Dan Martell - Brutally Honest Advice for Young Men

00:00:00.000 There's a lot of bad advice out there for men on the internet and it frustrates me because being the

00:00:04.420 father of two boys and running one of the largest youth programs for young men in my city, I've seen

00:00:08.760 the results of every kid being one caring adult away from becoming a success story. So I'm going

00:00:13.820 to explain principles, although some are controversial, that are important for any young

00:00:17.620 man to understand. Number one is you're responsible for your life. No one's going to do it for you.

00:00:22.840 No one's coming to save you. No one's going to give you anything. You work or you suffer. It's

00:00:28.140 your reality. I have a lot of kids, 18 to 20 year olds that are reaching out, messaging me, asking

00:00:33.420 me for a job, but they never ask themselves, maybe I should do the job first. Maybe I should present

00:00:39.180 my skills. Maybe I should be an example of what I'm doing. It's almost like they want me

00:00:44.080 to save them. You have to take control of your life and do the work before anybody's going to

00:00:50.120 pay you for the work. I think most kids are taught this in school. They're taught if I can just show

00:00:55.720 up, sit in a classroom, not even do the work, I'll get a passing grade. There's this new rule I found

00:01:01.260 out in one of my kids' schools. They don't fail kids anymore. It's like not a thing they do. They'll

00:01:06.520 give them extra support. They'll keep them around for the summer, but they don't fail kids anymore.

00:01:10.220 And then they come into the job market wondering, how is my employer going to train me up and give

00:01:15.840 me all the skills that I need to do the work? If you want to be in sales, if you want to be a video

00:01:20.200 editor, if you want to be a marketer, go learn the skill, show that you've got it. You can do it. If

00:01:25.720 you think somebody else is going to do it for you, you're missing the plot. Now, before we move on to

00:01:30.340 number two, we've got a goal as a team to hit 500,000 subs. So if you haven't already, click

00:01:34.880 subscribe. It only takes a second, which brings us to number two, which is do what's unpopular.

00:01:40.100 If you want an extraordinary life, you need to be extra. It's very simple for me. Whatever your

00:01:47.260 friends are doing, you have to do the opposite. It sounds crazy, but if your friends are going

00:01:51.240 out on weekends, do the opposite. If your friends drink all the time, do the opposite.

00:01:56.040 If everyone around you is watching TV after school instead of working on bettering themselves,

00:02:00.140 do the opposite. There's no way that you're going to be somebody that stands out by not doing things

00:02:06.120 that stand out. So if you look around and everybody's doing the same thing, you're doing

00:02:10.560 it wrong. It reminds me of this quote, which is that the extra mile is often empty because very

00:02:15.460 few people are willing to do it. It's your opportunity to differentiate yourself. If you

00:02:19.220 want a life that's different than everybody else's, your parents, the people at school,

00:02:24.420 your friends, honestly, you have to act different. You have to make different choices,

00:02:29.300 which is the premise of doing something that's hard because you're going to go against what is

00:02:33.700 the norm. People are going to judge you for it, but that's actually the right way to go.

00:02:37.960 And eventually you'll find people that are also doing it and it makes it less lonely. But at first

00:02:42.320 you have to be willing to do things

00:02:44.240 that other people will not understand.

00:02:46.060 People shy away from it

00:02:47.160 because it requires you to feel lonely.

00:02:49.640 It requires you to feel confused.

00:02:52.040 You're like, I hope this works out.

00:02:53.900 Think about going to the gym.

00:02:55.200 Like if you're tracking your macros,

00:02:57.240 if you're tracking your training

00:02:58.940 and you're being disciplined

00:03:00.560 and you don't miss what you committed to,

00:03:03.380 which nobody does,

00:03:04.640 you're going to have results very few people have.

00:03:07.060 Life works the exact same way.

00:03:08.440 Which brings us to number three,

00:03:09.820 which is begin with the end in mind.

00:03:11.340 In the book, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill,

00:03:14.060 the first chapter is all about having an aim,

00:03:16.920 a focus, a target, a primary aim,

00:03:20.240 something that is so clear that when I wake up,

00:03:23.220 I know, did I make progress towards that?

00:03:26.320 The truth is, is most adults

00:03:27.800 do not have a vision for their life.

00:03:30.300 They don't even have a vision for their week.

00:03:32.340 They don't even know why they do what they do.

00:03:34.400 If you wanna separate yourself,

00:03:35.900 then choose to have an aim.

00:03:38.440 And again, you're gonna be like,

00:03:39.740 well, I don't know what it is.

00:03:40.680 it actually doesn't matter what it is. It's that you have it. So take 15 minutes and write it out.

00:03:46.000 Think about the city you want to live in, the family you want to have in the future,

00:03:49.240 the lifestyle you want to live. Where do you want to travel? Dream a little bit.

00:03:53.360 Give yourself permission to write things on there that actually scare you, that freak you out,

00:03:58.240 that you have zero idea how you're going to do. Trust having direction is the right move to be

00:04:03.820 successful. And for those that like really feel stuck and you're like, I don't know if I could

00:04:08.280 do this. My only question to you is, has anybody in your circumstance ever made it? If anybody in

00:04:13.660 your city that looks like you, and maybe not even in the city, maybe just somebody in your specific

00:04:18.800 situation, if they've ever made it, that's proof that you can do it as well. Use that to build the

00:04:24.720 confidence. Use that to learn how they did it. Go find it. I remember one time I woke up and I was

00:04:30.300 like, who are the successful people in my state? And I found out there were three billionaires

00:04:34.580 that lived in my state all of them when i reached out to them took my call all of them they weren't

00:04:39.620 on instagram they were hardly in the news and it took some work that to me is your opportunity most

00:04:45.380 people that have had success the reason why is because they came from a place that was so bad 0.90

00:04:50.660 that they had to work so hard to become a little bit of a success story a little bit more a little

00:04:55.860 bit more they've been doing it for so long that you see them today and you're like impressed but

00:04:59.940 but it's just because they've been at it for decades.

00:05:02.520 Which brings us to number four,

00:05:03.800 which is stop asking your parents for advice.

00:05:06.440 It's a flawed strategy.

00:05:07.880 And I love you parents.

00:05:08.940 I know that your intentions are to love on your kids

00:05:11.280 and be the best role models for them,

00:05:12.700 but the truth is there's a good chance

00:05:14.760 that you watching this, or if you're a parent,

00:05:16.600 your kids want more than they've experienced

00:05:19.240 in their current life.

00:05:20.160 And the fact is it's unlikely that your parents

00:05:22.720 will be able to give you the right strategies,

00:05:24.440 the right advice to get there,

00:05:25.860 because if they did, they'd have it.

00:05:27.700 Instead, they're gonna give you the exact same advice

00:05:29.780 they would use to get the life they have, which is not what you want. And I know that sounds harsh,

00:05:35.260 but stop caring about what your parents think. Your parents just don't want to see you hurt.

00:05:40.040 They don't want to see you fall off that bike. They don't want to see you kicked out of university.

00:05:43.220 They don't want to see your heart broken. So they try to protect you. It's natural. Trust me,

00:05:47.480 I have two boys. I'll probably do the same thing to them. But I've told them from the beginning,

00:05:51.520 if you want to do something I haven't done, don't ask me for advice. It's the wrong strategy. I will

00:05:56.760 help you find those people. I will put you in a position to talk to those people. But anytime you

00:06:01.760 hear me giving you advice, it's flawed because I've never done that thing. So for example, my son

00:06:06.140 wanted to start editing videos. I was like, dude, go talk to somebody on my media team. Like I'm not

00:06:11.100 the person. Talk to Sam. Talk to Nick. Go learn the skill of approaching a stranger and asking

00:06:17.100 them for advice. Because the reason why we turn to our parents is because they'll always give us

00:06:21.020 advice. That's easy. Life of success requires you to do hard things. So don't take the easy route,

00:06:27.040 especially when it's for big things like what university should I go to? Should I start a

00:06:30.960 business? What should that business be? You want to get around people that have been there, done it,

00:06:35.080 and they can give you the blueprint and it makes it easy. And best of all, it gives you the

00:06:38.940 confidence, which brings us to number five, which is no one cares about your story until you win.

00:06:44.040 so go win. When I left rehab after being there for 11 months and being a complete failure up

00:06:51.560 until that point at 17 years old, I had one mission to go win so big that all the doubters

00:06:56.680 couldn't doubt me because at first I wanted to tell everybody how incredible sobriety was. I

00:07:01.080 wanted everybody to listen to me and the truth was is I hadn't done anything and it made me mad

00:07:05.040 but could I really blame them? Why would they listen to me? I hadn't done anything because

00:07:09.700 I've been sober for a few months. Like that's not impressive. Some of us get frustrated because

00:07:14.360 people don't believe in our dreams. They don't believe in our potential. They are so negative

00:07:18.800 about what we've done. We're trying to tell our story. We're trying to teach other people how

00:07:22.900 we've had a little bit of success and we get upset, but you haven't done anything yet. Go win.

00:07:29.860 It's right or wrong. It doesn't matter. Nobody's going to care about you, your story, what you've

00:07:35.180 done until you win so big, people can't ignore you. Which brings us to number six, which is do

00:07:40.960 what's hard for an easy life. There's a quote by Les Brown that says, if you want your life to be

00:07:45.700 hard, do what's easy. If you want your life to be easy, do what's hard. Most young people are trying

00:07:51.980 to do things that feel right, that are easy. The problem with that is that there's no reward on the

00:07:57.180 other side of it, because if it was easy, everybody would do it. The concept of delayed gratification

00:08:03.240 is the idea of being willing to be consistent

00:08:05.720 for long periods of time without ever seeing proof

00:08:08.080 that what you're after is materializing.

00:08:10.340 It's like going to the gym.

00:08:11.380 You gotta choose your heart.

00:08:12.720 Go to the gym, choose your heart, develop your muscles.

00:08:15.660 Those muscles have to come on the backside 1.00

00:08:18.040 of you pushing yourself.

00:08:19.380 When everything in your body says stop, you keep pushing.

00:08:22.680 You know, in life, there's this thing

00:08:23.840 called eustress and distress.

00:08:26.040 Eustress is you deciding to create an environment

00:08:29.000 where you're pushing yourself, long distance running,

00:08:31.660 working out, starting your business.

00:08:34.800 Distress is when the world happens to you

00:08:37.440 and your perspective is that's not fair.

00:08:39.580 I can't believe this person or this situation happened.

00:08:42.160 See, the more we put ourselves in a position to do hard,

00:08:45.940 when hard happens to us, it's easier.

00:08:48.820 It's such a massive idea.

00:08:50.840 Most adults don't get this.

00:08:52.540 But I wanna ask you, how much can you sacrifice for tomorrow?

00:08:56.140 How much are you willing to delay?

00:08:58.060 How much are you willing to push?

00:08:59.600 Can you dedicate yourself to 1,000 days of being better?

00:09:03.220 It's less than three years,

00:09:04.920 but you'd be surprised on the other side of that commitment

00:09:07.620 how different your life would look.

00:09:09.420 Which brings us to number seven,

00:09:10.900 which is don't rely on others for your happiness.

00:09:13.640 You know, when I started trying to get my fitness together,

00:09:16.120 I was frustrated because people around me

00:09:18.440 didn't really support me,

00:09:19.980 but I honestly couldn't blame them

00:09:21.660 because I didn't have proof of being consistent.

00:09:24.080 It was yet another fad diet, another challenge, another race. 1.00

00:09:28.760 And I used to get mad because how could the people that love me the most not support me

00:09:34.420 in something that was going to improve my life? And then I realized this, if I could get to a

00:09:39.160 place where nobody has to change for me to win, then all of a sudden I won't be emotionally

00:09:45.140 distraught if those people didn't support me. And how crazy is that? If I can get to a place

00:09:50.080 where I'm like, I understand why they don't support me, but I'm okay with it and it doesn't

00:09:55.180 affect me. And that philosophy allowed me to not only get in the best shape of my life, absolutely

00:10:00.980 shredded and jacked and working on being even better. I did it in a way where I didn't create

00:10:07.340 emotional shrapnel for people around me. There was no arguments with other people. There was no

00:10:12.440 debating my position. I just decided to do me. And the more I've shared this with other young

00:10:17.880 men and just said, look, I get that you don't feel supported by your parents. Here's the reality.

00:10:22.400 Nobody has to change for you to win.

00:10:24.420 They don't have to change themselves.

00:10:25.600 They don't have to understand who you are.

00:10:26.900 They don't have to support you.

00:10:28.140 You can go out there and be the example.

00:10:31.100 Because here's what I've learned.

00:10:32.140 When we're the lighthouse,

00:10:33.780 when we are the example of what's possible,

00:10:36.040 and we can do that for long periods of times,

00:10:38.620 those people that judge us, that didn't support us,

00:10:41.520 they eventually become our biggest fans.

00:10:43.260 And when they're ready,

00:10:44.860 they're gonna turn to you for advice.

00:10:46.280 May never happen, but the day it does,

00:10:49.160 it'll change your life.

00:10:50.060 what's funny for me is when i started to try to be successful i kept looking for the easy thing

00:10:55.920 the first time i started a company i wanted the bank to finance it i wanted employees to come and

00:11:01.840 help me i wanted my family to understand and maybe even help out but unfortunately they didn't and i

00:11:07.900 realized that i was always looking for easy when the truth was is the work was the work the work

00:11:12.980 instilled the worth in me to develop the skills to become more that was actually the big unlock

00:11:18.600 On the other side of that,

00:11:19.920 I knew that I didn't need anything else

00:11:21.820 to become more successful.

00:11:23.640 Which brings us to number eight,

00:11:25.020 which is stop wasting your time

00:11:26.480 when it's the only thing you have.

00:11:28.000 This one is gonna be controversial

00:11:29.420 because you might be thinking,

00:11:30.600 well, I'm doing the thing I'm supposed to be doing.

00:11:32.000 I'm watching this video, I'm motivating myself,

00:11:34.300 I'm reading my books.

00:11:35.480 Look, vaping, porn, addiction, vices,

00:11:40.420 drinking, smoking, all that stuff, yeah, stop that.

00:11:43.400 Hanging out with people you shouldn't do, yeah, stop that.

00:11:45.400 That's the easy stuff.

00:11:46.280 I actually think some people are addicted to motivation porn.

00:11:49.800 I think some of you just sit here on YouTube

00:11:51.860 and watch a bunch of content to try to get going,

00:11:54.600 but instead of doing the work.

00:11:56.260 So your time is limited.

00:11:58.880 You don't need six hours of podcasts.

00:12:01.540 You don't need to buy another thing.

00:12:03.600 You need to do the work.

00:12:05.200 You need to push your life forward.

00:12:06.620 You have to sit down and measure.

00:12:08.100 You have to look at your calendar and go,

00:12:09.800 where am I spending my time?

00:12:11.220 I wasted a decade of my life doing things

00:12:14.200 that didn't actually make anything better

00:12:16.360 because I was trying to not feel,

00:12:19.400 not be honest with myself, not do the work.

00:12:22.840 There was no improvement in my life.

00:12:24.980 And some of you guys might say,

00:12:25.740 well, that, but it sounds like fun

00:12:27.100 until you reflect on it and go, yeah, that was wasteful.

00:12:30.200 The addiction of being addicted to motivation

00:12:34.080 and shelf help is because it feels good and it feels right.

00:12:38.820 But if you're honest with yourself,

00:12:40.160 it's not moving anything forward.

00:12:42.380 Waking up early tomorrow morning and attacking your work

00:12:46.140 will always do more good for you

00:12:48.660 than waking up early and scrolling motivational TikTok

00:12:52.380 or Instagram, because that's just you lying to yourself.

00:12:56.460 That's you saying, well, I'm learning

00:12:58.260 and I'm using my car for education,

00:13:00.220 all things I've told you, but not to the extreme,

00:13:03.220 not to the point where hours go by and nothing got done.

00:13:07.820 Treat your time like gold.

00:13:09.600 Spend it with people that inspire you

00:13:11.500 and do the work use it to provide value to other people because in doing so it's gonna come back

00:13:17.260 which brings us to number nine which is become obsessed with investing in your skill set

00:13:22.140 the world rewards value you have to create value in the world i got lucky when i was 17 i discovered

00:13:28.940 computer programming and i did nothing else than write code and build software for five years heads

00:13:35.660 down became my new addiction. But looking back, I think a lot of it was just distraction because

00:13:41.800 it's not just about the high value skill, even though you got to go in and become a master at

00:13:46.680 it. You also need to get around other people. You also have to understand marketing. You also need

00:13:51.380 to learn how to talk. You need to communicate. Instead of writing code 16 hours a day, could I

00:13:56.680 have done 10 hours and six hours of other soft skills, work on my emotional intelligence? Could

00:14:01.960 I gotten a lot further? 100%. But what I know is you have to do things and get to a place where

00:14:07.520 it's remarkable. Other people have to remark on how good it is. If nobody is impressed with your

00:14:12.040 work, it's not there yet. You can tell yourself, your friends can tell you, but I'm talking about

00:14:15.960 a stranger saying what you just did is impressive. And also invest that time in learning the other

00:14:21.560 skills that amplify the core. What I would recommend you do today is when you start, just

00:14:27.520 decide to be the best in the world. I know even saying that for a lot of people, like confuse

00:14:31.720 them. It's like, I'm just a kid. How can I be the best in the world? Like the best in the world are

00:14:35.520 these people and this person, this person I follow. I get it. And I'll get to that in another point,

00:14:39.120 but just the decision and the focus back to the primary aim, that's how we become great. That's

00:14:45.320 how we become extraordinary. It's how we become remarkable. So make the decision, even if you have

00:14:50.480 no proof and push forward. What's crazy is that the difference between good and great is oftentimes

00:14:56.840 like only an extra 10 or 15% more. If you think about it, it's the difference between losing

00:15:01.500 weight or not losing weight by giving up your weekend. You can go Monday to Friday and eat

00:15:04.720 really well. And then Saturday, Sunday, give away all your gains because you ate bad. You could

00:15:10.180 show up and do all the work, but miss that last 10, 15% and not get the result. It's interesting

00:15:16.020 that it's such a little bit of extra effort that could mean two or three times more opportunity in

00:15:20.640 your future. Which brings us to number 10, which is work harder on yourself than you do at your

00:15:25.360 job. Now I know you don't want to get fired, but I tell my team this all the time because I

00:15:30.260 understand the truth in it all. If they work harder on themselves than they do on the job,

00:15:35.620 it turns out they'll be better at the job. And the cool part about this is that it's selfish.

00:15:41.180 They want to be better. They want to improve. They want to grow. They'll be able to do that

00:15:46.300 because their improvements help their job, but it also helps their future. Personal development is

00:15:51.900 way more important than personnel development. You think your boss is going to send you away

00:15:55.600 on training and that's going to make you better? Learning how to be more productive, learning how

00:15:59.360 use your calendar right learning how to write things down to prioritize a list of tasks towards

00:16:04.480 your goal that is awesome that will make you better because if you work on yourself and become

00:16:10.320 better it will make you better at your job your energy your fitness your communication skills your

00:16:17.840 ability to manage stress all of these skills that make you better will make you better at your job

00:16:23.360 which brings us to number 11 which is understand what you're good at and what you suck at when i

00:16:28.960 was young i thought i was great at coding actually because i didn't talk to people i didn't get any

00:16:33.520 feedback from anybody if i was good and then i started in business and it was really tough

00:16:38.240 because i wasn't that great at coding which meant my code was buggy and i wasn't good at the other

00:16:44.000 skills that were required to actually grow the business so i decided to actually focus on

00:16:48.160 marketing and sales and i hired people that were better at me at my weakness which was code which

00:16:52.560 is kind of funny because it's the thing that i fell in love with but i had to be honest with myself

00:16:56.720 Rule number one of improving yourself in life

00:16:58.960 is know your strengths.

00:17:00.460 What are you good at?

00:17:01.400 What are you above average than anybody else?

00:17:03.980 And then also know your weaknesses.

00:17:05.580 What are the things that you're not good at 0.99

00:17:07.380 that you don't enjoy doing that you suck at 0.96

00:17:09.440 and try to find people that play at the things you work at.

00:17:12.680 Use that concept to your advantage.

00:17:15.100 Get on a team where you fill a hole that they need

00:17:18.240 and they're helping and supporting you

00:17:19.960 in a way that's just unstoppable

00:17:21.440 and stop avoiding what you're bad at.

00:17:24.040 The worst thing you could do

00:17:25.400 is not be honest with yourself

00:17:27.100 and put yourself in a position

00:17:28.560 where through brute force,

00:17:29.800 you could probably kind of stick around

00:17:31.920 and be somewhat successful,

00:17:33.560 but hate it the whole time.

00:17:35.540 Get feedback.

00:17:36.540 Be honest with yourself.

00:17:38.160 Invest in the things that you're great at

00:17:40.240 because that's way easier

00:17:41.500 and just mitigate the downside of your weaknesses.

00:17:44.300 And you don't have to hire people.

00:17:45.620 You can just find friends and ask them for favors.

00:17:47.880 You know, like I hate doing bookkeeping.

00:17:49.580 I have a friend that's an accountant.

00:17:50.680 Hey, could you do my books?

00:17:51.700 You don't like doing marketing?

00:17:52.760 That's easy for me.

00:17:53.600 Let me write you your Facebook ads.

00:17:55.720 And like just bartering, trading,

00:17:57.540 being around people that support you like that,

00:17:59.500 it's an unfair advantage for you.

00:18:01.360 The reason you should double down on your strength

00:18:02.880 is developing something you're good at

00:18:05.200 is 10 times easier than trying to get good

00:18:08.340 at something you suck at and don't wanna get good at. 0.70

00:18:11.040 You can do it. 0.97

00:18:11.820 I mean, most people can develop and grow.

00:18:13.840 It's just to get good at it,

00:18:16.060 the effort isn't worth the squeeze

00:18:17.800 because if you do it right,

00:18:19.040 you shouldn't be putting yourself in positions

00:18:20.740 where you're not gonna be able to succeed.

00:18:23.360 All the people you follow on social media

00:18:25.660 were smart enough to find people to support them.

00:18:28.340 Period, full stop.

00:18:29.440 You may not know who they are,

00:18:30.420 but I guarantee that they have a team

00:18:32.360 and they might have really senior people,

00:18:34.240 other people that could even run their company

00:18:35.900 that they partnered with to be able to allow them

00:18:38.740 to go shine their light,

00:18:39.860 doing the thing that they do better

00:18:41.540 than anybody else in the world

00:18:42.560 so that the other person could take care

00:18:44.600 of all the areas that they're weak at,

00:18:46.660 but make sure it doesn't become a problem.

00:18:48.680 Which brings us to number 12,

00:18:50.000 which is stop being so critical of yourself.

00:18:52.340 I've got this guy on my team and it's hilarious because no matter what somebody says or posts on

00:18:57.700 Instagram or shares anonymously, he defaults to thinking it's about him. And it gets him into a

00:19:04.680 headspace where he has a negative downward spiral. And until somebody stops him or has a conversation

00:19:10.520 with him or he shares it out loud, he will allow himself to go into a dark place. And the crazy

00:19:15.740 part is, is nobody's ever said anything about him. He's the nicest guy. He's so smart, yet he just

00:19:21.120 believes that all the bad stuff that people are talking about might be directed towards him in

00:19:25.700 life. We can easily put ourselves in a negative spot by focusing on something negative. And it's

00:19:31.200 called ruminating where you've had something happen to you weeks ago. When you think about

00:19:36.040 it, it makes you feel bad, makes you feel sad. It makes you feel less about yourself. It's all up to

00:19:40.900 you to decide what you want to focus on. So lift your head. Stop looking at your feet. Eyes up on

00:19:46.380 the horizon. Stop looking down. Realize that 99% of stuff that happens out there, even if you were

00:19:53.360 involved, is not about you. It's about the other person and the stories they tell themselves. So

00:19:57.860 Tony Robbins says this thing all the time. If you're in your head, you're dead. It's not about 0.79

00:20:02.920 you. Get out of your head, focus on how awesome you are, and get back to work. Which brings us

00:20:07.160 to number 13, which is don't compare your level one to somebody else's level 23. Back when I

00:20:12.880 started, I would see all these young entrepreneurs further along to me, sold their company for a

00:20:17.520 hundred million at 23. This other person, super successful. And here I am comparing myself to

00:20:23.200 these other entrepreneurs going, man, I must suck. I am so slow. Why am I not figuring this out 0.99

00:20:28.540 faster? And I was beating myself up. Or I'd see this person on the internet that's 35, that's way, 0.85

00:20:33.560 way, way further ahead of me. And then I heard somebody say once, they said, you got to understand

00:20:37.780 that in business, there's entrepreneurial ages. And there's some people, their age is one years

00:20:42.580 old and other people, they're 15. And when you start off, it doesn't matter how old you are,

00:20:47.440 but if you're starting off young and this is your first year at it, you got to understand

00:20:50.860 you're at year one of your entrepreneurial age. And if you're comparing yourself to somebody else

00:20:55.540 that might be similar age or a few years ahead of you, but started 15 years ago, then you're

00:21:00.880 comparing your age one to their age 15. Do you know the difference between a one-year-old baby

00:21:05.980 and a 15-year-old? Think about it. It's massive. Somebody has been doing something like legit in

00:21:11.380 business and people don't realize like eight year olds start businesses now. So you might meet

00:21:15.260 somebody that's 21 that's absolutely crushing it, but they've been doing it for a decade and you

00:21:18.840 just started and you're going to beat yourself up over it. You're going to feel bad about not being

00:21:22.480 further along. There's nothing to compare about. There's nothing to compare to. You are not them.

00:21:27.860 They're not you. You are living your own journey, your own existence, your own reality. And if you

00:21:32.760 allow yourself to just be okay with that and have some grace, it'll actually make you feel a lot

00:21:37.420 better. I don't focus on other people. I focus on me. I focus on who I was yesterday. And am I

00:21:42.860 better today that I can control? Can't control the weather. I can't control the politics. I can't

00:21:47.700 control the people around me. Think about every time you drive, you trust the person on the other

00:21:52.580 side of the lane to not cross the lane and smash you head on, right? Like I don't control a lot of

00:21:56.860 stuff, but I control me. And I choose not to compare my journey at whatever level I'm at,

00:22:02.540 whatever entrepreneurial age I'm at to somebody else's further along. So for what it's worth,

00:22:07.040 If you look at where I'm at, I've been doing this for 27 years.

00:22:10.940 It's not even that impressive.

00:22:12.880 Imagine what you could do in 10 years, 20 years, 30 years if you went all in on you.

00:22:18.480 But it's going to require consistency.

00:22:20.080 If you want to learn the 44 cheat codes I know at 44 that I wish I knew at 24,

00:22:24.240 click the link and I'll see you on the other side.

Dan Martell - October 11, 2024

Brutally Honest Advice for Young Men

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