Dale Partridge - Ultimate Marriage #04： How A Wife Can Motivate Her Husband To Be The Spiritual Leader.

00:00:00.000 hey guys and welcome to ultimate marriage today we're going to be talking about how a godly wife

00:00:15.760 can motivate her husband to be the spiritual leader yeah and this is a problem that we get 1.00

00:00:19.900 this question a lot from women yeah it's definitely probably one of the number one 0.98

00:00:23.480 questions that we get yeah of just really what does it look like for a wife a godly wife to 0.98

00:00:28.780 motivate her husband to become the spiritual leader. And men, if you're watching this or

00:00:33.360 listening to this, this is actually a really good episode for the men to listen to as well.

00:00:37.700 There's some doctrine for the guys that we're going to be talking to as well. If you guys are

00:00:42.820 watching on the video, this is the last week that I'm going to have a Band-Aid on my face, probably.

00:00:48.140 Hopefully.

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00:00:54.240 And that's why I have a bandaid on my head.

00:00:56.060 So we kind of caught that at the very end of the last episode.

00:01:00.440 And we're also going to be looking at our notes over here.

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00:01:08.380 If you're listening to it on audio, then, hey, you don't get to see us or our notes.

00:01:12.800 But we hope that you guys enjoy the show today.

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00:01:45.500 reviews really do help our exposure for the show um so i'm gonna just kind of open us up and then

00:01:51.100 Veronica is going to be teaching a little bit of this stuff on 1 Peter that we're going to be talking about today.

00:01:57.060 Sadly, the audience for this podcast, the Ultimate Marriage Podcast, is mostly women. 1.00

00:02:05.380 And I say sadly because it's a problem. 1.00

00:02:10.720 We need to activate the men in culture, especially activating the men in the church. 0.73

00:02:14.900 and most couples who enrolled in our one-year marriage mentor program the wives were kind of

00:02:20.780 taking the initiation we noticed that in a big way not that the husbands maybe in our group aren't

00:02:26.720 motivated but it was the wives who took the initiation to do that same thing's true with

00:02:31.300 some of our marriage retreats the same thing's true with the comments that we get in I mean

00:02:35.800 Veronica's only generally going to get comments from the women yeah but even on your page it's

00:02:40.320 definitely like 95% women, 90% of women, obviously just a large amount of women in comparison to the

00:02:47.820 men who comment on your Instagram posts or Facebook posts or something. Or seek counsel

00:02:52.500 on something. Um, and you know, in most Christian marriages, it's the woman or the wife who is, 0.97

00:02:58.840 you know, getting the family to church. It's the wife who's reading the Bible, uh, on a regular 0.94

00:03:04.880 basis. It's the wife who is going to a Bible study. It's the wife who is maybe reading the

00:03:10.180 scriptures to the kids. And I just want to tell you guys, you know, well, first off, let's praise

00:03:16.080 the women, because that's a faithful witness and a faithful work that you ladies have been doing

00:03:22.540 that. But it's actually not how God intended it to be. I know that we have to walk the story out

00:03:29.100 that we have, but that's not how God intended it to be. I'm not necessarily saying that you're

00:03:35.060 sinning by doing that. I'm just saying is that God would actually has other plans, and we're

00:03:39.620 going to see that in scripture well and that is a little bit of part i mean that is a part of our

00:03:43.180 role too as a mother in discipling our children yes but to take the lead um that falls more onto

00:03:49.360 the husband's shoulders yeah and if your husband's not a believer then you do have to take the lead

00:03:53.280 because that's kind of in terms of just the spiritual lead because your husband can't

00:03:57.100 spiritually lead so it's a balance of what we're going to talk about today um but we're going to

00:04:02.440 talk about how it should be not this is an ideal situation and this is how we should be walking

00:04:08.380 these things out. So ladies, just, you know, give us some grace as we talk through this stuff.

00:04:14.060 And in the flesh, when men don't lead, women do. And we have to just remember that. In the flesh,

00:04:20.420 when men don't lead spiritually, women do. And we need to pay attention to that concept as we're

00:04:26.020 going to talk about today. But biblical women know that the fastest way to awaken your husband's 1.00

00:04:33.140 heart is not to actually take over. It's to actually pull back. It's quite the opposite 1.00

00:04:40.380 of what your flesh actually wants to do. And what I call this leading from behind. And so this

00:04:46.220 scripture that we're going to read in Peter's first epistle in chapter three is leading from

00:04:52.700 behind. And it's God's design for a woman to spiritually motivate her husband or to activate 0.90

00:04:59.280 her husband spiritually. And so we're going to talk about this. So Veronica is going to read

00:05:03.360 first Peter. Yeah. First Peter three, one through four wives, likewise, be submissive to your own

00:05:08.440 husbands that even if some do not obey the word, they without a word may be won by the conduct of 0.93

00:05:13.820 their wives. When they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear, do not let your adornment be

00:05:19.020 merely outward arranging the hair wearing gold or putting on fine apparel. Rather, let it be the

00:05:24.940 hidden person of the heart with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is

00:05:30.420 very precious in the sight of God. Okay. That's a lot. Yeah. That's a lot to take in. Pay attention

00:05:36.320 for a second. Yeah. So your husband's spiritual status does not change your spiritual role

00:05:44.400 as a wife. Yeah. So what you're saying there is that like your husband's state, meaning that like

00:05:49.580 if he's activated, if he's a believer, but not going to church or if he's a believer, not reading

00:05:53.700 his Bible, or if he's not a believer at all, my spiritual status doesn't change your role.

00:05:58.540 Correct. So your husband, whether he's following the word of God or not, he's the head of your home.

00:06:04.660 Right? He's your spiritual leader. And you are not going to win him to the gospel or to the truth

00:06:10.680 by usurping his position. Yes. By dominating. By dominating, by taking over, by leading every

00:06:16.780 conversation. And a lot of women do this in terms of just they usurp, which the word usurp is just 1.00

00:06:22.640 to kind of take over um i wrote this in our notes and veronica's like what is this word and we're

00:06:27.740 talking about that i'm not supposed to say that i know but we talked about it i'm glad that she's

00:06:31.840 using it but yeah just usurp authority usurp the authority and that's what happens um and again

00:06:36.420 it's not to um take over it's to pull back and that's what the scripture is talking about yeah

00:06:41.440 and you're the greatest influence of god's of for god's truth to your husband right so he's not just

00:06:49.680 your husband he's your brother in Christ and you have to look at him that way um he's he needs

00:06:55.720 Christ so don't be the reason he's turned off by the gospel so about I don't know six or seven

00:07:02.040 years ago Dale and I um were a part of this church and we one of the um the nights that we

00:07:09.900 went to for um the marriage ministry that we used to go to um was a night of people just sharing

00:07:16.120 their testimonies and where God has brought them through all these married couples and there was

00:07:20.920 one couple in particular that I still remember very clearly who shared their story and it was

00:07:28.220 a husband and wife who had gone through the wringer they his her husband was addicted to

00:07:33.460 pornography he had hired prostitutes he would leave and not come home for several days and his

00:07:40.500 wife very well knew what was going on and she something that stood out to me

00:07:45.620 that she shared was I had to stop looking at him as my husband who shattered my

00:07:51.300 heart but I had to start looking at him as my brother in Christ who needed the

00:07:56.560 gospel who needed the truth found in the word who needed to repent of his sin and

00:08:02.460 so I came alongside him as his sister in Christ and walked through that season

00:08:07.560 in looking at him as my brother yeah not just his wife not just who's like wounded and rightfully

00:08:13.460 wounded right um and that was that was a powerful testimony and they redeemed everything at least we

00:08:19.600 i mean at least then we haven't talked about i mean that was yeah six or seven years ago but they

00:08:23.520 they give i think they go around now and sharing their testimony and it's an incredible testimony

00:08:28.080 of what god has brought them through yeah yeah so um is this me no okay sorry we're looking at

00:08:35.480 our notes here so um when it goes or when we go back to the scripture when it says without a word

00:08:40.380 it means that your holy conduct will be the means of moving his heart yeah like you don't need like

00:08:47.160 yeah without a word you don't even like you don't need to say anything yeah it's in your conduct

00:08:50.900 it's in your behavior that's my next point your behavior will be what wins your husband to the

00:08:56.900 gospel preaching at your husband is not as effective as walking out your biblical role

00:09:02.420 Yeah, yeah. So that's a really key point. Preaching at your husband isn't as effective as walking out your biblical role. Is it now my part? Okay, sorry. We're just we're still new at this, guys, and we're crushing it. And, you know, I have some spots where like, you know, we get our notes together and Veronica has her piece. And, and then I have my notes next to hers and we're sharing the same.

00:09:26.820 Yeah, and if you're watching this on YouTube,

00:09:29.580 just please forgive me.

00:09:30.560 I'm not as good at ad-libbing.

00:09:32.800 I like my notes.

00:09:33.640 I like to read what I have written down.

00:09:35.780 And Dale's very good at just going off the cuff

00:09:37.780 where I like to be prepared and know what I'm going to say.

00:09:40.460 So if I sound like I'm reading, it's probably because I am.

00:09:43.400 But I'm reading what I want to say.

00:09:44.920 Yeah.

00:09:45.220 It's something that we went over before.

00:09:46.960 She's getting better and better at this.

00:09:49.760 So yeah, let's go back to that scripture for a second.

00:09:52.040 And it says, I'm going to read it.

00:09:53.440 It says,

00:09:53.540 When they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

00:09:57.880 When they, the husbands, observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

00:10:02.400 The reason that this wife would behave in such a way where she actually doesn't dominate her husband,

00:10:10.000 like especially in a modern world, like to actually instead of take over but pull back in humility 1.00

00:10:16.180 is so incredibly rare today in a modern world, especially with a feminist culture, 1.00

00:10:22.140 that that alone would become the evidence to move your husband's heart to go like whoa this is so

00:10:28.720 weird she she must really believe this you know she must really actually have a reverence i was

00:10:34.400 just gonna say that it shows a reverence for god's truth and it shows reverence for your husband 0.94

00:10:37.900 yeah like just a huge respect that that you know this woman is is allowing her conduct not

00:10:45.040 necessarily her words to be the means by which, you know, she moves her husband's heart. I mean,

00:10:52.680 the Holy Spirit's moving her husband's heart towards the gospel and towards spiritual maturity

00:10:57.360 and towards leadership in the home. And so, yeah, the obedience to God in an imperfect

00:11:05.040 circumstance is very convincing to a man. I'm going to say that again. The obedience to God

00:11:11.000 in imperfect circumstances is very convincing to a man when you can be obedient in things that are

00:11:17.560 just like these are not this is not a good situation to be obedient that is what makes

00:11:21.280 it so special and so unique and so um yeah it's just it's just a powerful way to win win hearts

00:11:28.000 so going back to the scripture again do not let your adornment be merely outward arranging the

00:11:33.740 hair wearing gold or putting on fine apparel rather let it be the hidden person of the heart

00:11:38.700 I always get stuck on that part. Let it be the hidden person of the heart with the incorruptible

00:11:43.460 beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. So the Bible teaches

00:11:49.900 that we are compound beings. We've got a soul. We've got a spirit. We've got a body. Um, we have

00:11:56.300 an outward appearance, which is visible. And we have an inward appearance, which is, um, obviously

00:12:00.260 invisible. It's inward. And God looks at the heart. He cares about what's going on in your heart.

00:12:05.080 Yeah. Yeah. And this is, again, just remember that we're like a compound, multi-layered structure. And it's just, it's, it's beautiful to look at. And what, what, what Peter's trying to say here is that, man, this stuff matters. The inside matters way more than the outside in the winning game.

00:12:22.800 so make sure that you're always guiding your heart to what the truth is the truth is found in god's

00:12:28.860 word amen yeah because it's so easy to get wrapped up in your feelings but your feelings uh kind of

00:12:37.160 don't matter when it comes up to the word of god yeah you have to follow the word of god regardless

00:12:41.280 yeah so um and so are you meek and quiet with your husband or are you assertive and controlling

00:12:49.140 dominating and dominating and leading because peter says that what is precious in the sight of

00:12:56.580 god which is that quiet meek gentle spirit is what changes your husband's heart yeah that's what it

00:13:03.040 is it's not the assertiveness of like like why aren't you going to church like you're you're

00:13:07.780 never doing this stuff like the complaining because it's coming from a root of bitterness

00:13:11.460 that's in there yeah and when you come to your husband and you approach him with that type of

00:13:15.800 heart attitude like do you really think that that motivates your husband to want to be better

00:13:20.660 no yeah it annoys him yeah it's like a dripping faucet you know it's just yeah it definitely does

00:13:29.940 not motivate your husband to want to to lead better yeah and i mean so many women will just 0.83

00:13:34.520 these subtle remarks you know um passive aggressive passive aggressiveness because of the bitterness

00:13:40.000 and anger so again if you want your husband to lead those things out it's the gentle and quiet

00:13:46.740 spirit the thing that's very precious to god is the thing the very same thing that will actually

00:13:53.260 motivate your husband's heart to go wow this is real to her and and make him uh activated to step

00:14:01.140 into his spiritual role or to be at least willing to hear the gospel if he's not actually a believer

00:14:06.140 um okay so verse seven talking to the dudes here for a second um so if you're reading along or

00:14:15.720 going to reference this back it's verse seven chapter three first peter chapter three verse

00:14:20.040 seven it says husbands likewise dwell with them with understanding and the king james version or

00:14:26.620 some other versions it might say according to knowledge dwell with them with understanding

00:14:31.480 giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of life

00:14:38.040 that your prayers may not be hindered. Okay, so a couple things. Husbands, do you know your craft

00:14:46.580 or your career or your business or your friends better than you know your wife? Like, are you a 0.78

00:14:53.780 student of your wife or is your wife constantly asking the question or saying statements like,

00:14:58.940 Like, do you not know that about me by now?

00:15:00.980 Like, we've been married for 10 years.

00:15:02.220 You don't know that about me?

00:15:03.600 Like, that's a problem.

00:15:05.860 It says that husbands, likewise, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, according

00:15:10.480 to understanding.

00:15:11.380 You need to make an effort to know your wife deeply, to be a student of your wife.

00:15:17.440 That is a part of your role, to study her, to know what brings her joy, to know what

00:15:22.560 brings her sorrow, to know what brings her peace, to know what brings her love.

00:15:27.140 and you actually need to cater those things in your life.

00:15:30.920 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them according to knowledge, 0.80

00:15:33.380 with understanding, understand who they are.

00:15:37.780 And then it goes into this idea of giving honor to the wife

00:15:41.900 as to the weaker vessel.

00:15:43.960 So let's talk about that for a second.

00:15:45.620 So this is probably one of the greater scriptures that talks about,

00:15:48.240 that I guess alludes to the idea of being a provider and a protector.

00:15:53.340 Giving honor to the weaker vessel.

00:15:54.840 your wife is, in terms of her stature, her structure, her frame, that word weaker vessel

00:16:00.900 means the physical frame of your wife. It doesn't necessarily mean that she's got a weaker spirit

00:16:05.880 or weaker emotions or any of that stuff. It's the weaker frame. And that your job is to be a

00:16:11.940 provider and a protector. She is frail in comparison to a man's structure and frame. And she's

00:16:18.860 beautiful. And, you know, I think of like dainty or whatever, you know, there's other words that

00:16:24.200 just like that's veronica's like a whopping 95 pounds uh at five foot one so she's very tiny 0.92

00:16:31.680 um i know people meet me in person if they followed us on social media long time they're

00:16:36.300 like you're so much smaller in person like thanks i'm not offended by that at all it's just it's

00:16:41.520 just funny yeah and so you know it also says in first corinthians chapter 11 when it's talking

00:16:47.380 about it says that man is it says man is the glory of god and woman is the glory of man what it means

00:16:53.860 by that is that woman is the better version of mankind. She's the more beautiful version of

00:17:00.280 the human race. She's the glory of man. That's why we, as men, find them beautiful, because they are.

00:17:06.480 They're more beautiful than a man's structure. If you just look at a woman's body, her frame,

00:17:10.660 it's just different compared to a man. It's more beautiful. It's more of a piece of art.

00:17:15.260 It's the glory of mankind, is what Paul says in 1 Corinthians chapter 11.

00:17:20.320 When it talks about as being heirs together in the grace of life,

00:17:24.640 again, this is another take of equal value, but different roles.

00:17:28.120 We are equal before the Lord.

00:17:30.420 The men don't have any more spiritual value.

00:17:33.720 They have maybe some different spiritual authority,

00:17:36.800 which is derived authority, which we talked about before,

00:17:39.040 but derived authority is that it comes from God, through Jesus,

00:17:41.700 through man, through woman.

00:17:43.140 But we have different roles.

00:17:45.160 So equal value and different roles, just remember that.

00:17:47.180 And the big thing at the end of the scripture that's powerful that should scare the pants off the men is that it says you should behave this way because if you don't, your prayers will be hindered. 0.85

00:18:00.940 God will literally turn his ear to your requests if you don't walk in this manner with your wives. 0.84

00:18:09.020 Do you want to be, how much like opposition or I guess resistance do you want from God? 0.95

00:18:15.500 like your prayers aren't being heard because you're not walking according to understanding

00:18:21.320 giving honor to your wife um you know veronica and i were talking there was a great message by

00:18:27.020 paul washer and he talks about if you want to share it real quick yeah he just uh he's referring

00:18:31.720 to the scripture right i believe and he talks about um so he has a daughter so men listening

00:18:36.820 if you have daughters what would you do if someone tried to hurt her or mistreat her or mistreat her

00:18:42.920 i know what dale would do yeah i mean i'm a fallen sinful broken human and i would be angry

00:18:51.320 i might hurt somebody else you know if they try to hurt our daughter yeah yeah yeah and so now

00:18:56.860 let's just look about okay that's what i would do now what would god do to his daughters okay

00:19:03.560 not to his daughters sorry to somebody who hurt his daughters god loves his daughters more than

00:19:08.700 we love our daughters. And he even loves your wife more than you love your wife. And that's his

00:19:15.220 daughter. It's always going to be his daughter. And he goes, hey, you know what? If you don't

00:19:19.840 behave according to my will, I'm not going to hear your prayers. There's a consequence for that. So

00:19:25.640 I thought that was a pretty powerful point. So men, if you're listening, husbands, if you're

00:19:31.220 listening, it's time to step it up. You are called to be the spiritual head of your home. You can read

00:19:36.060 that in 1 Corinthians 11. You can read that in Ephesians 5. You can read that in Genesis 2 and

00:19:40.280 3. You are the spiritual head of the home. Wake up. Get motivated. Lead your wives. Initiate the

00:19:50.100 spiritual growth in your home. That's what I want you guys to take away from this. And remember

00:19:54.700 that Satan's plan is this. Men will be boys. Women will be men. And children, as a result,

00:20:00.920 will become irrelevant. And so we as men need to protect against that. Bring the kingdom of God

00:20:05.620 that protects against that idea um okay so that's the end of our teaching

00:20:09.380 component we we do this every week where we do a little teaching like that

00:20:12.660 um and then we do some questions some q a and

00:20:16.840 so if you guys have questions send them to support

00:20:20.380 at ultimate marriage.com yes and we can answer your questions

00:20:23.780 um so we got some questions veronica's gonna answer one and i'm gonna answer

00:20:26.420 one all right so uh another question we get pretty 0.73

00:20:29.240 frequently is how can a couple who can't afford a

00:20:31.820 babysitter um or dinner out was our

00:20:35.280 that's a typo maybe that i wrote yeah i think you changed that um how can a couple afford a

00:20:40.260 babysitter for oh my goodness i am just messing this up it's okay how can a couple go on a date

00:20:46.240 night when they can't afford a babysitter yes there got it okay so um family obviously if you've

00:20:53.580 got family members close by but like for in our circumstance for a little while we didn't have

00:20:58.380 any family um living nearby to us um until just a few months ago um so yeah if you've got family

00:21:05.000 members ask them and then another thing that we have done is just do cheap date nights at home

00:21:12.580 put your kids to bed early tire them out during the day if you know that you're in need of time

00:21:16.960 with your husband swimming tends to really burn your kids out or just playing with water it's

00:21:22.680 summer right now so burn them out there's all kinds of activities you can do to burn out your

00:21:26.240 kids and put them to bed early um and just have a night out on the porch and picnic and drink a

00:21:32.640 glass of wine whatever it is cheap date night um and then another thing also that some of our

00:21:38.140 friends have done is they'll trade date nights and so for example um dale and i will go on a date

00:21:47.180 night and our friends will watch our kids and then the following week those same friends will watch

00:21:53.440 their kids and they'll go get to or and they will get to go on a date night yeah yeah and there's no

00:21:58.180 money exchange yeah and it's just a trade-off yeah and if you can't afford dinner because date

00:22:03.660 nights can be pricey you know we do a date night every week um again i think this is the husband's

00:22:07.880 responsibility to make sure those things happen um but yeah i mean we've done date nights at

00:22:14.100 our our my parents house uh because it was just like we made dinner at our house i made dinner

00:22:20.400 at our yeah at our house and we took it over to your parents house who were out of town yeah who

00:22:24.400 We're out of town.

00:22:25.880 And we just hung out there and watched a movie.

00:22:29.440 Yeah, or just make a picnic and go out and sit in a park.

00:22:32.280 But you can always make a way.

00:22:34.260 The point of it is make a way.

00:22:36.100 Right.

00:22:36.660 Figure it out.

00:22:37.620 Get creative.

00:22:38.360 Prioritize.

00:22:40.000 So the question for the guys someone sent me is,

00:22:47.220 most women teach their kids about the Bible because they spend more time with them.

00:22:52.120 Do you believe it's the father's job or the mother's job to teach the children about God?

00:22:58.020 Okay, a couple things.

00:22:59.060 One, I think it's both.

00:23:00.560 It's both of the parents' job to teach them about God.

00:23:04.620 Veronica reads books and reads the scriptures and teaches them about God all day long.

00:23:10.220 But so do I.

00:23:11.440 And I do it at more of a doctrinal level, I guess, more of a theological level where I'm taking them on a journey.

00:23:19.160 I'm making sure that they understand some of the core concepts of the gospel.

00:23:23.020 And you're also making sure that I know what you want, where you want the children to be guided.

00:23:30.920 Yes.

00:23:31.480 So that way throughout the day when you are working or you're out of the house, I know where I'm supposed to be directing them.

00:23:38.440 Yeah, Veronica will actually seek out, hey, where do you think the children should know?

00:23:43.320 What do you think?

00:23:44.520 That they need to work on.

00:23:45.900 to work on it. So she's seeking my leadership, which is again, a very respectful thing to do as

00:23:50.640 a wife. Um, and I'll go, okay, yeah, like let's, I love the kids to be more grateful. And that's

00:23:56.700 something that we've been working on for a couple months now is like getting them to be thankful and

00:24:00.860 grateful for the things that they have. Um, and then on the flip side, since I am with the kids

00:24:06.480 all the time, I'll go up to Dill at the end of the day and just like, Hey, I really think honor

00:24:11.840 could use some more time with you yes or i really think that aria needs this or because i'm i'm kind

00:24:18.900 of gauging their hearts and i'm with them all day long she's got the thermostat on the children the

00:24:22.640 pulse on the on the on the home because yeah i'm working uh during the day and you can't expect

00:24:28.100 your children to know jesus if you're not willing to read his word to them so i read the word to

00:24:33.440 the children uh you know four to five days a week i try to do it every day sunday we don't because

00:24:39.680 i'm teaching at church generally um and even then sometimes we still will yeah even then yeah so but

00:24:47.340 like four to five times a week i'm sitting down with the kids and i'm reading the esv bible i'm

00:24:52.340 not reading a kid's bible i'm reading the regular bible that we read i read new king james but we

00:24:57.180 have a nice esv that's a little bit easier i think to understand for the kids and but it's a regular

00:25:01.700 adult bible and i'm taking them through genesis right now uh we read through ephesians we read

00:25:06.140 through 1 Thessalonians. We read through the book of John, the book of Matthew. I mean, we've read

00:25:09.820 through these books. And it says in Ephesians, fathers, raise your children up in the nurture

00:25:15.900 and the admonition of the Lord. Okay, who did he call out? The fathers. It's your job. Fathers,

00:25:24.660 you have an active role. Raise your child, your children up in the nurture and the admonition of

00:25:29.860 the Lord. That is teaching them the doctrines. And I also believe that the husbands and the

00:25:36.260 fathers are going to stand before the Lord and give an account in the way that the wife is not. 0.98

00:25:40.760 I believe that because there's that derived authority, we are going to be held responsible 0.90

00:25:45.060 before the Lord, more so than Veronica is going to be held responsible for the leadership of the

00:25:50.740 home of the children of the family. And so, yeah, there's all types of fun things you can do.

00:25:58.100 Have your kids memorize the Ten Commandments.

00:26:00.020 Have your kids recite the gospel back to you.

00:26:03.280 Let them know that narrative.

00:26:04.520 Really important stuff.

00:26:05.580 So, yeah, those are two quick answers.

00:26:09.860 Hopefully those are helpful for you guys.

00:26:11.600 So every week we do a memory verse.

00:26:13.300 So this week, if you're following along, we want you to memorize these verses.

00:26:18.580 You cannot grow in your spiritual journey without memorizing scripture.

00:26:23.360 You're not going to be able to pull this out of your brain when it comes up to need it.

00:26:28.100 if you can't memorize it so um ladies your verse for this week ladies first peter 3 1 and 2 wives

00:26:35.280 likewise be submissive to your own husbands that even if some do not obey the word they without a

00:26:40.020 word may be won by the conduct of their wives when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by

00:26:45.640 fear i like how veronica said one a one you always make fun of my words does the other word 0.60

00:26:52.160 guys make fun of gross yeah gross she's got like her hispanicness and then how gross all right so 0.55

00:26:58.380 um and then it says men uh this is uh the the men's verse it's first peter chapter three verse 0.84

00:27:04.400 seven husbands likewise dwell with them with understanding giving honor to the wife as to

00:27:12.260 the weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers may not be

00:27:18.880 hindered so a couple things before we close out guys again if you guys be willing right now just

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00:27:43.860 notes. If you go to ultimate marriage.com, you just go to the navigation, you click on podcast

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00:28:01.900 that's available at ultimate marriage.com. Um, I think that's it. Alrighty. Thanks for listening

00:28:08.100 guys. See you next week. See you guys next week. Thank you for joining us on this episode of

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Dale Partridge - August 01, 2018

Ultimate Marriage #04： How A Wife Can Motivate Her Husband To Be The Spiritual Leader.

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