Whatever my kids end up deciding to do with their lives is not a reflection of who I am. I literally tell my boys all the time, I will love you no matter what. You come to me with your grades are you proud? Are you proud for me? I m proud for you, but you don t have to be anything to me. You don't have to win the soccer game. I ll be there with you. I'll celebrate the progress, but there's nothing for you to be for me to love you.