Dan Martell - January 02, 2023


4 Mindset Hacks to Overcome Fear in Your Life


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8 minutes

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00:00:00.000 Unlock your full potential with these four mindset hacks
00:00:03.900 to overcome fear in your life.
00:00:06.240 I wanna share with you guys this crazy six-day adventure
00:00:10.740 I went on called Date With Destiny.
00:00:12.740 If you haven't seen Tony Robbins,
00:00:14.340 I'm Not Your Guru on Netflix,
00:00:16.140 essentially it's a documentary of going through this event
00:00:20.400 that will help you understand the level of intensity
00:00:24.380 that went on for six days straight,
00:00:26.960 13, 16 hour days, go until two in the morning.
00:00:30.340 Not only was it transformational,
00:00:32.700 I run my own events and I'm a coach
00:00:34.640 and Tony is the goat, right?
00:00:36.360 Like when it comes to performance and output,
00:00:39.340 Tony Robbins is one of the top in the world.
00:00:41.260 And also just for myself,
00:00:42.940 so I was taking so many notes and writing down things
00:00:45.620 and just listening to words
00:00:46.960 because oftentimes it's what's caught, not taught.
00:00:49.500 And I took down four specific mindset hacks and beliefs,
00:00:53.700 these statements that were said,
00:00:55.180 it wasn't even part of the core curriculum,
00:00:56.960 that have probably had the biggest impact on my life.
00:01:00.340 And I want to share it with all of you guys right now.
00:01:04.420 The first one is faith over fear.
00:01:06.860 Here's how I'm going to unpack this for you.
00:01:08.520 I want you to consider what the definition of faith is, right?
00:01:12.920 If you think about it, it's probably something like
00:01:15.540 a future perception of a positive experience, right?
00:01:20.480 Like that is faith.
00:01:21.440 It's like I have faith in the future, something great happening.
00:01:24.760 Cool.
00:01:25.540 Now I'm going to ask you, what is fear?
00:01:28.060 Well, fear is a belief about a future
00:01:31.780 that has a negative experience in it.
00:01:33.820 That is fear, right?
00:01:34.820 Because like if I'm fearful, I don't want that to happen.
00:01:36.920 Who decides if you have faith or fear about the future?
00:01:41.380 You do.
00:01:42.760 And when I heard that,
00:01:44.740 I realized how valuable of a lesson
00:01:48.360 that at any moment I was feeling fear,
00:01:51.500 I could quickly ask myself,
00:01:53.120 what would be the faith alternative to this moment?
00:01:56.500 Instead of being fearful for this negative future,
00:01:58.920 what would need to be true
00:02:00.020 to have a positive belief of the future?
00:02:02.560 That's faith.
00:02:03.640 And choosing to show up with that energy,
00:02:06.840 with that mindset, with that vision
00:02:08.840 of a positive expectancy for the future.
00:02:12.520 And that was a game changer for me.
00:02:14.780 So now anytime I feel fearful,
00:02:17.020 I always ask myself, what's the opposite?
00:02:18.800 What's the faith?
00:02:19.600 And it's kind of crazy because it gets to people
00:02:21.620 because they're like, hey, why aren't you worried about this?
00:02:24.040 I'm not saying I'm not going to be diligent
00:02:25.920 and like auditing all the things that could go wrong
00:02:28.220 and protecting the downside.
00:02:29.820 I'm not saying it's a hands-off process.
00:02:31.440 I'm just saying the energy, the focus,
00:02:33.700 the language I use is always going to be faith-based,
00:02:36.700 not fear-based.
00:02:38.320 Number two is the get-to versus have-to language.
00:02:42.200 So Tony was sharing about relationships
00:02:44.000 and talking about different scenarios
00:02:45.520 about people and status.
00:02:47.020 And then he actually said something in passing.
00:02:49.260 It was like not a big deal for him.
00:02:50.720 He just said, oh, do you guys want to know what the difference between rich people and poor people
00:02:54.220 are? And everybody's like, yeah. He goes, rich people use the get to language. Poor people use
00:02:59.600 the have to language. And then he unpacked it. And what that meant was that when people that
00:03:06.420 have wealth and it's not about money, that's what's crazy. It has nothing to do with the
00:03:10.520 amount of money in your bank account. It has to do with the quality of life. A rich life is somebody
00:03:14.740 who uses the get-to language.
00:03:17.080 I get to go to the gym.
00:03:18.600 I get to do work.
00:03:20.180 I get to shoot these videos.
00:03:21.880 The get-to language is a decision.
00:03:23.960 It's a reframe.
00:03:24.940 And in that moment where you start feeling like,
00:03:27.800 ugh, I can't believe I have to do this,
00:03:29.660 if you stop yourself and rewrite that internal mental script
00:03:33.260 to get-to, it will change your whole perspective
00:03:36.200 towards that activity
00:03:37.320 and allow you to start living a rich life.
00:03:40.440 Number three is the power of a primary question.
00:03:43.280 Now, this is actually core to Date With Destiny.
00:03:46.560 If you go to the program at the end of it on day six,
00:03:49.780 you're literally going to sit down
00:03:51.320 and create this massive poster
00:03:52.980 with all the different outcomes and visions you have
00:03:55.320 for your life and goals and values and all these things.
00:03:57.640 And you're gonna design a new primary question,
00:04:00.860 a question that's gonna help you
00:04:02.940 to stop focusing on negative potential situations
00:04:06.180 and instead focus on the beauty of the world
00:04:09.800 that we all live in.
00:04:10.800 One of the questions that I got to
00:04:12.880 to hopefully inspire all of you
00:04:14.260 is this simple, simple question,
00:04:16.400 which is how can I appreciate even more
00:04:18.900 God's grace and guidance in this moment right now?
00:04:22.260 I literally ask myself that question
00:04:24.560 dozens of times a day
00:04:25.840 because I use it anytime I feel
00:04:28.440 like I start to have some worry about something
00:04:31.540 or I get frustrated with somebody
00:04:33.320 or I'm not enjoying something,
00:04:35.200 I stop myself.
00:04:36.320 I almost use it as a trigger.
00:04:37.640 Boom, it's a trigger mindset.
00:04:39.480 Okay, ask myself the question,
00:04:40.700 how can I appreciate even more God's grace
00:04:42.740 and guidance in this moment right now.
00:04:45.300 And literally my sight will open up.
00:04:48.600 The appreciation for the colors all around me,
00:04:51.500 the conversations I'm about to have,
00:04:53.700 all of a sudden just, they get exciting.
00:04:55.960 And it's just so interesting how what you focus on expands.
00:04:59.860 And if you're focusing on fear or doubt
00:05:02.980 or frustration or whatever, that will expand.
00:05:05.500 And if you ask yourself this question,
00:05:07.140 it's almost like a heat seeker missile
00:05:08.620 to find the good in everything that's happening
00:05:11.580 right now in your life, it is a super powerful strategy.
00:05:15.720 So I wanna ask you, what question would you ask yourself
00:05:19.080 to reset your focus towards possibility and positivity?
00:05:23.760 It could be your own flavor.
00:05:25.620 I just wanted to give you an example of mine,
00:05:27.220 but use the same pattern to design it for yourself.
00:05:30.280 And that in itself will be a very powerful mindset hack
00:05:34.120 to keep you focused on the right things.
00:05:37.260 Number four is the purple eyes reaction.
00:05:39.940 This one's my favorite.
00:05:40.860 He was talking to somebody that was like super triggered by their in-laws because they said
00:05:45.440 something that hurt their feelings. And they were telling Tony this. And, you know, Tony does these
00:05:50.160 interventions that are super intense. I mean, reality TV has got nothing on Tony Robbins
00:05:56.200 intervention. And as he was listening to this person, he explained to them is that you have to
00:06:01.900 have a response that is no different than if somebody runs up to you and screams in your face,
00:06:08.260 you've got purple eyes, you've got purple eyes, you've got purple eyes. Because he asked him,
00:06:12.660 he goes, if somebody did that to you, what would you think to yourself? And the person sat there
00:06:17.460 and goes, but I don't have purple eyes. And he said, exactly in his deep voice and big hands
00:06:23.880 and fingers and a big smile. And the reason why is because at the end of the day, you know you
00:06:30.380 who you are, you know, the value you bring in the world, you know, your heart, you know, your soul,
00:06:35.800 you know your spirit. And just because somebody else says something to you, you shouldn't react.
00:06:41.980 You shouldn't allow them to throw you off of your day. I mean, my kids were fighting the other day
00:06:47.160 because one of them took a snack and the other one screamed at them. They weren't supposed to
00:06:51.600 take a snack and it hurt his feelings because he said it in front of his friend. He felt a little
00:06:55.180 humiliated. And after I calmed them down and I was putting them to bed, I explained to them this
00:07:00.420 exact same strategy, the purple eyes. And it was funny because when I was saying this, you have
00:07:05.040 purple eyes? You have purple eyes? They kind of laughed and they said, but I don't have purple
00:07:07.980 eyes. And I go, exactly. And I said, Noah, that's the way you have to think about it when somebody
00:07:13.260 saying something to you that upsets you because you know, it's not true. Just think to yourself,
00:07:18.980 purple eyes. In those moments, if you can think to yourself, purple eyes and have mind like water
00:07:26.200 and be non-responsive, it doesn't mean you allow somebody to be abusive, but it gives you a tool
00:07:31.260 and a technique to overcome,
00:07:33.080 allowing yourself to completely go into this place
00:07:35.960 where you feel like upset and you feel rejected
00:07:39.220 and you're like not happy and you're just like,
00:07:41.660 why did that person say that to me?
00:07:43.500 Look, everybody's on their own journey
00:07:45.540 and they're having their own hallucination about this world
00:07:47.880 and they're in their own this movie
00:07:49.140 and they're the center character of their own movie.
00:07:51.460 Trust me, the way they feel about you
00:07:53.720 and what they say to you does not reflect
00:07:55.760 who you know you are inside.
00:07:57.560 So just listen and hear purple eyes
00:08:00.160 and it'll help you reframe everything.
00:08:02.220 That is how you live your full potential.
00:08:04.340 Use these four mindset hacks,
00:08:06.200 the have to versus get to,
00:08:08.500 the fear versus faith,
00:08:10.140 the purple eyes,
00:08:11.120 and your primary question,
00:08:13.240 such a powerful question to reframe,
00:08:15.560 to retrain your brain,
00:08:17.060 to focus on the positivity of the future.
00:08:20.380 If you like these strategies,
00:08:21.500 be sure to check out my top business books in life.
00:08:25.000 I literally read over 1,500 books.
00:08:27.020 I wanted to distill them down into the 25
00:08:29.640 that I think will have the biggest impact on you.
00:08:32.640 I even have highlighted quotes, et cetera.
00:08:34.680 So if you want that, just click the link,
00:08:36.260 download it, and I'll see you in the next video.