What is a Christian Home？
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In this episode, Dale and Veronica talk about what a home is and how it can impact the culture you re trying to establish in your home. They discuss the role of the father, the mother, and the child in the home, the ambiance of your home, as well as the location of where you live can all play a role in establishing a Christian home.
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Welcome to our home. My name is Dale Partridge, and I'm here with my wife, Veronica.
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Our hope is to help you cultivate a glorious Christian home. This episode is titled,
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What is a Home? Now, if you're new here, each episode is broken into two parts. Part one
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access. Well, in today's episode, we're going to be sharing our perspective on what is a home.
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In part one, we're going to be talking about really the father, the mother, and the child's
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And then in part two, we're going to be talking about the actual physical homes part of the
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home, meaning the building, the actual ambiance of your home, as well as the location of your
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home, where you live, and why that can contribute to this culture that you're trying to establish.
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in your home so let's begin and we will open up and we do have a sleeping baby that is we do on
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veronica right now yep and so we'll see how far we get on my chest so hopefully hopefully we can
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get through this but if not we'll just hand them off to our 10 year old yes we have a 10 year old
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now that's weird she just turned 10 so um okay what is a home and i'm really not asking the
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question, what is a house? But I'm asking the question, what is a home? Now, I gave a definition
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that I wrote out. And I wrote, a home is a sacred space where your generations are cultivated,
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nurtured, and instructed to glorify God. I think that's a pretty simple definition. And I want to
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just break that down just for a moment here. It's a sacred space. It's not a secular space.
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And it's where your generations are cultivated.
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And the purpose of that cultivation is obviously to glorify God.
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And so it's really the soil of where your descendants will grow from.
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And the home done right can change not just the lives of your children,
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but the lives of your grandchildren and so you know veronica and i have often talked about the
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idea of you know raising we're not just raising boys no yeah we're raising somebody's future
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husband future leaders future you know others future fathers future employees or business
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owners yep yeah protectors whatever it is that they end up doing i think that perspective is
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important because when you're parenting you're not just raising your children in a sense you're
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actually raising your grandchildren and your great-grandchildren your how you establish the
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home under your care your direct care will indirectly disciple and shepherd and parent
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in a way your grandchildren and i think we can see that with generational sin and generational
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problems you know we have friends that are uh the votebergs and the johnsons right they're like what
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third or fourth or fifth generation christians yes and kind of give give a yeah just going to their
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their you know um just going to their house or going to family gatherings we've been to a couple
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of the family's weddings and birthdays and it's just so fruitful and amazing to watch because we
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were not raised that way um we weren't raised in christian homes not that we're raised in atheistic
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type homes but um just you know very cultural california southern california cultural homes
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yeah um and so to see that i remember seeing that type of family multi-generational christians
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under one roof celebrating together and enjoying one another and getting along and just the fruit
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from grandma to parent to child to grandchild it was just so cool to see all of those generations
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together and what a incredible blessing it was it wasn't like anything we had ever seen growing up
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yeah to inherit uh you know to be essentially a child of a christian home with christian parents
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with christian grandparents with great grandparents that were believers as well you have by god's
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grace been sanctified generationally and you're starting to essentially see the fruit of that
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that you you were raised in a home that has been so far separated from so many of the ills and sins
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of the world and so i just want to really point out that when we're raising our kids we're raising
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our grandkids and we're raising our great-grandkids and we're raising essentially our generations
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to the glory of god now we live in a time where the house or the home has been reduced to
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a place of transactions it's like a it's a tool it's where we can eat and sleep and we can store
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our belongings yeah it's like just your shelter it's your shelter yeah it's uh we can we can play
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house we can play roommates there's a lot of that stuff going on in the culture but it has not been
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viewed as a place to essentially build civilization um i think that historically we didn't necessarily
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think of it as a place to build civilization either we just lived in a generation in the
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1800s and back where the home just built the civilization it wasn't how it was today where
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essentially um social media and and work and social life is the you know most formative
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uh influences to build this generation and the culture of our civilization um and so
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what what the home should be doing the world is doing for a lot of people and a lot of families
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the world is essentially shaping us more than the home is shaping us and again this is a foreign
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concept historically because there was no access to the world in the palm of your hand yeah yeah
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there was no technology to have your cell phone in you know you plug it in next to your head when
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you go to bed at night and then you wake up and it's the first thing you reach for just in our
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culture and you know millennials and under basically it's just everything is at your
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fingertips well and we had to work hard historically to culture our children to get them out into the
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world if we lived in a small town and rural midwest in the 1700s right we wanted to get them
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into a city and and to to get them to understand some of the civilized life yeah because back then
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all they knew was home life working on their farm working with their hands helping their
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mother churn the butter and milk the cow and yep mend their clothing um to be out in culture
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to see things different from how things are at home was was culture shock yes now we are on
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the opposite end where we're trying to guard constantly against the world infiltrating our
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homes through media through shows the kids watch i mean that's me that falls under media yeah
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tablets but we we also have like so much more travel i mean we are in cars and we have access
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to more people we live in societies that are much bigger and lots that are much smaller and
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we're closer to people then historically you'd be acres away from people and so there's just a lot
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of influence on us that we need to guard in order to uphold the culture of our home
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and i think a part of it is again just defining what is a home so that we can aim for that i think
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when we when we don't have something to aim for we we miss it every time and when you have again
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that that definition that i said earlier right it's a sacred space where your generations are
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cultivated nurtured instructed to glorify god and that's a broad definition but i think it's
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going to be helpful for us to have a discussion around that and so um i'll say one more thing is
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you know i often say the quote um if you don't catechize your children the world will
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and i think that's what we are talking about here actually i wrote a catechism called simple
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theology it's a gospel catechism for kids and and we are we've done catechisms in the past we are
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you know about to start that catechism with our own children i've ran through a lot of those
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questions in the past with them but we need to proactively catechize our kids not just in the
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gospel in all types of stuff which we're going to talk about because the the world will catechize
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them around ethics and around virtues and around athletics and around philosophy and education
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and economics and politics and relationships and sexuality i mean if you don't absolutely
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catechize your kids in your home and use your home as an absolute machine of establishing and
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cultivating that generation and what a safe space for that to happen and in a place where your
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children you know you're catechizing them but they're also in a place where they can ask you
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questions and you're the first person they're gonna hear these things from likely and you're
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first person that gets to impart your knowledge and wisdom to them um you know when it comes to
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the questions that they have it's a benevolent place right where you're you're having conversations
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around very touchy issues that are coming from the people who love you most rather than the world
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who says hey i want to talk about sex let me show you this hardcore pornography and so it's
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it's you're hearing about sexuality from an an unloving and wicked parent all right like
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if you count the media as a parent and and so instead of having the mom and dad talk
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about the biblical view of sexuality you're getting you're going to get parented either
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by the state or by the media um and so we want to make sure that we are controlling
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that home and this of course this kind of outward attack on the home is certainly the cause of our
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cultural collapse right when the home falls the culture falls um and i will say this if we go
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upstream from the home uh the reason the homes fall is because the church falls um and when the
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church is uh strong and it is constantly edifying and uplifting and sanctifying and teaching and
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instructing and correcting and guiding mom dad and children when the church is strong the families
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will be strong in the lord yes there is certainly spheres of authority there that are independent so
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they're not necessarily dependent upon one another but they certainly complement one another
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and so there's a big part of this around church which we will talk about in part two
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um but when you when you lost this kind of god-ordained means to cultivate christian moral
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virtuous cultures uh and when you don't have a a home um you essentially look to the world
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and that's the big dilemma and and this is why our country is is collapsing and satan knows this
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satan really understands the value of the home the value of the home and he's a patient
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incrementalist and he's a slow destroyer with strategy and when the church is asleep
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and the church instead of instead of getting out there preaching the gospel upholding truth
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fighting back if they just say lord come quickly and they hide in their house and they don't
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actually go out and fight against these things we just get overrun and that's a big it's another
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it's another conversation we'll have at some point but i'll say this satan gets this um and
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this is why we have divorce rates uh that are still high and continuing to people are saying
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they're dropping it's it's only because nobody's getting married um did you know uh i just looked
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this up earlier babe that um no fault divorce so the idea that um you if you didn't have a reason
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like adultery you could not get a divorce legally prior to 1969 now that's pretty recent well check
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this out 1969 was the first state in the united states to legalize it and guess what state it was
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oregon no california yep california yeah and two states that we that we lived in the last state i
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don't know what the last state was but the last state to legalize it was 2010 so so we're not far
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away from no fault to think of 1969 like our parents were my parents were born in 1960
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yeah mine in the 50s and it's just like they were alive during that time that wasn't that long ago
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Yeah, so Satan's attacking the home through divorce.
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The next thing I would say is sexual immorality.
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it's not just homosexuality it's actually there are many people in this world today that aren't
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gay but act gay they don't even realize it yeah because it's so infiltrated yes in our in our world
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and culture has you know pulled this toxic masculinity thing where it's made men who may
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not even be gay may not be homosexual become more feminine because they're so afraid of being
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masculine because they're afraid of being torn down and by the feminists by the feminists and
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even the feminist men out there like you need to be more emotional and sensitive and tender and
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not that men cannot have those emotions but they need to be um expressing those things
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in a way that god designed them to as men not in a way that god did not design them
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too is women yes yeah the and i would say that when men start acting more and more effeminate
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it eventually will materialize not with everybody but it has a trajectory to materialize
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in homosexual-like actions and so if you start a kid off to be effeminate you know it's not a
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shocking idea that 30 years later he's you know having perverted attractions to other men
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so divorce sexual immorality pornography all the things uh feminism obviously is an attack on the
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home let's get mom out of the home and destroy the home um let's let's convince mom that
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submitting to a boss at you know some employment and earning a paycheck has more value than
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shaping the generations of her family cultivating i mean i when you look at it you just are just
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shocked because you're like how could we have believed the lie that a woman has more value
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at work than in birthing and raising and shaping the morals and virtues
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and character of like the next generation it is like the most vital
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human role regarding you know um culture shaping and i think that's why feminism is so strong
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I mean, yes, I don't want to say that like, you know, the dads aren't important.
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The dads are vital, but it's like to drop mom out.
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You know, I would say that, you know, single dads versus single moms, you know, I don't
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know what situation is better, but sometimes with the babies, you really, you just need
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i mean men are men are designed not to be nurturers of little children um i always tell
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people you know you can you know you can use the table as an ironing board uh in a pinch you know
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it's not what it's designed to do it'll work and that's how like a man is like caring for our six
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month old baby it's like i i can be the ironing board right now in a pinch but at the end of the
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day i'm not designed for this the way that you're designed for this yeah um the other two things i'll
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say quickly is disobedient children obviously we have a culture of disobedience and then the last
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thing would be independence and individualism satan is working hard to establish a constant
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sense of autonomy uh where you know your your kids are not owned by you your family is
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independent pieces, not covenant community of God.
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You know, you're like, again, it's part of globalism, right?
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The idea that we're all just kind of one big human race.
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We don't have nations or tribes or states or local or whatever it might be.
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So there's just a massive thing around individualism and independence that Satan knows.
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Divorce, sexual immorality, feminism, disobedient children, independence and individualism.
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all at the center of the attack on the home and so i'm just going to say this the home
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when its members are rightfully and joyfully carrying out their roles becomes this machine
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to produce generations of people uh and when everyone is operating in their roles it will
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produce quality results you know minimal sin minimal pain minimal conflict um maximum virtues
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maximum maturity and so um there's just so much value in the reality of a biblical home
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so i want to start with talking about what is the father's role i know i've been talking a bit here
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but veronica will get a chance to talk in a minute because we're going to go about what is the
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mother's role so we're going to i'm also the type of person that is just content not talking
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so it's not like uh dill's overrunning me here i just i just listen yeah she's got to be encouraged
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to get out in front and have some conversation here um so what is the father's role i i think
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i've broken down basically five points for every one of these five points right so we have the
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the father's role the mother's role the children's role the home's role and the location's role or
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the destination's role and so the father's role i'm going to say point number one is vision
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a husband a father needs to have vision for the home uh you know where there is no vision that
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people perish i don't know exactly what proverb that is but vision is such a vital part now
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our home i i've just or i'm just naturally like this i'm a visioneer and i'm naturally
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not like this so i actually i am very blessed by that gifting that the lord has given you because
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when i feel overwhelmed or i'm stressed out or something i'll often just come back to you and be
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like okay where are we going again what's the point of this and you're very good at keeping me
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on track so i know that there are couples out there that that have husbands that struggle with
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vision um we have guys in our church that we love that are good godly men uh it's something that
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needs to be cultivated if it's not currently a strength and vision i think needs to be from you
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know maybe mission statement to where are we going what what's the what's the 10 year what's the what's
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the two year the the 10 year the the the 30 year what's our great grandchildren like having some
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of that long-term vision um around values and morals and ethics and career and business and
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investment and estate planning all of those things and having vision for expectations for
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where kids and family and parents and home should be at certain points on that timeline
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I think is another expectation not expecting 15 year old results from your 10 year old and not
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expecting certain numbers, a certain amount of wealth too early or understanding when you're
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behind. And if you're in your 30s and you still don't have a savings that's sufficient and you've
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been married for 10 years, there's a problem there. And so how do you have a vision? And I
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think you can execute that vision with schedules. So you take that long-term vision and you
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orchestrate a day-to-day operation short-term goals yeah that essentially achieve that long-term
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vision right so i think it's a very masculine thing the second thing is provision you need to
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be a provider you need to be able to provide for your family i i've been i was in the business world
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as i told you guys in the last episode for many many years 20 years or so and i learned to be a
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great provider of income in that season of life when i got into ministry i thought i'm totally
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done talking about business um and then i realized that the number one discipleship for men
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is often i mean outside of just maybe gospel doctrine is to teach them how to make money
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and how to save how to budget yeah how to be good providers for their families yeah and especially
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that the younger guys who are newlyweds yeah how to control your spending so provision and now
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provision can also include provision of spiritual and theological uh training and it can be a
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provision of other means so uh the the next thing would be protection and protection is going to be
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from front doors and security systems all the way to modesty in the way that your children
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you know dress and and your wife dresses to spiritual care to training them in sexual and
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gender ethics uh so that they're not attacked by so the protection is a wide range of of means but
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you need to be a protector you need to always be on guard um yeah how many times that you know we
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both do this and in our own ways but there's a show on and i hear just some subtle you know
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message that's gayness or trans some type of agenda agenda and i'm like let's turn that off
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we're done with that yeah my protection you know comes up boom i mean i still remember you doing
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that with a book that i was that we had gotten and i'd never read it before and i sat down and
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with our this is years ago sat down and read it with our and you like overheard it from the kitchen
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or living room or something and you're like let me see that book and i gave it to you and it's
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completely went over my head and now looking back i i can see it but at the moment i was like i don't
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i don't see what you're talking about um and and uh you had one of the boys throw it in the fireplace
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yes yes exactly and that's part of the catechism right it's catechizing your kids to show this is
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And I'm specifically talking about theological catechism,
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It means you are constantly bringing them up in the nurture
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raise your children, the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. And for example, right now, I'm
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reading a five part series on biographies for children. Right. Of great theologians of the
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past. Yeah. Charles Spurgeon, Jonathan Edwards, George Whitefield. Um, what's it called? Um,
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man, what's right there? Grab it. Cause then I can tell people that are going to ask trailblazers.
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trailblazers yeah they have a five-part series that you can grab really good well that's the
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one on just preachers and teachers there's the trailblazers has other you know five-part series
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on other you know missionaries or whatever and they're good for like me i even enjoy them okay
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they're really enjoyable to listen to and even like your five-year-olds can enjoy them i mean
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even at night you know at the end of the night the kids will be like jonathan edwards jonathan
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edwards jonathan edwards yeah they want they're like eager to hear you read more
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And you get so many opportunities to preach the gospel or have a discussion around something because of that.
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So that'll look that way at times for me, or it'll also manifest in actual catechisms or just theological discussions or whatever it is.
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But we have a time basically every day that I do that with the kids.
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The fifth and last thing for fathers for building godly homes is joviality.
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you know this is a this is a one that i would say i was naturally good at and then i got sick
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and sickness has a way to take joy out of your life it just kind of wears you down after a while
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um but yeah you are generally naturally a very happy person um but yeah the last
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four years i would say three or four years has been a little bit harder for you
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in that area so joviality it's just essentially being positive uplifting positive uplifting
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k love i just don't listen to that but um you know i think the joy of the lord is our strength
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like our strength in the face of trials and difficulty is the joy we don't have conditional
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joy we have unconditional joy um we can have joy in all circumstances because of of god and the
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gospel and so i would say an example of this would be like do you have are you pessimistic
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or are you optimistic do you have hope as a father are you looking down at your generations
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and like it's only going to get worse he's always negative and cynical cynical about whatever
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whatever the topic is it's just going to get terrible and are you are you conveying that
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that drudgery of a life and future and you're or are you like optimistic and in the fight and
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uplifting and let's go let's get it um that joviality is is very important so i'll close
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this section just on the father's role which is a scripture deuteronomy 6 6 through 9 and these
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words i command to you today shall be on your heart you shall teach them diligently to your
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children shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you
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lie down and when you rise up you shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be like
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frontlets between your eyes you shall write them on your doorposts of your house and on your gates
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end quote i would say that that passage of scripture is written to the men this is a
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patriarchal culture when this is written and so men you really do need to essentially model and
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demonstrate that reality yeah lead your home in that way yeah all right so we have a baby that's
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starting to wake up which is perfect timing for veronica to start taking her part yeah isn't this
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so typical of motherhood as soon as uh somebody needs you for something your kid needs you for
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something else yes so do you want to start i i have the five things for a woman is or mother is
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nurture manage glorify educate and festive learning festive learning yeah um yeah nurture
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um i feel like that's pretty self-explanatory in the word alone um manage the home i think
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that's a big thing at least in our home in our family culture um there's a role that i take on
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most of that um because because you are a pastor because you're in full-time ministry
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me managing the home is my way of ministry to you and into our church body um to free up your time
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so that way you can go carry out your pastoral duties um so i'm carrying a lot of that um at home
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and to glorify glorify just to beautify and whatever comes in your home um whether that's
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you know meals or money money yeah it comes in using it wisely um educate we homeschool not
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everybody homeschools um but to even if you don't homeschool um to take your child's education
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seriously um thinking about ways that you can direct everything back to christ
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um because everything everything is is rooted back into scripture and back into christ
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um whether it's science or math all of those things can be brought up in scripture um and
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then festive learning is or yeah catechizing through celebration um you know decorating
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making the holidays fun making birthdays fun experiences um you know whether it's the way
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that you decorate or the things that you do the traditions that you guys create um i know lots of
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families do this you know our daughter just turned 10 and so we always have a time on each
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one of our kids birthdays where we have time to encourage them and um talk with them and we go
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around the room yeah go around the room each sibling and each parent will say something that
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they you know what we love about that person and things that we're um happy to see that they've
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grown in and what we're hoping for for them in their future um just this little small i mean
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at least this is my approach um i try and do small um ways to celebrate and to have very little
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traditions that are not super overwhelming for me on my part but have meaning and things that
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you know it gives the kids something to look forward to um you know for christmas the night
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we get our christmas tree i usually will read them a book called the legend of the christmas tree
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and like which is like history of that or um reading them things about sorry i've got a baby
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that's a little wiggly um about the story of saint nicholas and who saint nicholas was
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or you know we've got valentine's day coming up who is saint valentine um and so i just use those
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opportunities as teaching moments but also still make them fun um yeah yeah and i think you've done
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a good job of trying to create again yeah catechizing through celebration you're upholding
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the vision through the daily and monthly and weekly or whatever rituals that we do in traditions
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in our home that show because celebration what celebration does is it shows our it shows what
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is valuable um it teaches like you know this is why i'm actually writing a book right now on
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christmas and um holidays by a country a timetable dominion if you want to call it that it actually
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really demonstrates to a culture in a city what's valuable what should we celebrate what should we
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love what should we uplift why do you think that pride month is a thing because it's it's it's not
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and teach the culture what we should care about.
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And so in a home, you can have these little holidays,
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um, which will be a part of what I'm talking about in that next book. But, um, so the children's role
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as I have a six month old in my hands right now, um, you know, there's five, five points again for
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this. And this is the last point for this section. Part one is we have obedience, honor, apprenticeship,
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assistance, and propagation. And, um, you know, again, I think of Ephesians, uh, chapter six,
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right uh children obey your parents and the lord for this is right you know honor your father and
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mother this is the first commandment with a promise that it may go well with you and that
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you may live long in the land and so obedience as you guys probably know if your parents
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is a constant battle i mean we are constantly training our kids at different levels of obedience
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right so you know when you're tiny and you're six months old and he wants to bite you you know you
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do a little hand tap and say no no no you know or when they're older you might be you know doing
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other forms of discipline and spanking or whatever it may be and then you have timeouts and taking
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things away and whatever it is but then as you get the kids a little bit older aria is 10 and
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i'm having a lot more conversations around that and trying to instill morality and and understanding
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and comprehension behind that i like what doug wilson said he said that um you know a lot of
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parents are real loose when they're small and then they become teenagers and all of a sudden
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they tighten up yeah it needs to be flip-flopped and it needs to be flip-flopped where you should
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be super tight like you're living in an absolute you know uh authoritarian you know compound well
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still loving your child yeah but like you're just like they have very little freedom when they're
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little and so the leash is really short when they're young and as they get older you give them
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a little bit more slack you give them a little bit more slack and they you know they turn five
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six seven and they have an issue you tighten that leash up again a little bit and by the time they're
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13 14 15 they can walk off leash you should be if they're not off leash you got a problem right
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and so i'm i'm planning for five years from today that i want aria to be able to be essentially
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off leash but living in our home so that she can she can make decisions on all types of things
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as she would when she's 18 but under the protection of you of yeah of our home and and because
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i don't want to have to learn guidance i don't want to have to say like learn those things when
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she's 18 to 21 like i want her to have that stuff well because yeah when a lot of teenagers in
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today's culture is yeah i'm 18 whoo i'm at a mom and dad's house and they go crazy yeah um where
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if they have a lot more freedom while they're still under your roof you know you get to um talk
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with them about some of the decisions and choices that they've made and why and um you know have
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some of those deeper conversations with them yeah i think uh one of doug's kids said that um when
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they turned 15 you know they said you can watch any movie you want the only rule is that you have
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And so, you have the freedom to have those things.
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we, I believe that passage of scripture is specifically talking about, I would say it's
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directly talking about our, our fathers, but it's indirectly talking about our forefathers
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in a variety of dimensions. And so we live in a generation where we want to trailblaze new paths.
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And the Bible actually says, take the old paths, like before you break out a new road
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in a new way, why don't you learn why that road is built and why there was a fence on the right
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side so you don't crash before you start going the other way be humble enough to realize
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i'm i'm part of a historical reality here and there's things that i don't know you know one
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one author said uh you know denying history is like uh being a leaf not knowing that you're a
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part of a tree and honor is is like humbly coming to to dad and mom and going why did we do it this
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way and and if it's biblical and godly maintaining that that honor and respect um in a variety of
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so that's a short definition um i'll say the the uh the next one is apprenticeship
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and you know i don't know would you say that we're we're trying to make are we training aria to be
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you know uh a girl boss or are we training her to be you know a mom and a mother and a wife i mean
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we are offering apprenticeship now certainly we wanted to learn we wanted to have a good education
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and and we want to yeah i mean i would say apprenticeship is just allowing your children
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to come alongside you and whatever it is that you're doing um which is not always easy for me
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i can tend to be like let me just do it it's just easier easier for me and quicker but there is i
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I always need to be reminded of the value it is to have my children at my side when I'm folding laundry or washing dishes or making a dessert or dinner, whatever it is.
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You know, I do that more so with Aria and you will be doing that more so with the boys.
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I've noticed it more as they're getting a little bit older that, you know, you're running to go do something, run an errand and you'll bring one of the boys with you.
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or now usually both of them yeah yeah and i would say we live in a historically um historically
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there's been a thing that like you would do what your dad did this is what you would do
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like to branch off would be a you know a somewhat abnormal reality if like if your dad was a
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carpenter. What was Jesus going to be? If his dad was a carpenter, he's going to be a carpenter's
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son. And, and so there's his historically that you followed the generational paths regarding
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labor and duty and provision. And there's actually a real benefit in that. For example,
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I think about starting over when you could actually just take over where your dad left
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pick up where he left off and lord willing leave it better than you found it yeah you're growing
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in your skill if you're already that gifted and skilled as a young man no it's only gonna
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get better and that's why i i tell people if you can start a business do it because you can't hand
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down a job you can hand down a business and so i'm a pastor um are my kids going to be pastors
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i i don't know but they might be servants of the church in some way our little one here who's six
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months um his name's deacon and uh we always make the joke that maybe he'll become an elder in a
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church and he'll name he'll be elder deacon or deacon deacon or deacon deacon um and so uh
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we're we're you know we also have a ministry and we we do publishing and and it would be strange
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for my for my family not impossible but strange for my boys to just go off and do something
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completely different that's part of that individualism and autonomy um and independence
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where we we just we want to make our own way when we we need to highlight the absolute blessing of
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apprenticeship is that no you you can take over where i left off that's what heirs do um and
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And so I just want to cultivate more of that in our home where our boys will be a part of like, it's an assumption. It's not a demand, but it's an assumption that like you guys are going to come and do work at ReLearn and you're going to do work at Kingsway and you're going to do work at Reformation Seminary or whatever we're doing at that time.
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and i think our our job now is the children are young is you know we're we're the observers we
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get to see how the lord has gifted each one of our children in these unique in whatever unique way he
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is because they're not they're not all the same they all have different skill sets and things
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that they're interested in and if we desire them to be involved in ministry desire them to be
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involved in whatever it is that our um our family is doing sorry our baby's getting a little bit
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a little bit rowdy here um we have to look at their at the unique way that god has gifted them
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and their skill sets and their interest in and their and show them that there is a place for
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them here in the ministry there is a play and just you know how to steward that skill into
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an area that would suit them best and that god placed them in this family and that's evidence
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enough that you are called to continue this legacy that we have in this family and so
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that's another element um the last two are assistance and propagation and i would say
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assistance really i think of first timothy 5 4 but if anyone uh if any widow has children or
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grandchildren let them first learn to show piety at home and to repay their parents for this is
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good and acceptable for the lord and so the idea of assistance is that parents are a great assist
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sorry children are a great assistance to their parents they should continue to help their parents
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in the duties to uphold the vision and culture of that home.
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And then the last thing I would say is propagation,
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which is really the action of upholding or spreading a particular culture.
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And so they should be not just culture submitters or culture learners,
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which that would result in really multi-generational propagation.
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And so that you're carrying out that patriarchal vision,
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uh also the the the matriarchal blessings uh those things are coming out uh throughout multiple
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generations and so those are the three things there's two more things that we're going to talk
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about in part two um you know and we're going to talk about the dwelling the dwellings role
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you know our actual home and we'll talk about our destinations role um you know uh these things
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are vital to building a biblical and christian and glorious home a home and again the word glory
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is it's something's glorious when it's doing what it's god given design is to do and so we want to
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be glorious husbands and glorious wives because we are walking out our god-given design for those
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roles and we want glorious homes we want a glorious home we want to know what that looks
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life what is a glorious home and again i think this is part of it what we've talked about today
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we're learning as well but in part two we are going to be talking about the homes the dwellings
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role in building a great glorious home and i think we got a lot of fun conversation around that and
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then the destination choosing a place to live where your descendants will will live for generations
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and so that's going to be a great thing that's available in part two so on that note thank you
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guys for listening to this episode of welcome home again you can listen to part two exclusively in
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the relearn app you can check that out at relearn.org forward slash app and if you're a
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