Dan Martell - I’m 46. If you're in your 20s or 30s, watch this video

00:00:00.000 I've got nine mindset lessons I learned in 2025.

00:00:04.060 I want to go through each one, tell you a story,

00:00:06.240 and tell you what impact it had on my life

00:00:08.500 so that maybe it could serve you at where you're at right now.

00:00:11.800 The first one is every level requires a new level of letting go.

00:00:17.340 Learning to let go continuously becomes a theme in my life.

00:00:21.660 What beliefs do I have that keep me stuck?

00:00:24.560 What are areas of my life that I know better

00:00:26.760 that if I just learned to let go

00:00:28.560 would change everything in my business.

00:00:31.900 And that for me this year was a big takeaway

00:00:34.340 is that every new level has a new devil

00:00:37.220 and part of that devil to defeat it requires them to let go.

00:00:41.020 That's one.

00:00:41.520 Two, people will attack you when you surpass them.

00:00:45.260 It's human nature. 0.61

00:00:47.240 See, it sucks that like there's probably people

00:00:49.700 that you worked with a long time ago,

00:00:51.300 went to school with a long time ago

00:00:52.440 or probably good friends of yours today

00:00:53.840 that were your cheerleader, your fans.

00:00:56.360 they supported you they wanted to see you well uh do well in life until the moment you surpassed

00:01:03.800 them i don't know if you can resonate with this but i guarantee there's something you've done

00:01:09.000 recently where somebody criticized you for doing it and you might take it as like why would they

00:01:15.400 do that that's not nice like why can't they support me i'm telling you that on the come up

00:01:21.080 the people that were your biggest fans have to criticize you because in the moment that you

00:01:27.880 surpass you've essentially showed them where they let go you showed them where they chose comfort

00:01:33.160 where they chose simple where they chose an easy life and you didn't you literally woke up and

00:01:39.400 decided i'm gonna do the hard thing even though i don't want to do it i could just lay in bed that's

00:01:42.840 easy i could eat whatever i want that's easy i could watch whatever i want that's easy but no

00:01:47.400 you made the right decision and then you've grown and in doing so you show people where they gave up

00:01:56.060 and this year i got attacked i got attacked in the comments i got attacked from peers

00:02:01.640 i got attacked from people that literally i thought were like my friends i'm talking like

00:02:06.720 close friends and i kept coming back to this the moment you surpass somebody you've essentially

00:02:14.980 showed them where they could have they could have went with you like that's the crazy part

00:02:18.680 i want to see everybody win and instead of them going like oh so cool that you did this teach me

00:02:24.620 how no they got to talk about you got my back and they think you don't hear it that's the crazy part

00:02:30.440 is that you they think that nobody's gonna tell me if you surpass other people they will celebrate

00:02:38.820 you on the come up and then as soon as you go too far they can't help but start to attack and just

00:02:43.360 know that it's coming and it's their own journey and i actually have no feelings around it other

00:02:47.880 than i really hope they get back on the train because it's a lot of fun to win third the energy

00:02:53.740 you put into a project the energy that is that you feel connected like right now me and you

00:02:59.120 this energy hopefully is felt by the person watching so the energy in is felt from the people

00:03:06.500 out that to me is such a big idea as i worked on my book this year that's the big that's where i

00:03:11.280 continue to come back to it is I've been so excited about the content that I've been

00:03:16.940 been I've been working on and creating and the ideas actually I said I have nine I have a bonus

00:03:21.820 one for you today that comes from that that I'm continuously reminded when I grabbed snippets and

00:03:28.380 I share it on my Instagram and the reactions I get or I'm speaking and I go you know there's

00:03:33.280 something I wrote about this morning and I share it and everybody's like oh my gosh that's so good

00:03:37.720 and when I think about where the inspiration or the feeling even this list today when I sat down

00:03:43.500 this morning and I was connected to the energy of like the reflection and then also the excitement

00:03:47.940 to share with you today like the energy that goes in to a creative project goes out to the audience

00:03:55.820 goes out to the viewer out to the reader and I think that's something that most people don't

00:04:01.800 understand like if you're working on something and you don't feel it guess what the person that's

00:04:07.040 going to use it won't feel it the person's going to watch it that won't feel it the customer won't

00:04:11.060 feel it so honor yourself and make sure you're only doing things that you like resonate with

00:04:16.280 don't don't don't diminish the standard to make everybody happy like fight for what you feel

00:04:21.340 is great that is number three number four your life oh that's so good your life is the byproduct

00:04:28.240 of your most dominant thoughts actions and feelings period full stop how you show up with

00:04:35.820 your thoughts, how those thoughts drive your actions, how your actions drives your emotions.

00:04:40.840 Those, and when I say dominant, the ones you think about most often, that's what shapes your life.

00:04:46.660 When you hear me say the world isn't as it is, the world is as you are, that's what I mean.

00:04:51.200 When you realize that being the person who has $10 million is how you get $10 million,

00:04:58.400 not having it, will change everything. Because most people wouldn't want things if it didn't

00:05:05.080 give them the emotions that it comes with. Like if you're thirsty and you want water and the water

00:05:09.860 doesn't quench your thirst, you don't want water. You want whatever's going to quench your thirst.

00:05:12.740 You want the feeling that comes with the thing. If you want a nice house, it's not the nice house

00:05:16.840 you want. You want the sense of accomplishment and maybe safety. You want the feeling. If the

00:05:21.460 house didn't provide that, you wouldn't want it. And that's why your life is 100% the byproduct

00:05:27.040 of your most dominant. Write that down, underline it, all caps, bold it. Dominant.

00:05:32.320 actions, feelings, and thoughts, and that I will continue to come back to. Number five.

00:05:40.740 Oh, this is so good. These are all great, but as I read them, I'm just like reconnected with it.

00:05:45.060 You've never gotten better when things were easy. Never, ever, ever. In the history of mankind,

00:05:50.860 there's no person that has said to themselves, I completely transformed my life when things

00:05:57.780 were great it's never happened it will never happen because pain is the perfect teacher

00:06:04.160 pain will literally teach you the lesson that you've been avoiding and any time life got hard

00:06:11.380 and i realized that it was teaching me exactly what i needed to at that moment i got excited

00:06:16.760 so i want to encourage you to use this philosophy because this will change everything if you can get

00:06:21.380 to this place, is that when things are hard, you respond with good. Challenge, good. Setback, good.

00:06:31.640 Somebody mad at you, good. Massive frigging debacle, good. Why? We're the opponent. We're 0.98

00:06:39.760 the opponent. See, I know that a lot of people go on this journey of life, and if they actually

00:06:44.600 start to have a little bit of success, they get to a place where it can kind of feel complacent,

00:06:48.720 where things are good.

00:06:51.120 They had nothing, they have something

00:06:53.060 and then they feel good about themselves.

00:06:54.820 The problem is, is they're not looking for bigger challenges.

00:06:58.540 You know, they're not looking for new levels,

00:07:00.440 new devils, bigger monsters.

00:07:02.720 To me, anytime I have a massive challenge, I go good.

00:07:07.560 If my problems are not big enough, I get worried.

00:07:11.240 Bigger the problem, the bigger the life.

00:07:13.980 And you've never gotten better if there weren't challenges.

00:07:16.640 And if you can reframe those in the moment instead of like stepping back from them, but actually leaning into them because you say good, worthy opponent, it'll change everything for you.

00:07:27.260 I know a lot of people watch me because they feel a level of connection and confidence in my words because I can't teach what I haven't lived.

00:07:36.860 So everything I'm teaching, hopefully you get that from my stories, these are deep moments

00:07:42.180 where I had to go from the version I was through that challenge to the person I am.

00:07:48.540 And one of those areas that is the point that I want to share is around confidence.

00:07:53.720 Number six, confidence is the reputation that you have with yourself.

00:07:59.500 It's the reputation you have with yourself.

00:08:01.900 It's the conversation you have with yourself, that conversation around being consistent,

00:08:05.380 doing what you say you're going to do.

00:08:06.400 following the commitments you make yourself in private, right?

00:08:09.660 So for example, when I speak and people go like,

00:08:11.740 man, when you talk, it's, I can feel you.

00:08:15.220 And it's just, it doesn't look like you're scared or nervous.

00:08:17.400 It's like, well, because my confidence comes from my intention.

00:08:22.120 My confidence comes from my consistency.

00:08:24.800 And before I get on stage,

00:08:26.440 I ask my creator to use me to serve the people.

00:08:30.380 And then it's just a conversation of trying to figure out

00:08:33.720 how can I add value and pour into other people? Because my reputation with me is intact.

00:08:41.340 See what I'm saying? Like the confidence is your reputation you have with yourself.

00:08:45.720 And if you don't trust yourself, if you don't appreciate your discipline, if you don't

00:08:51.040 appreciate the right choices, if you don't, you know, reflect and celebrate your accomplishments,

00:08:56.760 then how do you build that reputation?

00:09:00.060 Here's what I know.

00:09:01.220 If most people had somebody speak to their spouse,

00:09:05.480 their partner, their brother, their sister,

00:09:07.140 the way they speak to themselves, 1.00

00:09:08.880 you would punch that f***er in the face. 1.00

00:09:12.360 And yet you talk to yourself that way. 1.00

00:09:15.580 Again, confidence is a byproduct

00:09:17.700 of the reputation you have with yourself.

00:09:19.720 So work on that reputation.

00:09:21.640 Be more consistent.

00:09:23.240 Be more giving.

00:09:25.300 Make what you do for others.

00:09:27.120 Be a good person.

00:09:28.440 See, most people have a hard time sharing who they are

00:09:30.400 because they have a lot of shame around who they are.

00:09:32.840 And that internal narrative holds people

00:09:35.340 from shining their light massively.

00:09:38.320 Huge.

00:09:39.620 Number seven, it's either a hell yes or it's a heck no.

00:09:44.840 The more you honor this, kind of like the excitement.

00:09:48.280 Another way to ask yourself this is if whatever you've been asked to do

00:09:50.820 is tonight, would you do it?

00:09:52.520 And if the answer is like no, then don't say maybe.

00:09:54.700 don't say yes just say it's not a fit and guess what no is a complete sentence and it ends with

00:09:59.720 a period you're allowed to say no what if they get upset blah blah hey that's their journey

00:10:05.960 all i know is that i've never been upset when i've said yes enthusiastically things that were

00:10:12.460 like of course i want to do that versus like mediocre replies like yeah i guess we could do

00:10:17.580 that no fun fact i was just at the gym some guy recognized me and he's like hey man if you're in

00:10:22.780 town for the next couple of days. I'd love to have you on my podcast. My internal thermometer said,

00:10:26.900 no. I said, I appreciate the opportunity, but unfortunately the calendar schedule,

00:10:30.640 the answer is no. Because it wasn't a hell yes. It could have been a hell yes, but it wasn't.

00:10:35.700 Am I upset about my decision? No. Because my gut said, man, honor yourself. You know,

00:10:43.920 I've been doing this talk for a really well-known guy who is incredibly amazing. I've been supporting

00:10:49.240 his project for the last two years and this year it went from hell yes hell yes for the last two

00:10:54.480 years to I just don't think it's fit anymore and that was a tough one because there was a commitment

00:11:00.300 and a conversation and kind of a mutual support for each other but even really incredible

00:11:05.160 opportunities like I know everybody watching this would be like I can't believe you're gonna say no

00:11:09.520 yep not because it's not great it's because it's just not a fit anymore for me and what I want to

00:11:17.700 do. And when I start to feel like that, I'm just, I've learned the more I can honor that and just

00:11:22.880 approach it right away. When I start to feel that way and not let it linger, that it usually creates

00:11:27.420 the space for something more amazing to come into. See how that works? Number eight, you can't

00:11:33.780 complain about the outcomes for the work you didn't do. So good. You can't complain about the outcomes

00:11:40.840 for the work you didn't do as a content creator my expectations for myself are way up here and

00:11:48.600 even though our team hit the goals for the year okay my expectations are here we hit our goals

00:11:55.560 that were here there's a delta that's the outcome that i wanted and then i had to reflect myself on

00:12:02.760 this right i can't be i can't complain for the outcomes for the work i didn't do why didn't i do

00:12:08.120 the work well i had to remind myself i decided to travel the world this year with my family

00:12:13.480 that's not a great environment to create content um i decided to focus 97 on martell ventures my

00:12:20.600 ai venture studio not on media i only allocate three hours a week to create content for my team

00:12:29.000 not a scenario where they have unlimited access to me so how can i complain about an outcome i want

00:12:35.320 for the work that i'm not willing to do that's just honesty and you got to look at yourself and

00:12:41.560 say like oh i wish my content was popping off are you actually giving it a 10 out of 10 are

00:12:46.280 you doing some six out of 10s are you lobbing up are you inconsistent like just just don't complain

00:12:51.320 be honest with yourself if the work ethic isn't there quality drive consistency you can't complain

00:12:58.920 for the outcome you didn't get and number nine don't take criticism from people whose life you

00:13:04.520 don't want to live as i read in the comments and there's all these people and they're talking about

00:13:08.440 you know i don't like the i don't like his hair i don't like what he said i don't agree the

00:13:12.200 statistics and who would want to live and i'm thinking there and i'm like at first i was like

00:13:17.000 now i go do i want their life like can i just assume what kind of life a person that would

00:13:22.040 take the time out of their day to leave a comment on my social media is living and if i wouldn't

00:13:26.920 trade places why would i accept that criticism now that's an easy one to dismiss the the people in

00:13:33.640 the comments the harder one is somebody that you consider a massive mentor in your life

00:13:41.400 you know years ago i hired somebody i look up to he is incredibly wealthy he taught me a lot

00:13:50.520 and as i got to know him got closer to him i started to see the cracks in the character

00:13:57.000 and as a young person that's easily influenced by people they're way further along

00:14:02.280 i kind of made exceptions i accepted things that i wouldn't have accepted from a friend things that

00:14:08.200 were said comments that were made requests of me that i just absolutely didn't agree with

00:14:14.040 just it was just these little tiny things i just kept overlooking them and then eventually

00:14:19.400 i said to myself i don't want that person's life i wanted to learn the skill that they taught me i

00:14:26.040 I wanted to be mentored around the thing

00:14:28.420 that I saw them do world-class levels at.

00:14:31.920 But when I got close enough to actually see the life they lived

00:14:34.840 and the challenges they had with their health

00:14:36.180 and the challenges they had with their friendships

00:14:37.560 and the challenges they had with their family,

00:14:39.080 I was like, no.

00:14:41.600 And eventually I just created some space.

00:14:44.480 Stopped replying to the text messages,

00:14:46.340 stopped checking in, stopped showing up.

00:14:48.660 And I created space because I had to be honest with myself.

00:14:52.040 Why would I take feedback?

00:14:53.820 Why would I take coaching?

00:14:54.800 Why would it be mentored by somebody whose life I do not want

00:14:57.840 just because of a financial level of success they achieved

00:15:01.900 when other areas of their life are not things that I aspire to?

00:15:05.280 It's a dangerous strategy and a lot of people fall into.

00:15:09.200 Those are nine.

00:15:10.500 Those are nine strategies from levels and devils

00:15:14.260 and people will attack you and the byproduct of life

00:15:17.200 and all these things.

00:15:17.980 Review this.

00:15:18.920 Confidence is your reputation out of yourself.

00:15:20.960 I want to give you a bonus one.

00:15:22.300 is unhealed pain becomes company policy.

00:15:27.520 Now, company policy could be your family company.

00:15:30.100 Like think about it, unhealed pain becomes company policy.

00:15:33.640 If you have unhealed pain,

00:15:35.980 you might be creating rules for your kids

00:15:37.640 that make no sense.

00:15:39.700 If you have unhealed pain

00:15:41.740 around how you learn to deal with the world,

00:15:45.220 you might be creating policies in your business

00:15:47.780 that are gonna keep you stuck.

00:15:49.460 Where you're always asking people like,

00:15:51.080 hey, work on this, but come see me.

00:15:52.100 Hey, work on this, but come see me.

00:15:53.200 Hey, before you make a decision, come see me.

00:15:54.740 Like there's all these weird permutations

00:15:57.360 of the unhealed pain,

00:15:59.000 but it literally shows up

00:16:01.380 in the way you talk with your team

00:16:03.240 and the policies you enforce amongst your team.

00:16:06.440 If you ever get to spend time with me,

00:16:07.740 you will notice one thing.

00:16:09.320 I am almost from your lens,

00:16:12.120 typically irresponsibly hands off

00:16:14.180 because you don't understand

00:16:16.060 the work that went in behind the scenes,

00:16:17.960 the conversations, the chats, the coaching,

00:16:20.200 the support, the training, et cetera, where I can feel absolutely comfortable in letting go

00:16:28.600 in a way where I don't expose myself to massive pain as well, because that's also unhealed pain.

00:16:36.760 Being a doormat is unhealed pain. Being a dictator is an unhealed pain. And when you realize,

00:16:43.180 like I said earlier, the world will show you where you're not free and you choose to do that work,

00:16:49.220 you'll start to feel weightless you'll you know it's like having a backpack full of big rocks

00:16:54.440 and every time you work on something you take that rock out and you put it down the backpack

00:16:58.000 feels a lot lighter and you keep doing the work and keep walking you keep climbing that mountain

00:17:02.460 the backpack feels a lot lighter that weightless way of living is what i want for you a lot of the

00:17:09.080 spiritual gurus of the world will call it enlightenment i just call it doing the work

00:17:14.020 and if you'll honor these mindsets these nine mindsets that i share with you plus the bonus one

00:17:18.780 I guarantee 2026 is going to be a completely different year for you if you internalize them

00:17:24.480 and work on them and apply them 2026 will be a breakout year for you even if 2025 is an amazing

00:17:30.360 year 2026 even better so let me know on everything I just shared with you what's the one thing you

00:17:36.800 needed to hear most below in the comments I want to read every one of them I want to hear from you

00:17:40.760 post your answer below and with that I'll see you guys next week peace later

Dan Martell - January 13, 2026

I’m 46. If you're in your 20s or 30s, watch this video

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