Dale Partridge - July 26, 2018


Ultimate Marriage #03： The Biblical Roles of a Husband and Wife


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In this episode, we talk about how to walk out your biblical roles in marriage. What does the Bible say about roles for a husband and wife and how can we live out those roles in our lives as husbands and wives?

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00:00:00.000 Welcome to Ultimate Marriage. Today we're going to be talking about how to walk out your biblical 0.89
00:00:14.080 rules in marriage. So guys, we are excited to chat with you guys. Lots of you guys have been
00:00:20.040 watching the episodes on YouTube. So again, if you guys want to see our conversation live,
00:00:28.800 If you're listening to it via podcast, we have a YouTube channel, and you can go to that and just look up Dale Partridge or Veronica Partridge and Ultimate Marriage, and you'll find our videos on that.
00:00:38.220 So another quick thing is thank you for all the reviews.
00:00:42.880 Please just continue to leave a review.
00:00:45.480 It really does help the exposure of the show and allows Veronica and I to kind of have an audience to continue this content to get out to.
00:00:53.880 So today we're going to be talking about biblical roles.
00:00:58.080 man and wife husband and wife these are difficult conversations and the culture has created a lot
00:01:05.520 of confusion around what it means to be a husband and a wife and what those roles specifically look
00:01:11.640 like and sadly many Christians have actually adopted the culture's practice and structure
00:01:19.320 for marriage we've seen this a lot in in in the church it's actually a pretty common thing
00:01:25.480 And the confusion, though, is actually so painful that it's compelling a lot of Christian couples to seek out what the Bible actually says about roles.
00:01:36.480 What does the Bible say about biblical roles for a husband and a wife inside their marriage?
00:01:42.660 And I want to talk about this just for a second.
00:01:45.940 So, yeah, what happens when you don't know your role at work?
00:01:52.000 You're unsuccessful. You get fired.
00:01:53.740 Yeah, you lose your job. So your role is like, it's critical to understand your role
00:01:58.840 in a marriage. And the purpose of a role is to be able to have a clearly identified path to success.
00:02:06.360 That's what the roles do for you. And it really gives you that clarity and understanding on how
00:02:10.740 to win. Now for marriage, what does success look like in a biblical marriage? In my experience,
00:02:19.460 to my understanding of the word, it's to become one flesh. That is the goal, is that two shall
00:02:25.360 become one. And not only that, it's to represent the ultimate marriage between Christ and his
00:02:33.040 bride. That's why we've called this, our website and our podcast, Ultimate Marriage, it's a
00:02:37.640 call to the ultimate marriage, which is between Christ and his church, Christ and his bride.
00:02:44.380 And so our goal should be that we might represent, properly represent, the ultimate marriage, meaning that our marriage will look like the gospel.
00:02:54.840 Our marriage, when you look at our marriage, you'll actually see Christ and his bride walking out those biblical roles and really showing those to the world.
00:03:05.540 Yeah, yeah, exactly.
00:03:07.020 So before Dale and I were married and before we were, sorry, not before we were married, before we started walking out our biblical roles, it was kind of a disaster.
00:03:16.940 Our marriage was unstable.
00:03:19.580 It was unfruitful.
00:03:21.260 And ultimately, it almost felt like the first couple of years that we always had this like other option in the back of our head.
00:03:28.280 Like, OK, are we really going to stay in this and fight through this and figure it out or are we just going to get divorced?
00:03:35.440 There was no security.
00:03:37.020 yeah there's no security yeah and you know what we learned is that roles bring structure and
00:03:42.460 structure uh brings clarity structure brings um security i mean that's what really i think this
00:03:49.820 did for us and security brings fruitfulness we were finally capable and allowed to be fruitful
00:03:55.820 and actually have that part of other people's lives we're now walking it out in our own marriage
00:04:02.060 and we were able to witness to other people and talk to other people and encourage other people
00:04:07.480 who are walking in similar paths that we were walking and how far we have come and how far
00:04:13.160 we've grown through those. Yeah. If you don't have fruitfulness, you don't have any authority
00:04:17.580 to speak on. I mean, sure, you can share God's word, but they're looking for your experience
00:04:22.000 and what that might look like for you. So, yeah, we can't forget that all of God's doctrine
00:04:28.200 is motivated by love. Okay, that's an important thing to remember that all of God, if God is love,
00:04:33.720 then all of God's doctrine is motivated by love. And that means that his commands, they aren't
00:04:38.880 really demands. They're actually signs of affection. And we have to remember as Christians
00:04:43.360 that we, our marriage, we're the beneficiaries of obedience. It's not God. Like, we get the benefit
00:04:52.020 when we are obedient to God's word. I'll tell you what, it's way harder to live a life disobedient
00:04:58.060 to God than it is to live a life obedient to God. And the same is true for your marriage.
00:05:03.780 So let's take a quick look on what the Bible says about biblical roles. We're going to turn to
00:05:08.320 Ephesians chapter 5, where the classic kind of breakdown of what the marital roles are.
00:05:14.620 I believe these are authoritative on how we should live as Christians. I don't think these are for a
00:05:19.100 time prior to now. I think these are universal principles for local application for the church
00:05:24.480 of jesus christ so veronica is going to go ahead and start us off yeah so um ephesians 5 like dale
00:05:29.560 said it starts off with wives so i'm going to go ahead and read that scripture ephesians 5 22 through
00:05:34.200 24 says wives submit to your own husbands as to the lord for the husband is head of the wife
00:05:39.780 is also christ is the head of the church and he is the savior of the body therefore just as the 0.92
00:05:45.540 church is subject to christ so let wives be subject to their own husbands and everything
00:05:49.180 okay so a few things um this isn't telling women to submit to all men yeah it's telling wives to 0.77
00:05:58.740 submit to their own husbands so when us wives make a commitment to our husband before god
00:06:05.360 we are vowing to submit to this man's leadership his authority and his protection for the rest of
00:06:12.840 our lives. And what an honor and a privilege that is. It truly is. I want to stop you real quick
00:06:20.800 because that's a good point in terms of having a heart where you can be a wife and look at it as 0.97
00:06:25.460 a privilege to follow a godly man or just to follow a man in general. It's a big deal. That's
00:06:33.320 big time maturity. And so I just wanted to note that. That's a big concept that it takes time to
00:06:40.820 get your heart there right oh yeah yeah yeah so um and the part where it says as to the lord
00:06:46.440 um a christian wife needs to submit to her husband in the same way she submits to christ
00:06:53.220 yeah and this is a this is a bold statement okay like a big statement and yeah it's a
00:06:58.180 it's a hard one to swallow yeah and how does how does that make you feel at first when you read that
00:07:02.060 it uh it's heavy it's it's it's a big calling to submit to your own husband as if i were submitting
00:07:14.040 to god himself yeah this is a big deal and this this should scare the pants off of a man
00:07:20.020 in terms of just the responsibility required to fulfill that type of of call that your wife is
00:07:27.540 to submit to you, ask the Lord, dude, you should be freaking out because that is a huge responsibility
00:07:33.100 to make sure you steward correctly. Yeah. So, um, it doesn't say submit to your husband only if he's
00:07:40.200 following the word of God, only if he's fulfilling all of your love, love languages, only if he's
00:07:45.940 catering to your every desire, want and need. It says to submit to your own husband and that's it.
00:07:52.100 that's it that's what our direction from the lord is that's what that's what it says in the word
00:07:57.640 um and if we love him we keep his commands yeah plain and simple right if if you love jesus you'll
00:08:04.100 keep his commandments and that is the way that we show our love for jesus it's not some emotional
00:08:10.240 uh reciprocating relationship no it's it's if you love him you're going to keep his commandments
00:08:15.880 that is what he says he would rather you keep his commandments as a way to show him your love
00:08:21.440 Regardless if your husband's fulfilling his role or not.
00:08:24.940 Exactly, regardless.
00:08:26.020 But don't worry.
00:08:27.020 The men have instruction from the Lord as well.
00:08:29.660 Yeah, and it's not easy instruction.
00:08:32.300 So we're going to talk about that in a second. 0.59
00:08:34.260 So when it says that for the husband is the head of the wife,
00:08:36.940 men, you are the spiritual head.
00:08:39.720 It doesn't mean that you have any more value before the Lord.
00:08:43.560 It is a, it's not hierarchical.
00:08:46.280 The idea is that it's equal value, but different roles.
00:08:49.560 It's headship.
00:08:50.300 it is what's called derived authority. And derived authority means that, do I have any authority that
00:08:56.160 comes from my own behalf on my wife? No. The only authority that I have is from Christ. The only
00:09:02.540 authority that Christ has is from God the Father. And so this is a derived authority from God.
00:09:08.580 And so when you kind of get your heart in that position, it's not something that you lord it
00:09:13.000 over. You don't have the right to lord it over her. But it is a derived authority that your wife
00:09:18.400 will walk in submission to if she's a biblical woman. 0.55
00:09:22.740 And when it says he's the savior of the body,
00:09:25.320 and as Christ exercises authority over the church,
00:09:28.740 so with the purpose of to save and protect the church,
00:09:32.720 that is your job as a husband,
00:09:34.880 is to walk in a way that would save and protect your wife.
00:09:39.800 So again, we are mimicking the ultimate marriage.
00:09:42.580 That is what we're doing here inside of our marriages.
00:09:46.540 Yeah, and then the last part of that scripture,
00:09:48.400 go ahead sorry i'm i'm moving our notes here guys but it's okay
00:09:52.440 uh there we go there we go um therefore just as the church is subject to christ
00:09:58.580 so let wives be to their own husbands and everything so this means submitting to your
00:10:03.620 husband or submitting to your husband and all things that are lawful lawful things yeah
00:10:09.700 um it says you don't need to submit to your husband and something that is illegal or immoral
00:10:16.320 Yeah. If your husband comes to you and says, oh, we want to go to this sex party. 0.92
00:10:24.160 Yeah, you're not, you don't have to submit to that.
00:10:26.120 Oh, if you need to, hey, let's go to this, worship these other gods.
00:10:30.880 You don't need to submit to that.
00:10:33.700 Submit to the word of God.
00:10:34.740 Yeah, you get to submit to the word, but there's a, and there's a lot in the word of God, right?
00:10:38.300 And there's a lot in what is lawful.
00:10:40.880 And so that is definitely a part of that.
00:10:43.980 And so, yeah, if a husband's saying, no, you can't pray, or no, you can't read the Bible,
00:10:48.460 or you can't, you know, worship God in that way, like, those are things that are outside of that command.
00:10:53.840 I believe that there's the freedom to do those things.
00:10:56.720 And your loyalty is to Christ, and then it is to your husband, and then it is to your children,
00:11:03.480 and then it is to your ministry and to your, you know, community, all those different things.
00:11:07.000 So it is a scripture worth studying for sure, but we wanted to be clear that it's not in submission to all things, including things that are going to be dangerous to your soul.
00:11:18.400 So a quick, I guess, quote that I have here is that the safest place for a wife is to be in the effort of trying to walk out your biblical role.
00:11:29.680 That is the safest place for a wife to be. 0.73
00:11:32.720 And is your flesh going to hate it as a woman? 1.00
00:11:34.860 Absolutely.
00:11:35.300 Yeah, so this is a hard thing. In your flesh as a woman, to walk that out, it's scary. There's
00:11:42.700 nothing scarier than following a man who's not following God. There's nothing scary about that,
00:11:47.340 or scarier than that. And in Genesis 3.16, I want to remind you guys of God's sentencing
00:11:54.640 to Eve's sin in the Garden of Eden. And he says to the woman, he said, 0.51
00:12:01.380 I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception in pain. 0.88
00:12:05.680 You shall bring forth children.
00:12:07.320 Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you. 0.99
00:12:11.480 The desire is the woman's desire in her flesh, not in the spirit. 0.51
00:12:15.780 Remember, if you walk in the spirit, you will not fulfill the desires of your flesh.
00:12:20.260 In her flesh, she will want to take my position as leader and to not walk in submission to me.
00:12:27.220 So that's what that scripture is saying.
00:12:28.580 i think we should talk about the guys absolutely okay so we're going to talk about the guys real
00:12:35.320 quick uh husband so i'm gonna hit you guys pretty hard i said you would yeah and we're we're also
00:12:40.700 going to have conversation after we have some questions remember we do two questions every
00:12:44.300 episode and um veronica has a really great question that she's going to answer and so do i
00:12:49.400 so stay tuned for that um so ephesians 5 25 through 27 it's just the following verses
00:12:55.680 right after the scripture that Veronica read, and it goes,
00:12:58.480 Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church
00:13:03.160 and gave himself for her, that he might sanctify and cleanse her
00:13:06.400 with the washing of water by the word,
00:13:08.580 that he might present her to himself a glorious church,
00:13:11.760 not having a spot or wrinkle or any such thing,
00:13:14.340 but that she should be holy and without blemish.
00:13:18.300 All right.
00:13:19.840 Why did God give himself up for the church?
00:13:23.000 so that he may sanctify her and save her yeah and so this is this is exactly the purpose and god is
00:13:30.360 telling the men to mimic the relationship between christ and the church god gave himself up for her
00:13:38.680 so that he might sanctify her that he might tell her the truth through his word that he might
00:13:44.000 cleanse her that he might save her from hell that he might save her from evil that is why he gave
00:13:51.080 himself up for her. And so, men, if you're not providing a home or a social life or a community
00:13:57.400 or an environment that brings your wife closer to God, that protects her salvation, that offers her
00:14:04.560 all she needs to be close with God, then you're actually being disobedient as a husband. This
00:14:10.160 scripture is calling you to do that. That is the posture of a godly biblical husband, is to make
00:14:16.880 sure that you're ordering a life and creating a life and leading a life, that your only priority
00:14:22.020 is to make sure that your wife is getting closer with God. That is your priority as a godly,
00:14:28.500 biblical husband. And if you're not teaching your wife the scriptures, this is something that
00:14:36.360 for a long time I didn't do this, but it says to wash your wife's mind with the water by the word. 0.55
00:14:43.060 That's the call here. Are you washing your wife's mind with God's truth? Because I'll tell you,
00:14:51.380 every week, the world is trying to muddy your wife's brain up with lies. And that's important. 0.97
00:14:59.720 Veronica and I have walked this out. I'm constantly trying to bring her back to the truth. If she has
00:15:05.280 an insecurity, or if she has a doubt, or if she's believing wrong about something,
00:15:11.700 it's my job as the husband in our marriage to do that to wash her mind with truth and so if you're
00:15:18.940 not doing that you are walking contrary to the scripture and that is not okay so again your
00:15:25.200 number one mission on this earth is to provide a place a marriage that brings your wife closer
00:15:30.820 to god that is your role yeah so what does that look like in our marriage yeah so um because i
00:15:38.940 know a lot of people are probably thinking that so how do you walk these
00:15:41.040 steps out practically what does that look like so um at least for me I know
00:15:45.480 that I'll seek Dale's counsel I'll seek his leadership when our see you could
00:15:52.440 seek his leadership for the vision of our home and for our family and I know
00:15:57.240 Dale not only reads the Bible to our kids every day but he but and I'll sit
00:16:02.880 in and I'll listen to that but you also will read scripture to me or when he's
00:16:06.500 going over his sermons. I can hear you practicing. Um, if I have a question, I'll ask you and you
00:16:12.120 will always provide me an answer. Even if you don't know the answer right away, you'll seek it.
00:16:17.440 And there's, I mean, like, what do you feel like that does to me when you seek my vision and my
00:16:23.840 advice? I think it makes you feel honored and respected. Um, I mean that it encourages you to
00:16:31.740 grow without me forcing you and pushing you to do that. Yeah, questions and seeking your, as a wife, 0.63
00:16:39.780 seeking your husband out for direction. Oh gosh, what a godly thing. Just the same way that we
00:16:45.360 seek out Christ, right? We seek out Christ for direction. We go, God, tell us, Jesus, tell us,
00:16:50.840 what should we do? You know, what does your word say? The same way you seek out Christ, women,
00:16:56.580 you need to be seeking out your husband's counsel in that way and just walking in that manner. 0.57
00:17:02.360 Now, is your husband God?
00:17:03.660 No, but he is to be representing that relationship with one another.
00:17:08.540 And so, yeah, what does that look like in our marriage?
00:17:11.300 I mean, yeah, it's definitely, for me, it's making sure that she's in a biblical community.
00:17:15.740 We're not in a church that looks just like the culture.
00:17:19.280 We're not in a church where she doesn't have an older woman that can't speak into her life.
00:17:25.380 We're not in a church that people are walking in unrepentant sin.
00:17:28.760 We're in a community of people who are walking out their biblical roles.
00:17:32.340 I sought that out.
00:17:34.120 I made sure that we are surrounded with good friends who care about us and love us,
00:17:38.880 love us enough to tell us the truth and speak truth into our lives.
00:17:42.840 We have friends that show up, right?
00:17:44.920 Yes.
00:17:45.660 And show up when it's hard and they tell us the truth.
00:17:48.800 How has that been beneficial for us, just having that?
00:17:51.360 I think it just provides, you can just see their loyalty to you.
00:17:57.140 they're they're faithful in their friendship yeah and they're they're just um and how many people
00:18:02.820 don't have this oh it's sad it's a ridiculous amount i don't mean i obviously don't know but
00:18:08.420 tons thousands hundreds of thousands and we get people we get emails from people that are turning
00:18:13.540 to us because they don't have anybody else to turn to in their life and it's a really sad thing so
00:18:18.720 again i think these are just we wanted to go over the basics what is the basics of biblical roles
00:18:23.720 And it's really based in submission and seeking the headship as a wife and walking out that role there.
00:18:31.600 And then, you know, what this does really for a woman is that if you're a natural leader, if you're a extrovert, 0.87
00:18:43.220 if you know the scriptures more than your husband, it really eliminates, like, you can't walk in that manner. 0.59
00:18:51.660 You need to actually allow your husband to lead.
00:18:56.060 And you've seen this before.
00:18:57.100 What's been your experience, babe, on just seeing women that have just not allowed their husband to do that?
00:19:02.300 You just can see the tension in their relationship, especially if the woman is a little bit more headstrong than the man.
00:19:10.340 And the man can be a little bit more passive, which is pretty common.
00:19:14.760 You can just sense that he's uncomfortable.
00:19:18.440 He doesn't like this.
00:19:19.360 but he's also uncomfortable to take the lead yeah he's he might be even scared yeah because of the
00:19:26.200 the wrath or the um i don't know the result of confronting his wife with this conversation
00:19:33.460 yeah and and the feminist culture doesn't help um it makes you believe that yeah you're you know 0.98
00:19:38.600 men are worthless and we're dumb and we're going to be put in our place and all these different 1.00
00:19:41.760 things that culture's against you but i'm saying women you need to allow your husband to walk in 1.00
00:19:46.680 that role teach him encourage him allow him to be there follow him serve him in that manner that
00:19:52.260 really changes that and then husbands step up your game okay provide love your wives as christ
00:19:58.880 loved the church and gave himself up for her make sure that your priorities are set to to love your
00:20:04.620 wife in a way that you're you're it's not about you it's a lot easier to submit to a husband
00:20:09.340 when you feel cared for and loved and cherished by your husband yeah and it's a lot easier to
00:20:15.100 walk and love your wife when you feel respected and when she's walking out her biblical role.
00:20:22.720 And I'll tell you guys, this changed our marriage. It's simple. You can take a study on this for a
00:20:29.460 hundred pages in a book. You can take a study on this that's way deeper than what we talked
00:20:34.420 about today. But I'm telling you, consider walking out strictly your biblical roles.
00:20:39.360 okay moving on we're going to talk about questions a couple of questions
00:20:45.220 so one of the questions that i get pretty often um is how can i stay loving towards my husband
00:20:53.740 during the times when my mood is being negative negatively affected by hormonal changes or
00:20:59.780 imbalances which caused me to feel irritated and angry towards him veronica's never dealt with this
00:21:04.880 never ever ever i have had three children hormones are crazy i totally first i totally understand
00:21:13.520 i can totally empathize with you i have been there i have succeeded and i have failed in this area
00:21:19.560 multiple times so for me when i um confronted with these irritations where all of a sudden
00:21:27.240 dill just walks in the room and i'm instantly just like mad for no reason or whatever um i remind
00:21:32.780 myself of what the scriptures teach of what the scripture says is true um i will typically cling
00:21:39.520 to a few scriptures that i'll write down that are really speaking to me um in that season of life
00:21:45.120 and i'll just read those over and over again um i think about how god wants me to respond
00:21:51.220 and not how my flesh desires to respond yeah you're not being obedient to your husband you're
00:21:57.460 being obedient to god the same way as that our children when they're disobedient they're not
00:22:00.780 being disobedient to us. They're being disobedient to God. And the same thing is true with that
00:22:06.260 relationship between husband and wife. Right. And the difficulty of obedience doesn't remove
00:22:12.540 the duty of obedience. Yeah, this is a huge point right there. The difficulty of obedience
00:22:17.400 doesn't remove the duty of obedience. If you're only obedient when things are easy,
00:22:24.540 then you're not that you're not obedient that's called conditional obedience um this is like you
00:22:31.000 know think about in war like oh you're you can follow the rules when you're a boot camp but you
00:22:34.960 can't follow the rules when you're in war you're gonna die you're gonna fail um and so it's very
00:22:39.720 difficult um yeah it's like telling your kids hey kids go get in the car we're going to disneyland
00:22:43.160 like are they being obedient no they're excited to get into the car you know and so yeah that's
00:22:48.920 not obedience obedience is is go downstairs and clean up the room and they actually do that you
00:22:53.100 know um okay so that's a that's a good a good question i think veronica does a really good
00:22:57.720 job at walking that out is just most of the time not always not all the time but but it's not an
00:23:04.920 emotional spiritual journey you have the holy spirit yeah and one of the fruits of the spirit
00:23:10.520 is self-control yes so if your husband walks in your kids walk in and you're hormonal and you're
00:23:17.520 frustrated and you're angry you get to walk in self-control and patience and kindness and love
00:23:23.140 and gentleness yeah this these are the fruits of the spirit um so my question for this question
00:23:32.000 second if you guys have questions all you have to do is just write your questions to
00:23:35.380 support at ultimate marriage.com and we will hear your questions and that's how these questions are
00:23:41.540 here we'll keep you guys anonymous um and uh we'll answer this question to the show we get a lot of
00:23:46.720 them and we only get to pick two every week. So some guy writes me, he says, Dale, I struggle
00:23:54.040 with pornography and I know it hurts my wife. Any recommendations on how to quit? Okay. This is a
00:24:01.460 very common question, sadly, that we get from lots of husbands and wives, wives on behalf of
00:24:08.020 themselves and wives on behalf of their husbands sometimes. So first off is that you don't have a
00:24:12.660 porn problem. You have a sin problem. You are not addicted to pornography. Addiction is a biological 0.78
00:24:18.380 response to sin. That is what addiction is, a biological response to sin. No, God didn't give
00:24:25.980 you the gospel that says, you're free from everything. You're free indeed, unless you're
00:24:31.520 addicted. No, you're free. You're free to be obedient. You have the power. God did not give
00:24:37.440 you a spirit of fear, but of love, power, and a sound mind. If you believe wrong, you'll never
00:24:42.740 live strong. So remember that. So a couple other things. Sin doesn't happen to us. We choose it.
00:24:50.680 We don't have sin that just like bounces and pounces on us. Temptation does, but temptation
00:24:57.680 even hit Jesus, but he didn't sin. And so, yeah, sin doesn't happen to us. We choose it. You are
00:25:04.180 choosing to look at pornography. That is what's happening. You need to recognize that. And you're
00:25:09.660 choosing to sin. And we're not victims to sin. We're victors over it. The scriptures say that
00:25:16.400 we're more than conquerors through Christ Jesus. We're not victims to sin. You're a victor over it.
00:25:23.000 You can stop looking at pornography. I promise you. That's the thing. Self-control. Self-control.
00:25:29.740 I mean, it's such a big thing.
00:25:31.100 If the gospel doesn't free you from this, then what is the gospel?
00:25:36.960 Like, if it can't free you from this sin, but every other sin, like, no, no, the gospel frees you from all sin.
00:25:42.920 And that's the power.
00:25:44.060 You can walk in it.
00:25:46.460 The solution of it all comes in repentance.
00:25:49.480 And right now, brother, if you're walking in unrepentant sin, in that you continue to look at pornography week after week,
00:25:57.760 I don't know how many unrepentant sinners are in heaven, but you can take a guess.
00:26:01.920 I mean, I think that there's zero there.
00:26:04.320 And now, this could be a big debate on the once saved, always saved.
00:26:09.100 I just go, one of the key parts of the gospel, one of the main things that Jesus says is repent.
00:26:14.140 And repent means to turn away from.
00:26:15.760 And there's a big difference between the guy who sins, walks down the road, slips into the mud puddle,
00:26:23.900 falls in the mud puddle, gets up, wipes the mud off, and then keeps walking forward. There's that
00:26:31.020 guy. And that's pretty much how life goes. You walk, you slip in the mud, oh crap, you know,
00:26:35.660 repent. Sorry, got it. That shouldn't have happened. You wipe yourself off and you walk 0.99
00:26:39.580 another hundred miles. There's a big difference between that guy spiritually and the guy who says,
00:26:44.840 I'm walking, I get to the mud puddle, I actually stay at the mud puddle. I jump in and out of the
00:26:51.100 mud puddle every single day. I brought a beach towel to the mud puddle, and I'm going to hang
00:26:55.240 out at the mud puddle. There's a big difference between the repentance of that guy and the
00:26:59.640 repentance of the other guy. One guy's apologetic, the other guy's repentant. And repentance is a key
00:27:06.380 part of being right with God and salvation. So I would just, at the very least, be freaked out.
00:27:12.640 At the very least, have the fear of the Lord there. And so that's my answer. So hopefully
00:27:17.780 that helps bring some freedoms to anybody that's struggling with pornography so yeah again so if
00:27:23.120 you guys have any more questions go ahead and email them to us um so memory verse we forgot
00:27:28.040 to give you guys your memory verse last week everyone was writing us and saying what was
00:27:32.660 this week's memory verse we totally forgot week two this is how bad we are at this okay we're
00:27:36.600 still we're still getting used to this at least i am yeah so so get the ladies the ladies memory
00:27:41.880 verse i'm sure you can guess what it is it's what we went over today ephesians 5 22 through 24
00:27:47.400 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body.
00:27:57.500 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 0.95
00:28:03.980 Yeah, so awesome. 0.92
00:28:05.800 And then the men's scripture is the men's scripture.
00:28:09.240 I'm going to read it again for you guys.
00:28:10.340 It's Ephesians 5, 25 through 27.
00:28:13.020 It's husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her,
00:28:18.480 that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,
00:28:24.460 that he might present her to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such
00:28:29.640 thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So, memorize those verses. You can't
00:28:36.800 fight against lies if you don't have the truth memorized and so um it's really helpful for that
00:28:43.560 uh for that process of memorizing scripture um one last thing before we wrap up the show
00:28:48.800 for those people who are watching this on youtube do you want to explain what's on your head
00:28:52.180 oh gosh i know right i had skin cancer on my forehead that needed to be removed surgically
00:28:59.060 removed and i got that done i should have put this in the beginning yeah i got it done on monday
00:29:03.200 I'm kidding, but I figured for all those who are watching this visually on YouTube,
00:29:07.280 they might be distracted this whole time just to get your forehead.
00:29:09.760 I got a Band-Aid on my forehead right now, guys.
00:29:11.620 And so, yeah.
00:29:12.120 Those who are just listening.
00:29:12.860 What did it look like?
00:29:14.500 Dale basically looked like he just had a straight bullet hole, like a dime-sized hole in his forehead.
00:29:21.100 They took a...
00:29:22.040 Maybe not that quite big.
00:29:23.100 Well, maybe.
00:29:23.540 Yeah, maybe.
00:29:23.900 It was pretty big.
00:29:24.380 A chunk of skin out of my forehead, almost down to my skull.
00:29:27.460 Perfect circle, just straight in the middle of your forehead.
00:29:30.140 Yeah, so it's like my old unicorns area.
00:29:33.200 But anyway, so that's what's going on.
00:29:35.580 But I'm good.
00:29:36.440 I don't have skin cancer anymore.
00:29:37.700 Cancer free now.
00:29:38.180 Cancer free now.
00:29:39.040 Big deal.
00:29:40.980 Praise God.
00:29:41.700 Yeah, praise God.
00:29:42.200 I feel they got it all.
00:29:43.200 So again, as we close out the show today, again, if you guys would take a minute, you
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00:29:52.400 That would really help us if you guys would leave those reviews.
00:29:54.820 It does actually help the exposure of the show.
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00:30:15.660 post as well. So it's available to you guys. So I think that's it. We'll have another episode.
00:30:22.780 I'm not going to, I'm not going to, next episode is going to be awesome. So I just encourage you
00:30:26.440 guys to make sure that you guys, every Wednesday, put it in your phone to come watch the show.
00:30:30.760 or listen to the show on the podcast. So until next time.
00:30:34.220 Cool. See ya. Thanks guys.
00:30:35.440 Thank you. See ya.
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