Dale Partridge - Ultimate Marriage #26： What does it mean to be Christian？

00:00:00.000 Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Ultimate Marriage. Today we are talking about

00:00:14.880 what it means to be a Christian. What it means to be a Christian. This is an important topic

00:00:19.720 I think to evaluate in the new year. So happy new year guys, 2019. And we have a conversation

00:00:26.160 about seeking first the kingdom of God. What does that actually look like? What does that look like

00:00:30.980 in our life? And so we're going to have a great conversation about goal setting according to

00:00:36.600 scripture, what that means to be a Christian, just an evaluation overall of what it looks like

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00:01:50.820 that you guys continue to make it a priority to listen to our show, and we just pray that

00:01:56.720 it's fruitful for your walk with God. So yeah, this idea, Jesus says, seek first his kingdom

00:02:05.000 and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. Man, this is the ultimate goal

00:02:11.060 of what we need to be doing every day,

00:02:13.480 but a great time in January

00:02:16.160 to start reevaluating those things.

00:02:18.960 Yeah, it's always a good time

00:02:19.860 at the beginning of the year

00:02:20.740 to reevaluate the past year

00:02:23.240 and what you've done in this upcoming year

00:02:26.100 and look at it and say,

00:02:27.640 okay, seek first the kingdom of God.

00:02:30.020 What does that look like for a family?

00:02:31.640 What is the vision God has given me?

00:02:33.760 To seek that first

00:02:35.080 and then the rest will be added unto you.

00:02:38.360 So if you're not growing in Christ,

00:02:41.060 You're not actually, are you actually living for Christ?

00:02:43.940 That's something that a question you could ask yourself, especially evaluating the last year.

00:02:48.100 Yeah.

00:02:48.220 The idea is that, you know, we have a motto that we have at our church is grow or go.

00:02:53.920 Meaning that Christ calls us to grow.

00:02:56.700 He's calling us to constantly follow him, move forward, walk after him, chase after him.

00:03:04.740 And so this idea of, hey, let's evaluate if we did that well last year.

00:03:09.040 And if we're doing that this year and we need to kind of understand what those are, what does that actually look like?

00:03:15.960 And so that's something I think we need to have a conversation about today.

00:03:20.680 And and Veronica will kind of open us up on what we're going to chat about.

00:03:24.420 Yeah. So just again, like I said, going over your goals and vision for last year, going into the new year.

00:03:31.060 What does that look like? A big question to ask yourself.

00:03:34.280 Are you growing in Christ? If not, are you actually living for Christ? Because we need to remember that belief in Jesus doesn't just make us Christian. There are atheists out there that believe that Jesus existed. He's a historical figure, but they don't necessarily actually believe that he was a savior of the world.

00:03:52.840 So, um, the book of James even says, uh, even the demons believe in Trumbull. So what makes your marriage a Christian marriage or your home a Christian home? Isn't just your belief in Jesus. It's your belief in Jesus in combination with the fact that he is Lord over your life.

00:04:09.440 Yeah, this is a huge point that she's making right here, is that, yeah, cool, you believe in Jesus? Great.

00:04:14.840 What does that mean?

00:04:17.080 You know, and there's lots of Christians out there that are, or people that identify themselves with the Christian faith that believe in Jesus.

00:04:23.580 We have Jehovah's Witness saying that they're Christians and believe in Jesus.

00:04:27.040 We have Mormons calling themselves Christians and believe in Jesus. 0.52

00:04:30.060 And so you get this situation, you go, okay, well, what does it mean to be Christian?

00:04:34.400 What does it actually look like to be Christian?

00:04:37.260 And so, and especially biblical Christian,

00:04:40.100 because again, that's where we're going to have to turn to,

00:04:42.180 is that what does the Bible say about our faith?

00:04:44.800 Yeah, and it says you'll know them by their fruit.

00:04:46.880 Yeah, that's exactly what's one of the points we're going to be mentioning today.

00:04:49.720 We're going to dive deep into what that actually looks like in your marriage and family.

00:04:55.280 I'm going to say a couple of verses that I think are critical to just backing up our claims right here.

00:05:00.000 Romans 10, chapter 9, or Romans chapter 10, verse 9,

00:05:03.540 says that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has

00:05:08.620 raised him from the dead, you will be saved. And I want you to just recognize the two-part

00:05:13.540 element right there. Belief in lordship. Belief in lordship. You're going to see this reoccurring

00:05:17.300 theme throughout the New Testament is that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus.

00:05:23.140 That word confess in the Greek is homo legale. And that word means to authentically acknowledge.

00:05:29.100 It's not just like yelling out in a crowd, the Lord Jesus.

00:05:32.700 No, that's not what it's saying.

00:05:34.280 It's I actually believe and authentically acknowledge Jesus as Lord

00:05:39.080 and that God has raised him from the dead,

00:05:42.080 that the resurrection occurred, and he is my Savior.

00:05:45.360 Then you are saved.

00:05:46.460 And so it's just that two-part.

00:05:47.760 Again, like as Veronica mentioned, even the demons believe and tremble.

00:05:53.400 So, you know, is Jesus Lord in your personal walk with God?

00:05:57.720 That's the first evaluation for the year in your marriage, in your home.

00:06:02.100 Like, is he Lord?

00:06:03.420 Yeah, every thought, decision, choice, action you make done through the lens of Scripture.

00:06:10.140 Yeah, and how is your marriage in 2019 going to be different from your marriage in 2018?

00:06:15.640 How are you going to kind of, I guess, place Jesus in the proper position of your heart this year

00:06:22.400 in comparison to what you did last year?

00:06:25.300 And again, I think the best way to make this assessment is to relook at what it means to be a Christian.

00:06:31.280 We have to do this.

00:06:33.200 We've gotten so much that it's just about belief and that's it.

00:06:37.400 That we've forgotten just the many commands throughout scripture of what it looks like to identify yourself as a Christian.

00:06:46.000 And so we're going to talk about that.

00:06:47.880 We want to go over three really fundamental areas that I think would be helpful for you guys to evaluate and that you might need any improvement in your walk.

00:06:59.260 Now, I want to clarify that we know that you're saved by grace through faith, but we also know that faith without works is dead.

00:07:06.400 And most importantly, we know that God says to be holy as I am holy.

00:07:10.980 We know that there's a variety of scriptures and commands that Jesus himself asks us to fulfill.

00:07:16.200 So it's not just we're saved by grace through faith and we can't leave out the requirements that God calls us to walk and how to behave and how to walk with one another, especially in the sanctification of our marriages and of our personal Christian walk.

00:07:32.320 And so we're going to talk about, I don't think people, we're not going to talk about the apologetic side of do you actually believe.

00:07:38.020 This isn't a show for people who are skeptical about if Christ is the Savior or is God.

00:07:44.900 this is a show on Christians that need to be reminded what it looks like to be a Christian

00:07:49.840 according to the scriptures. And so we're going to dive into that and talk about that.

00:07:54.100 Yeah. So what are the marks of a Christian? So first John four, one says, beloved, do not believe

00:07:59.860 every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God, because many false prophets have gone

00:08:05.480 out into the world. So not everyone who says I'm a Christian is a Christian. Yeah. Test the spirits

00:08:14.500 right there it says yeah beloved test the spirits and you know uh jesus gives us a variety of ways

00:08:21.520 to examine ourselves and examine others to determine the authenticity of their faith

00:08:27.360 of their professed faith of what they're saying yeah and when they say test the spirits what are

00:08:33.000 we to test them against the word of god yeah we're to test them against scripture you go hey

00:08:38.320 uh what you're saying doesn't align with what he's saying therefore i don't believe what you're

00:08:43.840 saying. And so this is what the scripture is about, is test those spirits and test them against what?

00:08:49.580 Well, test them against the truth. And that's how you get to examine your life. And so in that,

00:08:56.040 I'm going to start off with, hey, I want you guys to evaluate as a husband, as a wife, as a father,

00:09:01.600 as a mother. Look at this scripture that we're going to read here in John 8, verse 31. It's a

00:09:08.400 critical scripture. It's the memory verse for the show. You should have it memorized anyways. It's

00:09:14.580 do you abide in his word? And we're going to read this, what this scripture is. Do you abide in his

00:09:19.960 word? He says, Jesus says, if you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples and you shall know the

00:09:27.160 truth and the truth shall set you free. I want to point out one is that it says, if you abide my

00:09:34.020 word you are my you are truly my disciples and you shall know the truth who is the truth jesus

00:09:39.740 yeah he says i'm the way the truth and the life he says you shall know the truth you shall know me

00:09:45.540 and the truth jesus shall set you free recognize what it's saying there um so do you abide in his

00:09:52.540 word that's a big question do you actually follow scripture on how you make decisions on your money

00:10:00.840 on your finance on your biblical roles on the way that you carry out your uh your you know your

00:10:09.100 finances your your uh your your home management your sex life your whatever it is are you looking

00:10:14.860 to scripture to make sure that you're trying to just go god i want to do it your way i don't want

00:10:18.820 to do it my way father if you've spoken on this matter in some way i want to seek out the scriptures

00:10:23.220 to find it so that I can follow it.

00:10:27.780 And I want to say a couple things,

00:10:30.440 that you can't abide in what you don't know,

00:10:34.340 and you can't know what you don't read.

00:10:38.200 So the big commitment I'm going to call you guys to this year in 2019,

00:10:42.740 again, only 11% of Christians have read the entire Bible.

00:10:46.260 That's the evangelical church statistic, 11%.

00:10:49.580 89% have not read the entire Bible. 0.97

00:10:52.580 If you've been a Christian for longer than a year, this is a problem. 0.98

00:10:58.580 You need to go, hey, do I actually believe this book? 0.85

00:11:02.360 There are people that would just about die to have a copy of a Bible right now.

00:11:06.780 Oh, yeah.

00:11:07.580 Definitely would.

00:11:08.620 There are people that would cherish that book,

00:11:10.940 and we have them all laying all over the place,

00:11:12.660 and we don't even pick them up.

00:11:14.480 My challenge to you is to read the Bible this year,

00:11:18.060 the entire thing, whether it's cover to cover

00:11:20.960 or whether it's a little Old Testament, little New Testament.

00:11:23.540 And you can do that.

00:11:24.360 We have provided you guys a free 365-day Bible reading plan.

00:11:30.540 You can download it at our website.

00:11:32.740 Just go to ultimatemarriage.com forward slash Bible.

00:11:36.640 Again, that's ultimatemarriage.com forward slash Bible.

00:11:39.660 Download it and start reading the Bible and finish it in a year.

00:11:45.760 Veronica just is almost done.

00:11:47.680 she's been going through this for a while

00:11:49.420 maybe like two thirds of the way

00:11:52.820 you finished the New Testament right or close to it

00:11:54.500 the only thing I have left in the New Testament

00:11:56.660 is Revelation but I'm going back

00:11:58.880 to the Old Testament to finish what I have to do there

00:12:00.600 and then I want to read Revelation last

00:12:02.260 and I finished I did cover

00:12:04.760 to cover last year

00:12:06.420 I'm going to do the Bible

00:12:08.260 hopefully again in the next

00:12:09.800 I'm going to try to do a six month read of it later this year

00:12:12.480 yeah I know our friends that live here

00:12:14.520 on her property they're reading through

00:12:16.580 the whole Bible in four months

00:12:17.620 Four months. And that's, I think, I think that's eight chapters a day or it might be 12 chapters a day.

00:12:23.960 But you can read the Bible in a year, four chapters a day is what I'm pretty sure.

00:12:28.900 It's usually about that, between four and five chapters a day.

00:12:32.100 Yeah. So one thing that I've started doing is I wake up in the morning.

00:12:37.900 First thing I do, first thing, I don't look at my phone.

00:12:41.520 I don't talk to Veronica.

00:12:43.000 First thing I do is I pray.

00:12:46.460 And I'm seeking first his kingdom and his righteousness.

00:12:51.280 And I'm going, Lord, just what do you want from me today?

00:12:55.400 I'm here to serve you.

00:12:57.680 And Lord, help me.

00:13:00.740 Give me strength today.

00:13:01.700 Walk me through these things.

00:13:03.380 And then the second thing that I do immediately, and this is, you know, five to six days a week, seven days a week, I try every day, is I read the word.

00:13:13.000 immediately i just start reading the word i seek god first are you doing that are you abiding in

00:13:19.220 his word because that's what makes you truly his disciples and you will know jesus and jesus will

00:13:26.100 make you free and keep you free from the sin that is constantly trying to put us in bondage

00:13:32.180 um why don't you read number two another mark of being a christian number two if you love me you

00:13:40.260 will keep my commandments jesus is saying that the greatest way to express your love and devotion

00:13:46.340 to him is is not to worship him um or to pray to him or to talk about him but to keep his

00:13:55.840 commandments you do all those things as well yeah yeah that just kind of naturally comes along with

00:14:01.060 it but is the number one way he says is to keep his commandments yeah jesus isn't saying if you

00:14:07.440 love me go worship me if you love me go pray to me if you love me go teach somebody about me

00:14:13.280 which is the the things that we all do those are fruits of obeying his commands yeah but what

00:14:19.340 jesus is saying if you love me keep my commandments that that's what he's specifically talking about

00:14:26.320 and so ask yourself do you keep his commandments yeah and john 14 uh verse it says in john 14

00:14:35.700 verses 15 through 24 but i'm just going to pick out a couple of those verses in that passage you

00:14:39.600 can read it for yourself um verse 15 if you love me you will keep my commandments verse 21 whoever

00:14:44.940 has my commandments and keeps them he it is who loves me that's worded really weirdly um verse 23

00:14:52.860 if anyone loves me he will keep my word verse 24 whoever does not love me does not keep my words

00:14:58.300 yeah this is just one section it says it in all the gospels and it even reiterated from the

00:15:04.600 apostles over and over and over again yeah i can't tell you how many times that jesus says if you

00:15:08.920 love me you keep my commandments and i like how veronica put it of the best way to show your

00:15:13.740 devotion to christ is to keep his command he's saying hey if you love me like you don't like

00:15:20.020 these other things are important but the best way to show that you love me is to keep my commandments

00:15:25.880 and we even say that to our kids totally not necessarily our commandments but to get this

00:15:31.500 concept yep uh transferred to them i would say is um aria how do you love mom and dad by obeying

00:15:39.500 you yeah by listening to us by obeying yeah yeah and i i ask i ask aria all the time i go hey

00:15:45.600 if you or i'll tell her if you love me you'll listen to me if you love me you listen to me

00:15:50.620 again you know he who he loves me hears my voice like there's just so many of these parallels in

00:15:56.160 scripture is that do you listen to god and how do you hear god you read his word right you gotta

00:16:04.720 get into the word and that's how we hear from god this is god's word in the scriptures and so do you

00:16:09.940 do you actually keep his commandments in 2019 evaluate in your marriage are you guys keeping

00:16:15.340 his commandments um and there's actually there's several uh lists of commandments but there's what

00:16:22.280 I would say the real, for sure, easy list is there's about 50 direct commands,

00:16:27.680 like undeniable commands of Jesus in the New Testament.

00:16:32.440 And I'm not going to list them all out, but it's like, repent.

00:16:35.380 You know, that's a commandment.

00:16:36.440 Do you repent?

00:16:37.720 Follow me.

00:16:38.740 Pick up your cross and follow me.

00:16:40.200 Do you follow Christ? 0.56

00:16:41.460 Like, do you actually do that in your marriage?

00:16:44.880 Rejoice.

00:16:45.680 Are you joyful?

00:16:46.640 Are you rejoicing?

00:16:49.400 Be reconciled to one another.

00:16:51.820 Like, are you allowing bitterness to come between you and other believers and other people?

00:16:57.700 Forgive.

00:16:58.840 Like, do you forgive people?

00:17:01.060 Do not lust.

00:17:03.120 Men, are you scrolling on Instagram looking at women's accounts that you shouldn't be on?

00:17:08.300 Are you looking at pornography?

00:17:09.960 Are you thinking thoughts that you shouldn't be thinking?

00:17:12.620 If you love me, keep my commandments.

00:17:14.380 That's how you want to show Jesus you love him.

00:17:16.340 It's keep his commandments.

00:17:18.200 Keep his word is what he says.

00:17:19.760 Be holy.

00:17:20.860 Seek God's kingdom.

00:17:23.140 Fear not.

00:17:25.060 Deny yourself.

00:17:26.620 Give.

00:17:27.180 Make disciples.

00:17:27.960 These are like big stuff.

00:17:32.400 Are you doing that?

00:17:33.640 These are the goals that you should be having for 2019.

00:17:36.260 Cool.

00:17:36.620 Your career stuff.

00:17:37.560 Cool.

00:17:37.900 Your home stuff.

00:17:39.460 Cool.

00:17:39.620 Your financial goals.

00:17:40.700 Great.

00:17:41.580 First, seek his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

00:17:48.200 And just we need to focus on that.

00:17:50.360 And you'd be surprised what you thought were your goals and how they change when you seek his kingdom first.

00:17:58.740 Yeah.

00:17:59.240 Like, and it's not just like a mention, like your heart actually changes.

00:18:02.560 Like those things that I thought that I wanted and these things that I thought I was going to achieve, like my heart isn't there anymore.

00:18:08.040 I just want to build God's kingdom.

00:18:09.860 This is exactly what my book Saved from Success is all about.

00:18:13.980 It's another great book for you guys to read at the beginning of a year to kind of, whoa, be saved from the American Christianity cultural thinking that isn't biblical.

00:18:26.940 And that's what that book Save from Success is about is, yeah, like when you seek the kingdom of God first, you go, oh, man, I'm thinking about children incorrectly.

00:18:34.500 I'm thinking about marriage incorrectly.

00:18:36.280 I'm thinking about money incorrectly.

00:18:38.220 I'm thinking about freedom incorrectly.

00:18:39.980 I'm thinking about community incorrectly.

00:18:41.780 it's crazy when you start looking at scripture about that yeah it's a great book and it's a

00:18:47.540 short read so if you're interested in a new book to read in the beginning of the year you can have

00:18:50.900 it done with soaking in the bath if you wanted to yeah it's it's you can read it in two hours

00:18:55.400 and two minutes that's the clocked time of an average reader it's a very short book um number

00:19:00.340 three number three go for it you bear the fruits of the spirit love joy peace patience kindness

00:19:05.520 gentleness faithfulness and self-control veronica knows the kids songs um we sing that stuff around

00:19:11.280 in our house all the time oh yeah um and so i repeat it every day at some point multiple times

00:19:18.580 a day do you bear the fruits of the spirit this is evidence this is the evidence of your faith

00:19:26.920 and to be clear i don't do it just to the kids i do it to myself too yeah and that's something

00:19:32.180 that you're saying you know like ask yourself that are you bearing the fruits of the spirit

00:19:35.600 because when i feel like my patience is running low when my kids haven't they skipped their nap

00:19:40.400 and i've got three kids four and under and i'm like about to freak out i remind myself

00:19:45.900 and it's just like am i walking in the spirit because this is what the spirit is right here

00:19:54.260 it gives it to me it shows it to you i it is given to you once you receive jesus as your savior

00:19:59.440 yeah no this is huge stuff i mean a way to keep yourself in check yeah and and jesus says you're

00:20:07.120 going to know them by their fruit. And, and so do people look at you and go, wow, you're different.

00:20:14.640 Or do people look at you and you go, you're the same as everybody else in the world.

00:20:18.620 If people aren't asking you questions about your life and your faith and why you do things

00:20:23.620 differently in your marriage and why you walk out these roles and why you, you know, educate

00:20:28.540 your children a certain way and train them and discipline them a certain way and, and build a,

00:20:33.240 you know don't have debt if you're not getting these questions well then you need to evaluate

00:20:38.280 yourself like am i actually walking out the faith enough to am i bearing fruit am i bearing fruit

00:20:43.620 yeah um this is evidence of the holy spirit and your life working through there's so many other

00:20:49.740 marks of a christian i wish we could i did a sermon on this a few weeks ago yeah that we don't have

00:20:54.660 time to go deeply into this stuff but there's so many more marks of a christian um but good roots

00:21:01.760 bear good fruit. Bad roots bear bad fruit. Are you worrying a lot? That's bad fruit. Jesus

00:21:09.040 specifically talks about not worrying. Are you angry? Do you and your spouse fight a lot and get

00:21:16.400 angry at each other? That's bad fruit. That's not good fruit. Do you have constant anxiety and

00:21:24.020 depression? Again, you know, I'd look at these things. I go, hey, something's up inside of your

00:21:29.800 heart and soul seek first his kingdom and watch the lord clean out the inside of that cup

00:21:36.780 watch him heal you and make you free from that stuff and dylan i know that from firsthand

00:21:43.560 experience we've both walked through anxiety and depression before hardcore and and have had to

00:21:49.320 walk through that stuff deeply and so we're not speaking from just like oh if you have anxiety

00:21:54.000 like you're you're crazy oh yeah no we've had we've had a dark season of our life yeah and

00:22:00.840 once we learned the truth the truth set us free if you believe wrong you'll never live strong

00:22:07.620 that's a quote from the guy that mentored me that's just a an important concept believing

00:22:14.320 correctly about the scriptures and about jesus is critical to how we actually walk out our life

00:22:19.760 so do you bear fruits of the spirit um so that's that's our short show on on goals what does it

00:22:30.180 mean to be christian what does it mean to be christian and and are you walking out the christian

00:22:33.780 life are you abiding in the word are you keeping his commandments are you bearing the fruit

00:22:37.160 are you seeking first the kingdom of god or are you seeking your own kingdom are you like i'm

00:22:43.740 gonna build my career and i'm gonna get these financial goals and everything we just talked

00:22:47.720 about in our you know annual meeting has nothing to do with with god in the bible um this is a

00:22:53.420 great time to evaluate hey jesus is lord are we going to actually make him lord this year in our

00:23:00.080 home so now time for our weekly question yep i'm going to ask a question for dale i mean we can

00:23:07.600 both answer it but mostly do um i have a three-year-old son and a five-year-old daughter

00:23:12.320 should my husband and i raise and discipline our son in a different way than we do our daughter

00:23:17.480 yeah so you know it says fathers um raise your children in the nurture and admonition of the

00:23:24.660 lord um you know so that's the reason i'm answering this is i think there's there's a an important

00:23:31.300 role in fathers to at least lead out the the philosophy of parenting in your home

00:23:42.580 veronica gets to carry out the details of how that's done

00:23:46.380 she turns to me and asks like hey what do you think what direction do you want

00:23:51.120 our children to go like according to scripture what are we

00:23:53.520 seeing in our son and our other son and aria like

00:23:56.740 what does that look like so i'm going to answer this

00:23:59.660 and then veronica can chime in we live in an egalitarian culture

00:24:04.940 and egalitarianism is that we're completely and utterly the same

00:24:09.560 male and female. We're absolutely equal. There's nothing different about us.

00:24:15.080 The biblical view is not egalitarian. It's complementarian. And it means that we actually

00:24:20.300 complement each other. We don't compete against each other. And so when I think about this,

00:24:27.260 you know, God said that he made us in his image and he made us male and female. It means that we

00:24:32.360 have equal value before the Lord, but different roles. And that's how you play out your marriage.

00:24:38.720 And that is also the way that we must view little boys and little girls, is that they're equally valuable before the Lord.

00:24:46.140 But they have different roles to play.

00:24:49.560 We're not just raising boys and girls.

00:24:52.660 This is an important distinction that you need to make in your child or in your parenting.

00:24:57.440 You're not just raising a little boy or a little girl.

00:25:00.440 You're raising someone else's future wife, future husband, future father, future mother, future friend.

00:25:07.720 And so, you know, the aim of boyhood and girlhood is manhood and womanhood.

00:25:15.400 It's training grounds.

00:25:16.580 It's training grounds to become biblical men and biblical women.

00:25:20.840 And so because biblical men and biblical women are different in the scriptures,

00:25:25.980 yes, we do train and discipline and raise up our boys differently

00:25:31.080 than the way that you would raise up our girls.

00:25:33.580 we actually direct our boys toward the characteristics of man of biblical men

00:25:42.340 masculinity masculinity and we direct our training and discipline and and all those types of things

00:25:48.500 for our daughters towards what it means to be a biblical woman and i'll give you a couple examples

00:25:54.700 um you know a woman in the scriptures uh in titus 2 says that that she has a uh that she's a homemaker

00:26:02.120 that she is a meek and quiet spirit, that she trains younger women about how to love her husbands and love her children.

00:26:14.520 So there's—

00:26:15.240 Husband.

00:26:15.860 Sorry. Husbands. We're that podcast. 0.59

00:26:20.800 And so there's characteristics of a biblical woman.

00:26:25.820 we look at proverbs 31 we look in a variety of other places that we we go oh that's the mark

00:26:32.180 like that's where we needed to help aria get to train a child up in the way they should go

00:26:37.600 and the way they should go should is a moral distinction it's how you ought to do it um

00:26:47.140 and then our boys uh you know the same thing is true there is you know it tells men to be watchful

00:26:55.820 to be on guard in first corinthians um it says to be a provider for your family in first timothy

00:27:02.920 um and we need to nurture these traits of of protection and and providing um and then also

00:27:12.640 you know first peter of gentleness with women and yeah i was gonna say you also need to take

00:27:18.840 into consideration your specific child's personality yep and how they take to these

00:27:25.020 things yeah yeah i'm reading a great book right now called future men and it's about raising

00:27:31.040 biblically biblically biblical boys into biblical men and yes so i think in short

00:27:40.300 we need to do that differently and you are responsible to steward those children those

00:27:47.040 boys and girls in the direction of the scriptures if you're going to call yourself christian so yes

00:27:52.900 that's the short answer um in doing so i don't know if you have anything to add on that

00:27:56.660 um so yeah that that's our concludes our question we're going to move on to our memory verse and

00:28:02.340 close out the show in a minute all righty memory verse john 8 31 if you abide in my word you are

00:28:07.460 truly my disciples and you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free again that is

00:28:12.920 john 8 31 memorize that just throw that one in there i i use that verse in my conversations

00:28:18.680 probably on a monthly basis with people.

00:28:21.280 It's just a great verse to have memorized.

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Dale Partridge - January 02, 2019

Ultimate Marriage #26： What does it mean to be Christian？

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