Reprogram Your Mind to Be Rich in 47 Mins
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In this episode, I have the pleasure of sitting down with a very good friend of mine who has been through a lot in his life. He s been through his fair share of trials and tribulations and has had to overcome a lot of obstacles to get to where he is today. In this episode we talk about his journey to recovery and how he was able to reprogram his mind to allow him to be the best version of himself.
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You could be one decision away from achieving the dream of your life.
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but you've been telling yourself stories that keeps it contracted.
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how do I learn to let go and truly feel my potential?
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That question really helped me kind of get clean,
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where you're acting the exact same way you are today.
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is, that my mind isn't programmed the way I need it to be for me to achieve my goals. It's that
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simple. If it was, I'd already be achieving the things I want because if I was a person
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who could create those dreams, I would have them. So what I do is I go through the world
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and I interact. I read, I talk, I consume videos, content. And as I find sound bites,
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quotes, beliefs that I'm like, ooh, like this morning, I heard a great one. It said miracles.
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are a shift in perception and i wrote that down i'm like oh that's a belief i want to believe that
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miracles are a shift in perception we got to change our perception of what is and we will find
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miracles that's a that's just a simple example but everything in my life all the the language
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or the questions that i use those are part of collecting beliefs and the more i reprogram my
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mind the more i have really great achievements happen in my life like the more i reprogram my
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mind the more happiness the more fulfillment i feel the more joy the more capacity i have for
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other people so i just consider it like a first principle like a first place to look to be happier
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be more successful collect beliefs because the beliefs drive my view on the world and my view
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drives my actions and my actions drive my results that's why i do it how did you reprogram your mind
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as a teenager the way i reprogram my mind as a teenager was first creating the space for me to
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have the time to reprogram it for a long time my teenage years i was so busy staying busy getting
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in trouble got in trouble with the law had issues with drugs you know crime and all that stuff
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obviously eventually rehabbed that it was in that place where i then had time to even think
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you know meditate reflect like what do i believe about life and what stories have i been telling
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myself about where i was at and what this all means for the the greater aspect of the the years
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ahead of me so that's the first step is just create some space sometimes it's no to people
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know to opportunities know to things you make commitments to and then with that time i then just
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started writing things down you know journaling talking about my emotions which sounds crazy
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today i mean there was a time where i didn't want to tell anybody how i felt because honestly i
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didn't feel like anybody cared then i realized the more i talked about my feelings the more i was
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becoming aware of what drove those feelings and just even saying them out loud sometimes i would
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see how ridiculous i was for feeling a certain way because many times i was upset for something
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the other person didn't even know they did or i was worrying about something that never happened
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and when i started talking about it and being able to hear myself say these words to then reflect on
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it i was like oh i've been making up a whole lot of this pain these challenges this the the anger
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of my life was all self-inflicted so that was the beginning and then the key thing was
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finding great questions to ask myself like really great questions like what what would need to be
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true for me to be happy you know why can't i decide to be happy in this moment where's the beauty in
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this challenge what's my opportunity in this setback why did that person say that is there
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a different version of what they said or a different reason for why they said what they
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said that would actually make me feel good about what happened and it sounds crazy but
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i just believe that questions really become the foundation of the programming language
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to change your view on the world what was the most powerful question that you asked yourself
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at that age at that age the most powerful question i would ask myself why not me why not me
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i would see all these people and back then it was simple it's like the person that's you know
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valedictorian or the captain of the football team or you know this high achieving person in my class
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and i would just like start to go like why not me like i'm here so we're being exposed to the
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same information i'm not lazy like i'm willing to do the work why not me why can't i be top in
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my class why can't i graduate with honors why can't i overcome my addiction why can't i have
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a great relationship with my parents why can't my brother be my best friend i don't know it was just
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like this question like why not even where i grew up i grew up in a small town in eastern canada and
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i used to like think like why not why not me somebody else has done it you know for a long
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time i thought i was the only crazy entrepreneur in the city and then i would slowly see or meet
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or read about other people and i was like oh there's actually three billionaires that came
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from you know the province that i grew up in so like they did it they probably grew up in a time
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where there was way less resources than i have why not me that question really helped me kind of
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get clean get on the right track make new friends and really start putting the pieces in place
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to be more successful what's the biggest mistake you see people make when trying to reprogram their
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mind to reprogram your mind you have to disconnect from what you think people are going to think
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about the new beliefs so it's kind of counterintuitive because you want to change
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and you could probably ask yourself the questions to change the beliefs to reprogram your mind
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but then while you're doing that it's really easy to go okay well if i believe this i'd act this way
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in that scenario but then what are people are going to think about that what if all of a sudden
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i become assertive are they going to call me a or too direct what if all of a sudden i
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ask for what i want in life are they going to feel like i'm being selfish so it's interesting
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when we're reprogramming our mind and our beliefs inherently we're going to change our actions and
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your friends the co-workers or whatever other people have a perception of who you are right
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they're like oh this is alice and alice is quiet or this is mark and mark is funny and if all of a
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sudden you show up because you've worked on yourself and you're different they're gonna
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say that like hey man you're different what they're not able to say which you should be proud of
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yourself for is you've changed that's actually impressive or even better is you've grown you
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you've grown like that's what they should say but they don't know this and you need to understand
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if somebody says you're different or you've changed what they're really saying is you've grown
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so when you're reprogramming your mind you got to be careful to not inadvertently use that filter
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how are they going to perceive you because the whole point of you changing your life is you're
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gonna have to change who you are there's no future where you have a better life than the one you're
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living at where you're acting the exact same way you are today because if you did you'd have the
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thing you want so it means that you've got some bad habits you've got some emotional situations
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that you over respond to or whatever you've got some things about your character that have to
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change for you to get the things you don't have and that will 100 require other people to think
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you've changed you're different but again what they're really saying is congrats you've grown
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what's the biggest difference between a high performing mindset and a low performing mindset
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there's so many differences low performance mindset uh blame everybody else low performing
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mindset gets easily frustrated angered slighted blames other people ruminate literally they worry
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or ruminate and they and they keep talking about a negative situation to anybody that'll listen
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that's why they say misery loves company it's because misery wants to get validation that where
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they're upset is okay so they keep telling other people and if they find another person that's like
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yeah you're right i can't believe that happened here's what happened to me then you just see
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these groups of people forming that are just being super negative and pessimistic and frustrated
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with their situation that's all low low energy low performing people they're not driven they
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don't have goals they don't have a desire to improve things they feel like their situation
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is fixed and everybody's out to get them and you know they feel prisoners to their situation
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that your future possibly could be way brighter
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because where are you making forward movement towards?
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What is that goal, that vision that you're after?
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right because again being impatient is a low performing mindset high performers say hey i'm
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willing to do the work and not see immediate responses for a while long periods of time you
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might go to the gym for three four months until you finally see you got a little bit of a muscle
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or you got a little bit of a you know a bicep vein or something's going on in your body where
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you're like oh i'm seeing some results it's delayed gratification high performers are willing
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to do things for long periods of time being misunderstood and also not see results they're
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able to go to a rejection to another rejection without losing momentum with a smile on their
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face they they look at it as opportunities to actually learn to improve their lives they go
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look that's not a reason i'm going to fail that's another reason i can avoid to win right if somebody
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shuts the door on me i'm not like oh the opportunity is gone i go cool now i know that path doesn't
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work and i'm going to go find an open window i'm going to find a different route to be successful
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they're able to high performers can literally communicate emotion and positivity in a way
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that collects other people to support them right the top people in the world have the ability to
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share about their future and their dreams and goals where other people want to support them
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in achieving it it's kind of awesome to watch you see it all the time where you know and it doesn't
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matter if they have like strong speaking skills or they're more quiet they just have an essence
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about what they're saying their sentences their words the way they describe what they believe
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that people just get behind they feel what they're saying less than they hear what they're saying
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and that is a high performance trait that the best of the best do they're willing to to be
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misunderstood. They're willing to grind, right? They look at the work as a reflection of their
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gratitude. They're not scared to show up and put it all on the line. They're risk takers.
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They'd rather risk it all betting on themselves than to play safe and follow somebody else's
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path. And that to me is what makes the game changers, the world changers, the innovators,
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the people that create opportunities for others, some of the most important people around because
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make the world a better place how important is routine when it comes to being a high performer
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here's why routine has to be present because without routine you don't have a process that
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you can tweak if every day you wake up and you decide based on how i feel i'm going to do this
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or if in the afternoon i feel different so i'm going to do this and you just decide how you feel
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what you're going to do then if somebody gives you a new strategy or new idea or new habit for
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you to play with because there's no foundation there's no baseline it's hard for you to install
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that into your life to see if it worked so a routine is required so that you have a foundation
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to add and develop and try on new strategies to make your life better because if not it kind of
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doesn't have any it's got no gripping it's got no no no hook it's just it's in your life but it's
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kind of like well i don't know if that really worked well it's because you didn't have a baseline
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for what was working right so it's kind of like whatever you're doing now that's working lock
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those in write them down build those habits build that routine cool do that for ideally three months
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now you know this is what i get doing this let me change one thing how did that impact my whoa
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completely different better results cool let's add that one remove this other one cool let's do
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do another one without that you don't have that process for growth and improvement what's the
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best way to learn how to expand your mind the best way to learn how to expand your mind
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it's interesting because i believe that your mind is already expansive but you've been telling
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yourself stories that keeps it contracted. So really the question should be is how do I learn
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to let go and truly feel my potential? Because every person comes into this world with their
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greatness. I think that most babies have it figured out. When they come in, they just see
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everything as beautiful and wonder and opportunity. And then they go through life and they get
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exposed to negative situations and the world kind of creates friction and kind of develops
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their character if they're lucky later in their adult life they go on a journey of personal
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discovery and expansion and they come back to what they believed when they came in this world
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as a baby so in many ways it's already there the expansive belief is there if we remove the cloud
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the judgment, the concern. See, we all know in our heart what we want to achieve. It wouldn't
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even be placed there. The desire for you to want more, the belief in those moments where you feel
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certain to do more, but then quickly kind of fades, or you kind of sleep on it, you wake up,
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and you kind of lose that initial spark. That's the cloud. That's the mist. That's the fog.
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that's the glue that's the stickiness and what we want to do is we want to figure out how do we
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remove that the best way for me is to continue to feed your mind continue to expose yourself
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to world-class information content words conversations people energy and the more you
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do that it's kind of like the sun coming up in the morning even though there's been like fog all
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through the night because of the the mist of the the moisture in the air the sun slowly burns off
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all the fog and everything just feels rejuvenated and that's what happens when you get around people
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you read incredible books or literature or works of art or you know you you listen to some really
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powerful messages it kind of removes all of that noise it removes the cloud it removes the
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uncertainty and it allows you to just tap into who you really are and that is pure potentiality
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you are literally more powerful than you'll ever understand it for a lot of people that power
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scares them more than anything it's not that you're not capable it's that you're way more
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capable you give yourself credit to and if you actually knew how capable you were you'd probably
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freak yourself out and you're also a lot closer than what you think you think it's 15 years out
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it is three years out you think it's a lifetime it's a decade it's right there it could be you
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could be one decision away from achieving the dream of your life and you just have to believe
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it you just have to be around people that also believe that people that want to see you win and
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support you that's that's what's required it's not how do i discover it it's how do i remember it
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because you already had it when you were a baby you just forgot so it's really about remembering
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who you truly are why do most people never level up their lives i think most people don't level up
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their lives because they're worried that they're gonna have to hold a new standard
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see if i'm not rich but i know how to deal with what i've got it feels safe feels easy there's
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nothing on the line if i go out there and i level up be more successful get that promotion make more
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money become a millionaire now i have something to lose and it's a lot safer to tell ourselves
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a story of i keep trying and showing up and i do the work and i'm a hard worker and all these things
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and not have those come then to actually do the strategy a lot of people i always ask this
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question what are you pretending not to know see i think most people actually know what they got
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to go do but they don't actually want to do it because if they do it and they win now they got
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got something to lose now they've got this this new high water mark that everybody will know if
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you fall from that point you fall from grace your words literally this is what i hear and that's why
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a lot of people when they have nothing backs against the wall and they got to fight their
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way out of it they will do anything it takes to be successful and they oftentimes find that path
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and they start climbing that mountain of success yet half a million dollars a million dollars five
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it doesn't matter what number at some point their brain goes hey if we keep going there's a chance
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we could lose it all how about we just chill out and set up shop and then they stop figuring out
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who they could become their next level and it's fascinating to watch and i see all the time i
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ask people are you the most successful person in your peer group the answer is yes you stopped
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climbing you got scared you stopped leveling up and what's funny is that you know how to do this
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you've done it before and the thing that actually protects what you've got is not stopping the
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journey upwards it's the desire to become more the person who keeps growing every day is reducing the
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risk they'll lose it all because they'll be prepared the person that sets up shop that now
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becomes the big dog amongst their peer group their friends you know they got all the nice stuff i got
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all the stuff people want no your the stuff you your friends want you know there's more out there
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but it's going to require you to keep developing to keep growing to keep expanding and that's why
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people are more scared of that than doing the work or anything they're just like
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i remember one time my ex-girlfriend's parents they lived in this cool little house and i was
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in my early 20s when i dated her and i used to go to their house and have dinner and they would
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ask me about what i do and i would tell them about my businesses and stuff and they were always in
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awe like wow that's so crazy yeah we've always thought i think one was a teacher when the other
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worked for the government and and i could tell there was like a light inside of them that
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if somebody in their family could really convince them to go for it they would probably do it
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but they didn't years later 25 years later i'm on my road bike and i'm biking by their
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house and i see them in the same house 25 years older doing yard work and i just think to myself
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hmm here's an interesting thought they didn't go for it because i bet they were worried if they
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went for it and they lost it all that people would think that they were failures but they
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were living the same life that they were living today that they would go back to if they actually
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tried and failed so technically because they didn't try they didn't even find out what they
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potentially could become and they ended up living the life that they would end it up back to anyway
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it's kind of interesting idea to think about it's like would you rather just never be rich
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or be rich and lose it all and be the same of where you're at today because that's the truth
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like that wherever you're at today is what you know how to do is probably what you could do
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even if you went forward and lost it all you'd be back to where you're at
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why not swing why not try why not stretch why not why not grow why not find out
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well i wouldn't want to do this to my family i wouldn't want to do this to
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you know whatever what about you here's an this is one of my favorite questions you have two years
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to live what do you do with your life what do you do who do you spend time with what do you try
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what do you want to leave the world most people when asked that question what they're doing today
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is not what they would do tomorrow if you literally knew you had two years to the day
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you can tell another soul what would you want to do your time what would you want to share with
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people what would you want to create what would you want to leave the world that is what you
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should be doing that is actually what's on your soul and you've never been given something on your
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heart that wasn't meant for you trust me the things that i get on my heart other people go
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that's silly i would never want to do that and then some of the stuff they tell me they want to
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i'm like wow i have no desire to do that you know somebody tells me like oh i would go on a fishing
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trip to alaska i'm like cool i would go backcountry snowboarding in alaska i wouldn't go on a fishing
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trip and they're like cool that's your thing that's my thing so think about that what is on
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your heart is actually uniquely gifted to you for you to go do or you wouldn't have been gifted it
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you would have never been brought that idea because here's a crazy idea the thoughts you have the
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That first thought you just had while you're driving, in the shower, at the gym, you didn't ask for.
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So I think most people don't want to try because they're worried that maybe it's not going to work out.
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At least you try, at least you know, at least you're not going to, if today was your last
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You will not achieve anything that you don't believe you can do, period, full stop.
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The cool part about that is belief comes from seeing what's possible and most possibility
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So in many ways, our role to other people that are not where we're at or to find in other people is the possibility of achievement.
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We need to understand what we want to go do and have the belief that we can do it or we won't take the action.
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I mean, if I don't believe I have a chance of winning a race, I'm not even going to train for the race.
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Or maybe my goal is like I just want to finish the race.
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But if I don't believe that I can even finish the race, again, I won't even sign up for the race.
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And look, I understand most people are like, I have these moments of belief.
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I have these moments where I'm like, I could do this.
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And then I share them with other people and they all, they kind of shoot it down or they say, you're not that kind of person.
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or you don't have what those other people have.
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if my creator didn't believe that I could do it.
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And having that faith is more powerful by a factor of a bazillion than the need for me to believe in myself.
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Because oftentimes I have no proof that I know how, and most of the time I don't know how, I'm going to achieve the thing I want to do.
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I just have the belief that if I show up every day and I have clarity, and I have a belief that I can do it, that somebody's going to do it, why not me?
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And I do the work that over time, it may happen.
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And even if it doesn't, this is a cool part, two things.
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And two, there's probably really cool things that are going to happen along the way.
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So maybe I don't achieve the goal, but along the way of trying to achieve it, I get to
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experience some really cool moments or have really cool things or meet really cool people.
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and that to me if if i'm okay with those two things even if i never get to the finish line
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then i should move forward i should do the thing and i should have the belief that i can do it
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because it's worth it what's the difference between a limiting belief and a negative belief
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the difference between a limiting belief and a negative belief is both of those are subconscious
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in our mind as it pertains to the achievement of a goal and if we don't address them what will
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happen is we will self-sabotage ourselves not knowingly and cause us to overreact or not make
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decisions or make decisions too quick because in those activities we will fail at the achievement
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so it gives us a reason not to win for example a limiting belief is i don't i'm not rich so i can't
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this or i'm not that smart so i can't do this or i'm not that skilled so i can't do this those are
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limiting beliefs about our abilities limiting beliefs around abilities the other one is negative
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beliefs negative beliefs are actually quite fascinating for example i like to ask people
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the question what do you fear most about being rich see most people's goals is to have something
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a bigger business uh you know be financially independent or whatever so call it rich or
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whatever even being healthy what negative beliefs or what fears do you have around being healthy
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well i worried my life wouldn't be much fun because i'm eating you know meal prep all the
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time or it's like what about being rich well i'd be worried that people would try to fraud me or
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i'd be worried that my cousins would ask me for money and i'd feel guilty and i'd say no and then
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they'd be mad at me or i'd be worried that people think i'm selfish or greedy or whatever it is you
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have fears around being rich those are negative beliefs and what's crazy is sometimes when i
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coach people you know i'll ask them these questions to figure out what's the real underlying thing
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that's stopping them from having breakthroughs from achieving the outcomes that's kind of like
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acts like a an anchor right around their forward motion one time asked a guy because he was he was
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really dead set on getting his health in check he was like 50 pounds overweight and he was really
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successful and we kind of kept going at it and asking him different questions eventually
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he admitted that one of his fears was getting in such shape that when he travels and he's speaking
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at an event that women may make passes at him that he wouldn't be able to say no to and he wouldn't
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want to do that to his wife. Interesting. See, he had a fear around being fit that unexpressed
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would always be the reasons that he reached for the dessert when he hit a new goal or decided to
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go binge eat at a buffet while he was traveling or skip the gym for a week in a row, right? Or go
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on vacation and lose all his gains. Those all over the years, these were the patterns that kept
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repeating themselves because he had a belief that he would inadvertently make a bad decision or get
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a compromising situation that would potentially ruin his marriage so we just addressed that and
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said is it true well no what would not what would need to be true for that to never happen well
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i guess these scenarios would never have to okay perfect so if you never reply to a female on
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social media and you never find yourself alone with another woman when you're traveling and and
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and could those things happen that would probably never happen perfect can you agree never do that
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yeah awesome so this belief is now shattered this belief is now dissolved this is no longer going
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to be the reason you sell such there might be other stuff that comes up but that one's gone
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and that's the whole idea between limiting and negative beliefs if we can address them
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on the path to achievement then we have a chance of getting there faster with less pain because we
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self-inflict a lot of the pain uh in our in our lives how do high performers look at time and
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money high performers look at time and money through two different lens one they realize
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that their hour creates value you know if they look at their their life on an annual basis
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they're able to create value and so and so can you like every person listening this knows what
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their year is worth just look at how much money you're making whatever you make that is your
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belief okay not the market it's actually your belief on what you think you're worth
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if you thought you were worth five times more you would probably change the conversation
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around compensation or the type of worker you might say hey i gotta go get some new skills so
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i can become more value so you decide what you think your time is worth and most people don't
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think they're worth a lot and that's why they give it up so freely they respond got a second
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yeah no problem hey could you help me out yeah no problem like they don't protect their time
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high performers believe their time is worth a lot and then they adjust their calendar through that
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lens the other part is they use money to buy back more time how did they do that well instead of
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spending time to save money they spend money to save time so they understand where they could
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spend the least amount of money to buy back the largest swath of time so that they can then
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reinvest in themselves skills character traits beliefs that will make them more valuable increase
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their value per hour per year so that they get paid more and that's what high performers do that
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is the equation they're always saying like what projects can i say yes to that's going to expand
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my capabilities right what goals can i set up for me that are going to grow me goals should be
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designed to grow you you should decide what projects you take on next best on the opportunity
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for you to expand for you to grow for you to learn new things if you just keep saying yes to stuff
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that you know how to do then you're not going to become more valuable you're not going to solve
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bigger problems and people will pay a lot of money to solve very big problems the size of the problem
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that you can solve it's the size of your compensation if you can install a window that is
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a problem but it's not worth a whole lot if you can build an apartment building that's a really
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big problem that people pay a lot of money to go solve if you can develop a city and take raw land
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and turn it into a neighborhood that's an even bigger problem that people pay a lot of money to
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go solve and each one of those are in the same kind of area of expertise but solving different
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size problems and that's why high performers look at their time through that lens and their money
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through that lens so that they become more valuable what's your mindset around spending money
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versus saving money the the mindset i have now is completely different than the mindset i had
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growing up you know i grew up with a dad that was always very frugal he never wasted a penny
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he'd always say you know it's not what you make it's what you save so i spent a good part of my
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life trying to protect every dollar of profit because i was worried that if i wasted spent it
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on things that were inappropriate that i was taking from me or my future then when i was
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in my 30s after i sold my first company through just brute force like literally hard work and
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effort and built this company and eventually exited and i became a millionaire multi-millionaire
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i had to go and look at my my life and say okay well what did i learn from that what was easy what
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was hard and what i discovered is that i needed to get better so that i could create the future
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easier like at the end of the day there's people that are able to create more than me
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and could do it with less you know friction with less effort i mean some people can literally
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create companies from the speed of thought because they've built the relationships communication
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skills knowledge etc they have the resources so that was like the second part of my life
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where my relationship with money was less about saving and became more about investing not only
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investing in my companies but investing in myself and that's where i i kind of brute force it the
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first time by just reading books and eventually i hired a coach but then it was really about like
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where do i invest in my soft skills my communication skills the people build the management bandwidth
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to the degree that i have talent around me how quick can i identify and hire great people can i
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put them into an organization to have a system that that really helps them develop and grow and
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leverage their expertise and then can i design the system so that i can retain that talent
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and create a scenario which is truly win-win that to me was what shifted my relationship with money
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where i used to think save it and now i'm like invest it i don't want money saved on the sidelines
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not working either it's in an active investment it's making me money or i'm investing myself
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because i know what to do with that or i'm investing in my people so they become more so
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they can do more involved in my companies and it's really that simple i think money should
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be used to make investments to generate massive roi return on investment and that's what shifted
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i used to be like so scared to spend money now it's like where can i spend the money to get a
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a return let's have these conversations how important is gratitude in a high performer
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gratitude for me is the idea that i'm thankful for what i have because if you can't be grateful
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and thankful for what you have then you won't be given more i look at my resources my companies
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my teams my environment my community my family like all these people are there and they're part
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of my experience of life, to feel fulfilled, to feel happy. And if I can't be grateful for those
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people, even when they do things I don't agree with, then I won't be given more people, more
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resources, more opportunities, a richer life. It's really that simple. If all you do is complain
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about what you got, then nobody's going to give you more because they don't think you can handle
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what you got because all you do is complain about what you have. And nobody sees that.
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they have a beautiful home and they complain it's small they have a beautiful car and it's not good
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enough they have they have literally beautiful people in their lives and they complain about
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those people well guess what you'll never be given more as a as a custodian as a steward of that
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that thing because you're demonstrating to the world you can't handle it whereas to me gratitude
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is the acknowledgement of the appreciation but also the desire for more so my whole thing is
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that my work ethic is a reflection of my gratitude i wake up every day ridiculously grateful there's
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moments where i'm driving by myself if a certain song comes on a certain scenario or the sun hits
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the the windshield on the right moment and the right angle that it'll bring me to tears where
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Where do you see the biggest opportunity for most people to do more with their lives?
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Most people, the biggest opportunity for them sits on the other side of the thing that scares them the most.
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I look at life as like the yin and the yang, right?
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The black and the white, the yes and the no, the breath in, the breath out.
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It's kind of crazy, but that's just the way I think of it, right?
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And who you are today, if it was who you needed to become to achieve your dreams and goals,
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So the exercise, if you're willing to consider it, is to write down all the characteristics
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And then you draw a line and you say on the other side of that, what is the opposite of
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This is why I say like the thing that will give you the biggest opportunity to move forward
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is the thing you're scared the most of, what you don't want to do, the work you're avoiding.
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So whoever you are as your default, you have to go explore the opposite.
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I run a marathon I'm a vegan go eat a freaking burger I'm that's how serious I am what people
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say absolutely not to I see it all day I'm talking to somebody this morning and they say I would
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absolutely not oh the other day one of my co-workers I brought my dog in and I said hey
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could you take care of my dog nope I don't do dogs that language I don't do x was fascinating to me
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because all I hear is oh there's a part of my character that I'm not willing to budge on that
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not going to move and oftentimes it's whatever piece of story you told yourself about that
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i'm not saying it's that you become polar opposite i'm saying that you go explore the opportunity in
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the opposite and figure out what lesson do you need to learn what is it about dogs i just don't
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do dogs fascinating why what is it could you do it for an hour or is it like a hard no hard no
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interesting i've learned that all my biggest opportunities were really reflecting or spending
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time in the complete opposite of who i am today and then figuring out it's like oh i don't want
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to be mr braggadocious what does that even mean like i don't want to do videos because i don't
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want to come off as one of those guys what does one of those guys mean well i don't want to be
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like that guy that says like here my garage you know on youtube it's like but what if i don't
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what does shooting a video have anything to do with being that are there people that create
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videos that also produce great content and teach awesome stuff and everybody really admires and
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help a lot of people like then just go shoot video and figure out what part of it you like
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and just you don't have to do the stuff you don't like it's just fascinating where people draw hard
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lines in the sand so i think oftentimes the biggest opportunity for people to become high level
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is really confronting the stuff they say that's not for me says who who who are you like the mind
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can expand you can become more to say that's not for me who's me me is not this container
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of constraints of like this is me and this is only ever going to be me no no no you can be
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me and in 10 years you could be me so that's that that's where i think people should look
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is the thing that scares them the most the the part that gets their their chest heavy
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they're they're they get warm they're like oh they get nervous speaking video talking to a camera
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fascinates me hey pull out your phone shoot a video oh what do i say i don't know you're talking
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to me why don't you talk to the camera yeah but what do i say what are you saying to me right now
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yeah but it's easy i'm just talking to you now talk to the camera just pretend it's i can't do
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that cool can't do that won't do that let's go look at that area that's that's the easiest i
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believe the world will show you where you're not free so anywhere is that i feel emotion around
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something i'm like oh there's an opportunity for me oh there's another opportunity for me
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this is good okay i can work with this write that down what is it about that scenario that
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makes me feel that way and the more i expand the more i grow the more tools i have to be able to
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create what role does the subconscious mind play in becoming successful cool thing about
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the subconscious mind is we have the super conscious the conscious and the subconscious
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the subconscious is literally designed to keep all systems go you didn't ask your heart to beat
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you didn't ask your lungs to breathe you didn't ask your whole biology to regulate itself based
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on the fact that you ate some food an hour ago to drink a glass of water is quite fascinating
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and all part of that is part of this beautiful subconscious energetic exchange of of what
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happens and it in many ways it's what creates our future the key is is we got to connect with
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the super conscious or the universal consciousness or god whatever word you want to use to
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bring in the downloads the opportunities the resources into your conscious awareness
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to then program your subconscious to go to work to help you find and create the opportunities
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all around you and it's very simple this is backed by science this isn't woo stuff although it is
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spiritual and a lot of people call it woo when it's just pure spirit but science shows that if
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you have a desire and you have a focus that you your brain will start to filter out all the
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information around you to find opportunities to solve problems most people don't ask themselves
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questions in a way that your brain can actually go to work to find the solution and and in a way
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is with the constraints how do i create more success without working more it's either without
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working more now i've created constraint then my mind can figure out and go to work while i'm
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sleeping the subconscious can go and say hey i need to get more done i got to create more content i
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I got to create more opportunities for my friends
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the subconscious is the the the the crazy cool ideas that come to you out of the blue that just
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make the whole story make sense or the model that just brings the whole book together or the person
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that you meet that you didn't expect to meet that could write a blurb that makes the book feel a lot
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more legitimate it's just fascinating to watch how can you manifest success into your life
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manifestation requires you to have a vision for what you want to create so step one is have a
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hundred percent clarity you need to have a clear target of what you want your life to look like
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most people don't here's how you know if you have it can you describe me your future to the same
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specificities you can explain me your current situation because if you do you have a clear
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vision if you don't you just have ideas i like more money more wealth more success more relationships
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that doesn't give a clear vision then you need to have the belief the belief that it's possible
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and think about it out of a hundred a hundred percent clarity can you describe your future
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the same level of specificity as your current situation can you believe it 100 of the time
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or sorry 100 belief 100 belief is never doubting when you communicate you don't use words like
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should, would be, could be, it would, you know what I mean? Like you literally can hear somebody's
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language that defines if they have a hundred percent belief. And then the third part is
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a hundred percent of the time. Can you believe and have clarity around the achievement you want
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to get after a hundred percent of the time and to the degree that you can do all three of those
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a hundred percent clarity, a hundred percent belief, a hundred percent of the time, all three
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of those are required. If you can do that, that's how you pull the future into you. See, people
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think manifesting is like creating objects out of the blue. It's not. It's about pulling the future
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that's potentially there for you. All future potentials are there. Nothing's ever happened
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without somebody believing first in the mind. Think about that. Everything around you, your
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t-shirt, your clothes, your city, the building you're in, all of those things first existed in
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the mind of people from the past. That's a crazy idea. So you can do that. And then what you do is
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you pull those realities into your current life.
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Working through your own personal stories, yes.
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can I have 100% clarity, 100% believe 100% of the time?
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And that's how we pull and manifest into our lives.