If you’re ambitious but can’t stay consistent, watch this video
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In this episode of the podcast, I talk about why you don't need a "consistency problem" - you have an "identity problem" and how you can overcome it. I've built and sold 3 companies, scaled past $100M in revenue, and completed a half dozen Ironman races. None of that happens without being super freaking consistent. And the first step to do that is deciding who you are.
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And I'm not gonna tell you to just be more disciplined.
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None of that happens without being super freaking consistent.
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And the first step to do that is deciding who you are.
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Who do I need to become to achieve that body weight?
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versus who do I need to become to lose 50 pounds?
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I had to ask myself that question, who is that?
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who's got the results before the results ever show up.
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And until you flip the identity of the kind of person
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essentially is have 100% clarity of the identity
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If you can do that, you will become that person.
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Because telling yourself, I am this, I am that,
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won't get you anywhere if you don't make some real changes to your life.
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And to do that, we need to design our environment.
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Your environment is either working for you or against you.
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It's either supporting your dreams or making it really hard to win.
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We want to design things to make it easy for us to do the right thing
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and make it feel absolutely inconvenient and hard to do the wrong thing.
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So for example, putting your clothes out to go to the gym the night before,
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with the car and the alarm and everything set up
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Taking all the snacks that you would normally eat
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when you're just feeling tired or you wanna relax
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So you have to like go into some weird little crawl space
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that was interesting, or I had the book that I bought
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That way I always had a digital Kindle that was synced up
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My environment made it easy for me to read more.
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A long time ago, my friend Scott said this to me.
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He said, it's easier to avoid the dragon than to slay it.
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that we're in a good headspace to make a good decision.
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Maybe you want to go to gym more, so get your clothes ready.
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Maybe you want to commit to somebody else, so you have somebody that's there waiting for you.
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If you're spending too much time on your phone, maybe you put your phone in a different room,
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Or you install an app that blocks you off of your social apps in the first place.
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Maybe you want to eat better, so you decide to get meal prep.
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Maybe you take your snacks and you put them in another room, or you give it to your neighbor.
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You know, and now you got to go to your neighbor's house and ask them for your freaking snack.
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Eight o'clock at night when you shouldn't be eating anymore.
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make it tough on you. Essentially, you want to make it so easy, it's hard not to, and so hard
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you feel stupid for doing it. And then number three, open your calendar and block the exact
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time you're going to do this tomorrow. What are you going to do? What are the decisions? Put it
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in your calendar and just show up and commit to it. That's it. When there's nothing to decide
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anymore, there's nothing to quit. You just commit to it. Now you know it's in your calendar and you
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make it happen. And look, if you really want to level up and learn not only how to design your
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environment, but how to design your whole week, I've got to fill in the blank template on how you
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could do that to make you even more consistent. Just find me on Instagram and DM me the word
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YouTube week, and I'll send it right over. All right, so we got your identity defined.
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You've set up your environment to work for you, not against you. Now, how do you actually stick
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to it? Now, it might feel a little scary, but you have to make it public. The truth is nobody would
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notice if you just quit tomorrow, if you didn't tell anybody. Once real people are in the picture,
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than being seen to fail in other people's eyes.
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I wanna change my life, I want some accountability.
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So my goal is to lose 20% body fat within five months.
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Now, if I do it, I'm going to give myself the gift of going to Bali.
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If I don't, I need you guys to hold me accountable and I have to get fired.
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Do you think she didn't do meal prep, went and got a DEXA scan, like really went all in?
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No, because she knew if she didn't hit it, she wouldn't be able to work at the place
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And if you look at the gen that came to us with that idea back then to how she looks
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now she's a completely different person that enjoyed her time in bali another way to think
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about it is the more you share your goals the more you enroll other people to see them happen
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so it's yes it's about public accountability but it's also that you communicate your future
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everybody knows that gary v wants to buy the new york jets will he do it he actually doesn't care
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he just wants to hold that as a potential truth and i guarantee every day he gets asked 17 times
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a day how close are you how close are you how close are you that level of accountability is
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key see the truth is most people aren't consistent because the only person who would care if they
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stopped is themselves we'll always do more for other people if we make commitments to them to
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stay consistent than we'll ever do for ourselves so telling people actually makes it really powerful
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so here's how to keep yourself accountable in three steps don't run away we're gonna do this
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together one pick a big reward i'm talking a trip a purchase something you've always wanted but you
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would not give yourself permission to get okay something real if you hit your goal you get it
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no guilt and you're allowed to dream big number two now pick a big just as big consequence just
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like jen saying i can't work here and i really don't want to get fired she put it on the line
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for me when i decided to get visible abs i decided to make the consequence that i had to enter in a
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fitness competition as is on the date if i didn't hit my goal i'm talking speedo
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on stage to have those photos captured for the rest of my life nobody wants to visualize that
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a simpler example is maybe you give 500 bucks to a friend or a thousand dollars to a friend or
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five thousand whatever would be meaningful to you and if you quit they get to keep it maybe you give
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it to a person you don't even like that would probably sting more and number three tell someone
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today like right now if you have a decision to make a goal text one person right now and say
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i'm doing this thing for this long if you want to level it up post it on your socials post it
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on Facebook, tell your community, any story, any video, whatever it is. Once people know,
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then quitting actually costs you something. But don't just tell them the goal, tell them the
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reward and the consequence because then they'll get enrolled with you. You might inspire other
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people to do the same thing. That's been my experience. Now look, you can do everything
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we talked about. Define who you are, design your environment, tell everyone in the world about your
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goals and still give up because most people forget about this last concept and it's to let time do
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the work. Let me explain. It's not about doing more. It's about doing it for longer periods of
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time. See, most often we compare ourselves to other people. We compare our chapter one to
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their chapter 13. They've just been doing it longer. The people crushing it aren't doing 10x
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more. They're maybe doing 10% more. For example, you might be 80% consistent with your meals.
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If you get to 90%, all of a sudden now you get results. Another example is 1% better every day.
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Now, it doesn't sound like much, just 1% better every day,
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be patient with results and impatient with actions.
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but at the same time, allow yourself to breathe
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I made a commitment to myself to do it for 10 years.
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When people heard that, they're like, that's wild.
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So when people see my numbers and they're like,
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oh my gosh, two and a half million followers, that's crazy.
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It's like when people meet me and they're like,
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oh my gosh, where do I find a Sam, my creative director?
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so he might seem young he's 24 now but he started when he was 14 editing videos showing up every day
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getting a little bit better learning iterating exposing himself getting around other people
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that are going to share big ideas with him some people think it's a linear thing but it's not
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over time if you're consistent and you show up it eventually goes exponential one time i was
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talking to one of my friends john maxwell the leadership goat and i was asking him about his
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best-selling book he wrote 21 irrefutable laws of leadership it was his 13th book he's 73 now
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he's written 92 books and i'm thinking oh my gosh what a legacy and he's like i just did
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one thing for 52 years it's actually not that special he's just a guy that picked a thing
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and showed up and never stopped when you see these people and you hear my story or other people and
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you think they they must have a special gift or they must be a genius no they're not i mean for
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For me, when I heard that, that's when I realized
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They just didn't quit before compounding did the work.
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would make everything else in your life easier.
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that's day one, because you're gonna do it today.
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You can miss one day, look, we're all human, that's fine.
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of not going to the gym, two days of not eating clean,
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The things and the habits that have stacked in my life,
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I've just made a commitment that I'm allowed to miss something, but to do it too, I start a
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downward spiral. Most people, when they realize they put on 30 pounds, it's not like they woke
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up and they just put on 30 pounds. That spiral started a long time ago. They just didn't have
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a rule in their life that stopped them from starting the downward spiral. And number four,
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break it into chapters. So for me, day one to 90, that's milestone number one. And that's just
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survival. We're going to do it ugly. We're going to do it hard. We're going to just do it draft.
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We're just going to get it done. Okay. It doesn't have to be pretty. Just show up in the gym. If
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walk in the door and walk back out i'm still giving you a high five day 91 to 365 that's
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milestone number two that's about building momentum now we've been consistent for a year
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and now we're going now we're feeling this right day 365 to a thousand i call that milestone number
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three which is compounding that's where you start to get the exponential growth out of that habit
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and the trick is celebrate each milestone like it's a big moment like i need you to be like i
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You know your environment does the work for you.
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The only question left is, will you actually do it?
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And I know most people will just watch this and do nothing,
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what's that one thing that you're committed to today the thing you wrote down with today's date
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post it below and remember if you want to take this a step further just go find me on instagram
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and dm me the word youtube week and i'll send you over my perfect week template to make this
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even easier and if you want to learn how i built habits that made me rich click here and i'll see