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00:01:12.180So in part one of today's episode, we're going to be sharing the story of our home.
00:01:17.900And in part two, we're going to be sharing the three greatest lessons that we've learned
00:01:23.040in our home lessons about order hypocrisy and schedules so on that note let's open up with
00:01:30.560part one and i'm going to have veronica open up because i'm going to we're going to just
00:01:35.420essentially share our story around how our home and family came to be and so when you think of
00:01:42.800our home babe uh let's start with our marriage how do we meet how do we meet oh man well if you
00:01:50.580guys have been longtime listeners of the, of, I guess you're our old podcast. This is
00:01:54.960a separate one, right? So of our old podcast, I used to podcast with Dale three, four years
00:02:00.940ago. I'm in our very first episode. We actually shared that. So if you're a long time listener,
00:02:06.200you'll already know, but if not, um, technically I met Dale when I was 14 and he was 18, 19.
00:02:17.460he was dating my sister and i was just you know the tag along little sister um that would just
00:02:25.380hang out with him whenever i could or my sister picked me up from school and go to the rock
00:02:30.340climbing gym and dale would be there um so that's how we met i don't necessarily remember the day we
00:02:35.380met i mean it was so long ago but um we do have pictures of us here and there somewhere of you
00:02:41.940know us at my sister's party or things like that and i'm 14 and or us rock climbing as a kid you're
00:02:50.340gonna make me sound like a like uh oh yeah so there was no interest at this time yeah i said
00:02:56.100tag along little sister um yeah no there was no romantic interest at that time i was very much
00:03:02.660just the tag along sister yeah and dale was dating my sister at the time and then i'm not a predator
00:03:09.540and then um let's see fast forward when i was 19 i mean you and my sister had broken up you know
00:03:17.820it wasn't ever anything like super serious but you guys had broken up and then when i was 19 we ran
00:03:23.860into each other um again and um the first words dale said to me was wow veronica you're old and
00:03:32.420hot now this is true this is true that's your pickup line gentlemen that's what you get to use0.57
00:03:37.320you want to find a wife and yeah we we had a uh i tried to convince veronica to go on a date with
00:03:43.080me for several months and she would not um until i my persistence continued until he bugged me
00:03:50.600enough where i was like i just need to say yes so he'd stop bugging me we went on a date and i
00:03:58.280had victory and won her heart and slowly but surely we went through the steps of
00:04:03.400of dating and within nine months we were engaged it wasn't that slow but yeah anyway uh yeah i mean
00:04:11.560we're dating we started in february by november we were engaged and we were married the following
00:04:17.560february yeah so this upcoming february what a month and a half from now we will be married for
00:04:24.20014 years and together 15 years yep and so that's kind of the founding of the partridge home and we
00:04:33.080went from there we had uh our children we have four children now ranging from about to be 10
00:04:43.000and all the way down to six months old and so we had aria in 2014 we had um honor in 2016 valor
00:04:52.520in 2017 and then we took a break to the long break and then we just had deacon yeah this
00:04:58.840or i guess this is going to be coming out in january probably so we had him in 2023 yeah june
00:05:05.160of 20 june july july july sorry we have another son whose birthday is in june and then deacon is
00:05:11.240in july and so uh that's kind of the story of our children which we'll kind of reconnect here in a
00:05:17.960second um one of the founding features of our marriage is i think veronica's marriage to me
00:05:25.720um if you've heard of jonathan edwards wife's book she didn't write it it's actually someone
00:05:31.080else writing it for her but it's called marriage to a difficult man it's probably similar to being
00:05:35.800married to me and so you know we talked about this last night that you know while i was not
00:05:41.400in ministry when we first got married it was you did understand that you were marrying someone
00:05:49.640that is it was just very intense yeah you were not in ministry when i got married you were in
00:05:53.560in business and the business world. Um, but I knew that marrying you was never going to
00:06:00.240be a dull moment. I knew that marrying you meant that you're yeah, intense, I guess you
00:06:07.800could say in a way, um, go, go, go. You always had some type of project, always something
00:06:12.800that you were working on that you're passionate about. Um, so I knew going into it, that,
00:06:18.000that there was always going to be something happening. Amen. So yes, when we got married,
00:06:21.560I was already an entrepreneur. I had started several businesses already and we met at one
00:06:26.440of the businesses. Well, we remet one of the businesses that I started, uh, the rock climbing
00:06:30.660gym in Riverside, California. Yeah. I guess when we were, when we were first married,
00:06:34.720you were 24, I was 20 by that time. And so I was like, you know, fresh out of my parents'
00:06:39.380house. You'd moved out of your parents' house when you were like 17 or 18. So you'd already
00:06:43.460been on your own and established on your own for a while. You had your own apartment and
00:06:47.660own car and ran a business and i just kind of married into that um it wasn't necessarily like
00:06:53.580i like we were starting from scratch you had already been established and i was coming under
00:07:00.300your headship we were christian i i don't think i was regenerate i don't think i was born again at
00:07:05.980the time we would call ourselves christians you were uh i was a christian i i became um the lord
00:07:13.820saved me when i was 18 and so so not long before we started dating actually yeah and so i i was
00:07:20.540uh thought i was a christian and that's a story for another episode but actually you can even read
00:07:27.580my testimony if you wanted to i think if you go to relearn.org forward slash testimony or if you
00:07:31.580just google dale partridge's testimony you'll be able to read my testimony there on our website
00:07:36.620um but we did have uh at the time we got married um 2011 we started we got married 2010 2011 we
00:07:44.740started a company called sevenly and that was a whirlwind of an experience because a lot of people
00:07:52.260don't realize that historically before i was in ministry i've only been in ministry full-time
00:07:57.180since 2017 but i was a businessman and you know i would say a well-known businessman i had a public
00:08:05.280platform i had written several books uh that were published by harper collins um doing lots of
00:08:13.280speaking events lots of speaking conferences uh you know our company was a multi-million
00:08:18.560dollar company with you know almost 50 employees and was yeah require me to talk to investors and
00:08:26.640deal with different realities that were going on in the company and we had a headquarters in orange
00:08:30.880county and yeah we're in southern california at that time and you do you know day trips flying
00:08:36.000up to san francisco be back by dinner yeah and so we we did a lot of that it was fast-paced but in
00:08:42.240the business world fast-paced in the business world and a totally different world than we live
00:08:47.440in now and so by god's grace we had a season that we were able to um make money we didn't we weren't
00:08:54.000as great with our money back then but we were still able to didn't have children at that time
00:08:58.480We were able to make the Lord by his grace, put us in a situation where we could go into ministry in a financially secure position, which is quite rare. And we recognize that, that we have, we were able to pay off our house, you know, several years ago, I don't know, we were able to, you know, have a small investment property.
00:09:26.380um you know we weren't making millions and millions of dollars but we were making enough
00:09:30.760money that allowed us to essentially have no debt um to be in a position where we could serve the
00:09:36.320lord and money not really be a motivating factor um i think there's a i don't know who originally
00:09:41.740said the quote but once you get to the top you realize you're there's nothing there and i think
00:09:46.220that god allowed us to have that sense where we we made enough money we we experienced wealth we
00:09:52.480we understood even a sense of fame and um notoriety around the business world
00:10:00.560and once you get to the top you realize that there's nothing there and i think that was
00:10:04.780really what catapulted us uh including the calling to ministry um into or i should say
00:10:12.380out of the business world and into ministry and so that happened in 2016 there was more of a
00:10:19.220conflict we were in another church in oregon we moved to oregon we had this beautiful home in
00:10:24.020oregon yeah we lived there for seven years lived on a farm we had like didn't think we'd ever leave
00:10:28.820yeah it was probably like the picture-esque like instagram life you know we had the seven acres
00:10:39.220our best friends had the 20 acres next to us our other great friends lived in our back house on
00:10:44.680property we had a film studio on our property we had a gym and a sauna and we had animals animals
00:10:51.800and a garden beds and and you know privacy and overlooking the mountains and it was just a
00:10:57.640wonderful situation it was very uh i guess what is it millennial modern day storybook yes modern
00:11:06.600the modern day storybook of what a lot of people are chasing after and we're blessed to have that
00:11:11.400that season we had that season and um we went into ministry 2017 uh after really just having a
00:11:20.640continued um calling from the Lord but also recognition from people in our lives that I
00:11:29.340was called to preach or called to teach I was feeling a draw to seminary I was studying more
00:11:37.500and more involved in our church at the time and we went into ministry 2017 and then all of a sudden
00:11:44.460uh maybe in 2018 i started to get sick 2019 for sure um and that was a season where
00:11:54.580it started off with me it's so many different symptoms that you don't really know
00:12:02.200probably i would think maybe start off with like the food stuff where you like have some gi issues
00:12:08.720after you'd eat and your stomach would hurt or then you'd have like acid reflux i'd acid reflux
00:12:14.240for a long time yeah so we had we had all these symptoms that that didn't seem to be correlated
00:12:19.660with one another so you it's hard to determine a diagnosis when you can't put your thumb on what's
00:12:27.660causing everything and i was having you know dizziness and you know air hunger and breathing
00:12:35.100issues and pain in my liver and um you know sleeplessness and twitching muscle twitching
00:12:43.740and all over just the map or body temperature regulation body temperature regulation and and
00:12:50.940so um we finally i got to the point where i was very ill this is like a couple year journey several
00:12:58.220year journey yeah we're going past the story like a couple weeks or months here this is
00:13:03.740several year journey and we we made the decision to um relocate the cold was hard on me we found
00:13:11.660out eventually that the central culprit for causing my immune system to falter and me being sick was
00:13:20.940our our house had mold or or or i was in mold at some other time um but essentially my my mycotoxin
00:13:30.440levels were off the chart so i had really high mycotoxin levels it could have been as simple
00:13:36.020as like the washing machine had mold in it um basically my body doesn't detox well and so
00:13:43.980you know while i was really sick and my son was sick um veronica was mostly fine you know our
00:13:51.820other kids were were okay yeah we had weird little symptoms here and there but it was never like a
00:13:58.400huge deal it was just like oh i don't know i guess valor can't have dairy because he has an upset
00:14:03.040stomach or something which that that is true but there was just like little things like that and
00:14:07.420then we didn't realize until after we moved out that these other random symptoms like i had this
00:14:12.600like chronic sore throat had a sore throat all the time and I just you know attributed
00:14:17.160it to having Lyme disease and just thinking that was just one of my symptoms and then
00:14:21.540we moved out of the house and my sore throat went away and then now you know if I go into
00:14:26.080a place that I know is moldy that's like one of the symptoms that'll start to creep up
00:14:30.460is I'll start to get a sore throat again yeah and we didn't even know this stuff really
00:14:33.880until after we had moved because we were essentially um we we didn't understand any
00:14:43.640of this until so we don't really know the the the where it could have been my office it could have
00:14:51.080been a place where i was living before we we think that i was having mold toxicity issues in the house
00:14:58.280when we lived in california when we lived in california now that we looked back and so it's
00:15:03.680really um and some people have no yeah we never got the actual home tested itself we just got you
00:15:10.960tested your body yeah um while we were in texas yeah and it's the we could just see that you had
00:15:17.860mycotoxins but then you know it wasn't just necessarily the house that was making you sick
00:15:21.780it was in the summertime in central oregon where we used to live there's really bad forest fires
00:15:27.100every year it's basically like fire season and the air outside is hazardous
00:15:31.660and so that would you know prevent you from having clean air and your body was
00:15:37.660just so sensitive at that time that you weren't able to heal because it was like
00:15:41.740and then you know you'd be then the winter would come and you'd be so cold
00:15:45.280and everything you would get inflamed because you're cold and so you wouldn't
00:15:48.100be able to heal because of the cold and so we were trying to figure out ways that
00:15:51.520we could stay there because we didn't want to necessarily leave Oregon we
00:15:56.800loved we loved our community we loved our house um but it just kind of became evident that the
00:16:04.560environment there was not conducive to your healing yeah um so i made the decision to move
00:16:11.200to arizona and this is kind of a a backdrop for this whole podcast is that we essentially
00:16:19.120lost our sense of home for a bit um and i would even say we're still trying to recalibrate that
00:16:27.760now we know home is where your people are um but we moved into a fifth wheel and then we moved
00:16:34.780into a rental no we moved into a fifth one we had to get rid of all of our stuff yeah that was a big
00:16:40.500thing we did when you when you when you live on a property for five years you know that seven acres
00:16:45.200and you have outbuildings on it and you know your house itself is pretty large on the larger side
00:16:50.160and a garage and you accumulate stuff it's just it just happens and once we found out that it was
00:16:57.520potentially mold we had we got rid of everything everything the only things you can keep is
00:17:02.560basically steel like metal and glass and we didn't know what was
00:17:09.040keepable or not keepable because i was so sick i was just like let's just get rid of everything
00:17:15.100oh yeah he was so sick at that time he could barely make any decision
00:17:18.960so we had to get rid of we just thought well you know what if mold is causing this
00:17:24.060let's start our whole new life fresh and i mean this mean we got so that means when we moved we
00:17:31.160couldn't just like pick a random house to move into because we didn't know if it was going to
00:17:34.220have mold so that's why we lived in the fifth wheel yeah we lived in the fifth wheel and then
00:17:37.600we had to get a new rental which we paid more for because it was brand new and you know new doesn't
00:17:43.280necessarily mean mold free so you're constantly looking around and that's why we also didn't just
00:17:47.700buy a house that was already existing because of the mold so there were so many factors that
00:17:53.480you know we're still even making sense of it all um and we we've we've been in rentals uh until
00:18:02.340recently we finally bought a little house um and you know lord willing we will build a house on some
00:18:08.600land one day again in the future uh we we own some land that we'd like to build on um but we're
00:18:15.640we're still in the middle of all those factors and so it's been a um a hard journey to home life for
00:18:26.060us and we've we've really wanted to make a consistent place for home for our children
00:18:33.260for our schedules for our um sense of consistency um to just stability yeah yeah to build a culture
00:18:43.100and civilization in in our home for our children that gives them um structure and traditions and
00:18:53.900and um vision and um so we we've been a bit in survival mode um making things work and i i'm
00:19:04.040still now i'm significantly better yeah but i'm still sick um so i've yeah used dale still has
00:19:12.900issues at some point every day every day something that comes up every day so it's still very much
00:19:19.940our life is very much revolved around that yeah um like just how we operate in our house not
00:19:27.440necessarily like we're it's us we're a slave to it but in a way we kind of are you know it's a
00:19:33.080very weird lifestyle because i'll go you know if you're following us on social media on instagram
00:19:40.180i've been recently posting that i've been skateboarding with the kids you know so i'll
00:19:42.880have days where i can go and and skateboard with the kids at the skate park um or go play pickleball
00:19:48.960and feel totally fine um but then sometimes you have to stop and come home early because you like
00:19:54.640start struggling to breathe while you're doing those things or later that night or the next day
00:19:58.960you have a really off day because you play pickleball too hard or skateboarding too hard or
00:20:03.760something yeah you know um detoxing for some some effect from those activities so it's been truly
00:20:11.840our kids have grown up in a home with a sick dad which is a very unexpected narrative for our home
00:20:22.480we didn't expect that we've we've had people that have tried to say like oh you should hide
00:20:27.360those things you should have those things you know to essentially appear to be it's a reality
00:20:34.720though yeah it's a reality it's something we have to deal with every day and you should be able to