How to be present with you kids
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Summary
If my kid was sitting there and absolutely in a rage and angry and beside themselves, this is what I would do. I would not ask my kid to be any different than they are. If my kid wants to sit there in rage for 18 hours, I would be here and I would hold that space. I m not trying to fix you, I m just going to be with you.
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I would not ask my kid to be any different than they are.
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If my kid was sitting there and absolutely in f***ing rage and angry and beside themselves,
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I will f***ing sit on the ground if I have to.
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I'm not doing anything other than I'm here with you.
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The problem is most adults are never taught to hold space for anybody.
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They can't even hold space for themselves.
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If my kid wants to sit there in rage for 18 hours,
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I will be here and I will f***ing hold that space.
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because guess what the adults and the therapists won't do and what you end up teaching them is
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that there's nothing wrong with them i'm not trying to fix you there's nothing wrong with you
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you're growing into a young person and you've got these big movements of emotions i'm just
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going to be with them i wish somebody would have did that with me