the morning because that's the best time of my day I want to go in

00:12:44.200 and dive into work but instead I go and I spend 30 to 60 minutes with the Lord and before you move

00:12:50.560 on if I can just say something for the wives we're to be our husbands help me help me and so

00:12:57.020 if they need that time that's one way that we can be helping them I sure you know sometimes it'd be

00:13:03.880 frustrating because you could really use that help but that's actually priority that your husband

00:13:08.060 gets into the word and he's studying the word so that way he can refuel your family he can refuel

00:13:12.880 you he can refuel your kids spiritually um so we need to make sure that we um allow and accommodate

00:13:19.900 for that time yeah you don't want to be a barrier to like your husband trying to lead because it

00:13:25.160 starts with this step i'll tell you what this is the most critical step you can't lead spiritually

00:13:31.160 if you're not being filled spiritually and so this is without this step none of the other steps

00:13:37.060 matter because you have to be filled up with God's truth, with the Holy Spirit, having time

00:13:44.360 with the word and with God in communion. And if there are two things that your flesh hates as a

00:13:49.360 man, and I guess as a woman too, it's studying God's word and praying. Your flesh, your evil

00:13:55.400 broken down flesh hates the idea of praying and studying God's word. You're never going to be

00:14:02.500 excited to do it in your flesh. You're going to be excited to do it in your spirit, but a lot of

00:14:09.020 guys have to kind of get their, their flesh into subjection of their spirit. You know, it's a work

00:14:15.980 and I think it's, it's the work of the Holy Spirit in you. And for me, it's been, it's not just about

00:14:21.500 don't turn this into a habit, man. This isn't about, I'm going to do this for 21 days and it's

00:14:26.140 going to become a habit. That's, that's not what I'm talking about here. Sit before the Lord and

00:14:30.260 pray that the lord gives you a desire to desire him pray that the lord gives you a desire to pray

00:14:37.360 to kind of fill you up with a hunger for more so that it's driven by god and not driven by

00:14:43.820 like i'm gonna check this off my list and be a really disciplined man and get this done every

00:14:48.360 day that's doing it in your own strength yes you you want to to want to do this and so you got to

00:14:55.860 get there and get your flesh in subjection of your spirit and have the Lord be the power behind this

00:15:01.740 thing. So that's step number one, personal prayer and study time, 30 minutes minimum per day.

00:15:11.180 Number two of the eight step process is provide your wife with the same personal prayer and study 0.96

00:15:18.920 time. If you're leading your wife, you're not leading your wife to you. You're leading your 0.76

00:15:25.400 wife toward God and so you got to make sure that you again make time for her and you know I'll

00:15:32.540 admit I have not been the best but I have worked to make sure that she does get time pretty often

00:15:39.740 and it is a work that you need to constantly get going this morning you actually had some time

00:15:45.440 um you know get a little rusty I'll say hey can I have 20 minutes 30 minutes yeah and so just

00:15:52.940 getting her away from the kids when you get home from work just go hey I'll watch the kids why don't

00:15:58.860 you go in the room and um you know study for 20-30 minutes um and in the morning I mean what does that

00:16:05.020 do for you if on those days that you get that time uh it helps me to be focused on you know have a

00:16:15.060 kingdom perspective of my day instead of getting lost in the little you know annoyances and

00:16:20.980 cleaning and things that you know come up when you're a stay-at-home mom um it just helps me

00:16:26.940 walk into my day filled up knowing what my priorities are i've spent time with the lord

00:16:32.640 i've prayed i've read the word and now i have a like a vision a vision yeah that's good so

00:16:40.200 personal prayer and study for the men personal prayer and study for the wives step number three

00:16:45.140 on the daily five steps and then we're gonna do the three weekly steps host a family bible time

00:16:51.460 this could be in the morning this could be in the evening 10 to 15 minutes that's it um and we sit

00:16:57.640 we read we pray and we just usually um we do this just in our living room we uh we sit down as a

00:17:06.460 family put the kids on a blanket or a pillow and we read usually one chapter or one bible story

00:17:13.060 and then we pray we have younger kids if we are older it might be a little bit different

00:17:17.300 um and time could be longer they could take turns reading we can discuss whatever it is that you've

00:17:23.740 read um but that's just what we've done yeah and we let them pray and then i pray over the family

00:17:29.320 and so that's something that we do every single morning we read sometimes we'll read just the

00:17:34.020 new king james version of the bible one chapter or the esv um or we'll read bible stories and i'm

00:17:41.280 to share actually a book that we read um in the morning i've been going for the last probably 20

00:17:46.880 or 30 days the kids through one of these books and um i want you to be clear on one point bible

00:17:53.460 story books teach your kids that bible story books are not the bible the bible is the bible

00:17:58.900 the they're the little kids bibles those are bible stories and it's not a bible um and so

00:18:06.700 just kind of getting their head wrapped around there is a bible and that's what that is over

00:18:10.800 there this is a bible story book and so i'm going to share with you guys one of those things right

00:18:16.120 here for those that you guys are watching this as a video you guys get a chance to see it but it's

00:18:21.200 called uh follow me it's bible stories for young children and um this is actually produced by

00:18:29.640 reformation heritage books and i really appreciated it it's got three little questions um at the end

00:18:37.200 of every little story and it's got some great illustrations on it so anyways this is just one

00:18:42.520 simple resource that we have used in our home um and it's short story and then again those questions

00:18:49.880 are they're they're age specific for like little kids between probably three to eight you know

00:18:57.440 yeah some questions there at the bottom if you're watching it yeah so some fun illustrations right

00:19:01.740 there so that's been a great resource um and reformation heritage is actually partnered with

00:19:07.340 us and um you guys can actually get a copy of that for a discount you just go to reformation

00:19:12.180 heritage or actually i think it's heritagebooks.org forward slash rc and you can get it for really

00:19:19.480 cheap anyways it's a fun little resource i want to show you one more resource that i think is one

00:19:25.620 of the coolest family bible time resources that has ever existed it's called the family worship

00:19:30.900 Bible guide. I haven't got a chance to use this much because our kids are a little bit young for

00:19:35.820 it, but it's a really cool concept. And again, I'm showing this here. It looks like a Bible

00:19:40.780 and it's on it is just in gold foil. It says family worship Bible guide. What this is,

00:19:47.380 and it's by the same publisher, it's an entire book and every single chapter of the Bible

00:19:55.380 from Genesis to Revelation has two questions.

00:19:58.740 So all you need to do as a dad is go,

00:20:01.120 hey, we're going to read Acts chapter 15 today.

00:20:04.820 And you read Acts chapter 15

00:20:06.400 and you turn to the Family Worship Bible Guide

00:20:08.460 and it's got two already prepared questions

00:20:11.020 for a family Bible time discussion.

00:20:13.800 They correspond with that chapter.

00:20:15.180 They correspond with that chapter

00:20:16.360 for every single chapter of the Bible.

00:20:18.660 That's really cool.

00:20:19.520 It's really cool.

00:20:20.300 And so it's just a fun little resource.

00:20:22.000 And I know for those people that have kids

00:20:24.240 that are maybe, you know, 10 and up or even eight and up,

00:20:28.580 I think it's a great resource to get meaningful discussion

00:20:32.280 on your family Bible time.

00:20:34.100 And again, you can just go to heritagebooks.org forward slash RC.

00:20:38.100 And these are, they're pretty cheap.

00:20:39.600 So I think they're affordable,

00:20:40.380 but those are great resources

00:20:42.160 we wanted to share with you guys.

00:20:44.480 So pray time for dad, pray time for wife.

00:20:48.560 Host family Bible time. 0.84

00:20:50.120 Step number four is bedtime prayer and proclamation.

00:20:55.320 This is something that, I don't know if I learned it or invented it or saw it in somebody else.

00:21:03.760 It's just normal, normal.

00:21:06.060 I didn't invent it, but it's just the idea of we do a little thing called prayer and proclamation.

00:21:10.900 But, you know, lots of dads go and pray for their kids at night.

00:21:14.500 But this idea of proclaiming truth to them and teaching them to proclaim truth back to you is a process that I think is just a fun thing to do.

00:21:25.000 And what I mean is this.

00:21:27.160 I ask our kids a handful of questions.

00:21:29.700 Our kids are young, almost six, almost four, and two.

00:21:34.420 And so we got some little ones here.

00:21:36.460 But what I do is I ask them a couple questions right now.

00:21:39.900 And one of them is, what's the most important thing we can ever do?

00:21:43.840 And what do they say?

00:21:45.200 Follow God's word.

00:21:46.220 Follow God's word.

00:21:47.500 They yell that back to me.

00:21:48.900 And I go, well, where do we find God's word?

00:21:51.480 In the Bible.

00:21:52.140 In the Bible.

00:21:53.040 And so it's kind of a small catechism in a way.

00:21:57.220 I also have created a family phrase.

00:21:59.780 And I want to encourage you men to create a family phrase for your home. 1.00

00:22:03.440 And so I say, hey, what do partridges do? 0.99

00:22:06.760 And they would come back to me and say, we follow God and we lead others.

00:22:10.620 That's our family phrase.

00:22:12.000 you can come up with your own 0.89

00:22:14.420 you know what do the Johnsons do come up with your

00:22:16.520 thing and

00:22:17.920 another thing I'm doing right

00:22:20.540 now with Aria is I'm going hey what's

00:22:22.260 what's the first and greatest commandment

00:22:23.760 you know to love the Lord your God with all your heart with all your

00:22:26.500 soul with all your mind I go hey the second is like

00:22:28.520 it she goes you had to love your neighbor as yourself

00:22:30.380 you know and so we're working

00:22:32.460 together at those things we've had

00:22:34.160 honor starting to

00:22:36.400 respond that back to you as well

00:22:38.500 yeah he's a little bit delayed in his speech

00:22:40.460 so it's really cute it's really cute i don't know his little baby talk i guess but we've done

00:22:46.420 the 10 commandments in a shorter version as well i just want to encourage you guys to do not just

00:22:51.720 prayer but proclamation and it's fun the kids actually look forward to doing it at night and

00:22:57.040 yeah and if you for some reason walk out dad you forgot yeah they'll remind me and so this again

00:23:03.560 you know it's just step four prayer and proclamation with your kids every single night

00:23:07.280 step five is what i call three minute theology with your wife okay three minute theology it may

00:23:15.000 end up being 20 to 30 minute theology if you have a husband that loves theology yeah all you got to

00:23:20.060 do is commit to three minutes because three minutes usually will turn into 10 or 15 i happen

00:23:26.080 to dump this on veronica usually at like yeah if you guys follow me on instagram you probably saw

00:23:29.920 that like a week or two ago like 10 45 at night yeah 10 45 at night dale's just like

00:23:35.860 i just discovered had this revelation or whatever it is and you know connected the dots and

00:23:42.080 brain dumps on me as i'm trying to stay awake so what i do is i share what i'm reading in the

00:23:50.720 morning or i share what i'm reading in the evening because i read in the evening too

00:23:53.840 i try to share what i'm learning i try to i try to also ask her what she's learning

00:23:58.600 and what she's reading right now she's reading up on you know classical education so i'm just

00:24:04.980 finding out that that world too it's something that she cares about but we try to talk about

00:24:09.300 she's going through the the bible right now and we'll talk about where she's at there and

00:24:12.920 it's important just to i think initiate a conversation about god some type of spiritual

00:24:18.880 conversation yeah and because it keeps this in the presence and the culture of the home

00:24:23.600 on a daily basis and your kids hear you guys talking about it if they're awake you know but

00:24:28.880 Yeah, so those first five steps, personal prayer time and study time, give your wife personal prayer and study time.

00:24:36.520 Host family Bible time is step three, bedtime prayer and proclamation with your kids, step four.

00:24:41.540 And number five is five-minute theology, I should have done five-minute, huh? 0.65

00:24:45.860 Three-minute theology with your wife.

00:24:48.860 The next three are things that happen weekly.

00:24:52.700 And again, when we have a week that's like fully chalked up with this stuff every single week, these are good weeks.

00:24:57.660 those are good weeks those are good weeks and um and we know when all everything aligns perfectly

00:25:02.960 yeah and and they're hard to pull it off every single day but i i feel like if you know if you

00:25:07.720 try we get most of them number six is date night i don't care if you take your wife to the park

00:25:14.800 to eat food that you have at your house take your wife on a date if you can the hardest thing for us

00:25:20.720 has been babysitting just finding sitters apparently there's no babysitters in central

00:25:25.000 Oregon. We have a few. There always is some circumstances that happen that are like legitimate

00:25:30.540 circumstances that we just, we go, all right, Lord, I guess we're not doing that. But date

00:25:35.080 night, we try to do every week. We probably get two a month. Yeah. We shoot for every week. We

00:25:39.280 shoot for every week. Just take your wife out for two, three hours, go to dinner, walk around, 0.98

00:25:45.360 get some time, especially if... Or date day. Or date day. If you got little ones, it's nice to get

00:25:50.360 mom away to give her some time to enjoy marriage as a husband and a wife. So date night. If you

00:25:58.520 can get that on your list, man, your wife will feel loved. Number seven is family day. I think

00:26:06.460 wives think that the sexiest thing of a man is that when he loves the kids. Like I've seen so 1.00

00:26:16.080 many women that go oh my gosh my husband's so attractive when he plays with our kids and spends

00:26:21.380 time with our kids and wants to be a family man and care about the kids and so I just I just go

00:26:28.220 hey put a family day together and we try to do that on Saturday probably most people try to do

00:26:34.700 that on Saturday and it doesn't need to be all day it could be we're gonna go into town take a

00:26:41.240 walk in downtown go to the park have some lunch do something yeah and so just some intentional

00:26:47.440 set aside time where you guys can connect as a family and your kids will remember those things

00:26:53.460 and so that's again part of spiritual leadership because it's showing your children that you love

00:26:58.520 them you're you're representing um how a father loves their child and one day your kids will

00:27:05.240 learn that God is a father and they're going to base their understanding of their heavenly father

00:27:13.060 off the example of their earthly father. And so if their father wants to spend time with them

00:27:19.600 and love them, this is a good thing for them to learn. The last step, number eight for family

00:27:30.100 leadership spiritual leadership of the home as a man is making sure that you have a sabbath

00:27:37.060 so it's taking that sunday and i've done an episode deep theological episode on sabbath a

00:27:44.540 few episodes back having sunday as a rest day for the family and for veronica because veronica's

00:27:51.960 work is the home veronica doesn't do any work in the home on sunday yes our house gets a little

00:27:59.080 crazy yeah she doesn't like it but but that's what my days are for and if you ask aria aria what are

00:28:05.220 mondays for she'll say get in the house back in order yeah that's what we do on mondays and so

00:28:10.180 i think the you know giving her a rest hey let the dishes pile up today you know i'll take on

00:28:17.780 some of that role to help clean up a little bit because that's you know not not customary work

00:28:22.140 for me um and then we we rest as a family we try to we do church and we try to have get some lay

00:28:27.780 down time and read some books and maybe go for a walk and but we enjoy our sabbath so i want to

00:28:34.260 notice i want you guys to notice one thing that's really important for the men note that providing

00:28:40.740 for your family wasn't included in this list okay the thing is men we're naturally good at

00:28:49.240 providing for our families that's usually not an issue that we're seeing what we are seeing is

00:28:54.360 we're not naturally good at spiritually providing for our families.

00:28:58.980 And so that's why it's not included in there.

00:29:01.560 I expect you men will make money and get rent paid.

00:29:05.060 But can you do all these eight things on top of that?

00:29:09.000 You know, we often give the best of our life to work

00:29:11.100 and the rest of our life to our family.

00:29:12.960 And that is the opposite perspective that we should have for spiritual leadership.

00:29:17.660 So that's the end of the conversation.

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Dale Partridge - September 04, 2019

Real Christianity #61： 8 Simple Steps For Becoming the Spiritual Leader of Your Home

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