Dan Martell - 44 Cheat Codes That I Know at 44 That I Wish I Knew at 24

00:00:00.000 As a 44-year-old entrepreneur, I've learned a lot about business and life.

00:00:03.480 So I put together the 44 cheat codes that I know now at 44 that I wish I knew back when I was 24.

00:00:09.500 Starting with, before you can be the king, you have to start by being a pawn.

00:00:13.280 See, most people think that they can go straight to the top, but they're not willing to do the work.

00:00:17.040 The way I look at it is you've got to sometimes get in positions to learn, not earn.

00:00:20.640 You have to decide to be the apprentice before you could ever be the master.

00:00:24.080 The second cheat code is, if it takes less than two minutes, do it now.

00:00:27.860 I learned this from David Allen in his book,

00:00:29.700 Getting Things Done.

00:00:30.820 And if I get an email I can respond to, I'm doing it now.

00:00:33.260 If I have a question asked to me

00:00:34.760 that I can give an answer, I do it now.

00:00:36.420 If I have an opportunity that I just gotta decide on,

00:00:39.260 I just do it now because it takes more time

00:00:41.240 to write it down than to actually just get it done.

00:00:43.500 Number three is you don't manage time, you manage energy.

00:00:46.240 See, a lot of people try to manage the stuff they're doing,

00:00:49.100 but they don't realize the energy

00:00:50.300 that you bring to your projects, your ideas,

00:00:52.960 your creative stuff, it changes the whole output.

00:00:55.820 So if you wanna get more things done

00:00:57.660 and have a better life and have more fun,

00:00:59.800 manage the energy within your day,

00:01:02.020 not specifically just the task.

00:01:04.040 My morning routine has a completely different list

00:01:06.500 of things I'm gonna do than my afternoon.

00:01:08.340 So for example, all my creative stuff in the morning,

00:01:11.000 all my meetings and conversations in the afternoon,

00:01:13.480 time with my family at night.

00:01:15.260 So you manage the energy you bring to the task,

00:01:17.620 not the time and trying to just put everything together

00:01:20.400 that don't connect to each other.

00:01:21.900 Number four is that some people come into your life

00:01:24.280 for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

00:01:26.700 You know, just because you sat next to somebody in high school doesn't mean that you got to be friends with them forever

00:01:31.260 And some people that might help you out on a project today

00:01:33.720 It might just be for that season of your life

00:01:35.620 And then there might be a new friend that you meet at an event and you decide this is a person I want in my life forever

00:01:40.980 Just know that those are different and you don't have to treat everybody like you have to be friends with them forever

00:01:45.800 Number five is you're allowed to cut people out of your life

00:01:48.240 If somebody makes you feel bad about yourself is always complaining not celebrating your wins

00:01:52.920 then by all means, don't reply to their texts so quick

00:01:56.080 and don't invite them to anything

00:01:57.640 and choose to just create some space,

00:02:00.020 aka do a friendventory

00:02:02.080 and have them not be part of your life.

00:02:04.160 There are other people that if you create space for,

00:02:06.440 will add so much more if you just say no

00:02:09.120 to the people that make you feel bad about yourself.

00:02:11.020 Number six is to create your community.

00:02:13.540 I'm a big fan of creating things like a founder's hike

00:02:16.480 or a dinner or an event

00:02:18.620 and inviting people I meet throughout my life

00:02:21.420 to come join me so that that way I can see

00:02:24.180 if they'd be a good friend to add.

00:02:25.940 It's kind of like putting on a jacket and see how it fits.

00:02:28.280 But create your community and be intentional

00:02:30.480 about the people you spend time with.

00:02:32.040 Number seven is what you focus on expands.

00:02:34.740 If you focus on negativity and things that are hard,

00:02:37.700 everything's gonna be hard and not fun.

00:02:39.460 If you focus on opportunity and what excites you

00:02:41.860 and good people, guess what?

00:02:43.620 Life will be full of that.

00:02:45.760 And it is important for you to just understand

00:02:47.500 that whatever you give your energy to, it will feed it.

00:02:50.720 So make sure you give little energy to bad stuff,

00:02:52.800 a lot of energy to the good stuff.

00:02:54.400 Number eight is creating a life by design, not default.

00:02:58.520 See, most people just kind of like

00:02:59.740 have life happen to them.

00:03:01.140 I'm a big fan of looking at what are the things

00:03:02.660 that I wanna do that's gonna make me money?

00:03:04.020 Where's the fun in my life?

00:03:05.200 What about my family stuff?

00:03:06.260 What about my fitness?

00:03:07.700 Think about the different areas of your life

00:03:09.440 and write down activities or outcomes or goals

00:03:12.320 that you wanna achieve and then look at your year

00:03:14.480 and say, hey, how could I slot these things in

00:03:16.480 so that I can create a life that is full of fun by design,

00:03:19.800 not by happenstance by default number nine is don't shrink yourself to make other people feel

00:03:25.340 comfortable about their situation if you're too much for other people i say cool be too much and

00:03:31.140 if they don't like it tell them to go find less you do not want to dim your light for other people

00:03:36.180 and the cool part is people like me we love those people we love people that are extraordinary a

00:03:40.880 little bit too much for other folks just go find your tribe but do not shrink down to make other

00:03:46.120 people feel comfortable about your too muchness number 10 is you've got to be willing to go long

00:03:51.820 periods of time being misunderstood because the truth is if you're trying to do something that

00:03:55.980 very few people think you can do because you've never done it before then they won't understand

00:04:00.960 what you're doing and why you're doing it get comfortable with people not getting you as long

00:04:06.040 as you have clarity of your vision and you're executing every day number 11 is never stop

00:04:10.780 learning, asking questions, or assuming that you know everything. At the end of the day,

00:04:16.360 success in life is about being incredibly curious. I mean, if you already knew everything you needed

00:04:20.940 to know, then you would have the success that you want. So you don't. So be sure to keep showing up,

00:04:25.180 keep asking questions, keep being curious, and getting answers to life, even if you think you

00:04:29.600 already know what they're going to say. Number 12 is don't blame anybody else. Blame the person you

00:04:34.300 see in the mirror. At the end of the day, nobody's coming to save you. There's nobody else that's

00:04:38.360 going to do it for you. If you want more, you got to become more. If you want to be more successful,

00:04:42.660 you got to be more successful. As Jim Rohn says, the world doesn't get easier, you get better. And

00:04:48.380 the only person that's going to help you get better is that person you see in the mirror.

00:04:51.120 So don't blame anybody else. Control the controllables. Guess what? You control how

00:04:54.000 you respond, how you act, what you do today, your morning. Once you understand that, life's

00:04:58.380 going to get a lot easier. Number 13 is the happiest people I know are givers, not takers.

00:05:03.860 See, when you live a life where there's abundance and opportunity all around you,

00:05:07.680 and there's no scarcity,

00:05:09.400 then you just come out as somebody that is always helpful.

00:05:12.460 And here's what I've learned.

00:05:13.800 You've never been sad when you're helping somebody else.

00:05:16.220 If you're not feeling good about yourself,

00:05:17.320 it's probably because you're not giving enough

00:05:18.740 of yourself to other people.

00:05:20.220 Number 14 is get up and be what you expect

00:05:22.760 from everybody else.

00:05:23.600 If you want more love in your life, be more loving.

00:05:25.780 If you want more support in your life, support other people.

00:05:28.780 If you want people to cheer you on, be a massive cheerleader.

00:05:32.160 See, most people don't do the thing they want

00:05:33.840 from other people,

00:05:35.000 and they wonder why they're not getting it.

00:05:36.580 You go first.

00:05:37.520 Number 15 is worry is worshiping the problem.

00:05:41.460 See, a lot of you guys ruminate in your mind.

00:05:44.180 You literally make little things,

00:05:46.400 massive things by worrying all the time.

00:05:48.640 Crazy part is, it's about the same probability

00:05:50.700 that something bad happens is something good happens.

00:05:52.900 And the way I think about it is worrying is a wasted use

00:05:56.000 of your incredible imagination.

00:05:57.860 Number 16 is you receive what you desire for other people.

00:06:01.160 If you wanna be healthier, help other people get healthier.

00:06:04.100 If you want more money, help other people make more money.

00:06:06.240 If you want more loving relationships, crazy idea.

00:06:09.420 Why don't you help other people get more loving relationships? 0.64

00:06:12.020 And by doing that, you're putting that energy into the world

00:06:14.100 and it'll come back to you tenfold.

00:06:16.340 Number 17 is you can't work yourself out of a flawed strategy.

00:06:19.200 See, some people think they want to be successful,

00:06:21.560 but the vehicle or the approach

00:06:23.460 or the people they're spending time with, it's flawed.

00:06:26.660 So if you don't understand the sequencing

00:06:28.260 of what steps go in what order

00:06:29.780 that's going to have the potential for you to be successful,

00:06:31.960 you might have the steps out of order

00:06:33.740 and it's going to cause you to go long periods of time.

00:06:36.020 maybe years and never win.

00:06:37.840 Number 18 is because I don't want to

00:06:40.560 is a completely valid reason for saying no.

00:06:43.240 Some of you guys feel like you have to have

00:06:45.060 like magical, meaningful reasons to say no.

00:06:47.800 I'm telling you, not wanting to do something,

00:06:49.960 not feeling it, without any proof or any reason

00:06:52.620 is a valid reason to say no.

00:06:54.800 If you just allowed yourself to only do things

00:06:57.040 that actually lit you up and that you wanted to do

00:06:59.360 that were aligned with your goals,

00:07:01.060 you'd be surprised how much more you can get done in a year

00:07:03.200 and how much less emotional shrapnel

00:07:05.320 you'd have to be around because you already know why you shouldn't do that thing in the first

00:07:08.240 place. So just say no. Number 19 is to lose arguments on purpose so you can go along with

00:07:13.500 your day. This isn't a ninja move. This is advanced, but I think you can handle it. See,

00:07:17.380 if somebody comes up to me and they're like, oh, the weather is horrible. I'm like, yeah, you're

00:07:21.420 right. Crazy. Regardless if I'm super pumped because I have a garden, it's raining outside 0.63

00:07:26.080 that my plants are going to get fed. It doesn't matter. At the end of the day, let people have

00:07:29.700 their points of view so you can move along with your day and keep your energy high. Number 20 is

00:07:33.520 you get tested the most when you're about to level up.

00:07:36.060 In the book, The Big Leap,

00:07:37.000 he talks about this all the time.

00:07:38.120 When you're about to get to your upper limit,

00:07:39.900 there'll be things like you get the flu,

00:07:41.700 you get in a major fight with somebody on your team

00:07:44.000 or your partner or whatever in life,

00:07:45.520 and it's in those moments

00:07:46.860 where you're about to have a major breakthrough

00:07:49.180 that some of the worst things can actually happen to you,

00:07:51.500 you just need to know that so you don't break.

00:07:53.700 Number 21 is peace begins when expectations end.

00:07:58.080 All disappointment, all frustration

00:08:00.400 comes from an expectation of somebody else

00:08:02.860 or a situation for yourself.

00:08:04.180 And the truth is, if you could just get rid of expectations,

00:08:06.960 is if you just assumed everybody wasn't gonna do

00:08:08.900 what they were gonna do on time,

00:08:10.040 wasn't gonna be done the way you wanted it done,

00:08:11.760 didn't support you the way you wanted to,

00:08:13.760 it turns out that with that, anything they do is awesome.

00:08:17.440 And that's where the peace comes from.

00:08:19.020 So give up the expectations

00:08:20.500 so you can live a more peaceful life.

00:08:22.420 22, nobody cares about your story until you win massively.

00:08:27.600 See, a lot of you guys are like,

00:08:28.640 oh, but this happened to me, or this happened to me,

00:08:30.260 or I did this.

00:08:30.980 At the end of the day, until you win,

00:08:32.380 and until you create something that other people admire,

00:08:34.500 until you feel like you've accomplished something worthy,

00:08:37.100 nobody's gonna care about your story, unfortunately.

00:08:38.860 So just get over it, get back to working,

00:08:40.980 and create something that makes the story,

00:08:42.860 the triumph, worth it.

00:08:44.720 Number 23 is you wanna spend money to save time.

00:08:47.900 See, most people do it the opposite,

00:08:49.380 where they spend a lot of time to try to save money.

00:08:51.360 The problem is, is that you're always capped

00:08:53.480 by the amount of time you have, which is fixed.

00:08:55.300 Whereas money, the more valuable you get,

00:08:57.140 the more money you have,

00:08:58.100 the more you can then invest the buyback more time

00:09:00.640 to free up your calendar,

00:09:02.000 And it turns out it's a great way to build your life

00:09:03.760 so you don't get to a place where you grow to hate

00:09:05.960 what you've created.

00:09:06.940 Number 24 is the freest person in the room

00:09:09.520 is the person with no secrets.

00:09:11.420 See, a lot of you guys are struggling

00:09:12.760 because you're keeping stuff to yourself.

00:09:14.440 You don't want anybody to know who you are.

00:09:15.840 You don't want them to see your true self,

00:09:17.860 so you wear a mask.

00:09:18.900 But the problem is that mask is inauthentic,

00:09:21.580 so then it feels heavy to act that way.

00:09:24.740 If you truly want to build a life that is successful and fun

00:09:28.580 and comes with a lot of fulfillment,

00:09:29.880 you're gonna have to get rid of all the secrets.

00:09:32.000 Number 25 is that 90% of your life,

00:09:35.400 your results are gonna come from the last 10%

00:09:37.860 of your effort.

00:09:39.460 See, most people don't realize how hard it is

00:09:41.360 to do something because if they did,

00:09:42.920 they wouldn't do so many things

00:09:44.400 because that last 10% where you're doing the refinement

00:09:48.000 and the integration, where the rubber really meets the road,

00:09:51.060 that's where that 90% of the output

00:09:53.620 and the results are gonna come from.

00:09:55.000 Number 26, very simple, only eat between 6 a.m. and 6 p.m.

00:09:59.460 Most people make horrible food decisions after 6 p.m.

00:10:03.800 Truth is, is if you get up early,

00:10:05.400 just fast until 6 a.m.

00:10:07.260 And then that way you have this 12-hour window

00:10:09.400 to get your fuel in you

00:10:11.280 and then fast for the rest of the time.

00:10:13.040 It's good for your body, it's good for your mind.

00:10:14.600 Number 27 is only ask people

00:10:16.640 that have gotten the results you want

00:10:18.160 in life for advice and nobody else.

00:10:20.020 See, most people make the mistake

00:10:21.080 of asking their parents for advice

00:10:22.780 and then they wonder why they get the same life

00:10:24.580 that their parents got.

00:10:25.480 Well, it's a flawed strategy.

00:10:26.880 Find people that have been to the mountaintop

00:10:28.680 who've accomplished those results that you're after

00:10:30.640 and try to find time with them

00:10:32.620 so they can give you the strategy

00:10:34.440 that's gonna get you there the fastest.

00:10:36.100 28 is who you are is way more important than what you have.

00:10:39.800 See, some people chase the possessions

00:10:41.320 to give themselves permission to feel a certain way,

00:10:43.920 to feel enough.

00:10:44.940 And the truth is that if you become enough,

00:10:46.820 then what you have doesn't define you.

00:10:48.980 You can be happy with nothing or a lot.

00:10:51.860 And I think that the process of becoming more

00:10:54.800 and actually using life to show you

00:10:56.540 where you have work to do is actually the best process

00:11:00.160 for living a fulfilled life.

00:11:01.560 Number 29 is your new life is gonna cost you your old life.

00:11:05.240 Some people have a hard time with this

00:11:06.420 because they're like, I like who I am.

00:11:08.500 I think some of your bad habits gotta go.

00:11:10.640 I think your inconsistency has to go.

00:11:12.340 I think your lack of being determined

00:11:14.240 and having drive probably needs to be present.

00:11:16.960 So take all the worst parts of you and clean that up.

00:11:19.500 Take all the best stuff and shine that.

00:11:21.420 That's what you gotta give up

00:11:22.660 so that you can get the future you've been asking for.

00:11:24.520 Big number 30 is a person without a vision will always return to their past. And the reason why

00:11:29.960 is because you need something to pull you forward. If you don't have something to pull you forward,

00:11:34.060 then the power of pulling you back into your old life, bad habits, et cetera,

00:11:38.680 it's going to be too strong. So you need that vision to keep pulling you forward. It's a positive

00:11:42.760 light and it's a light energy. Number 31 is don't make the mistake of getting great at something

00:11:48.320 you hate. See, a lot of people end up leaning their ladder of success against the wrong wall

00:11:53.060 and they climb it because they can.

00:11:54.700 And then they get to the top and they realize

00:11:56.140 that's not the life I want to live.

00:11:58.640 So actually plan for success

00:12:00.380 because you might have to then take the ladder back down

00:12:03.000 and change it walls or change it houses

00:12:04.640 and go lean it up a new wall

00:12:06.040 so that you can have a chance at living the life

00:12:08.300 you actually want to live.

00:12:09.540 Number 32 is life actually gets easier

00:12:12.340 when you try to make it harder.

00:12:13.980 See, most people try to avoid suffering, pain,

00:12:16.320 frustration, physical strain because it hurts.

00:12:19.360 The crazy part is the more you opt into that,

00:12:21.720 the more you put yourself in situations for that,

00:12:23.760 the easier your life is gonna get.

00:12:25.820 Number 33 is the results you've been looking for

00:12:28.700 are found in the work you've been avoiding.

00:12:31.560 So one of my favorite questions to ask people is,

00:12:33.280 what are you pretending not to know?

00:12:34.820 Many of you already know what you gotta go do

00:12:36.740 to be successful, but you're acting like

00:12:38.380 that's not the strategy,

00:12:39.860 so it gives you a reason not to do it.

00:12:41.500 Because if you actually knew what you had to go do

00:12:43.400 and somebody made it like, this is exactly it,

00:12:45.980 then you would know you're not doing it.

00:12:47.680 So stop avoiding it, start doing it,

00:12:49.720 and you'll get the results you want.

00:12:50.720 Number 34 is stay close to the people that want more for you not more from you. See as you become

00:12:57.360 more successful people are going to come out of the woodworks. I mean I have high school friends

00:13:01.600 that I sat next to 20 some years ago that are asking me for money and it's funny because I

00:13:06.320 have friends that want nothing from me and they want everything for me and those people make me

00:13:11.900 feel good about myself. So I spend all my time with them and no time with the others. Number 35

00:13:16.680 is that health is wealth.

00:13:18.580 And see, most people get it wrong

00:13:19.620 because they think, well, of course,

00:13:20.920 the healthier I am, the more energy I have,

00:13:22.560 the more wealth and money I'll be able to create.

00:13:24.360 But it's because of this.

00:13:25.380 If you are healthy, you have 100 goals.

00:13:27.780 But if you're not healthy, you have but one.

00:13:29.980 And you would trade all of your money to be healthy.

00:13:33.420 So focus on your health first,

00:13:35.180 and then the wealth will come.

00:13:37.020 Number 36 is that if you avoid

00:13:38.620 having difficult conversations,

00:13:39.880 and you're probably gonna have difficult relationships.

00:13:42.400 See, I believe that most people's next level

00:13:45.860 sits on the other side of having an uncomfortable conversation

00:13:48.840 with a key person in their life,

00:13:50.320 from a business partner to their life partner.

00:13:52.880 But somebody has things that need to be cleared,

00:13:55.760 and if you don't create the space for it

00:13:57.100 or if you don't do it yourself,

00:13:58.280 it's gonna make for a really tough relationship.

00:14:00.100 Number 37 is if you're not losing at all,

00:14:02.320 you're not taking enough risks.

00:14:03.920 Winners lose more than losers.

00:14:06.060 If you wanna win big in life,

00:14:07.560 it means that certain things are not gonna work out

00:14:09.400 because that's how we learn,

00:14:11.180 and the people that are most successful learn the most.

00:14:13.760 It's why they're at the top.

00:14:15.040 So be sure to understand that losing doesn't mean failing.

00:14:18.180 Losing is feedback.

00:14:19.600 Learn and move forward.

00:14:20.860 Number 38 is humility isn't thinking less of yourself.

00:14:24.400 It's thinking more of others.

00:14:26.020 See, somebody who's full of themselves

00:14:27.020 think less of other people.

00:14:28.600 They think they're less than them.

00:14:30.320 But true humility is actually saying,

00:14:32.440 no, I actually see the genius in other people.

00:14:34.380 I think everybody around me is amazing.

00:14:36.020 And that is true humility

00:14:37.260 because you're not diminishing yourself

00:14:39.100 by acknowledging other people being incredible around you.

00:14:42.040 Number 39 is don't compare your chapter one

00:14:44.780 or even chapter three to somebody else's chapter 27.

00:14:48.080 In the world of business, there's entrepreneurial ages.

00:14:50.940 I'm 27 years old in the entrepreneurial game

00:14:53.260 because I've been doing it for 27 years.

00:14:54.920 You might find somebody that's younger than you,

00:14:57.160 might be 20 and 10 times further along,

00:14:59.400 but they might be on their chapter 10

00:15:01.380 or 10 years old in the entrepreneurial game.

00:15:03.060 So if you're just starting, even if you're 50,

00:15:05.260 know that it makes no sense to compare.

00:15:07.440 And the truth is, is comparing yourself to anybody else

00:15:09.760 is a thief of joy.

00:15:10.880 Number 40, big number 40 is your work ethic

00:15:13.560 is a reflection of your gratitude.

00:15:15.280 People ask me all the time,

00:15:16.240 Dan, why do you work so hard if you don't have to work?

00:15:18.820 Very simple.

00:15:19.560 I'm so grateful for this life that I get to live

00:15:21.920 that I don't wanna ever dishonor it

00:15:24.240 or show anybody that I don't appreciate it

00:15:26.420 by starting to be lazy, lack consistency,

00:15:29.160 or not follow through with my commitments,

00:15:30.660 specifically the ones I make to myself,

00:15:32.760 because that's actually where confidence gets eroded.

00:15:35.380 So be sure you show up and do the work

00:15:37.180 to tell the world you can handle what you've created

00:15:39.480 so it can give you more, not less.

00:15:42.080 Number 41 is the world is a mirror, not a window.

00:15:45.620 See, I believe the more I give, the more I get.

00:15:48.260 It's why I have bags of money in all of my cars

00:15:50.780 that I use to bless people, no matter what,

00:15:53.340 have cash on me.

00:15:54.600 Sounds weird, but I know that if I'm generous

00:15:56.540 and I'm giving, the world's gonna be generous

00:15:58.660 and giving back to me, it's gonna be a mirror.

00:16:00.620 So think about the energy you put out there

00:16:02.640 because it's gonna come back to you a lot.

00:16:05.220 Number 42 is some people are so poor,

00:16:07.400 all they have is money.

00:16:08.660 So have things that money can't buy.

00:16:10.580 money can't buy love rich relationships trust your health and i love when people have things

00:16:17.540 that other people can't have because you can't buy them you just have to show up and do the work

00:16:21.220 number 43 is your trauma is like a book most people get this book and they put it on the

00:16:25.620 bookshelf never to be read i'm going to encourage you to get the book and instead actually read it

00:16:31.220 study it understand what's in there because your stories is what makes your current reality and how

00:16:36.180 how you feel and you want to understand how you became who you've become so that you can become

00:16:40.640 more. And finally, number 44, and it's a big one. Essentially, I think your life's purpose sits right

00:16:47.100 next to the worst thing that's ever happened to you ever. And I know that's crazy. Some people

00:16:51.900 are like, Dan, why would that be? I believe we're all here to help other people heal. First we heal

00:16:56.000 ourselves, then we help other people heal. And the thing that you're avoiding is actually what could

00:17:00.960 give you the biggest sense of purpose in your life. So these are the 44 cheat codes I've learned

00:17:05.720 at 44 years old that I wish I would have learned when I was 24. But if you want to learn my 15

00:17:10.060 laws of success, click the link below and I'll see you on the other side.

Dan Martell - June 28, 2024

44 Cheat Codes That I Know at 44 That I Wish I Knew at 24

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